Stop being so hard on yourself and start socializing.

It's always better to get rejected and move on than to leave with the feeling of regret. Knowing that you didn't try just bothers you so much because you never know how you're approach could've turned out. Besides approach anxiety, the problem is most guys got to much pride and ego in themselves to even handle a rejection which is why they don't bother or end up failing an approach. I said this to my friend who didn't make a move on this girl he liked at a house party when I was dropping him home, the words stuck with him in college, he took that action and now got himself a girlfriend while dating a few girls prior to her.

@budisvijestan

Ай бұрын

About 3 months ago there was a girl at the gym I started going to recently. She gave me all the signals and invitations to approach she could. I saw her three times. Second time I saw her, I started crushing on her. Every time, I had an excuse not to approach, hell, I even avoided looking at her. I was afraid she will think I'm a creep, even though she clearly wanted me to approach. I chickened out for the last time. Three months later, I still think about her literally every day. If I had approached and she rejected me, which seemed unlikely, it would sting maybe for a few hours, days tops. Now, the sting is lasting for months and I feel like I will never have a chance like this again. This is how regret looks like. It's a total waste of life not to take every chance you get.

@stormfury89

Ай бұрын

Plot twist, maybe the “nervous” guys are not stupid enough to risk possible false charges? Sure go approach, but don’t come crying to us if you end up losing your money and possibly your freedom just because she feels “uncomfortable.” But hey, No ReGrEtS, RiGhT?

@FuturisticCamouflageTimes2025

Ай бұрын

​@@stormfury89I'd regret instead

@ChrisLyon567

Ай бұрын

@@budisvijestan Last time I approached a girl which was back in 2023, she reported it to her boss, then her boss talked to me the next day, this was at the gym and her boss threatened to report me asking her out to my boss risking me lose my job. when the girl said no after I asked, I said ok and walked away and didn't talk to her again even when I went to the gym to do my work out where she worked at the time.

@ceeb107

Ай бұрын

@@ChrisLyon567if you were her dream chad 9/10 she would not have reported you even if she didn’t want to date you or is she was taken. She would have felt honored that a 9/10 would ask her out vs I don’t know what you are but let’s assume you not at least a 8/10 to her she felt offended you even had the balls to ask her out and she reported you to deter you from ever doing it again. My advice is only ask out women at places you don’t work at or frequent in a fixed setting. Go to grocery stores that’s a place everyone has to go and there’s always new people in there so very low risk or getting reported even if you not attractive to those women. Places you work women will punish you sometimes cause they know your boss is there and they want to make you pay for even trying to mix your inferior genes with hers that’s how they think. Shake off that rejection and go to cold environments and shoot all day bro.

Nowadays I go for the “No”. I’m excited to break from this comfort zone that has kept me safe from the finer things in life. I’m 29 and spent too much living my fears instead of living my life! That changes now

@Jedilord882

Ай бұрын

29? lmao

@justifiedbyjeury

Ай бұрын

@@Jedilord882 Yep. Perhaps by the time you're my age, you'll have enough security within yourself to no longer hide behind a faceless profile big dawg 🤣

@joebidenissus1975

Ай бұрын

​@@Jedilord882 stfu and let him cook

@jacobb8832

Ай бұрын

Hey! You guys stop making fun of this king. It's not funny. He's 29, but that's definitely okay. Age doesn't matter. You see, many kinds of people, no matter how old they are, can be good and ready to talk to others people whenever they're confident enough. I'm 23, and still learning to socialize confidently and get rid of my fear with women. But that's still perfectly fine with me.

@AashishUdayan

Ай бұрын

On the same boat bro. I am a confident man but chicken out when approaching women who are cute.

