Ahhhh, this was sure something! While it's not always 100% comfy to remember, I also have a fond place in my heart for side ponytail Ash :) How do you experiment with appearance? Also, please share an embarrassing fashion phase or dorky hairstyle you sported in your past to make me feel better. Thank you XP

@ZeldaRoseSongbook

5 жыл бұрын

Ash, thank you for being a voice for those nonbinaries who need it. I'm struggling to be more open with my own nonbinary nature; seeing you openly discuss your gender journey is inspiring!

@HeyThere005

5 жыл бұрын

Nakomis Brislin *sending love* 💙💙💙

@ZeldaRoseSongbook

5 жыл бұрын

@@HeyThere005 *sending love and happiness* 💛💜🖤😁

@Weath3rreport

5 жыл бұрын

Usually I play with how my hair looks, aswell as clothing,(I've totally been stealing clothes from people) and since i have short hair it makes it pretty easy for me to look like anybody😀

@chai9302

5 жыл бұрын

i had an emo hair style even tho i was not emo i had hair to shoulders and then i had hair in front of my face im so embarrassed looking back on my hair it was just ugh

You still had the side ponytail when I first started watching your videos.

@yukinofairytail7137

5 жыл бұрын

same ☺️

@jenniferchristian8115

5 жыл бұрын

Same!!

@heythere6629

5 жыл бұрын

i joined this ?f a n d o m? like 1 week ago

@carlygee8866

5 жыл бұрын

me too!

@haileyjohnson9759

5 жыл бұрын

Same♥️♥️

“This girl is badass” Don’t you mean badAsh?

@HeyThere005

5 жыл бұрын

KeelynAD BAH! 😆

@abigailboer2631

5 жыл бұрын

lol

@peridotasadeadbritishmonar7924

5 жыл бұрын

Hello Hamiltrash 😄

@Korns.Overthinking

5 жыл бұрын

I get it 😏

@kyz0o

5 жыл бұрын

ImFromThePlanetPluto Hello! 💕😄

Ahh yes the three genders: Nail polish, button-up shirt, and football.

@dvision4203

2 жыл бұрын

I like the joke, but you can give off any vibe you want regardless of gender! ❤️

I’m a female and I’ve always been one. I never understood what it felt like to not love who I am. My cousin is transgender and I wanted to understand him better. When I started watching you Ash you helped me understand him more! Thank you!

@leahphilby5397

5 жыл бұрын

Kaylee Spears you could say you are cis female

@nerdyhamster3452

5 жыл бұрын

Ash is not the common transgender person. Watch more people such as Kalvin Garrah or ty turner

@lysmith3454

5 жыл бұрын

If you're going to watch any trans KZreadrs, I wouldn't go for Kalvin. Go look at JammieDodger, he's a pretty chill dude with the same energy as Ash.

@vermillion6805

4 жыл бұрын

wh how do you know this person is a transtrender

@ravenclawthestral3964

4 жыл бұрын

{} get a life. Stop trying to invalidate others gender expressions and feelings.

I'd say your hair is "ash" blonde (insert finger guns here)

@aWERFRGT6545BGFG

5 жыл бұрын

I say ash brown

@ameloc8356

5 жыл бұрын

MissesKitty I agree

@LifesGood22

5 жыл бұрын

Dark Ash Blonde same as mine

@ashlaughs790

5 жыл бұрын

My hair is Ash blonde 1: My hair is Ash Blonde 2: Ash blonde is lighter

@jude8067

4 жыл бұрын

Mousy brown- I have the same color

Ash’s hair in this video is so cute. Ash is cute in general, but I’m digging this hair on them! I loved the “why I’m not a boy” video, so I’m so excited about this one.

I'm bi, I'm married to a guy, I love gothic clothes and guys clothes. Sometimes I look super girly, and sometimes I look like a dude with boos lol. I'm so glad my husband loves all of me

I love that you said to "draw you as a girl" and still used gender neutral terms for almost every drawing

My school dance is tomorrow (I’m female) And the theme is Dress your Best so I am going In a suit and tie BREAK THE GENDER RULES

@sansgirlfriend

5 жыл бұрын

Great!! 🤟❤️❤️

@trinitylivingston1286

5 жыл бұрын

You go girl! ❤❤

@hermiesrokmysox

5 жыл бұрын

That’s awesome, I’ve always really loved traditionally male fashion. It’s so flattering!

