When I bought my new car, it contacted me. When I bought my new apartment, it contacted me. When I moved on with an incredible new partner, it contacted me. I blocked the demon all 3 times. It even tried to get it's mama to reach out to me. Think I'm gonna block her too.😂 Life is sooo much better without that evil demon.

@Cryoniczz11

Жыл бұрын

lmaoo man!

@samiradezaki

Жыл бұрын

"it"😂😂😂😂😂

@brendalhunt9720

8 ай бұрын

It’s so funny how you call it it that’s a good one

@jehan9

3 ай бұрын

Bahahahha literally me right now! When it reached out, I said "this is evil"

@Calicandyy

3 ай бұрын

I love how you call a thing a damn thing ❤😂

Narcs keep reaching out because you keep entertaining, engaging, and not blocking. Narcs know when your not playing anymore…thats when they stop reaching out.

It's a gaslighting mind game. Its disgusting. They are very good at faking empathy only to see them 2 minutes later smiling and not really caring at all.

Yes happened to me Every time I felt like I had this trauma bond handled He would reel me back in fall for his bs because I’m so empathetic .

Yes I literally started feeling better and he shows up saying all the right things. Today though I woke up and felt nothing thinking of him. Not mad not sad not confused. Nothing. And it is AMAZING. Partly cuz I found out he had done what he did to me to many other women in his past so I knew finally that it wasn't me, nothing I had done or didn't do made him treat me this way.

No PAIN No GAIN. HEY EVERYONE, REMEMBER THE PAIN, THE ABUSE. THEN YOU'LL GAIN. AT LEAST YOUR PEACE.

I'm tired of the cycle of it all. It's too painful to try to explain how much theyve hurt you only to be met with this blank stare as they have no clue cuz they have no empathy. Unfortunately, with out empathy there can be no love. It's all about them and them getting what they want out of you

@Zoeybelle13

Жыл бұрын

Hailie, You are absolutely correct! It’s exhausting. 🥴I’ve explained many times why it’s over, I’ve blocked him on everything but his emails still go to spam, and he continues to ask me to let him back. He says he “loves” me - ha! His words mean nothing as his actions said it all! It’s like I haven’t said anything to him at all and nothing happened! 😖

@Joshualuv13

Жыл бұрын

Omg ..you absolutely nailed that

2 days ago I broke 4 months of no contact with my ex and I spent 3 hours with her and our daughter. Our kid was emotional and I did it for her. I decided to be normal, kind and communicative during this exception. Then went back to no contact and not answering my ex's messages again. It may seem rude, but it comes easy the moment I remember all the horrible things she has done to me.

They do it to have the last word. Not because they Care for you but because they want to control the pace of the relationship. They don't want you to have the last word, they don't want you to quite on them, they don't want you to by happy without them because it means they've Lost. They want to be the God in your life: decide, control, discard and see your pain.

Thank God! NO HOOVER NO CONTACT NO NOTHING I HELP IT STAY THAT WAY...

@dianaalyssa8726

Жыл бұрын

Same. Let's see mine being a wonderful covert malignant, showed up in the grass outside about 3x, stole stuff, and well he has enough of my stuff to keep occupied I suppose.

For me, no contact is like saying no to a drug or to alcohol etc. It's going cold turkey and it's the only way out.

It"s only been a month since the breakup, I am fighting as hard as I can to stay no contact. He's trying to sneak in again but I boocked him everywhere except mails, I read them but I am forcing myself not to answer. I hope it will get better with time. Thank you for your videos they are really helpful. I wish him to realise and accept he is a narcissist and work on himself. But far away from me!

True, after one year he sent me a card. Telling me he missed me. He asked about my family. He asked me several times on the card to contact him and give me his number. I never responded because I knew he really didn't care about me. We were a situationship for 18 months before I realized something was off. He was not the same person he was in the beginning. I didn't enjoy the new changes he demonstrated. It was tough, but after several conversations and promises, I thanked him for the good times, but I didn't sign up for his bad behavior. It was over, and I never looked back. Thanks to what I learned from KZread. Thank you!❤

I started no contact about week ago. she called two times today.. i didnt answer and it was HARD. she cheated and gaslit for over two years with multiple men. It took SO much effort to break free.. hope i can stay strong 😞

@AMORPROPIOxx

21 күн бұрын

How are you doing now?

