Willingness- The Surprising Antidote to Anxiety - Anxiety Course 5/30

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In the last video we learned that avoidance doesn’t work, trying to force our feelings to change doesn’t work. But neither does giving in to them, just letting anxiety run the show or make your decisions. So what the heck do we do with Anxiety? The fundamental antidote to problematic anxiety is willingness, learning how to feel anxiety, make space for it, listen to it, but not be bothered or controlled by it. Willingness is learning how to drop the struggle with your feelings, so that you can free your hands, your life, to do what you really care about.
Willingness is the most powerful tool for managing anxiety, because when you have willingness, anxiety can’t control you any more. So in this video you’ll learn what willingness is, how to develop it, and you’ll get to practice it to see what it feels like.
What is willingness?
OK, I’m going to tell you a few things about willingness, then we’re going to jump in and try.
Present Moment- We’re going to direct our attention to the here and now
Exploring- Letting go of judgment about emotions and describing them instead- Beginner’s mind, fresh experience. (tongue example)
Allowing- Dropping the struggle with emotions, it’s accepting that they exist. It’s not liking, wanting or enjoying feeling something- it’s just acknowledging the reality- that I am feeling this, and allowing that feeling to be there.
Curiosity- Being curious about them instead of resisting them
Expand- Replacing aversion with openness- leaning in, making space. Being flexible and open instead of rigid and trying to control something you can’t control.
Why would I do that? Because resisting feeling is what’s messing up your life. Trying to not feel anxious forces you into avoiding the things you care about, hardening your heart, cutting off possibilities.
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  • @rijd2304
    @rijd23048 ай бұрын

    I learned that anxiety wants me to fight against it. Fighting empowers it. Last year I did a few things to let go of that struggle: 1) Eliminated strong caffeine (coffee was causing my body to go into fight mode; caffeine was like fuel for my anxiety) 2) Mindfulness meditation (the book "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels was a great start for me) 3.) Journaling my emotions (old school paper and pen writing for 5 minutes...just spilling my thoughts on paper, then tossing it) 4.) Setting boundaries (I did not have good boundaries, never knew how to set them with people. Saying "no" is so important.)

  • @alexanderguryev2416

    @alexanderguryev2416

    8 ай бұрын

    I also had a "bad" experience, feeling scared everytime I was drinking coffee and indeed I felt my heart beating fast which made me scared. But since I really love drinking coffee, I realized that stopping caffeine will not be a good option, because it becomes another form of avoidance. So I told myself why do I have to deprive myself of things I like doing, just because of the fear to feel afraid? I mean cutting off caffeine may indeed help in reducing anxiety, but if you do avoid feeling anxious caused by drinking coffee, it may just be another form of avoidance, in my humble opinion.

  • @rijd2304

    @rijd2304

    8 ай бұрын

    @@alexanderguryev2416 I can relate. If someone makes a really good coffee, I might have a tablespoon (literally that small) just for the taste, and it's enough. High caffeine spikes dopamine to high levels, which then neurochemically impacts serotonin and anxiety levels. I switched to green tea and cacao because they have less caffeine and natural feel good chemicals...but if I drink too much cacao then I feel the coffee effect so I'm careful. It really comes down to experimenting.

  • @gnarthdarkanen7464

    @gnarthdarkanen7464

    8 ай бұрын

    I'd suggest it comes down to the concept of "moderation"... It's okay to drink coffee. It's not okay to drink enough or to make it strong enough to hurt yourself... Experimenting helps us figure out what we really like, and how much is enough versus too much... Personally, I'm concerned that I'm some kind of freak. I can drink a quart of high-caffeine and super sweet REAL cappucino and go directly to bed... lucid dreams... no sweat. I don't do that sort of thing out of habit, because somewhere I have the "good sense" to know that's probably not good for me, even if it doesn't seem to effect me the way it would any "normal person"... i.e. the sweats, jitters, staring blankly at the wall, racing heart, and chaos in their thought stream... etc... Our internal improvements are a journey throughout our lives, and we're likely to occasionally stumble upon things that we wish we'd found sooner in our lives, but maybe we were simply not receptive to them until the moments we "found" them as it were... The main thing is to find what works for YOU, and go with it. Life will also change you over time, and so the techniques and habits you build will need occasional "tweaking" along the way. That's all part of the changing that comes with growth, maturity, and development. ...AND everyone is an individual. What works for some (like myself tanking down a big load of caffeine and going directly to sleep) won't work for everybody else... ;o)

  • @ivanivan5511

    @ivanivan5511

    8 ай бұрын

    I admire people like you like actually do the homework, have the will to look out how to overcome mental health issues. You wanted to get better, so you went for it and did it. Congrats!

