Why I Married Shane / Squirmy and Grubs
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Shane Burcaw (he/him) is the author of several award-winning books about disability. He is the President of a nonprofit organization called Laughing At My Nightmare, and a renowned public speaker who has performed across the country at places such as Harvard University, The University of Florida, The University of Connecticut, Princeton University, and many more.
Hannah Burcaw (she/her) graduated from Carleton College, where she studied Sociology and Anthropology. She films and edits the “Squirmy and Grubs” vlog, which has over 800,000 subscribers on KZread. Hannah has spoken at prestigious universities and Fortune 500 companies alike about the realities of ableism. On her popular Instagram account, she advocates for acceptance of all people and works to improve the way society thinks about disability.
Shane and Hannah have been together for over four years. They got married in September of 2020 in the midst of a global pandemic in their backyard, with their officiant conducting the ceremony via Zoom. Their interabled relationship often confuses people, because much of society still cannot fathom people with disabilities being involved in loving, intimate relationships. Anyone who watches these episodes will quickly see their relationship is just as “normal” as any other. Sure, Hannah helps Shane use the bathroom and brush his teeth, but those activities do not detract from the emotional, intellectual, and physical connection they experience together.
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My heart melted when you said that Shane would buy the books you were reading in school so that you could discuss them. I felt like crying. It was so beautiful.
@kathi6844
2 жыл бұрын
That's by far the cutest thing I've ever heard!
@aliyah7148
2 жыл бұрын
Girl I’m side eyeing my husband after that 😂❤️
@miriamlevenson9430
2 жыл бұрын
my dream relationship 😭😭
Hannah, you are absolutely glowing in this video. It’s obvious you are madly in love with each other. Shane always looks at you with a little awe and you glow. Such a joy to witness.
@verlindaallen6299
2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely. This comment should be highlighted. 💝💝
@user-vc5rp7nf8f
2 жыл бұрын
she's so gorgeous
@MsTinkerbelle87
2 жыл бұрын
They are blushing the whole time lol Awwwe!
@yasminedey8612
2 жыл бұрын
Awwe...you two are so cute together and really adorable ❤️
@noname-tk4is
2 жыл бұрын
Their a fake couple enough with the nonsense 🤦♂️
halfway through the video i realized i was literally just here smiling at y'all. such a lovely couple :)
@debbiebramwell
2 жыл бұрын
Right? Lol Me too!
@jilltheprivateinvestigator3328
2 жыл бұрын
Same. I smiled the whole time. ☺️
@gwoman1291
2 жыл бұрын
Yup smiled the whole time. The happiness is infectious thanks for sharing.
@Dptmax
2 жыл бұрын
Ditto!
@deborahsimpson2732
2 жыл бұрын
Me too!!!
I love that Shane turned almost every one of Hannah’s points into complementing Hannah. 💖💖💖
@jerryskeepero
2 жыл бұрын
Agreed
@tawnie9204
2 жыл бұрын
Same!
@bsbznumber1fan
2 жыл бұрын
He did but it was so sweet that he did that.
@aadvika2501
2 жыл бұрын
TRUE
The connection between you two is so obvious! Why people doubt your relationship is beyond me❤️
I love Shane's smile. It always seems genuine, lighting up his eyes.
@dollymadison2397
2 жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh YASS! His smile is RIDICULOUS! Can you imagine trying to stay mad at him? Smh.. there's no way!
@mrtony80
Жыл бұрын
@@dollymadison2397 and he's disabled so that makes it extra special!
I've lost 100lbs in the last couple years and a lifetime of trauma and bullying has made me think every compliment is secretly an insult so I completely understand how uncomfortable it can be recieving praise. I hope we can both work on that, Shane! ❤❤
@debbiebramwell
2 жыл бұрын
Repeat after me Ali , I am awesome! I am loved! I am loveable! I am worthy! 🥰❤
@lisas8244
2 жыл бұрын
Best wishes with your future personal growth in the ability to receive sincere praise with appreciation, grace and a sense of peace and happiness. xxx
@jilltheprivateinvestigator3328
2 жыл бұрын
Hmmm, I've always felt that way and didn't know it was a thing. I thought I was the only one, at 45 years old. 🤔 Interesting.
