It's so frustrating as a former foster youth to hear the same issues we had 30 years ago STILL being issues. We always seem to have money in the US until it comes to kids; be it schools, teacher support and fostercare. So frustrating!

@CHLOCHLOLP

3 жыл бұрын

and then people wonder why so many kids (foster and not foster) grow up to be dysfunctional adults lmao

@kdkay4039

3 жыл бұрын

Money is not the problem, it’s who’s getting the money that is. I hate this for the children, they deserve better.

Families who take in foster kids for the right reasons are amazing! I used to work in a daycare and I remember this one girl that came in that was in foster care and she was so angry but for some reason I was able to connect with her. What bothered me was that this little girl would come into daycare everyday with clothes that were too small and her hair unbrushed and messy. My coworker bought elastics and brushed her hair everyday and the foster mom would claim that this girl wouldn't let her brush her hair and refused to wear anything else yet when she was in respite for the foster mom to go on vacation she came every day with her hair brushed and in clothes that fit her. Then when she was back in the original foster home it was back to clothes not fitting and hair not being brushed. I am not sure what actually happened but I know that she ended up being investigated and the child was removed from her care and she told us that will no longer be fostering.

I'm a social worker in Australia and I find it wild that there is competition for placements. We're so lucky if we can find 1 placement for 1 child let alone siblings. You guys do an amazing job!

@seattlegirl2077

3 жыл бұрын

In her area perhaps that is true but not in others. We have just as much problem in the USA I suspect as you do.

I also suspect there's a problem with what you've previously described that there's multiple private agencies competing for each case. It's problematic when they have a profit incentive because it means the numbers matter more than what's best for each child.

@Nimeariel

3 жыл бұрын

Profit almost always wins out at the end of the day, no matter WHAT the situation is, sadly. Numbers almost ALWAYS matter more than satisfaction/what's best. It's beyond sad.

@teijaflink2226

3 жыл бұрын

It's really disgusting to me that companies can make money from children who are suffering 🤮 I'm so sick of hearing stuff like this.

@triciasuglian4507

3 жыл бұрын

Foster parents can work for the county, they don't need to work for an agency. Agencies, of course, pay more. If you work for the county, you'll have non-stop placements. At least that is how it is where I live.

@amys5669

3 жыл бұрын

@@triciasuglian4507 She said in one of her videos the county she lives in has no licensed homes. They only place kids with private agencies. It's so strange how different it is all over the US! Where I am, you can choose county or private agency. Most of the private agencies deal with therapeutic cases (our county closed therapeutic homes/doesn't do them anymore) or cases from neighboring larger cities.

I was in care in GA for 10 years, and there were times when there were 10 or more kids in a home. Sometimes we were 4 beds to a room.

@BeTheVillageCommunity

3 жыл бұрын

That is terrible to hear 💔

The LGBTQ situation you talked about really made me upset and angry. I’m very Christian but I strongly believe that when you decide to have children you should love them unconditionally. Thinking about a child being put into care Bc of their gender identity or sexuality is unimaginable. Everyone is their own person and everyone should be loved no matter who they are. Such a devastating situation.

@BeTheVillageCommunity

3 жыл бұрын

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

@kbutler7692

3 жыл бұрын

The world needs more yous.

@persiusk

3 жыл бұрын

Love!

@abbyk9517

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@charliethomlin6434

3 жыл бұрын

I totally agree. I'm also a Christian and it hurts to see lgbt kids treated differently, especially because often the people who look down on them are "Christians". Everyone is valid and worthy of love. Every. single. person.

I do appreciate how you explain everything. I never really considered how this all works. I’m so glad you are trying.

I hate how money is more important than the child's best interest in these situations! That shouldn't be happening! Would it be at all possible to be registered at both counties? I love to see how open-minded you guys are to so many different types of people! As a member of de LBGTQ+ community myself, I know important families like yours are! Thank you

@Nimeariel

3 жыл бұрын

Sadly, money is often "more important" in a lot of situations relating to children or relating to "morals/ethics/the-sensible-thing vs money". Or, just in general, nowadays. Companies, organizations, and anything relating to money is so hyper-focused on saving a penny or earning a penny RIGHT NOW they forget to look at the bigger picture and look at what "the people" (customers, clients, employees, hosts, etc) need and want that will ultimately save them money or earn them MORE money in the LONG TERM.