  • @elifante

    @elifante

    8 ай бұрын

    In my case, I need to reduce my sugar cosumption, and continue excercising... it is like magic c:

  • @maddiesta
    @maddiesta8 ай бұрын

    You're the best emma. You've saved me from ending up at the hospital many times.

  • @foxc8646
    @foxc86468 ай бұрын

    I don’t have a lot of money so these videos are a large part of what is saving me thank you

  • @mb19873
    @mb198738 ай бұрын

    My husband of 26 years passed away July 31st. Anxiety has heightened, having trouble in society, driving, have no friends, and I am 67. I realize I must learn to be me again, but right now I can't remember who that is. I have to drive, go out in public, go to the doctor, etc but really having a hard time. I also realize how inept I have become socially. God has caused me to make some good strides, but I need to move ahead faster. This feels . . . Awful, alone, brutal, lost.

  • @wumpkin

    @wumpkin

    8 ай бұрын

    I’m so sorry for your loss. My husband passed away 4 1/2 yrs ago. I too went through the struggle you are now in. Give yourself time, as you rediscover yourself again, it does start to get better. It is so strange, even your home feels differently because the sounds it makes are different because your spouse isn’t in it. The death of a spouse affects literally every part of your life & the little unexpected changes are sometimes the biggest problems. It took me just over 3 years to finally start finding my own rhythm of life. My late husband gave me the absolute luxury of not having to deal with any problems, when he passed away it was quite the shock to realize it was all up to me, I don’t like it, but I am well able to do it. I still struggle with driving a little, but that too is getting better. I’ve never been big on socializing, I have always preferred family to friends, so that aspect of my life thankfully hasn’t changed. I wish you well on your journey & pray you keep looking for the little signs that you are making forward progress. You can do this, you just have to remember that😊

  • @patrickmchenry4916

    @patrickmchenry4916

    8 ай бұрын

    I am so sorry to hear this. You will be in my thoughts. Keep moving forward, it may feel like it, but your not alone. There are so many of us that struggle every day. 🙏

  • @lustgarten

    @lustgarten

    7 ай бұрын

    Be very kind and gentle to yourself and realize you need time. Break down tasks into the smallest steps you can.

  • @scoutdixie4412

    @scoutdixie4412

    7 ай бұрын

    Give yourself time. I lost my husband 15 years ago, left with two young children. I plowed through like a bull. I think that was a mistake. Rest, have bad days, curl up if you need too. Time does heal things, but don't rush.

  • @avamiller2325

    @avamiller2325

    7 ай бұрын

    I lost my husband 2 years ago after 43 years of marriage, my anxiety is the worse ever! I pray for us all🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️

  • @bridiewright1519
    @bridiewright15198 ай бұрын

    Having a terrible time after losing mum, it's my dad's birthday in heaven today too, not helping, thankyou for your uploads ❤

  • @bentaylor2430

    @bentaylor2430

    8 ай бұрын

    I’m so sorry. Praying and hoping for you to have peace! Blessings to you!

  • @brightspacebabe

    @brightspacebabe

    8 ай бұрын

    I understand. My mother’s 21st anniversary of her passing is this month, and my father passed May of this year. Hugs and prayers for comfort for you in this agonizing time.❤

  • @bridiewright1519

    @bridiewright1519

    8 ай бұрын

    @@brightspacebabe ♥️♥️

  • @bridiewright1519

    @bridiewright1519

    8 ай бұрын

    @@bentaylor2430 thankyou

  • @NurseMcNamara

    @NurseMcNamara

    8 ай бұрын

    Awe I’m so sorry. Cry if you need to. Hugs from across the pond ❤

  • @emdobz
    @emdobz8 ай бұрын

    How do I overcome anxiety and panic that upsets your stomach, to point of needing to rush to the loo at any given moment? So hard to break the anxiety cycle when your head knows what to do, but your body doesn't listen 😢

  • @gember1382
    @gember13828 ай бұрын

    My mind keeps saying: "I know I have to accept and feel these feelings, but I DONT WANT THEM!!!" Sigh.

  • @christina7972

    @christina7972

    8 ай бұрын

    Ask yourself why you don't want them while placing your focus on where in your body you are feeling them.

  • @Alphacentauri819

    @Alphacentauri819

    8 ай бұрын

    The "I don't want them" focus and energy...can actually make them more stuck. Also, if you put a command of "I have to"...sometimes rebellion can rise up. What do you want? To be free from anxiety? To be empowered? Not a victim? Not in a state of helplessness? Shoot for that. Say, "I want to be free from anxiety, I will feel it, even if it is hard." Surprisingly, the resistance, can cause more suffering than actually allowing yourself to feel it, with compassion.