@Sam-ic6cu

5 жыл бұрын

Jillian L. I know right

@kaylathomasson9619

5 жыл бұрын

I'm nonbinary and mostly wore dress pants instead of dresses for those occasions!

10:35 you’re an.... Ashtronaut......

@HeyThere005

5 жыл бұрын

Bluebutterman ‘eeeeeeeyyyyy!!!

@pixxi_

5 жыл бұрын

I'm dead! 😂

@savannahnolan1716

5 жыл бұрын

Ash Hardell heyy I’m your biggest fan xxxx

I remember ponytail/colorful sunglasses/ukulele/fake mustache baby Ash like it was yEsTeRdAy. You're so precious ilysm

I'm loving all the "you can dress as whatever" vibes you always give. I'm nonbinary (fem aligned) and I dress pretty femininity. Sometimes I feel weird-ish about that because sometimes it feels like anyone nonbinary at all has to be 100% androgynous, so that you for the positive reinforcement!

@Special-mg5kh

5 жыл бұрын

Ace of Cats tbh I really don’t understand this at all. If you are non-binary doesn’t that mean you don’t want to be identified as exclusively male or female. How can your opinion of what your gender is change overnight and day to day. I don’t even understand what an agendered person would be able to wear that would make them feel comfortable. I can understand not feeling like a male and feeling like a female, and vice versa, but I don’t understand changing genders everyday. You don’t have to change your gender or identify as something different to put on different clothes. just dress however you want to??? Not trying to be rude, seriously just trying to understand where you’re coming from.

@MercurialMoon

4 жыл бұрын

@@Special-mg5kh 1. non-binary isn't just agender. It's an umbrella term for anyone who isn't strictly woman or man. Some of them have no gender but a lot of them do have one, it's just not woman or man, or both at the same time. 2. gender identity and gender expression are two different things. Non-binary people can look feminine or masculine and that doesn't make them less non-binary. Like girls can wear boy clothes and vice versa but that doesn't mean they'd identify themselves as the opposite gender. Hope that makes sense.

This vid: why I'm not a woman Me: because you just aren't. It just ain't you (edit: OH MY GAAAAWD ASH LIKED MY COMMENT!!!) (another edit: thx for all the likes)

@unitedpundit7023

5 жыл бұрын

panic at.the.shasha she’s a girl.

@noahgentili1433

5 жыл бұрын

@@unitedpundit7023 you know nobody asked you to be such a jerk. They are whatever they want to be. So f off and leave them alone

@unitedpundit7023

5 жыл бұрын

panic at.the.shasha so if I was 30 and I wanted to be 12 could I be. Then I could go out with 12 years olds and argue with the police and say that I’m 12 and not 30. Plus no one asked you to comment that shit in the first place

@noahgentili1433

5 жыл бұрын

@@unitedpundit7023 age and gender/pronouns are different

@kittokattxx

5 жыл бұрын

@@unitedpundit7023 comparing pedophilia to being transgender... you sound like a fun person to be around.

I have a friend with your hair color. She calls it "squirrel"... as if squirrel is a color 🤣

@RihannaIsInMyHeart

5 жыл бұрын

Many Germans call this colour street-tyke-blonde :D

@CoRLex-jh5vx

4 жыл бұрын

Its totally squirrel tho your friend is a genius

@emmakrumm6399

3 жыл бұрын

Hungarian has a word for non brownary, It's called seszinü (with accents my keyboard doesn't know), meaning "non-of-it-coloured", but instead of being a term for all colour-non-conforming hair shades, it describes a specific mix of brown, blond and a bit of grey. What a lenguage.

I have drawn myself in the final stages of my transition. 🏳️‍⚧️ It made me so happy seeing an image of me with top surgery scars and short hair. I haven’t come out to my mom and I’m planning on doing it soon, since I want to start an official transition.

@insidiousmischka

2 жыл бұрын

Have you transitioned or grown out of this phase?

if you asked people to "draw you as nonbinary", i'd expect that a lot of people would just draw you as you currently are! interesting, but probably not super productive, haha

Your editing is absolutely amazing as usual

@HeyThere005

5 жыл бұрын

Lydia Kelly oh I love that name and the reasoning for it!!

@lightaflamethrower8573

5 жыл бұрын

Casper is a cool name, and a friendly ghost!

@sleepyaugust2182

5 жыл бұрын

I like that name i just hope no one calls you casper the ghost...

