School environment and classroom structure is not for every kid.. especially if their home life and personal life is stressful..

@lydierayn

4 жыл бұрын

The school system is flawed, and nobody should endure it

@gonzaloescudero8170

4 жыл бұрын

School system its completely outdated ( except in countries like Finland ).how much sense have study like 200 years ago when the world becomes unrecognizable year by year? The worst is now we have a severely high mental problems rate ( anxiety,depression ) and becomes worse day by day.we need a revolution,a new school system updated to the complex and ambiguous world of today.

@andreanottellin2129

4 жыл бұрын

HAPPIEST DAY OF MY LIFE=LEAVING SCHOOL!!😊

@livarieilishswift7354

3 жыл бұрын

my brain cant handle simple tasks or sentences even when im not stressed. its even more terrible now cuz i have extreme anxiety, which makes it feel like i cant breathe. now with all the masks, i literally cant breathe also.

@7h268

2 жыл бұрын

And Collage too

I'd have to force myself to take a break but when I do, I feel so guilty since I need to tackle all the tasks I need to do and I don't have time to rest. Now I'm experiencing burnout and add anxiety and self doubt on top of that lol

@xBLACKSTAR

4 жыл бұрын

Honestly, I feel lazy when I'm not working , taking breaks is something I do when I'm done , during work it's a struggle for me to stop editing , so I feel you

@SciFiFactory

4 жыл бұрын

Feels like I wrote this. Taking brakes doesn't work. I just feel guilty and even more stressed out. In the mean time I am so unproductive, it's unbelievable. Just can't focus.

@gardensofthegods

4 жыл бұрын

Well how hard is it to be kind to yourself.... is it because you absolutely have no choice and have to keep pushing . Now you are suffering.... so now you see that you have to learn to pace yourself instead of making yourself feel like a horse that has been run into the ground . often when we give ourselves a little bit of time and space.... it somehow allows us to become more efficient and even create more time and space and creativity and joy . there's a right way to do things and a wrong way to do things.. have you never heard of the Middle Way.... don't be an extremist... be kind to yourself.... if we cannot be good to ourselves how can we be good to others. It's a little bit different if of course you are at a point in your life where you absolutely have no choice and have to keep working and are not able to get any breaks . but that is not a good way to live and I went through it for years . But to not take breaks when you have earned them and need them doesn't even make sense.... that is why it's called counterproductive . Please get the rest that you need and never feel guilty about it again . and most importantly do not let others make you feel guilty about it

@AfallinAngel

4 жыл бұрын

@@gardensofthegods thank you so much for that ❤

@gardensofthegods

4 жыл бұрын

@@AfallinAngel well I'm very serious about this here . A person needs to ask themself is this just a time in my life where I have to push and work really hard and there will be a payoff.... or am I just causing unnecessary harm for myself and making myself ill ? To feel guilty about a little needed rest break or vacation is insanity.... if a person is not going to be right in their mind how can they function ? Why would anybody feel guilty about a much-needed break or rest... is this abuse that is put on you people by others like a boss or a spouse or your family members ? Or are you just doing this to yourself and treating yourself like a dog.. why would anybody do that to themselves .... be kind to yourself .

She knows how to pause to emphasize. Very good speaker

@janehonda4073

4 жыл бұрын

I like the way she look at people around her. It feels like she cares about everyone there and tries to involve everyone in what she is talking about. Very impressive.

@myrnap.2951

4 жыл бұрын

She does. I loved it!

@DoofenSpyroDragon16

8 ай бұрын

Yeah, I’m not good at that. Either I pause and I don’t speak ever again because I’m nervous, or I rush through the speech to get it over with.

Avoiding burnout is the KEY to elevate your success not only in business but for every element in your life.

@deborahvictoriaedwards5188

4 жыл бұрын

Success all want...LOL

@honkytonk4465

4 жыл бұрын

Burnout, another word for depression.

@BrainyCreativity

2 жыл бұрын

No, there is much more that can impact success than just avoiding burnout. There are many who have past traumas that are affecting their mental health and it affects them immensely. Your comment is insensitive to those who are actually struggling with a mental illness.