@amymenjivar3489

3 жыл бұрын

@@Nimeariel I don't think it is always money as much as practicality. She is getting so many placement calls which means many kids in care. Agency can't coordinate transportation to school and visits for that many kids. COVID makes things more difficult, too. My county (not Ohio) is approximately an hour+ drive north/to south if traffic is moving. Workers will place closer to the general area *within* our county. Often they also place where they think visits will take place (visitation center, mall or library pre covid etc). Workers helping with transport has to get the child, take to visit, and return child to family or daycare. It's all about convenience b/c there's so much planning that goes into the smallest thing. For instance, workers have to reserve car seats for little kids for visitation. They often want the families to help with visits but that isn't always realistic. A worker told me if I took a baby placement I'd have to drive to 2 visits a week which would equal 4 hours X 2 = 8 hours- a whole work day between driving and 2 hour visits. That's not realistic for working parents.

@BeTheVillageCommunity

3 жыл бұрын

We are actually licensed at the state level so can get calls for every county.

@Nimeariel

3 жыл бұрын

@@amymenjivar3489 Yes, convenience may be the other issue. You're right it may not always be practical to transport kids to/from somewhere far BUT if they're willing to make the call to even SUGGEST that they'd be a good fit, then they should at least make the effort to arrange transportation or other needs. Why even call and ask if they'd be okay with a placement if they aren't willing to work out arrangements? Might as well just not even ask in the first place if it comes down to that.....

I love how open and honest you are about your frustrations. Keep on keeping on. You are changing so many lives, not just the beautiful children you take in

You know you have so much to offer and it’s sad like you said that some of these foster parents are not in it for the right reasons so you would love to know the children are in good hands. You are so selfless it’s amazing. 🙏🏽

Hearing your voice shake when you were talking about that LGBTQ+ teenager made me tear up. You truly are such a light in what can sometimes be a very dark world. I've said this before on one of your videos but there's a song by Wrabel called "The Village" and I really feel like your family is out there fixing the village 💜 good luck with getting your next placement

So happy to hear the love and support in your voice. I am sure it is hard to not be picked. Any kiddo would be lucky to have you.

Damn. The Lgbtq thing hits close. I'm 19 and feel lucky to have already been of age when I realised I was a lesbian. I know I won't be welcome home anymore either once I'm coming out but I'm gonna be able to get my own place to live and fall back on the support of my wonderful friends instead of being placed in the system. It's making me so happy to see how supportive you guys are of these kids. We really need more families like yours❤️

@BeTheVillageCommunity

3 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️

I’m in rural Ky and our home opened up on a Tuesday and I received a call on Thursday to take 3 siblings in. Real quick. We are 25 minutes to town.

Bowl-oh-nays! 💗 🍝 Great video btw. Thank you for all you do. It’s why I want to be a foster, help the kids who did nothing wrong but be born to a family who maybe wasn’t fully ready or prepared. We all need a little support sometimes. 💕

At the 10:40 mark, watching you tear up... I was 17 when I was kicked out. I came out as a lesbian, and then a couple of years later as a trans man. I spent several years moving from state to state, getting into online relationships and very dangerous situations to keep from living on the streets. At one point, I was homeless. My family's "love" for me only matched my willingness to be the person that they thought I should be. Before I was even born, they had my life mapped out for me. Any effort to be myself that caused me to stray outside of that box was meant with belittlement, discouragement, criticism, and denial of love. I felt worthless, discarded, and have been told explicitly that I'm an embarrassment and a failure. I still feel those things. I still wonder how anyone could ever love me. I cut off my family in January, and mailed them letters as I literally left my apartment to hit the road to get top surgery. When my obituary is read one day, there will be no family to speak of, just the fur kids I have at the time. That was 13 years ago. Those wounds haven't healed; they opened up again and are bleeding all over the broken pieces of my heart. I wish every person had family that loved them without condition. I wish everyone knew how beautiful and loved they are. I wish everyone coukd give themselves permission to take up space in this world and to be their authentic selves. The world needs more people like you guys. Anyone who has a child and refuses to love them unconditionally doesn't deserve that child.

@emmayeager5864

3 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️

@HannahThompson

3 жыл бұрын

Sending you love! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤💗

@hc2435

3 жыл бұрын

i wish you all the love in the world, you truly deserve it 😢 💕

Keep it up. You are doing wonderful. I am a former foster parent and I totally understand what you are going through. You have a new subscriber and supporter. Hugs and love. Keep moving forward.

