Do you feel you need your life to be special for you to feel content? Do people around you seem to be okay with "normal"?

@simovtransportmedia1137

2 жыл бұрын

You just caught me in the action. We INFJs are on a different spiritual level. I have said it before that I am a saler in a book store. Two topics that I absolutely hate are theories of the apocalipse and conspiracy theories that say that our destiny is controled by a men in black who want to enforce „the new world order“. In the book store I have a constant acsess to this kind of book's and as a result till now I have canstantly ignore them, but the last few days something push me toward's this kind of materia and actually bring me to a new spiritual level I think. My theory is simple. There are two contiguous universes that we live in. One is the phisical or material one and the other is the spiritual or infinite one. We the people are blesed with the ability to be part from both of them, but some of the residence of our planet have fallen too low down in oversbsession in the material world. So how can the men in black control your destiny? It's not just about that they can't, it's about that if they could they will selfdistruct themselfs in the end because of their endless obsession to have more, more and more and „buy“ the eternity for themselfs based on not believing in the basic power that drive's us foreward and that power is love. It's the spirit that controls not just your destiny, but your material reality as well which mean that the two universes are not just contiguous, they are joint and we the INFJs are the people that are most aware of this and it can be explain very simple. The combination of Ni and Fe is a combination from another dimension. That's the reason we can't live a normal life. Sorry I got out of topic a littel bit, maybe it's about time for me to write a book about INFJ epic life.

@brendabochaberi7014

2 жыл бұрын

I am just happy i came accross your channel yesterday.I am learning things about myself that i never thought had anything to do with me being INFJ but they all make sense now.

The big lesson I got from this. 😇 The big lesson of the day: Stop putting off doing the positive healthy things you know you should do and deep down want to do but put off doing. These are the things that will make you feel fully alive and lead you to the life of your dreams. Choose to do them always unless you need to rest or are in extreme pain. It will feel uncomfortable at first but deep down you know it is the way. 😇

@illigirl768

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, I needed this message ☺️

Moving away whenever I become highly dissatisfied and stuck in life has been foundational for me. Each time I was afraid, but still did it. The people who were there because it was convenient fell away. Those who didn't like my positive changes and didn't have my best interests at heart disappeared from my life. I've had many interesting career changes, experiences, and living environments, and my life is definitely unconventional. But now I'm able to pursue my life's work and help others too. I wouldn't have it any other way

@matthewbrown6163

2 жыл бұрын

We all need a job but when a job becomes just a job or when you feel unwell going to work - time to shift. I have consulted for 25+ years. I enjoy the variety / new challenges & different environment. Once I have mastered a client / system I tend to re-assess myself. Yes I make a tremendous salary but money is not everything if you are unable to enjoy it in peace.

@merlebrown7664

2 жыл бұрын

This is basically the fourth time i’ve moved in 4 years. And you’re right coz in this case i felt so alone , and stuck and unhappy. Any advise on what to do from here on ?

@Groovytunes96

Жыл бұрын

I'm at the crossroads.. thinking to move. although it's not easy as I live in a beautiful place in a beautiful house which I built. I live in a remote place but because it's such a small community my world has become so small.. unfortuately I had to let go of some friends after they betrayed me. (huge door slam). So it's left me very isolated. Its hard to meet new people here so I dont even try anymore. I don't feel emotionally connected to anyone here. But I just don't know if moving is the answer ?! scared I will be in the same boat but in a worse house. But im withering away and I feel my soul is dying.. the light is slowly going out.

@Mmmmkaaay

8 ай бұрын

​@@Groovytunes96Home is where the heart is. Shake up your life!

@Groovytunes96

8 ай бұрын

Wow it's weird to read my comment 10 months on. I got a new job based away far from where my my lovely house is. It gives me a sense of peace getting away as no one knows me here and it allows me to be more myself. I also get to go home every 5 or 6 weeks so I am getting best of both worlds. Still need to shake my life up to have some fun as I don't have much as I would like. Working on it!

