As someone who has autism, this is heartwarming to see.

@gasoline5071

11 ай бұрын

The.. chemicals.. 😏😏😏

@Navi-cosplay-world

11 ай бұрын

@@gasoline5071no

@hernameispekka_Rebecca

10 ай бұрын

I was gonna say! As someone who had trained away all my stims without even knowing about them, allowing myself to feel fully at age 30 has been such a relief!

I don't have autism, but have pretty bad anxiety sometimes...which creates nervous ticks (noises and motions). Telling me to stop makes me more anxious!!!!!! Im glad she allows her kids to just let it out the best way they can ❤

@probablynot2123

11 ай бұрын

I also have anxiety tics that appear very similar to stimming. Do you allow yourself to tic in public, and to what extent? Or do you bottle it up and explode later on? Very curious what everyone else does!

Jessi Brown, is the example of what all parents should be toward their children, loving and supportive, we are all unique and should not be made to be "molded by what outsiders dictate".

@gasoline5071

11 ай бұрын

the chemicals in the chemistry lab

@supermario35327

8 ай бұрын

yes i second that @tj3495

@theeyeofthebeholder9583

Ай бұрын

@@gasoline5071the poop in the toilet

@theeyeofthebeholder9583

Ай бұрын

@@gasoline5071skamteboard

My mom beat me into submission.. Life has been difficult to say the least.. But she didn't know better.. She thought I was acting out. I am grateful that I am a speaking Autistic and that I figured out how to navigate through a rough world. Now in my older years, I don't have the physical stimming as much but the vocal stimming is not as controllable as it has been in my life. Glad these kids have a mother who does her best to understand and allows them to express themselves. I wonder who I could have been if I wasn't so scared to express myself fluidly. ❤ 🌎

@raea3588

11 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry you were abused like that. You didn't deserve that. 😥You deserve to be YOU. It's never too late ❤God's blessings.

@Prophet_be_her_name.

11 ай бұрын

@@raea3588 thank you.. I love my mom very much.. And I forgive her. Instead of 'what doesn't kill me,makes me stronger' slogan... I say 'what doesn't warp our ego, makes us wiser' ❤ 🌎

@raea3588

11 ай бұрын

@@Prophet_be_her_name. That's a great saying ❤

@marilynwillett804

11 ай бұрын

You're just fine, you wouldn't have been better,

@crptnite

11 ай бұрын

i'm sorry you had to Experience abuse in your childhood! Thank you for sharing your testimony. Blessings on your Journey 💜🙏🏽🕊️

She is a great mom; wishing her strength and wisdom as she deals with the challenges of having autistic children

These are the type of “news” stories the world needs to view MORE OFTEN! So awesome you have introduced these 2 necessary terms that we parents are familiar with: Stimming and Masking When we talk about advocacy, this is what it looks like.

@Lmg149

20 күн бұрын

YESSS!

A little girl I was teaching in one of my swim classes did this a lot, it was so cute how excited she was and it always made me smile. Had no idea there was a name for it or that people would try to stop them from doing it. My eldest brother is autistic and has always done this. My mom never made a big deal of it

I worked in a facility with disabled adults. The manager would say to the autistic individuals stop it when they would rock back and fourth. That’s like telling a blind person to see. The level of ignorance and lack of compassion is why I’m no longer there!

I wish my mum was like this wonderful caring mother…I got beaten, scapegoated, even sabotaged my chances of getting a diagnosis, so fifty five and a half when finally diagnosed with ASD. THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS ❤YOUR CHILDREN ARE BEAUTIFUL 🤩

@raea3588

11 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry it was like that for you. You deserved to be You ❤God's Blessings.

My son is a huge scripter and he uses most of them in the proper context. His scripting actually helped him become conversational ❤

@Milaperadotti

11 ай бұрын

Same with my daughter and music.

@jleezy612

11 ай бұрын

@@Milaperadotti whatever helps our babies communicate is amazing 🙂♥️

@gasoline5071

11 ай бұрын

@@Milaperadotti AND IT'S UNCERTAIN... CORONAVIRUS.. CORONAVIRUS NIGHT LIGHT.. BURNED OUT ON YOU WHEN YOU WEREN'T THERE

@gasoline5071

11 ай бұрын

@@jleezy612 di.. Worry wart..

I like the thought of self expression versus self repression.