@strawberrycassette

5 жыл бұрын

Casper is an awesome name :) it's my middle came (but with a K)

@lenaemfs5347

5 жыл бұрын

💜 and Cas is a nickname for a genderless angel! (On TV show supernatural)

I'm just now starting to express who I truly am. I've never liked my chest so I've finally started looking for ways to bind and it makes me more comftorble in my own skin, I'm not in a very accepting family so I can't get an actual binder. I've also asked my friends to refer to me as they/them and as Alex. I've been more comftorble with myself. It took me forever to come out to myself as non-binary/genderfluid, and then took me longer to ask my friends to refer to me with they/then pronouns and with a more gender nuteral name. I've been happier with mt self ever since, and I'm so luck to have such accepting friends and a teacher around me, wich from what I know is bi so yay.

@youaregood9aj73

3 жыл бұрын

ayy my fellow genderfluid peep. Hi!! I also have a very unaccepting family as well! I have wanted to wear a binder too bc I never liked my chest. Of course, my mother dislikes anyone under the trans umbrella so I couldn't get one. I told all of my friends to call my by my chosen gender neutral name which is Ro and I use all pronouns so they change on a day to day basis. I like to wear a bracelet to represent each set of pronouns and the great part is, my mother doesn't know what it means lol. pink= she/her green= they/them Blue=he/him. You are not alone on this journey and you have so many people out there to support you! hope you are stayin safe and healthy out there! -Ro

@starsong9711

3 жыл бұрын

@@youaregood9aj73 I’m glad you found a way to express yourself! You’re really sweet, I do apologize cause I’m not gender fluid an I have no idea why I put that I am >< hopefully one day you can get a binder, my step brother gave me his old one.

@youaregood9aj73

3 жыл бұрын

@@starsong9711 Yea its been rough but I found a way :p Awe thanks. I believe you should treat everyone with kindness and respect because you never know what someone is going through and one act of kindness could brighten someones day! :D in this world, we are all just figuring ourselves out. I am so happy that you found the strength to be who you truly are. Darn imma probably just save up to get myself a binder lol But until then i've just been wearing lots of layers. Do ya have any tips on how to bind without a binder perhaps? :)

@starsong9711

3 жыл бұрын

@@youaregood9aj73 something I did was take one sports bra put it on normally then take another one and put in on backwards, it helped a bit. I seen you can also make a binder out of an old pair of leggings. You can find videos on it!!

@youaregood9aj73

3 жыл бұрын

@@starsong9711 Oh my goodness those are great tips! Thank you so much!

My brain automatically tried to gender you when I first saw you and it just came up blank so you're doing good

@randompanperson8061

5 жыл бұрын

Sounded like a girl, looked like a guy gave off the vibes of a non-bi!

@briannalopes-amorim4583

4 жыл бұрын

{} I hate people like you

@emperortamarinfan

4 жыл бұрын

{} you realize being both transgender and non-binary are completely scientifically proven, right??

@dazthespaz69

4 жыл бұрын

{} Ha, I'm sorry let me stop laughing. You are one pathetic loser.

@dazthespaz69

4 жыл бұрын

{} Actually honey, it is. You just don't understand basic knowledge. Don't worry, we will get you help. And non-binary is a thing, it means that you have no gender identity. Thank you for reading my rant of the day.😁

I love how many artists drew different types of girls, including cis and trans girls! They were all beautiful! ❤️

This is such a positive channel. I’m not trans or non binary at all but you’re so positive x

@lee_likes_bees

5 жыл бұрын

I agree, they always cheer me up.

@jsbpdrama8456

5 жыл бұрын

Same here, I'm not even apart of the LGBT+ community at all (besides supporting obviously) but Ash is just such a chill person, I could watch them all day!

@amaliacollins5691

5 жыл бұрын

Plus their message is so universal: be yourself, because who you are is valid. The things Ash teaches us about gender can be applied to so many other facets of life. That identities don't always fit cleanly into boxes, that it's okay to play around with your identity to figure it out. That it IS okay to fit cleanly into a box if that's what feels best for you. I could go on.

@Levi-rl1yi

5 жыл бұрын

With all due respect, but if you're trying to educate yourself on trans issues, please seek out a channel that's based on medical evidence and facts rather than this. I'm all for people being themselves, but this doesn't represent the actual transgender community in the slightest. Transgender literally means; when a person identifies with a different gender than their assigned sex. Medically, only 2 genders and sexes (unless you count intersex) are recognised aka none of the god knows how many tumblr genders. As a transgender man who's been diagnosed with dysphoria and has been through the majority of his transition, I'd simply like you to know that this does not mirror what trans is to 99% of the transgender community and I think it's important to keep that in mind ; ) Everything Ash is talking about has no medical or scientific evidence to show for it.

