Wife Secretly Deleted a Message From My Parents About Taking Over Their Business 6 Years Ago, She...
Wife Secretly Deleted a Message From My Parents About Taking Over Their Business 6 Years Ago, She Only Confessed to Doing It After They Asked Me About It Recently.
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She made the BIGGEST decision of HIS life and expected him to be okay with that
@mannyparrilla1807
4 ай бұрын
Told this story to my mom and within like 4 minutes of telling her she found like 8 ways this could've been avoided, so I'm starting to think this story is fake xD "He tried contacting his parents" well obviously not hard enough since even IF you're parents blocked you on everything you said you talked to relatives so just contact them through them, "His parents blocked him everywhere" What kind of parents do that...? "After receiving the hurtful message they just dipped" again.. what kind of parents wouldn't face you head on??
@TowaruTsura
4 ай бұрын
@@mannyparrilla1807 Honestly, yea, it seemed really weird that the parents blocked him on everything immediately without any explanation. That just doesn't vibe with me.
@Alex_The_Barbearian
4 ай бұрын
@@TowaruTsurawe don't really know what the wife said to make them block him though.
@vikafigol3397
4 ай бұрын
@mannyparrilla1807 sometimes people make stupid decisions. Just because someone else think that this could've been colved way better and sooner doesn't mean this is fake. Like, seriously, than almost EVERY reddit story is fake
@Swiizz.
4 ай бұрын
Most stories that come from reddit are fake. Gotta collect that sweet sweet Karma baby
If the wife is willing to lie like this to ruin her husband's relationships and potential career paths, I wouldn't be surprised if she cheated on him as well. Divorce is the only right choice at this point. It's her punishment for taking away OP's choices.
@kieranwrightstone2199
4 ай бұрын
They did divorce, split custody and alimony with him taking over a new branch of the family buisness
@mohoejegi4876
4 ай бұрын
@@kieranwrightstone2199 Please learn to read properly
@kieranwrightstone2199
4 ай бұрын
Thought I did
@darrellb9519
4 ай бұрын
@@kieranwrightstone2199you did read it correctly. 😂😂😂
@absolem04
4 ай бұрын
Wrong you need to read again actually and have a good day@@mohoejegi4876
In order to protect her "friendships" she destroyed his relationship with his PARENTS and deprived him of a major career chance. She actually thinks she's right !!!!!
Immediate divorce, thats a huge red flag
@_juju_jojo_
4 ай бұрын
Wouldn't call it a red flag, just straight up grounds for divorce
@_juju_jojo_
4 ай бұрын
Wouldn't call it a red flag. That's just straight-up grounds for divorce
@artemis_justiceaizawa5978
4 ай бұрын
@@vzzx8102 That's the red flag they're referring to, if someone ever says something like the above comment it's mostly advice for the OP, they usually mention when it's OP the red flag is referring to.
@blindbrad4719
2 ай бұрын
Immediate unilateral decision over his life… That's a huge red flag 🙄. Two can play that stupid game.
@blindbrad4719
2 ай бұрын
LOL, I think I own apology. TTS can have comprehension issues when the text doesn't have much grammar to play with.
Op, your marriage is based on a lie. You have to leave.
@AbdurRahmaanSait
4 ай бұрын
You really need to listen to the whole thing before commenting.
@DarkEinherjar
4 ай бұрын
@@AbdurRahmaanSait It doesn't change the fact that the last 6-7 years of his life were built on lies. The trust is gone, and without trust, the marriage is done for.
@AbdurRahmaanSait
4 ай бұрын
@@DarkEinherjar did u listen to the entire thing?
@sharkeatinpizza
4 ай бұрын
Did you? @@AbdurRahmaanSait
@murdock94
4 ай бұрын
@@AbdurRahmaanSait No, they didn't listen. Probably listened to the first 10 minutes or so, then posted and clicked off.
Dude needs to make sure his horrible liar wife doesn't manipulate their kids. I wouldnt put it past her to try and destroy that relationship as well...
Before the divorce, I would have talked to the in-laws, asking if they would approve of OP pretending to be their daughter to ruin her relationship with them for 7 years, missing out on her wedding and all the milestones of both their grand-daughters. I would use the gatcha moment of saying "but your daughter would be happy being a SAHM with two kids." When the parents get mad at me, I would say "well, that is what she did to me, and why I am serving her with divorce papers."