These parents make me happy. They stim along with their kids! My stims were suppressed so I developed a self harm one I can’t seem to get rid of. Keep stimming y’all!

@raea3588

11 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry that happened to you. Please take care of yourself and love yourself ❤

Thank you thank you thank you. I'm autistic and I'm a pacer, rocker, flapper, spinner, and scripter, among other stims. I'm middle-aged now and stimming was never considered acceptable when I was a kid. I masked and had to suppress my natural behaviors until I was alone... and it made me want to be alone all the time, and I developed agoraphobia. My stimming is not only communication but self-regulating sensory input because I have severe sensory issues. I hope more and more parents understand that stimming is good for neurodivergent people to be able to do.

This mom has definitely done her homework! Definitely gave her a follow on Instagram! Those kids are going to grow up into happy adults since they have such a supportive mother 🥰

This is wonderful! I personally never knew stimming was a display of happiness. Whenever I saw it in public I thought it meant the kid was in distress based on the parents and other people reactions. Thanks for educating us :)

@ReineDeLaSeine14

11 ай бұрын

Happiness and excitement are the only things that bring out my hopping stim. If you see me bouncing, I’m hyped about something!

@betsyb

11 ай бұрын

it can be a display of any intense emotion, good or bad! autistic people tend to have different stims for different emotions as well. for example, my brother flaps his hands when he’s happy/excited and pulls at his hair when he’s stressed/angry, but he vocal stims for both.

Thank you so much, Jessi for not just being an amazing mom but for being an advocate for all children and adults who are autistic. I'm autistic and it hurts me so much that I have seen parents of autistic children say that they are intentionally forcing their children to stop stimming, forcing their autistic child to look them in the eye so that their child will be "socially acceptable". I get angry at the ignorance and remind them they have no right to that kind of ownership over their child. Autism is not a curse to be stifled just because it looks different. God Bless you and your whole family ❤

@gasoline5071

11 ай бұрын

The.. chemicals.. 🤤🤤🤤🤤

I never thought I would understand why my Everlee loves to go around and around in circles in the middle of my kitchen and if I should stop her or not. I finally have peace about it and other questions that I secretly kept bottled up inside. Thank you!❤

@raea3588

11 ай бұрын

You should always reach out! I know it can be tough and isolating ❤God Bless you are not alone and you're doing awesome!

There was VERY LITTLE, if any treatment or services for Autism while my son was growing up. So, please DO NOT judge the parents who were doing the absolute best they could...with little to no help or understanding of Autism. You only make those parents feel bad for doing the best they could, and cause those children judge their parents for how they were raised...which actually does A LOT OF HARM! Please respect what we went through, so you can have what you have now for your children with Autism. We have to remember that things change over time...especially with how different disabilities are accepted by the population. I have 2 adult children with totally different types of autism. My son had a lot of stimming. But, society was completely unable to handle a lot of stimming during the time my son was growing up. The population went from 1 child in every 500-1000 children, to 1 in every 53 children in a very short amount if time. So, what the medical community, schools and the population has learned, they learned from our suffering from the complete lack of knowledge. You should all remember this when you make your short-minded remarks! You have no idea what it was like!

@1968catrece

11 ай бұрын

So true. Of course each generation learns more, but the problem is when they put down what others had to go through to help them get there. Every generation think they know better when it comes to raising kids(any kids) than the one before. The fact is there is no Perfect way to raise a child. We all do our best. Glad you did your best for the time.. By the way. My nephew is autistic. We did teach him not to stim, but after he stopped it he started doing so many other fun things in his life. He will be 18 in November and we love him so much...

@vaderladyl

11 ай бұрын

I have to agree. My mother had to deal with this back in the 70's when no one knew what it was. She did the best she could.

@tracyk3567

10 ай бұрын

This woman is just saying what works for her children and what research now says is best for the child. She’s not judging anyone from the past. She’s just trying to give scientifically-backed advice. It’s so hard to raise two children with autism, I think it’s awesome she is taking her precious time to try to spread the word.

Perhaps because my ASD is more on the high intellectual side, with less in the way of social skills and pair bonding, I wasn’t aware of the term Stimming, but there’s always something to know about this incredibly wide area of Neuro divergence, which is referred to as the spectrum. Both of these kids seem happy, so she must be doing something right….and I would say keep right on doing it, and don’t try to make them fit into a mold that they are not ready to fit into yet. Perhaps with some coaching I could’ve had an easier childhood, but in the 1950s people didn’t know a lot about this, and so I can’t really be angry at anybody or disappointed about how things worked along my road. You just have to do the best with what you have.