Fellas it is better to take a chance than none at all. I know in my culture, the boys were trained to shoot their shot since they were kids. As we got older, the rejections don't hurt at all if anything we just move on to the next. I also recommend that doing things for you gives you a confidence boost. For example, for me working out consistently and changing my haircut to a buzzcut has gotten way more female attention to the point my mom recognized it. I also think you are not supposed to be actively searching for them. Just live your life and they naturally come to you at the right time. At least for me yesterday, I met a woman in the dermatologist office and she was pretty cool and was clearly attracted to me and so was I but I was with my mom and she constantly blocked me. She gave me a card that had the other appointment time and date and she wrote her name on the top of the card and that never happened to me. I am at best a 7/10, 5'8, not buff but fit, and if anything I got a baby face which everyone says I seem younger (I don't look like am 22 I still look like a teen), and I cant grow facial hair to save my life so I just embraced it and became clean shaven. I do however have a jawline. Fellas just take it easy. One step at a time. Improve yourself physically and mentally so that can give you confidence to approach when they give clear signals.

Approached a girl I like the other other day, got two sentences out and she responded once before she said “well it was nice talking to you” I audibly laughed and walked away lmao. Was my conversation opener the best? No. It was pretty vanilla, I was nervous. But man does it suck when a person doesn’t even have any desire to have an actual conversation with you. It really makes you feel low value.

@felipeemanuelli2722

Ай бұрын

Maybe she's the low value one

@catnecksaresofloofy

Ай бұрын

what did you say ?

@user-ee1fn4vt8b

Ай бұрын

Are you low value? If you don't believe you're low value, then she just didn't read you correctly. If you are low value, isn't that a good reminder? Get humbled and use that to motivate yourself to do better.

@RiderZer0

Ай бұрын

@@user-ee1fn4vt8b definitely not low value. But it can feel that way when people treat you that way. Truth is I’m highly successful, worth several million, make well over 6 figures, not ugly by any means either used to model as a teen still get requests to do modeling on occasion. I often get comments all the time about how “girls must be constantly chasing you” but I’m just not socially skilled. If it’s about business I’m on and can speak perfectly and draw intrigue from people, but trying to connect to people on a personal level I don’t know how to break the ice. Tbh I could just be misreading her own insecurity and nervousness but it still felt pretty cold and I felt that the way I interacted was just meh.

@RiderZer0

Ай бұрын

@@catnecksaresofloofy We had only interacted once before recently. I had forgotten her first name, remembered her last. Confirmed her first name and asked how her internships were going. She was interning at two places on top of schooling for her law degree. Last we had spoke she was brand new at both and in training so I just wanted to know how she was getting along. Basically got her name followed by “good. Well it was nice talking to you” 🤣

Women aren't necessarily better at hiding nervousness. They're just not as nervous to begin with because they aren't the ones who have to initiate the interaction or "hit on" people. Anyway, great video and great points, especially the stuff about outcome dependence which goes for a lot of things in life: Don't let your worries over how things turn out block you from getting some action or doing what you love!

This content is more productive than the one that curses at people who don't want to be helped, are hopeless, irrelevant, harmless, only exist on the internet and will stay down no matter what. I never understand why give them attention, just let them be. On the other hand, this one can help especially young men to face life, their fears and learn something from failures which will be the majority of their attempts. Perhaps it helps on a smaller scale to reverse a bit the decline in relationships and the demographic crisis in the future.

Denmo, thank you. The amount of value this video provides is absolutely stunning. I had a dark cloud swirling over my head before I watched this. Thank you, bro.

That kurt kobain joke 😂lmao

@Denmosocial

Ай бұрын

glad someone got it

this is absolutely crazy. its like 'yeah, i will jump on a frozen lake' crazyness.

Yea it's either nervous excitement or nervous anxiety. Obviously the excitement one does better but it would help eventually if you can get rid of the nervousness altogether.

I just found your channel, and the few videos I’ve seen have been great, but WOW😮this one hit home for me! Everything you said has been spot on for me. I gotta start shooting shots 🎯