I can already see the EX manipulating the kids into believing their dad is the worst and lie to them about everything and say that he doesnt care about them and would leave them.
Good on OP for not being a doormat and not putting up with his wife's delusional deception. This terrible woman misconstrued a supportive comment because of her insecurity and instead of making sacrifices to make her husband happy, she sacrificed his happiness for hers. I believe that men should make sacrifices to provide for their families and families' happiness, but this wasn't the case. He was unaware that he was unnecessarily sacrificing his happiness for a woman who didn't deserve it Wishing nothing but the best for OP
It's still strange how op's parents didn't even try to talk to him in person or call him and just believed that message was from him. Why trust some text? All of that drama could be avoided
@dijango0015
4 ай бұрын
Same what i though, as terrible as the wive is, how mentally challanged can you be to completely cut contact over a Single text. Not even trying to talk to their son if you ask me the parents are also Terrible people.
@hafsahha4794
4 ай бұрын
EXACTLY!! Like whaaattt?!? That’s your child… who OP said they never had an argument or anything before this incident 🤔
@12gagegaming43
4 ай бұрын
I'm going to play devils advocate here and say two things. 1) It's probably a fake story. 2)Old people are really susceptible to phone scams and the like, I can believe that a pair of really old parents would take a text like that at face value. Given we don't know the exact message, it could have been really vitriolic, which makes the wife's actions even more unforgivable.
@hatefull2198
4 ай бұрын
@@12gagegaming43 i can accept №1, but i don't agree with №2. All of that happend when op's parent's were somewhat young(40-50) and if the message was realy bad, i'd definitely prefer to check it personaly. But my culture may be different(Ukraine), we don't trust easy and everything has to be double checked.
@smsff7
4 ай бұрын
Then they blocked him too. Seriously that is fucked up. Why did OP even want a relationship with the parents who just cut off contact like that?
He should have gone for full custody.
@rebeccajohnson8579
3 ай бұрын
NO WAY would I trust my children in her care because SHE WILL train them up to be JUST LIKE HER, LIARS & MANIPULATORS!!
@blindbrad4719
2 ай бұрын
Why? That would've meant punishing the kids. i've gone through the divorce with the crappy jobs wages, let her claim alimony off of that, and then started working with my parents after the divorce, so that when she went back to Cawte for a revisitation of alimony, it came up that I was being paid a lower salary than the crappy job and just had my parents paying all my bills for me. she waste money, gets even less and his grandparents spoil both him and the kids with a salary that doesn't go through the books.
@bakedandbeaded
2 ай бұрын
@@blindbrad4719Cool, that’s YOUR situation. This woman is awful and would very easily lie to their children about their father to destroy that relationship just like how she lied to his parents to destroy THAT relationship. If you’re more worried about MONEY than your kids’ mental health, then you’re a shit parent. /shrug Not every person is a proper parent and don’t deserve to be around kids they can mentally fuck up. THINK. You CAN cut off parents that are toxic and abusive Jfc.
@3adgamd3r
13 күн бұрын
Yeah, but that’s not how the law works
Divorce. This is next level manipulation, literally ruined his career bcz of her own weirdo control issues and insecurities. Then proceeded to not apologize and try her best to justify her bs 😂😂 she’s goofy asf
@rebeccajohnson8579
3 ай бұрын
If anything, during that divorce proceedings I would have demanded compensation for the GRAND LIE she told his parent's and FORCED her to get a JOB to pay it! If anything his alimony should have been based on his last job, MINUS compensation!
Crazy how some missing information/misleading information can quickly spiral out of control like that. I’d personally have trust issues for a real long time after that.
@blindbrad4719
2 ай бұрын
I want their details, they seem ripe for scamming…
Why were the parents so quick to block him everywhere did they not think that message was our pocket for him?
