You didn't fail, you just got a B

@eherbert33

4 жыл бұрын

This is so nice! I will use this in future when I’m not good at things

@lorethehobbit

4 жыл бұрын

I think Bs should be celebrated more tbh

@daisywrightcollins2328

3 жыл бұрын

This is so random I'm sorry but I have thought about this comment since I first saw it a year and a half ago and it has brought me so much peace when I try something and don't quite do it perfectly. Honestly you're a life saver.

@irhonda31

9 ай бұрын

That’s good! 😂

When I was a child, I got new clothes twice a year. Once was just before school started and the other was around Easter. That's it. It wasn't strange in my immediate community that someone would constantly wear the same few outfits over and over. I remember an entire lunch table being collectively shocked when the new girl Jessica confessed to having 5 different pairs of jeans! Le gasp! When I started wearing makeup, the rich girls wore Clinique. The rest of us wore whatever the drug store had on sale that week. Somehow in the last twenty years, we've all tried to acquire Cher Horowitz's closet on ever shrinking amounts of disposable income. Every facet of life has become about "aping wealth." We've normalized the behaviors that used to be exclusive to the upper classes. I see the "no buy" and "low buy" tags on social media and (to me) it feels like a return to sanity. The overconsumption of makeup and clothes has become so normalized that an amount of consumption that is in line with your actual needs and budget feels like a radical shift.

@emilyrose4269

4 жыл бұрын

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When you said “ f*ckboy relationship with capitalism * , I felt that.

I don't think you failed, January's Leena couldn't consider doing a full year of not buying so that itself is a positive change, no? :)

I really loved this update because between your no buy videos I have been thrown into an involuntary no buy for foreseeable amount of time lol. I went from a place of incredible finical privilege to living off £20 a week, it's very doable, but it means cutting out a lot things *especially* because I live in London. Suddenly being limited to buying and eating the unbranded essential foods really put into perspective how luxurious my spending habits were, £2 for a bar of chocolate in your weekly shop becomes 10% of your entire budget. Buying a bag of carrots eating them all in one night (they're my favourite snack) became "naughty"and "wrong", even though they were only 80p. So whilst our circumstances are different I really related to the struggle you had with this challenge, its sad but only when you can't buy things you realise just how much of the world revolves around luring you to spend money. God bless the local library.

The description of sensory marketing as a "sick fairground joke" is incredibly accurate seeing as there is a whole marketing discipline dedicated to using the senses to change consumer's behaviour and essentially trick them into making purchases. Like there have been studies that have been done which have shown that people shop more slowly when slow music is playing and faster when fast music is playing and that people will buy more under certain sensory conditions than others. For example, I read a book about this which said that shops like Abercrombie and Fitch play loud music to keep older people away because a) they don't want them "cramping their style" and b) they don't want parents in the shop discouraging their kids from buying things. Some McDonalds in some areas even play classical music to stop teens from "loitering" and putting more "desirable" customers off (I actually experienced this in a McDonalds in Liverpool and it was SO WEIRD). Essentially the human brain is so easily manipulated and people CAN and WILL try and use that to make you buy things.

@louiedale7347

4 жыл бұрын

yo what was the name of the book you read on this topic? Leena's description of sensory marketing and this comment have really intrigued me.

@mi.ferreira

4 жыл бұрын

Would love to read that book. Which one is it?

LEENA you did NOT fail! Only buying five things you didn't necessarily need in 6 months? That's incredible and that requires so much self-control. You should be so proud of yourself.

I agree! I love KZread for giving me food for thought on all of the opinions and feelings I have but aren’t fully formed or havnt been able to articulate. Videos like yours and people like you spark more ideas, validate some thoughts of mine and challenge me all at once. Yas 👏 Love your work gal x

@leenanorms

4 жыл бұрын

Yey agreed! KZread isn’t dead yet!!! 🧡

@zoeg1992

4 жыл бұрын

Omg months later but thanks for replying. Honestly I love your brain. Thank you for being you and sharing that on this platform ❤️

In the strictest sense of the word, yep, you failed. You broke the rules of the no-buy. BUT you've learnt. You've learnt about yourself, about society, about consumerism. You've identified and confronted insecurities. You have reduced what you buy drastically. And all of that is a huge success! So well done you 👍😊

@leenanorms

4 жыл бұрын

Haha aw thank you that makes me feel better 🙏

Letting go of dreams and building other ones sounds like a great video topic. I’d love to hear you talk more about that.

