My grandma is thriving at 103 years old. Hasn’t been in a relationship in at least 50 years 😂. No health issues and has her full mind.

@abduwalimuse7482

7 ай бұрын

goals

@Sunflower-uh3em

7 ай бұрын

Wooow she is the best, bless her ♥️♥️🤗

@MrsLadyLiberty

7 ай бұрын

Being single adds 50 years to your life.

@EdemAf

7 ай бұрын

Yeah I'm trying to be like grandma yall. At this point it would take the second coming of Jesus to entertain the idea of getting married and having children. My parents are my best friends and I'm good with that ❤

@nothereyetlost

7 ай бұрын

Anyone ever heard of many century old men?

My grandpa never dated again after my grandma died. He kept wearing his wedding ring because he still considered himself married. He was my one example of how men should be

@anonymousa-uy1hk

7 ай бұрын

Aww! There are some good ones but they are few and far between.

@Messiahandmaster

7 ай бұрын

They don’t make them like that anymore ❤

@YASMINOGBU

7 ай бұрын

❤️

@DaintyAbby

7 ай бұрын

Periodddddt

@Emptytopfloor

7 ай бұрын

When I come across comments like this, I tend to get into a conundrum about whether to give myself a (false) hope or not.

I'll never get over how correctional officers noticed that women who go to jail are almost never visited by men. A man who comes out of jail usually has a wife/gf, kids and a home waiting for him. Meanwhile, the women would be visited by their mothers/sisters/gfs but hardly ever a man, and their kids are taken away.. the most disloyal group have the nerve to talk about loyalty.

@maiamiimaiam4343

7 ай бұрын

The people that leave you for gaining weight even

@Childfree334

7 ай бұрын

​@@user-tx6lz7pm3yWhat is a man's excuse for having the stomach of a pregnant woman? Her excuse is that she is actually carrying a child.

@ViciousDelicious-td8jl

7 ай бұрын

Men aren't even loyal to their own male friends. How many times have we seen and heard the "I can't believe he slept with my girlfriend" stories.

@opticalraven1935

7 ай бұрын

​@@user-tx6lz7pm3yExcuse her for having a baby, hormones issues, etc. You, on the other hand, have no excuses for your obesity. You men do not have to deal with the bodily changes that a woman has to deal with on a regular basis.

@tarahill308

7 ай бұрын

Absolutely facts!!! I say this all the time. These guys Dnt even visit their homies In prison but will put on a show at their funeral n go hard for them when they around, messing up their home n everything for their homies.

Every single study confirms that the average marriage lengthens the man’s lifespan at the cost of the woman’s, and we’re supposed to believe that men are getting the short end of the stick in relationships? I refuse to be gaslit!

@anonymousa-uy1hk

7 ай бұрын

It’s like they’re literal parasites feeding off of us.

@tamiressoares9303

7 ай бұрын

You right people that marry the RIGHT PERSON are so lucky and if you good and your partner is bad on you is no different than being with a vampire 🧛🏼‍♂️

@chaoticneutralsheep

7 ай бұрын

@@awol6574 I don't think you can call it a replacement if you never had a wife to begin with.

@ellegmye

7 ай бұрын

​@@awol6574Thank God maybe then y'all will leave us alone

@annmarieknapp

7 ай бұрын

Absolutely. Excellent post. Scientist here. The research is clear, marriage favors men, while does not favor woman. This is the only channel of this that I view. I don't want to remarry or have some guy to take care of. But, I like the message. Men call women gold diggers if their wives expect equal help and the funding that their work earns. I think for women who do want partners, this is a reasonable message. Women who are mothers at home are doing the hardest job on the planet and society does not value it and that has to stop. Again, I'm done with relationships. I have nothing left to give and I'm putting myself first for first time in my life. Men have been doing it forever. Now it's our turn. Except when you have a child. My son always came first. After you empty nest though, it's about you.

My husband cheated on me while I battled cancer and this isn’t uncommon because in multiple of my support groups other women have similar stories…. This is why i rarely ever have sympathy for ANY man even my own father.

@pri-yey4410

7 ай бұрын

I also don’t feel much sympathy for men. And I’ve also been hurt a lot by men.

@slayfaee

7 ай бұрын

So many stories of low value men leaving their wives when they are sick, you even hear it from the nurses. So horrible i’m sorry, karma will do her job

@aena5995

7 ай бұрын

found someone from an app found out he has a kid found some pics of his wife and it seems like she had gained weight maybe after having the kid idk how i feel about this person i asked him he says he is not married but the recent pic with her is in august soo what do u advise?

@babyqueen2030

7 ай бұрын

Yup. Happened to my good friend. She found out while battling breast cancer.

@spacebar9733

7 ай бұрын

​@@aena5995 wdym you don't know how to feel abt them lol if that attracts you, go for it. Like attracts like.

“Do not ever lead with being a useful woman” so true - the MORE you do for a man (paying bills, household chores, sex) the LESS they value you!!! Stay in your discernment, spoiled support group girlies ❤❤❤

@slayfaee

7 ай бұрын

Exactly!! I’m so glad we’re waking up bc they will take advantage of you

@BuddhaMamaDrama

7 ай бұрын

New spoiled girly here, how do we get them to value us, like what DO we have to do?

@SoloCityTravels

7 ай бұрын

@@BuddhaMamaDramaSadly we can’t get them to do anything. We can only control ourselves. Value and love yourself and you won’t settle for anyone treating you for less than what you deserve. Once a dusty comes your way he will be repelled by your self-love. Him not recognizing your worth will make him repulsive to you quick. It may take a while to find a man who recognizes your worth, but in the meantime you will continue to grow, flourish and nurture amazing female relationships

@BuddhaMamaDrama

7 ай бұрын

@@magnarcreed3801 Not sure what you mean by “pull out the strap”, what is this “strap” and what do you mean by pulling it

@ellegmye

7 ай бұрын

​@@BuddhaMamaDramaYou shouldn't have to "get" a man to value you. If he doesn't value you from the jump then that's a problem. Move on to the next one until you find one who is worthy of YOU. Remember as a woman and spoiled girly - YOU are the prize, not them.

I really don't understand the whole " You're gonna die alone" argument. You could be on your deathbed surrounded by loved ones and best friends and your favorite boss and your cool neighbors and when the time comes, and you take your last breath, guess what ? None of them are going to say : " TAKE ME WITH YOU!!!" You're making that final trip on your own...we all will...

@VvpandoravV

7 ай бұрын

I don’t either. It’s exactly as you say and I’ve been close enough to death since childhood to know this and have even said it before. People get shocked and insulted when I’ve said the truth about death. They’re usually the ones that have little to no experience w it and have no idea what they’re talking about. Once it’s obvious to me they have no real experience w death I put them on ignore. They’ll find out soon enough for themselves ✌️

@eulennachathen449

7 ай бұрын

Yes, that. Also, you could die alone after literally decades of being a wife and mother. Men usually die first and adult children have their own lives. They may or may not be present with you as you lay dying. Most people die alone, even if they have lived full family lives before that. That's the crucial realisation here. In our dying moments all we have is ourselves (and God - if you believe in that) and we need to be okay with that.

you really think this man wasn't "seeing" this girl waay before his wife died?