Most grounded and genuine self-help coach I know.. thanks Denmo

It shouldn't be a surprise... women don't need to know or learn any particular skills or behaviors in order to have men want to date them or to get men to be attracted to them, just be attractive and available... But men have to demonstrate value right from the beginning in many ways - so we as men have to end up having to working on ourselves a lot more than women do just to get dates and be able to attract the other sex. So yeah, when people and Society say that women have to learn skills or learn behaviors or how to communicate or how to talk a certain way in order to get men attracted to them, that women also have to learn how to meet men or how to get a date, how to meet men, how to get a boyfriend, it just makes me laugh and cringe and I just find it very stupid, it will never make sense to me as to why women have to learn or know dating skills when they don't have to do anything during the seduction or courtship phase. Just go out and show up or simply just be there. Especially since the way the man talks or behaves in a conversation or in an interaction between a man in a woman is what usually determines or influences if the woman is going to be attracted to him or not, not the other way around. I remember one guy only pissed me off more when he said that he has had plenty of women say things to him in conversations or interactions that have turned him off and that have caused him to not want to sleep with them. Well to each their own and I'm sure there are tons of men in the world that are like that but I'm sure it is a lot more common for women than it is for men to get turned off during conversations or interactions between the 2 sexes than the other way around. Because taking the lead and men having to lead the woman, approaching and hitting on, reading a womans signs of Interest and non interest, is obviously a skill that has to practiced and learned, done repeatedly in order to get better. Women just have to passively exist and do nothing and they can still get into a relationship or attract men and that obviously doesn't require any skill or any learning and when people say that it does require skills or learning on women's part, it just mind boggles me and it makes me mad and pisses me off. So yeah men have to do all of the learning and learn all of the skills and behaviors in order to attract women but women just have to exist and do nothing and they still get guys, that's why I get very annoyed that there are even dating coaches and relationship coaches for women.

Rlly best channel for this type of topics.

@Denmosocial

Ай бұрын

thanks brother

Needed to hear this 💪

*Guys, you need to learn this by heart! Really.*

Yes after every approach reflect on what went wrong from your side and try improve on those points next time and trust in process and focus on improving the process and not on the outcome.

My problem isn’t really that I’m too nervous to approach a girl,I mean yeah but it’s More so me telling my self “ nah she’ll never want a guy like me” or “ there’s no chance I’d pull her” and pretty much just rejecting myself without even trying

@UltromanTheTacoman

25 күн бұрын

That's why we have the 3 second rule. Strike up a conversation before your brain gets to those thoughts 😂

In most countries you cannot be prosecuted if you make a mistake while giving first aid during a medical emergency. That is of course to not discourage people from helping others in need. I developed the same mindset when I go on dates: If it goes wrong I don`t beat myself up over it, since making a try always gives a higher chance of success than staying passive.

What a thumbnail. Keep up the good work.

I needed this video badly, ive been going out to college campuses recently with the goal of approaching and i leave with maybe 2 after 2 hours

Thanks denmo

Hey Jack I love your content and are a fan, but I miss when you would make videos of you approaching girls. Can you please do those again? I really miss those😢they were my favorite

I naturally pull all sorts of people into conversations everywhere I go haha I love some rejection ❤ 90% of people will have a chat and alot actual love that someone is talking to them.

"You miss the shots you don't take -Kurt Kobain". Bruh, that took me a second, hahaha.

I think that it's better to have a buddy when cold approaching cuz when u get rejected u can laugh it off

10:31 - I love his honesty

Daddy denmo dropping these absolute bangers. Thank you my friend.

@Denmosocial

Ай бұрын

gotchu brother

Very good video, especially ego theme

@Denmosocial

Ай бұрын

yup it makes sense right

Maybe a video about after getting a girl's number? like what to do on a date or before that texting her

This is a great message Denmo. How did Wilt Chamberlain score 100 points? If you look up the games with the most missed shots almost half of them are Wilt. To score 100 points you got to brick some off the backboard

Confidence means u have a strategy, because u know what is going to hapen if not. It's a defend mechanisam.

I approach girls all the time. This week, I'll be at 500 approaches this year. That's a milestone.

@Denmosocial

Ай бұрын

thats crazy if true

What if i live in a small town where I would run out of cold approach options easily or be know as a cold approach guy? Im only 17 btw

I've never once had a woman say yes whenever I've attempted to approach and try to score a date with them. Every single time Women reject me. I have never once had a time where a woman said yes for a date. I"ve hit the point of MGTOW. and I am done trying. I've been single 31 years encounting.

@ChrisLyon567

Ай бұрын

@@Rainer125 nope i'm not a chad. I've never been good looking. Women always say I am too ugly and not "attractive enough" to date them and BS like that.