The part where you said that trying to live your life as a rejection of a previous life not being an ideal way to live. Damn, I needed to hear that.

cackling at the jumpsuit/squat toilets comment... been there

Not interested in the weight but would love to see you throwing out your clothes!

in the past, especially when i was a teen and had no responsibilities, shopping has definitely been kind of a time filler or even hobby to me. "dont know what to do? well, go to the mall and browse through the shops." i was really interested in fashion and liked to experiment with my style. but then i grew up and between living alone, working a minimum wage job and having debt, there really was no money left for anything frivolous. for about two years i had regular shopping cravings, i dreamt of a time where i would make more money and could afford all the nice and pretty things i wanted, i browsed fashion sites online and tortured myself... now about five years have passed since i actually went shopping the last time (granted, i go to the thrift store once in a while) and only in the last year or so have i come to terms with my situation and to not crave ~*~Things~*~ so much anymore. im not jealous of other people anymore who have better clothes than me, i dont dream of owning expensive things anymore... somehow i had to learn to not see my possessions as a way of gaining validation. i had to learn to get it from somewhere else. it was a hard process, and one i would have never pulled off if i hadnt been poor bc if i wasnt nobody wouldve forced me to go through all of this, but im glad thats how it is now and i can evaluate potential possessions more dispassionately and dont feel this intense desire to own certain things anymore.

I've been loving Hannah's videos as well. I'm doing a low buy year which seemed like a good idea at the time but I think a no buy year would have been easier because the rules would have been clearer. I don't like hard and fast rules which is why I did a low buy year. I felt a lot of guilt when I did buy something even though I wasn't breaking the rules. I did the low buy at the same time I got a new job with a huge raise. Between the money I saved from the low buy and my new job, I paid off my student loans! I'm officially debt free for the first time in my adult life : ) A big thing of the low buy year for me was using up what I already have. It really highlighted how much stuff I have and didn't realize it. I went 2 months of only using travel size toothpaste and dental floss. I have not had to buy any soap this year which means I have too much soap just sitting around the house. And this is the most creative I've been in a while. I've been using my craft supplies and sewing every week and painting every month. It's been nice to do some of the projects I've been wanting to do for a long time.

@robotnic

4 жыл бұрын

BeautifullyReckles Well done!

@BeautifullyReckles

4 жыл бұрын

@@robotnic Thanks! : )

I tried to do a no-buy and failed within about a month, but I've been more conscious with my shopping decisions and bought less than I usually would. I totally agree with what you said about there being shops everywhere, and I noticed I often come home from a day out feeling like I've got nothing out of the day if I haven't bought anything. Altering that mindset is tricky, but I'm trying to see bringing home memories or experiences as more valuable than things.

Nothing's a failure if you learned from ittt 💃💃💃💃

I really do love your videos and how honest you are. Thank you for these!

You definitely didn't fail!! Always interesting and thought provoking to hear your insights leena

You absolutely did not fail! You clearly learnt from the process so far and got insight from it, so how could that be a failure. Applaud you for not being too hard on yourself, and inspired by your journey so far :D

I grew up being very careful with money. We weren't poor but I knew that there wasn't that much money to be spent on clothing etc. I therefore never felt the need to buy or own new clothing every season. I buy what I need, something I will get good use out of and things that genuinely make me happy. A couple of years ago when I found out about sweatshops I have only bought at second hand stores or websites that can genuinly assure me that they pay their employees well and that they are (or working hard on being) not harmful to the environment. I am so so thankful for my upbringing. Good luck to everyone who is trying to do no-buy and is working on themselves. It's not easy. I admire your commitment. Also, if you still buy something every once in a while, you're not failing. You're already working so hard so don't be down on yourself. Every penny counts, put it towards something you believe in.

Love the idea of a video about giving up dreams and figuring out what is really important. Love hearing your thoughts on, well, most things!