@jsbpdrama8456

5 жыл бұрын

Levi - I completely agree with you and have done a lot of my own research. I just like the atmosphere of their channel. 😊💕

"If hair is a spectrum I'm non-blondary" 👏👏👏👏

Ash:“Do I have blonde or brown hair i don’t know” Me: SAME LIKE WHAT COLOR IS IT!

@alyssaconstable402

3 жыл бұрын

sameeee some people say its blonde some people say it's brown. some people even say it's red. we have RAINBOW hair

@emmakrumm6399

3 жыл бұрын

Same hair colour over here, and this is what helps me: Hungarian has a proper word for non brownary. It's called seszinü (with accents my keyboard doesn't know), meaning "non-of-it-coloured", but instead of being a term for all colour-non-conforming hair shades, it describes this specific mix of brown, blond and a bit of grey. Love that lenguage.

this is amazing ash, it's great that you felt comfortable enough to share this on KZread. we're all behind you xx

@unitedpundit7023

5 жыл бұрын

me_llamo_ mia I’m not.

@miamikyu

5 жыл бұрын

@@unitedpundit7023 ok fairs

@abigailboer2631

5 жыл бұрын

@@unitedpundit7023 why not

This doesn't have anything to do with the video (which was awesome) but I thought I'd mention that there is a non-binary person on Big Brother Canada which I thought was awesome since there is so little representation of non-gender confirming people in mainstream media!

@HeyThere005

5 жыл бұрын

Niki - oooooh I want to watch! What season???

@NikiPhilippart

5 жыл бұрын

@@HeyThere005 Season 7, it's airing right now :) Started last week.

I love how you gave lots of them little personalities! Just makes it so much more fun to watch and get intertwined to each “girl”

When I look at old pictures of myslef I just imagine my old self as a different person. It really helps me alot for some reason

“It feels good... not to hide anymore” *smiles* ASHHH

I think Ash’s hair is châtain, or “dark blond” when translated to English (I feel like French class is leaving an impactful change in my vocabulary...)

@moncielvariable

5 жыл бұрын

As a native French speaker, yes, "châtain".

@cartoonminty560

5 жыл бұрын

I'm going to learn French next year.

@shayne_has_landed2511

5 жыл бұрын

It’s a TON of fun

I had really long hair that went down to the back of my knees, and 3 week ago I decided to bite the bullet and cut it all of to a medium bob. And yes I donated it to charity to make weaves ☺️

But let me say that being feminine, wearing dresses, liking pink DOES and NEVER will determine if you're female or not As nonbinary but leaning only slightly to female. I hate being feminine..but I have a lot of friends that are girls that hate being feminine but they still say they are female...soo. Theirs no such thing as looking like a boy/girl. Ive worn neutral clothing since 5 and always tomboy clothes..but felt weird with being seen as male...or being male..

@soda_fairy

4 жыл бұрын

Incorrect there is such thing as looking male or female in the society we live in HOWEVER there's not hard lines on where you want to express yourself there

The funny thing to me is my name is Grace and I have dysphoria like really bad and only one of my friends knows. (that friend is great)(10/10 person) but every time Ash says Grace i think someone is talking to me. i thought that was kinda funny.

@HeyThere005

5 жыл бұрын

Grace Null I feel the same way when people say my old name. I go on like high alert and am like, “WHAT WHO WHY WOULD SAY THAT....oh.”

@sadisticsweet3140

5 жыл бұрын

There's a girl in my class that has the same name as me and the teacher put us next to each other... Yay....

@thevoid8393

5 жыл бұрын

@@sadisticsweet3140 heck there are so many graces at my school. you never know who is talking to who. we all just have to wait for a last name.

I think that you have light brown hair

@AliceDiableaux

5 жыл бұрын

It's definitely dark blonde

@alexanderhaynes8558

5 жыл бұрын

Oh god-

@joannamarierogue

5 жыл бұрын

I agree.

@freyjasvansdottir9904

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah their hair is level 5 which is light brown as opposed to level 6 which is dark blond.