When I was in school back in the '60s we called it ditching and we would write our own parent excuse notes... This mental health days off is a better way and it doesn't make the child feel like a criminal... Wonderful presentation by this young woman :)

@gardensofthegods

4 жыл бұрын

Yep when I was in the first few years of grade school my dad would sometimes let me stay out and we would have a good time.... going downtown in the city.... seeing the historical places visiting the neighborhood he grew up in.... I even remember there were a number of times he took me to the racetrack and even let me pick some of the horses . He would take me to the movies .... great memories there also . I came from a family of 7 kids . it was nice to get that quality time with my dad and those are some of my best memories with him . yeah when we were older we would ditch too, Haha.... those are also some really great memories .

@JustMe-rn5xm

3 жыл бұрын

That’s pretty much how I got through my last two years of school

It's so important and beautiful that her mom saw what she needed and took action

@myrnap.2951

4 жыл бұрын

I feel the same as a mother who had a son with mental health issues. So, this is the time we can still take action for a great day and an outstanding future.

@Moharana-rl4gk

11 ай бұрын

Even my parents don't care bout my mental health when I told that I feel like anxious and depressed they just told me on face that You have nothing to be depressed you just seek for attention..

School is a huge load for some kids. Whether kids are dealing with domestic abuse or there is a lot of pressure and stress to get good grades. Parents push for perfection or dont care at all Ive noticed, we need a medium

The World needs mental health days

I’m so proud of Hailey Hardcastle, she is the voice for other students that has been muffled by the stigmas around mental health.

@vengar4803

3 жыл бұрын

h

Mental Health Class really should be taught in schools! It's needed for students! This would benefit everyone!

@tybeentrill3748

2 жыл бұрын

Schools are too selfish.

This made me cry…My mental health was not taken seriously in high school and my teachers thought I was only trying to ditch and they stopped giving counsel and would send me back to class whenever I needed a break and talk to someone. I ended up attempting suicide and would be in and out of hospitals. When I had to eventually go back to school my condition still wasn’t taken seriously, so I decided to use drugs as a coping mechanism and almost completely dropped out of high school. I graduated over a year late after my mom pulled me from that high school and got me in to an alternative school that had a compassionate staff and all they wanted was for their students to get better. A lot of people were in my boat and I felt supported in a way public school could never do for me… 6 years later I am now in my 3rd semester of college with a 4.0 gpa and my mental health is at the best it’s ever been. It takes compassionate and caring individuals to be good teachers. This young woman is doing amazing things for the educational community!

I used to keep my very artistic kids home quite a bit as school was simply lacking in most areas, especially in the arts. They needed it bigtime!

@kneecaps_soup7563

4 жыл бұрын

This is true! I'm a French girl in high school, and trying to get into Chara design jobs. I don't know about you, but here in France, people don't imagine that you can draw monsters and stickmens for a living. We have an orientation system, and three times I went to see them, and three times they redirected me wrongly for my future studies. I stopped listening to them at some point, because it was impossible! You're doing the right thing by keeping your children out of this orientation system in education. Most of the time, they don't even know half of the jobs they're talking about.

I was diagnosed with PTSD and to be honest schools are not prepared for mental health issues at all. Being at school during my bad times multiplied the stress. Schools need to be more in touch with mental health in general because the young generations are having more suicides than ever before. Have a good day people and take care of yourselves, dont sacrifice your well being for anything✌

Best Ted Talk I've seen in a long time.

@arbitrary2589

4 жыл бұрын

Because you are now watching this video on a sofa or in a bed,maybe.

also, if needed, a mental health month or even year is absolutly okay too! You should learn to priotize mental health just like you do physical. Of course education is important but if you feel stuck or burned out, you need to act before it is too late to do so!

@RPX-65

3 жыл бұрын

I completely agree!! School is important but a persons mental health can take a drastic turn in the quickest moment. It’s too important to risk.

@ashshukor5623

2 жыл бұрын

I think that I'm depressed and I'm in my last high school year Right now I'm supposed to prepare for my finals but my depression is worst and worst and I feel like giving up So I thought about going to a therapist or something and taking the rest of the year to rest And just continue the next year I'm really really scared I don't know what to do It's my future but I really don't think that I can keep going not like this So I'm just gonna fail the year on purpose and retake it later Do you think that I'm making a mistake?