@rebeccajohnson8579
3 ай бұрын
They should have found another way to interact with him, if only to SHOW UP at his front door and CONFRONT HIM for sending such a nasty and disrespectful text to them! They would have RESOLVED the LIE right away! I guess it was such a BUSY TIME, the wedding, getting established in another state, but if it were me, I would have approached this issue right away, KNOWING this just did not sound like their son!
should have brought up how she munipulated ur parents into thinking u declines a job oppertunity. that right there would have prevented her from.gettin allimony
@3adgamd3r
13 күн бұрын
Lol no it wouldn’t, because what she did, whilst disgusting and slimy, wasn’t technically illegal, you could argue the text was fraud, but everything else she did wasn’t actually illegal around the time she did it Also alimony is actually really hard to get taken away, unless there’s a prenup that specifically states something about it, that or if it’s not in a no fault state, but even then OP wouldn’t qualify because she didn’t cheat on him, she just manipulated him
It doesn't matter that if OP took the job they would likely not have the life they have now. It is the fact that she has been dragging him down all these years due to her own selfishness. Almost ruined his relationship with his parents simply because "she thought" they looked down on her. She has an inferiority complex and OP should not even dignify her question with a response. She needs a reality check and if she can't even apologise for literally controlling OP's life, then divorce is necessary, so I applaud the OP for his decisive action.
Okay, but who tells their own child via one e-mail and one phonecall that they are moving to a far away place and never bring it up in person. And when receiving a hurtful message from your son that doesn't sound like him they just decide to cut him off instead of talking to him? 😂
The story is crazy and I find it so hard to believe that his parents would do something like that over a few texts? I know that every person is different, but I'm 100% sure that if something like that happened to me, my parents would literally drive to me to confront me and ask me if I'm out of my mind to write messages like that to them. Not to mention that they wouldn't even believe I was the one sending them.
@anabrown9676
4 ай бұрын
I agree with you. I'm literally trying to figure out if OP and his parents even had a good relationship if one message was enough to go no contact for years without either side look for closure or at least sending a happy birthday text.
@12gagegaming43
4 ай бұрын
In my mind there are two possibilities. 1)Shits fake, Reddit is basically a bunch of karma farming bots these days 2) OP has really old parents, who are notoriously easy to scam. I worked with elderly people for a year so I know firsthand. It's not out of the realm of possibility they'd fake this at face value.
@DONTworryIgotTHIS
4 ай бұрын
Right? They literally even have the thought themselves "wow, OP is swearing a lot and they usually never swear". How tf are you going to move away, possibly forever without ever speaking to your child first in person? Also never a phone call, never a letter? They're just cool with that for the better part of a decade? Sounds like shitty parents to me.
@sschickful
4 ай бұрын
They sent him an email and she deleted that.
@DONTworryIgotTHIS
4 ай бұрын
@@sschickful So you're moving away, possibly for the rest of your life and to your only son you send...some texts and an email? They even said there were a bunch of red flags like him cursing when he had never done that before. Why would they not speak to him in person and hear why he would say those things before moving on?
Bruh, do these people even listen to the story till the end? They're already commenting "divorce".
@rawrmcsaurs6052
4 ай бұрын
An absolute breech of trust, if this was a friend, youd have cut off ties with them
@BlackcatPlayerB
4 ай бұрын
That's right, this action was not the wife's decision, it could have been solved if they both talked. In truth, if it's divorce, it's not fun to live a monotamous life without caring how happy your family makes you.
@cipher9323
4 ай бұрын
DIVORCE
@I3urton
4 ай бұрын
@@rawrmcsaurs6052 True, and OP states he filed for and went through with divorce in the end. Hence the question whether people even listen to the story till the end.
@_juju_jojo_
4 ай бұрын
And then it's irritating to see them reply to y'all calling that out with “oh well divorce was the only option” as if you disagreed with them They completely missed the fcking point
No way, OP's parents gave-up on him this easy...
Rebecca may have gotten alimony, child support, and 50/50 custody. However, she ruined her family for her selfishness and has to live with the consequences.
Here's the thing, if my parents ever got a message like that assumingly from me, they'd be at my front door asking what was going on. They never would've just taken it as "it is what it is" and would've made sure they actually talked to me and not asked for words to be passed on to me with hopes I'd get it.
@sentinalchocobo
4 ай бұрын
right? Like l'd be frantically called over and over for face to face. One time when l moved states l got into an argument with my parents, basically they were always asking on my safety while l was with my bf...always. it was getting ridiculous so l stopped talking to them and answering phones....fuck me dead. 3am we got a wellness check from police asking if l was okay haha
@GabrielleHayes1921
4 ай бұрын
@@sentinalchocobo when I was pregnant with my first, I made the mistake of falling asleep for literal hours during the day, I woke up and saw my phone I immediately called my mom because it turned out I accidentally had my sounds muted and she had just sent her idk what text saying she was going to call the cops and was heading the hour drive to my place for not answering fearing something happened to me, her and my entire family had been texting me for hours with no response and they feared something bad happened to me and my unborn child while my partner had been at work. At the time I was like "I just wanted a nap, I'm exhausted and don't know why", but shortly afterwards I was so grateful because not everyone has people like that. My family literally started a prayer chain for me out of fear, looking back half of the women had lost around that time period in pregnancy and I had moved to a new area within the last few short months, so I definitely understand their panic.