I’m only 18 and definitely have a long way to go before I am ready for any children, but you’ve made me want to foster so bad! I think it’s so important to have foster families that support reunification and are committed to keeping the child connected to their family of origin. ❤️

I feel like your home would be such a welcoming place for lgbtq youth, I never ever heard any judgement in your voice in all the time I followed you. I wonder what happens if these kids are placed in a very anti-lgbtq family. Can they ask for a different foster family?

@laurenheim8175

3 жыл бұрын

When you get licensed, you choose whether you would want to accept a lgbtq child. So because of that they shouldn’t be placed with a family who is anti lgbtq.

@BeTheVillageCommunity

3 жыл бұрын

They can (and should) discuss that with their caseworker and anyone on their care team. And damn I hope they do

@cait812

3 жыл бұрын

@@laurenheim8175 Wait?? They let you foster if you're anti? Wow. You'd think that would be a sigh they're a bad fit.

@maddyspinks

3 жыл бұрын

@@laurenheim8175 people who are anti lgbtq+ could probably say that they would accept lgbtq+ kids and not tell their agency that the reason they will accept an lgbtq+ kid is because they believe that they can help them ‘pray away the gay’ or what ever you want to call it, which is ridiculous because lgbtq+ people are born the way that they are just like strait and/or cis gender people are born the way that they are.

@JustPeachy998

3 жыл бұрын

@@maddyspinks It's so infuriating that there are still people in this world who are cool with identifying as 'anti' LGBTQ+. As if someone wakes up one day "Oh! Today is the day I choose my sexuality! Hmm, you know, I think I'm going to make life extra difficult, open myself up to blind hate, discrimination & a very real potential for violence. I'm going to be [L/G/B/T/etc]!" HOW CAN YOU BE AGAINST SOMETHING SOMEONE HAS ZERO CONTROL OVER?! It makes as much sense as being 'anti' brunette hair or 'anti' big feet. Ugh, sorry for the rant, it just breaks my heart. I do believe there will be progress with each generation as the science gets clearer & the myth about this being a choice is stomped out, but like all forms of discrimination, will never fully stop.

I freaking love y'all. Keep saying yes.

I have to say your hope and sprit is so amazing. I am shocked that they wouldn't want to place with you, but keep up your sprits, for one day they will say yes to you. thank you for sharing your journey and i want to say your heart is in the right place. hope you didn't mind me commenting.

Oof you got me in tears about the lgbtq teen. I hope they are safe.

@malina1239

3 жыл бұрын

It had me in tears too. As a mother I can’t fathom ever stopping loving you child or putting conditions on the love.. my ex husband was Muslim , when we had just married and had my baby a war broke out in the country he had fled from. His mother and younger brother (18) was stuck there and we had no idea if they were alive or not. When my baby was a week old I was watching the news while breastfeeding. Suddenly I saw my brother in law on tv in a refugee camp . I contacted Red Cross and our Gouvernement and managed to get him to come live with us as an asylum seeker. After a while I realized my bil was gay. My husband freaked out when I asked him about it and said that if he was he would no longer be recognized as part of their family . During the next few years I managed to communicate to my bil that I knew and accepted him as he is. As he learnt to speak my language we could talk about it , and I understood his devastation and frustration and how scared he was. Eventually he ( after I had left my husband because he turned out to be violent ..) got a boyfriend and my ex found out.. that ended really messy and he sent his own now grown brother back to a 3 world country to live with his mother and never tell anyone about this ever.. as the head of the family and main provider of income , he can decide anything for his family. I have kept in touch with my former bil and his life and loneliness totally breaks my heart. Luckily that’s the only experience I have with lgbtq youths not being accepted . I know it happens even more often in US than over here and it’s just devastating 😔 every child deserve unconditional love and care and having all their needs met.

I’m 23 and I’ve been watching your channel since before you had Miss A. Saying I aspire to be like you is an understatement 😂

I get and understand your frustrations. Y'all are such a caring family and it will happen. It will be in God's timing with the right placement for you and for them. Stay strong 😘

@BeTheVillageCommunity

3 жыл бұрын

It will be in the timing of the family and children, depending when we are a match.