@bodaciousmo

7 ай бұрын

This!!! At least having an inappropriate emotional relationship at work. At 👏🏻the👏🏻least👏🏻

@o_oLISSo_o

7 ай бұрын

Absolutely!! No way you’re moving in a stranger after 30 days.there was definitely something going on before his wife past. He could at least have been respectful enough to have waited moving her in. Men are gross

@mandi3891

7 ай бұрын

Some people move really fast, especially if they feel like they are "too old to wait". It's a game, find a replacement as soon as you can so you can go back to your norm schedule.

@blueee6306

7 ай бұрын

​​@@o_oLISSo_omy aunt died a varient of covid and she suffered really bad.After 1 hour of her passing away he told his children that he want to get married and searched for women.Unfortunely this is happening.They don't need to date a women before their wife's alive.They can find a woman after their wife's death.And I was thinking they are lovely couple.I lost my hope for love after that.

@KoiinuNe

7 ай бұрын

this is what i was saying as soon as she said the new woman worked with him.

“A man threatening a women with threat of violence from other men” we deserve muchhhh better!!! so true 😮!!!

@sandiipants21

7 ай бұрын

it's a man's world

@callmebabyzee

7 ай бұрын

THIS!!!!

A girl I knew who was cheated on once said: “Where there is a will, there is a way- where there is a man, there is a scam” Her ex bf name was Will btw 🤣

@aishwarya2130

7 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@rayhoffmann-uu8kx

7 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂. I love it

@KoiinuNe

7 ай бұрын

nice! xDD

*Male Loneliness is not a women's issue and women will not be part of the solution either.* YESS LOUDER for the ones in the back! This was one of my favourite videos of yours, I hope many other women will watch it and realise their worth.

@sarahrobertson634

7 ай бұрын

Male loneliness is a natural consequence of male behavior. Women walked away because we didn't want to deal with them.

@Player-kq6fd

6 ай бұрын

You know what's so funny you guys are the same people cussing out men for not being feminist or supporting women you guys acting like women are pure news flash women don't support other women either stop act like all men does this

@monbll4015

6 ай бұрын

@@Player-kq6fd keep crying, moid

@crystaleunoia3974

5 ай бұрын

​@@Player-kq6fd We support each other more than men support us, that's for damn sure. We would have never made it this far if we didn't support each other. It would only benefit men if we were to remain insecure and unsure of ourselves because we're easier to control in that state. That is why we tear ourselves and each other down and can be judgemental and cruel. The patriarchy has pitted women against each other to depreciate us, so we compete for scraps of male validation and bare minimum treatment. It's like a type of self-assured destruction that makes us lower ourselves and believe that men are a prize, a limited resource, that we fear we will not be fulfilled without. Once we build each other up and fulfill ourselves, we realize the lies we've been force fed and that we don't need men that want us to be lesser, men who don't want us to know our true worth and capabilities so we stay under their thumb. We're simply not putting up with men's bullshit anymore and more men are lonely because of it. We're not cussing men out to be feminists anymore because that doesn't work. Now we're showing them that certain behaviors are unacceptable by walking away and they'll have to change if they want to keep up. The ones who complain and blame us for leaving don't see the problem or choose not to fix it, so they get abandoned to wallow in their bitterness. Not every man is terrible of course, there are some great ones, but keep in mind they've had the most power throughout history and they got us into this mess. They created and perpetuated this system to only benefit them and now it's crushing them in an ironic turn of events. They have the choice to break the mould, to progress with women in a healthy, respectful way that benefits everyone, or they'll be alone. Simple.

@hemantks4353

2 ай бұрын

​@@crystaleunoia3974That's literally not true. Women's greatest enemy is another women😂😂😂

Ya’ll need to understand. If a man gets into a new relationship shortly after leaving his marriage he was cheating with that woman.

@AmericanDreamer

7 ай бұрын

yup

@chrystianaw8256

7 ай бұрын

Exactly

@kimberly6243

7 ай бұрын

💯💯💯

@bubblegum_girl

7 ай бұрын

Also sometimes he's fooling around with a cheating woman too... so you won't necessarily see them out together, he might even say he's single but he's not really alone

@bubblegum_girl

7 ай бұрын

@@Blazecfc deflection doesn't solve the problem though? Pointing out the blame in others is important thanks👍, but not as a response to direct questioning where an individual person is accountable.

Once had a guy tell me that him and his guy friend went to the strip club together while his friend was in a relationship and his girlfriend didn’t know he was going to the strip club. He kept it a secret. The guy said that his friend said that he would leave his girlfriend for the stripper that gave him her number because she’s prettier than his girlfriend. Absolutely honorless, vile and disgusting.

@YouYou-sm8tf

7 ай бұрын

It’s worse. Some men stay with their girlfriends and wives just because she is his personal maid, give birth to his kids and is a nanny to his kids.... Yet they still want a 50/50 relationship.

@olive4naito

7 ай бұрын

I'm actually not surprised. A lot of men are with women they'd drop in a millisecond for someone they like better given the chance. The only thing missing is opportunity. Discernment is so important. A lot of relationships are purely based on convenience because there's no one better on Google maps.

@nothereyetlost

7 ай бұрын

This is why I stopped dealing with men. It’s no use dealing with things that parasyte you, you waste your efforts on, and LIE

@tarahill308

7 ай бұрын

I hope he does leave her so she Dnt have to suffer from this scum bag.

@DelphineTheWorstBladeEver

7 ай бұрын

I hope he does leave her. She needs a better chance and a life lesson. Ew.

statistically wise, men dying from depression and isolation is much higher than women, so him hustling to find another woman is survival instinct, while we women don't really need that. we are the superior genes! we are that makes this world keep spinning

@TheGirlsimmer1

7 ай бұрын

The reason is that men are less likely to go to a doctor for help for themselves unless a woman tells them. While a woman just goes herself and does not need anyone to tell them.

@stephaniecobian725

7 ай бұрын

Women’s genes aren’t superior. Men and women are biologically different and serve varying functions. Comparing the genders is like asking “apples or oranges?” There’s no superiority here, we’re built to fulfill what the other lacks.

@nofybn7794

7 ай бұрын

YES!

@peke1822

7 ай бұрын

No, it isn't just genes, it's that we put in the WORK to care for ourselves, to invest time in relationships, and those are not only romantic, is also our family, sisters, brothers, parents, friends etc. It takes WORK, and we're doing it for ourselves and, apparently women who are in romantic relationships also do the work for their partner

@olive4naito

7 ай бұрын

​@@stephaniecobian725I almost agree with this. If we spent our time trying to fill in what our partners lack, we'd wear ourselves thin. I'd say it's more about finding someone who compliments us and us them.

11:25 I also think that men want loyal women because they are abusive. men want women to endure and never leave no matter how abusive they are to the women.

@AmericanDreamer

7 ай бұрын

yup

@tamarbatyah7

7 ай бұрын

💯

@eulennachathen449

7 ай бұрын

So basically they want a slave.

@HelloHolaOi

6 ай бұрын

I experienced this, I used to romanticize everything. But now I get it.

@thehouseofmillie

6 ай бұрын

Yes, bingo

Did you see the story of the girl donating her kidney to her boyfriend, then the guy cheated on her and them dumped her a few months later?

@tweetybirddee

7 ай бұрын

​@@FandiumNo the woman was Asian. I just can't remember her info.

@Remember_the_Time

7 ай бұрын

Sounds similar to what George Lopez did

@lalaland7961

7 ай бұрын

One thing I’m not gonna teach my daughter is to be overly “caring”. You are raising a big plumpy blood vessel for every leech in the world when you enforce that in a young lady .