@ncskitty

5 жыл бұрын

My hair is about the same shade and I've always called it blonde (it used to be lighter when I was a kid)

omg I jumped when I saw that pic with u in the purple dress.. Lepidopterophobia. Im afraid of butterflies XD

@aimcomlah

5 жыл бұрын

So you better-fly when you see a butterfly.

@mr.lookalike8666

5 жыл бұрын

@@aimcomlah Yes I should XD

@randompanperson8061

5 жыл бұрын

Oh bless your wholesome soul.

@kerokeroppii

4 жыл бұрын

honestly, same

"There is no real way to look like a woman" Love yourself! you're so freakin' beautiful everyone! You got this.

I'm a lady, i express as a lady, hell I wish I could have better lady hair n makeup n slightly bigger chestbumps. I was born a lady n never had to question it. I think I'm lucky in some ways, to not struggle with identity & social pressure.. But I love watching your videos & I like seeing you happy & I love seeing the community & the art.. Idk. I'm just rambling thoughts I think. Love the video as always.

@mimiwinkelman7623

5 жыл бұрын

Me too

@HeyThere005

5 жыл бұрын

Lady Vertical you go lady!!!!! 💕💕💕

@Christine_990

5 жыл бұрын

@@HeyThere005 thank you Ash xoxo lots of love to you & Grace xox

@natparlane9488

5 жыл бұрын

Me too!!! I love seeing (and being) supportive cis people who are just amazing also!!!

@acriticnamedpanem1141

5 жыл бұрын

Saaaaaammmeeee

Your hair looks to be a mix of level 5/6 which is literally lightest brown/darkest blonde. So... Both are correct! Haha!

i feel like i’m the only straight and cis person watching ash’s videos. the main reason i do is because i genuinely like they’re personality. they’re so fun and bubbly. they also teach and inform me about gender and sexuality 💘💘

11:45 Ash comes out again!! Non-blondary/questioning 😂😂😂

“They must be gender queer because of the FLEG” midwestern accent gang ❤️

I have a question Ash. I really hope you read this!! Because you are pronoun indifferent, are there any situations where you feel misgendered? Great vid btw!

@HeyThere005

5 жыл бұрын

A W I will probably talk about this in a video soon, it’s a great question :)

@angairbender

5 жыл бұрын

Ash Hardell awesome! Curious because I’m not sure if I should identify as NB when I also don’t mind being called she. Just wanted to hear your take on it! Thanks for being so cool and open!!

@sleepyaugust2182

5 жыл бұрын

@@angairbender i would just do whatever you want so if you feel comfortable as female then identify as female and if you are uncomfortable then your probably non binary.

@evag-s5177

5 жыл бұрын

​@@angairbender I don't know about Ash, but I'm pronoun indifferent too and I don't feel misgendered when someone says "she," but I do when someone says "girl," "ma'am," "sister," "daughter," etc. As far as I'm concerned, being nonbinary is about not identifying strictly as male or female, not about what pronouns I identify with.

@LeafyBoy155

5 жыл бұрын

@@evag-s5177 oh my gosh EXACT SAME for me. I go by any pronouns, but I HATE it when someone calls me "girl", "daughter", etc. (all of your examples)

I'm just getting into figuring myself out, and I really love the separation or gender identity and gender expression. it feels really nice to know I can be a girl and be more masculine presenting 💛💛

What I get from those photos is that even when you were confused and uneasy and perhaps not entirely aware of your dysphoria, you still looked like you were a riot to be around!! ♥️

That hair pun made me laugh so hard oh my god yes

Coming from the land of blondes(Finland) I'd say you're definitely a brunette!

"🎶 I like this drawing and I feel like this drawing and I think this drawing is me🎶" love this😁 oh, and i'd like to thank you, ash, for your videos ( I love your videos😅). I really feel like you understand me/ my current situation. Thank you!😺

i love how supportive ash is of all of the artist. They always appreciate every single piece. so wholesome. so kind.

i cut my hair like yours because it looks so good

I love love love how you brought up Miss. Honey as if everyone has watched Matilda

I’m a completely straight woman, and I was very conservative, that you’re born a girl and you stay a girl and marry a man. UNTIL, my mom married a man, and his son is having a lot of self identity problems. I think he’s scared of being judged. We would support him no matter what btw. But my step sister came out as Bi this past summer and I seriously credit my open mindedness to people like you. It opened up my mind and saw that not all people are the same and people in the LGBTQ+ are some of the most down to earth, AMAZING people ever. So thank you. ❤️

therapist: photos of your past coming to make you look at them isn't real and can't hurt you

I'm a cis lady but lately i've been feeling the more masculine look lately. Button up shirts all the way kind of thing. Bow ties or necklaces. I was invited to a wedding and instead of a dress I decided to wear a blazer and pants and saddle shoes. I'm heteroflexible, and I only say this because its sort of expected that women express femininely to attract masculine men, but I don't feel that compulsion. I like men and I like expressing myself masculinely.