Hope you get a place soon cos honestly you guys seem like great parents both bio and foster. :)

I'm glad your county wants to keep the kids close! In my county (in Georgia), a lot of foster kiddos I've seen with work (I work in daycare) actually come from other counties and have to change schools. The most recent ones lived about 2 hours away and got moved but had to go 2 hours one way for visitations...They recently got moved again but I'm not sure where they went this time ):

Y’all are such amazing people. You have the best intention of the kids. I wish more people had your outlook and heart.

It's wild to me that some places don't want to offer transportation to children. I grew up in the greater Seattle area I was homeless/living out of district in high school my school offered transportation assistance the minute they found out (they offered to reimburse my mom for gas or have a service drive my brother and I to school).

@seattlegirl2077

3 жыл бұрын

Living in Burien and in an elementary school that was the norm that I experienced too. Best wishes to you.

We are in a similar boat. Our county and the other neighboring county don't have many kids in care, and the counties that do, are further away and would mean the kids are in vans by themselves 1.5-2.5 hours a day going to and from school. They don't want to pay to transport and they don't want to transfer the kids. So it's sort of a frustrating situation all around.

Here is Oregon we foster and they transport these kids all over the place. It is really hard to find foster families. I hope that you get the kids who need to be in your home soon.

Thank you so much for being open to kids with all different orientations.

@BeTheVillageCommunity

3 жыл бұрын

Wouldn’t think of having it any other way.

@seattlegirl2077

3 жыл бұрын

@@BeTheVillageCommunity Such a wonderful response. My daughter - now grown - is gay. Had total acceptance within our extended family but some of her friends it was another story with theirs. We ended up with a couple of them informally for short periods of time. I"m sure your home would be a wonderful fit for someone that will join you in the future.

We are in the same situation. We got licensed November 2 and have had probably 10 or so placement calls that we have said yes to and we still haven’t had our first placement. They are also telling me location. I’m trying to stay positive but it is frustrating. We just want to help and be a loving family and we aren’t even getting the opportunity to.

It’s so frustrating when a county worries more about the money than the best thing for the child. Praying the right fit comes along soon.

We've had a couple times in the past where we fostered kiddos that they had to be driven for school and they did not like it. They hated the longer drives and being away from their friends and area.

I’ve considered fostering but I am very rural and have a biological child who requires a lot of my time and energy already. Also, we’re atheist, which shouldn’t matter since we would respect the family’s own faith and culture, but it does to a lot of people :(

@BeTheVillageCommunity

3 жыл бұрын

I hear you. We are atheist as well and it hasn’t interfered at all. But take care of your little one ❤️

From my experience with the transportation companies they are very understaffed and very hard to deal with when needing to be used daily. Kids being stuck at school 1-2 hours waiting for the transportation to show. Parents at home not informed why their kids aren't dropped off and panicking. It's also hard to decide how to use the extremely limited funds allotted for the foster care system. Either way it is extremely frustrating that they're are kids needing homes and and safe supportive homes sit empty. That said I feel confident it won't stay empty it might just not happen on the time table your hoping. (Then likely you get a flood all at once).

@ryanm7249

3 жыл бұрын

You said it perfectly! I am completely blind and need to take paratransit which is part of RTA, and that is just as bad! You have a half hour window which they can pick you up, and then they give you an entire tour of the city to the point where you're sometimes on the bus for about 2 hours when your destination is only 20 minutes away. That's because Ohio spends 46 cents on transportation per person a year as aposed to other states that spend a little more. Luckily in Ohio there is a group called All Aboard Ohio that is an advocate for us and tries to get things fixed. There needs to be a grooup that does the same for foster kids and pushes senators to focus on the home rather than simply money.

Oof! Totally fair to be frustrated by the logistics! It's hard to be ready to accept a kid and already care about them and then be like whoops nevermind 🙃 you phrased it so well.

You are right, money should never be the issue. The children should be what matters. In the UK, kids are automatically given transport to get to and from schools, and where possible if the sibling group is broken up they are transported to and from school together so at least they have some contact.

Just keep your heart open

I can see and hear the love in your voice talking about the kiddos, I hope that you're matched soon so that you can share that love 💗

I'm just amazed other states have a surplus of foster homes! My state does not, we have a massive shortage and it's impossible finding good homes within reasonable distances from the child's home. Also wanted to play Devils advocate and say that there's a million factors we consider in placement decisions. But I also know that doesn't lessen the frustration. Hang in there! And move to my state if you want placements, I've got plenty I'm searching for right now :)

The right kid or kids. Will place with when the time right you will be great foster family to that kid/kids

Hoping you guys have new kiddos soon. You guys do an awesome job. Hav a good nite, 🌛

You guys are a wonderful foster family.

