They see genuine kindness as a weakness.

@lhm8969

3 жыл бұрын

Why?? God is love right??

@mariahgutierrez4481

3 жыл бұрын

@@lhm8969 it's a projection of themselves really

@lhm8969

3 жыл бұрын

@@prettypuppy6752 Only after they block their targets praise with all kinds of unlawful traps. SCAPEGOATING PLOTTING and DERAILING do they ever turn into the Godly one.

@lhm8969

3 жыл бұрын

@@mariahgutierrez4481 I couldn't do to this person what they did to me .I was surrounded by them all wanting their turn to use me .Tried to escape ran into another.

@Maria__57

3 жыл бұрын

@@lhm8969 SO IF GOD IS LOVE...WHO ARE THEY THAT HATE & DESTROY? DEMONS RIGHT?

This is so accurate. Leave these people as soon as you realize this is happening. Otherwise the creepiness and damage just continues.

@lhm8969

3 жыл бұрын

Only Jesus can save me.I trusted for so long.

The saddest part is so called friends will try to make you feel like it was your fault too.

@jademoon5103

3 жыл бұрын

And family

@oophelia46

3 жыл бұрын

True. But for me karma came when my ex narc divorced his rebound relationship (right after me) and married one of these "mutual friends" of ours. I truly feel sorry. The mask does eventually come off

@blueplanet8750

3 жыл бұрын

Not all hangers on are genuine friends - some are looking for ways to benefit from the person you are, but secretly they are happy at your misfortune. Allow people to show themselves to you and once they show you a flicker, that's all you need. Never doubt your intuition. This phenomenon is sinister, creepy and dangerous. You never check out a poisonous snake twice. Crush the head or run.

@cryptocoinscafe7479

3 жыл бұрын

Oh yeah, they do allow you to see who people are.

@arlenemielczarski5974

3 жыл бұрын

@@jademoon5103 Yes, me and my ex-boyfriend broke up nearly a year ago and my sister got involved. I am still not talking to my sister. We never got mad at each other before to not talk to each other.

Jealousy and sadism sums them up.

@ks4507

3 жыл бұрын

So true! It's pathetic that he needed to destroy me and my life to feel better about himself. I wish I had the slightest bit of knowledge about narcissism and the signs to watch out for. I am forever changed (in the worst way)!

@greygoose6531

3 жыл бұрын

@@ks4507 you weren't changed in the worst way. You'll see later it made you stronger. Somehow dealing with these kind are some type of blessing in disguise. I'm still trying to understand it all myself, but I'm trusting I will soon understand or know the reason I had to go through this horrible, unjustifiable treatment.

@lhm8969

3 жыл бұрын

@@ks4507 No your not.

@lhm8969

3 жыл бұрын

@@greygoose6531 Grey Goose alcohol.

@lhm8969

3 жыл бұрын

Omen blueprint sums them up.Not just a movie.

Best thing ignore then and their crap. They hate this because they need your reaction be it positive or negative to feed off. Just ignore and invest in yourself.

@ks4507

3 жыл бұрын

I agree 100%. I'm currently into the no contact phase but my biggest hurdle is getting unstuck! It seems to be impossible to get back to normalcy. My mind and thoughts are always working against me...

@djdebusajustice3287

3 жыл бұрын

Easy TO SAY IGNORE THEIR CRAP ...IF YOUR NOT THE ,(**TARGET***)!!

@djdebusajustice3287

3 жыл бұрын

@@ks4507 THANKS THAT'S WHY YOU GET SUPPORT AND PROFESSIONAL HELP ,& POLICE AND DETECTIVES AND SHERIFF AND F.B.I. FOR BACK UP BABY,🕷️🔥🎼🙏🎧📽️🎶🔥🎄😘🎄😘🎄🎸📿🦇💯🎸💕🦇💯🦇💯🦇🦇

@djdebusajustice3287

3 жыл бұрын

Victims and TARGET'S OFTEN DO BLAME THEMSELVES BUT NEVER BLAME YOURSELF... BLAME THE PREDATOR

@teal1010

3 жыл бұрын

It's very easy when you don't take it personal! (It's not you are anything you've done, it's the way they are!) It's hard to cope with the truth if you keep denying it! Acceptance is the key!

This is 100% my life. He literally flipped everything in my life upside down in a way that I never thought was imaginable!!

@roblandau6766

3 жыл бұрын

Block him and live a happy life. That is the best revenge. They can NEVER be truly happy and feel love and human connection like you do. They are just sad people. Wouldn’t trade lives with them for all the money in the world.

@lovelysosweet8386

3 жыл бұрын

@@roblandau6766 its not about blocking, you don't have to talk to them, they talk to others to ruin your life! I never was in a relationship with my narcissist he was a elder in my church and he talked to my daughter, and police and my hospital and my landlord to ruin my life and he broke in my home and gang raped me! He isolated me from my life!

@Ladyjojo695

3 жыл бұрын

Same. They are pure evil.

@Holly070

3 жыл бұрын

The things I held to be pure and beautiful were made disgusting and dirty. I didn't think it was possible either. my codependency was in full display. No one has ever asked me to cross these boundaries before, because they had true respect. I was blind but now I see the difference. I hope this helps someone else. I am surviving everyday!

@ks4507

3 жыл бұрын

@I Sanchez were your questions directed toward me?

But they don't know that it is their intention to destroy you. They believe they can love, and it is you that screwed it up because their defense mechanisms kick in and they start reacting to every perceived slight until they destroy you. Then they rationalize it by saying there is something wrong with you that caused it, and by that time, there is something wrong with you because the abuse will change you.... Let it be a learning experience and that you may rebuild yourself better, stronger, more resilient.

@WilmaJeanTV

3 жыл бұрын

They really truly do not know it. But what they really need is to use your talents, gifts, introductions, everything good to benefit themselves. And they need to make you feel that you should change from all the things they loved, into being a totally different person. Because they are just trying to “help”.

@Calidore1

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, Vikki, you’re right.

@valerieriggins3184

3 жыл бұрын

That's Confusion! They Only Selfish Individuals! To Say They Cool To Have Around Forever. Is To Say All This Insight To Bad Behavior...This Woman Teaching On Is Useless THAT 🤔 Is SOOOO Ungrateful!

@Alex-ek3jv

3 жыл бұрын

I'm going through this, right now. Your comment is so accurate it's scary. I'm struggling so much trying to understand and move past this. I really hope there is a brighter future out there.

@Jamiereid6166

3 жыл бұрын

✨❣️🙏🏼

I fell for it. I thought I could help her heal. She decieved me fom the start. Cold, twisted, and methodical. It was like a horror movie!" She made her friends and family think I was the problem. "Everyone wants me to break up with you!" Was one of her constant reminders.

@kieranmaher1698

Жыл бұрын

Yep, after I called her out for emotional abuse, 2 months later - you guessed it - "all my firends are saying they're worried about me and I should go to a domestic abuser service". Never had any clear explanation of what the allegations were, just discarded. Projection and rejection. Now I know to stay clear of drama and chaos. It's a professionals job to help treat people's mental health issues, not the boyfriend/husband's, although I would of course never turn away or reject a future partner because of their mental health issues, as long as they were actually seeking help and treatment, and not just manipulating through a victim complex.

@voulapetrakos7508

Жыл бұрын

I’m sorry to u had to go trough this my husband years of marriage and six children discarded me like a piece of trash and hid so much money 💴 behind my back also has turn d our grown children family and his family against me he mentally emotionally abused me !!!take care 🇺🇸🇬🇷🙏🌈🌈🌈

@christinecronk9234

Жыл бұрын

Same story. Stay strong

I see that now. He didn’t want me to have my shiny self-confidence, my financial responsibility and discipline, my shiny sense of being competent and equal to any task, my sense of making a beautiful home. These things were CONSTANTLY criticized, denied. And then he wanted to pretend he had all these.

@fiscalgirl

3 жыл бұрын

100% same experience

@judithoketch4332

3 жыл бұрын

Imagine..just same as mine too

@venidasmith6606

3 жыл бұрын

Yes that is so true!

@morningsong8077

3 жыл бұрын

Ditto

@ks4507

3 жыл бұрын

I agree... In the end it seemed like his mission was to turn anything good in my life into bad.. He did a great job!