Your children are beautiful. Love them,they are happy healthy and safe. God bless them and keep them safe.

Stimming needs to be a little bit more accepted in the world. Of course, if a stim is harmful or really disruptive to others, it should be limited and replace with a more benign stim but if it’s just some hand flapping or little noises, why not?

@blackqweenmars

11 ай бұрын

@beatrixinchrist3355 bro what are you on about 💀 I’m not a doctor and I don’t sell herbs

Never stop a child from stimming....stimming is like a physical comfort blanket, the body needs to do it to feel ok.....i have a 'flapper' too....and side note, who stops their child from stimming????

Thank you for not stopping their stimming. I would literally get slapped in the face for my stims.

I love it when I see my kids jumping and flapping because it shows me they’re happy and seeing them like that makes me feel happy I let them be themself

And what a lot of people don’t know is that Stimming is NOT just something kids with autism do. I’ve had OCD my entire life and have stimmed since day one. I’m 34 now and it is much more manageable but my fingers still keep going non stop. But it doesn’t effect my daily life at all ❤.

@haannguyen4402

11 ай бұрын

Everyone stims! I have a friend (who is neurotypical) who always jiggled his right leg in class, especially during tests. He’s graduated summa cum laude and will go to university of Delaware this fall (become financial analyst)

@gasoline5071

11 ай бұрын

@@haannguyen4402 ding ding ding ding ding zir

@haannguyen4402

11 ай бұрын

@@gasoline5071 btw I told the guy that I’m autistic, and he was really nice about it. He said that his older sister (who graduated uni last year) babysat an autistic girl (level 2) when she was our age (he and I will turn eighteen this September)

@haannguyen4402

11 ай бұрын

@@gasoline5071 stimming is something everybody does! It’s just people on the spectrum can’t control theirs. I am autistic myself, but I didn’t have the more “classic” stims such as hand flapping or rocking. I was more hyperactive, and much of my stims was scripting/perseveration or twirling/spinning/banging objects, according to my AP Gov teacher

@haannguyen4402

10 ай бұрын

@@gasoline5071 mind you this man is a good guy. Once when he was jiggling his leg in Spanish class, the girl in front of him tried to take a jab at him, making the leg jiggling seems unnatural. He was like “What? I do this naturally!” Which is true, and he wasn’t the only student in our class who did it. I then came to his defense, saying “it’s not a bad thing”. Moral of the story: everyone stims, it’s just that neurotypical people don’t see it that way.

I’m autistic. I grew up thinking stimming was inherently bad. I am no longer ashamed of my stimming. I vocal stim, sometimes I flap my hands, I rock when stressed, and I do jumpy jumps and goofy dances when I’m very happy or excited. My autistic friend does similar things. We’re not really afraid to stim around each other. We carry fidget toys with us. The only time a stim should be redirected is if it’s detrimental to the wellbeing of the person or other people

@haannguyen4402

8 ай бұрын

But what if it’s disruptive? Say you’re in a classroom, and out of frustration you start making noise. Everyone gives you dirty looks what do you do??

Stimming is SO important for autistic mental health ❤️

Those two are the happiest little cuties I have seen🥰🥰

i am glad that she let's them do it

We never let other's opinions become our reality.... it's always what's best for the kids!

Yesssssss momma I see you! Mother of a 5 year old autistic child and I agree with her let them stim don't be embarrassed after all they're not embarrassed of you 😅 autism can be a beautiful thing and it can be a very hard thing to live with every day let them stand let them be happy let them get out their frustrations and a constructive way and if it's stimming so let them do it the studies are right they do need to do it they have no choice but to need to do it their brain tells them to do it the only stems I will suppress of my sons is when it's dangerous to himself or others

@gasoline5071

11 ай бұрын

Would you consider leaving on a red lamp in the bedroom and an oval light in the office and seeing which burns out first after a longtime, doing an experiment?

I whole heartedly agree with her. As an Autistic who wasn't diagnosed until age 32, I spent alittle more than half my life masking. Which led to countless shutdowns and meltdown due to the mental and physical exhaustion it takes to do so. We life and experience life in a different way and that's okay. We want to be engaged and part of the world but we need help to build the bridge to being a part of your world. Learning about Autism, patience and understanding will help us get to you.