@cosmiccrush22

7 ай бұрын

​@@lalaland7961true we are naturally caring but we should divert our energy to things that actually benefit from our love, children, orphans, animals, elderly, nature, not a man or men, they will chew u up and spit you back out and do it all over again if you let them and they will happily 🙄

@skyandthemoon

7 ай бұрын

yes she is a Christian so when her boyfriend cheated on her she forgave him and wanted to keep the relationship but he ended up dumping her

For real though, I’m constantly seeing videos of men asking ‘what woman bring to the table’, downplaying the efforts we put into relationships, marriages and families. When women are single, statistically they’re happier and thriving in life, whereas, men are now struggling through a loneliness epidemic, porn, addiction and high rates of suicide. I’ve lost count the amount of times I’ve worked with older women who are widowed or divorced that have told me that they’re single by choice and no longer want to be involved with men again is shocking. I’ve worked in old people homes and hospitals and I have only ever seen one man be regularly visited by his wife and children, the rest of the men had no family that visited them or friends to talk to and were miserable, whereas, women in the homes were visited often by their children, made friends and they’d go out on trips together. This is why I think men get defensive when they see successful women, happy single women or child free by choice women because it reaffirms to them that women are starting to move on from them and prioritise our own happiness and they can’t take it. They try to insult us and instil fear by telling us that we’ve hit the wall, that we’re selfish because we don’t want to continue our legacy, that they won’t protect us from other men and that we’re gonna die alone with cats. It’s all because they can’t handle being alone themselves.

@manifest2203

7 ай бұрын

Exactly. They ask what women bring to the table. As if men are Evangelical angels who marry women for charity. Most men don’t meet the needs of the average woman. Whereas most women meet all the needs of a man.

@rowantic6539

7 ай бұрын

And it always about cooking or cleaning. Never about love, companionshio, friendship etc.

@rejectionisprotection4448

7 ай бұрын

​@@rowantic6539You should listen to Princella.

@tassys

7 ай бұрын

That question is reverse psychology. It's women who select their mate based on what he brings to the table. That question is a 🛑 flag.

@TeresatheTruthSeeker

7 ай бұрын

Exactly!!

Girl, I’m still watching but I just saw this meme that says “me being the pinnacle of every mans spiritual awakening I ever dated.” Sis, I’ve literally seen my boyfriends become men before my eyes simply in response to being with me. The domino effect that women have on men’s lives is completely invaluable and priceless (as if giving a family, purpose and love weren’t already).

@Anekablooms

7 ай бұрын

This is so relatable !!! I always give the men I date a pre-warning that I will legit change their life with no effort on my part AND THEY NEVER BELIEVE ME. That is until they notice (once things have ended) how much better their life has gotten by me simply being with them. I'm talking new jobs, career changes, spiritual awakenings, the list is exhausting. We're raising sons out here girlies!

@Celeste-cc3hu

7 ай бұрын

​@@Anekabloomshow do you change their lives? I would love to hear about your experiences

@liabw05

7 ай бұрын

@@Anekabloomsyea same! From new experiences and new perspectives. From washing with better quality soap to taking an art class or having more confidence. What women bring to the table is invaluable and intangible.

@YASMINOGBU

7 ай бұрын

Absolutely 🔥🔥🙌🏼

@lapetiteindra

7 ай бұрын

could you please share the link to the meme because that’s so true honestly. i see relationships as a vehicle to spiritual awakening.

"They wanna access you but can't because your standards are getting in the way" 👏👏

@tamarbatyah7

7 ай бұрын

🏆 ❤

My parents are divorced. My dad is in another relationship. My mum is too traumatised to go through another one anytime soon. Men moving on like lightening into the next relationship is so true.

@tarahill308

7 ай бұрын

They move on quickly because they didn’t suffer like the women they dumped on. I hope your mom heals n finds whtever makes her feel happy. It’s not her fault she depleted.

@bubblegum_girl

7 ай бұрын

😢 It's the same with my parents, my mum is still having night terrors to this day even though they've been divorced for over 20 years. The mental, emotional, and physical abuse all the way from start to finish, was just too much.

@Catspiracy931

7 ай бұрын

Your parents sound like mine. My dad is onto his 4th marriage while my mom (1st wife) remained single, spending decades in grief and eventual death. When she died, he refused to say a single word of condolence even to me. Some men are complete pieces of sh*t.

@thehouseofmillie

6 ай бұрын

very true. very true. I say this all the time. @@tarahill308 Men have nothing to heal from. So they move in to find someone to use.

@amberinthemist7912

5 ай бұрын

The men are creating the trauma.

10:31 "Men prioritise themselves all the time and the least you can do is to do the same for yourself." This hit me like a Ashton Martin with baby pink interiors going at 222kmph. It felt amazing 💗💗💗💗💗

@liabw05

7 ай бұрын

Awe yea!! 🎉

@geoindian5467

7 ай бұрын

A woman of culture, I see

@user-lb2bb1cd7w

7 ай бұрын

@@drewyetti are you a spoiled girly? No. The whole internet is your rant space, please let this be our corner sir thank you 💕

I worked Healthcare. I had a female patient with Dementia. My bestie was the secretary @ this place, and the 80 year old husband ( who was overall mean to the staff) was infatuated with my Redheaded friend. He furnished her condo, took her on trips, whilst showing up for his wife as a caring husband. I learned then about the Real nature of men, they are motivated by self first!!!

@caroliinec

7 ай бұрын

Your bestie needs to wake up

@nishamack586

7 ай бұрын

@@caroliinec yeah, she took advantage of the situation. we were friends at the time, but I've definitely grown. you live and learn.

@frankturner316

7 ай бұрын

I understand furnishing the apartment but why would you want to go on trips with an 80 year old?

@nishamack586

7 ай бұрын

@@frankturner316 Thinking back, my friend was spoiled by her dad. I think she definitely had daddy issues. lol

@tarahill308

7 ай бұрын

Right n they the same ones who find out later, they only good as a check to younger women. It’s no way they can fully please a younger woman who requires things they can’t provide in old age. Even if they pay for it, money goes quick as it’s spent. It’s not enough money to keep a young woman fully happy.

Thank you for this. Now I understand why, when dumping my new my now ex boyfriend, he told me that it will take a very special man to be able to be with me. Trying to scare me with the idea of choosing him or loneliness. Well, I chose loneliness

@Gnostic_Way_of_Life

7 ай бұрын

That‘s a prime example of gaslighting. You’re losing absolutely nothing. Good job for leaving that dbag.

@SilentTrip

7 ай бұрын

your life will be so mcu easier without men, belive me they suck the soul out of you

@Vibrantly_Monochromatic

7 ай бұрын

You are choosing freedom

@CyborgCatWitch

7 ай бұрын

Solitude for us girlies 💕

@bubblegum_girl

7 ай бұрын

Good thing there are literally *billions* of men in the world. *Billions*, my angel, don't doubt for even one second that there is an uncountable number of men who can and will do better than he did, for you. I am confident your ex wouldn't make the top 20% if compared globally to all men alive and eligible right now. For a start, real gentlemen don't speak down on women, especially not ones who have given their love, trust, and time to them.

10:25 This dude I know literally stopped talking to _his own mother_ for weeks, until he knew her cancer _wouldn't_ kill her. Completely ignored her during surgery, treatments, weeks in hospitals. Because he felt 'eeeek, can't handle, poor meeee' smh. The daughter was always there. .. She risked her life to birth _this._

My grandfather tried to bring a woman to our family shortly after Granny died. They were married for over 50 years. Prior to her death, mum suspected it. My mother was like "Oh hell no! I thought you said there was no other woman? All of a sudden she exists and wants to meet the family? Gtfo of here!" He wasn't able to.