Get behind me Satan 😂 We will be jump-suiting

Great Update, I've found no buys to be both liberating and soul destroying! It's kind of lovely to have nothing arriving in the post, nothing going out of my bank except groceries and also a curated wardrobe in which everything fits (me and it) - But I also feel a big empty place where shopping or browsing used to be. I also have been intrigued by the 'rebound' effect, I compare it to dieting and bingeing, after a no buy period, when I allow myself to shop, I can go a bit crazy and have to rein myself in again like a runaway horse!

@mia.jade.

4 жыл бұрын

a wardrobe in which everything fits (me and it) is the dream

LOVE This topic Leena! I've just been watching Hannah's videos so this was really timely

I'm always so thankful for your videos because they seem to capture all the stray thoughts in my brain and dump them all out and somehow connect the dots at the same time. Oftentimes I think that all of these ideas are unrelated, but you seem to grasp the connections between my need for having a nice new outfit for a vacation or for a work event with the concept of putting out a specific image in my head of what I should be at those events. As for whether you failed, my new motto for this internet age of cancel culture and showing off a perfect lifestyle is that some progress is better than no progress. As long as you put in the work and made changes, you are doing better than you were before and that's all that you can hope for. You learned something about yourself and you understood how your anxieties affected your purchasing decisions at that time and now you know better for next time. You can work through how to handle work events and your idea of borrowing an item for a change in climate and then returning it once you were out of that space seems to be a creative fix. Maybe you can borrow items in the future for a work event or do a clothing swap for business attire outfits.

This was so wonderful to listen to, I would love a video on letting go of your dreams and building other ones!!

love this! really like hearing your perspective on the no buy! please keep updated 😊

I’m so glad you updated this! I’ve been thinking about your video on this for months as someone who really doesn’t buy anything I don’t need, maybe a few things that are debatable if I need them but mostly not. I’m so invested and intrigued to continue to hear your thoughts on this

LOVED THIS! It's so interesting to see your journey documented in video form! For me the biggest help has been just making everything 'new' off limits (so when I'm in a shop it's mentally like nothing is available, because it's not in the category of things I buy). I don't go into clothes shops anymore and have deleted all shopping apps and newsletters. It's so funny to see how your brain can change over time. But I can totally relate to the moments where you go into panic mode for a specific event or to fit in and it's so important to not be hard on yourself 24/7. Keep on keeping on!

Awesome video! I know I personally would love a video of reconstructing dreams and shifting your focus on what you want to pursue.

I started a no buy for 2019 and have failed SO HARD. I managed six months in 2018 (jan-June) and so thought I could do it again but nope! Agree with dusting yourself off and trying again and being kind to yourself

@josafinni8361

4 жыл бұрын

i totally failed too, i gave up! i bought a pair of white cowboy boots within the first month...

@paulwinchell6904

4 жыл бұрын

Try try again

Great video. You haven’t failed your no buy. You’re more conscious of your spending habits and consuming less. That’s a win. Yes, I agree with being kind to ourselves. Why are we turning something good (spending more consciously) into something that can be “failed”?

You've done so well! Its so easy to beat ourselves up but it's important to remember that whilst trying to improve ourselves in our sustainability habits we must also be kind to ourselves and give ourselves a break - as with everything else in life! We are all on a journey. Just think about how far you've come, how much the way you think regarding spending/waste/consumption has changed.

This video couldn't have come at a better time for me to watch it. Literally last week I decided to go on a six month no buy (barring spending for an event next month)... And it's only been a week but it's so good to watch someone who had attempted this, had reasonable success and went through the pros and cons. I'm coming to terms with the real effects my spending has had, and really trying to prioritize other parts of my life. Never really realized how much of my life was centered around purchases and the next thing I was going to buy... This has given me a lot of hope and a lot of room to be compassionate to my future self of things get hard(er) on this no-buy. Thanks so much! And please keep the updates coming!

I’m so happy that your video made me discover Hannah! And I’m currently trying out a low buy and this shit is hard! All we can do is just to keep doing our best!