@saintshrooms9424

Жыл бұрын

@@ashshukor5623 what did you decide to do?

@galerights8983

4 күн бұрын

@@ashshukor5623 I'm going through the same thing! Please please reach out to someone. You're not alone.

Breaks increase productivity and creativity. Working for long stretches without breaks leads to stress and exhaustion. Taking breaks refreshes the mind, replenishes your mental resources, and helps you become more creative.

Impressive young woman. My concerns are that this isn't used against people in the future, privacy and pharmaceutical companies aren't allowed to exploit this.

I appreciate how TEDx Talks provides an interpretation (Sign Language) for this presentation. 👏👍 And thank you, Hailey Hardcastle! You have reminded all of us how important this issue is to be discussed! 🤗❣️

Sad we don't have mental health days in Britain

@Hamza-GH-Hofmann

4 жыл бұрын

Make it happen in your place.

@SpiritDragon888

4 жыл бұрын

We don’t in the US either

@markc6714

4 жыл бұрын

Mental health day ? Oh please that's just rubbish for the lazy. If I tried to pull that nonsense in my dad I'd have been shown his belt. Lazy kids nowadays just complain and their parents let them get away with this stupidity

@Rainbowkittenism

4 жыл бұрын

@@markc6714 ok boomer

@markc6714

4 жыл бұрын

@@Rainbowkittenism a boomer is someone currently over 65, which I'm not so that just makes you an utter moron

This is literally amazing. I've struggled with my own allotted amount of issues but I've grown increasingly worried about another young one in my life, my brother. Trying my best, as we all should do

What an amazing project and person! Going through all that process until a LAW is accepted and written... that’s amazing! You got all my respect maam.

Such an important message. I had a lot of mental health issues as a kid, teen and still now. I'm lucky to be able to work for myself now so taking mental health days isn't a problem because I know I need them to keep going. Having them recorded in school and referring to therapists is such a brilliant idea, I hope it rolls out worldwide.

@rkoislife1738

Жыл бұрын

Bruh what is the message tho

I’m having a really hard time dealing with everything I “need to do” right now. I feel so tired and drained. Thank you for sharing your story ❤️

narcissium and its characteristics has done more damage than anything I know. They say its untreatable and that the abused usually end up in a mental health crisis not of their doing, they are just overpowered by the toxic tactics used by such individuals. That is where emphasis I believe should be placed. hidden too long. just like abuses and conditions we now take a look at.

@brandonvanlieshout7303

4 жыл бұрын

yes mam. And as an emotional empath, I attract narcissistic people. They drain you.

@JMigUK

4 жыл бұрын

Nailed it on the head, pathological narcissism is now becoming epidemic and causing serious damage to society, both children and adults

@gardensofthegods

4 жыл бұрын

@@brandonvanlieshout7303 yeah but you have to realize that not all of them are just narcissistic... some of them are actually sociopaths and are deliberately preying on you . You need to pay more attention to what you are feeling from them and then you will see they don't deserve your compassion as much as they would benefit better from you either avoiding them or holding up a mirror to them . I have learned this by watching Tibetan Buddhist lamas and how they deal with people .

@gardensofthegods

4 жыл бұрын

@@JMigUK regretfully we are living in the age of narcissism.... look at how many of those creeps have their own channels... some of them are kind of sickening to watch... and then if you read the comments of the people who tell them how wonderful they are it's even worse .

So proud someone I know could put such an important issue forward toward the masses

I'm amazed, she's so young and so motivated to help others. A beautiful girl with a beautiful mind. ♥️

Hailey Hardcastle, thank you for what you and your collegues are doing! This is absolutely amazing. I hope it will bring some sort of balance in the crazy education system that we have (the U. S and Canada, to begin with). I hope that the effect of this Bill spreads far and wide.

This is truly awesome, amazing young lady with great ideas and a good heart. The world needs many more like her.

Wow... What an eloquent and strong young woman she is.....and bravo to her parents for their approach to the demands on young people these days and understanding those. I don't know what career path she is studying for but I can see she will excel at changing the world in whatever field she chooses. A must-see talk, especially for parents everywhere.

