I am a Swedish man and I have been thrown off the train because I had bought tickets for the wrong train.

So as a Swede, that with the train they do that with everyone, also with coming into a club its normal, its no racist, this happens to me and anyone else.

Winter depression is real in the NL as well. Although it may not be as dark as in Sweden, experiencing rain everyday and seeing the sun 3 times per month messed with me big time

@felicialauren.

19 күн бұрын

i agree :) the weather here is rarely good sadly... hope ur surviving and thriving this summer

It sounds strange that no one knew a word of English. We Swedes learn English in school from first grade. Even older people usually know a lot of English. From what I've heard, it's usually difficult to learn Swedish since everyone knows English so well😅

@felicialauren.

11 күн бұрын

ahaha no that’s true 😂 but i probably got unlucky because the places i went to especially the grocery stores most of the time, there wasn’t anyone who could speak english (on times where i actually had to communicate) but like other than that swedes def have perfect english!

@sandercohen5543

3 күн бұрын

She went to northern sweden... those poor souls are still using horse-drawn carriages and heating their homes with firewood. You can't expect them to speak TWO languages. That's too much to ask from such primitive beings 😜😝🤣

I never get into clubs. They really like their little hill to be king on.

@sirfrancisgaming9438

10 күн бұрын

Yeah i've been kicked out of clubs in stockholm multiple times for doing nothing wrong. One time i was apparently "too drunk" even though i wasn't really. They never really explain properly why they kick me out either

@felicialauren.

8 күн бұрын

ohhh really? thanks for sharing! i didn’t know that that was also the case for most

@calleha01

4 күн бұрын

@@sirfrancisgaming9438 I think based on appearance. I notice Swedish people dress up as if it's a special occasion whenever they go out, even just to a bar. I don't and I think it's pretty silly to do so but I have been told I couldn't order cause I looked "wasted" (I had one beer). Any place in sweden where you find väktare whose job is to stand around and look for people who are "too drunk" they just look for reasons to kick people out. It's super counter-intuitive to kick people out even if they really are "too drunk" because if you're just sitting down and not drinking anything to feel better or to calm down or whatever they still can kick you out. I have heard horror stories of people left out in the cold winter

@Ellada0427

2 сағат бұрын

@@sirfrancisgaming9438 I also got kicked out for no reason once and was told I was being too drunk when in reality I didn't drink any alcohol at all since I was supposed to take my friend home..

About racism you mention, well I'm a swede I have had train conductors and buss drivers being bad for no reason and I have also been rejected entering clubs and no I was not drunk and I'm blond and blue eyed male, some people just want to abuse power they have.

@felicialauren.

8 күн бұрын

thanks for sharing! i never noticed that and thought it was just something personal

rejected from a few clubs* absolute racism 🤧

@ceciliahanson2283

15 күн бұрын

As a white swede I also are sometimes rejected. Rascism is not okey but it's hard to know what happened here.

@felicialauren.

11 күн бұрын

@@ceciliahanson2283yes of course! this video was never meant to express hate :) was just sharing my personal experience which obviously can be interpreted differently

@777mannen-bx5ji

10 күн бұрын

@@felicialauren. As far as racism, if you're an Asian girl you're going to be one of the last groups to have an issue in Sweden. Being denied entry into a club once is not much evidence along with a train conductor being rude.

Shops closing at 6pm? Most shops - at least grocery shops - close at 9 or 10 pm and malls are usually closing late every day also at the weekend. Very few Swedes don’t speak English. But it is not the same as wanting to speak it all the time. So of course in class, in Sweden, lessons are held in Swedish unless it is an international course. Winter is obviously dark, but the same goes for NL. And yes U need a ticket to get on a train - of course. I think you must have been perceived as very persistent if you were pushed - Swedes don’t usually get physical with anyone unless being very provoced. Getting to know new friends IS difficult, especially if you are an adult. But in my experience this quite common for people moving abroad to many countries since you just don’t know the codes. Perhaps a little bit longer than a few months. I think you need to choose a perspective - if you move to somewhere unfamiliar you will always find stuff that u find weird and don’t like, but if you are curious and want to know a place you will find the nice parts. But U do U - we would never force you to stay if you don’t want. BTW I was in Singapore once - terrible experience- nasty people, super ugly city with only a few beautiful places and spots. Expensive too and very impersonal. But I didn’t give it enough time to understand the vibe. So in my case I would love to go back!