@paulolez283

21 күн бұрын

@@AMORPROPIOxx broke no contact a few times. But am back at it. Not doing so good, but definetly better. Living my life, working my ass out and trying to be happy a day at a time. Thank you so much for asking, it goes a long way. Hope you are doing good too 🙏

@AMORPROPIOxx

21 күн бұрын

@@paulolez283 Happy to hear you’re doing better. It is tough but we got this 😊♥️ I’m doing ok, hanging in there. Feeling better day by day! Take care, friend. God Bless!

@paulolez283

20 күн бұрын

@@AMORPROPIOxx take care and stay strong!! You deserve better!!

@NabilxIqbal

4 күн бұрын

That doesn’t make her a narcissist

Yep, hoovered twice. Both times I was finally getting to a healthy place and I don’t have social media and we don’t have mutual friends. It’s truly a 6th sense or something

@Missysnaturals

6 ай бұрын

😮 scary but true

After a year, a hoover on gmail. I didn't respond and fixed my blocking and deleted her message. When she tries again I will report her for abuse. If that doesn't work, I will close my gmail account and change my phone number. I will NEVER let her back.

Sixth sense is right. If I ever dream about the Narc I get hoovered the next day. It's very weird!

@andrealobo9260

3 ай бұрын

This is so true !!

This is true and hurts like hell.

This was spot on for me today. I've been involved with someone for many years, and I'm just now seeing that he has a lot of narcissistic tendencies. We got into a fight, he ended up blocking me after first saying some pretty nasty things, including calling me a narcissist and then told me to leave him alone. Now, after two months, I see that he has unblocked me, but hasn't messaged me yet. I'm not acting on it by messaging him, but unfortunately, I am curious to see if he will actually apologize for his part in the argument. This narcissist stuff is all new to me, but I do see how he hasn't "shown up" for me in the past. I also know that I should block him, but it's so hard because I'm still in love with him😪

They keep reaching out in order to keep their Harem fully stocked. My Ex would call and text, and what kept me keeping him blocked was remembering how he screamed at me down the phone because I didn't hear it ring and him telling me by Text he was taking his Ex out because I didn't respond to his messages. They are my truth of his actions. 🍒

This happened with my mom. I was living with her at the time I set boundaries. She didn’t respect my boundaries so I ended up moving out. I didn’t tell her this was the reason why. I didn’t tell her much at all. I try to not leave any room for discussion or explanation. I kept it simple…set boundaries, once they weren’t respected, I left. Thank you for explaining your pov because things make more sense now. Just the idea of attention, is huge. Back to my mom…she basically text me a week after I moved out “I’m off work tomorrow, what are we doing?” She just assumes that we will be hanging out since she’s off work. Keep in mind we never hang out, this isn’t some obvious thing that we do naturally. This is her forcing herself into my life again. She recognizes that I never reach out to her and never ask to hang out. To me this is honestly extremely rude and selfish. She didn’t ask if I had plans or if I even wanted to hang out with her…just automatically assumes it. These are the things that make me want to make sure it doesn’t happen. I have to reiterate to these people that I’m not at their disposal

Leaving this comment because I literally felt like I was finally moving on this week, and genuinely felt really good about myself. And not even two days later, he reached out

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Жыл бұрын

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Yes,been over 4 years since my ex narcissist left me for a new fuel source .He still reaches out ,only enough to hook me back in ,then Ghosts me to reinforce the trauma bond and further toture me with no regard what so ever .

@sds6303

Жыл бұрын

Block

Yes, it happened to me. Recontact

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Ай бұрын

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I hope he's still with the new IPPS. He has my stuff and has done the hoovers, but still has access to my neighbor's intel. Am in a new(/rekindled old) relationship. A decade of his crap was too much. Worst part of staying NC is not really knowing what's up.

I can relate 💯...Exaaaactly what I dealt with.

You hit him on so many points for me my ex narcissist, and I did not talk for a year at one point then we started flirting with each other, and then I was right back in the same situation again he discarded me when he got a new supply, his new girlfriend now They split up they got back together then he was seeing me and her at the same time and he got caught then he discarded me again then he came back around. We were seeing each other on and off and then out of the blue after a week or two, he says , I just wanna be friends so here I am again healing all over again. He has reached out we have been face-to-face we have went to dinners together. He has stayed at my house. We’ll go no contact and I’ll do good for a while and I’ll let him write back in the door again, you have hit home on so many things with this video. I thank you for this.

Yes, this has happened to me after the break up and he had a new supply. He contacted me several times. Texted about something trival and I miss u texts. I didn't know what I was doing and gave him negative supply. I know better now.