The only stims that need to be stopped are the ones that are extreme or dangerous. I knew an 8 year old that would squeeze other people's hands so hard it was only a matter of time until he broke someone's hand. He needed to be taught to squeeze safe objects. Another kept hitting himself against the head with his knuckles and caused his skin to die and a serious wound. Extreme shrieking would be disruptive, but normal voice level vocalizations are not in most cases. At times, a person can be taught to go to their bedroom or an appropriate place if necessary. I knew a kid that learned to talk using Thomas the Tank. He started using the lines and adapting them to the situation. Instead of saying 'Thomas is running fast' he would substitute the person's name ie Dad is running fast. He is now in college living independently.

@lauriemumm3407

11 ай бұрын

My son who is Autistic/ADHD spoke "Thomas" for a couple of years after he learned to talk. He is 16, in regular classes with a para to help and doing fairly well.

I'm proud of this mother. 👏

@gasoline5071

11 ай бұрын

Round wart

@gasoline5071

11 ай бұрын

The.., CHEMICALS!!...

@Navi-cosplay-world

11 ай бұрын

@@gasoline5071no

@pinkpinkpink7717

11 ай бұрын

@@Navi-cosplay-worldWould you consider leaving on a red cloth regular table lamp in the bedroom and a tubular vintage oval bulb desk lamp in the office, and seeing which type of bulb burns out first after a while, "doing an experiment" ?

My 4 year old is a vocal stimmer and sometimes jumps when he’s excited or overstimulated. I’ve started jumping with him and he has the time of his life 😊

@CorvusMoon22

11 ай бұрын

That’s wonderful

I really wish my teachers had had your attitude and approach. Being shouted at and made to feel ashamed for being myself has played a large part in ending up as an adult with absolutely zero self esteem. You allow your kids to be themselves, and that's one of the greatest things any parent or teacher can do

I fully agree. I am an autsitic mom (I'm 48) with autistic children. Stimming can relieve energy as well as all she mentioned. I have never agreed with "Therapy" to stop children from stimming, it's very cruel and also gives the clear message that "there is something wrong with you that BOTHERS others so stop stimming." I don't care what others think, I'd rather have my kids self sooth or express their feels by stimming. As a child, my stims were twirling my hair, biting the skin around my nails. As a teen, I loved Snapple caps and also clicking pens. The 80s had lots of stim toys. lol I wasn't diagnosed till a year ago. I knew I thought differently from others, I always felt like an outsider or alien. I have been married for 22 years and yes, I drive a vehicle and have a regular job.

@haannguyen4402

9 ай бұрын

The only exception to this is if they are putting themselves or others in harms way (e.g. chewing on pencils (I did that as a child; is that pica?))

NEVER FIT THE MOLD OF WHAT "NORMALLY IS NORMAL" ❤ Best MaMa ever. Good for you.

Millennials are such good parents.🥺 Thank you for teaching them they don’t have to mask. It’s so exhausting to do so, even having a physical impact on my health. I pray your kids will grow up in a better world that’ll accept their super powers!

@gasoline5071

11 ай бұрын

chemistry

What a beautiful family!! ❤😊

My daughter is autistic. I let her stim. It regulates there emotions

You are amazing. My daughter is a nanny to twins that are autistic and all the unusual habits are easy to accept if you can see the world thru their eyes. Change is hard for them but a necessary part of living in this world. The more you do as a family, the more positivity will surround your entire family. Letting them comfort themselves is all Gods way of guiding them thru all the new and exciting experiences that are ahead of them. Gods Speed.

I don’t have autism but have grown up in a wheelchair. Despite not being able to walk, I still had lots of energy as a little kid, so one outlet I had for this was moving my feet around a lot whenever I was excited. My parents encouraged it as it was also a kind of exercise and form of expression for me. If I ever got in trouble at school for doing so, my parents were my greatest advocates.

The approach of SON RISE Autism therapy. "Joining in" and mirroring the Bx is the main approach!

Wow wonderful parents. You are the gift that makes the world better. I send you love and good vibes ❤️🙌🏾

Beautiful family!!!

Thank you

From an actual autistic, stimming, such as making funny and random noises, repeating quotes, and making odd motions, is also a way to harmlessly bleed off extra energy that we otherwise can't express through other means.