@jadepaesk8369

5 жыл бұрын

TheWonderGinger I feel the same, I think I’m more comfortable expressing myself masculinely but I’m still not brave enough to show it. If I was invited to a wedding I would probably miss it cause I’m not comfortable wearing dresses and I don’t have the courage to show up wearing a blazer :(

@PrincessofKeys

5 жыл бұрын

Honestly I never even thought of this before until now, never really think of the expectations society have for women...it makes me think

@C_And_P

5 жыл бұрын

Same. Phew. I'm not alone. I like men and I like expressing myself more masculine (although I am feminine sometimes) as well.

@Teajay21

5 жыл бұрын

Yep I'm experimenting with this too. I still have my more feminine go to's but I've started buying men's button ups in fun prints. Next step is to get a skinny tie.

I subscribed and have been following since the side-ponytail and Beer & A Chat days. Great video, Ash!

1) I really liked the point "They can't come out of the photo and make you look like that." I've only recently started being able to look at old pictures of me and remember how much fun I was having, intead of going "This GIRL isn't me, put it away!" 2) I have the same hair colour, I call it brown.

Seeing you talking right next to your old photos make me so happy, because you look much happier and satisfied with yourself today than in in the photos. I'm so happy you found your good place.

I love you Ash

@fakepastorbaconchickeneati8965

5 жыл бұрын

No homo tho

The binary of hair commentary made me LOL!! 🤣🤣

I'm amused at how your smile in those photos is so often "I'M FINE EVERYTHING IS FINE OMG WHAT IS HAPPENING SOMEONE GET ME OUT OF HERE."

“This Ash girl looks French“ And that was it!! 🤣

Guys, Ash isn't a woman... Ash is FABULOUS.

@kyngdee3603

5 жыл бұрын

Wrong ash is a women yet still fabulous

@susanwilliams2392

5 жыл бұрын

@@kyngdee3603 Sorry but Ash isn't even one woman, let alone multiple women. Why are you even here if you refuse to learn?

@kyngdee3603

5 жыл бұрын

@@susanwilliams2392 she is one woman

@kyngdee3603

5 жыл бұрын

Genetically speaking she is a female

@kyngdee3603

5 жыл бұрын

Her reproductive system produces eggs right

Dude... Love you're work & am CRAZY honored that you used Obsession

This video was really good for me. I am afab female, but I’m not ‘girly’. I cut my hair short, so a lot of people I know thought that it made me ‘not a girl’ it is something that I’m really insecure about. Hearing someone else say that I can have short hair, only wear jeans and hoodies, never wear makeup and still be a girl is really nice.

Honestly? Even just completely out of context and with no explanation or reasoning behind it for why you chose that haircut... That haircut just genuinely looks so good on you. I really like it a lot.

I love you so much youyou taught me it's ok to be MASC or fem no matter your gender

@mackiive4107

5 жыл бұрын

panda trooper ew

I haven't watched an Ash video in ages and I'm watching this and going "why have you not watched more of these videos". Which is a long winded way of saying I'm so glad KZread suggested one of your videos. I don't think I ever saw your with purple hair but you're super cute in pictures! That girl in the red dress looks amazing. That's fantastic art!

I went to the same school as Ash in Jr High, and High School. I wouldn't of called us friends, but we didn't hate each other. When we saw each other I would say that Ash was happy, and had it all together. Ash was in clubs, and smart, also had a lot of friends. True friends in my mind not the fakey friends that were a complete norm at our school. After listening to the videos that get posted is how you may think you know something about someone but you truly do not. You never know what someone is struggling with. It is a real eye opener. And I am soooo proud of Ash now. Be yourself. Love life, and Love fiercely.