Biggest problem with narcissists is that they are not capable of loving their child or children... they are to focused on them self and their own carrer or lifestyle the child gets neglected , they can only show fake love that will only promote them self and make them self look good in the views of others, they dont care about the child , its crazy..

@sanja12

2 жыл бұрын

yep, very true I have seen it in my family and it truly hurts to watch this happening and not being able to do anything to help the child

@eveewhite4599

2 жыл бұрын

My sweet beautiful 15 year old is going through this and it's heart breaking

@kellithomas4737

Жыл бұрын

Not all narcs are the same and surprisingly I have to disagree. My ex narc LOVES his children. He takes care of them, provides for them and is very involved in their lives. His children love and adore him also. His motives could be self serving, but his kids are his world. That's the only good I can say that came out of this mess.

@Revelation13-8

Жыл бұрын

@@kellithomas4737 Yeah i guess u are right, but in general that's their diagnosis , most of the time they have some kind of twisted reality of what love or unconditional love is , they are not on that level but most of the time love for them is materialistic things like money or gifts while neglecting the emotional side of love and the loyalty side of love which has nothing to do with money or gifts and so on

@agborsylviesirri7435

Жыл бұрын

That’s true my dad was a narcissist I can relate to what you are saying.

No matter what they do what is amazing is they will not see anything wrong. They will make false statements under oath, lie to relatives, steal your property, and say the most vile things to you and claim they are the victim. Sadly they get away with it most times as well.

@judyjones6304

3 жыл бұрын

They secure all for selves lying and taking and smirking. Lie to everyone including attorneys, judges, psychiatrists - daily. Life style liars on take..Destroy for himself.

@virgostar6620

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like narcs are nothing, but blabber coming from their mouths.

@lhm8969

3 жыл бұрын

@Wilson being mislead by a Narcissist will indeed cause you to lie under oath because they gain your trust.

@vikki-leec6169

3 жыл бұрын

Omg I've just been discarded after 4 years, I had absolutely no clue about npd, i knew about narcassism but I've never actually experienced being with someone like this. He was acting shady for months and then pretty much cut me off out of nowhere after I started calling him on his shady behaviour, he blocked me changed his number and removed all of our photos like I never existed, at this point I had no clue about npd so I reacted a way I never have done before and he called the police on me I had to go in for questioning and I've now got a caution on my record, I'm not proud of my reaction but my god my head was spinning so fast it felt like it ws going to fall off, he even went as far as to wrote a horrible statement about me to the police and has lied to all his family, part of me actually thinks that they actually believe that we were the problem, my reactions to his constant baiting using allsorts of tactics during the relationship became hideous, I would absolutely blow and now all anyone is going to see because hes not being truthful were my reactions to his abuse. This has been THE most shocking experience of my life but it's made me realise how extremely sick he actually is, there is no accountability, no self reflection, no apologies for what he put me through only him trying to bury me for a reaction that he caused himself, I have no clue if he genuinly believes that my reactions were for nothing? Or if he knew exactly what he was doing? I'm so bloody confused and even now I feel sick to my stomach, I asked for months what was going on as he was acting shady and he insisted nothing was going on, up until the morning that he cut me off he insisted he still loved me and yet now hes not only making out that I was the whole problem in the relationship and that I was the abusive one but hes gone as far as to report me and write a statement about me, I cant cry because I've cried too much now but I feel physically sick, it's that gut punch that told me he never ever loved me, you cannot do that to someone, you cant destroy them if you loved them, even if the love had faded in a normal relationship accountability is their and care and empathy is still their. These demons lead you to react and then they make out you are crazy and harrassing for no reason so that they can walk around telling people your nuts and so they can look like God, I am completely and utterly disgusted that people like this exist, I cant even put into words how i feel, my heart hurts like hell, I'm not broken thankfully but I have never ever felt this way before, the confusion is too much to process. I didnt even know that the reason he was being the way he was and why he always seemed to be pushing for a reaction and would constantly invalidate me was because he was abusive or had a disorder, my reactions got so out of hand thati looked like the bad one x

@EudamoniaTrout

3 жыл бұрын

Wouldn't it be great if society had evolved enough to have a criminal psychology tribunal where you could argue your case in front of a trained panel?

They can't destroy us because they are not true source, we/God are true source to ourselves. NEVER FORGET THAT!

@mercyrahma9501

2 жыл бұрын

☝️😌

before i knew they were narcs, i wondered why all of the sudden out of nowhere my friends and family acted differently towards me. these people make you out to look crazy, to be somebody that you're not and nobody sees who the narcs really are. it's a very lonely place when this happens

@blueplanet8750

3 жыл бұрын

All I can say is they are dangerous. They have no place in anyone;s life save another cold blooded narc. They destroy lifelong relationships, ruin careers, friendships and suck the life out of their targets. There is no place far enough from them on this planet - you cannot put enough diustance between you and them. God help us.

@meghangriffin8188

3 жыл бұрын

26 years grabbed me at 17;I’m 44 he’s been out over a year last 5 so bad.

@AZDC99

3 жыл бұрын

Possible smear campaign that was uncalled for in that hypothetical scenario. At some point it became a little too obvious that them and their flying monkeys for alternating for their nice/mean cycle. It's like they're subcommunicating that you're not "good enough" allegedly. They really like to do it at times when you're doing really good and conversely at times when you're doing really bad. It's like you have to be taken down a notch at these crucial moments because of this misguided belief that they have about you

@verahernandez1106

3 жыл бұрын

@@meghangriffin8188 Same here ,I’m 47 and met him at 14 !!! He had that strange personality since he was a teenager . I’m divorced now after few decades of marriage . The slow destruction of your soul is unbelievable, it’s hard for other people to understand it .

@AZDC99

3 жыл бұрын

But if someone can join some hate club of me based on LIES/etc, then they are TRASH that needs to take itself out of my life yesterday

They have to make sure they've projected all their insecurities to make you feel worthless cuz they feel worthless and once they are done they move on to their next supply

@Narcissiststalkerhackthisphone

3 жыл бұрын

That is horrible.. terrible.. sad..

@lisakaler4121

3 жыл бұрын

This is real life Hunger Games! OMG!

@wildhorses6817

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, ex narc targeted a wealthy widow. She has no clue he is using her.

@cbaby6572

3 жыл бұрын

That’s just what they do ! they so deceitful! they playing chess with you! you will never no it coming they gone telling you me and just not working with each other so I getting with some one else they had her all time! they are out cold! you did not no that was coming deceitful that’s what hurt !

@bassface8580

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah this happened to me. Happened a few years ago and still it's in my mind like what the hell happened lol

Honestly I don’t know why he chose me. I’m not successful career wise or financially. I’ve basically 0 friends. I think the right reasons why a narcissist chooses you is because you’re unique, loyal, overly nice/accepting of bad behavior, have low standards and no boundaries.

@WDBDWK

3 жыл бұрын

I agree with this. They don’t attach to you because of your career, finances, qualities, or friends. Ever. They need a way in to get dopamine. Low standards and no boundaries are how they do it. But even that isn’t really correct. You do everything by reenacting the fantasy bond of infancy. It’s spontaneous. Kind of like a “Wifi”. Ultimately you can heal and it becomes a lesson. You can go back to and gradually heal the source issue. It’s very painful. If the trauma is great enough, it isn’t possible. That’s a narcissist’s situation.

@lisakaler4121

3 жыл бұрын

@@WDBDWK Is dopamine similar to adrenaline? He says he's an adrenaline junkie and he gets bored very easily.

@lightoflife6593

3 жыл бұрын

@@WDBDWK Are you a counselor? You seem to understand these types of behaviors.

@WDBDWK

3 жыл бұрын

@@lightoflife6593 In 2016 I began to study narcissistic abuse accidentally at the rate of 2-3 hours per day for two years, and then discovered (quite by accident) that some family members were covert narcissists involved in a completely hidden control network. I still find this impossible to believe, but it’s true. After that, I moved it up to even more time and reviewed absolutely everyone on the internet in this area. Now it’s a more or less brutal no contact with that entire family system, and ongoing learning from a about five people who have really been there, including this channel. Immersion is absolutely necessary in this area. This is what I believe. It’s hard to conceive of the depth of denial the human brain can invest in.