Along with the talk, i love that they have a person who is translating the talk in sign language for people who can’t hear. Highlights how important this talk is for it to reach everyone. Thanks Ted! ♥️

I am training to become a school adjustment counselor and this is exactly what I want to be doing in schools! I want to teach socio-emotional skills as preventative measures for kids and help them build their toolbox from a young age.

I’m very inspired by this. I will research the mental health laws for students In my state and see if I can do anything. North Carolina puts a lot of pressure on their students to do well which becomes extremely stressful and overwhelming.

I chose "Prioritising mental health in school" as topic for my school project and it was rejected 😐

@iccedoutpigeon9865

2 жыл бұрын

That’s crazy! That is such a good topic because everyone needs to know how important mental health is.

Wow I absolutely love this! Hope she impacts millions of kids throughout her whole lifetime! ❤️❤️

Thanks for the stimulating speech! I have never heard about the concept of having mental health days as it doesn't happen in my country. It's such a brilliant idea to promote mental health!

So proud of you Hailey😍 thanks for representing us well

This is just so interesting. Mental health is a big problem in Brazil as well, and I've been looking for ideas like this to inspire changes at the University environment. I really wish they somehow kept track of how they got to this measures and the possible changes they've noticed after applying the law. Would be a very useful material.

The next step is expanding psychology education and awareness

Great job, this is so important! it applies to me now. If I didn't have a pretty good tool kit I'm not sure where I would be. I am in school and have been since before the pandemic and all the way through it until now, also worked in healthcare setting and have faced personal challenges this last year of school. I struggled and I have some very good coping skills that I know how to implement, it is the only thing that has pushed me through aside from my partner, family and friends/classmates. So I can imagine those that are not as prepared mentally.

Worthy of listening. She's also pretty.

Brilliant news! I hope this progress continues everywhere.....

Courage in action! Bless you, dear one! And thank you for creative solutions to human needs and challenges ;-)

those were the key words Empathy and Honesty, realize this every single moment, never scared to open your mind. is okay to be You, be real. don't fake it, to make it. what we need is more love, and life, and happiness! ❤️

This is so inspiring! Thank you for initianting this project. I have multiple mental health illnesses and this motivated me to initiate a project like that in germany too. Thank you

This is incredibly insightful. Thank you

I too, burnt my candle at both ends, makes shining later a bit difficult... There's some good days, today is one of them, thanks

This video really resonated deeply with me as I also believe good mental health is the true key to success in every aspect of actively pursuing a career in medicine. Physical health for obvious reasons will always be at the forefront of what is considered more “serious” because a lot of acute illnesses can lead to tragic consequences and lifelong illnesses lead to a sequela of chronic complications and/or death that can be mitigated if caught early enough and treated responsibly before health effects are irreversible. Hailey makes amazing points that with suicide being the second leading cause of death in teenagers, mandating laws that require schools to designate a certain number of mental health days to students is a major step in the right direction. For some reason, it seems that the older we get, the need for mental health support seems less important. While schools/organizations/workplaces offer mental health support services and try to incorporate ways to ensure that mental health support is being implemented, the quality of these services is unfortunately lackluster. I believe at the graduate school level, our administrators have a duty to ensure the best mental health support. Programs such as medical school, law school, obtaining a PhD or whatever graduate level degree one is trying to obtain is a long and stressful journey. No one goes into these fields truly understanding the commitment and sacrifice one will have to make as much as we think we do; there is nothing that can prepare you for it. Medical schools need to allocate mental health days per organ system/block that are separate from the days off allocated for other things such as emergencies or physical health/sick days. I believe these should not be allocated based on a student’s standing either as some of these students may be near academic difficulty status because they are not able to get the mental support they need. You made an amazing point in your video stating that not everyone who needs mental health support has an official diagnosis and I agree that these supportive resources and days off should still be provided as a means to prevent worsening of any mental states.

Family talking about my mental health as a trivial thing never fails to hurt me😣

@ericalynn6881

2 жыл бұрын

💗🫂✝️

It is great to see how young adults trying to address problems of school students especially teenagers. I don't know if this is the right platform or not but; I and my friends here in Vadodara, Gujarat conduct what we call a "teenage workshop" in various schools. We address issues like Social anxiety, Addiction, Importance of Non-Academic activities, Hormonal changes during teenage and share our experiences with them.