@GogoGST

Ай бұрын

I love you bro

@ChrisLyon567

Ай бұрын

@@Rainer125 The photo you see on the pic is from about 12 years ago. Not a recent one. I don't have my pilot license. I can't afford training for it right now but it is something I want to do. and I don't even make a 6 figure salary right now or anything either. but where my job pays is the good benefits that I get.

@saiprasadmodi

Ай бұрын

Dude from my experience I’m telling you , either you do nothing or you try , the thing is that we don’t know what are we doing wrong and hence we get negative results , you need to find what’s your issue ! We get just one life so don’t give up !

@ChrisLyon567

Ай бұрын

@@saiprasadmodi I know what the issue is. i'm not attractive, I don't make a 6 figure salary. And women have unrealistic expectations of men now days its just not worth trying anymore.

Man you are funny af. Really fucking good video. I learned A LOT from this.

Hey Denmo and whoever else wants to read this - To keep it simple I’m gunna leave out the specific details. I’m a young father, had my daughter just after I turned 18 and I’m 22 now. Me and her mum have had… issues to say the least and obviously all good things eventually come to an end as they say so we’ve split up after almost 9 years together (yep - we were 13 when we met) Last summer 2023, she met someone else, and so did I for a brief period. And while this new relationship was great, I was inexperienced and we moved way too quickly, and it got messy. Anyways, another breakup under my belt. Since then me and my daughters mum have trying to ‘repair’ what we lost only to go full circle again. Now I’m single, I’ve been ‘talking’ to women, and facing quite a lot of rejection, especially with just random encounters, and honestly while it’s painful it gets easier and easier each failure I guess. I don’t feel like I struggle to make conversation or not be ‘boring’ however I do feel like it’s just impossible to trust people, especially women I barely know. Honestly not even sure what my point to this comment is but any advice would be appreciated. Big love from the UK 🇬🇧

@UltromanTheTacoman

25 күн бұрын

It's natural for you to feel that. Your expectations are modeled from your past experiences. You have to forgive yourself for the mistakes you've made, and forgive the women theirs, and let it all go. It won't matter anymore, if you decide it doesn't matter. You can't change the past, only your present, and you cannot predict the future. Remind yourself that you HAVE pulled, and you've even had such a great connection with a woman that you had a kid with her. It should be obvious that you can do that again, but your feelings are telling you otherwise! Feelings aren't real; they're just indicators you can read and use or ignore at your will. Start just doing what you want to do, and you'll meet people who are more inclined to have things in common with you (assuming you shoot your shots). Stop trying to spend time with or attracting women you wouldn't want to be with, anyway. YOU be the selector. YOU'RE the prize, dude ;)

@javiiblue0731

25 күн бұрын

@@UltromanTheTacoman aw dude, thank you so much for the kind words, it really means a lot to me. I’ve been going to the gym a hell of a lot recently and mate a new friend to work out with and yeah it’s been good! He’s sorta been teaching the ways inside and outside of the gym if that makes sense lmao I’ve cold approached a few girls now, got a few numbers/socials but there hasn’t been any sparks or real connections I guess. I’ve been a bit awkward with the texting and talking nonsense so I just jump straight to ‘hey wanna go for a drink’… just find it easier to get to know someone in person but nobody’s given me the chance yet I guess lol All in due time… Gotta keep looking forward, I’m not moving backwards 🫡

@UltromanTheTacoman

25 күн бұрын

@@javiiblue0731 Great to hear, man! :D If there're no sparks, then both people have good reasons to not pursue the relation. There are billions of people out there. Some of them will have sparks for you, while most will not. Keep going! I believe in you, dude! 💪

Thank you bro! But my fear is when you don't have so called 'adventure' in your life and have really low income job then there is no point in approaching cause once she figures out you then that's when the rejection comes:(

OK. I'll try to. Gaming and Netflix no longer can make me more satisfied anyway.