I spent my life doing the opposite of everyone around me,. I am retired, with a nice wife , a daughter and three or four friends. I am financially sound. In retirerment, I now pursue my passion-ART.

@lindateuling7862

2 жыл бұрын

Art is wonderful 👏 to pursue. I'm doing it, too.

@juice_lime5114

2 жыл бұрын

Journal your progress too. It seriously expands your views when you express it, we benefit massively from journals because of self-grooming introspection.

@t.f.6297

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful!!

I can never live an ordinary life; I wouldn't be satisfied living like everyone else; it wouldn't be enough. I was in a career that was the total opposite of my passion for many years. As a retired woman I am happier and pursuing my passion and dreams as a fashion designer.

@spmoran4703

2 жыл бұрын

Go for it. I always wanted to be a environmentalist. I am now.

@deborahwolff5651

2 жыл бұрын

@@spmoran4703 👍

I know whats missing for me a little cabin in the forest near the sea no electricity and runing water just by my self thats my goal

Wenzes, I reached back to study Mbti again and confirm my type, thinking that it might help to seek counseling from the standpoint of someone who could understand my basic structure right from the start. When I found your work, I was astonished to discover that help directed to my specific type was infinitely more relevant to my needs than anyone's suggestions had ever been without this filter. Your material feels like a rosetta stone that opens the gate to the understanding of self or a finally effective balm. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

It so refreshing to hear this because for many years I tried to be "normal" and it blew up in my face. Now I'm living in my truth and I finally feel a sense of being me. I so appreciate that we (INFJ's) are coming out of hiding and standing up for ourselves.

I feel like I am the fire that is quietly burning inside, but is covered with ice. As time goes by, that fire is becoming bigger and gives sparks that melt this ice and go in the external world. I used to be (still am) afraid of those sparks because I thought they are something that is not me and that they should stay hidden. Recently, I realised that I suppressed myself and who I really am. You encouraged me to think about this more and change something :)

This is so foundational for INFJs

True! Gone are the days that I sacrifice myself for other people just to "fit in". I was depressed because of it actually, but now I realized that I wanted to be true to myself and I wanted to live an INFJ Epic life 💗

I literally ask this 1000 times every single day... I know what is missing. I just want happiness...Peace...Love...Comfort of knowing that no matter how bad my day was, when I walk through that door, someone is going to be happy to see me, because I mean as much to them, as they do to me. I just want someone to love. That's all I want. But it seems like after all these years of nothing, it's just not something the universe is going to bless me with. Accepting that i'll probably die cold and alone is very nihilistic. But at some point, I just have to accept that will most-likely be my reality. 🙁

@PieceofSheet0

2 жыл бұрын

For all it's worth, you're not alone. Especially hard as INFJ male...

@alpinthor

2 жыл бұрын

But it so much better than having a toxic "someone" in your life. I think it as fate (i don't care even if actually there is no fate / god, believing there is helps me spiritually), submit to my own fate really help me to not overthinking it (stress / unhappy) and focused more on my real happiness which is success, skills, and wisdom. Just my 2 cents from another INFJ-A male.

@WendyFamily123

2 жыл бұрын

I understand that feeling. I often feel that there couldn't possibly be someone who would accept who I really am or someone I could get along with if I show who I really am. But I guess the whole idea of this video is that we can do what makes us feel fulfilled, we can become more whole, we can reach our own potential. Then we can be honest and really show what we are and be who we are around others. Only then can we can find others (and hopefully that special someone) who will love and accept us for who we are. I used to think I was very easy to get along with. Until I had relationships with people I felt were irresponsible and unkind in ways I couldn't accept. I was going to "help" them, you know? I became very difficult to live with at that point as I pointed out their failings consistently to try to "fix" them. That obviously didn't work. Now I am hoping to find someone that I actually like as is, and who likes me as is. Someone I can grow with but that I can get along with right now and I don't feel the need to fix. I wish you the best. Try not to lose hope!