Thankful for Hailey that there’s a student mental health advocate who passes the House Bill 2191. It would really help a lot of students who has mental health issues. God bless ur organization and your heart. Well done🎉🎉🎉

If I skip a class I’ll have work to makeup up which stresses me more

Ever sense I started public school my anxiety has taken off to a insane level to the point that I have to sleep or drink to escape the pain really really wish someone would change the school system

This is incredible I’m thrilled with this work ! Thank you

Thank you for your incredible work

I went to a small elementary school and then my parents homeschooled us for 5 years. Best years of my life. 🖤 Later I wanted to try public high school so I went in and got straight A’s....until the stress and unrealistic expectations of school caught up with me and I started slipping bad. I finished my last 2 years at home and I don’t regret it one bit. Home schooling is possible even if you don’t have a lot of money you guys. My mom taught all 6 of us. The library is free. If you’re able, please consider. (Colleges love home schoolers btw.) Go read ‘The Call of the Wild and Free’ by Ainsley Arment!

The long distance race analogy is really good! Because it's a way of thinking for people with mental health issues that allows them to rise up to accessions when they need to while letting them know that there is also times they need to relax and check in with them self, I love this concept!

Omg I know about this and I’m so glad you got a Ted talk and you are doing wonderful necessary topic. I’ve seen this grown bloom and I’m glad it’s passed

TRULY INSPIRING and thank u for ur speech!

very good initiative. young adults' anxiety is a world wide health problem. it hits all economic classes, all schools, all kids. internet, globalization, access to other cultures are leading our kids to loose the best of thir lives.

thankyou so much! you have helped me so much! a huge thankyou!

Me: Hi teacher, sorry if I didn’t do well in the exam Teacher: You had all week to study The week in particular: study study study study no breaks no dinner no lunch no breakfast only study study till you’re dead!

I feel bad because I use mental health days, but definitely more than three, so I feel like I’m overdoing it, but like ?? I get so burnt out

@78anurag

3 жыл бұрын

You are not overdoing it. You need rest.

what i can really sense that she is highly empathetic .....one of the really good things to admire in anybody

in tennessee if we had mental health days so many more kids would be doing better

@markc6714

4 жыл бұрын

Mental health day ? Oh please that's just rubbish for the lazy. If I tried to pull that nonsense in my dad I'd have been shown his belt. Lazy kids nowadays just complain and their parents let them get away with this stupidity

@defytony5594

4 жыл бұрын

@@markc6714 OK BOOMER

@00ooo000o

4 жыл бұрын

Mark C I wouldn’t consider myself lazy and i just took a mental health day this past Friday. Sometimes breaks are needed (in my case). I also have straight A’s.

@markc6714

4 жыл бұрын

@@defytony5594 a boomer is someone currently over 65. I'm not so your comment just makes you look like a moron. At least previous generations used sledges like "whatever" which could be used on anyone, but clearly you're just part of the stupidity that thinks this video is worthwhile

@markc6714

4 жыл бұрын

@@toastybunbuns7799 thanks

Brilliant. And what a gorgeous young lady. Keep it up. ❤

My home life +Mental illnesses +school is literally the worst combination. I cannot take it anymore, I'm so done man. 😕💔

Thank you Hailey. Superb delivery packed with great messages

@rkoislife1738

Жыл бұрын

What is the message tho

Very articulate young lady, she was nervous but also managed to pulled thru.

Great speech !! You are an inspiration!!

Very interesting! Good advice make sens.❤

She should get a medal for getting out. Like a real one.

Great video 👍🏻, thank you for sharing

Amazing Video we have to break the mental health stigma

This is a lovely idea but it would be so lovely if the schools initiated something like this. Not all parents recognise the importance of mental health, not all children are safe at home. It would be lovely to see a cozy space kids could be to have their mental health day at school but seperated from peers if they would like.

Im 17 and this is relateable af

I love the Ted-talks. They educate things as common sense of which I thought that I was alone with this understanding. I did not know for example how valid my feeling of being mentally coroded might be. Thank you, Ted-x Ps. Her surname is just the best! 😄

thank you

it is okay to take a break from school like quitting school for your mental health??