@jilltheprivateinvestigator3328
2 жыл бұрын
Ps CONGRATULATIONS, GIRL!!! 👏💐🙌🌻🏵️🎈🎊🎉 You are BEAUTIFUL!!! 💜
@malina1239
2 жыл бұрын
So relatable, I’ve lost 180 lbs and feel worse than ever.. all my insecurities and traumas have resurfaced and confidence and self worth and self love have reached an all time low. I think it’s because I don’t have the fat excuse anymore. If people don’t like me now, they really don’t like me. I can’t believe that people would like me if I lost the weight anymore… so now I’m finding more and more flaws in both my looks and personality.. I also look for secret insults in compliments or think that people try to avoid me because I’m disgusting. That makes me avoid social settings and contact with people and I’ve become a recluse. A prisoner in my own home. Ive lost my fat prison, but in the process created a much larger prison for myself!!
I've said this before on another video of y'all's but I just have to say it again: I love the way you look at each other. Hannah, you can hardly take your eyes off of Shane, and it's so beautiful to watch in literally every single video. I aspire to have a love like yours someday
"Yeah but did you forget that I also suck" is literally my mantra. Get your own mantra Shane.
@elizabethyoung2180
2 жыл бұрын
No that’s mine, you get a new one! 😂
One of the things that I love about my husband is that he enjoys watching these videos with me. We pause it and laugh together. Thank you for those fun moments with my husband.
@aimeeglatt3299
2 жыл бұрын
Ok. That’s the sweetest thing I’ve read in a year. Hello from Louisiana to you and your husband! 🥰
@beccafitz22
2 жыл бұрын
I love your comment. It made me smile!
Hannah and Shane, you two are absolutely adorable together. As my Great Grandmother would say you go together like peas and carrots. Your relationship is truly inspiring.
No explanation needed. Shane rocks.
@dannyguy2008
2 жыл бұрын
Because he’s funny? That’s not important. You can have a good personality without being funny.
@danniep2737
2 жыл бұрын
@@dannyguy2008 there was no point to this reply lol
@dannyguy2008
2 жыл бұрын
@@danniep2737 Just wanted to know if a sense of humor is everything people look for nowadays. I don’t have that and I’m 27 & never had a girlfriend due to Asperger’s. Having autism prevents me from being witty/funny even though I’m great at math and logic.
@danniep2737
2 жыл бұрын
@@dannyguy2008 Its definitely not everything, but they said shane rocks and u just assumed they ONLY meant his sense of humor and seemed act like enjoying his humor is a bad thing. He also seems to have a good personality. And dont worry, humor isn't everything, it's just something alot of people like, but there'll always be people who dont rate humor as high
@billybobmonroe3166
2 жыл бұрын
@@dannyguy2008 You probably just arent looking in the right places. There are plenty of women out there that will appreciate you, even if your not funny or witty naturally. Plenty of accountants, or Math professors have wives/families with great relationships.
You guys needed no explanation. You finish each others sentences in every video. You always know exactly what the other is trying to say and its seriously goals.
OMG, I would die if a partner ever read along with my school work. That is so dedicated and thoughtful!
@thetruthdatedr.4766
2 жыл бұрын
Yep men should take notes! Hannah is then3rd gorgeous girlfriend in a row he’s had. 📝 ❤️
@Naturefan354
2 жыл бұрын
@@thetruthdatedr.4766 And ?? Why would it matter how hot any of them are?? A person’s looks should be the least relevant trait that matters.