  • @MiafromManila

    @MiafromManila

    8 ай бұрын

    Emma says you dont have to want them or even like them. Just acknowledge them and go about your business

  • @user-ig4yh1zy1k
    @user-ig4yh1zy1k8 ай бұрын

    I will share something funny that happened to me while listening to this video, especially the part with the exploring the roof of my mouth. So I try to get into the present moment and just explore the palate with my tongue, and simultaneously I hear my mom screaming in the backyard to our dog like 7-8 times "Jerry, no, Jerry nooo " every single time more furious and louder. And after 10 years of therapy, I realized that my mom was the core reason for my uncontrollable anxiety symptoms nowadays. And after tons of pills taken, jumping from one diagnosys to another in the last one year, 20 years of my life gone through fears, anxiety, avoidance and you name it... feeling that I have lost every last ray of hope, I am watching Emma's videos like a drowning man clutching at a straw, and I am executing this simple exercise moving my tongue at the palate, and I hear my mom screaming at our dog at the top of her lungs " Nooo, nooo.." and somehow I kind of laughed at the whole situation. Thank goodness, Jerry isn't expected to live 50+ years, but I'm sure he is in a lot of pain, too. Thanks Emma, you are amazing !

  • @galin8306
    @galin83068 ай бұрын

    Hi! Maybe my story will help someone. When I tried a physical exercise from this video, I started to cry. I realised that my feelings of anxiety, stress and discomfort are strongly associated with a feeling of humiliation. At first I couldn’t understand why, but then I got an idea. I was bullied at school. A great humiliation and sometimes violence for many years were always in a company with stress and anxiety, so maybe I remembered them as an individed group. Then I had a thought, that I'd never overcome discomfort to get joy. Survival - yes, joy - no. So if I feel that the situation is not about survival, I just want to get rid of nasty feelings as soon as possible. What for? It turns out to be a paradox: if I don't need to survive, I stop doing anything - and my anxiety gets stronger than ever. But… “NEVER overcame discomfort to get joy”? Never? Really? I tried to remember situations when I overcame my anxiety to pursue my goals and when it ended up with joy and happiness. At first it seemed impossible. But then one by one I started to remember more and more situations like that. In the end I felt really proud of myself. And now I feel different about overcoming nasty feelings, I don’t feel such a strong resistance anymore. Now I think that I need to focus more on situations, when I feel anxiety at first, then do something anyway - and feel joy (not just survive). I hope it will help me to associate anxiety with joy, not humiliation. Thank you, Emma, for these videos! Thank you a lot from all my heart!

  • @barbiec8179

    @barbiec8179

    7 ай бұрын

    Wow. You know what? You just pushed a puzzle piece into place for me. Thank you... and I'm proud of you for persevering and reaching the joy on the other side as well. :D

  • @madisonpoiry216

    @madisonpoiry216

    5 ай бұрын

    That's awesome! I agree. I was pushing thru anxiety for only survival (i.e. eat, sleep, work) but I rarely exercised it for joy. I used to take dance lessons with my husband and it was one of those things that was so easy to skip or get too self conscious about, but we never regretted going. We'd always leave with a skip in our step saying we need to go back.

  • @Friendlyadhd10
    @Friendlyadhd108 ай бұрын

    Emma, i think your one of the top therapists hands down.

  • @alexandrabogner9638
    @alexandrabogner96382 ай бұрын

    I'm in autistic burnout after over 30 years of being undiagnosed. My ADHD means I have constant noise in my head. I have GAD, RSD and lately I'm not only in constant fight/flight mode as usual but my anxiety is in constant hyperdrive, it's gotten so far that I can't sleep or eat properly. I stumbled over your videos and they're the only thing that can give me a bit of relief even just for a few minutes. I don't have a very big budget but I'm definitely gonna try the full course eventually. What makes it extra challenging is that as a neurodivergent person I have huge difficulties with body signals/feelings. Very often I don't notice that I'm not actually angry but hungry, or I'm not actually afraid, I'm tired. Thank you for posting these videos!!!!

  • @earthzeroapothecary
    @earthzeroapothecary8 ай бұрын

    Changing my diet helped my anxiety more than meds ever did. I stopped eating sugar and carbs, cut out coffee, and started taking adaptogenic herbs. It was like a switch went off and it's changed my whole life. When I started feeding my body what it actually needs, my cells weren't as responsive to stressful environments and situations.

  • @me.6917

    @me.6917

    8 ай бұрын

    This is really encouraging!! I've been getting a little bit of anxiety at the thought of getting healthy and losing weight (dumb, I know lol) and today was day one of changing my eating habits. I know I feel best when I eat clean. I am hoping it will help with lowering my overall cortisol levels and reducing stress.