I was in a toxic relationship. She has some major problems . Bi polar and a narcisist. I fell for her and realized that She was just scamming me for money alot of it. I have a big heart and was rescuing her. This happens to me alot with others. Thank You Wenzes.

Sigh. Everyday I am searching, questioning. At 55 I am exhausted. Wow, I have been obsessed in my head about guys in the past. It is like daydreaming.

Wow I thought I was the only one who did the made up obsessions and daydreams. Life has always felt so boring and empty for me. Now I get it thank you so much.

I'm an INFJ just had a very intense relationship with an ENFJ and am still hanging onto it because this is who I am. I don't like following the confines of distance and don't respect the process that others need because they aren't emotionally intelligent enough to see further forward.

@BigHenFor

2 жыл бұрын

"Priorities determine problems. If you don't like the problems in your life then you should take a long, hard look at the priorities that put them there." - - Mark Manson. There's only one place where you can start to build your epic life and that's where you are. Kindness and Compassion for yourself and others comes before you can grow. That is is the real meaning of respect. You can see how you are complicit with your own suffering, forgive yourself, and then evolve. Start where you are. Start within, by looking at yourself, accepting what is there, and owning that good and bad. Until you do the work on you, by celebrating your strengths and addressing what's holding you back, you won't get the best from yourself. You won't get the respect you really crave.

I had the same experience where I thought I had gone through a major shift in my life-feeling as if my world did a 180-a close brother said, “...but Dan this is who we knew you always were. We always saw you this way.” Often, those around the INFJ see us more clearly than we see ourselves.

This is also solid advice for the INTJ, since we share a number of common patterns.

Do INFJs talk with their hands a lot like you do? I constantly talk with my hands and my family is always telling me to stop doing that but it seems like it's just so natural

@faridaashu5505

2 жыл бұрын

It is😄. When I used to facilitate workshops, my participants would always ask me if I gesticulate that much in my everyday life. I told them I only do it when I'm talking about something that lights me up. The topic I taught them lighted me up.

@SnookyDre

2 жыл бұрын

I do it a lot as well too 🤷🏾‍♂️. I feel like the more you talk with your hands, the more meaning and intent you have with your words 💯. That’s just me

{'ve never been the kind of person who could go to the same job every day for 20 to 40 years.

One of the best videos you've had so far, and you've always had very meaningful ones :) This one just hits at the right moment :)

This helps a lot! I am a INFJ I literally took the test over 15 times😂 to make sure! And this is AMAZING!

What I consider normal other people think is exceptional. I am surprised that people settle for so much less than they could have. Why settle for less than what you want? I'm allergic to drama, trauma

@dee-litee4494

2 жыл бұрын

(Cont'd) and chaos. I live in the real world not a fantasy or daydream. I know what I want. I find out what I need to do to get it and usually get what I want. You have to make informed plans and take action.

I don't know how you know so much (maybe yes haha) but all of your videos, and in especific this, help me so much more than you can imagine. Even for the distant, I can hear and feel every single word. I'm so grateful for your videos, and your help, and your support. Because, even if you don't know it, you support me every single day. Thank you all, and a great huge. Hope you are doing it well, whenever you are 💖

i wish i could be one of those people that everything they want in life is someone they love next to them, but i just can't be like that, i'll always want one more and everytime i think about the thing i want i get so depressed thinking about the fact i can't have it

A nice motivational speech :) Went through all of this myself, can use life experience to support and vouch for this.

I believed that I had an epic life until I failed the exam I had been aiming for, after a year of preparation. I found myself caught in a loop of regret, daydreaming about the relationship that had ended, and doing nothing for nearly a month, fearing the upcoming future. The more time I spent with that thought, the worse my mental state became. This video reminded me of what I am actually capable of. I realized that it was just a setback, and my epic life, which I thought had already ended, is still waiting for me. It's hard to step out of my comfort zone again after facing the lowest failure I have ever experienced, but I know that the worst part of my life has never come. I've got to step out of my comfort zone again; I hope everything will be fine. ;)

Thank you for this. 💓

Hi I'm Hicham from Morocco I think I am an INFJ and I want to thank you for your advices you are a great woman and keep the good work going on.