This was the mindset that I had until I was 22 years old. several rejections in middle school made me say “nah fuck this shit” and never tried. never did I realize though that I probably got rejected then because I put 0 effort into my appearance. good times lol

How reflective of your potential success in real life depends on your Tinder prospects? A lot of men reasonably don't approach since they get little to no attention online

Hey Denmo 22 male here never been on a date with a girl but ive ironed out alot of my issues and am ready to set out into the world im going to give myself 2 months and really put myself out there and see what i can achieve, do you have faith in me ?

@Pluttarch

Ай бұрын

Bro just go outside right now and talk to a girl. She won't kill you

@AxxelX5

Ай бұрын

@@Pluttarch I do it for sport myself.

@Pluttarch

Ай бұрын

@@AxxelX5 Started approaching girls for the first time in my life this year because of denmo. It gets really easy after a while

@celestialspartan1176

Ай бұрын

@@Pluttarch Good advice! I have trouble myself when it comes to approaching women. But, I keep this fact in mind. Women are human too. So, I start with talking to men as practice, listening to their convos in passing, then asking what they’re talking about and chime in. This helps me in getting more comfortable with talking to people and women as a whole, because it allows my personality to shine through. The small steps help in the long run.

@Denmosocial

Ай бұрын

I got faith in you brother you will be fine

And then there is me. Got a girlfriend from warm approach, but still here to try learning cold... Cause im a masochist

❤❤❤ @ 21 June 2024 (4:04 PM)

im not really scared of approaching girls or getting rejected its just that is there a point where you talk to most of the girls in your school and you got rejected every time and then you get to see their face all the time

What if I miss 100% of the shots I do take

@UltromanTheTacoman

25 күн бұрын

Then you are still fighting, which is admirable, and each of those fights are a good lesson. Remember to think about what went wrong. Did you do something stupid? Was she just not right for you? There can be a thousand reasons. And most importantly, once you've learned what you can from the experience, let it go. It doesn't matter anymore. It has no value to you. And also remember: you have to be the selector, too. You can't just go looking for the first girl who doesn't reject you. You also need to reject them, if they aren't right for you. Whatever happens, you can still meet more. Keep going, dude! 💪

I approached 7 girls at a bar a few days ago. I was kinda buzzed so I had alcohol to help me, which is not good, but it’s a first step for me tbh. I got rejected by 3 out of the 7 but I remember I never cared about it

it mostly is the scarcity you want results

It's so much easier to take rejection when you have other things going for you. If you don't have any other excitement in your life, you will be 100% reliant on women for happiness, and at that point you feel they HAVE to say yes, which will psych you out of approaching.

I was in a bar/restaurant yesterday with my dad and it looked like it was someone's 90th birthday because there was banners and balloons all over the place. We were standing at the bar and I turned around at one point and 3 extremely pretty girls walked in and sat down at one of the tables, in my mind I was like holy shit. I wanted so badly to go over but I said in my head this is completely inappropriate situation so I shouldn't go over. After we left I said to my dad about the girls and I said I should've went over because I really regret not going over and he laughed at me, he said don't approach girls because you'll just come across as a creep. It feels like every situation I find a pretty girl in, it's just an inappropriate situation. I really don't know what to do anymore. I'm 19 and I have prom coming up and I don't have a date for it yet, at this rate it feels like it's never going to happen.

Eh, i do it every now and then, sometimes they even start the conversation with me but usually it leads nowhere but idc, im not hurt over it. I really dont put much into it because i really dont care about girls these days. I got shit to do, and a life to live so i can be a cool interesting guy, than trying to focus on women all the time.

For me it's easy to talk to women effortlessly. Never feared rejection. Been often called a flirt, playa, pimp, chick magnet. Just focus on yourself, don't care what others think about you, then the girls will come your way. I still get approached by women and other women know i have a fanbase of women techs, nurses and doctors. If girls are your priority, you've lost already. Focus on yourself first, everything else will follow 😎

I'm only a shoulder to cry on if I'm a face to sit on.

The Kurt Cobain joke was waaay over my head lol

Broo I need advice. Last friday a ridiculously beautiful girl sat next to me in the Uni bus. She asked me to hold her little art project for her and we bonded over it for a couple of minutes. Then, when I was leaving the bus I looked back and she gave me a smile to which I also responded with a smile and that was the end of it. What should I do if I see her again?