  • @roo5940

    @roo5940

    8 ай бұрын

    @@me.6917not dumb!! Very normal!

  • @IrishMexican

    @IrishMexican

    7 ай бұрын

    Stopping the intake of carbohydrates can be dangerous for certain people. I would advise that the individual consult with a trained and registered dietitian before considering such a dietary modification. Follow the research and scientific consensus.

  • @now591

    @now591

    6 ай бұрын

    Um no. They are the least informed. Even the famous food pyramid is wrong.@@IrishMexican

  • @earthzeroapothecary

    @earthzeroapothecary

    5 ай бұрын

    @@IrishMexican I actually follow my internal guidance and listen to my body and pay attention to how I feel after eating. Food is supposed to give us what we need for fuel and to nourish our cells, but dietitians are taught an incorrect model and don't understand how local plants and herbs help support our body. I wouldn't consult a dietitian, nor would I follow scientific consensus because their opinion may be different than what I need. I'm in charge of what I eat and the biofeedback I get from my body. Why would I give away that power to a system that doesn't align with it? No, thanks! I trust myself first.

  • @steve4524
    @steve45248 ай бұрын

    Totally accept it, learn to not be afraid of it. Then you don’t fear it ❤️

  • @FriskyTendervittles
    @FriskyTendervittles8 ай бұрын

    Parts work/internal family systems and EMDR has been a game changer for me. Instead of hating those protectors I love them and thank them and it’s much easier to come out of a loop

  • @skeablade

    @skeablade

    7 ай бұрын

    Same!

  • @chetan9533

    @chetan9533

    3 ай бұрын

    How can i start practising these?

  • @FriskyTendervittles

    @FriskyTendervittles

    3 ай бұрын

    @@chetan9533 if you are able to go to therapy find a trauma informed EMDR therapist. If not, there are EMDR ball videos here on you tube but be careful because if you don’t have a practitioner with you to guide you you may not have as efficient results. Also the book Introduction to Internal Family Systems and No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz. There’s also an app for IFS but it’s not user friendly unless you are sort of familiar with the practice. Good luck.

  • @aaronweatherson4379
    @aaronweatherson43798 ай бұрын

    I like Dr Gabor Mate's acronym, RAIN: Recognize, Acknowledge, Investigate, and Nurture...

  • @dep7311
    @dep73118 ай бұрын

    Need this video a lot... I find difficulty in being at public events at school because I feel fear everytime I am near certain people and scared when I am surrounded by their fellow batchmates. Sometimes, I find it unexpected when I get an attack. I avoid it by listening to my thought and lied down. Gone for a few hours until the afternoon. Will watch the other videos and wait for the other 20+ later on!

  • @nadezhdavasileva4911
    @nadezhdavasileva49118 ай бұрын

    Thank you, Emma! Your content has been life-changing and extremely inspiring.

  • @janethansen9612
    @janethansen96128 ай бұрын

    That was a great analogy with the painting. I find curiosity is my go to tool when I'm feeling a lot physically which is how my anxiety manifests).

  • @petebergren2402
    @petebergren24028 ай бұрын

    Hi Emma, Thanks so much for this video! For many years, I have been stuck in not wanting to enter into social situations because I haven't wanted to feel awkward, anxious, or worry about what people might think of me. I am 39 now and am starting to realize that I can be assertive and I can learn to move towards that anxiety. I have a friend now who lives in the same condos who is much older than I am and I have talked to more people lately. It's a journey, but I am not going to quit! Thank you!

  • @dawnbissett6732
    @dawnbissett67328 ай бұрын

    Hi Emma! You are a Leader. So many very helpful videos, aptly named. Easy to understand content, caring delivery. LOVING your look today. Best ever.

  • @musethx1
    @musethx18 ай бұрын

    That was so helpful, thank you Emma!❤

  • @robertomarquez1512
    @robertomarquez15128 ай бұрын

    Thank you for all you do! You help the world and, in my sphere, you have allowed me to cope sensibly and in a healthy manner. Being a 20 year Infantry veteran, you also allowed me to direct or help fellow veterans in positive coping mechanisms to our everyday issues. Thank you!

  • @cosmickev7526
    @cosmickev75268 ай бұрын

    Saving me one video at a time. Just when I think I’m winning the fight anxiety comes back and shows me to not stop training. Ty may GOD bless u and your loved ones also.

  • @adorablecats9891
    @adorablecats98918 ай бұрын

    Emma, I have a friend who had 5-bypass surgery about a month ago. I talked to her for quite a while yesterday & she is having anxiety. I told her about you on KZread & just sent this one to her. I can’t imagine that it would not help her. Sooo thankful for you & your ministering of your valuable knowledge & expertise of helping us out here.