@shawnellemartineaux6212

7 ай бұрын

@@MELLMAO what in the world? That's evil.

“ Man prioritizes himself all the time”- i wish I knew this when I was younger

@tamarbatyah7

7 ай бұрын

Same 💜

@kanikakumari7219

5 ай бұрын

Me too. I would have prioritised myself over any men.

@lillierose5304

Ай бұрын

Same here. I will be prioritizing myself from now on though.

I read a study that says if a man is incarcerated his wife or girlfriend will visit him regularly. She will also make sure he has contact with his children. If the woman is incarcerated she's lucky to get one, and only one, visit from her husband or boyfriend.

The seven extra hours of work a week with a man makes sense, if you’re being saddled with the bulk of the domestic duties: his clothes are an extra load of laundry that needs to be washed, dried, ironed possibly and put away; his dishes are a load of dishes- maybe two if you make a packed lunch; the prep of his meals; the picking up of the tissues, cups, beard shavings left in the sink, the hair they leave in the drain, the empty toilet rolls, etc.; then there’s the extra groceries in general and the parties he decides to have that you end up hosting for him. It all adds up. 7 hours might be an understatement for the dustiest of dusties.

@nikkiedwards7436

7 ай бұрын

But why aren’t these men being raised to be just basic decent humans and pick up after themselves? Like, I don’t get it 🤷🏼‍♀️

@rachelgarcia1790

7 ай бұрын

@@nikkiedwards7436 Couldn't say for all of them, but for sure there's a bunch that were failed by parents who didn't bother to teach them to be self-sufficient in life (mommy issues, having households that had strong emphasis on "traditional" roles...). There's probably more than a few that are on the Narcissistic Personality Disorder spectrum who think doing anything domestic is "beneath" them, so they get married just so they don't have to and/or justify not doing it because they "work outside of the house." All I know for sure is I spent ten years coddling one of these backaches and the day he left, my life even as a single parent of two young kids, got easier and a hell of a lot cheaper. LOL

@Niccy26

7 ай бұрын

Seeing these videos makes me glad I'm a lazy wife. We both work ft and split childcare 50/50. He deals with laundry and the kitchen, I do the bathroom etc. I try to tell young women who do not listen to me, do not do everything when you move in with them. Create a schedule and go on strike if you need to. Don't be afraid to tell him straight that you aren't his mother

@nothereyetlost

7 ай бұрын

You know when they say average, they mean combined high and low? I think it’s more than that bc women have said they’d housers, reduced by 50% without a man

@blueee6306

7 ай бұрын

​@@nikkiedwards7436because they know that their wife will do these chores so why bother??Women shouldn't tolerate this behavior.They need to divorce these man.

My grandmother has made it to 100yo being surrounded by her daughter, granddaughters & women. Not a man in sight😁

Even aba from aba and Preach said men cannot live without women. The opposite is true for women

as an autistic female I have attracted so many bad man into my life, they see me as a manic pixie dream girl and run away when my autistic traits start bothering them. I do need to be hyper aware of men, it is hard for me too see their intentions and i just want to thank you so much for empowering me and so many other women through your videos. 💕

@laurennelson3918

7 ай бұрын

Ditto except I’m painfully aware of how my autism effects my ability to read intentions so I’m not even taking that risk or would if I wasn’t because it just doesn’t even seem worth it. I don’t want to end up getting hurt and seeking emotional support only to get told I should have “chose better”. Well I am choosing better I’m choosing the one person I can guarantee won’t hurt me. If red pillers are going to claim all men cheat then I’m never choosing a man I’m choosing myself because I’m not going to tolerate that kind of mistreatment on principle even if it means dying all alone.

@estarosengold3620

7 ай бұрын

i get that! But u don't have to die alone, pets are such great companions and they have so much love to give. My dog is my best friend tbh @@laurennelson3918

My dad got into a relationship a year after my mother died, he decided to abstain from sex for the year and I remember people were shocked, constantly asking him how he could do it and trying to encourage him to sleep around because it would help with his grief 🙄

@sensimania

7 ай бұрын

What kind of people were encouraging him to sleep around? His male friends I bet?

@hellohell7773

7 ай бұрын

That’s so sweet though- I really feel for spouses of any person who decide not to date/ have flings either out of respect for their passed loved one, or just lack of interest because they loved their partner so so much to ever look at anyone again

@viridianacortes9642

7 ай бұрын

@@hellohell7773 I wouldn’t mind my SO dating after my death. But it has to be a decent time after my passing. Like, holy crap. Waiting a month only is just disrespectful.

@addaiboakye4324

7 ай бұрын

@sensimania It was his friends they thought now that my mother was dead that he should sleep around cause he had the freedom too and to help with his grief cause ‘men need sex’ 😑

@rejectionisprotection4448

7 ай бұрын

​@@addaiboakye4324Lord......and then women are meant to be the unpaid SWs and therapists to help them through their grief. Princella is so right.

So true! Men can’t be alone. My brother was a womanizer bf getting married, got married, got divorced and has been through 5-6 women in the last 8 years since then. Never heard the term “pick me” but those are the women he dates. It’s so sad bc they clean his house, spend time with him, think they’ll change him ect and within 2 years he’s found another one. It’s so sad bc most of them are nice and I’d love to give them a heads up on what’s gonna happen to them. I finally quit playing the game acting like this new girl is the “one”. He’s pushing 60 so I’m not sure how much longer he can pull this off. It’s disgusting and I think it’s great that you point this stuff out to women.

@soulspirationgoddess

7 ай бұрын

I mean.. the least you can do is just say hey “My brother is a bit of a player” and leave the rest to them to decide…

@raf3765

7 ай бұрын

@@myronbourne6937 please keep that energy when the same thing happens to you own daughter 😌

When will they realize lashing out at us because of their “loneliness” (read : involuntary celibacy) will not warp the reality or convince the masses of young women that up is down and down is up (that we need or want them more than they need or want us)? It’s pathetic.

@nataliambenzi7206

7 ай бұрын

It depends if you are rich or middle class women but if you are poor then you can't

@en2336

7 ай бұрын

@@myronbourne6937 and yet so many are still crying about being lonely...haha

@schuylergeery-zink1923

7 ай бұрын

As my husband says, he hates restaurants like hooters or strip clubs bc it’s not REAL. My husband is candid with me, it’s nothing to do with sex solely, but his ego. Fake female attention does not make him feel good. So he learned how to talk with women, complement us and connect so that it wasn’t just transactional. Men are human, you should want a challenge to overcome. We evolved to do hard things. Whiny men don’t want to do hard things? I went to law school and became the first lawyer in my family. My great grandma called me UPPITY and I’ll wear that as a badge of honor. So hard things. Improve yourself. And be in genuine connection with people.

@MrJavaman5

6 ай бұрын

Men don’t want to admit that we need women while women don’t need us men.

Melanie Hamlett's grandfather immediately remarried after he stressed his wife to the grave, and that woman used up all his money. Melanie was like "you go girl, getting that bag" but the rest of her family was so mad cuz they felt entitled to some compensation for putting up with that awful man for so many years 😂

@NellyMacharia

7 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂 this comment is funny

One month...he did not love his wife.