My best friend from college recently came out as non-binary. When I met her, she dated boys and wore dresses! Then she came out as lesbian and started dressing more androgeonously. Then she started dating a bisexual woman (whom she is still in a relationship with now 6 years later!). About a year ago, I found your channel, and you reminded me SO much of her (and yes, my friend does still go by she/her pronouns as of now!). Your appearance, your mannerisms, even the way you talk is SO much like her. Anyway I showed her your channel and I'm pretty sure she binge watched you for a few days or weeks, and she fell in love with your channel! She later told me she didn't even know what non-binary was until she watched you, but the things you said and the ways you felt really clicked with her. A couple months ago, she started binding her chest bumps. She was so happy! (I'll also add, her girlfriend has been 100% supportive throughout, as has her family.) In the past few weeks, she's been talking more and more about how she wants to get top surgery. As her best friend and complete supporter, what's the best advice I could give her? I'm a straight cis female who has never gone through any of this, but I don't consider myself to be completely oblivious either. I want her to be happy and I will support her through anything, but it's hard for me to find the right things to say that are supportive but still realistic. I worry that she will jump into something and have some sort of regret later (not that I don't take her desires and wishes seriously - of course I do - but it's a major surgery and a huge decision, and I would want her to take it slow no matter WHAT the surgery was). I didn't mean to ramble there. Hope I made sense. I'm just wondering if you, or anyone, has some advice on how I can be an even more supportive friend. (Also, if you're watching this, my best friend, you know who you are, HI! :D )

@laurenmyers3533

5 жыл бұрын

Oh and I forgot to say, THANK YOU ASH for helping me understand more about a community I love but am not a part of, but more importantly, thank you for being a part in helping my best friend continue her journey of self-discovery. :) You're great and you're doing great things. If you're ever feeling down on yourself, just remember that I have at least one person whose life you have changed (and I know there are countless more, too).

Watching this video made me feel very empowered to just dress how I want to so thank you!

I'm also nonbinary, and I used to have hair that was pretty long, below the shoulders. I decided a while ago to cut my hair much shorter, and it was the best decision I have ever made regarding my appearance (that and wearing a tie -- 10/10 would recommend)

@austinmummey1465

5 жыл бұрын

Lol no such thing as "non-binary

Seeing photos of pre-figured-out Ash makes me so sad because I can see the sadness in their eyes.

I can not get over how amazing this is honestly. For you to be so comfortable in your own body. You're not just nonconforming to piss off the world it's just who you are... a beautiful person inside and out. Watching your videos has helped me a lot as I've started transitioning myself and I just can't thank you enough for being so amazing.

I love all of your videos, thank you for uploading. you make my day when i watch your videos.

hey ash, I'mma be honest- I thought you were ftm trans, not even non binary and I just began watching your videos. Anyway, I am also non binary! I haven't come out to anyone but friends, and I was wondering if you have any advice to kinda look like it more. my parents don't know so I still have my birth gender clothes, is there a way to use them to make myself kinda look less feminine(probably spelt wrong)? also do you have any specific pronouns you would like to go by?(I know you probably wont see this but anyone can help me with this) I go by max and they/them pronouns :) ~Max ♡

@MarkusAldawn

5 жыл бұрын

I think Ash said they're comfortable with whatever pronouns. If your parents see you as a girl, you probably have more wiggle room with clothing than if they saw you as a guy, because women's clothes are strange and non-standard for a guy, according to Le Bullshit Book of Gender Norms. I've got a friend who buys men's shirts just because they're a better selection for her, so maybe you can take comfort in a little bit of androgyneity from masculine clothing, which tends to be less gender-coded, while not having to make it super public? If that's not your thing, maybe some options common to guys and gals alike? Jeans are obviously different, but idk how much the difference is or how much you're trying to lean into androgyneity. I'm not an expert, and YMMV depending on how much control you have over buying your clothes and whether the selection available makes you feel comfortable, but even two hours and a changing room in a clothes shop can suss out what makes you the most comfy, and for free, as well. You could get a second opinion (in case you've lost your first! *fingerguns*). And if you see a piece of clothing you really like when shopping with parents that you think works really well for you and it happens to be a man's, they'll probably not care about its assigned gender too much? Might be a warning sign if they do, but idk. I'd like the record to reflect I'm still not an expert and if you burn down the mall using my advice, I accept no responsibility. Also Max is a kickass name! It can be short for Maxine (very feminine), or Maximilius (literally the most masculine name on the planet), or just be Max.

@MarkusAldawn

5 жыл бұрын

Forgot to say you're valid!