I love your channel! I have been a fan since the very beginning. We got our first placement. Social worker was in contact until she did the placement. Now We cannot reach her and same issue trying to keep placement at school of origin. We just drive ourselves it is too frustrating working with the county.

@BeTheVillageCommunity

3 жыл бұрын

Stay tough!

It truly sounds like they are placing money and other factors above the child's needs. These kids need the absolute best homes so it is complete bull shit that they doing this. I think the best home should be chosen above costs. It cannot be THAT bad to pay for school transportation. My school was 35 minutes away from my home because I went to a private school and the drive was no big deal. Before I could drive, sitting in a car that long was no issue at all. I can totally understand your frustration and sincerely hope a child who needs you is placed with you. Wishing you all the best.

@richnroll515

3 жыл бұрын

The best home may have been chosen? Just because she didnt get the kids doesnt mean theyve been left to rot.

Listening to you talk about a LGBTQ teen being kicked out of their own home made me cry. I just don't understand that one. Sending positive thoughts out to the universe, to whoever and wherever they are, that they find love and acceptance and people who love them as they are.

Your my kind of girl! Just saying... You are an amazing person. I love this video- I wish you had a mansion so you could just take them all in. Seriously- you rock!! Just know that you will have a full house soon enough- unfortunately we don’t know the big plan, but we do know it’s right. Whomever ends up in your care is going to be just fine!!! Keep up all the hard work and don’t ever stop crying- it means you care!!

Aww this breaks my heart 😭 I am a Mum to a teenage identified LGBTQI daughter and I couldn’t think of a better home than yours🥰 I just hope that the family they are in will empower them and lift them up as they deserve to be 🏳️‍🌈💕

Even siblings times have totally different workers for everything. It is very stressful.

I work in the foster care system in Texas and it is completely different... probably because it’s a lot more rural. It’s rare that a child entering the foster care system keeps the same school or even the same city. Especially for safety reasons, if the child kept the same school there’s a chance the people being investigated / possibly facing criminal chargers could get to the child. Even if it’s a child who’s awaiting possible kinship care, they go into an emergency shelter (which they are in random locations, no guarantee there’s one within an hour or two of any given place) for 30 days, with extensions available in certain cases. If a child is there for a week or so, they won’t attend school- if the child isn’t able to go to kinship care, case workers will look into long term facilities / foster homes and get the paperwork started for school. It’s crazy to think the reason no children are coming to your home just due to location. There should be state licenses for foster care not counties- there is such a lack of foster care homes compared to the children who need them. I hope they fix the system because this is horrible for you guys and foster parents and definitely for these sweet babies needing you! :(

THAT'S MY FAVORITE HELLOFRESH MEAL SO FAR!

Hello! I work for foster care in your neighboring state of Indiana. I'm not sure how ESSA is completed in Ohio, but here the moment that it is determined that it is in the best interest of the child to remain in their school of origin, it is the school's responsibility to provide and pay for transportation. They are allotted a set amount of time (10 days I think) to get this transportation arranged. I'm currently fostering a teen and we have transportation set up through ESSA with the school. He has a 30 minute drive to his school from our home.

@simplyevette1303

3 жыл бұрын

Hey! I also a single foster mom to teenage girls in Florida and work for the department of Education. You’re absolutely right. ESSA is in place for all states to ensure foster kiddos are able to stay in their school of origin. Transportation must be provided by the school district if the distance is within reason. It’s important to note that foster parents have a say during ESSA staffing meeting and must push for what’s in the best interest for the kids and their schedules. The only time transportation will not be provided is if the school is within walking distance regardless of foster care placement. Also, know that with ESSA the district must enroll that kid in regardless of if you have the necessary paperwork or medical documentation. A lot of districts do not understand the laws that govern foster care. I’ve realized that I’ve had to train them in understanding ESSA and trauma informed IEP consideration. It’s sad.

@BeTheVillageCommunity

3 жыл бұрын

Last time I had this battle with school versus county agency, no one seemed to know what they were talking about and kept pushing blame. There needs to be better communication regarding these acts/laws.