So far not seeing this said but what if the wife doesn’t like the university that the kids get into? She just going to tear up the acceptance letters? Doesn’t like the friends/boyfriends, she tore op and his parents apart so just think of what she could do to people that have no relationship to her. Op need to go for full custody.
@blindbrad4719
2 ай бұрын
Why? That would be punishing the children. that's psychotic.
@DJProtaganist
2 ай бұрын
@@blindbrad4719 She secretly snuck onto OP's device and deleted a message from OP's parents with out telling OP or giving OP that choice. This action forced OP to cut ties with his family. That is psychotic.
@blindbrad4719
2 ай бұрын
@@DJProtaganist it was a stupid decision to be sure, I can understand the thinking behind why she did that though, she believed his parents hated her and were trying to break them up that doesn't make her a bad mother, and even OP agrees with that statement. i'll point out though, that his parents didn't check in with him when he suddenly started acting out of character, sounds like putting their foot in it could have been an unconscious but semi regular thing, that gave her good reason to think what she did.
Lawyer up, get a tech expert to help gather indesputable proof, that the messages were deleted, record all conversations with the witch, and push for full custody, before she manipulates the kids against you.
"Aren't you happy though?" "Not anymore"
A house of cards is doomed to fall. As soon as OP learned the truth, it was game over. Rebecca knew too...and now the happy family she hoped to have is gone (if it ever existed). Hopefully OP can only go forward and rebuild his life and relationship with his folks.
Who sends a single message about something like that and never calls or anything to follow up?
@blindbrad4719
2 ай бұрын
There would've been follow-up texts, she just deleted them. Adding a, never contact me again until I contact you, and you've got some breathing room.
It’s worse having a wife that lies to you, but one that’s trying to manipulate you to destroy your relationship with your parents is downright evil.
When trust is gone in a relationship, love wears thin really quickly.
Divorce was the right choice. The wife wasn't really a wife, a wife would be honest and supportive to her husband not someone who would manipulated the husband from behind his back and keep pressuring him to keep a job he wasn't happy with and wasn't going anywhere. She clearly didn't loved him and was only in it for the sense of security, wich is why she didn't want hom to change the job to a more risky yet fruitful profession, proven by how easy she took the divorce. She clearly yas some self esteem issues and was projecting it to everyone else instead of dealing with it on her own.
leave her. she's not worth it. you don't regret your children. just her
I feel so bad that she tried to manipulate him by saying “don’t you like the life you have?” Implying if he’s mad at her, then he must not love his daughters and that’s so sick. Girl he could have had all of it! The job AND the kids! You just ruined that opportunity for him bc you’re selfish
This is far worse than cheating. If I were him , I'd probably even try to get the full custody of children, who knows how she will raise them
@blindbrad4719
2 ай бұрын
So you want to punish the kids. 👍
If she lied about that, check your children if they are even yours... Even if you love them, and want to keep them in your life, after a fight like this, this will be in the back of your mind forever.
@blindbrad4719
2 ай бұрын
Don't be so overdramatic. Of course they are his. That was the whole point of doing what she did. 🤦
To answer Rebecca's question: how OP's life turned out was not because of Rebecca's thoughtfulness nor her ability to look at the bigger picture. Her decision to reject his parent's offer to join their business and having them cut him off was simply due to her own insecurities of what she believed his parents thought of her. Yes, he had daughters that he loves dearly, but they could've been born if they were Seattle too. Her daughters were born simply due to life just happening, not because Rebecca could somehow see in the future and decide that this was the correct option.
*doesnt want him to get job* *gets divorced* *wants the money from that job*
Nothing can get back those 6 years omfg
she weaponized his daughters against him, theres no love there, shes afraid of losing the stability she has in life that HE is giving to her in the first place. also with the way that story ended, divorce court is a joke with the way it treats men in this country, how a wife that can probably be proven to have destroyed her husbands career opportunities for her own selfish gain can be entitled to any alimony is beyond me, glad he made the right call with both his marriage and his kids though.