@dreap243

3 жыл бұрын

Mine told me I'm too understanding of his crap and that's why he can't leave me alone... I'm not even understanding I'm grey Rocking and he doesn't even see it.. He can even conversate with himself..no response from me just me sitting there and he can have a full conversation with himself..

Never let them know they have destroyed you. Hold your head high and congratulate yourself for getting away. There is NEVER a solution other than leaving them.

Only YOU can end this drama ! Don't let the Narc decide ! Realise that everything was fake ! They(he/she) never loved you ! That should make it easier to throw them out of your important life ! Remember your worth, and recognize that they are absolutely worthless individuals. 👍🏻 I told him, that I don't need a parasite in my life ..

@Dtella55

3 жыл бұрын

Right...💯💯

@lhm8969

3 жыл бұрын

I tried that but my Abuser was working with another Narcissist and gained information to scapegoat me . Tried to leave fell in the hands of yet another Narcissist. 🤦‍♀️ Isolated.

@susiep.7372

3 жыл бұрын

@@lhm8969 I'm sorry for you !! Stay strong, and leave.. Stay for your own for a while.. Focus on yourself. 👍🏻🍀

@golondriz3

2 жыл бұрын

I have to be more honest with myself. Maybe I ignored the red flags.

@susiep.7372

2 жыл бұрын

@@golondriz3 We all did... Cause we didn't knew with what we were dealing with. We are good hearted, and don't know that evil like that exists. My opinion...

The title is so accurate on itself, they have so much pain inside, they don’t have the power to accept it, but have all the resource to treat you like sh*t..

@sharonrenedavenport8995

3 жыл бұрын

Yep! 💩

@mariehaverty8209

3 жыл бұрын

They are very broken people that cant give what they dont have, they simple dont love themselves🙏❤

@mramos2272

3 жыл бұрын

Jeez you put in words so simply what I struggled to realize for 2 years!

@endtimeservant8531

3 жыл бұрын

Boy did HE TRY. I turned it back on him and now he is possibly the most miserable he has ever being. He now avoids me like the plague. I am now DRAMA FREE.

@itsall_coming_down

3 жыл бұрын

💯

A very helpful video ! Let me tell you something : I'm over the Narc for many months now ! I have my life back , I'm back to myself ! It's possible ! You have to accept (!) that these are totally disturbed, sick individuals. Evil to the bones, without any goodness inside. It's a process, you have to go through. But after all, you will be so much stronger as before. With that knowledge, that they exist, nobody can fool you anymore !! I would never allow anyone to destroy me !! See it , as a huge lesson...

@anja7787

3 жыл бұрын

I feel so so so so worthless right now. I know it was him and him projecting his insecurities, but why do I give creedence to his insults? Why Do I believe them? I dont love or trust myself anymore. I let/chose him and he was so wrong for me. God saved me. I just wish he could show regret and an ounce of humility. No one likes to be bullied or feel unworthy

@susiep.7372

3 жыл бұрын

@@anja7787 Don't feel worthless !! That's what he wants ! Don't give him what he wants ! Focus on yourself, be very good to yourself ! You were conditioned ( trained) to think so bad about yourself. This is their scam. Control your thoughts, think positive, and you will be okay again! Give yourself some time . And the best you can do is : forget about that devil! That hurts them most . That's the ONLY thing, that hurts them... Show him how unimportant he is ! 😉👍🏻🍀

@lightoflife6593

3 жыл бұрын

@@susiep.7372 Can you please share what you used to help you move on from him. Videos, books, Anything! I need to learn Self Love all over again. This hurts so much!

@susiep.7372

3 жыл бұрын

@@lightoflife6593 I read a lot of H.G. Tudor. He is a professing Narcissist. It's hurtful to read how heartless these individuals are , but it was very helpful to me. Because I realised, that this person ( my ex narc) is totally different from what I first thought he would be ! Quinn Holiday Videos on KZread are also very helpful ! Crucial is, that you accept, that EVERYTHING good at the beginning ( Love bombing phase) ,is FAKE ! They are unable to love, they don't have any empathy. That's why they can act like they do. Fact is, they are never loyal , there are many women next to you. That made it easy for me to leave this devil. PS.: And Anoushka of course !!

@lightoflife6593

3 жыл бұрын

@@susiep.7372 H.G.?

I destroyed her. I left/ no contact first. She tried to hoover me back in with flowers, gifts, etc... tried to apologize and be nice/ kind..for her to switch it on me and leave me. It hurt her ego big time. All of this.. gave me peace afterwards. Leave these losers, seriously.

He flat out told me I had to end a fifteen year friendship with my gay boyfriend. I said absolutely not. We’ve been friends for 15 years, I’m not ending my friendship! I said forget it, I’m keeping my friends. He didn’t want my gay boyfriend knowing what he was pulling on me. He knew my friend would speak up for me.

@beaulieuc8910

3 жыл бұрын

Well spotted, well done

@jamaicanjoyh6883

3 жыл бұрын

@Curtis Mowery WITCHCRAFT AND EVIL...SEEKING TO EVEN DESTROY THE REQUESTER..BEWARE! STAT AWAY FROM THIS PERSON..

@MrSwaggOn

3 жыл бұрын

Yeahwell i was told my ex was just talking her gay best friend. All the time for 14 months non stop when i asked her to stop, while im spending time with her... Now which i knew... my intuition knew. She is now in a relationship with the so called gay boyfriend!

@prestonpeters12

3 жыл бұрын

@Curtis Mowery Go away SCAMMER‼️

@prestonpeters12

3 жыл бұрын

Sarah I am elated that you are a strong person. I’ve experienced exactly the same. My ex wanting me to end a 17 year relationship with my friend. It was not about to happen.

These 'narcs ' are extremely damaged souls. These people are empty. It's not a human, although it looks like one. To dismantle, a narcissist, is to have a strong mind and soul.

@limitlesspossibilities444

3 жыл бұрын

They feed off of you to fill their own cup and once your cup is nearly empty they start the discard process xx

@andersa3448

3 жыл бұрын

@@limitlesspossibilities444 Very true. Its starts the first time you meet them.

@thebluevelvetriver

3 жыл бұрын

100 percent!

@limitlesspossibilities444

3 жыл бұрын

@@andersa3448 Except the love bombing completely blinds you to the subtle process about the begin...

@limitlesspossibilities444

3 жыл бұрын

yes absolutely...and even after a complete cycle...they attempt it again...

I was destroyed by him before he left me.

@misstidoy

3 жыл бұрын

I know that feeling... my mother tried to end me. he tried to end me. WE ARE STILL STANDING! They tried go bury us, but didn't know we were seeds - i love that saying. I am rebuilding myself and i have never felt more alive 🙏🏾🤸🏾‍♀️

@WDBDWK

3 жыл бұрын

@@misstidoy They are truly ill people. It’s a testimony to love that you are moving forward.

@misstidoy

3 жыл бұрын

@@WDBDWK amen now i am reborn again 🙏🏾

@pavanatanaya

3 жыл бұрын

He was destroying you all along. Perhaps you were discarded the moment you realized what he was doing.

@sushmasinha7058

3 жыл бұрын

Me too , all the education didn’t mean a thing to them they dehumanize the person , it’s degrading 🥲

I could tell early on that my Ex-narc needed me in his life to validate him to others. He'd refer to my connections with long term friends, bc he had none unless they were related to him. He needed my credit score to begin living a normal life bc he'd ruined his own. He needed me to show him the ropes on how to buy a house, a new car and on normal lifestyle behaviors. After 30 years, he left with all he needed from me in the beginning. He left better off. Me, not so much. But I'm thankful he's gone. Though I'm not recovered yet... I will.

@carriedillmann4455

3 жыл бұрын

God blesses you I lived this as well❤️

@vickie6662

3 жыл бұрын

@@carriedillmann4455 thank you God bless you. We're survivors. That's for sure.

@Kabaselefh

3 жыл бұрын

In mighty of Jesus Christ, you are going to rise up from your ashes and be as good as you were before you met that reptilian seed man.