@thetruthdatedr.4766
2 жыл бұрын
@@Naturefan354 Well it clearly mattered to Shane
Elite hand holding status 👌🏻 I totally see the intellectual and humorous compatibility between you both, you just bounce off one another perfectly ☺️
No explanation necessary. We all see why you two got married. You are the luckiest people in the world, you were absolutely made for each other, may you have a long and happy marriage. We love you.💕💕💕💕💕
Shane getting the books Hannah is reading in her classes is one of the sweetest things ever. 💘
My wife and I are approaching our fiftieth wedding anniversary and complimentary sense of humors has made us look forward to each day. This is just as true when I am traveling for work and we are far apart.
@thetruthdatedr.4766
2 жыл бұрын
Awesome! Men should take notes from this video! Shane’s obviously doing somethin right! Hannah is the 3rd gorgeous girlfriend in a row he’s had! 📝
It really is such a joy to watch your man with kids. One of the main reasons I fell in love with my husband is because of how he handles his kids. He’s amazing ❤️
When you love two people You have never met, just because they are beautiful souls❤️❤️❤️love you guys 🤓
Watching your videos always lifts my spirits! You are both so kind, loving, inspiring and joyful to watch. I appreciate that you share your beautiful relationship with the world. Your videos always put a smile on my face. Thank you! 😊
It is wonderful to hear you both complementing each other. So heart warming 💕 On another note… your lighting is fabulous in this video. You’re both glowing. Great job!
I've been watching your videos for probably at least 3 years. I have enjoyed seeing your relationship develop into what it is today. You are a beautiful, sweet, funny and loving couple. Thank you for including us on your journey. Wishing you happiness always. Looking forward to seeing your amazing future. ❤
@doink.2052
2 жыл бұрын
I've just looked up Nation wide in all of the states in America they have no record of a marriage license. Nothing.
@HanksGirl98
2 жыл бұрын
@@doink.2052 IMO, I don't see why they would feel the need to lie about being married.. Maybe post your "findings" on other people's comments and see what they have to say.
@doink.2052
2 жыл бұрын
@@HanksGirl98 Truth is Truth.
My first time commenting! You guys had my eyes tearing up, along with laughing, smiling with you! You guys are awesome, & have such a very special love. Beautiful to witness. Thank you for sharing your lives! This was awesome, made my heart smile. Thank you, hugs, & blessings!
Shane looks really good in pink! 😍
@meanguuurlfetch6853
2 жыл бұрын
he really does! 😁
@debbiebramwell
2 жыл бұрын
Real men wear pink!
@sjdnfjnj
2 жыл бұрын
@@debbiebramwell 😄
@debbiebramwell
2 жыл бұрын
@@sjdnfjnj 😀🙃
You guys never fail to make me smile and feel good! So glad you found each other and let us peek into your lives.
You guys are so incredibly lucky you found each other its so clear and obvious you two are soulmates
I’m really glad you guys did this video because a couple weeks ago I actually had a video come up in my feed that was some guy telling everyone about how fake your relationship is. I could not believe that someone actually took the time to make a video about your relationship, and what he thinks the real truth is. I, of course, left an appropriate kind of “how dare you” comment, and I wish I could remember exactly what I said because it was really good (if I do say so myself!! Lol), and I never had any kind of response back from him. Almost every comment was along the same lines as mine, so that was good to see! Anyway, this video was really nice to see, and I’m really glad you did this. It’s very clear that you genuinely love each other! God bless you both!
You should see our hand holding now 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Shane you’re hilarious 🤣🤣🤣
Shane, you always make me laugh when I watch y’all’s videos. You and Hannah are adorable together and it makes sense that you are together.
You both deserve the best. You complement each other in ways that most couples can only wish they could. Looking past each other‘s flaws to see the beauty in each others eyes. Something out of somebody I wish I could find myself. So the best to both of you, because you deserve it for showing the world what true love actually is and by showing it still exists. Thank you for that.