@btambo04

5 жыл бұрын

@@MarkusAldawn I just chose max because of the fact its gender neutral, but thank you for the advice! Its very much appreciated. I have a school dance in June so I have to wear a dress but it's not extremely like girly so I'm slowly stepping out of the closet I guess lmao

blond(e) ash! as someone who has had their hair commented on by strangers for 30 years i appreciate how jarring it can be. i think i streak it pink to control what they see. i also use my hair to hide other things-wonky eye etc. i like mine long but due to the weird way my forehead looks in a regular ponytail i wore/wear A LOT of side ponys. also pigtails made on either side of the base of my skull with swoopy bangs i’m glad you found a happy hair place. you have hair that’s lovely long but being happy with it is even lovelier.

The flower pictur at 10:05 seems to be expressing a fanfiction trope called Hanahaki, which is where flowers grow in the chest and on the body in response to unrequited love or unresolved feelings.

I realised I was non-binary in 2016 because of you and your book and I've come out to a lot of people this year and everyone's been really lovely. Thank you so much for all you've done for me and so many people you're such a wonderful human being 💜

gosh i miss ash :(

@Ruby-yb8kk

3 жыл бұрын

Same

I've been following you since your side pony days, and Ash, you're the reason why i chopped off all my hair, watching your video about your hair really inspired me! Thank you for sharing your story and continuing to grow with us.

Ash is such an inspiration to me. They have helped me figure out who i am and accept that i don’t need to label myself to feel comfy; i don’t need to explain myself to anyone and my happiness should be my main goal. a lot of the time i forget these things but Ash, along with their beautiful wife Grace have guided me along this journey. So thank you!!! 💖💖

I love your videos❤️ also I can totally relate my hair literally never comes out of its ponytail

Hi Ash! I just wanted to thank you. I remember adding you on TrevorSpace! Though I'm not trans or non-binary you helped me come out to my family as gay. So thank you, you've helped me grow into the person I am today. ❤

I've been watching since the side pony and honestly it makes me so happy to see how far you have come and how happy you are now

I very much appreciate the fact that ash compensated these artists for their hard work

Ahhh I’m so happy that you used this song bc I love Sinclair, btw such a great vid ily💜

Watched this a year and a half ago when I thought I was cis, now I’m nonbinary

I was not expecting the different end song!! I started singing the old one before it’d even started and then I had a v comical pause mid-word

'Throws self into door crashing in' Me: YOU CALLED

As a person that respects LGBTQ and doesn't know a lot about it.. ..i just honestly love his personality..OVERALL

@angelrose8340

5 жыл бұрын

Ash uses they/them pronouns but your heart is in the right place

@avam6080

5 жыл бұрын

Angel Rose they are pronoun indifferent i though..?

You are a wonderful human Ash. Thank you for sharing your journey, you’ve been such a beacon of light for the nonbinary and lgbtq community as a whole. Much love and solidarity to you 💛

I used to be blond as a child, and it darkened as I got older. At around 13-14, it passed through a phase of being exactly the colour you have now, and I also didn't know what to call it! My hair is now distinctly brown with red undertones, not blond at all. Yours looks like it could go either way. It reminds me of the shade guys with blond hair tend to end up with when their hair is freshly cut, when the hairs are all stiff and aimed in uniform directions, and then as it grows out a bit and "softens" it also lightens.

You can tell before she was uncomfortable by the way she dressed and looked. But now you can tell she dresses comfortably the way she would want to be

8:43 Love that “Hip leather things?!” -Ash

Friends: I like this girl Me: That ain’t it chief

I still remember watching your videos with your intro “Hey There *picture of you with glasses and side ponytail”

my science teacher is trans. She has a lgbtq+ poster outside of her classroom, and she sometimes wear a pin with the trans flag colors. When I was told she was once a man, I was really surprised. All the kids at my school are calling her Mr. (not to her face) and it really upsets me. I always call her by her preferred pronouns. I really respect the lgbtq+. She is actually leaving school for 2 weeks for surgery which I am guessing is for her full transformation. so yea. just a lil story.

Ash, where do you get the get the music in your intros is it a playlist or anything?

Every time you talk about gender expression I get the urge to try out more androgynous stuff, catch me looking at button downs and snapbacks for the next few days😂

So cool to look at everyone’s art and hear what you have to say, Ash! I hope you and everyone knows that there’s no need to explain “why” or “why” not you are a certain identity to anyone; you’re valid no matter what others might think or say. No one should be obligated to explain themselves if they are not comfortable or happy doing so!

I looked back at my elementary school photos and I just went "Yo I look like a lil Mexican!" and that was that