@vickie6662

3 жыл бұрын

@@Kabaselefh Amen

@kynathomas4809

3 жыл бұрын

No worries honey I've learned one thing about them , they get pretty much everything they want but cannot I repeat CANNOT keep it/ them. They'll have to repeat the same cycle over and over again.

I’m very familiar with all of this. You are so right. They work on you for years and just drain your whole being. Narcs are so very subtle and sneaky. They hate inner strength, inner happiness and contentment in others because they don’t have this. Just live your best life without them.

@natsdaley9615

3 жыл бұрын

Energy vampires glad I walked hard healing though but this was my lesson x

Im listening to this as I lock myself in a different room protecting my soul from my narc bf. I have realized that for the past 2 years every hurt he caused 4 my soul to cry day and night while i was focused on saving this relationship........ Was "Deliberate". He enjoyed my tears. If this is not dark.....

@futurecongress21

3 жыл бұрын

I’m praying for you and your recovery. I’ve experienced major hurt from a person with NPD. I just want to share God’s love with you. This hurt they caused you was not from God, you are precious in God’s eyes no matter your sins. Also, I’ve been able to heal as peacefully as possible by not hating him but loving him by forgiving and praying for him. You have to consider what went so terribly wrong that this person has no empathy for others!?! Most likely they were damaged a long time ago and haven’t been resilient enough to recover themselves. Take care, may you find peace and mercy in Jesus’s name and love.

@MrsOctober-kc5de

3 жыл бұрын

r s Just remember and keep reminding yourself that it's them and not you. They will treat every one that come into our lives this way.

@wildhorses6817

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, they want to make you Miserable, unhappy, destroyed. They get Worse over time. Run !

@dreap243

3 жыл бұрын

I feel they get off when they see us hurt. Only to try a weak ass apology the second they realise you can pull away..and you are able to be without them . Truth is they need supply we don't need them

@patriciajensen2947

3 жыл бұрын

The dark triad includes this one.

I escaped a Narcissist.. Boy did he break me down and leave me in absolute ruin. I still question the decisions I make especially when dealing with relationships. I am fearful of getting myself in the same type of situation.

I got more love from the CAT than i got from her .

@WDBDWK

3 жыл бұрын

These relationships match our attachment processes always. The narcissist uncovers the denied unconscious reality. Always.

When my ex narc came to visit and meet my family for the first time, he wore a tuxedo, he played it very sophisticated, he brought flowers to my mother and my sister, gift for my father and even treats for our cats and dog. :O I was wooooooooooow who is this well behaving attractive man? Is he really mine? My family was like :O ohh eeeh... welcome... my mother and sister blushing getting the flowers... he knew how to pretend financial stability and awesomeness and good education, he came, he won our love and attention. He shoved me his real face after we moved in together, it took him few days to start to uncover who he really is, by taking little steps and isolating me from my family and friends. And when there was an issue? My mother believed it was my fault! He charmed her and she is narc as well. LOL. She was jealous of our relationship. Funny thing is there was nothing to be jealous of he was humiliating me every single day! :-(

@rourou95822

3 жыл бұрын

My narc bf did the same. Flowers, vacations, first class flight bookins, flowers for my gfs, always in tuxedo, pretending he got it going on financially. I was too naive to see the little red flags cuz i let things go assuming people grow at their own time n pace. Nope!!! Nope!!! Nope!!! No gm texts, no gud night texts, he asks me to go with other men, everything is my fault with his drowning business, watches people's stories on youtube till 4 am, so he didnt have to come to bed, no hugs, kisses, cuddles for a minute in 2 years, never took me out on a date, never complimented. Always told me i am under work stress. I helped his business for 6 months and charged him $10/ hour, pay he decided, not me. I could have worked for $5. My intentions were genuine. He threw in my face that I took payments from him. Therefore, m no good. I used to work equivalent of 6 workers. My feet b swollen, my body b in constant pain as I have a heart condition that makes my legs go weak during less supply of blood being pumped. Ladies and gentleman, all this time, I was being used. Now, I find myself in a state/ city where I know nobody except him. And my family is good 7 states away. Pray 4 me.

@DivineFeminine99

3 жыл бұрын

@@rourou95822 next time use the app Psychic Encounters and speak to an empathic intuitive to ask if you should get involved with someone or not. They can read ppl’s energy

@ks4507

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! I found myself recording our conversations because NOONE in my family would believe the stories that I shared with them. Once he got me isolate from everyone, his mission to destroy me went into full effect!

@jazzsoul1695

3 жыл бұрын

This is what they do! Buy stuff for your family, take them for dinner to a fancy place, tell funny stories. Later they criticize you and make more arrangements to connect with your family. When they destroy the relationship with you, they want to make sure that EVEN YOUR FAMILY thinks You are the one with the problem! I call it stealing your relationships. All is not lost. A good family member could see whats going on...if theyre not a narcissist.

@traceyperry9239

2 жыл бұрын

Lol tuxedo-what a weirdo.

I WAS NEAR DEATH FROM THESE ENVIOUS PREDATORS

@flowersofthefield340

2 жыл бұрын

They will try to kill you .... one cut at a time

@jenniferellis9249

2 жыл бұрын

@@flowersofthefield340 yes so true.x

@sharondegoede8264

2 жыл бұрын

Likewise. Hope u have healed now.

@jenniferellis9249

2 жыл бұрын

@@sharondegoede8264 yes,thankyou.x

Feel really let down that this knowledge of narcissism wasn't taught in my education curriculum. Would have set me up better in life than being taught Maths, English and Science.

I lost my family. My only brother, my youngest daughter, several other family members. I feel so alone now. Its so painful. I want my family back.

@blueplanet8750

3 жыл бұрын

Build back your life from within - remember who you were before the darkness came along, then piece by piece put your life together, your likes, hobbies etc. Soon enough your life will be full again and you will make quality relationships. Those who do not come back, may have reached their use by date in your life journey. But the genuine ones will see through the madness and value who you really are.

@cryptocoinscafe7479

3 жыл бұрын

Just give it some time while developing a support group. You can do it.

@albusdumbledore3782

3 жыл бұрын

Pray to Jesus. He truly helps. Your heart has to be open though.

Mine died unexpectedly. I described myself as "a ghost of a person who never existed". I'm trying to rebuild my life; thank you.

@kharissataylor2001

3 жыл бұрын

You were blessed!

@Marina-vl6eu

3 жыл бұрын

Lucky you. The death of a narcissist is a good thing to hear about.

My husband tore my family apart. I was young and it tore me apart. But Im still here smarter, stronger and better. He can't separate me from them anymore.

@jackpetersen7545

2 жыл бұрын

lookB4 Uleap,You deserves better 🙏

@mercyrahma9501

2 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️👍🙌☺️

Amen! It’s a long road back to yourself but so worth it.

@vanessajohnson6077

3 жыл бұрын

Sooo soooo WORTH IT FREE AND I AGREE WITH YOU

@demarcosmanica1187

Жыл бұрын

Yes absolutely 🙏👏

The relationships in my 20's were all with narcissists and I didn't even know it. Glad this information is available now.

Took me many years to identify the narcissists in my life. I'm shifting away from them now....

It's like they want you to share the pain and want that they have. It is like they have such deep-seated envy that to see you down is the only thing that suppresses them some. It doesn't last long as they soon lock into superiority and their ego becomes inflated to the maximum.

@WDBDWK

3 жыл бұрын

@@lhm8969 It’s a horrible thing, and I’m going through it. The way forward is to understand that it is you that is causal in everything. You actually have a choice (although it sure doesn’t feel like it). Healing exposes where the holes in our boundaries came from and why they were there. It’s always attachment trauma. It seems unfair, but the truth is that you can heal (you have empathy, in spite of your original trauma aged 0-3) and they absolutely cannot. The idea of these “bad people” who are “turning people” “against me” is not true. It doesn’t have even one iota of truth to it. That is not what is happening. You really do have power, and you really can individuate from your family of origin (where the problem started, and what attracted the Cluster B). Going back to ones family of origin and “re-doing” the unconscious fantasy bond/ inner family constellation is xenophobic. The problem is not and never was the Cluster B. They are a mirror. They reveal our fusion levels. The narrative of someone “coming in” and being “attracted to your good qualities” is of course true, but that is secondary to why the transference process got going.

