You 100% go to your son's graduation. It's not about how he is treated you in the past it is about the relationship you want to have the potential to have for the future.

He has to go because if the mom is brainwashing him she will use the fact he didn't go to the graduation as ammo to show that the dad doesn't care about him. He needs to show, he does care because once the son becomes older, he will realize the truth.

You do not get a second chance for this opportunity. You’re the adult. Be it.

Be the dad, the bigger person. Start trying to talk to him see if that helps. Tell him you want to be closer

The mother has gaslighting her son for his whole life and the father is paying the price .the son needs to talk to his father . modern women no accountability for there actions

Dad has to understand, he has a whole new family. The mom is probably single and has no one but the son. When the son goes to dads, there is no quality time. All he sees is dad with a new wife and new kids and mom is alone. ❤

The fact that hes asking this question means that dad is a bit on the immature side - he needs to be the parent here, even if the son can't spend time with him it's a major life event that the son wants him to be a part of. If he doesn't go it will be a lifetime of dad didn't care enough to show up

Showing up is big. Esp in this case. Go!

💯 what Bert says! 👍

Lets not sugar coat this, the mom is a POS. But you should go and see your son.

Remember there are always 3 sides of the story so best not to judge the mother because we don’t know for sure what is happening. However I have always hated going to my dads even 30 years later we don’t talk however he made it to my graduation ceremony even know we don’t get along he was there for that he wasn’t at my wedding but that was my choice. My mother passed away and my husband and I decided to have one back in his country away from my family so it wouldn’t be as hard on me but that choice put the final nail in the coffin with my dad’s relationship with me. I’m okay with my choice because I know if I had it here for my family I wouldn’t have gone through with the marriage and my husband and I are happy. So my advice go to his graduation but also show respect to his mother because he hurts when parents fight or talk bad about each other. Remember to always put him first before your’s and your ex’s fight. Your ex and yourself just have to be nice to each other for a few hours and it’s not hard to do for your child. My parents did it and they hated each other.