@Lightflames85

Ай бұрын

Dude did you not watch his video? You can't be focused on her she is just another girl. If it happens then cool if not thats also cool. Your given away your power to someone you hardly know and who did nothing to deserve it. Who the hell does that!? Makes zero sense. Don't hand over your power to other people like its nothing. Do not Letting them effect your mood or even worse your life. You decide where your life is going. Don't be a dumbass and give them that effect on you! You deserve better than that! I say this with much respect.

@juanpablotorres1904

Ай бұрын

@@Lightflames85 Actually I didn't lol I just came to leave the comment. But I guess you're right.

@Lightflames85

Ай бұрын

@@juanpablotorres1904maybe you should then you would know what i mean.

it's a numbers game

Why are your videos always in greyscale for me?

Papa Denmo gonna make sure we all make it 🎉

Shit I have no argument tbh I remember the rejections more than the yes but tbh I always get rejections however because I take rejection personally with jobs it makes me want to beat them however should you even be approaching girls without a job ?

@Lightflames85

Ай бұрын

Let me put it for you this way: should you wait to be happy because you have some lame excuse as to why you don't deserve to be happy? That's not acting in your own interest. Thats not living your life. That is you being a puppit for the masses. That is letting others dictate your life for you. That is not you being in command of your life. The sad part is when we are not in command of our lifes others will run our lifes for you and not in your benefit. You become a mental slave for others.

@badgerproductions3786

Ай бұрын

@@Lightflames85 true still no woman is going to want me unfortunately I feel that everyday with something called fate

@badgerproductions3786

Ай бұрын

@@Lightflames85 I just have to accept my life the way things are I can’t force someone to be with me maybe there can be heaven in solitude

@UltromanTheTacoman

25 күн бұрын

@@badgerproductions3786 Dude, I have seen SO many guys with no prospects or job having fantastic girlfriends. #notallwomen They don't all value the same things. I have my shit together, but my ex still left me for a guy on well-fare, because our chemistry had gone a bit stale, and they were basically soulmates. We're both much happier now. She is incredibly hot, too, and he's not a chad by any definition. Every person on Earth has a different value-set. Live your life for you, m8. Generate your own happiness, and be yourself so people can see who you are. They can't bond with what you don't show them.

Does this work as a 5'1 guy with a face deformity?

@dg271

Ай бұрын

there's always the circus

@Colehike

Ай бұрын

6’4 with a face deformity here. Will this work for me?

@Lightflames85

Ай бұрын

It sure will you may just have a harder time then most and have to put in more effort. You could call yourself scareface and make fun of it. If you don't see it as a problem then no one will. Here is a secret: no one gives a shit about other people so your free. Sure people will look but you could just take it as damm i am handsome everyone is looking at me. Learn about reframing. Another thing that is useful for you will be qualification.

@Colehike

Ай бұрын

@@Lightflames85 Btw I’m not deformed but I feel deformed everyday. I have body dysmorphia. Got countless fillers done and exercise 4 hours a day, the deformity feeling never quite leaves no matter how long I exercise or how many injections I get.

@Lightflames85

Ай бұрын

@@Colehike sounds to me like you need to forgive yourself and say fuck it! Start with acceptance if that means rage then get it out. It starts with you!

Chale.

Personally, cold approaching is a waste of time mostly. Your chances are very low, maybe 1/20-30 depending on your looks, her mood etc. Even if you are very good looking, you are smooth with the words, the girl is single and in a good mood the chances are not in the guy’s favour because by you get her number and text her, she already completely forgot about you (this is the positive scenario when she gives you the real phone number). Even the 5s have tens of options so I think that warm approaching is still the best option to get girls maybe get to know a girl through your friends. Rejection is not an angel guys, it will destroy your confidence, it’s not worth it. Women doesn’t worth it. Powers!

@LukeGilroy

Ай бұрын

Having read this, it sounds like your mistake is going for the girl’s number without arranging a meetup/date. You should try to arrange a meetup before you go for the number as confirmation. Having said all that, warm approaching can also be a good method of meeting people.