  • @daryn2826
    @daryn28268 ай бұрын

    Two weeks ago I had my first Anxiety attack and went to the hospital ….only to be let go and go to my Primary Doctor for some medication for my issue. I started walking and tonight I had another attack while walking and called the EMT just to say my heart is racing I need to learn breathing techniques before I pass out. Been feeling like I’m gonna have a heart attack . I’m starting this breathing and also your video on how to control your thoughts. Thank you for offering free advice, it’s already calmed me so much!!

  • @amyjohnson9439
    @amyjohnson94398 ай бұрын

    Thank you Emma, Watching your videos regularly has helped me so much and is a great reminder to "get better at feeling"!

  • @stevec404
    @stevec4046 ай бұрын

    Sequestering my feelings, not allowing most to rise and be recognized, put me at risk for the anxious and depressed state of mind I currently struggle to exit. Work through anxiety. Acknowledge our feelings. Root cause fixes that work. "Resistance is futile." Willingness is freeing!

  • @yaircabreramenendez2825
    @yaircabreramenendez28258 ай бұрын

    Thank you for all your content! Videos that explain what is happening in me and provide me with tools to manage my feelings/emotional states in healthy ways are so helpful for me.

  • @KC-mj6eu
    @KC-mj6eu8 ай бұрын

    You are an angel of light. Thanks for all you're doing to help sooo many people.

  • @arnoldoree
    @arnoldoree4 ай бұрын

    My deepest thanks and gratitude for your ongoing caring, help, support, education, and empowerment toward those in some of the most difficult places known to life. God bless you Emma.

  • @amyhutto1104
    @amyhutto11048 ай бұрын

    Brilliant! Thanks for sharing your wisdom, as always!!

  • @chelseamouton9760
    @chelseamouton97606 ай бұрын

    From the bottom of my heart, thank you Emma. Your videos have helped ground me through many uncomfortable episodes. I look forward to watching more of them and exploring my resilience. Sending love and peace to anyone reading this. You can do hard things. You truly do deserve all the joys that the universe has to offer. 🌻🌺🌸

  • @ronacademy23
    @ronacademy238 ай бұрын

    This is great advertising. I honestly would have never considered buying an anxiety course but after watching your videos, I’m really thinking I should for the first time. They have been extremely helpful. Thank you

  • @burgerxxl6115
    @burgerxxl61158 ай бұрын

    Maybe this helps someone: To distance yourself from whatever emotion arises so that you can curiously observe it without being consumed by it say to yourself „There is anxiety“ instead of „I feel anxiety right now“

  • @jolapola696
    @jolapola6968 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much Emma for making this course on anxiety for us. I struggle with anxiety and avoidance after a severe trauma I experienced.I dont get support from my family and friends as they dont seem to understand how Im feeling and my daily struggle. Your videos help me a lot, when I listen to you I dont feel lonely with my anxiety.Thank you profoundly for all that you do.God bless.❤

  • @brendaf3132

    @brendaf3132

    8 ай бұрын

    Yes, I seem to be in a similiar situation. None of my family understand my anxiety or how I feel. They just accused me today of being to negative. They accuse me of being condescending and I never feel condescending at all. I get accused of talking to long and saying more than they want. In other words they constantly tell me how bad a person I am. I don't feel hateful or mean towards other people and can't understand why my family think this about me.

  • @brendaf3132

    @brendaf3132

    8 ай бұрын

    I don't know what avoidance is but, it sounds about right for me. I avoid confrontations a lot. I don't like revealing my feelings to other people because I know they will not believe I have those feelings at all. I have been treated that way.

  • @melitalyell6915
    @melitalyell69158 ай бұрын

    You are awesome Emma!!!!

  • @TrialTappersMentalHealthTips
    @TrialTappersMentalHealthTips8 ай бұрын

    Your teaching style is very impactful and helpful. I love the visuals and activities for us to practice.

  • @kkbutta7
    @kkbutta78 ай бұрын

    Girl, I think you’ve single-handedly saved my life

  • @alexanderguryev2416
    @alexanderguryev24168 ай бұрын

    Great video! Thanks so much for what you are doing to help people with anxiety. In my opinion, you could also precise, that when you confront your irrational fear, not only would it be good to experience your emotions willingly, but it would also be helpful not to seek an avoidance, waiting impatiently for the "scary" situation to end. For example, if one is scared of taking trains, it would be better for them not to watch impatiently the time, waiting for the situation causing discomfort to end.

  • @nicolas_-_-_
    @nicolas_-_-_8 ай бұрын

    Hello! Thank you very much for this new video! I'm gonna listen to it again and again.