“You should see our hand holding now!”😂 I love your love. So meant to be, so perfect, so happy yall find each other❤️
Chemistry is SO important! It's impossible to predict, but when you have it, it will help you through difficult periods. Your partner may irritate or hurt you, but if you have strong chemistry, it will pull you close and give you incentive to work things out. 🙂❤
I choked on my coffee when Shane said their hand holding had reached new levels lol
@livingthedashoflife
2 жыл бұрын
Me too... I Laughed out loud...in public!! 😂🤣
@karianne1970
2 жыл бұрын
I did, too. Laughed loud enough that my neighbors wondered what was so funny. (yes, I had the windows open, and they asked.)
@marlenebenson9595
2 жыл бұрын
my husbent is verry good with kids to.his name is David
@tammylt5004
2 жыл бұрын
Snorted tea out my nose :)
@lindylou6046
2 жыл бұрын
So funny. “You should see our hand holding now!” 😂 Love these 2.💕
You two have left me with a smile, not only on my face, but also in my heart ❤️😍
you lucky ducks!! What a blessing to have found your true soul mate in life, doesn't happen for everyone which is why it is so special.............adore you both, thanks for sharing your love & life with us! xx cheers
You are both so fortunate to have found one another, it makes me think that there's hope for all of us! Thank you for this. We love you as well, and Chloe of course..❤️
Love you both so so much. Keeping it real is why we all love you and your channel.
"Where's my crown ??!!!!! " best line in the video ! Lol I so enjoy your videos....
Having somebody to be adventurous and spontaneous with is huge. And the little kid thing. Oh my gosh, totally agree with both 💛
I rarely comment, but I needed to on this one. This was an extremely heartwarming video, if people cannot see how much the 2 of you love each other, than they are blind & deaf. You two are perfect together, absolutely perfect & I wish you nothing but continued love & happiness for the rest of your days. xo
@potatodar
2 жыл бұрын
@@lindasullivan2780 why would you say that? If they’re in love, they’re in love. Simple as that
@LindaKayHolevas
2 жыл бұрын
@@lindasullivan2780 - I feel sorry for you. You must have a pathetic life to not recognize a real connection when you see it. I hate that we share the same first name...ugh...
@lg316
2 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣 y'all are literally delusional. Do some research. No need to "feel sorry" for anyone based in reality. It's a total scam. Look into it. Watch Shane's old videos. Hilarious. Hannah is Anna 2.0.
@hernameispekka_Rebecca
2 жыл бұрын
@@lg316 Yes, because noone has had an ex before that look similar to who they marry. It's sooooo rare to have a type and a romantic past... Sheesh
@lg316
2 жыл бұрын
Research is your friend. Try it and get back to us.
"Yeah, but did you forget I also suck?" I felt that.😂😂😂
@petitepigeon3174
2 жыл бұрын
Seriously!! 😂
@cherylmaher6275
2 жыл бұрын
You need Jesus. Ask Him into your life, & to forgive you of your sins He will do it. Get into a Bible teaching church and grow your faith.
@elizalawrence5102
2 жыл бұрын
@@cherylmaher6275 wth
Shane making jokes when he’s uncomfortable reminds me of Chandler from Friends 😄
I loved this and I love the two of you. You make an old lady (fighting cancer at 77) smile.❤️
My husband was always good with his niece and nephews and even when we would go out and about, little children would seek him out. Like if they were lost or in distress, he has a kind fave and attitude so they seemed to know he would be able to help them safely. It made me love him more and his patience with them is amazing.
I've been trying to think of what to comment here but i honestly just have no words, y'all are so perfect for each other it honestly warms my heart 🥰
Angels were looking down on you both when you first met. Your perfect for each other.
What a beautiful love story you have ~ love the way you look at one another. You can feel the love.
Always get excited for these notifications!
Most heartwarming video I’ve ever seen-outside of a kitty video. Beautiful Shane and Hannah!