I love your heart!

Take heart and know that the right child(REN)will be placed by you. Have you thought about being a young mothers speciality home, or LBGQ home, if your heart lies there. I know many teens fall through the cracks as they are 15 when they have their babies and so they age out of care at 16. My son went through the care leavers independence program as he was taken into care during my admission to hospital. He was a young 17. By his own admission it was the best thing that ever happened. He was in a group home and then a flat before moving for work. But for the overseers of his care, including mentors, for both personal growth and career growth his future may not have looked as good as it is now. Just saying how these youngsters really need support and I think you and John would be great at coaching independence, without stereotyping or prejudice.

You guys really make me want to foster someday. I want to have kids of my own but I don’t really want to go through the process of pregnancy. I want to give a better life to kids that are in need and I know that fostering is a great way to do that.

Its not about the kids with the state. But people don't realize it until they actually get put in a situation to see that its not.. it's all about money money money, don't care about the kids overall best interest. You and your husband is the greatest. I'm happy you aware of exactly what this video is about. that's why kids seem to always have behavior issues, get molested, and just grow up unhappy because they get placed anywhere just because.

@ryanm7249

3 жыл бұрын

Couldn't have said it better!

This is not even about other families being better, so many kids need a home and you guys would be such a good home!

I understand your frustration in the situation. It is so out of your control and it is a helpless situation to be in. You just have to hope that the case workers really are putting the child first and are making the best decisions for these kids. I can understand not wanting to remove them from their home school but making the decision to move a child to “less better fit” home that is closer in proximity to their school purely on financial reasons doesn’t sit well with me. That isn’t the best for the child. I guess in the meantime all you can do is continue to learn about different types of traumas, disabilities, and health issues kids can be dealing with and educate yourself on how best to navigate these challenges so your family can be the best fit for any child that comes into your home when you are finally chosen. There is always more to learn and you can never be over informed. You guys seem like an amazing family that is really in it for the kids and I’m sure will be a great home for the next child who comes into your care. Use this time to rest and mentally prepare yourself for the challenges that are ahead and make yourself as strong as you can! You are doing amazing and I’m sure the universe has a specific child in mind that it knows needs you and you need them in your family.

@beautyizeasy

3 жыл бұрын

I have an unrelated question also that I think might be an interesting topic for a Q&A video (I apologize if you already answered it in a different video). But basically I am wondering how “play dates” and sleepovers and having friends over works in foster care. (This is speaking in the future when covid is no longer a concern and things go back to “normal”). If you had a teenager in your care could they spend the night over at a friend’s house for a birthday sleepover? Could they invite a friend to stay over at your house? When Darcy and Sawyer are older are they allowed to have play dates/sleepovers at your house while there are foster children in your care? What are the rules on having a niece or nephew/other family member spend the night or come over while you have foster children in your care? I have always wondered this and I’m sure it’s different depending on your state/county but I remember kids always having sleepovers growing up as birthday parties and just on normal weekends and I would think it would be a tricky thing to navigate getting permission on so I just wondered how it worked. Hopefully that question made sense!!

I’m so sorry about your frustrations! It seems really upsetting to deal with. I just want to say it might also be aligned with Covid protocols. For instance, In HeadStart and low income programs around where I live, transportation is not being provided due to possibility of exposure. So HeadStart parents were surveyed if they wanted their children to return to in person services. It follows certain safety measures, etc. but NO TRANSPORTATION OF ANY KIND will be provided. If you agree to let your child come back and they turn out symptomatic you must answer your phone and pick your child up immediately. No staff can drive company cars for any reason, etc. So, it may be that transportation is harder to come by and also not included in safety protocols due to Covid. I’m not sure if that helps any, but just thought I would put it out there!