@lisakaler4121

3 жыл бұрын

@@WDBDWK You need to start your own KZread channel about this, regarding your comments and both parties core wounds from childhood. Your obviously doing the work. Any books you can recommend regarding this?

@WDBDWK

3 жыл бұрын

@@lisakaler4121 Thank you for saying that because anyone and everyone connected to me before me figuring out what was going on has had to use “survival gaslighting”. Necessary invalidation. Breaking trauma bonds and getting better will mean boundaries and thus new people who aren’t living out their family of origin fusion. The first order of business is getting healed. That is all about timing and very individual. An excellent author who knows about the dynamics and healing is Julie L. Hall. Her book is called “The Narcissist in Your Life”. She has many great articles on the net. Meredith Miller came out with “The Journey”, and it has taken forever to read because you have to be ready to absorb it. You may never forget her scorpion story. That is the origin of the problem. Ross Rosenberg is a fine therapist, and his book “The Codependency Cure” is a gift, and so is Ross. Lisa A. Romano has “The Road Back to Me”, and this is very good. Her KZread channel is 10/10, and anyone who has seen her knows that. Finally, The Little Shaman should write a book but hasn’t as far as I know. She’s pretty much a Fifth Degree Ninja when it comes to understanding Cluster B’s and what our involvement with them means. Her channel is solid gold in my opinion. I personally love Scott Bassett and his 130 video library on Understanding Narcissists. He’s a very, very complete thinker as far as isolating narcissists and outlining what they are. He sells materials and his “16 Signs of a Narcissist” book is wonderful. I have listened to it in video format, and I highly recommend it. Take the time to find this guy on the net (he’s really young). He knows what he’s talking about.

@lisakaler4121

3 жыл бұрын

@@WDBDWK You are welcome. I can tell your doing the work. I appreciate your comments and input and I will look in to the people you mentioned. Thanks again JFM.

@seufale7915

2 жыл бұрын

Sad but true. Stay prayed up, know your heart and who you are. Life’s too short for negative energy.

So true, as soon as I confessed my feelings and he knew I was getting hooked, Again, the devaluation started up at lightning speed, suddenly the shouting, the madness started, suddenly were just friends and I'm sick to think he would consider a relationship with me, a guy with no money or prospects 😂😂😂

My grandma (a vulnerable narcissist) is all about revenge. About every little stuff. Just exhausting...

They are reckless and over confident

Mine was jealous. He was always competing with me. Besides the other messed up stuff. Tried to make it so my parents were homeless even...he was really really jealous of my friends & family Got super jealous when I lost weight & gained muscles.

In my experience, the narc I know targeted people with vulnerabilities. It was the vulnerabilities that opened the door for the narc to walk in, save the day (narcs are so wonderful in the beginning) and be the hero so he was revered. I'm not saying the people he targeted weren't strong or didn't have appealing attributes. However, they were all in vulnerable positions in their lives when he entered their lives. He is a horror of a human being, taking and consuming at others expense.

@lhm8969

3 жыл бұрын

A Hero is just a sandwich. He has the Principalities on his side cause he needed them.Just 1 woman.

@meghangriffin8188

3 жыл бұрын

Mine it loves addicts low level people makes him feel good so pathetic

all narcissistic relationships I witness is the narcissist looks really well and the other partner looks really bad and old ... so sad

yeah, I've given up on people. I'm just going to be alone now. God never came to stop anyone.

@cryptocoinscafe7479

3 жыл бұрын

It’s hard for God to reward enablers. Now if you’re out he will lift you up.

@Calidore1

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe God wanted you to change course? If you served Him well in adverse conditions you will surely be rewarded.

@sarahbeth6945

3 жыл бұрын

Don't give them what they want. They love to steal your (hope) I feel like a recluse on the daily but, god has me here for a damn good reason whether, I realize it now or not. Don't give up on yourself.

@AC-kk3vo

3 жыл бұрын

I bet when you least expect it , you will be thanking God for your new experience

Very well and detailing explain. That is exactly what life with a narc is. Pure hell of a roller coaster. So so draining. Their charm is the devils spell honestly. Get out and recover. Do better for yourself.

they are so jealous, those miserable souls- the problem is, they hijack everything you have and turn around and say to you that they gave it to you or you learned it from them.

@anndra1160

2 жыл бұрын

OMG! So true! Mine moved in to MY house which I'd lived in for 8 years before meeting him, and then while going through a divorce told his attorney HE BUILT the house!!! 😑 Just plain bat crap crazy!!! 😕

@serious4701

2 жыл бұрын

@@anndra1160 What is up with them all doing the same thing? the worst is that their flying monkeys believe it.

Excellent advice. Once you realize you are dealing with a narcissist. An adult with the mental capacity of a 3-6 yr old child, stop! Take five steps backwards and stop engaging and reacting to their games. True there is no need to take revenge on them,or behave like them. You are dealing with a damage child. Be your best self it makes them suffer.

@AJ-kb9hf

2 жыл бұрын

You are right. They have the emotional maturity of a child. It's like they got stuck at a certain age and were not able to move on.

@mr.makedonija2627

Жыл бұрын

​@AJ that's exactly what happened

Isnt it weird that they keep so much evil energi...its difficult to understand ❤

@jimmyrodasmolestina979

3 жыл бұрын

Your cute

@sarahs5340

3 жыл бұрын

I totally agree. It is a mystery how they live day in day out like this.

@chrisgould101

3 жыл бұрын

They are weak and cowards that's why.

@WDBDWK

3 жыл бұрын

@@sarahs5340It’s how they regulate their shattered core “self”. Pure survival day after day. There is nothing bad or evil about it. The issue is the people who are used to fantasy bonds (infant level) and are addicted to the dopamine Cluster B’s can generate. It truly is an addiction. They can’t live day in and day out without addicts who attach to them. Addicts have a denial that can be broken, these people most certainly do not. Addicts can return emotionally to the source problem one day at a time. They can recover. These people can’t.

@lisakaler4121

3 жыл бұрын

@@WDBDWK aren't both parties addicts? I like where your going. More please!

It has taken me 2 years to find myself again and still working on it now...trauma bonding is very real... They feed off of you until they are bored then the discard stage starts and it's not pretty...

@1love847

Жыл бұрын

I have never been so grateful to be discarded now and he is on to the next mini me. But I pray for her. She has no idea what she git into either. Also I have no illusions now. It was never love. I was a high for him that he loved to bomb with love and then bomb with hate. He is a sick pup. Shine on sis. We will never have to suffer like that again. Once we understand. We were so protected to have survived. Now we must thrive with this new found wisdom and freedom.

thank you. Narcissists and drugs have something in common-love deliussion like a mirage in a desert... they thirst is insatiable and never really satisfied...

Omg I'm even hated on for being excited about my own birthday.. Says he never had anyone celebrate his birthday so why should I be excited..

@WilmaJeanTV

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, my birthday has been shared with a sister for years. So I got used to celebrating with my family. Then he found ways to separate me from that, every single year, or make it with his family. That was always a disaster. Until I just didn’t want to celebrate unless it was only with him. And for his birthday, he expected grand and unattainable plans.

@dreap243

3 жыл бұрын

@@WilmaJeanTV I so relate to this. These people are really not logical in their thinking at all..selfish to their core

Thanks for your voice! Totally insane people, wish we could put them in jail!!!

@blueplanet8750

3 жыл бұрын

You are right - it is a crime and they are criminally insane, but feign narmalcy, they are totally unhinged.

They r jealous of everyone n everything u lose all n gain nothing w a narc not worth being w them

@maidenmarian1

3 жыл бұрын

One of the narcissists in my life used her mother's critical remarks of me to bring me down. This was my high school best friend. She moved summer of sophomore year. I am very lucky she moved because I was very much in a growth spurt in my artistic and musical development. There were a few other friends who were in a kind of jealous mode but this closer friend would have ruined my growth as a person and individual.

I think that basically, they are very bad and jealous.

@prettypuppy6752

3 жыл бұрын

....And incredibly insecure in themselves which is why they seek to destroy our self esteem. It makes them feel powerful!