For real. I left him almost 3yrs ago. He contacted and it was like panic calls. We then were on and off again for 6mos out of the year. I felt I was justvwatching the cycle while in it again. I knew he had to be with someone else. But when I relocated he started showing up at my brother's house. I started a boxing class then one morning before my boxing class he called me. He had a friend start watching me on Sundays. But you are absolutely correct, they have a 6th sense about you and moving on. Mine started showing up places. He found out where I lived. Once he showed up with champagne for mimosas. We used to go to brunch every weekend. I would ask sometimes what are we ? Once I said are we in a relationship and he said I guess so im forced into it. Like wtf. But our situation always ended in July, he would do what he does but keep contacting me damn near daily. I figured out that he was still having a weird relationship with his ex wife and harassing her about seeing his kids and paying g child support. Anyway now he's in prison

I ignored and blocked the narcissist about three times, it scares me because if my name is looked up my address pops up too . I need this to be removed

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2 күн бұрын

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got a restraining order, it didn’t stick because they judge didn’t look at all the evidence. BUT i made my point. haven’t been contacted since :)

Yes. As soon as I’m starting to move on my nacissts ex reaches out

It definitely seems that my ex narc has a sixth sense. Every single time he's attempted to establish contact, i was actively arguing with the person i am currently dating. I absolutely noticed that & had mentioned how bizarre it was to friends.

My narc and I have been in contact for 40 yrs from childhood. We entered into a relationship 8 yrs ago and it was horrendous. He will not leave me alone even tho I have blocked him everywhere. The cycle continues. I'm now at the point of going to court for harassment and a non molestation order

Happens to me 4/5 times... in space of 27 months... i gave 5 chances...

Yeah he always knew when I’m moving on. I’d get that random text smh 🤦🏾‍♀️

Mine got a new girl n that was a slap in the face but every week he comes up jusy saying that he hopes i am healthy and peaceful. To not be mean and because i loved him i wouldn’t want to say how angry or confused it makes me feel. Plus because i had hope he will come to me, i would sometimes end up saying miss you and increase in hopeful texts and then he would say oh well, i wish etc. we are friends, i miss u in a different way- so why does he even reach out (i know i love that he reaches out but this makes me sick cause its just a loop of nothing that makes me ruminate, cry, hope n a waste of my energy and days). Also whats killing me is i mentioned break up several times in thw beginning out of frustration n out of fear that he isnt the right person (gut feelings),but he would always hoover so this time he just stuck to it when j said perhaps we should just be friends (thing is he doesn’t really discuss it- hears me n does what he decides in his head when we are not in each other’s space) so now he tells me i got what i wanted but in a nice way. so i am fixated on the fact that i probably missed a good person or perhaps i am a narcissist and to blame cause i triggered all this. someone please respond to this n help me understand.

My narc ex is using the puppy we got together to keep contact. It's hard because I love the dog. 😢

@1Mizzthicness

3 ай бұрын

I had the same problem smh

Thank you Ben!!!!! It helps!!!

@RawMotivations

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching

100% true

Now I understand my ex likes to write so he has need for external validation to continue his work. Also I know people who are working in creative domain , some of them even can not work before recieving external validation. I had such a negative opinion about ,,external validation" but these men could not start to vork without recieving supplies.

Yes that happened.

So true

Thank you so much for offering your perspective. I like these self aware videos because you explain more in depth from the narc pov. My roomate is a sever narcissist. I noticed that he always wants to talk over the phone. For example if I text him, he’ll respond with a phone call. Or if he calls me and I don’t answer, I’ll send him a text. I’m most cases, he will call right after I text. Sometimes I give the idea that I’ll only be able to text, whenever that happens, he just says “nvm”. So basically, if he has to text, he won’t even have the convo…the only thing he’ll accept, is a phone call. I’m so glad I’ve learned about narcissism. I moved out of my moms place because it became too extreme. Turns out my new roomate is more severe. The awesome part is I know what to expect and know about the supply they seek. Therefore, I make sure to not give into any of it. I can tell that he gets mad sometimes but it’s truly his own stuff. I’ve learned to not feel bad or take it personally when they get mad at my rejection. In the grand scheme of things, they are not justified…only acting like a brat who’s used to getting their way. I had to learn how to be okay with them being upset all the time because I didn’t bend to their will.

@LadyLuck8_4

10 ай бұрын

Have they been diagnosed as a narcissist?