Oh gosh, life happened and I haven’t seen one of you videos forever. I love the chemistry and humor you bring to life! Not only your life, but anyone who watches your videos!😍😂
Maybe my favorite video of you two ever. The comfortable, loving energy between you comes through like sunlight!
The read along thing is so sweet. I get thrilled if I mention a movie and the guy I am seeing watches it. You set the bar high Shane!❤
You guys are just the sweetest! Love this
OMG I've just started watching you guys after you showed up on my recommended feed and I LOVE you guys already! You have a beautiful relationship!
You left out that he is SO CUTE and has the most amazing EYES!!!
I love these videos. You can literally feel the love and see it. I love ya both. ❤️
y’all are the sweetest, I love you guys😩❤️
I am so glad I saw one of your videos show up in my home page here on YT recently. I'm really enjoying your videos and I'm also going back and watching you older ones, I've been laughing so much. You guys are the cutest!
My dad has sma 3 so I love these videos
I absolutely LOVE your videos and this one was extra sweet! Thanks for all the smiles you've given me since I discovered you!
You 2 guys are just simple amazing! I love you! You are the best couple on KZread! Hannah you are 1 on a billion! Enjoying to see you happy and married
I love how Hannah seems to instinctively know when to support your neck while she's driving or to brush away something on your eyelid. That's how two people become as they build an even stronger bond and Shane is always looking out for you emotionally. You've got eachother's back. I love my husband like that.
I love the way you to love each other. I can see how much you guys do by the way you interact with each other. It’s just absolutely beautiful. God bless you both.
Humor, and love comes from within. The both of you are an amazing example, of how being supportive for each other makes a relationship even stronger.
Thank you guys for sharing your beautiful relationship. I just got out of a 5 year relationship and am realizing my ex and I were not matched in conversation, and he was really selfish and more interested in himself than me. So thank you for showing me that I deserve to wait for the guy who will do these things for me.
@Stalemarshmallow
2 жыл бұрын
@Nuclear Redfield the fuck does a wheelchair have to do with it?
@Stalemarshmallow
2 жыл бұрын
Women don’t care about your height. Tall or short. We care about the quality of your heart and your mind.
Congratulations on your wedding. Ive been watching your guys videos and following your story for a really long time. I wish you nothing but the best. I aspire to be like both of you, good and true people to the core
these comments are so refreshing! it’s endearing how genuine and supportive your following/community overall is. great video & comments! :)
Hannah I'm the same way. After almost 19 years together with my fella, I love when he randomly reaches out and holds my hand. ☺ Also when we are with family or friends & he reaches out & puts his arm around me or rubs my back, I feel like awww he loves me, & is not afraid to show it. Anyways, I could go on and on about my fella as well. I love both your lists. Definitely are meant for one another. ❤
@jilltheprivateinvestigator3328
2 жыл бұрын
Congratulations. Isn't it beautiful? After 15 years, and finding out I'm terminally ill, my husband goes out of his way to show me love. Even if that means just holding my hair at 3am when I'm in the bathroom floor sick. A simple touch of the hand can mean so much. 💜
@irenedavo3768
2 жыл бұрын
How lovely
@irenedavo3768
2 жыл бұрын
@@jilltheprivateinvestigator3328 hope you feel better soon ❤
Shane's personality and sense of humor are perfect. He's cute as well. Its obvious how connected they are👍
That WAS sweet. Shane being uncomfortable would be worth a part two! I think I get the hand holding. It's like not having water for two months and then when you can finally pick up the glass and drink the water you feel it go down into your body and all through you. Like you know what water is, but it was the very best water you ever had. This water stays within you.
After watching this video, it’s even more clear/genuine/honest how much Shane/Hannah’s deep love for each other TRULY is. They are indeed very inspirational. Haters and naysayers need to move along, although I do get a kick out of how humorously Shane/Hannah sometimes handle hateful. comments. They definitely have the same sense of humor. Keep sending it our way!!
awe the smile on my face watching you guys just be you and so loving ❤ it's just so amazing seeing a couple change the idea of perfect 🥰
“You should see our hand holding now”😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Now I am going to listen more closely to pick up any air pocket noises so as to make sure I don't miss any jokes. Very heartfelt and lovely video. I love when people treat the person they love with love.