  • @benjamindover4337
    @benjamindover43378 ай бұрын

    Brilliant, thank you 🙏

  • @aio370
    @aio3702 ай бұрын

    I cannot thank you enough for posting these videos. You have no idea how much you’ve helped ❤️

  • @SonamSingh-sp6ey
    @SonamSingh-sp6ey8 ай бұрын

    Thank you, ma'am💙

  • @hrushikeshsundale4640
    @hrushikeshsundale46408 ай бұрын

    Clear...simple... Lots of love and respect🙏

  • @oanamat9888
    @oanamat98888 ай бұрын

    You are amazing! So grateful for what you offer to us! ❤

  • @NurseMcNamara
    @NurseMcNamara8 ай бұрын

    Some of us (me) are going through perimenopause and the fluctuations of hormones and the increased cortisol and adrenaline surges makes it very, very hard because it’s not just my mind doing it. My body wants to kill me right now

  • @androidplus5786

    @androidplus5786

    8 ай бұрын

    Can relate to this

  • @alixnorman7389

    @alixnorman7389

    8 ай бұрын

    Me too. So strongly. I've researched a great deal about hormones and anxiety, but I'd love to hear Emma talk more about it. I trust her.

  • @NurseMcNamara

    @NurseMcNamara

    8 ай бұрын

    @@alixnorman7389 I agree. It’s not talked about enough, how women’s hormones can influence our mental health

  • @MiafromManila

    @MiafromManila

    8 ай бұрын

    @@alixnorman7389can you share your research? Going through this too

  • @CarolGasses

    @CarolGasses

    7 ай бұрын

    Know this well. Eliminated all caffeine and limited carbs along with any kind of sugar. Eliminated any alcohol…rarely had it throughout life. Anxiety disappeared at about 58. Had to lower stress! Added weights including more exercise and stretching. Lots of breath work. Waiting for saliva test results now. Insomnia. I’m guessing our modern food system and way of life is a contributing factor.

  • @tammyrogers6759
    @tammyrogers67598 ай бұрын

    37 seconds in, man, you're a genius Emma.

  • @angiegruner5523
    @angiegruner55233 ай бұрын

    Emma, I just want to thank you for your kind heart and tell you how much I appreciate your videos. I went to one therapy session about 20 years ago and didn’t feel heard at all, so I never went back. I didn’t trust others with my feelings anyway and quite honestly didn’t understand them enough to name them and explain them. So I felt it would be a waste of time and limited resources to pursue finding a therapist who could hear, understand, and help. I started reading books and watching videos in a long journey of healing. I have also relied on my faith, journaling and praying for direction. A couple of years ago, I found your videos and learned that I could search (in order) for the videos from your course on emotional processing, and they were life-changing for me. I am still practicing how to recognize emotions in my body, name them with the help of your emotion wheel, and process through them so they are no longer stored in my body, causing physical issues. Though I’ve never thought of myself as having anxiety, I decided that watching your videos would help me to understand others with anxiety. I am watching them in order and just finished #5 about willingness. I am already learning so much that I can apply to my life, and it is reinforcing what I learned in the other course. I am forever grateful for the many hours you spend creating these lessons, recording them, editing them, and posting them. You are so good at explaining complex issues and offering practical ways of addressing them. Thank you for sharing your gift. You are making a difference. ❤

  • @Aashbard01
    @Aashbard01Ай бұрын

    I am an 18 year old in my first year of uni and I was just stressing about 2 quizzes I have next week and the high amount of readings I have to do because I couldn't find them and watching this video gave me the courage to sit down with my readings and my notes and working through them and I know that even if I fail this one I can do well in other areas. I really appreciate your videos because they help me reevaluate my feelings and anxieties. Thank you for making this 🙏💕

  • @umbertoyltp
    @umbertoyltp8 ай бұрын

    Striking examples to experience the various excercises and do something else than before!

  • @Reyrey-cn2qj
    @Reyrey-cn2qj8 ай бұрын

    emma u have no idea but you are saving my life . i hope only good finds u .

  • @ThoughtsAreReal
    @ThoughtsAreReal8 ай бұрын

    Despite hearing about their poor privacy practices, I tried Better Help and I was not impressed. I won't be going back unless they radically change their processes and management style to be (in my opinion) patient-focused rather than profit-focused.

  • @justaset
    @justaset2 ай бұрын

    Wonderful course and especially that video. Thank you so much 🙏 You are saving lives and souls ❤

  • @quelpelosi
    @quelpelosi8 ай бұрын

    I love this videos! Thanks!

  • @Dobetter15
    @Dobetter152 ай бұрын

    Emma you are truly gifted you have helped me so so much ❤ Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️

  • @ahmedsabry3909
    @ahmedsabry39095 ай бұрын

    thank you so much, this message is from Egypt. you are great and am grateful to you.