More young men need a mentor like Denmo🙏🏼

@austintomkewitz3981

Ай бұрын

Denmo isn't real great there's a better way to approach to make rejection not even an option

I'd rather not approch then get rejected. I guess I'm just a dumbass🤷‍♂️

Bro your jokes and silly facial expressions where you make noise are funny🤣🤣🤣🤣

I wish I didn't have emotions, fuck being unfulfilled because you can't fulfill your needs

I approach them, but I've struggled with autism my entire life, especially with women. How can someone on the spectrum pull?

@UltromanTheTacoman

25 күн бұрын

Your weaknesses shine through to them only if you consider them weaknesses. You being on the spectrum is not a weakness. You're just different, and that's fine. Don't think of it as a bad thing. You don't even have to mention it within your first interaction, though you can if it falls within the natural flow of the conversation, but if you do, don't sound scuffed about it. If you accept it as a non-negative thing, so will she. We humans take on the feelings about a topic from the one who mentions it. A good analogy is: a toddler falls over while running. If the parent goes "Aaaw, did you hurt yourself sweetie?", the child will start crying, but if the parent goes "wow, look how fast you were going", with a huge smile while clapping their hands, the child will often just smile, get up and continue running. Saying something like "Yup, you're right. I am on the spectrum, but it's more like a superpower, because ", will make her feel like it's not a big deal or even a positive thing, instead of thinking it's a weakness. And the bottom line is, there are many women out there, who would be happy to have a guy like you. It's just finding them, and being confident enough to be yourself, so they can see you for who you are. Otherwise, they have no chance of knowing that you're the guy they're looking for. Everyone has quirks, that they don't show in public, but if you do show them, the people with that same quirk (and those who just like it) will flock to you like happy moths. When people see a person exhibiting their own quirk in public, they'll feel more accepted, more like themselves and more "at home" in your company. It's the most genuine trick in the book! I have a friend on the spectrum, and since he got out of his self-deprecating mindset, he has taken an engineering masters degree, found and married a sweet, beautiful woman (first one he met on Tinder), and they now have a child together, and are perfectly happy. You can too, buddy.

Better to focus on yourself & not chase women.

@Denmosocial

Ай бұрын

bro why did you bother clicking and watching this video to leave this comment instead of focusing on yourself? lol

The only fan who cares about young man

When I first approached a girl at the gym I got rejected immediately by her, but I walked out of the gym feeling way better than if I didn’t try at all.

@shreddersteve2663

Ай бұрын

Its best to live with risk than regret.

I need to stop being a coward

I'm too short to approach I'm only 5'5.

@Tennisers

Ай бұрын

That's just a weak excuse

@Lightflames85

Ай бұрын

Bullshit short guys have more succes because they need to work more for it. They need to duck and weave the bullets(rejections) aka have resistance. Nothing can keep him down. Ain't nothing more powerful then a short ugly king on a mission. His life is a warzone and he can either break under the pressure or fight like hell and become bulletproff. He needs to be better then any other guy in the game and work his butt off to get ahead in life. He has been to hell and back but he is still standing. That guy is a real hero. He gets the women that admire his guts and his fuck you attitude if you stand in his way. He is a man beseted. He has to be. Nothing stands in his way or they get destroyed.

@infiniteyouth18

Ай бұрын

Wear shoe lifts

@jeremyferguson5588

Ай бұрын

@@infiniteyouth18 lol negative

@infiniteyouth18

Ай бұрын

@@jeremyferguson5588 I've seen guys shorter than you slaying with women, it truly is all in your head bro, but I'm just saying if it makes you that insecure there's always options.

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man these long videos every week just to talk to another human being, brainstorm about a great opener, stress about not come across as boring and all of that other things. Not that I'm trying to attack you for making these videos but feels kinda strange how messed up this world is. Literally know a guy who got his notes app filled many different bios and with jokes he could throw in on dating apps chats so he doesn't appear boring and somehow scores a date. Often wonder if giving up on dating, atleast for some time, if not all, would cause these guys to be better off. Remember being kids, you just go there doing your thing, some other kid catches up and now you're best friends.