You trying to say bolognese melts ma damn heart

I understand how transportation can be an issue, and your lucky perhaps that they will even consider providing it to a child whose residence chances, do to any circumstances. Most often, in most school districts transportation services are reserved for special needs children who classroom needs may be at a school not clos to their home and so on. Foster children do not usually fall into this category unless they also have a physical or mental, development disability and are often looked at in the same a child whose parents decide to move the family home during the year - the child can continue at the school they started the year in but the parents have to provide transport for the reminder of that year and the the child is expected to change schools. Transport just for the number of special needs children can be very expensive to a school system as they may need special vans hired that can handle their mobility aids and some transportation requires the country's to actually pay for medically qualified transport and that can get very costly. True the federal government does pay a portion of the money needed to special needs children, but they do not for foster care children's and this means that county is totally paying out of their own funds to provide transportation to a non special needs child without an IEP that designates transportation services. sadly this means that the money coming to pay the bill for non special needs child to get transported back to their original school will actually cut into the budgeting and funding of transportation for the special needs children. I realize things can differ from state to state but what does not change is what one state gets from the Feds is the same for all states. What is another possible solution that may work is to look around at other children's charities in your area that maybe willing to offset the transportation cost if the child needs to be transported to remain in the same school. That is what happens here in most cases so that transportation normally covered for special needs kid was not impacted, a church or charity agreed to sponsor one or more foster kids school transportation

Ball-ohh-naze (that is how it sounds) I always breaker things down to remember lol.

@kelly1827

3 жыл бұрын

Our Italian friends pronounce it more like "bowl-un-yaise"

@MizSazz

3 жыл бұрын

@@kelly1827 thats how i say it in Australia

If I were in that situation I would go so far as to go to the county myself and express concerns like that, because they need to hear it! More than likely none of the people in Ohio government positions has experience with foster placement so it is irrelavent to them.

I feel you. Your home would be my first choice. 💜🌈💜

This makes me roll my eyes. The county us passing on a great home for a bad reason and not doing what is best for the kid. We have had open beds for weeks because indiana passed new reccomendations that we not remove kids from homes so much. Im not for splitting up families but this is a dangerous line to walk.

$$$ it usually is about money unless someone has broken down their care. No where to go? Here you go... the right fit is coming ♥️

Thinking on this, depending on the county requirements for the social worker to do home visits it could be that the social workers on the case don't want to or don't feel like they could make visits to your place work. Once again not what is best for the child or family but just another possible reason you are being passed up.

@daschwarz1649

3 жыл бұрын

I bet its the system or a worker. That was my experience why " Suddenly " I wasnt need. They found out I was gay.

🥰LOOKS SO GOOD!!!!!🥰

@BeTheVillageCommunity

3 жыл бұрын

It really was!

Did the three siblings fall through? I watched your TikTok from yesterday and it seemed like a for sure placement😕

@AilinnS

3 жыл бұрын

I'm wondering how they are doing too, update soon?

@michellerobinson5677

3 жыл бұрын

I think this video might have been filmed before the siblings. We’ll see

@BeTheVillageCommunity

3 жыл бұрын

(Spoiler)

@alisonv6805

3 жыл бұрын

Was wondering the same thing

@kendalljane9625

3 жыл бұрын

I hope they get a placement soon! They’re really great parents

In florida the school transportation special education busses took foster kids to their home school. It wasn't even the responsibility of dcf it was the school system. I would look into it. Idk if it's different in Ohio but my understanding when I worked there it was federal.

@stephaniejackson9089

3 жыл бұрын

I’m a caseworker in Ohio. It is a federal law and the school district does pay the cost of transportation. We sometimes provide the first few weeks while the school figures it out.

Maybe that is why your not being selected. Because they don't want to pay transportation. Because your such a good family. Iam sure you will get someone soon.

Are you able to be certified in two diffwrent counties?

@BeTheVillageCommunity

3 жыл бұрын

Our license is at the state level

Either way, it’s difficult for the child. The county spending unnecessary money takes away from the children they service & support. You may want to foster within another nearby county.

Would it work if you set up a found raiser to collect money for transportation, so you could say to the county that you'd be able to keep the child in their current school without them providing the transport?

Maybe this is a time to rest and snuggle up. All shall work out in due time.

You have every right to be frustrated you just want to be as helpful as possible and they arent making it possible to you

Would it help to also be licensed in your own county so then distance may not be an issue?

Do you think more children will be placed with you if you take in children who ask to be in a new school district or would that still have extra costs the county doesn't want to pay for? I think having the same school requirement should be relaxed if the child either states that they are ok with it or even want to change schools. This would somewhat solve the whole profit incentive of foster kids not being placed in certain homes that are too far.

Is there a way to stay open to accepting the city kids, but also expand your geographic area to also accept kids who might be closer? Or are you already set up for that. Just wondering.