I'm Swedish and used to work on a train with serving back in the day, and some conductors can be ruthless if you don't have a ticket, it's stated on the trains and busses that you have to have a valid ticket BEFORE entering, and many times i had old colleagues from the train being attacked by people on the train, both comming from male and female, usualy 20 - 30 years old, and especially if ti was a student event, i'm guessing they don't want the hassle to deal with potentially drunk or disshonest people at 3 am. Never seen anyone got refused to a club without a reason, usualy cos they are considered, by the bouncer, too drunk. But then i never went clubbing in Stockholm or Göteborg, too big for my tastes, but if he told you "you should leave, you won't be getting in anyway" he might have seen how much people there were, and knew you would not make it in time, or the club would be filled before your turn, so no point in you wasting your time waiting.

Come to Spain! SO welcoming of all cultures, shops close at 10pm and drinking is a lot less restricted! 😝

@felicialauren.

11 күн бұрын

I LOVE SPAIN

@HudikMats

7 күн бұрын

How many speaks good English in spain? 10 people???

@djperryboy

6 күн бұрын

@@HudikMats 10 people is speaking proper spanish. 🙂

@moogieanddoggo2156

6 күн бұрын

@@HudikMats 😂

@RasMosi

3 күн бұрын

Love Spain, was in Barcelona in february to see Llum BCN festival ... I think it should be mandatory :D loved it!!!

So no they its not a race thing, its normal with the train and the club. If u do not have ticket for the train they will scream at you for no reason, even do u are a swede or anything else. The club are just stricet, so when i an d my friends where walking into a club in gothenburg i didnt get in, but my friend that is from thailand did.

Sorry for the bad experience on the train and club. I guess both these happened late at night, and I have seen that people working in these kind of jobs (i.e. they are supposed to "keep things under control") can act really bad, as they almost expect people to behave badly. So even if you did nothing wrong, this can happen. It has happened to me too being a blonde blue-eyed swede...

I have nothing relevant to add to this topic but had to comment to say that I love your voice. You would be amazing at ASMR whispering.

Appreciate the insights. Congrats on having so much time living abroad under your belt.

glad to have u back in nl!! now stay 🫵

@felicialauren.

19 күн бұрын

I like listening to your opinion on Sweden btw, can you do experience in the Netherlands next? I find NL very interesting, and I wanna see the difference from Sweden

@felicialauren.

19 күн бұрын

yes ofc!!

Whites are sometimes treated the same way by rude people or strange people. It is difficult to impossible for foreigners including Americans make to friends in some countries like England. My husband and I are white and no one spoke to us in Austria accept at restaurants, stores, and our hotel. Germans are friendly to tourists as long as they have money.

Where are you from if I may ask?

Some clubs have very specific dress-codes, which they don't want to discuss, they just are what they are. Or about tattoos, or hair-style, or whatever. There might be memberships so that some can get in, when others get to hear the place is full. No sane Swede tries to go to clubs in Stockholm, it is not worth it at all, crowded, snobbish, and no fun, and that is how it has been for ages. Other Swedes than Stockholmians call them 08'ers - because some of them are visibly their own neurotic species, a bit obsessed with their outwardly superiority. Much bling-bling and pretense. But most of people in Stockhom are kind and reliable, and just like normal people not interested in clubbing until morning, but having interesting hobbies and diverse pursuits in their free time. It is with the help of the latter you'll easily make friends with Swedes, even as adults. Sweden is worth a second chance.

So easy saying being white solves everything. I’m white, as white as you can be, so is my gf, and we lived in Stockholm for 3 years, experiencing the same exact situations you describe. Once we saw a bouncer kicking a woman out of a bar for spilling some beer. Yes, just sipilling beer because she was carrying 3 glasses from the bar to the table, and when she put them on the table one of them tilted and spilled like 10% of its content. The girl was white af, and she got kicked out for “being drunk” when she hadn’t started drinking. Another time, a bouncer asked me and my gf how many drinks had we had, before allowing us to enter the bar. We said none, which was true, but he said that was impossible because it was 9pm, so he didn’t let us in. Another time, when coming home at night in the tunerlbana (metro) there was a guy that closed his eyes for a minute, sitting perfectly straight, and he was kicked out for “sleeping” in the metro. He was also white. I have to say I’m not swedish, but Sweden is a tough country even if you are a white european. They just have a loooooooot of unwritten rules that are stupid but enforced to a crazy point

@gecko7167

20 күн бұрын

"Sweden is a tough country even if you are a white european" oh please. please just shut up and touch grass 😭

@felicialauren.