@rick3135

3 жыл бұрын

They basically do the devil's work

@irocwellOO3

2 жыл бұрын

Devils.

My narc surrounded me with his family all the time

Everything in this video is exactly what I’ve gone through with my husband. I am now on a no contact with a temporary restraining order. I will definitely listen to your videos.

@dawnwoodward1101

3 жыл бұрын

@Curtis Mowery she had to get restraining order. Are you even coherent???

@stratigraphymajor8196

3 жыл бұрын

Good luck to you. 🐨🐨😍😍 I've just started my own healing journey.

@lifeisbetteronstilts1586

3 жыл бұрын

@Curtis Mowery tell me more

Your on point. Nobody knows unless youve been through it. I have and completely understand every word. Brings light in a dark World living with a covert narcissist

This felt like the most accurate description I’ve come across so far as to what’s happened to me. Thank you. My ex always said ‘take from them everything and give them nothing’. The motto he lives by.

@burnerbot7504

Жыл бұрын

@@travis91 no that’s just the misogynist narrative pretty much every man lives by

@mr.makedonija2627

Жыл бұрын

He stole that from 300 lol

This makes total sense to me. I was systematically destroyed from the inside out. My family, my environment, my finances, my whole entire life. Thank you for describing this so eloquently.

Excellent, after narcissistic abuse you become a student researching and learning about what you have just experienced thank you for putting it across in a concise and clear way ♥️

From 18 to 33 think I became lost in my 20s

Thank you so much for your explanation! Yes, this is what I am experiencing now! I have nothing now, lost everything. Have to start at 61 when unemployment & economy in the worse condition in history. Some people starting retire at 61.

@jareetakhan9408

2 жыл бұрын

It’s never too late to help yourself. As long as there’s life new positive possibilities can be yours.

💥🎯 focus on you 💥🎯 Ironically most Narcissists who do have the insight lack the willingness or desire to change. Keep in mind most are hard wired from factory and incapable of long-standing change despite their best efforts so it becomes a painfully frustrating exercise in futility, one they resist and best avoided at all costs. Self preservation is key to maintain their equilibrium.

Thank-you Anoushka! I couldn't understand why she "destroyed" me, until today. It's 💯 jealousy and hate that you didn't worship them like they had wanted. They have to punish you for that!

@yessimarie5132

3 жыл бұрын

I’m dealing with a narcissist who changes his ways once he’s exposed. I.e. if he’s accused of yelling he’ll say what he needs to say in a low voice from there in out. He’ll always make it like you’re the crazy one when you just dealing with the PTSD from the wild ride he’s put you on. He’ll find ways to set you up to look certain ways in front of people. He’ll break you down in pieces attempting to leave your just to turn around and say let’s make it work ( yo-yo) You’ll constantly feel unstable. Of tut accuse him of manipulation he’ll say “what an I really getting out of this”... Currently trying to make it out of this marriage. We have a1 year old son. This man is six years older than me and has many ways drove my life into hole. He’s done some mentally damaging things to me and seems to not even acknowledge it fully or care... idk ( Leads me to believe it’s a sickness they can’t control) ...Don’t t allow it to turn you like them either ...

Family freinds faith and God This person who seemed so warm , sweet , humble , that it seemed they were selling themselves short . I had it well together , capable , strong , and this inspite of very great difficulties,, . It does drain you , they have no root in them . Like being life support to a tree without roots . 36 years , until i was hit with chronic illness . Yes they take it to destroy us . And they give everyone the same impression , warm , sweet , humble . But behind that persona , evil . I finally realized it was not my lot in life , to be someones slave , or doormat, and i was deserving of acknowledgement , appreciation , validation , and respect . And when did they assume the role of God, in my life . I then realized the sabatoge , and manipulation they implemented to achieve this . The adversary comes to steal , kill , and destroy . The devil appears as a angel of light . No one involved would believe these individuals are as diobolical, as they are . So yes we have to complete the journey on our own .

@jareetakhan9408

2 жыл бұрын

You are so very correct. After all is said and done, we must be emotionally strong and complete this journey- at least be able to complete this journey alone. May your faith support you at all times.

This is horrible! I've experienced this. Thanks for the video. I'm totally healed from the trauma of narcissistic relationships and have come to understand why they happened.

@AJ-kb9hf

2 жыл бұрын

Good to hear that you can totally heal. I hope to do the same. Not fair to carry it forward.

@chibuzonwankwo1793

2 жыл бұрын

@@AJ-kb9hf Not at all.

This is exactly what happened to me

@linneajohnson4089

3 жыл бұрын

So true

She tried to triangulate my family my cousin cannot even look me in eyes no more because he was messin with her and he feels so much guilt

@stillhealing8811

3 жыл бұрын

My cousin did the same. I would have never done that to her. It's been over 1 year and it doesn't hurt as much anymore.

@MaiaGodiva

3 жыл бұрын

@@stillhealing8811 he tried to triangulate with my cousin on social media.. I told her he was abusive and crazy to me and she said wow hes crazy but then engaged with him on social media..they both became blocked

@patriciajensen2947

3 жыл бұрын

They used the cousins too forgive and heal they were lied to and ensnared. It is FAMILY

@Real2k25

3 жыл бұрын

@@MaiaGodiva I don't blame u

@Real2k25

3 жыл бұрын

@@patriciajensen2947 yes possibly idk she told my cousin everything he was doing to me and he said I was crazy but he was helping her do it smh

OMG, this is exactly what I've gone though! I wish I had known the red flags much earlier. We ended up getting married, and now are in the middle of a messy divorce. I've lost friends and family over this person, and now get to reunite with them, so crazy.

Omg I've just been discarded after 4 years, I had absolutely no clue about npd, i knew about narcassism but I've never actually experienced being with someone like this. He was acting shady for months and then pretty much cut me off out of nowhere after I started calling him on his shady behaviour, he blocked me changed his number and removed all of our photos like I never existed, at this point I had no clue about npd so I reacted a way I never have done before and he called the police on me I had to go in for questioning and I've now got a caution on my record, I'm not proud of my reaction but my god my head was spinning so fast it felt like it ws going to fall off, he even went as far as to wrote a horrible statement about me to the police and has lied to all his family, part of me actually thinks that they actually believe that we were the problem, my reactions to his constant baiting using allsorts of tactics during the relationship became hideous, I would absolutely blow and now all anyone is going to see because hes not being truthful were my reactions to his abuse. This has been THE most shocking experience of my life but it's made me realise how extremely sick he actually is, there is no accountability, no self reflection, no apologies for what he put me through only him trying to bury me for a reaction that he caused himself, I have no clue if he genuinly believes that my reactions were for nothing? Or if he knew exactly what he was doing? I'm so bloody confused and even now I feel sick to my stomach, I asked for months what was going on as he was acting shady and he insisted nothing was going on, up until the morning that he cut me off he insisted he still loved me and yet now hes not only making out that I was the whole problem in the relationship and that I was the abusive one but hes gone as far as to report me and write a statement about me, I cant cry because I've cried too much now but I feel physically sick, it's that gut punch that told me he never ever loved me, you cannot do that to someone, you cant destroy them if you loved them, even if the love had faded in a normal relationship accountability is their and care and empathy is still their. These demons lead you to react and then they make out you are crazy and harrassing for no reason so that they can walk around telling people your nuts and so they can look like God, I am completely and utterly disgusted that people like this exist, I cant even put into words how i feel, my heart hurts like hell, I'm not broken thankfully but I have never ever felt this way before, the confusion is too much to process. I didnt even know that the reason he was being the way he was and why he always seemed to be pushing for a reaction and would constantly invalidate me was because he was abusive or had a disorder, my reactions got so out of hand thati looked like the bad one x

@patiaurelio

3 жыл бұрын

Been there. I remember everything felt like spinning around me while having to accept the fact that such horrible character exists on earth and a new way of living was needed to develop ASAP.