I'm so happy I came across this video. I didn't know about "Stimming" before now and I love and appreciate the importance of allowing neuro divergent children the freedom to express themselves how they need 🙏🥰 I'd like this even for neuro typical children as well, as it burdens my heart to see how they are made to fit into a type of "acceptable" mold rather than given the freedoms to express themselves how they individually need. How much more this is the case for neuro divergent children and must be supported and shared.

I always hated it working as an assistant and students would be told to stop stimming. They have to act “normal”. I didn’t last long before I quit.

@raea3588

11 ай бұрын

Good for you! ❤

Reword the title to “autistic children/kids” you got it right during the video!

Great mother right there. They're happy because they can be themselves because they have an awesome mother.

0:57 thank you!! It’s true everyone stims, and stimming is good and necessary

I agree 100%!

Parents, don't keep from taking your littles out because of their stimming. They're just being themselves, and that's okay. It's also nobody else's business. People will look, but who cares. Your kids is enjoying their day out, and you'll never see those people again ❤

I LOVE seeing kids stimming. It warms my heart. My nephew had autism and I love it when he does it. He does that same he makes noises and does the arm flapping too. I love to see it. ❤️

Normies shouldn't knock stimming till they try it.

I’m autistic and sometimes I slim. It shouldn’t be seen as weird. When I was younger it was more obvious but now it’s more masked. I am so happy for this mom letting her little boy live his best life ❤

I like what she talked about. My son is on the Autism Spectrum. I wish it was a way I could communicate with her and see other ideas she has.

It's great to see parents treating their children with Autism in a supportive way instead of parents getting angry or stressed out and upset. Let's remember that stemming is an outlet for emotions. Holding those emotions in can cause emotional stress on each individual with autism. I agree that as long as they aren't harming others or themselves, then let them stem.

I scripted as a child (HFA) monologue and play act. I’m glad she and her brother live in such free environment

He’s dancing with joy

This mom is awesome

I have 2 boys with autism and I always let them flap or vocal stimm How do you tell a person not to giggle when they see something funny or how do you tell someone not to Clapp when they are excited. Children with autism are happy and very intuitive. I love to see parents support their children with autism. I must say as they get older they find new ways to stimm I love my sons with asd #supportkidswithautism.

@MishaSkripach

3 ай бұрын

They have a long life ahead of them, by not parenting them properly you are ensuring their lifelong unhappiness. A child should be told not to giggle when giggling is inappropriate, and punished, if he does not obey this. This is how proper parenting works. Of course, if someone refuses to parent, their result of work will not be mentally healthy.

Love this story. What an amazing mama

@gasoline5071

11 ай бұрын

DI.. WORRY WART...

I get what it’s like to have teachers, therapists and providers trying to normalize me from not wearing a hood indoors, being told to read my books quietly to myself, to ceasing the British accent when I was in 5th grade. Normal and being neurotypical are boring. Scripting was one of the ways I learned how to talk. I feel teachers, therapists, and providers need an upgrade on their education to enable the stimming and know that normalizing is a definite no no for those on the spectrum.

Very good, mom! I agree in children being able to express themselves in whatever capacity it looks like for them ❤ (except, of course, violence towards others or self harm, which is a completely different topic, but these days clarity seems necessary)

We encourage nephew in doing this as well. He is a little honey and it is magic watching him do stuff that some would consider strange

I've never heard of parents trying to stop stimming. It's not something you can exactly stop, unless you want your child to get upset or to withdraw. There is an autistic kid in the preschool class I teach, and he scripts a lot! It's incredible the things he remembers and repeats! It's hard during naptime because he doesn't settle down like the other kids. He needs someone to put pressure on his back so he can settle down and relax, but he still scripts and makes a lot of vocal sounds. He'll sing and also think of funny things, so he'll laugh quite loudly when the other kids are trying to sleep. It's exhausting, so for mothers who have this every single day, all day, I tip my hat off to you!

@TheDuckClock

11 ай бұрын

This pressure used to be a lot more common in the 2010's and prior. Before the rise of the neurodiversity movement. Stimming used to be regarded as "very anti-social" and needed to be fixed. But we now know that's not the case. For me personally though. The pressure wasn't from my parents. But from my teachers.

@tracyk3567

10 ай бұрын

I’ve been in many classes with a few children being autistic. It’s amazing how the rest of the children can adapt to the stimming and extra noises just like they would fall asleep in front of a loud tv. They adjust much better than we can.