You two are a great match to be sure. I hope you never lose that spark that you show in your videos and especially in ones like this one. By the way Shane I have watched Ordinary Guy and it is a good show and I could see where you would have had input. Great job for all you do and show us all.
You guys are just the best! I might do that with my husband, nice to show appreciation for one another from time to time!
It's absolutely clear the connection you two have. I just can't understand why ppl feel the need to belittle your relationship. The only reason has to be jealously. I love how much you two love, laugh and respect each other. ❤️❤️❤️
Hannah and Shane you guys really uplifted my spirit with this video and I just want to thank you 🙏 I know you get 1000s of message per day I hope you get to read this.
Hannah talking about holding Shane's hand 🥰
You two have such a beautiful love❣️ I really enjoy your sense of humor. Humor is so important in a marriage. Laughter is a gift from God for sure. You are a beautiful couple💞. Love your videos and sharing your day to day life!
You two are so cute together! I love how you encourage each other and find reasons to compliment each other. So many couples forget that hearing those things are important even after the are married when the chase is over, so to speak. This is what keeps marriages together, looking for the humor, the good, and the interesting things about one another. Keep that going and you'll be happy and deeper in love as the years go by. You're both adorable in your own ways. Wishing you many, many years of wedded bliss! Love you two!
So cute when Hannah was explaining the physical spark, she feels the need to explain how in love they were etc and then the story ends with them holding hands. So cute.
Thank you for sharing. This was one of my favorite videos. ❤
I'll never forget that Shane said that his first kiss with Hannah , she kissed like a kitten. Thats something ill never forget. I guess #6 reminded me of this once again.
No. 5 does nothing for me, but a man who loves cats makes my heart all warm and fuzzy 🥰
@mjcard
2 жыл бұрын
A man who doesn’t get cats is on another planet from me.
@KrisBlack-idahogirl
2 жыл бұрын
I 100% agree. My boyfriend is as big a cat lover as I am. A man who can t stand cat hair everywhere would not be an option for me.
Literally 10 seconds into the video Shane has me dying laughing 🤣 “it’s my special day” lmaool
This was my all time favorite video from you guys! Loooooved it!
When any man is good with kids it’s definitely attractive. Makes you like them more as a person.
I absolutely love this! 💕 I’ve seen a couple of your videos and have noticed Shane’s sense of humor! You two mesh well!
You are absolutely right about the little kids thing. I always felt closer to my husband when he was playing with our kids.
Every time I see you both I am reminded that life is so good. I appreciate you both sharing your lives so publicly. You both are so amazing.
Omg this was the first video I ever watched from you guys .. it was so sweet!
Awesome video guys, thanks very much for sharing. I was grinning the whole time at your guys palpable feelings for each other....gives me hope for this cancel culture where people would rather just divorce than sit and work through their issues. Keep up the good work but take it easy....personal lives come first!
Hahah Shane gets one compliment and he’s like “I Can Get Used To This”🤣
I don't know why but it just popped in my head how cute it would be for you two to do a little skit of 'Baby it's cold outside!' It would be perfect with Shane's handsome looks & Hannah's beauty, and you are both such talented singers! It would be a homerun for sure!!
That was beautiful. You guys are awesome and so lucky to have found each other.
You guys are so adorable together! Very heartwarming 💕 We should all find such love and respect. Thanks for sharing.
Great video! What an awesome relationship the two of you have. And how you both instantly knew when Facetiming with each other. 💞 A match made in Heaven!
Shane, stop being so self deprecating, you’re a wonderful person, husband, son, son-in-law and we see it in every single one of your videos. You make us all happy!!
@Yooperskepticz
2 жыл бұрын
Aw, his self-deprecating humor is great.