  • @dadimunteanu
    @dadimunteanu3 ай бұрын

    You are a master of wall sitting, I’ve managed to stay for 9 seconds

  • @santhilampon
    @santhilampon8 ай бұрын

    love your explanantions and strategies to dealwith many negative emotions can you do another on how to dealwith resentment and envy

  • @myriamtouil3347
    @myriamtouil33478 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much

  • @meehu2495
    @meehu24955 ай бұрын

    Thank you for your page. ❤

  • @bayleemckittrick1899
    @bayleemckittrick18996 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much. I love all of your videos.

  • @indigoziona
    @indigoziona7 ай бұрын

    I love your videos, Emma! I recommend them to people whenever I can. Just signed up for the Grounding Skills course, decided I should probably wait until next pay day to sign up for this one 😅

  • @TheNanco1
    @TheNanco112 күн бұрын

    Hi Emma! This is Nan. I just wish for you to know that I am finding this course to be helpful. You have my gratitude. Peace, Nan Cohen

  • @Greenrobotvp
    @Greenrobotvp8 ай бұрын

    Thank you 🙏 I’m so glad I found your videos.

  • @westingband
    @westingband6 ай бұрын

    Wow. I have been closed off to my feelings for decades. Awesome help.

  • @stevec404
    @stevec4046 ай бұрын

    Paused @5:40...Massive bouts of anxiety fed by lifelong cPTSD and recent events brought me into freeze mode. Willingness sporadically came to the rescue...yet the anxiety and overwhelm kept returning. A missing piece of kowledge was that I could feel the anxiety as you suggest; and work through it without shutting down: a concept so effective yet so new to me that I find myself having to get used to it.

  • @shadowlocos92
    @shadowlocos923 ай бұрын

    You’ve really helped through dark moments, thank you.

  • @merinikolova5846
    @merinikolova58463 ай бұрын

    I've just discovered this channel. Thank you immensely for helping us. ❤️🙏❤️🙏

  • @shivagoel6576
    @shivagoel6576Күн бұрын

    Great video, great help.. I’m gonna make myself absolutely open to feel anything at all. I’m fine with everything as feeling feelings doesn’t harm me. I feel so relieved and relaxed now. Thanks 👍👍

  • @Teleturniej_Teletuleja
    @Teleturniej_Teletuleja8 ай бұрын

    Eye-opening.

  • @nardrobi
    @nardrobi8 ай бұрын

    Thanks Emma.

  • @TheBilal354
    @TheBilal3548 ай бұрын

    Great channel great vid thank you

  • @alankeni
    @alankeni8 ай бұрын

    What about when anxiety comes at night when you try to sleep and then it becomes a fear, when you go to sleep you fear that anxiety will come and it won’t let you sleep :( I can manage it during the day but at night it’s really difficult 😞

  • @karenmcdonald911

    @karenmcdonald911

    8 ай бұрын

    Yes. I agree. I have been there and it is SO DIFFICULT. For me I had to do some deep digging into what my deep fears and thoughts are. As each one surfaced I felt them and saw what they meant. It takes a lot of work. I truly know what you are going through. My thoughts and prays are for you in this moment. I pray you will find THOSE fears, SLAY THEM and be brought to peace.

  • @karenmcdonald911

    @karenmcdonald911

    8 ай бұрын

    One more thought. I feel it is underlying fear that produces anxiety. Once we experience anxiety we become fearful. A vicious cycle begins.

  • @scrubjay93

    @scrubjay93

    8 ай бұрын

    I take my laptop to bed and play KZread videos to go to sleep - I need to keep my mind from dwelling on all the things making me anxious. There is endless content on any subject and also ASMR videos made to help people sleep.

  • @mindovermovement6401

    @mindovermovement6401

    8 ай бұрын

    Yoga. Journaling..vipasana meditation..all d best

  • @cieraanne7556

    @cieraanne7556

    8 ай бұрын

    Hi there! I don’t remember where I watched it, but I remember a therapist saying that anytime you feel anxiety at night, specifically with sleeping, you should get out of bed until it calms down, only getting back in bed when you feel calm again. This teaches your mind that your bed is a place of rest and not for anxiety, helping with a fear of going to bed. I’m not sure if this will help you, but I truly hope it does!

  • @mn9120
    @mn91208 ай бұрын

    You are like a volleyball coach or sth. Ready-steady-go. THANK YOU.

  • @catarinafloriano9609
    @catarinafloriano96098 ай бұрын

    Thanks for all that, thanks for helping you are wonderful

  • @stevec404
    @stevec4046 ай бұрын

    That picture in the National Gallery. I, too had an initial response of revulsion that only lasted a few seconds. Then my own sense of humanity, untinged by judgemental Western ways, told me to look deeper. She has aged, as do we all. Current videos make fun of celebrities who have aged. Maybe this woman was beautiful in her youth. Maybe she touched people with a pure heart and spirit. I knew that after those first few seconds of near revulsion, my clearer thoughts would bring me to tears. They have.