I sometimes do that..

I am 70 and am autistic. I respectfully disagree with this way of thinking. I look at this as learning to control your body. We all need to learn this to the degree that we can. Learning to control your body is not masking. Masking is trying to see the world through neurotypical eyes, which one cannot do if they have an autistic brain. We need to acknowledge if we are autistic. Everyone does things in the comfort of their own home that they would not do in public or it would be a chaotic world. Autistics are very capable of learning control to varying degrees and should be taught this and encouraged with patience and understanding along their journey ❤ ❤

@ReineDeLaSeine14

11 ай бұрын

I also think it depends on context. I’m not going to stim loudly in the grocery store, but in my own home and yard, I’m free to do what I wish. Some of us have more control over our bodies than others.

@lekat525

11 ай бұрын

@@ReineDeLaSeine14 ❤

@biancalande5450

11 ай бұрын

Well said❤️

@lekat525

11 ай бұрын

@@biancalande5450 ❤

@DieGurkenfresser

11 ай бұрын

Then you should understand that this is a spectrum and Not everyone can do it. Also masking is to prevent anything "autistic" to Show to the outside to fit in. While its not an issue for all, it Takes a toll on Others and then Others cant do it. You dont need to fit the Image of a perfekt human of the 50s. Its over

Some kids have stimming habits which end up harming themselves. Biting, chewing on lips, fingers, tugging or rubbing on ears. Both were things one out of 3 of my spectrum kids did while growing up. While he enjoyed classes, it was obvious he was stressed because he would come home with chewed / rubbed bloody lips and ears. Allowing it would not have helped him later in life. I would point out the physical harm and discomfort of the habit. Gave him something else like a stress ball, encouraged his belief he could get rid of ocd type behaviors if he finds they did not help his quality of life. Today he is 27, works part time and has no destructive or embarrassing stimming techniques which could interfere living in this world as an adult. He looks back now and is glad I pointed out his ability to master his self. One size does not fit all and these kids turn into adults.

My 15 year old is nonverbal with autism. I don't stop him from doing it either. Makes him happy and it isn't hurting anyone

Yeh for you. How lucky your kids have you for a mom!

@gasoline5071

11 ай бұрын

Hippity hoppity GET OFF my propuhtie

I think a parent needs to tell their child to behave to some extent, because those noises are irritating in public. But I would never insult anyone. We are all human.

Exactly. Exactly. ❤❤❤❤❤🙂👍

As someone who has worked with people with Autism for years, why would anyone want to stop stimming. I’ve never heard of this. Seems very cruel and unusual. Also counterproductive, I feel like the more a stim is stopped, the ‘worse’, bigger, louder, it might be later. As she said unless it is harming the person or others there is absolutely no need to stop stim’s.

@haannguyen4402

11 ай бұрын

Or if the stimming disrupts learning

@Charlotte-wx4jz

11 ай бұрын

@@haannguyen4402 what about it disrupting learning? Stop it if it disrupts it?

@haannguyen4402

11 ай бұрын

@@Charlotte-wx4jz teach them an alternative behavior (ex: replace jumping in place via redirect to trampolines)

@haannguyen4402

11 ай бұрын

@@Charlotte-wx4jz teach them an alternative behavior, such as squeezing a stress ball. Or if nonverbal, teach them to use AAC to communicate

@Charlotte-wx4jz

11 ай бұрын

@@haannguyen4402 you can’t teach stimming. You can redirect a stim but really this should only be done if it is having a detrimental impact on the child’s health and wellbeing or they are hurting others with their stims. Stimming helps people with Autism to regulate their sensory needs. Their body tells them what the stim needs to be to help with the sensory need, so if you are the stopping of changing that stim, that sensory need can’t be regulated properly.

There’s things you can do to calm them down if their in distress but if their not in distress and their just excited then let them be.

Someone else probably already said this, but the word "Stimma" in Swedish means make a noice, shoal. When you have some kids at home and they become a little too lively a parent sometimes tell them stop "stimma".

As an autistic person here I’m proud of that Mom, because people with autism they can’t help of what to doing so to anybody who gets annoyed by autistic people. My suggestion is IGNORE THEM because honestly average regular people out there annoy me more than autistic people!

You are a beautiful soul!