I wanted to change my shopping habits to help the environment, and being such a big spender on clothes that was my main area. Rather than going completely no buy I started slowly and said I could buy essentials new, ideally from more ethical places, but any browsing had to be done second hand on eBay or in charity shops. It means I still get that feeling I love of shopping and browsing for things, but at less of a cost to the environment. I’ve found that by not being super strict on myself it’s actually been easier, gradually I’ve found myself less likely to buy something unless I think I’ll really like it, even with second hand. And I haven’t bought new except for a few necessities. I think I needed to change my attitude to consumerism and shopping, and doing it gradually means it’s more of a life change than a challenge. I do often reach a point of comfort where I have to push myself again to take it further. I’ve been mostly cruelty free for a few years now, but there are some things I haven’t got round to changing because they’re less easily accessible, so that’s my next push. Love your videos, would definitely like to hear you talk more about what you said on pursuing things just for yourself vs for the good of all.

i just love your channel you have such interesting, clever and funny things to say ! I can watch your vids for hours and not get bored - cheers lovely lady!

I love this channel. The presenter is so real and intelligent. A rare treat

My only two 2019 resolutions I made for myself were to complete a no buy challenge and to run a half marathon. I have completed failed at both. In February I decided I wanted rollerskates, I went an bought a pair on a whim. I felt so guilty at first because I considered it a frivlous purchase. But it took me six months to realize that my uncessary purchase brought a new passion into mylife. I also realised I hate running but the main purpose of that goal was to have a excercise routine, which I found in skating. I still feel guilty for a large amount of purchases I have made though, like candles. I didn't need those.

This was a fantastic, thoughtful & interesting video! You definitely did not fail this challenge, as you say, there’s a difference between agreeing with a system and existing in a system. It’s bloody hard to suddenly ban buying things completely. Also buying things that fit you better, are more functional and will ultimately be better, useful & more productive is a very good thing. I tried not to buy things for the first 6 months & then ended up ‘failing’ too by buying several non-essential things, but i’m still quite chuffed with how I did overall. Congratulations on your achievement so far!

This is the first video of yours I have seen, loved it xx

don't frame it as a failure! it's the process and habits developed that will matter in the long term

It’s a tricky topic - there’s definitely something to be said for the idea of minimalism, not being attached to material items, only buying things we ‘need’ but the fact is we do live in a capitalist society and a huge majority of the society survive on earning money selling ‘stuff’. All the way from & small businesses selling their beautiful wares up to corporations who employ millions of people. The idea of not buying anything I don’t strictly need is in a way self-serving in itself (if that makes sense?). So it’s interesting in terms of what you’re saying about choosing between your own happiness and a better society. I also think it’s a slight issue demonising all these shops tempting you in whereas I guess capitalism is the demon and those shops are just run by people trying to make a living in this society. Just some thoughts on the other side of the issue - but i love lots of what you talk about in this video and think we can all benefit from being less materialistic! X

I looooove this video. In so many ways, thanks for all the great lessons and thoughts you're sharing, they feel SO GOOD as always Lots of love xx

I agree, purity and absolutism is a trap. Bearing that in mind, you didn’t fail anything; you’ve made huge positive changes and are learning a lot and that’s awesome and you’re doing great!

I think if you bought WAY less than your ordinarily would and saved money, then not sure how much 4 buys really matters! But then that's what I might tell myself... Based off you saying you would do this challenge, i took it as inspiration for a little unofficial no-buy for myself. I found that holidays are a big trigger for me spending money on clothes as I feel like I NEED something but then don't spend any decent money on the clothes I wear every day. I still haven't really reconciled this but interesting thoughts.

yes more on the dreams thoughts! love your ramble thoughts so much!!

this is my favourite type of leena vid!

