Why Only Listening Is Not Always Enough For Therapists
You may have heard a criticism of some therapists that they seem to 'just sit there' during a session, without offering a client ideas or a way forward.
Part of the reason for this may be due to some 19th Century ideas that children are like flowers in a garden, and should be allowed to automatically 'self-actualize' in a non-threatening environment.
I'll talk about what's wrong with this theory, and why this applies in a therapy session.
I also ask whether it's even possible not to influence other people (7:17) and the role charisma takes in therapy and elsewhere (8:21), and why we need to lead our clients, sometimes, in therapy.
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After finding no relief from pure talk therapy with almost no feedback, years later I went to another therapist. I had to point blank interrupt this planned stream of many appointments about talking and tell my therapist numerous times, I need something to retrain my brain, it's like I have a deep groove in the record of my brain that I need to get out of. Finally, I researched on my own and began some guided meditation and hypnosis that was trauma centered (I had extreme anxiety and ptsd caused by extended years of trauma). Your video is everything I wish my therapists understood, and which I had to finally implement myself until the therapist got on board. Thank you.
I totally agree with this. You could often get more help from just letting a stranger in a coffee shop listen to your problems. It would be the same outcomne
I find if I usereflection or repeat, clarify and ask question that challenge generalization, deletion, distortions then thats enough to push the client without giving them advice or leading them. I'm just trying to challenge the conscious stories until it kind of collapses. Then the unconscious resources(new) answers come out.
Yours is best psychotherapy I’ve seen so far thanks
Your videos are so helpful. Thank you.
Brilliant
Fantastic! This was always disturbing to me
oMg Ty!!!
When is the 3rd part of the drak side of emotional needs coming?
7 min