I wish I had a mom as understanding as you when I was a kid. My mom was very strict and gave me tons of rules to follow. I was never allowed to leave my room without permission, I wasn't allowed to speak to others or have friends outside of the family. I wasn't allowed outside without permission and being watched every second. I wasn't allowed to run around the house making a huge mess and tons of noise, I was to stay in my room and be quit and heaven forbid I try to sooth myself by doing some stimming I would be yelled at and forced to stop and told what I was doing was annoying and distracted and that grown ups don't do that so it's not allowed. I am a huge scripter. I have memories every Disney th show and movie by heart, the dialogue, the songs, the dance moves, the body movements, the hand guesters....but whenever I did it I would be hit and screamed at and forced to stop and he locked in my room for " being disruptive" and I would be punished and grounded......and worst part is that the kom who raised me l adopted me when I was just 4 months old....why would she adopt me and take me into her home and life and be a mom to me If she was just gonna be mean to me like that my entire life

@SonicGamerGirl2006

11 ай бұрын

Oh, gosh... I'm so sorry you had to go through such abuse. You deserve so much better than this. I hope you're doing better now, my friend. Your "mother" should have never adopted you in the first place, as she is clearly NOT fit to be a parent to begin with.

@raea3588

10 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry!

@candycanecones1097

2 ай бұрын

Wow I’m so sorry about what happened to you growing up! That mother sound like a freaking physcopath! I was definitely a scripter growing up and I still kinda script to this day when alone.

Omg 😮 if I had such beautiful children (I have no children), I would keep them away from social medias, I would've be scared that someone might kidnapp them 😅 the girl in particular, she's way too beautiful

My mom used to stim by flapping her hands, her parents and family basically abused it out of her. They treated her so shamefully. 😢

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Hello, I want to watch your videos from Turkey, but there is no Turkish translation video, can you please add it?

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I love my sons stims. Id never even consider stopping him.

yes, as all parents should, unless the stims are harmful

I don’t have a problem with this except at a performance ( concert, play, etc). I just don’t think it’s fair to the hard working people on the stage. There are also other members of the audience who probably spent a lot of money. I suppose if it’s a kid’s show like the Wiggles it would be fine. However at something like Wicked it wouldn’t be appropriate.

I let my son hop and flap his arms too his hearts content, he's verbal and very low on the spectrum but he's a flapper my little love.

@ravinj8625

11 ай бұрын

I ask my daughter where is she flying to 😆.

@mrsmack5808

11 ай бұрын

My school aged son is hasn't been diagnosed though he did finally have his first evaluation recently. He is verbal (early talker with a huge vocabulary) and has always been a jumper and flapper. Behaviors that can be harmful I agree need to be stopped but I've defended him to a few people about his jumping. I try to encourage him to pay attention to the kind of space he has because sometimes he will be really close to people, blocking someones view of the TV or potentially be in an unsafe or excessively noisy spot on the floor. To ask him to stop completely feels wrong and though it doesn't define him it's a behavior that in my house is unique to him. He has done it since before he could walk.

What do you mean by "scripting"? Can you give an example?

@6240tv

11 ай бұрын

It’s the repetition of words phrases or sounds from other peoples speech . My example would be in the movie aliens when the character refers to newt while speaking to ripely “ why don’t you put her in charge “ this was scene after quite a few of the marines ( I think ) were killed by the alien and ripely referred to this little girl survived on her own or perhaps this example will help better bugs bunny “ what’s up doc “? I think more people have watched bugs bunny compared to movie aliens I hope this helps you edited for typing errors sorry

@MartyLawless-kh2jd

11 ай бұрын

@@6240tv Thank you.

No parent of an autistic child Should Ever Shame stims because then they are asking for more meltdowns. Seriously I know. I'm autistic. And fidgets help autistic people find other ways to stim too.😊 we are Highly unique people and should be respected for our differences Not shamed and belittled.

@christins.1481

11 ай бұрын

I've been working with autism on and off for 20 years. Stimming is allowed for joy but then I teach them to calm down afterwards. Regular tantrums are OK to express but only briefly and are coaxed into stopping, but that depends on the severity too. Some are just too violent for tantrums and have to be taught another form of expressing displeasure. Spitting was met with being told "no" and taught to clean it up and hitting was taught you're not supposed to do strike people. You don't fully allow it but you also don't completely mask it. It's about finding the right balance for each individual as autism is different.