@jessie-nl8eb

4 жыл бұрын

also the way you talked about how this hannah person's videos affirmed and challenged your own ideas is the reason i got into watching youtube and i learnt so much from it and still do

you inspired me to do a no-buy (or no-new-buy) and I’ve managed to stick to it - I bought a couple of items from ethical brands and a few from depop. it’s completely changed my mindset and approach to shopping, where I used to shop loads every month from asos. the downside is that I also realised I still feel drawn to wanting “new” (or new to me) things and fantasising about changing my wardrobe. I suppose the fact that doing so is more challenging means I have to reason with myself and cope with that! I’m planning to keep it going for the foreseeable future, so you’ve definitely positively influenced my habits (and it has saved me money)

HARD RELATE! At the beginning of the year I felt really inspired to try a ‘low-buy’ and it made me acknowledge my shopping addiction. I decided to do 3 months to start off and because i was going on a big holiday to America in April I knew i would want to buy things as I’d never been there before! Since then despite my intentions to re-start it I’ve kind of fallen off the bandwagon and feel like I’ve ‘failed’ for not restarting. Similarly to you, I have bought less and been much more mindful when I have bought something but its really hard not to beat yourself up about it! Why are shops so god damn tempting! I realise that if i can avoid shops then i am all good, i don’t online shop, but its the temptation to just have a look when I’m walking past that gets me and they are EVERYWHERE! Thanks so much for making this video, i feel reinvigorated knowing I’m not alone in this (privileged) plight and we CAN unlearn this horrendous behaviours ❤️

I love getting to hear what’s going on in the back of that head of yours Leena, thank you so much for sharing on this channel!

Great video! Made me think about how I feel bad about the shit that I buy. Need to rethink my relationship to stuff.

Progress not perfection. You're doing amazing!

Awe your videos are lovely! This is great!

I didn't commit to a no buy period, but I do think about your initial video everytime I go to buy clothes. I'm pretty sure that I've bought no clothes online this year that I didn't actively 'need' (define need?) but have been shopping a lot. I also lost a fair amount of weight, and spent a lot of this year in oversized clothes because I struggled with the notion of buying more. I really enjoyed how thought provoking these videos are.

I am so grateful to you for introducing me to her 😊

Something you said in your original video I now say to myself pretty much everyday. You said "If I fail, its because I chose to fail". I had a habit I wanted to give up and after hearing that I have now gone 9 months without out it. I don't think you failed, I think you are doing brilliant. And hey, you've helped a lot of others on the way. I am proof of that.

Sometimes all you can do is your best!

I don't think you've failed at all, just become more flexible with what success means in this instance too. I think that going into anything with an all-or-nothing mindset is always going to mean you 'fail' somewhere along the line because, shock horror, everyone is a person who sometimes does things because it's what they want in the moment, and not every single inch you move in your life has to add up to a big-picture ideal. I've definitely learned to be more flexible and compassionate with myself over goals around single use plastic, fast fashion, etc, and actually I'm more in line with my goals now doing it imperfectly than I ever was when I demanded that i must be perfect. Because as a person doing it imperfectly I don't fail and have to start again, I'm always successful because I just want to know in my mind that I'm doing a good job overall. I think it's really interesting that the all-or-nothing mindset can bleed into our expectations for results as well, like the idea that a no-buy year could ever 'cure' the hideous disease that is sometimes wanting to own nice things. Like sure, capitalism has planted that Pavlov's Dog bell in all our heads, but I think acknowledging when it's ringing and being able to consciously go "yeah I want that frivolous stupid dinosaur pencil holder because I want it but I know this expensive brand of tea isn't worth it just because it's got really pretty packaging" is a much healthier expectation than looking to magically not ever want things again. I think conscious consumption and looking to improve our own literacy about how marketing works etc so we can participate in capitalism mindfully and carefully is always going to be a better aim than the idea that we could all be magically cured of wanting to buy stuff. But that ability to hear the bell ringing and sit with that urge to buy and not is definitely a lifelong learning process that we should all be practising.

I am doing a no buy this year after a low buy last year, It’s still a struggle after years of over spending the habits are hard to break and temptation is everywhere, I have learned lots though and have savings for the first time, you have not failed, you have made huge progress-love your thoughts on this thank you xx

So enjoying you! Maximally hilare and supes relatable.

I study environmental studies and had a lecture on consumerism and simple living/ minimalism and everything the lecturer was saying reminded me so much of not only Christianity but a lot of different religions, so I totally understand the connection!