19 күн бұрын

being white doesn't solve everything but it is a privilege :) even if you are white, everyone can have different privileges as well and they don't always have to necessarily do anything with race! (pro tip): living there i've learned to not take anything personal ahaha

@djperryboy

9 күн бұрын

​@@felicialauren.Being white is not a privilege. Sweden has taken more refugees than any other european country by population percentage. 20% of the Swedish people is from non-Swedish ancestors. Maybe it's them that you hate. Not the Swedes. All people are welcome here. We are the most gay-friendly, immigrant-friendly, child-friendly and animal-friendly people that you can come across. We also send huge amount of our money to help organizations for other countries.

@Max-jj3hh

8 күн бұрын

I was kicked out for being "too drunk" in the metro late night on my way home once( i was not it was just no other people there and they want to bully someone), i had more issues with these guards. This was the worst time they put me on the ground, i had his foot on my throat and threatened to break my arm if i came back. These guards are for the most part phsycos.

@emmelisen

6 күн бұрын

Hahah ok!? Tough country? Then you were unlucky. I´ve spilled beers and drinks many times, and nobody have noticed or cared a bit. The thing with "kicking out" sleeping (potentially drunk people) from the subway is for their own safety! For them to not getting robbed while sleeping or hurting themselves, falling on the tracks and so on. We are excessively caring in Sweden (that´s why we have a immigration problem 🙄We think good of all people and want to protect them. To a point that we will eradicate ourselves. Naive and gullible. The tings Felicia has experienced is most likely NOT racism. I can experience the same things sometimes, and I am a blond Swedish woman. It´s easy to feel "victimized".

It's not racism... they're very picky with who they let into clubs in sweden. I understand why you would think that, but trust me; it's not XD

@felicialauren.

3 күн бұрын

yes ahaha i realized after reading everyone’s comment experiencing similar things :D

Sweden can be an experience that grows on you, but it sure is not for everybody. Sweden is dominated by Swedish culture, here it is not common with a China town, a Jewish village within a city, or even Italian parts of town. Outside the center of our bigger cities there can be places where many Muslims live. But all in all, Sweden is Swedish through and through, and it seems no Swedes have a wish to change that. For many Swedes even Danes and Finns are very foreign and strange, and the prejudice is strong and deeply rooted. So all who hope for an international atmosphere will be disappointed. Sweden has not have colonies overseas like the Netherlands, so the population is not familiar with such customs.

Another banger

@felicialauren.

23 күн бұрын

sup dude

I could not live somewhere where things close at 6pm

@felicialauren.

19 күн бұрын

same, after 6pm is when i start feeling productive

@sirfrancisgaming9438

10 күн бұрын

@@felicialauren. idk why the grocery stores closed at 6pm where you were at but where i live which is a very small town they don't close until like 9-11pm

@djperryboy

9 күн бұрын

In my town in Sweden stores are open to 10 or 11 PM and there are also gasoline stores that is open 24 hours a day. I live in a medium big Town. Norrköping is btw one of our biggest cities. If stores have closed down at 6PM you must have been far out on the countryside and not in a city. I have worked as a truck driver for hundreds of stores and 99% are open to at least 8PM. Why you are not accepted in transports or clubs and complain that you cannot get alcohol easy sounds like you have a problem with alcohol. Also the way that you say "I don't think that I have a problem with alcohol" is a big red flag. Is that why you go to the Netherlands where drugs are legalized? We have great help in Sweden if you have a problem with alcohol, gambling, drugs or if you have been assaulted etc. I am sorry that you didn't like your journey here. But everyone cannot like the same. Enjoy your life your way!

@francisdec1615

9 күн бұрын

Det är ju länder som avkriminaliserar/legaliserar som gör rätt och Sverige som gör fel. Det är bokstavligt talat bara Sverige i hela västvärlden som fortfarande har den här frihetskränkande drogpolitiken. Jag kommer aldrig någonsin att fatta varför de flesta s.k. landsmän tycker att det är BRA att staten trampar på deras frihet på olika sätt. Hade jag varit yngre så hade jag lämnat det här patetiska landet. Se på Tjeckien: drogliberalt, prostitutionsliberalt och vapenliberalt. Ett land för fria människor. De importerar inte islamistiska kriminella eller terrorister heller till skillnad från idiot-Sverige. (Om du svarar på detta förväntar jag mig att du försvarar den svenska politiken med klichéer om droger, prostitution och vapen, som du har hört från svenska politiker och journalister som hatar fria människor, d.v.s. de flesta av dem, t.ex. skitsnack om partyknarkare och att det inte finns några lyckliga horor och hur många som skjuts i USA. Intellektuellt djup är också bannlyst i Sverige.)

