I use to be extroverted at a young age. But around high school i went through some things that led me to isolate myself. At the time i though I became "introverted" as in I literally didn't want to talk to anyone. In the end it was just me responding to social trauma which eventually led to me developing social anxiety. Now im trying to overcome it by trying to talk to people more. It hasnt been an easy nor consistent but i will not give up

@somerandomguy2863

9 ай бұрын

Same here, lemme know how it goes

@oddball3264

8 ай бұрын

@@CuriousConnoisseurs From what I've heard social anxiety doesn't go away entirely. It may still linger even if you become more confident

@starcat_

5 ай бұрын

@@oddball3264everyone has social anxiety to an extent. it’s normal to fear being judged. so it’s not like we are doomed forever

@LikeableAden

3 ай бұрын

We are in the Same boat

@TheVanessaCherry

3 ай бұрын

I’ve seen people overcome it, my boyfriend is the perfect example, he can talk to ANYONE. Now it’s my turn, I have work to do

It’s weird cause I know most people say they dont like social interactions because people might think that they are weird but for me it’s the opposite. I feel like people would know I’m not weird if I could just be me but I somehow can’t

Y’all ever realize your anxiety leaves when you become really happy💀😊

I still get so touched by just seeing people not being rejectful, like those two nice strangers who agreed to take a photo together in such a nice and open manner 🥺

@davisouza3109

7 ай бұрын

me too.

I ate a loaf of bread in my dorm so I don’t need to ask people to go to the dining hall with me 😂

@EmandLloyd

Жыл бұрын

LOL this is so relatable

@samanthamakhafola3014

6 ай бұрын

Something I would do

@Lucromick13

3 ай бұрын

So conflicted with this, something I would do but I also really like good food. I'd probably find a way to find a way to sneak food from the dining hall in my room

Love this, I suffered with such low self esteem as a kid but self love and belief changed all that 🙌🏽

I have social anxiety too, and I could feel it spiking leading up to the moment you asked those girls to take a photo with you!! It was genuinely secondhand stressful 🤣Props to you for doing it and excellent video as always!

@EmandLloyd

Жыл бұрын

Haha I can fully relate to that feeling of secondhand stress watching these types of situations pan out! Glad you liked the video 😊

You are so authentic when you showed us you were trying step by steps wanting to get a photo taken and struggling a bit in between. I don't know why but I chuckled several times watching you telling the story. Maybe because I sometimes could feel that social anxiety as well, and what you said and how you felt resonated with me a lot : )

@EmandLloyd

Жыл бұрын

Thanks Brook! I'm happy to hear that my feelings resonated with you (and glad you got a chuckle out of the video too hehe)

@ramuneisyummy-6012

7 ай бұрын

W pfp

Thank you for this!

love this video thank you! so many good points!

Thank you so much for this video

This is the most useful video ever!! Thank youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu sooo much❤❤

Gonna be braver and post a comment here: I had this video recommended to me randomly, but so many of the personal details of your own story resonated with me as someone who used to struggle more deeply with self-esteem and anxiety. I especially like how you touch upon the realities of anxiety and choose not to frame it as an enemy or problem to be "fixed" because that was very important for me to learn too. It's never easy to be honest about your struggles, so thank you for sharing! 🙌

@EmandLloyd

9 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for leaving such a thoughtful comment even though the video was recommended to you randomly! I always appreciate hearing from people who have gone thorough the same thing/something similar ☺️

@nigelstafford635

7 ай бұрын

Nice comment

loved this! trying to face my social anxiety, this was relatable

This is exactly the thing i am dealing with inside my heart, thanks

Thank you for providing how to face it

Glad I found this video, everything you point I can relate to, the only time I feel more confident, and less care about what others think etc, is when I have had a few drinks of alcohol, not to the extent where I am staggering or slurring my words, but enough to put me over the driving limit. Have always thought for sometime I am different in the way I have conversation around people and see notice often when I talk with someone its usually only small talk yet ill see that same person engage in full conversation with others.

I love this video. You just made me confirm that I DO have social anxiety. I have always been wondering whether I'm just shy, socially awkward or just straight up have social anxiety. I think my question is answered after watching this and another video before. I'm gonna read that book you mentioned in the video

I really needed this video today - connecting acceptance with social anxiety.

I have less problems with people I never see again, like strangers on the street, but once it comes to talking to someone I'm likely to meet again, I just shut down and avoid it. Still don't really know how to get over that.

Have been watching your videos since you quit the law, good videos as always, keep it up and you guys definitely deserve more subscribers !

Great video thanks for sharing this ! cuz social anxiety rarely has been discussed in a scientific way. Those points mentioned in this video are consistent with what my previous therapist taught me.

Super helpful to me. Likewise, I don’t speak English fluently but work in US. I have same feelings every day. Just had a self judgement day. I will try your advices ❤

great video!

Life saver❤

Hooray! Well done Em :)

@EmandLloyd

Жыл бұрын

Thank you 😊

Em, this video resonate with me so much. I’m very introverted and now I guess I actually have higher level of social anxiety then others. I get extremely stiff and clumsy when I’m in a very social setting and am way more comfortable and talkative at a safer smaller group gathering. I try to force myself showing up as “extroverted introvert” in situations where I have to talk and make connections, but I hate it so much and didn’t now this is actually social anxiety. I can relate to so much “inner thoughts” that you have in the video and appreciate you sharing with us❤ for all of us to learn to live with it better

@EmandLloyd

Жыл бұрын

It makes me super happy to hear this video resonated with you, especially as someone who has also gone through trying to force myself to show up as an "extroverted introvert" for a long time!