This came right on time. I'm going through this right now.

Thank you tour videos have helped me understand myself more than I ever did

This is super accurate😂

Preach miss beautiful preach what your saying is the truth I use to do that all the time when I was young

Thank you.

I hear ya sister. ;) Thank you. 🌟💜⭐️

It’s like we are in the box 📦 but we are always thinking out side the box 🤷‍♂️ your a very interesting lady 👍

Thnak you!!!

helpful..thank you

You are so lovely. Thank you. ;) 🌟💜⭐️

On a lighter note listen to the song Little Boxes by Malvina Reynolds. This song encapsulates your theme of boxes quite well.

like your words and makes me so sad because i can’t come out of my box 😭

You are so 🔥

Story of my life... After a life full of abuse, it's really hard and scary to step out of my comfort zone, even tho I desperately want to, bc I know it'll get me to the life I WANT and DESERVE. I'm scared of taking a risk and losing it all

Boom.

I wll step out because my epic life won't work out here.

Every person's view or idea of what a normal life is going to be different based on family and culture. That said I have not led a normal life, but I never really gave it much thought. I have been different my whole life, why would I all of a sudden expect to have a normal life. Being abnormal is the normal for me. I'm very much the introvert so being alone during the current global crisis doesn't bother me at all. It is making a lot of people psychotic, so I feel that being alone currently is a very good thing for me anyway. I'm retired so I can do that lol.

My mantra lately has been "I am unapologetically big! And that's ok if no one likes it too bad for them!"

Yup I like myself.

Hi wenzes, Could you do topic : Highly Sensitive INFJ?

My take on this is that I always wanted my life to be my own and not what "everyone else" (whoever that may be) thought that I "ought" to be doing. IOW, I wanted it to be based on my own judgments. I could listen to people's input, but when everything was said and done, I had to make up my own mind. I've definitely done some offbeat things, but some of my choices have been somewhat conventional. This wasn't always easy emotionally, and sometimes it still isn't. But I do agree that we INFJs want to have meaningful lives, and we have our own "drummer" to march to. For my own part, I think that even the more "conventional" choices I made ceased to look conventional when I did them! Why? Not sure. But then, I am an INFJ. 🙂

hello guys!! can someone please clarify, what is the influence of RIASEC holland interest code with INFJ. RIASEC holland interest code shows what kind of driving force and core mentality naturally one could have and then INFJ as our charactereistics work along with the interest code. Is RIASEC interest code the primary thing that can influence the result of INFJ?

I'm being kicked out of my box and hurling towards rock bottom. 🙁

OK that's it I am just different from the society I grew up in I am a human being but I am a different kind 😊 I am happy with this I am feeling better already I know so much more is yet to come 😮😊hallelujah 🙌 glory to God it gets better by the minute

What about someone like me, who dreams of teleporting through the electron energy field that binds all matter, and arriving at a destination on the other side of the world, or possibly in another time? is there any hope for me to feel fulfilled in life? : D

INFJs need ENxP to spice up their lives 🎉 ~ ENFP

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Have you got any tips on “how to be not always working”? As an INFJ I find it hard to switch off ‘work mode’. I’m female. My work involves helping other people.

Do I feel I need my life to be special for me to feel content? No. Just only my kind of special. What works for me. I like to stay in my lane. You know, "fly under the radar". Do people around me seem to be okay with "normal"? No. They're always on social media wanting attention. Letting everybody know they're in the room. (By the way, I'm sorry I commented on this video two days after you posted it. It's been a tough week)

You are and beautiful love to meet you your brilliant

Boxed in no way not even a church my dear and I live for the people so there is too much for me to do out in the world to be boxed in 😊

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Snap! I JUST said to myself, why can't I just be normal....ugh 😔

The pursuit of understanding is endless. 👁👽 👀 🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑.