  • @mehmeterenbulut6076
    @mehmeterenbulut60768 ай бұрын

    The drawings are awesome, they made me chuckle :D

  • @yessumify
    @yessumify7 ай бұрын

    Love this. Can't wait to practice it and teach it to my children 😌 🤗 ☺️ ❤

  • @keirenstanden4577
    @keirenstanden45778 ай бұрын

    Your brilliant thank u

  • @steffrenzl8544
    @steffrenzl85448 ай бұрын

    Nice job with the activities in this video.

  • @Tyt130
    @Tyt1303 ай бұрын

    What a fantastic lady.

  • @jimwheeler9840
    @jimwheeler98408 ай бұрын

    Soooooo good. ❤

  • @Monadology1
    @Monadology17 ай бұрын

    I'm finding willingness to be one of the toughest things to integrate.

  • @kristenross2902
    @kristenross29028 ай бұрын

    I have recently been having struggles with anxiety. It involved another person and how they were treating me. I realized they were trying to shame me and even though my conscience was clear I was taking up that shame and carrying it. Through answered prayer I realized this and know that I don’t have to give that other person power over me. What others believe about us isn’t always true ~ we need to accept valid criticism and reject the box others try to fit us into. We make mistakes, we change and grow and aren’t stuck. Others opinions are not in my control, and that’s okay. Lots of things aren’t in my control, but God uses the hard things. Romans 8:28

  • @IanMcEwan-in3yx
    @IanMcEwan-in3yx2 ай бұрын

    I HOPE WE GET THROUGH ANXIETY

  • @marciodossantos9625
    @marciodossantos96258 ай бұрын

    You are good!😊

  • @atelier27
    @atelier276 ай бұрын

    This is all great and I have learned for me a great deal of my anxiety is physiological: allergies, hormones (hrt helps all)along with many supplements. It hasn’t eliminated it but greatly reduced it. I have done an extensive amount of mind/body practices and they help, but most did little until i got the physical stuff managed now the mind body stuff can work. Hope this helps someone.

  • @KGchannel01
    @KGchannel017 ай бұрын

    Good work Tapper, it gives me a little hope to have a mainstream reporter holding them accountable

  • @hrenee7685
    @hrenee76857 ай бұрын

    Physical symptoms of anxiety are dragging me down. It causes more anxiety 😢

  • @traceysheneman8652
    @traceysheneman86528 ай бұрын

    Nods in agreement. 👍

  • @leah38521
    @leah385213 ай бұрын

    Thank you

  • @Reid0100
    @Reid01003 ай бұрын

    thank you

  • @arabellathornton9386
    @arabellathornton93864 ай бұрын

    Great video your a gem 💎 I’m glad I found

  • @soniasamivillin743
    @soniasamivillin7437 ай бұрын

    10:46 Yes, I'm cryng because my first thought was unkind. And, now I see she's an older lady with kind eyes and curious hands.

  • @1616Marius
    @1616Marius7 ай бұрын

    Everytime when I try to feel in my body and be in the present moment, this observing shifts me into a light dissociation which I hate

  • @bunniewood
    @bunniewood8 ай бұрын

    Hi Emma. A lot of people are extremely stressed (some are even ending their lives) over the cost of living crisis that is happening everywhere. What advice do you have for people struggling in this economy.

  • @PlumbTuckeredOut
    @PlumbTuckeredOut8 ай бұрын

    I tend to be a very concrete person. I can intellectualize anything and everything. Can you (Please!!!) explain the phrase "Make room for" to me? I think I can "make room for ____" but again, what I think it means is often very different from what it's intended to mean! And THANK YOU so much! Your videos have been changing my world for the better! 😀

  • @koorigashi87

    @koorigashi87

    8 ай бұрын

    @PlumbTuckeredOut Hi, I'm not Emma but I believe when she says "make space (room) for your feelings", it means that instead of trying to forget/supress/deny emotions, you should acknowledge them and intentionally focus on what you're feeling and what's happening inside your head. It's about making a mental space, so that you feel your emotions in a conscious, accepting way. Hope this helps!🙂I also find these videos immensely helpful, especially the anxiety course.

  • @tonin2942
    @tonin29426 ай бұрын

    I love these videos. Really wish another sponsor could be found.

  • @alishademmery3581
    @alishademmery35818 ай бұрын

    I know exactly how that feels

  • @artierupinen9240
    @artierupinen92408 ай бұрын

    *waits for Part 6*

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