Awesome... thx

Thank you for sharing this Em. As a fellow lawyer I often feel social anxiety when going to networking events and found this really help. I also wanted to say that I really appreciate the whole channel in general! Thank you both for making such high quality content. I love your structure and concision (your inner lawyers truly do shine!)

@EmandLloyd

Жыл бұрын

Thanks Pranaav, that really means a lot!! It's also nice to hear from fellow lawyers who experience similar feelings :)

@dimawhebi1964

9 ай бұрын

Hey there! I really want to ask you a question since you mentioned that you are a lawyer.. I am a high school student and i think im dealing with social anxiety too but i want to study law after high school.. do you recommend studying law? (With social anxiety) - hope it makes sense😅

@EmandLloyd

9 ай бұрын

@@dimawhebi1964 I think social anxiety shouldn't deter one from studying law! To be honest, I don't think social anxiety has a different impact/more of an impact on studying law in particular vs studying any other subject. Social anxiety may just be more of a factor when it comes to deciding what type of lawyer you want to be (for instance some people don't like speaking in Court).

I love this small and sweet exposure therapy. 🤗

Back at my elementary school, i. e. long time ago, I was quite uncool to put it mildly. I didnt have much friends (actually I had zero friends) and I was much more satisfied with book or comics (it was pre internet era) than with my peers outdoors. Nevertheless I felt quite much social pressure from school as well as from my parents that this is not OK. And consequently, I was eventually unsatisfied with the fact that I have no friends. But it was a consequence of social pressure, not my own mind. Than I changed my school when I was 11 years old (it was unrelated to my (un)interaction with my peers) and I view this as opportunity to completely change myself and ultimately have friends and be cool. The result was absolute failure. The next years until my early adulthood was one constant fear and stress, that I will do something wrong in interaction with my peers. I actually hated all social events and I desperatelly waited to the end of every such event. Eventually when I was in my early twenties I realized that so much fear and stress (and virtually nothing else) is not worthy of effort. So I ceased social interaction completely and now I am in my late thirties and I live basically without any friend. Of course I have colleagues in my job, but not a single friend. Am I finally satisfied with my life? I am not sure. Actually I am still quite depressed. Life sucks.

Awesome, great job! I can really relate to this video, and actually just got the audiobook you mentioned

For people who hav social anxiety have to work even more harder to make friends than other people who easily make friends which is sad and good at the same time.

Hey there i really appreciate how you approached this topic in a non medical/ pathologused way. I found it very helpful. Im curious as to whether your choice to travel solo was related to dealing with this too (could you explain why travelling with your partner wouldnt be the same ), and did it help? I ask because im thinking about it too. Thanks a lot again

thanks

When I was 4 yrs I had snot running down my face i was too shy to ask for a tissue . So i started to get bullied and it had affected me having social anxiety

You’re the best😬

That ending was so scary. It gave me second hand social anxiety

Same here, I thought I am the only one with Social anxiety, watching your this video some what makes me feel I am not the only one....haha... I agree I dont think much about it or give importance towards my aniexty, I just accept it and know its there, if I try to get rid of it then it will make me miserable and worse so I just accept it as part of me.

@EmandLloyd

Жыл бұрын

Happy to hear that, I was hoping this would help others with social anxiety feel less alone 😊

@impuredeath2

Жыл бұрын

@@EmandLloyd Thank you :)

Cool ❤

i can relate to this so hard, there’s sth abt the genes!

@EmandLloyd

Жыл бұрын

100% lol!

Which law firm were you at Em ?

How do I like this video more than once?

@eddiew2325

11 ай бұрын

You could try hacking the KZread algorithm

I had no idea

@golchha_J

Жыл бұрын

(me too)

I try to make up a conversation with people but I feel like they are ignoring and I am overly nice. Mostly I have to go through this with the people I less interact with. However it is much easier to talk with the people I know personally. My parents say that I always live in a another world and that is the reason but that s not true. Sometimes I can t even answer to a very simple question and I overthink it. Is this social awekwardness?

@h____452

2 ай бұрын

Yeah that’s one of the cases of social anxiety especially overthinking.

You never know. I may bump into you in the future and ask you to take a photo with one of your subscribers. 🙂

@EmandLloyd

Жыл бұрын

Can't say no when I know how hard that is to do!

I don’t really believe you have it. I do and I’m over 50 years old. You can’t get over it like that. I’m crying now thinking about this.

@h____452

2 ай бұрын

I feel like having religion for me helps me a ton. So even if you can’t talk, smile at some people or say hi and if they don’t say it back don’t overthink it. Smiling is one form of charity in itself and not everyone is going to reject it. That’s a small tip😁👍🏾.

@h____452

2 ай бұрын

My religion is not of Christianity but it teaches me to smile to all people😊

What if I'm on the spectrum

You're enough, Emily. We have open arms for you, for all the good and bad. If you hadn't thrown up, you wouldn't have met Lloyd. Enjoy your trip in Taiwan!

@EmandLloyd

Жыл бұрын

Aw appreciate it, thanks Aidan! 🙂

I have social anxiety and taking xanax helps

Have you done the mbti test personality? I think you may be IXXJ.

@eddiew2325

11 ай бұрын

I'm ETFJXX according to MBTI

🫡

it's a ⚠️ warning sign. your body cueing you something. it's not a feeling to suppress.

@MAX-de8fe

4 ай бұрын

So I should let myself feel socially anxious even when it makes my voice shake and I end up sounding terrified when I'm trying to make conversation? I shouldn't suppress the feeling that is causing me to look like a fucking weirdo and keeps me from being my authentic self? Why? It's ruining my life. It's telling me distorted thoughts that make me want to stay in my room all day, it never has anything nice to say, and it always sounds like my mother. These warning signs are just trauma talking. You don't know anything.

Taipei people know some English of course to take ur order no ?