@leob4403

Күн бұрын

​@@felicialauren.Supermarkets don't close at 18 in Sweden, I have no idea where you got that information but it's wrong

While many people experience the same things you have in terms of both train, clubs etc hidden racism definatly exists. Our food yeah we love salt up here. Historically because of our short summers and growing seasons we survived on different salt conserved things. So it most likely our taste culturually just developed into that. Meaning since we grow up on it its what we like. The english language thing you must just have been unlucky.

@DNA350ppm

Күн бұрын

Yes, many Swedes hate spicy food, chilantro, curry, bellpeppers and garlic, etc. On the other hand many like smoked food, licorice, mashed lingonberries, and sour rye-bread, and Kalles kaviar, and other foods steeped in vinegar (the simple Swedish version, not like balsamico, or such specialities.)

i loveeee ur graphics ! u should come to canada ;)

@felicialauren.

19 күн бұрын

aaaa thank you beautiful

Sorry you experience unseen racism :( Is it the same in the netherlands?

@felicialauren.

19 күн бұрын

hi :) it's definitely everywhere, but i really don't find it bad here in the netherlands!

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the part of people not speaking English is not true over 80% of the Swedish population speak english i am 13 and almost speak it fluently😅

@Mimer6

4 күн бұрын

The percentage of English-speaking people in Sweden is higher than in the USA. Unbelievable, but in the USA there are large neighborhoods in some cities that only speak Spanish as an example.

Your first example isn't rasism, sorry you had to experiance that situation. But its not rasism. The secund example was not rasism either... that shit at clubs has happend to me and most people in sweden. Its f*** up how it is to get into clubs in general. It comes across as you reading into things. But interesting listening to your experiance 😊

@felicialauren.

11 күн бұрын

hi, that’s why I termed it “unseen” racism because it’s not necessarily the most out there but it’s def a discrimination towards my friends and I :) of course those things can happen to everyone too! but I’ve also had other things happen which I did not cover in the video so it does seem like I am reading into things (which I might do unintentionally) 😇

@francisdec1615

9 күн бұрын

@@felicialauren. I'm very critical of Sweden myself, though I'm a Swede, but that thing wasn't racism. Those people working in nightclubs are infamous for their shitty attitude in general. They do that to people with blonde hair and blue eyes all the time as well.

Many clubs have 23 or 24 age restriction. You look young (This is not a bad thing) so that could be a big reason that you did not come in, not becuse you are from Asia.

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I don't know how you can come to the conclusion that the train occasion was somehow racism towards you. In Sweden, you buy a ticket beforehand. You should be careful before jumping the conclusion about racism. As an asian, I've experienced it and that cause me to blame every inconvenience in my life on racism. Looking back, a lot of times there was just me being hurt.

No but honestly as a white swede, these are the things I don't like as well. I can't say much for these specific things you mentioned and I do realise I have a lot of privilege in being white, so I'm not target for the racism here, but it's super frustrating to see the other white people in my life act like there isn't racism here. It's like we have this weird national pride that makes people think "we're so politically literate and Sweden is such a great country, there's no way there's racism here" instead of listening to people of colours' lived experiences. As you probably experienced in this comment section, people get weirdly defensive about it too. I will say if you ever visit again though, maybe give Malmö a try? :) It's quite a bit livelier than the majority of other places here. Still not sure whether it would live up to the vibes you'd want though.

Interesting story 🙂but I think these things "Might" happen in The Netherlands as well but usually I don't have any issues here. The great thing about Netherlands is we get to enjoy all 4 seasons so you get to wear all season clothes (in comparison to Sweden) 😅

@felicialauren.

19 күн бұрын

ye it can definitely happen just about anywhere :) but what 4 seasons? it's almost summer but the weather refuses to believe it's june :(

@kayip_c

19 күн бұрын

@@felicialauren. Haha you got a point haha maybe this year is like a Diesel it will kick off in July or August haha...but fair enough...this year the summer is kinda not there yet🙃

@veronicalidstrom5424

4 күн бұрын

Lol😂of course We have 4 seasons!!

I wonder where the racism comes from... I really wonder.. Maybe the word "Swedistan" will give you a clue ;) That being said: Asians are generally really good at integrating or even assimilating into many societies and they are usually hard-working people, so I dont see any problems in asian immigration (if it's controlled)

oh no, sorry about the racism 😵do u think it could be a culture difference? Being middle eastern every time i go back i forget sometimes they give me attitude but then i remember they can always be like that sometimes.

@felicialauren.