@stratigraphymajor8196

3 жыл бұрын

Lula , I see myself reflected in your story. I too was always confused. Which made act up. Then I was labeled as crazy and other things. I attempted suicide , but now I'm free and ready to heal. For the first time in years , I am nor crying all the time. I hope you find much healing & happiness in your future.. 😍🐨🎉🎉⛲

@crystaldpt5225

3 жыл бұрын

Lula, I hate to hear what you are going through but I completely understand. It will get better. I promise you that! I see a counselor who specializes in trauma and she has been extremely helpful for me recovering from the abuse I endured in this marriage of 10 years. I suffered years of abuse from my husband. My husband abused me mentally, physically and financially. Throughout the marriage, I called the police a few times, but never followed through with pressing charges on him( because I LOVED him). Last year, I ran out my house after my husband pulled a gun out on me. The police were involved, but again, I didn't follow through with the charges. When he realized I was not coming back, he destroyed both of my vehicles (in my name), took all the funiture place it in storage-only for a friend to inform me that he didn't pay the bill and it was going up for auction. I was stalked at my job, threaten daily and had my reputation tarnished at least 3 times a month after I left. I never filed any charges. When, I finally told him off, using inappropriate words, he filed harresment charges on me which led to me being arrested. Initially I was embrassed, ashamed, depressed, etc, but I am in a better place now. I am still going through my divorce, as well as going back and forth to criminal court to have the charges dropped and expunged off my record. He shows up every time faithfully, to ask for a continuance, which he can no longer do anymore. FYI, I was granted a protection from abuse in the process of all of this. I now hold my head up, walk into the court room each time, I have to go and never acknowledge him. My lawyer speaks for me and I love it, so all I do is sit and look amazing. I know he hates it. I found my strength! Lastly, despite, my soon to be ex husband, attempting to destory by entire being, I am glad that he had me arrested. I would always think, we would eventually get back together; but after going through what I went through, it gave me strength to NEVER return to him again. While, I do not hate him, the love I used to have for him as my husband, is no longer there and this has allowed for me to start to heal. Once you go through the Civil System be prepared for the long haul, make sure you have an attorney even if it is court appointed one, and whatever you do, do not contact him. In the words of my great grandmother, " if he was on fire, don't pee ( lack of better word) on him."😁 I hope my testimony gives you encouragement; YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS!

@vikki-leec6169

3 жыл бұрын

@@crystaldpt5225 it isnt fair whatsoever that they get away with this, like you him ringing the police on me and the fact that I'm 99percent certain he stole my nan's ring that was given to me by my mum who passed away last year has done it for me, I will never go back, it still hurts like hell and trying to process this even now is so hard even though I know the answers now, our brains really arent designed or wired to be able to process something so illogical and evil. I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that its honestly sickening, the police need to be made aware of narcassistic abuse, they need a hard crash course in how these people operate, I get the feeling that they think it's some kind of myth! It doesnt help that they are so manipulative, my ex is loved by everyone aswell and his stupid horrid mother enables him, I dont think shes aware of what he is and what he does but still it's disgusting, she got involved aswell at the end, I know now he had been smearing throughout the relationship, there were signs of this all the way through but I was just so blinded I had no clue about NPD. These people are pure evil I pray they get their karma xx

@django2264

2 жыл бұрын

Sounds like what I had, but with my ex girlfriend.

May God fulfill your life with happiness and joy. You are simply great. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 I'll move on and reconcile myself.

Excellent video! I am free of this after three years and the peace is amazing! ❤️

You are an amazing and insightful soul who, with this video and its content, expressed verbatim what I have come to realize about my 17 year marriage with my wife “the narcissist.” It’s been 5 months since she discarded me, (abandoned and betrayed me leaving me in the desert for 6 days with no food or water), (cheating on me again for the third time), (and blaming me for everything under the sun). After 5-8 nervous breakdowns in 3 months, self therapy and research on my own without a professional, self-focused motivation, direction,and purpose in rebuilding me, along with hours upon hours of mediation and soul healing…your words in this video were the very same words I had conversations with myself. I was once kind empath, now I am a dark empath. I dare any narcissist to attempt to enter my aura with their malicious habits and intent because I will not only provide you fuel to feed your empty shell of human being, but I will also strike the match and watch you burn from the inside out! May God have mercy on your soul; I will not have such mercy!

I now look at narcissist’s as like bosses in a video game for empaths to triumph over and level up their spirituality.

I had her removed from our house, by the Crisis Team. She was exhibiting too much psychotic problems, this helped in gaining custody of our children. While watching the family trying help her destroy me. So, me versus a whole family...But, God is my help!

This is litterally my life right now i needed to hear this so bad ❤

I have been in a narcissistic relationship for 23 years(married with kids). Your video states everything I have gone through. Now that I’m mentally, emotionally, physically and financially drained and have come to terms with what I have been enduring! I’m stuck and not able to leave. It’s like I’m caught in a very tightly knit web. I will hurt this one, or that one, or I don’t have the financial means etc. I feel so dumb and weak. How does someone like me move ahead in life?

@newday2905

3 жыл бұрын

You will, you have the strength to move forward. You just need to have compassion for yourself and understand that your abuse wasn’t your fault.

@patiaurelio

3 жыл бұрын

Grow your self esteem and be willing to make huge sacrifices. Comfort even. Yes it’s tough. But it’s worse to stay there and die physically and emotionally. It depends what you value most, comfort or your own existence. Most likely you don’t have identity. You can stay there and vanish even more or get out and struggle maybe even go through hunger but with faith in the Lord, therapy and self awareness and development you have as many chances to thrive as you want. Discover who you are and grab hold on to that.

@WDBDWK

3 жыл бұрын

This is a wonderful question. The answer is always something that is revealed by healing trauma. Connecting dots. All current situations are ones we created due to denied trauma. Options emerge by healing trauma in the body. You CAN move ahead. I was reading today in a book about trauma that says mentors arrive. Ones that light your pilot light. Then you can move forward a step at a time. Then options can be seen. It truly is an act of faith. The book is called “The Journey” by Meredith Miller. Here’s the thing about your kind of situation. It can have a huge impact on the world when you just START. That’s all you need to do. And keep walking. Never, ever quit. KZread is great because there are people sharing their experiences, just like you have here. Keep showing up.

@Talkwithtina808

3 жыл бұрын

With the grace of God

@howyduinyall7653

2 жыл бұрын

God knows’ you better than you know yourself, so open your heart to him in sincere prayer constantly and watch things fall into place, have patience the Bible tells us He WANTS to help us.

Excellent job young lady...bulls eye... Thank you...if only the rest of the world could be warned of them..

My wife did this to me and now I am just now starting to find the old me after 23 years plus the narc family which adopted me when I was a child.

@blueplanet8750

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry to hezr that - cherish the time away from them, starting with just the minute and focus on yourself. Rekindle your favourite hobbies etc - restart and your quality of life will improve gradually. Toss them out of your head and move on - you will recover and become the happy free soul you were always meant to be, before you were robbed of your life by the narc. They are pure undiluted evil.

@sll110

3 жыл бұрын

me too

Thank you so much for your videos. My ex-narcissist is facing prison time. It was always inevitable but I had to learn the hard way. Truly a soul sucking experience.

I could never imagine being more estranged from my identical twin sister. We lived together and lived the exact same life/same careers etc. for 26 years… My soon to be ex spouse is also a twin… Nothing has been the same. I am still trying to salvage of familial relationships.

I would say in my experience it is literally like living with a Gremlin. You simply have to realise that no amount of discussions, rationalisation or trying to talk sense with a Narcissist will work. GET OUT AND SHUT THE DOOR.

I took my life back for good 10 days, 27 years of narcissistic torture divorced! You are right on about what happens especially when the spouse has never heard of the Black Hole sucking you dry way of life.

Bottom line is they can’t maintain the fake self.

How do I find me and rebuild myself after 48 yrs in a relationship/marriage, my eyes and mind finally open to the narcissist abuse

@oscarwilliamson1264

3 жыл бұрын

Renee Holland, you deserve better 🙏🙏🙏

@renitalewis5680

3 жыл бұрын

Renee, you have to start with self healing for yourself; that will be a process.I married a narcissist and I wrote a workbook about starting over in a healthy manner. I pray that you began to take the steps of healing and seek to even go to support groups. I ah e attached the link.

@jennywager6228

3 жыл бұрын

30 years me and no on gets it! How could they?