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I'm fine with normal and boring. Kinda wish I could have my own business yes. Unfortunately I know now as a adult it takes money to make money. I have no money. I'm kinda forced into living paycheck to paycheck ,and have to be ok with it. They say to establish credit I need to get a credit card. Only I have no chance to get a credit card. Both of my parents are poor. I'm not a trust fund child with hand me down money. I have to be comfortable living paycheck to paycheck as a essential slave working tax payer. An I have to be happy about it.

but it feels like who I am is to be the person who doesn't have an identity!

@cmtm5108

2 жыл бұрын

Although we're all connected you're still an individual.. whatever your individual make-up you still have some form of identity - by knowing what and who you're not, is the first thing.. You have to have something because you're driving the vehicle and you're incarnate. If you naturally assimilate to others identities.. then you can rebuild your Ni up as YOUR "identity"/ individuation or the main compass.. not the only thing about you, (well the thing you're in cognitively in all the time or looking through). I know that once I'm honouring my Ni, I'll be a lot happier and satisfied because I'll have more integrity, as in alignment or congruency. Ppl seem to have different versions of integrity, don't worry about theirs.. We all have different versions of success. There's different types of integrity.. even just physically. If you promised to do something beyond your physical capabilities or capacity at the time, that would be out of alignment with what your body needs to honestly function well.. Just because you're not literally falling apart, doesn't mean you're sound.

@cmtm5108

2 жыл бұрын

You're an amalgamation of things like everybody else and you have a core.. If you don't have a strong compass you have to at least create a conceptual compass, which is what I'm working on.. at 🐌 speed.. but better fwd than not moving at all.

@juice_lime5114

2 жыл бұрын

The comment before has pointed out our identity. I also honor Ni to spot differences in everything like mirrors. Did so much introspection to project my shadow side, and picking up psychology. We are really, really good in using mirrors, natural colourless yet colourful shapeshifters. That's why it's so difficult to understand using outside factors. The key is not be the mirror itself, instead using it to constantly shed outside factors to find your true self. When you finally untangled your true self from outside influences, you will literally find yourself a unique paradox that could be anything. Your identity would be "yourself".

@randomfornow

2 жыл бұрын

@@cmtm5108 ​ Thank you. It's true that Ni is the only part of me that feels ME, that has its own opinions. I guess its hard to make it an identity because it is an inactive function, focused on processing info. I see what your saying about a conceptual compass, sort of like using Ni/Ti theories to view yourself a certain way. At least that's how I see it. God, INFJ comments are so nuanced it takes some time to process them

@randomfornow

2 жыл бұрын

@@juice_lime5114 Yep like, when I'm myself, writing, that's when I see myself as myself, but I feel like even then my brain sees me in a certain persona based on my surroundings, no matter how minimal they are. Shed all outside factors and not mirror everything around me? That's so cool, I have to analyze that one

I dont live an ordinary life also. What's normal?

I have a little question 🙋‍♀️ are infj’s most likely to have/get imposter syndrome? (Just wondering 💭) 🤘👁👁🤘 I’ve started journaling my thoughts and life and so far it’s quite working :)

@SnookyDre

2 жыл бұрын

I would say yes. As an INFJ I have many faces I can put on for whatever audience I’m in front of. Most of my life I felt like a Chameleon, just blending in and observing. Most of the time it was done unintentionally because I honestly open up the more I connect and get to know someone before I reveal my true self. It’s bit me in the ass quite a few times because putting on a face just to avoid issues and to fit in ppl think your this certain way… When in reality I know I’m a multi layered being who constantly discovers something new about myself every year. After awhile it gets tiring and your left asking the question over and over again “Who am I?” and then I get frustrated because nobody knows who I am truly. These last couple of years I’ve been choosing and embracing to the fullest even with the loss of friends or family. It hurts sometimes, but overall I’m happy that I’m not letting other ppl criticize and dictate who I am anymore 😁💯.