@sensimania

7 ай бұрын

Ikr! It took me 3yrs to start feeling like myself again after losing a loved one. Albeit, it was a parent that I lost (so, obviously a different type of relationship), but a loved one nonetheless.

My grandma never remarried and it’s been 27 years since my grandpa died. She said she’ll never date a man again. You go grandma! Still kicking butt and moving up and down the Walmart aisles 😍😍

@soulspirationgoddess

7 ай бұрын

😂❤

My mom’s aunt and uncle was married for a long time. I remember them being so loving towards each other growing up and they even used one of my favorite love songs during her funeral. One month after, this uncle has already moved on and ready to remarry. That’s when I knew, I don’t believe in love no more. My heart broke for her. Just waiting to move on…how sad.

@Nyuffykah

7 ай бұрын

It is like we are not even people in their eyes.. but objects. *Shivers*

@rowantic6539

7 ай бұрын

I watches a tv show recently on a camping in France. There was guy with his kids who was down and they asked what was wrong. He told that this was his first time here with his kids Aline as his wife died three months ago. They asked a bit more and at the end he says his goal is to be there next year with his new girlfriend. And away went my sympathy.

@Megami87

7 ай бұрын

I hope her Spirit is haunting him in their old house.

@ellegmye

7 ай бұрын

​@@rowantic6539wow. His wife was simply a free maid/nanny to him. So glad women are waking up and putting themselves first because this male behavior is completely unacceptable.

@toluoshinowo6505

7 ай бұрын

wait so you just want him to be alone for the rest of his life? if he never cheated who are you to determine how he grieves and continues with life?

My mom works as a disabled children therapist in a clinic, and she had a 4 year-old autistic patient whose mom had breast cancer and eventually passed out. His dad/her husband left their kid tô bem taken care of by the grandparents, and asked the clinic's receptionist out within less than a month of his wife's death... After hearing that, something in my brain's chemestry changed. I've never felt the same about men.

My cat and I got out of an abusive relationship a few months ago and what that relationship taught me is that I will ALWAYS live with a man before getting married. When my ex and I moved in together it started fine but quickly devolved into me doing all the chores while he would play and stream video games. He would sit on his ass after coming home from work and would tell me if I needed help than I should ask, but if I did ask, he would get passive aggressive with me and complain about how sore he was from a long day at his blue collar job. I work in fast food. I’m on my feet 8 hours a day AND I have degenerative spinal issues, but I was still expected to come home and help with dishes and making dinner. I would literally cry from my back pain while making dinner some nights and my ex would mock me. I finally had enough one night when he made a pizza and I presumed it was for both of us since when I make food it’s ALWAYS for us both, so grabbed a slice and he hit it out of my hands. Nobody hits food out of my hands and gets away with it. So I stole my cat and ran away. Thats the tip of the iceberg of what I went through with that boy but suffice to say, I don’t wanna get married and move in with a guy only to find out he’s an incompetent man-child. Trust me- you DO NOT want to be legally tied to someone and THEN find out they suck.

@maiamiimaiam4343

7 ай бұрын

Aweee. You stole your kitty and ran. Good on you beauty. Peace❤❤❤❤

@SuperAnimecity

7 ай бұрын

😂Well done. I'm proud of you. You did exactly what I would of done. Hope you blocked him on top and told everyone about his behavior

@FairLadySpiny

7 ай бұрын

@@LogarAcc I’ve always been a romantic tbh. It wasn’t too long ago that I was a little girl that wanted to meet her Prince Charming. I love the idea of love. That relationship definitely ruined that childlike perspective of love for me. The rose tinted glasses are gone and I dunno if I’ll ever be able to trust someone again tbh.

@schuylergeery-zink1923

7 ай бұрын

I’m a lawyer and say that legal marriage gives you protection. The court has long known the value of women’s labor, childcare, etc. and will at least monetarily compensate you for at LEAST half of your contribution to the marriage. Men who complain about women getting 50% of “their” assets don’t understand that women are contributing to their success and the household business. I think it’s funny that conservatives don’t you want people to move in together first but I think it’s totally legitimate to see how you’re going to be treated in the home. A good indicator is whether the man even takes care of himself while you’re dating (does he clean up after himself? Cook for himself? Do his laundry?) that’s when those 7+ hours of household labor come into play. Legit, that’s a whole workday of unpaid labor.

@femmefatale71

7 ай бұрын

@@LogarAccit is. It’s a Patriachal slave contract that was and is not DIVINELY FEMININE. Companionship ? Maybe.

Women should stop being blamed for men's loneliness, we are not the cause. How many times have we heard or experienced people feeling lonely but they come from loving families or healthy relationships. You can be in a healthy relationship and still feel lonely, and that's because it has nothing to do with your partner or family but rather a problem from within that only you can solve.

This is true. My grandparents were married at 18 years old and together for 45+ decades. My grandma passed away in her 60s and they were still married. Not even a month or two after my grandma died. My grandpa started dating her COUSIN. Y’all. This fr happens all the time. Watch out for real lmfao. My grandpa moved out our home and moved into hers which is in a much nicer, expensive house. Less then a year after my grandma’s death. It really does happen..

It makes me laugh how men seriously parrot the phrase "You´ll end up alone with your cats and dogs" and actually believe it. First of all, logical error. If you have cats and dogs, you are clearly NOT alone - there are living creatures around you. Secondly, dogs rank higher on the scale than men, because they are loyal to the death, won´t just leave you for the next best female, and will protect you at all cost. No other creature in the world will greet you at the door with such pure joy and excitement every single time, and willingly cuddle with you. They furthermore can be trained to function as emotional support dogs and service dogs for disabled people etc., they perform their duties right upon the first command and they don´t pull a sour face while doing so! Number 3, a great majority of women, whether they were married or not, usually end up having children. So in most cases they have family when they are older. Number 4, men for the most part die before their wives, so a woman "dies alone" anyway in 8 out of 10 cases. Last but not least, women who never had their life energy drained by men (and maybe also kids) have had exactly all the needed time and energy to invest into cultivating, nurturing and maintaining other relationships: friends and neighbors, building a network through volunteer work in the community and in charities, babysitting for other women and becoming the honorary grandma of other families, becoming members of a sports club or travel group etc. Women are adept at ensuring that they have people to go to and to look out for them. Nothing to fear here in terms of "loneliness".

@down-to-earth-mystery-school

7 ай бұрын

Plus, cats are the bomb! They are like the channel host, only going to give attention and affection when it’s been earned

Girlie came and threw straight-up facts in the face of so-called "high-value men" and saved many women from being gaslighted. I personally have seen my relatives say that some husbands should leave their wives because they are "ugly", "ill, and useless", etc. while they look like hyenas shit. Love you, elder sister.

@thehouseofmillie

6 ай бұрын

Very true. This is why it is important for wives to build their own personal brand aside from the husband and family. Majority of wives are not respected by the man's family.

The only reason that the producers of the show didn’t GAF about his background is he was TV ready. He’s attractive, he’s a widower, and he comes across as the “nice guy”. The producers decided to worry about his background later because they know that the show and Gerry would bring in ratings. Of course the winner was the pick-me chick Theresa, who happens to have a high net worth. Here’s my surprised face - 😐. Yes, ladies, contrary to what these podcast bros say, it’s the MEN who are afraid of dying alone, not women. Ladies, if a man can’t give you love and respect while being a proper provider and protector, stay single until he shows up. Even if he never shows up, so what? Single women live longer and make more money than working married women, so you’ll do fine.