@blindbrad4719
2 ай бұрын
Because the courts know that making her destitute would negatively affect the children, and they're not as dumb as some people nor do they want to punish the children.
This is like pretty much the worst thing you can do to someone. This is worse than cheating. She didn’t just destroy her own relationship with him, she destroyed his relationship with his parents, his career, and his entire future so selfishly that it’s mind boggling. People have ended up in swamps in NJ for a whole lot less
She's going to turn OP's daughters against him. I'm calling it now.
@ashleyyoung796
4 ай бұрын
Me too. I just know for a fact that OP will wind up regretting his decision on the whole custody thing by not taking full custody of his daughters.
Na, that's crazy! That's an instant divorce there. She rail roaded his life
No matter how much he loves her, he can't trust her, and she's never wrong. It could/would never work.
She took away his choice but has the audacity to gaslight him about the life he lived after her betrayal? Disgusting behavior. It would make it so she could never be trusted again
In a situation like this you have to document all that before divorce because you want to get your kids out from under someone like that. She isn't trustworthy and she has an obvious judgement deficiency. She can't be a reliable parent if she lies and manipulates. Recover those emails if you can and get her admitting what she did. Sucks for OP and hope he found happiness.
Guys, if something like this happens to you, bring a couple of cameras to the conversation with your wife. One of the most powerful tools you can have for any legal preceding is an incontrovertible admission of guilt by the other party. And you show up to a divorce hearing with her confessing that she ruined your relationship with your parents and cost you hundreds of thousands in earning potential, and you are willing to either settle for no long term alimony/child support, or you will be taking her to court for damages, and you will probably walk away with a much more palatable divorce...
I'm sorry but the OP was WAY TOO LENIENT, She basically made 6 years of his life into a big massive lie, their entire marriage was a lie, all because she didnt want leave, Nah he should just thrown the divorce papers on her and taken the kids away, Like she was EXPECTING A THANK YOU for basically destroying the idea of a better carrier for 6 years as well as a stain on his relationship with HIS PARENTS
Even if Rebecca told him about the opportunity, they could have still gotten married and still have the lovely daughters. The 2 things that would be different would be his relationship with his parents and he would be happier with career. The issue Rebecca has is that she didn't trust OP enough to just hold wedding for now and eventually have it later. She said that she didn't want to leave her family and friends behind but, she took OP's family and friends away from him for keeping this all to herself.
So the uncle CALLED the parents but the parents took correspondence from email and text from another person. The parents are weird as hell.
She should get any alimonie. She herself made the decision to prevent her husband to advance in his career, she decided that he couldnt go and make more. She shouldnt have any rights to money that she forfeit long ago
Should have dragged her parents into the middle of it. Gone to them and sat down and tell them what their daughter did. Maybe they would have backed up her decision, maybe they would have been appalled by her actions. Either way, they should know that their daughter caused OP to lose six years of his life without his parents in it due to her own selfish actions.
Her kids wouldve still been the same??? He wouldve made more money meaning hed be able to do more with the family and kids. Like did she even think that life wouldnt have been better????
If she can be so dishonest about a lie that huge and not feel any remorse or even acknowledge any wrongdoing, who knows what she has already done and what she is capable of. I'd guess she'd be equally happy and unaccountable having an affair and considering she was fine with divorce, was probably on the lookout already for other potential partners if not worse. A marriage is about trust and if either partner fails to give this to each other, the relationship is over.
It's like OP said, it's not about happiness, it's about the choice. Maybe he would've been miserable working with his parents and loosing his fiancee, but it would've been his choice.
narcissism in a nutshell....
She made her husband unknowingly sacrifice so much to protect her own relationships. That woman is beyond selfish. Red fucking flag, divorce is high on the table.
She didn't "Make a mistake" she made a choice and followed through on a plan without caring how it hurt you.
I feel like your parents wouldn’t have expected you to skip your own marriage to move. This sounds like a logical fallacy to me.
Add this to the list of stories I TOTALLY believe 😂
"Are you happy because of what I did and we made?" When the real question is... "Are you happy in spite of what I did and what you made?"
parents are still shit heads for blocking their son and not reaching out to him for years. a text message was enough for them to cut him out forever.
If this guy goes back he is the prime example of a simp and this world is dead
I would kill to have supporting caring in-laws like that and this B ruined everything.
No way. NO WAY your wife did that. That's a 'divorcible' offense. 😡
That's why I think everybody should jump on NC only as the last resort.