And then there is my school which is basically like "if u can't keep ur life together and are overwhelmed, you should stop coming here because it is to hard for you" and instead of take a mental health day / break they go like "stop being so extra, do it or leave it, psych is something that doesn't belong in school" Like I love my school but I hate their thinking about mental issues and how they not even try to handle it or help in any way.

I can't take breaks because at my high school, there is no way to catch up. I go to school even if I'm sick because it's better and easier than getting teachers to help me by catching me up on the work I missed. Plus the work load is so high that it is too much work and is impossible to make up the work I missed and do the work from the days after I've come back to school. I am normally a mostly A student, but I almost failed half of my classes last semester because I was sick for a week, and I ended up unable to successfully make up everything I missed plus I did poorly on tests from missing the instructions on how to do the things taught in class. This especially hit hard in Geometry whenever I didn't know how to do an entire week's worth of stuff.

Recently my school has become so controlling they won’t let us take holidays even if our parents call in eventually they’ll somehow force us to come to school. recently a girl came to the principle begging her to let her go home as she hadn’t slept all night and was extremely overworked instead of realizing the girls situation the principle stating screaming at her for her saying that she should be able to manage her studies. This girl is a really good student there fore to improve there reputation the girl along with many other grade a students are being forced to study extra and give extra exams were all broken and devastated at the situation.

so well-spoken! :D

I was actually about to take a break next semester. I'm in college.

I'm a high school student from India and the stress caused due to my school is so bad Hope the educational system in India make some changes considering the health of the students and the stress on them due to the competitive exams.

Great job ! Thanks a lot ! ;)

Health is wealth.!!

What’s awful is that almost every parent that exists denies mental health as being a thing and thinks it’s just a weak young generation because mental health wasn’t talked about in their day and since it wasn’t studied 30 years ago it must be false.

I appreciate her

I'm struggling much with mental health this month. I get panic attacks in school and often fall to ground. I'm embarrassed to talk to my parents about that i don't think they would let me stay home

We got this in common

I find myself in a situation almost exactly the same as hers when she was younger. By the age of just 5-6 I was having horrible thoughts of death and existentialism. I was what you would call a “pessimistic nihilist.” I had horrible anxiety issues when that started, and I never realized what it was. Then when I was 7 my clinical depression started. I would fantasize about killing myself. Even going as far as to choke myself, in hopes that it would work as a placeholder for a noose. I of course didn’t know that it was physically impossible to kill myself with those means. When I turned 11 I finally started to accept that I wasn’t okay, and eventually I was able to tell people about it. I’m not currently suicidal anymore, which is a plus, but depression has instead affected my motivation 1000-fold. It’s insane. To the untrained eye everyone would think I was lazy, but in reality I was just depressed and unmotivated. It was almost impossible to get out of bed, and doing actual schoolwork was 100 times worse. It has gotten to the point where I’ll go days, or even weeks without doing any sort of schoolwork because it’s so hard. It’s like a steel wall preventing me from just sitting down and starting on getting things done. I absolutely love school. I love learning, but it’s so hard. When I do eventually get motivation to do things, I can only get maybe 4-5 things done before I reach my limit. I wish everyone, including me, had caught on before it got to this point but now I have way too long of a road to getting back to normal.

I'm going to talk with my daughter about this after school ❤❤

I feel you sis

I will fight for this in the UK

Great message and she is an outstanding speaker! Well done

That is great.

love that

Outstanding work/talk. Mental burnout leading to breakdown not only happens at school (K-colllege) but also at work when it deals with a lot of thinking and problem solving tasks. That's why it's important to take personal days when needed.

I suffered from sleep disorder and mental illness since 9 years old. That's was no support from even my doctors. It became manic depression. And due to the death cells in my brain and spine it caused partial paralysis. Now my ALS retaled mental will shut down my organs eventually. PAREN5 PLEASED PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR CHILDREN'S HEALTH. DISCLAIMER: I don't do drugs.

As a Christian I rest every 7th day Sabbath from the usual work and tasks. I focus alot more on God and spirtual outreach and it does wonders for mental and physical recuperation.