@MrJavaman5

6 ай бұрын

As a man I will admit, we hate being single. Men need women. Women don’t need men.

Stay “gold digging” ladies (which Elle has discussed is a good thing- our future children deserve protection & provision!) ❤❤❤ they are always beauty- digging (as beautiful as they can get!!) “every man is looking out for themselves”!!! So true!! Not even most parents want us to prioritize ourselves over them- my dad gets mad when I chose to exercise/study/ do something productive for me over prioritizing whatever he wants to do! Too bad I’m 22! It is time I look out for myself!

@angelanguyen451

7 ай бұрын

Omg this, I relate to you deeply! I'm in my later 20s, my father still expects me to prioritise his tasks over mine. We are setting boundaries and saying 'That is NOT my task'.

@maceyr.6583

7 ай бұрын

You go girl!

@tarahill308

7 ай бұрын

Older women tell me I’m the prize n I understand.

its simple ladies: stop giving to others with the intention of getting something in return. just stop if you love yourself and want better.

When my grandmother began to devolve into dementia, did either my father or uncle step in to take care of her? Nope. It was all the women in the family, and I bore the brunt of the emotional, and physical toll of helping her clear out a large family home, move to assisted living, pay all her bills, communicate with staff and medical personnel, put my career on hold for six months to support her. No thank you, in fact when my grandmother passed away 5 years later (bless her soul), my father had the nerve through his attorney to demand a review of all the financial records, which I gave. I sent him a message back through Grandma’s attorney, isn’t a third of a million dollars enough for you? Guess not. And to be clear, I am angry on my grandma’s behalf. I remember one night when she kept telling me that we couldn’t make a decision without ‘asking her boys’ first. It was heartbreaking to tell my 93 year old grandma that her boys weren’t coming, they refused to help, it was just her and I. That sucked.

@thehouseofmillie

6 ай бұрын

Everything you have said I have experienced in my friendship circle. The dillusion of mothers and grandmothers who think their Son's really love them. They never do. Yet these Grandmothers daily asking "how is my Son". The part where you said "they would say thank you". That part made me laugh. They are never grateful. I had to withdraw from caring for my Great-aunt. I had done it for years. I found out that I wouldn't be compensated for none of my care. The will had her two sons name. Meanwhile they had not visited her in five years. It is funny that even other Women do not value the labour of other women. I was told I should be caring for her because I loved her. But when you love someone you should want them rewarded. I haven't seen her in three years. They put her in a home. She lost her sight and can not walk now. Men are hedious and selfish.

@AniWho268

3 ай бұрын

@@thehouseofmillie Yup. It's so disheartening. You take care of the women in the family, but still, they can only think about the sons and husbands, who are doing nothing for them. It's so ingrained in the culture to favor men. I'm glad that we[women] are rapidly deprogramming ourselves from that. The next generations won't be like that.

@AniWho268

3 ай бұрын

Those moments are tough: having to tell them that the sons that they love aren't going to be there for them. Men really do look at women as servants. Men want to be taken care of by women, but they won't take care of women. So many men neglect their partners when she's sick, but will want all of her attention and labor when they're sick.

Honestly it's beyond me why women would pick a men that is already treating other women badly.... If he can do it to others he can do it you. I would have major trust issues.

@letym2271

7 ай бұрын

That was baffling to me, as my ex cheated on me, I reached out to the other woman who didn't know about me and I naively thought she would dump him for his lies XD instead she made me the enemy for telling the truth. I lost faith in my kin that day. I could never :( I'd feel disgusted with myself for not honoring myself and disgusted with the guy, not feel like I won any prize. But those women do, for some twisted reason.

@thehouseofmillie

6 ай бұрын

Women always believe they are the special one.

@summerssums5022

6 ай бұрын

@@letym2271 I hope you at in a better place dear and with better people 💖 it's unfortunate but I think there's still a long way for all of us women collectively to move away from this patriarchy mindset.

Hey besties!! Haha I've gotten addicted to this sorta videos after the amount of red pill content I've seen! I am so so grateful that I'm only seventeen and over pick me behaviour and to this community for helping me out with my mindest because I've managed to cut two of the toxic 'friends' and weird guys so im very thankful! Ive got a law entrance exam tomorrow so I'll probably watch later!! But thank you to manifestelle she's amazing!! ❤🥰

@caira752

7 ай бұрын

Hehe me too ! 17 gangg 🎉❤ are u also from India ?

@JayaBhargava-ir7sj

7 ай бұрын

@@caira752 yup!

@mindMyBlues

7 ай бұрын

I am so happy for young ladies these days - because you have internet and besties like Elle - I wish I had someone who could explain "life" to me when I was a teenager ;) ... keep on shinning and thriving ladies - no matter the age

@neigeepierrot4694

7 ай бұрын

Oh my gosh good luck on your exam and congratulations for ending those relationships

@myatreethe9222

7 ай бұрын

We are all so happy for you, please don't make the same mistakes that we did.

I work as a travel agent and a customer today called to cancel her holiday because her husband of 22 years dumped her over a note to run to another woman he probably had time to get to know ( because most men wouldn’t dump a woman knowing there’s no rebound girl out there). Anyways I encouraged the poor lady to focus on herself and do the things that bring her joy because men can strip happiness away from women as when In a relationship we could potentially lose our identity over time. She needed that time to re-pursue that light which as women can forget about when we let certain people in our lives. When it comes to men most don’t think with their hearts but act on impulses and what feels temporarily good. Women seek stability and long term and long lasting feelings which is why we are selective and men mostly are not, and why women are happier alone and most men aren’t. Understanding this allows women not to feel bad or sad over men, we should know that they are low-key weak as they seem not to function without women. This is also biblical. God created Eve for Adam and not vice versa. This shows the power we actually hold and I wish we realised that as a collective, hopefully it will push men to heal and focus their energy more in their heart and less on their D.

This comment section is genuinely restoring my faith in young women. I’m very happy to see us wake up to the lies and constant hypocrisy of the current dating pool, I recommend sheraseven for any of you who still want to deal with men while understanding them.

Your content is so critical to women ❤ I spent 20 years married and not understanding I had any worth (because I didn’t work full time but only part time and was a mom), and hearing you explain it is so important but I need to hear it over and over in various ways because I can’t undo 20 years of self-lying with just one video. This is why I celebrate your content, which stays on the same subject in various ways so that slowly I can get it through my trained brain that I have true value, and so that I can undo the lies of romance novels I digested for my whole life. Thank you!!

@Anekablooms

7 ай бұрын

Keep rocking it Bianca, you're worth a thousand gems ! Wishing you the best on your journey 💜💜💜

Men are the only ones I see dying all by themselves. They leave their wives after they become too "old and ugly" for his liking or when they abandon their own sons & daughters because buying some formula or changing a diaper is "too much work."

You're going to think I am making this up. But men will actually go to strip clubs and try to move dancers in!

@janiaguyton5720

7 ай бұрын

As a dancer I can confirm this !!!!

@liabw05

7 ай бұрын

Omg 😳

@FireSilver25

7 ай бұрын

I fully believe this!

@skyandthemoon

7 ай бұрын

that's not surprising

@janiaguyton5720

7 ай бұрын

Men are so quick to try to convince you to move in with them and all it’s very weird . I always tell guys I’m not interested in dating and I’m practicing celibacy. That’s how I get them to leave me alone

May this channel reach to many more ladies out there. You are a gift.