@christins.1481

11 ай бұрын

I've worked with a few kids that were severe and it surprised their parents that their kids could function fairly normally when the parents were taught how to listen.

@rachelk2457

11 ай бұрын

@@christins.1481 oh I am aware that violent meltdowns are best to redirect. And meltdowns are Not tantrums, because they have a reason for doing them. It's triggered by sensory overload. It's actually ableist to call autistic meltdowns, tantrums. I used to work with autistic students all along the autistic spectrum. It broke my heart when they did self harm meltdowns. One basically did it because it seemed he had great shame in some of his actions which were probably his parents shaming him. So actually some of their severe meltdowns were triggered by their parents. I think the best way to redirect a harmful to self or others meltdowns is giving them a fidget that can calm them down. Especially finding a fidget they like. 😁

@rachelk2457

11 ай бұрын

@@christins.1481 also it is not "severe" autism, it is autism that is more impacting their life. Putting negative words to autism is considered ableist by the autistic community, people with autism.

@gasoline5071

11 ай бұрын

Good luck with that in the real world. I'm sure not hiring you after your statement too

Stimming is a part of who an autistic person is no need to hide it at all.

I’m autistic so I understand 100%

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As a 70 year old my question is what is causing the frightening dramatic increase in a condition that was so rare and unseen when I was young, but is now becoming ubiquitous? I don't buy into the idea that improved diagnostic criteria accounts for it, except maybe in minimal cases, because I never saw it growing up, but now it's like a pandemic! Kids were rarely sick back then unlike today, be it allergies, asthma, ADHD, diabetes, obesity, the list goes on and on. We live in a toxic culture... processed and fast food lacking nutrients, pollutants and chemicals, pharmaceuticals, plastics, and on and on, and our children are paying the price!

@jamiethal1319

11 ай бұрын

You didn’t see it because those kinds of people were usually locked away somewhere as soon as it was discovered they were “ different. “

@CharGC123

11 ай бұрын

@@jamiethal1319 Maybe to a degree, but we lived in a very connected community where everyone knew everyone else, including the "shut-ins", and it was not an issue. My sister and SIL worked for the state department of developmental services where "those kinds of people were usually locked away", and saw it all, but not there either. Even the now common illnesses in kids were nearly absent then. In the early 1960's we had one part-time nurse for our entire sizeable elementary school, who mostly doled out band-aids and did the routine lice checks. Now my grandkids small school has a medical staff that manages a plethora of illnesses and medications for potentially deadly allergies and asthma, behavioral issues, diabetes, and on and on. Trust me, things have changed and all these lame excuses are a distraction from the fact that there something(s) gone terribly wrong!

@ngs5554

11 ай бұрын

You hit the nail on the head. It will continue to get worse until parents wake up and demand better.

@gigahorse1475

11 ай бұрын

I think the main answer is that social media brought better awareness. There are tons of women being diagnosed with both autism and ADHD in their late teens and even in their 50s, because it wasn’t considered something that affected women back then. A lot of these women would have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety, though it was autism the whole time. As a side note, there are associations between lead exposure and autism, as well as birth control and autism. That’s why I don’t want to use birth control. I’m afraid it will cause problems for my kids if I have any (I have autism and I’m fine with having autistic children, but I don’t want to GIVE them autism).

@DieGurkenfresser

11 ай бұрын

They were Not rare in your Generation 😂 Just Not Diagnosed , force to fit the mold or Just locked up. After all it was considered shameful to have someone Not perfect in your Family. Just ignoring that topic, all shshsh

Why would anyone think it's ok to stop their autistic child from stimming? I don't understand the point of the piece...? My son, now an adult with autism, has never been prevented or encouraged to stop stimming either by family or by educators, but that's here in the UK so maybe it's different?

@CorvusMoon22

11 ай бұрын

Everyone stims to a degree, even neurotypical people. It’s just more noticeable in folks with adhd or autism. If someone prevents another person from stimming they are a hypocrite(unless the stim is physically harmful of course)

This is on the news… people are so stupid to believe stimming is wrong to the point where it’s like BREAKING NEWS ITS OK TO STIM

I remember being told to put my kids on ritalin! I was like they're kids they have more energy than adults. Kids grew up just fine and many people are drawn to their bubbly personalities They're not autistic but it just goes to show how many people try to get you to do as they think things should be done! Busy bodies 🙄