19 күн бұрын

no definitely, some things can be a culture difference (e.g being reserved) but it's more so about discrimination towards certain groups of people that maybe they themselves may not do it intentionally or don't think much of it :)

@MrMvidz

10 күн бұрын

@@felicialauren. Being married to an asian woman, her perspective over 25 years is that it depends a lot on the city and the neighbourhood. Cities that has taken in a very large portion of immigrants the last 10 years, seem more harsh. I live in Umea, in northern Sweden, and she thrives here - even if the cold winters took a while to accept :D

@louoaopcoaoroiod5687

8 күн бұрын

@@MrMvidz You are correct. There is actually a recent study on this, ''proximity to immigrants predicts anti immigrant sentiment in Sweden'', simply Swedes who live close to immigrants are far more likely to vote for anti-immigrant parties. Like 90% of the violent crime in Sweden was done by foreigners in 2023, so the natives that live close to it blame all immigrants.

You rate Sweden by you living in a small town!!

@felicialauren.

3 күн бұрын

yess!! which is why i added the disclaimer :) definitely think would have a different experience if i were to live in bigger cities

Jag skäms för mina landsnän, det första min mamma sa när jag skaffade en flickvän från Thailand, var skaffa inte Aids, det är så sjukt. Är sedan 6 år gift med en underbar kvinna från Thailand och var tidigare ihop med en kompis till henne i dygt 3 år.Frånsett det är du en mycket vacker kvinna och jag hoppas att du kan få en bättre syn på vårt vackra land.

@herrbonk3635

7 күн бұрын

Jag skäms för er som ser ra-sm i allt. Det är som spanska inkvisitionen.

Hello, from Sweden ^^ Sorry you got to see the bad side of Sweden with the clubs not letting you in, I can't say I have experienced anything like that but then again I am white. Though, I also don't go to clubs xD Anyway, considering the big rise in support of the (obvious in my opinion) racist political party, this does not surprise me. I am shocked that people don't realize what they vote for to be honest... On the train conductor part... That is their job. They have to be "aggressive" or at least show dominance because that is their workplace. And if you do not have a ticket they will throw you off the train. You can't buy tickets on the trains. And sometimes they wil charge you with a big sum of money if you attempt to ride anyway. So consider yourself lucky that you were not let on at all. Truthfully. I doubt the train conductor had anything personally agaisnt you. Imagine, it is late at night already as you said, last train and all. They probably already dealth with A LOT of people trying to ride for free. And the more you talk back, the more likely it is to get shoved off, because they still work under time pressure. Also, the food? Only the swedish food? You didn't try any of the millions of pizzerias and chinese restaurants and vietnamese restaurants e.t.c.? I feel like there are more of these than regular swedish meatball restaurants. But then again.... Dutch "snacks"..... Not snacks!!! It's bland to me! Like... sausage bread? And no ketshup? Yeah no thanks xD

you have two first/given name must be indonesian 😄

@felicialauren.

19 күн бұрын

ahaha i wonder what gave it away...

I think you just had bad experience or unforunate events. People can be assholes that's for sure, but doesn't mean the whole country or all Swedes are at fault. Easiest thing to say is it's because of racism, which is not always the case. Sometimes it's the case of people being entitled and think everybody should bend over backwards for a nice cultural experience. Live, work, study, pay your bills, try to integrate and learn language, but don't expect pat on the back in the end of the day. Navigating without swedish knowledge should not be that hard, most of the people know it, even elderly. So again, you just had bad experience. I live in a village in the middle of nowhere and people know english. The club stuff I can't argue because I don't go clubbing. Either way, you do you.

@felicialauren.

16 күн бұрын

hi leo :) totally agree that just because of my bad experience doesn’t mean that all Swedes are at fault which is why if you watched the video, I repeatedly said that I’m not generalizing and was just unlucky that I experienced what I’ve experienced. Again if you watched the video, I wasn’t necessarily blaming it all on racism but it is a factor (even my Swedish friends agreed). Another thing, if you watch the video :) I do integrate and learn the Swedish language because I genuinely love the language which is why I mentioned that the language is not hard to learn 🫶🏼

you forgot to mention what's become by far the worst issue in sweden; the imported crime. and if you wanna experience racism, try going to russia, pakistan or africa. i don't know where you have been, but western countries are actually the LEAST racist countries in the world.

@emmelisen

6 күн бұрын

Facts.

no more ikea stuff

@felicialauren.

22 күн бұрын

cant say no to the meatballs tho 👀

All this made me quite sad, hearing about the clubs and all that. Sweden is a country of crypto racists. I wish you all the best in the Netherlands. Hugz!

You should come to Serbia, it's better than pompous western countries, and it's the least racist country in Europe :)

@felicialauren.

11 күн бұрын

would loveeee to visit Serbia sometimes