Cold approach is very difficult, unless you’re handsome and going after women under your league, which given dating markets in countries like the US is unlikely. Advice like “just approach bro” “it’s a numbers game” “don’t care about rejection” is more harmful then helpful and setting guys up for failure.

@tobyrobinson4588

Ай бұрын

Start by noticing something that she's wearing or something she's doing and ask her a question about it but do not overthink

@dtxalx1

Ай бұрын

Cope

@Lightflames85

Ай бұрын

Dude if your normal high and weight then you can be a pimp if you just drop those awful self limiting beliefs about yourself. Your lucky to be a guy we have other things to offer a women then looks. Women are also less interested in looks then men are. And i hate to break this to you it is just a numbers game. You have just not hit your number yet. Meaning your too passive right now. Try going after the No and make a game out of it. Do this 2000 times you will not care after that. Its like going into cold water it hurts a bit in the begining but then you get use to it. After talking to 10 women in a row you will not give a shit what they think. Then you will start to see women react differently to you its like your in the zone and bullets can't touch you. Then its fun to hear no. Your psychic needs to find a way of handling it and it seems odd they would not want all this handsomeness. Women want a guy that has guts and goes after the shit he wants that shit is attractive as all hell. That predicts how well his kids will do in this world witch is what women look for.

@alejandrotovar6968

Ай бұрын

Incel comment

@pahyzhahyz9634

Ай бұрын

@@tobyrobinson4588 this is what I mean, that isn’t close to what you need to get good at it, you are giving guys faulty expectations.

Ok dude, this is crap. Socializing if you are ugly, or short or no money is crap. You need some qualities that can give you confidence. That say to yourself: Ok, I did harder things, I will do it again. Be it a jiu-jitsu belt or being a great student or etc (depends on age). And after that you can socialize your ass off and learn to deal with rejection :))). Out of experience, if others don't see value in you, this game is so MUCH harder. And the ROI is worse. Even if you fake it. Let's say you have all that confidence for no reason. It is good sometimes, BUT, reality always comes on top. Those women in this case will realize you are not the dude you pretend. Any dating coach that says chasing women and socializing is more important than chasing results lies. Don't believe this crap guys. You try to sell a dream, that simple charm is more important than all else. You know that, that is your product. But believe me guys, a fit body, a nice car and a lot less charm usually has a lot better results :)))). And if you add charm on top, then it shines. Before? Garbage. So chase execelence and don't buy into this crap. Or his courses. It does not work like that.

@UltromanTheTacoman

25 күн бұрын

Having those things does help, but what REALLY helps is you KNOWING you have those things, because that makes YOU feel like you have value. But that's crap. You already had value before you got your car, and your value doesn't go down if you lose your car. It's arbitrary value. Don't depend on your car, your job or your home to give you value. Live your life in a way where you value yourself, fight for yourself, and improve on the things YOU want to improve on, NOT the things you think OTHER PEOPLE want you to improve. And be unapologetically yourself, so people get to know the real you. Otherwise, you won't attract people who like you for who you are. It's much easier to date, when you attract people TO YOU, instead of chasing after people you don't even know (because they hide behind a facade, like most people, so you can't see who they are until you've been friends or lovers for a while). Get fit for you. Eat healthy for you. See and find friends for you. Go do activities for you.

@bieateofan2251

25 күн бұрын

@@UltromanTheTacoman Having a "belief" with no real world proof is delusional. You need the body, the car, the life. They are extensions of yourself. You can't be high value as a broke or fat dude. You can be motivated and confident to improve your life, but not high value. Being unapologetically yourself if you are fat/ugly/broke/bad at communication will not get you far. You can be that when you have the results to show. You can't "know" you have value if you have none of those things. That is just a lie. That is why every man should do the work. Crap is to lie in place of working more. That being said, we are on the same page on the last part. Sure, do this for you first. For bigger goals after.

@AR7271

18 күн бұрын

Denmo just addressed this in a new video and I'm pretty sure he has talked about it in the past as well. And more than likely it is a part of the socializer course that he talked about. Getting used to rejection being a good thing was the main point of this video. A lot of people can't get past that.

You have no idea about how you change lives with your videos men.