Her refusal to see any of her actions as wrong, her utterly self-centered justifications for her actions, and her unemotional response to being served with the divorce leads me to believe she is a psychopath. Her marriage was a means to an end, nothing more.
I am thinking this is a fake story. Because if their son texted them stuff that was out of character for him. Most people would either call back immediately or go visit their child in person to find out what’s going on .
All I had to hear was Oregon... XD
she is tryna manipulate him by asking that question
She's worried about money, when she could have been living it up more comfortably had she stayed in reality and kept ger mouth shut.
She knew this would came back to her and hard and that's why she tried one final manipulation and that's all. Because she knew she ruined everything for her own benefit and there is no lie that can't cover this. Also, maybe she cheated (I don't think so).
wife wins in the end, she gets access to kids, stable income, and now freedom to find her next victim
She was definatly a psycho because she really didnt see how anything she did was wrong, very cold and creepy
6 or 7 years is nothing to sneeze at. But at least it wasnt 15 to 20+ years later.
All she had to do was apologize lol
She intentionally ruined OPs relationship with his parents. She cared nothing for how it affected him. Selfish doesn't even begin to describe her behavior. She made decisions and manipulated events to turn out in the way she wanted. She's not qualified to be a wife at all.
After admitting to making a decision on her husband's behalf and cutting out his family for a couple of years, I wouldn't put it past the Controlling Wife to do similar things with the Children and their own goals. Also, she may be a little thin-skinned if that conversation she had with her in-laws before The Incident is anything to go by.
Imagine how faster they would have had opened a branch in their hometown had he joined them from the beginning ? Thery could have had moved faster and she would have renewed with her friends and family. All would be good.
Rebecca is living her self fulfilling prophecy.
You know why she wasn't surprised that he filed for divorce? Because she KNEW that she was in the wrong, she just didn't want to admit it or she'd have to face the fact that the reason the marriage failed is all her fault, that she was the one who fucked up by not giving him a choice.
the only issue i have with this is him leaving the kids for so long
Rebecca can't say what would have happened, and she likely just didn't want any chance to not be a stay at home wife. Seattle is expensive to live in.
@Bluecrimson217
4 ай бұрын
She absolutely was getting a Mrs. Degree in college, and a lie that big to start the marriage meant it would never last.
If she really care about being financially stable, she would go searching for a job too
i hope you dna tested those kids and yeah if she had bein honest she would be set for life with the company president and those friends....smh
So she never expected him to find out eventually?
The reason she's ok with the divorce is because of the child support and alimony she will get and you not being there means that she can spend it all on however she wants and tell the kids not to tell you anything, She's happy she can re lived those collage lifestyle and party and sleep with anyone she want without feeling guilty and once she know the amount of money you be making she will demand more for child support
After the divorce, I would have used for financial and emotional damages upwards of 100,000 dollars
I don’t understand how she can be entitled to alimony when she intentionally lied and ruined an incredible job opportunity and family ties. There really is no punishments for women in the west.
probably can't get full custody anyway because they might not be his kids
Divorce her
How many other lies has she told you ? Trust is gone.
She was a narcissis 😢
That woman using her children as leverage. No. Those things can follow, the wedding, the children. You just have no faith and is selfish. Thank god he decided a divorce. One thing I need him to do is secure a solid relationship with the kids. With what she's done, she might use her version to poison their daughter's minds. I hope not cuz that's low even for her.
Nta. You deserved to know the reason.
A life built on a Lie is no life at all, same with a relationship, if its built on a lie then its not a real relationship
Poor little girl who never grew up and only wanted what SHE thought was good for her. But for Pete's sake don't ask her to move from her friends and family. Scared little girl of the bid bad world outside of her home town. Time to dump this one and get a fully grown woman.
I think that bothers me the most is having to pay your partner money so they can continue to live the lifestyle they had. Why can't they just go get a job like everyone else? I would be understanding in helping them until they get on their feet but not giving them money for years.
Should have done a marriage counseling
If she will go that far and rune the relationship with his parents and his working career before they got married what else has she done I don't think she is being completely honest about the rest of the things she has has done the last 6 years
Divorce… immediate
Rebecca was so fucking manipulative to have asked if he liked the life he was living or not. They could've easily compromised by waiting until later for OP to work in Seattle. She didn't even have to come with him. People who love each-other would be willing to spend some time apart and fly to see each-other every once in a while.