@Such.is.life.of.an.adventurer

2 жыл бұрын

@@SnookyDre 🤘😉thank you for your good comment🍀 don’t forget that the world is lucky to have you and every other kind and strong person like you, condolences to your losses though 💗 I hope you have good sleep and enjoyable life time here on earth despite your losses and struggles that come your way, remember that bad experiences breaks us but also makes us stronger and good experiences heals our emotional wounds left by our bad experiences, both shape our past and future. You will never be truly alone cause you will always have yourself even when at what seems the darkest times you will at least have yourself. 🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻

@SnookyDre

2 жыл бұрын

@@Such.is.life.of.an.adventurer I appreciate the words 🙏🏾💯, I am continuing to heal for sure and trust the most high plans for me the good and the bad 🙏🏾. I wish all the same for you as well 💯

@Such.is.life.of.an.adventurer

2 жыл бұрын

@@SnookyDre 💗

Cuz I'm not basic or average

Why is she SO obsessed with helping us INFJs specifically?

I want to be a psychologist but I’m so awful with math that there’s no chance for me to become a psychologist °°°(sad)°°° :/

@Gern5838

Жыл бұрын

Me too. A certified math phobic. Maybe a characteristic of INFJ’s??

@Such.is.life.of.an.adventurer

Жыл бұрын

@@Gern5838 most likely not, cause there are plenty of infjs who are good at math so :]

Sorry. But I am just... so damn good. But I am also unbearable because I am so damn good. It's just your loss. You are missing a very interesting person. I don't get obsessed. Usually, it's the other way around.

I dream cause life is a waste.

@nathanfwaggoner3428

2 жыл бұрын

Life seems like a waste only when we are controlled by our fears.

@cmtm5108

2 жыл бұрын

You should seek out ppl where good faith is encouraged so that you can simply "be" around them, more comfortably for a start.. and ideally people who you personally find engaging.

This is nationalistic speaking. I don't like you. I am not letters. My name is Aline. This is not really how it works. I am actually a genious who sees beyond and people are stealing my ideas. Say thank you. Because I am the best thing you'll ever meet

🤔....no views....

@Wenzes

2 жыл бұрын

Not anymore 😉

@JSFGuy

2 жыл бұрын

@@Wenzes most excellent...🙋🤺

Make more amazing videos!!! If I was you I would employ P R O M O S M!

No, you will not fit in with the nationalists. No, you can't change them. Stay with me.

Wenzes you are calling yourself as infj, but you failed to understand basics. You are 100%correct in classes. God implements his plans through infjs. God works through infjs. It is not as simple as you teach. But you people were great in releiving infjs suffocation and pain. God keep crushing infjs, as every answer and result comes from hardworking and struggles. God loots our age, time, money and everything in return he gives us pain and sorrow. God is more selfish than humans. Life of headless chickens is better on this earth. Not INFJs.

@JustineAdlong

2 жыл бұрын

You sure spend a lot of time watching & commenting on Wenzes' videos for someone who thinks she fails to understand the basics. Check yourself.

Hai my name is Raj infj will you marry me. A narcissist woman cheated me. Profile picture is my sister

I literally ask this 1000 times every single day... I know what is missing. I just want happiness...Peace...Love...Comfort of knowing that no matter how bad my day was, when I walk through that door, someone is going to be happy to see me, because I mean as much to them, as they do to me. I just want someone to love. That's all I want. But it seems like after all these years of nothing, it's just not something the universe is going to bless me with. Accepting that i'll probably die cold and alone is very nihilistic. But at some point, I just have to accept that will most-likely be my reality. 🙁

@randomfornow

2 жыл бұрын

😥

@Wenzes

2 жыл бұрын

The power comes from accepting that truth and then doing something everyday to make it a little bit more enjoyable. Before you know completely new life. I was exactly where you are right now.

@TroyPosey

2 жыл бұрын

@@Wenzes I’m trying Wenzes…But you know how hard that is, being that you have been here before. But, you give me hope that maybe someday that will change. Thanks for always being helpful, insightful, and positive. 👍🏼