@Manifestelle For anyone here who is somehow defending the actions of Gerry Turner, please be aware that he was cheating on his wife BEFORE she even died, and that a background check confirmed that he LIED about his love life to both the show and the poor women participants. Furthermore, I'm willing to bet that he spent every dime of the money he was paid to sell his hamburger drive-in "restaurant" on that house near the river, and still has come nowhere near paying off his mortgage. That's why he was pressuring "Carolyn" to pay him $1,000 a month to live with him! If his home had been paid off, then he would not be so desperate for HER money. Not only is Turner anything but "golden" if he is still performing menial labor jobs well into his SEVENTIES then he is far POORER than most American men are in his age group! I pray that Teresa has by now read that article about Turner in The Hollywood Reporter and has told Turner to "Hit the road, jack!" The man is shameless!

And in pure QUEEN status as I was typing about financially securing your children at 12:00- of course you have that covered! I lived it. My mom died when I was 15 at the end of my parents divorce. Calling it a mess is kind. My dad hadn’t been in our home in 5 years. He moves back in with a girl just out of college who we never knew about. They liquidate my moms things. I’m then told to get a job to cover my costs for clothing etc. Meanwhile my moms family is being told we are being taken care of and there is a college fund. All lies. Proper legal planning besties!!

@poohcanplay123

7 ай бұрын

That’s infuriating. How did it all pan out if you don’t mind me asking?

@bodaciousmo

7 ай бұрын

I luckily was already a good student so I worked the next few years to get into college and leave town. He would continue his dark triad abusive behavior (a different woman was in the picture who also didn’t like us) until I went no contact when I was 27. That’s when I found out my mom had secured a fund for us- however her family let him manage it and he had liquidated it. When he died there was no mention at his funeral that he even had children- he had remarried and we were never allowed back into the house to get our things. 🙃 In my early 30s I found great resources after the no contact to get CPTSD therapy including EMDR. It’s been 26 years since my mom passed and I am so grateful we have this type of online community where we can inform and support! I am doing great however would never wish my experience upon anyone. 🩷

@Rosetta-gp9mk

7 ай бұрын

@@bodaciousmoI feel so incredibly sorry reading your message. I can’t say anything except that women need to do better. If not for ourselves, it should be for our children. And by better I don’t mean more house chores but smarter decisions. ❤

Grief takes time. A lot of it. And the death of a spouse, especially one of *40+ years* is logically going to cause a _lot_ of grief. If you get into another relationship *_a month_* after that kind of loss, it means he doesn't love/care about one or both of those women.

Everybody in my family died very early ONLY one aunt died when she was 94. well, she was NOT MARRIED.

They need to rename him The Golden Shower Bachelor cause all he was doing was pissing all over on the audience and the women he was lying too. Ladies adopt the last name terminator because we need glass these streets.

Reminds me of Kevin Samuel. He always pointed the finger to women who he assumed would die alone..but that was only telling of his own projections, and future outcome.

A man threatening a woman with a threat of violence from who? -men

I don't think they pull away after a diagnosis of cancer, etc. to minimize pain from the loss of her. He does it because he doesn't want to be bothered taking care of her. He rationalizing he'll just find someone else. She's an object that is easily replaceable.

I've seen this man from church growing up he was married to his wife for so many years! Shortly after she died of Cancer, He remarried, and his young daughter got pregnant, and he kicked her out. He had 2 children I don't know what happened to them I hope they are okay.

Whenever I watch these type of videos from you I think of my poor friend whose baby daddy's life got significantly improved every in single aspect while her life plummeted. She's a married single mom but without a ring nor marriage certificate, and he got everything he wanted. If I were a teen, I would probably think that your videos were BS pinkpill stuff but that changes in your 20s and seeing people around you make dumb decisions.

@eulennachathen449

7 ай бұрын

As a woman in my thirties I can just say: for God's sake listen to Elle! I wish I had this kind of content in my teens. Would have spared me a lot of pain.

@schuylergeery-zink1923

7 ай бұрын

I’m about to turn 31 and wish I had heard this straight at a younger age. I knew that women were getting screwed over, I just didn’t know exactly how to navigate that. I’m married to a wonderful man and I’m glad I held out a LOOONG time for him. It’s worth it. Never settle.

My friend and her husband started having an open relationship. What this means is that everytime we go anywhere my straight friend is thirsting over the hottest girl she can find to try to lure her in to her husband. My friend has become a pimp for her husband and this isn't the first time I've seen this This got so bad on Halloween it ended our relationship. Watch yourself girls! Is any man's praise worth more than love for the beautiful girl in the mirror that knows your heart? 💜

I am a single spoiled girlie. My identical twin is a stay at home mom of 2. My older sis wants a baby w her husband- who she already does everything for/works/takes care of him..?😅 'nough said

106 *THOUSAND* subscribers and I'm JUST NOW seeing this creator this week, despite this content being almost 1/2 of what I Share or post? KZread is weird but I'm glad this channel FINALLY popped up on my feed to share with young women! 👍🏽

@G0ddess_Kate

7 ай бұрын

Keep sharing 🎉

@misskiranpaul

7 ай бұрын

Same. She popped into universe this week.

You know a relationship isn't working when they depend on your emotional dependence on them to not have to take accountability. They give you the choice to put up with them or choose to be alone. When those are your only two options you know it's not working out. When they're willing to be open and sincere, you know there's a chance. You basically wake up every morning to these very basic two choices until you're finally ready to make a move.

@Nananana09174

7 ай бұрын

My current bf is the one who never takes accountability but put all the blame on me. If he ghosted me I would begged him since I was always cheated in the past even if I put up my value. But now I wont begged him, I just stay and I am slowly losing my feelings.. I would eventually let him go one day. While my last ex bf was the sincere,he was the first guy who treated me with respect and love me. He accepted me as I was and I miss that. But he still cheated and I cannot forgive him. That breakup traumatised me alot and I dont even know what men are upto anymore.

@AmericanDreamer

7 ай бұрын

@@Nananana09174 can you go and live on your own?

@AmericanDreamer

7 ай бұрын

yes, true..very relatable 🎯

@Gnostic_Way_of_Life

7 ай бұрын

@@Nananana09174 He wasn’t sincere and didn’t respect you if he cheated on you. You need to realize your worth and raise your self esteem. Stay single for a while to heal and ground yourself.

Kinda agree , im 19 and never even had my first kiss, it makes me feel disgusted, and i had many dudes trying to hit on me when i was younger, now i dont get any attention and im so happy omg i dont feel lonely at all and i dont plan to get a bf anytime

@aayushtiwari3272

6 ай бұрын

I am 19 too and never have I even touched a girl coz am focused at building myself first

I’d leave all a man’s clothes unwashed and when he calls you selfish for not doing it remind him that how you feel when he doesn’t do it too

@amazinggrace313

3 ай бұрын

@Fortifier1021 I have a wife so you’re right

@amazinggrace313

3 ай бұрын

@Fortifier1021I could never imagine treating my spouse the way some men treat their wives. It’s disgusting and women can do better . Making money and working is freedom for women to date who they are actually attracted to and happy with. Gone are the days where women needed men for essential survival. No more abuse and domestic slavery with little to no cooperation from men. No more unpaid labor and indentured servitude. DO EVERYTHING YOURSELF!!!

@amazinggrace313

3 ай бұрын

@Fortifier1021 are you aware that idgaf about you?