I didn’t call him for a week and he showed up. We had a nice day. He said we should just be friends. It broke my heart but I didn’t tell him that I said he could stay over. I swear to God we didn’t sleep together, but my power went out, and he absolutely raged and rage for hours. It was absolutely horrible And I was in a fetal position in the dark and blaming it on me. What a joke I was traumatized all day and the next day I went to my daughters. I pulled in the driveway and I called the police officer I said he rage so bad I’m afraid of him. I didn’t wanna get a restraining order because I was afraid that would make it worse. He said put a no trespassing and he said how long do you want it for I said the spring will be fine he goes no do it for a year I said that’s fine, but what it happened was I pulled into my daughters driveway and this voice said to me inside you have to do this for you just as loud as can be, and let me tell you that the pain of not seeing him has been excruciating, but that son of a bitch was gonna respect me

You worded that exactly like my situation.

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Жыл бұрын

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I changed my number, he deleted me on social media and I blocked his email. He doesn’t seem the type but I’ll air on the side of caution. Even though we’re still “legally” married I believe he has a new supply.

@harmonychannel5129

2 ай бұрын

How do I block the email

After sending me a txt which stated" sorry i didnt answer your call or return it, i dont wish to speak to you however i wish you well whatever you do" my soon to be ex then txted me two weeks later??. I am not reading anything into this as i think it was a mistake!!! Having said that i would have expected him to delete my number when he left???

Ben whats the difference between a victim reaching out because they have hope or miss the fantasy love or genuinely love a person versus a narcissistic hoover? whats worse is when i reach out n if we were back i would not want it after some days because it would get too draining or it would just seem like a lot of work- even havjng him sit down n talk felt like orchestrating a whole event emotionally so i would want it to end eventually but go back again out of guilt n attachment or hope that this time i wont feel as bad n it will finally work. Now i blame myself as he called me crazy too n broke up saying i am f** annoying n crazy. when he mentally accepted breaking up i didn’t realize it and went with mixed signals falling for him deeply but he stuck to his guns every now n then saying vaguely saying miss u differently etc. and avoiding seeing me using vague reasons. As i was already so drained i wouldn’t ask for explanations but one fine day saw him with a new girl and he just unleashed n called me all this n told me that i should have known n that he told me were friends like i wanted. (which he did but i never believed it because he would never leave me in the first few months even if i wantwd to end it). Please help me as i am suoer confused, depressed. self blaming n just crying in bed for a month now. I cant be living my life like this but i cant seem to get my smile n joy back.

Nope,I was ghosted regularly then text out the blue saying they had met someone,that was 4 years ago!

I’m sorry but I’ve blocked and blocked and changed my number it don’t work. They come to your house without notice. I shouldn’t. Have to move

@RawMotivations

Жыл бұрын

get a restraining order and call the police.

@Dybeatsounique

Жыл бұрын

I know but i think it will be so much drama with his mom & sisters. I just hope he doesn’t pop up again

@RawMotivations

Жыл бұрын

@@Dybeatsounique then you block his mom and sisters. You have to get to a place where you are unwilling to put up with toxicity.

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Жыл бұрын

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My narcissistic ex best friend just texted me for the 4th time 2 days ago after it’s been a year, I didn’t answer back I keep blocking him and ignore him. When I get a new phone, I’m changing my number.

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26 күн бұрын

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This did happen to me the block and unblock and even after almost 5 years still phones me even with me not responding

But I do this too as in reaction. So in the narcissist too?

@anonymous01411

6 ай бұрын

I’m *

Fuck 🤦🏼‍♀️😂

This channel was good for me for some time but now I am concerned about the amount of content and all the difference channels this is running and thia becoming the obsession of Ben's life. And how much validation and attention it feeds the disorder. i just hope the wife is ok

Thanks to your channel I actually was able to feel more confident validating many of the covert ways my ex was trying to reverse hoover me. Only the few people who knew the patterns agreed when other friends told me I was being paranoid. He works in IT and told me to watch the show 'YOU' as almost a veiled threat if I left. Long story short, when I had successfully blocked him on every platform he found creative ways of reverse engineering other aspects of social media to trigger me. Things like: after two years of not changing his profile pictures, suddenly he was changing them monthly with new pictures of him and his new girlfriend, so that I could see his photo icon in my chat history. I had to request my data from Instagram and Facebook so I could delete our chat history and stop him from hurting me that way. He also started posting videos on KZread set public so that I would get notifications of his videos. I unfollowed him there. I also post everything publicly now because he scared me into believing he could hack my accounts, so if only post public things there's no insensitive for him to hack me (hopefully). Spent over a $100 in online security devices 😩

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Жыл бұрын

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