I really feel your frustration!! You're such a passionate woman, when you speak about the whole system!! They're lucky to have you both! So now you've sort of got that off your chest...... have you counted how many Funko Pops ( sorry if I got them wrong lol ) in your COLLECTION lately?? :) haha Much love to you all & stay safe Jacq

@BeTheVillageCommunity

3 жыл бұрын

I think I’ve got 10 lol

@red-inmy-50s-temper-dont-match

3 жыл бұрын

@@BeTheVillageCommunity Haha Fab!! much love Jacq

07:25 main reason is where they live.

@chernagast6754

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. Saved me 7 minutes of product placement. My guess was going to be "maybe foster kids don't want to be paraded on KZread for clicks".

Money over humility is a very common problem of the systems in many countries. They who make the decisions never meet these children. And everyone who does meet, feel bad that they cannot help the children in the best possible way. The systems need to change all together. There are too many levels of hierarchy in the society and the ones at the bottom of the system suffer.

As a social worker, you are impatient for all the right reasons. Keep advocating but don't agree to transport if it not sustainable. Placements are lasting longer than ever these days

Did the sibling set you mentioned in the tiktok yesterday fall through?

@cait812

3 жыл бұрын

Spoilers! :) Sponsored videos are usually filmed in advance so maybe she hadn't heard about them yet

I think the #1 reason people don't choose to foster is because of the infrastructure around foster care - the inability of systems to adapt or be flexible to support foster families.

@BeTheVillageCommunity

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed, it is exhausting to maneuver.

@kickdropacoin

3 жыл бұрын

@@purpleprose1315 I 100% agree that jobs should be more accommodating for families, that landlords should be more understanding and that systems should be in place to support biological families struggling with poverty, unemployment and health issues but even WITH all of those supports, there would sadly still be families who cannot care for their little ones at certain times. We're in Canada and the social net is much wider here and yet we still have children in foster care.

What happened to the three kids from your tiktok? Did something change?

@kateberman5110

3 жыл бұрын

sponsored videos are pre recorded sometimes up to a week+ in advance. they have to get approved before they can be posted. this is probably what happened with this video

@BeTheVillageCommunity

3 жыл бұрын

*spoiler warning*

@007linkstar

3 жыл бұрын

@@BeTheVillageCommunity I hope you are adapting nicely these first hours/days with the siblings!!

Some times you dont get referrals because the agency or your worker is prejudice. I was told directly by the social worker assigned to us, that she didn't believe in gay people raising kids. Baltimore city foster care administration supported that position and we went 3 years with no referals. I retained a lawyer and suddenly we get referrals. I next demanded a change in workers and after 6 years and 14 children ,1 was available for adoption. Sometimes you just have fight the instution.

Is it possible to be licensed in two counties in your state?

It’s not always a case of “won’t.” DFCS is severely underfunded. They don’t always have the funds to provide transportation even though they have the policies and protocols in place for it.

@BeTheVillageCommunity

3 жыл бұрын

Funds = money

@KMC3050

3 жыл бұрын

Yes and if they had the money there would not be an issue. They would cover all the things. To cover transportation right now they would need to cut something else.

Makes me so happy to see you would love and support an LGBTQ+ child. It shouldn't be a big deal but sadly it seems to be... I'm watching this after you already got a placement of a sibling group, so I know you have kids to give all that love. :)

@BeTheVillageCommunity

3 жыл бұрын

❤️

Is it possible for your family to volunteer to drive the child to their school if it’s within a reasonable amount of time/distance? Just wondering if the county/state allows that. If it is allowed, I know you wouldn’t be able to do that for every child.

@maryly2688

3 жыл бұрын

They can’t really afford to drive 20 minutes to and from twice a day. It’s too expensive for gas :/

Why don’t you open up your liscence in both places?

They need to pay it. Kids are waiting.

For anyone wondering its Bol-uh-nays😂❤️

@amandathompson6327

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah sort of like Mayonnaise

I understand where you're coming from, but also if teens were to be placed with you they'd have a harder time keeping connections with friends and community

Chose your battles

I wish hello fresh would give you the option of gluten free options. I’m gluten sensitive.

I am also thinking if having youtube channel can play a role in somebody’s mind? Like they might see it as a potential complication? I hope not just having these thoughts .....

@pamisolester6651

3 жыл бұрын

We all know that sometimes the system doesn’t work In the best interest of these kids and I bet they don’t really want people to see it first hand.....

Bummed that Hellofresh doesn’t deliver to Alaska