Imagine that you're dying and even you being in a solid relationship you have to make provisions so your husband don't destroy your kids finances with their weakness because you know they will remarry in the speed of light so someone else do your "job" of being his caretaker/fuckmaid.

I've been saying for some time that men need us, not the other way around! And you're absolutely right--the world is hellbent on devaluing us!

@gravityclarity

7 ай бұрын

@@myronbourne6937 that's exactly your problem--you see women only as objects to use, to get something from, and not as people.

@stardust464

7 ай бұрын

@@myronbourne6937Then go out and “buy” it and stop b*tching to us about it.

@MrJavaman5

6 ай бұрын

It’s true. Men need women but women don’t need men. Men know it, but most won’t admit it. As men, we hate being single but most single women I know have been single for years and are loving it. As men, we owe our existence to women. Without women, men are nothing.

That last part with the money making it to the kids hit me hard. When my mother died, my father used her 60.000€ life insurance to spend on cars for himself. When he died, I inherited 3.000€, because what was left over was divided by four (four children) and my two brothers got a little bit extra as well, because my father was a sexist asshole. He did have a girlfriend for a moment, but in the end she was not the problem, it was him. He had also never worked a job since before I was born and was receiving an early pension, meaning my mother was the sole provider of our family. He didn't even take care of the kids, rather he was a threat to us all. I totally understand now why I've been attracting all the wrong kinds of men my whole life, had extremely low self-esteem and no self-respect, but I'm not putting up with this any longer.

@AniWho268

3 ай бұрын

Unfortunately, your story is not uncommon. I'm extremely glad that you're not putting up with it anymore though. Live a long and happy life! Rebuilt yourself to have confidence and high self-esteem. Get peace in your life, then don't let anyone disrupt that peace.

Because remarrying for them can mean: free hoohaa, maid, cook, money maker and if the woman is much younger, then they are a retirement plan, and if he has kids, then a nanny

I like how “Malicious” has been added to the BBMLEM description. Also, I rolled out of bed this morning and my first thought was “BESTIE, WAKE UP!!”

Ive been trying to get over a BMBA guy I've had a crush on. And everytime I think about talking to him I just watch your videos instead. You're like the tough love bestie I need rn.

I’m so happy i found your channel because this is so true. Whenever i get manic i download tinder and have no standards and make bad decisions. Doing lots of therapy and watching all your videos and now i want a provider boyfriend who wants to be my husband and father of my children 💕✨ you are doing important work

I just lost my grandmother this past summer and granddaddy is heartbroken. He cannot bring himself to love another woman and doesn't want to. Grammy was hus one and only.

thank you for the wisdom as always - i'll save all my energy, generosity, and empathy for myself not the man lol

@SilentTrip

7 ай бұрын

​@Fandium for you lol 😆

I ALWAYS SAID THAT! Jesus. My grannys uncle (80yrs) his wife died and he died I think 1 month lauter. And he loved life he was always happy and drived his car and walked every day. He never had big health issues. ❤❤❤

She’s speaking truth ladies! My ex-husband threatened me that way when I asked for a divorce, that no one would ever want me, I would die alone. He was also abusive in other ways as well, and I was lucky to get out of that relationship alive. When they show you who they are before you put that ring on, believe them!

elle uploads so often and i am so happy 💌 never getting bored with elle. you're absolutely amazing love ya so much 🧁lots of love from a fellow spoiled girlie 💃

you're always so upfront about the harsh truths of this world but like in a protective way. I love your videos, you're like an angel friend. The softest slap in the face, waking us all up lol

Men have a hard time sorting through their emotions (except anger lol) and they depend on women for that. So men reading this comment, just learning to be emotionally intelligent can go a long way.

Brilliant, gorgeous, & insightful as always ❤❤❤ Since watching your content, I’ve been continuing journaling, meditating, staying (11 months!) sober & I’ve attracted 3 wonderful provider men who are pursuing me ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉

Sounds like the producers of The Bachelor "Should Have Picked Better!" 😂

@stucker3188

7 ай бұрын

Yea how are we supposed to pick better if a whole team of producers with all their resources couldn't vet this dude? Its too much efort.

@ayomidedareabel5525

7 ай бұрын

​@@stucker3188either they knew or were just lazy af. One LinkedIn search and they found out the details of his "restaurant"

Noooo cos this is facts! They are really the ones who are scared to be alone

@MrJavaman5

6 ай бұрын

As a man I will admit, we hate being single. Men need women. Women don’t need men.

@Rebecca-x

6 ай бұрын

@@MrJavaman5 thank you for being honest. I already knew that but to hear that coming from a man literally proves my point

@MrJavaman5

6 ай бұрын

Most men won’t admit it but it’s true. I know so many women who have been single for years that are having the time of their life. Single men, including myself, are chasing after women. After a divorce or death of a spouse, a lot of women will remain single. Most men will quickly look for another woman to make his wife after a divorce or death of a spouse.

@Rebecca-x

6 ай бұрын

@@MrJavaman5 I know yeah men do this a lot of the time to fill a void and I think because society puts pressure on them making them thinking that’s the next step to take to find someone to settle down with and have children with. But so many men project their insecurities onto women especially when they see that a woman is content with being alone and doesn’t want kids. When there is nothing wrong with that but toxic men will project their insecurities onto that woman. Thanks for admitting it tho you backed up what I’ve been saying for the longest time

After my mom passed away, my dad died a week after. He's been saying for the longest time that if my mom died before him, he's not staying 💖

Honestly the time it takes for people to move on is always suspect.... like you prolly kept that side chick all the while. How are you so fast??

Manifestelle is like the best therapist, bigger sister I wish I had (that I have but is horrible to me), and the bestie I never had. Hopefully one day we like-minded girlies can meet each other

I love coming here and being reminded of my inherent value. ❤❤❤

When my father isn't at home we all are relaxed 😅 my mother sleeps really nicely 😊 I don't distrub her at all... There was women in our society she was very pretty but her husband left her because she was diagnosed 😢 her family took her care in those time

my grandma how was i think in her 80s anyway preety old died 3 months ago , when we got home after the funeral my older sister was saying how my grandpa how is older than her was peeking his head in at the womens section of the funeral guests and chatting it up and how his daughters now have to find him a wife , but thats not it my grandma apparently imprisoned my aunt for all her life and never let her marry why? so she can take care of her do the house chores cook clean and she did so up to her last moments my aunt how is now in her 50s was never allowed to be an adult never allowed to experience love marriage to make her own life for her self she lived her entire life as a servent for my grandparents while she watched her other sisters and brothers get married move out and have lives of their own , this realization made me stop crying for my grandma real fast

This girlie def does her homework. Keep dropping gems love💎

After my grandma has died before i was born,my grandpa never dated or remarried. Even when i grew up etc, so I still believe in tru love. Miss you, grandpa❤

FAAAAAACCCCTTTTSSSS, SIS! Men want you to be loyal, but they are incapable of loyalty.

Even though I'm a lesbian and I know that not much of this advice is for me, I really appreciate your view of self-worth. I find it so refreshing for someone to remind me of my value and make me feel so worthy. i definitely have a lot to learn from you and appreciate the advice you give.

My ex didn't take care of me when I was sick and once I left him, he called me selfish for looking out for myself. He abused me physically and emotionally and still called me selfish for wanting to protect myself. But on the other hand, there are also good men out there... I can't say all men are bad, but most of them are no good