@saniafalak1903

3 жыл бұрын

I want to tell you something that you should consider your self luck bcz remaining part of your life set free from evil castle. The 1st step you should take is to enjoy yourself your own. You are whole world and beautiful world explore yourself... Imagine you are running from evil castle to fairy island. And the Ruler of that island is JUST You.

@davidanderson8325

3 жыл бұрын

23 years together and 21 years married for me. I thought we were always fixing things but it was only me working on it. I didn’t know what was going on had a name. She tried to isolate me from my family and acted inappropriately with friends and when I finally called it out it was all my fault. Apparently I couldn’t afford loyalty! It was my fault they couldn’t be faithful.

100% true. After 28 years being in a narcistic relationship Im recovering for 4 years now and everything you say is what I've had experience then. Thanks this is what I needed to know that I always knew something somethings wrong while my ex husband and his family (mother) weer brainwashing me. I knew it I always had but they were playing it all so well that at last I doubted myself. Thank you this is just what I needed to heal

Exactly how much you tolerate their behaviour. They abused mentally so much. Will find a small fault even in small spelling mistakes in the text message. So much hurtful words. They distroy the self confidence within us. They show us that we are useless and not worthy for them. Healing and moving forward. Feel happy and peace of mind.

I'm feeling really positive after watching this. Me and my narc ex finally broke up a few days ago. I loved her so much and gave everything to her while still maintaining my boundaries. We were together for 5 months. Very intense for a short period of time. She made me feel so loved and special for 4 months. Nothing I've ever felt before. Afterwards everything gradually went downhill. I was so confused with regards to her actions. But now everything just makes sense. And with watching this, and also speaking with the people closest to me, and a good amount of introspection on my side, I feel truly empowered to move forward. To all the people who have been through narcissistic relationships, never doubt yourself especially if you know that you gave everything you got up until the end. Your love is deserving of someone who will appreciate you for everything that you are. Not some twisted form of love. It doesn't end here, but rather this is just a great experience for you to really grow and prepare youself for the wonderful future that is waiting for you. Narcissists don't deserve our time and energy, but let's be thankful for all the valuable wisdom that they still imparted to us for the time that we were with them. We learn and let go. Cheers! Life gets better for all of us, starting today. All the best my friends.

I had some aha moments he started talking about me to his relatives his kids and work associates as soon as we started dating and because I had boundaries he would try to push against them or covertly use other people to do his insidious work. All this behind my back, master manipulator. It’s a pity these people put more work into destroying you than working on themselves and the relationships. Luckily my friends wanted nothing to do with him. He changed completely after the wedding. Passive aggressive covert narcissist who’s an alcoholic abuser and batterer. So glad I went no contact out of marriage year two🎉

@WDBDWK

3 жыл бұрын

About five minutes into the video you’ll hear the concept “you’ve always got on with your family (friends)”, and “there’s no reason why (that should change)”. You say in your post, “luckily my friends wanted nothing to do with him”. This mirrors the spirit of the video which denies that a Cluster B can only go where they are fully invited (attachment trauma to attachment trauma, group fusion levels to group fusion levels). Reinforcing fusion with more xenophobia due to the mirror of a Cluster B being invited in is a huge error. Boundaries are the answer (it’s a process). Narcissists and other Cluster B’s can’t connect to you if you don’t have an original fantasy bond (trauma) that you repeat with them. It’s simply not possible. The difference is that you would be able to break your family trance and “parent protection racket”. They have a narcissistic shell which makes that impossible. The differentiation level that a traumatized person has is role based and spread through their family and friends. The Cluster B moves and swims in what is “family-iar” to them: Fusion. You don’t mention this in your post, and in my opinion it is the most important thing to realize. The denial exposed in the video isn’t only implicit. It is very explicit, and similar to your message: “If you see that with your friends and your family, where there weren’t issues before, suddenly start to become________”. That is objectively untrue. It’s just not possible.

@lisakaler4121

3 жыл бұрын

@@WDBDWK you suddenly start to become ---------- what do you mean? I'd like more info. Also parental family racket? I really like what you said in this comment but I don't fully understand, can you go further? Are you saying only certain kinds of people are attracted to cluster B's?

@WDBDWK

3 жыл бұрын

@@lisakaler4121 Exactly. Only certain kinds of people. Cluster B’s do not have the luxury of making miscalculations. It’s life or death. In other words, it’s not “suddenly”...it’s family-iar (a denied fantasy bond). The Cluster B seeks the original pattern by playing to it. Dopamine generation (in both) means it’s working. Fusion dynamics generate supply. Think of the basic roles of the Karpman Drama Triangle (victim/rescuer/perpetrator) as a kind of simplistic model of how all the supply transactions work.

@lisakaler4121

3 жыл бұрын

@@WDBDWK This really helpful, thank you JFM.

@lightoflife6593

3 жыл бұрын

Wow you are describing my husband to the T! My husband see’s healthy boundaries as controlling. But there are many other issues involved. We are currently going through divorce and for some reason, the attachment has been so difficult to separate from..

Absolutely brilliant commentary and understanding. Two years out and sometimes sad at everything that was "taken" (finances, home, and so on). Homeless and sofa surfing bit realising the depths of depravity of a 14 year so-called marriage. Can I ever feel joy again? That is the main thing he destroyed. My love for life.

Well I can answer one question myself about why they can't be the person at the beginning of the relationship - well, now we are seeing them for what they really are as a person, everybody puts their best foot forward in the beginning of a relationship or you wouldn't stick around. When they first met you - they didn't really know you and most importantly you didn't know them!!!

25 years I stayed. I couldn't see what was happening to me. How to forgive myself?

I’m finally slowly starting to focus on myself again. She’s finally gone for good I know I’m good enough I’m attractive I’m a good person. I’m talented I’m strong. Really enjoyed This video thank you 🙏.

This is soo true! He devastated me He stole several items & adamantly denied it!! Been no contact over a month.

So how can I emotionally DETACH from him? We are currently divorcing and I want to be able to move on and no longer hope he chooses to love me. I just want a healthy Mind, Heart & Soul.

@kharissataylor2001

3 жыл бұрын

Hello!! Praying all is well I was with a narcissistic man and grew up in a narcissistic home with my mother who was and still attempts to be abusive. One thing for me that allowed me to detach/unplug was remove my thoughts of what and who I desired them to be. That was the start. Then I daily had to tell myself I deserve better until I believed it. I didn't believe it at 1st. That was a start for me. Hope you have found some peace. It does get better!! Divorcing mine for over a year now.

Your Video is Extremely Perceptive and Helpful; the Narcissist does the types of things mentioned in this Video. The Narcissist engages in alot of Malicious, Sadistic, Extraordinarily Evil Behavior.

Thank you so much for this. The patterns you described is exactly what happened to me. I'm so glad the truth revealed itself to me, the physical & emotional abuse, the isolation, the cheating and lies - it finally clicked. I can now finally shift the focus back to me. To everyone else out there healing, stay strong! Thank you again.

Thank you. You just described my wife of 16 years. She goes along and is wonderful, then another person emerges that is the evil you described . She does exactly what you have stated. No matter what good I do or say, I am discredited, put down, devalued. She brings up my ex wife that she never knew( I was divorced 27 years ago.) She brings up my past relationships. Constantly blames me for her unhappiness. Tells me she wants a divorce. Then when I say ok I will give you one she gets mad that I agreed. She won't file for one. She just wants to be miserable and drag me down with her. I have to forget about the good person she is until the evil comes. I thought maybe she is bipolar, but I don't think that is it. She just has a messed up mind and no ability to see herself and what she does. She uses anger and meanness to manipulate people including her mother and brothers. She is a very very beautiful women. It feeds her ego. I believe she may have cheated on me but I have no proof, only my soul telling me she did. I think when she is in the evil state of mind it fed her ego to have controlling sex with a man. It makes her feel wanted and desired. She does not understand love, hugs or kisses. She only understands sex, control and manipulation. She is mean on purpose and uses me to fed her ego by trying to make our marriage work. Being a cheater would be the logical thing for her to be, but she will never admit she did.

Thanks for your work on this subject. I am lucky not to have suffered under the weight of a Narcissist, but I am friends with a woman that is really having a bad divorce with one. This video has fortified me with a better understanding of Narcissistic behavior.