I'm about to head to uni, so I'll write a proper reply another time... But, when you asked to hear from some of the folk from before who'd also done it, thought I'd quickly poke my head back in... Basically I did a no-buy 3yrs (that initially started kind of accidentally)... & I think the biggest thing that helped that work for me, was getting my groceries from places that weren't inside of shopping malls, avoiding advertising as much as possible (using an ad-block, deleting any email subscriptions that sell things, not reading things with ads inside etc)... But also, I drive a scooter (as in a 250cc one, not a push one), & I feel like that also made a huge difference, because it meant I rarely had to walk by a bunch of shops etc, because you can generally park right at the door of where you're wanting to go when you drive a scooter/motorbike... & Feel like that definitely helped more than I realised at the time. I also think trying to also keep that up when with friends etc helps... As in meeting up/doing activities that are outside of shopping centres/away from shops you find tempting... Oh & if I felt jealous about something someone else had, I found it useful to question WHY I was jealous... Was it because I feel like I wasn't portraying myself in a way that I felt accurately represented me? Why did I feel so attached to being portrayed like that? Why did I care? Did it matter? Why did it matter? etc etc. Hahaha, ok, ended up writing a lot more than I intended to :-p I better go... It wasn't even anything ground breaking :-p Sorry about that... Hopefully something in here was at least a tiny bit useful in some way? Anywho... Good luck with the rest of the year hun... I think a mindset shift might be a little useful before tackling this again... In that I mean, watching this you can sort of tell there's still a sort of wall/separation between "who you think you'll be after/during the no-buy time" VS who you are now... & I think it might be useful to realise they're the same person :-) I hope that comes out right? Not sure how to explain that properly & I really have to go :-p Ok ok, I've got so much more to say, but I'll piss off & end it there before I'm late for class :-p You've done so well Leena 😊❤ Don't be too hard on yourself... You don't have to have a set time frame on this, & there's no penalty for 'failing'... Pretty sure your goal was just to purchase more mindfully, & it sounds like that's exactly what you accomplished 😊🌹 Well done hun, wishing you all the best from Australia ❤ Emma 🌈

@EmmaAus

4 жыл бұрын

Ooh ooh ooh... Sorry :-p I still had 3 minutes of your video to go when I wrote that (just paused it to type).... & what you said just then made me completely remember... I joined this micro-lending platform called Zidisha in April 2015, about 3-4 months before I started what ended up being that no-buy 3yrs... & I think that made WAY more of a difference than I realised.... If I was feeling urges to buy things, I'd usually jump on there first, to see if there was someone I wanted to lend money to first... & by the time I'd done that, my desire to buy usually went away (it reminded me of bigger picture things/the value of my dollars more etc)... Anyway I really really need to go :-p but thought I'd mention Zidisha if you didn't already know about it ❤ I'll quickly go grab that invite link in case its helpful (haha no affiliation obviously) There's $25 to send: www.zidisha.org/i/35147 There's mine if its in any way helpful? - www.zidisha.org/lender/profile/view/35147 Ok, I'm leaving :-p All the best miss norms 😊❤

"Purity is a trap, apathy is a trap, somewhere in between we're all trying to live our fucking lives" That hit me more than I think it was meant to

Not only did you not fail, I think it’s inspiring and motivating to a lot of us that you’ll keep going despite any imperfections :) I need to try this myself because I spend a sad amount of money as a result of my mental health issues, but retail therapy is just a bandage, not an actual treatment of anything

You didn’t fail. You are radical 🥰

Love this and love u Leena 💗💗

@leenanorms

4 жыл бұрын

THE FEELING IS SO MUTUAL JENNIE

I'm doing a no-buy month (starting small), and one of my main rules is no makeup, period, even if I run out. I read a post about the conditions in which makeup is produced, and horrifyingly, the effect glitter has on the environment, and now I don't even want to wear the stuff I already have (your videos on brands serve a similar function for me, so thank you)!

O no, you're too relatable! I'm an ex-christian and I've had a very similar deconstruction journey and its impact on my material life has been...also similar to yours

I'm going through something similar! I stopped buying unnecessary clothing this spring (for environmental, ethical and personal finance reasons) but Fall/Winter is where my fashion brain THRIVES so the upcoming months will be the true test

I love everything about this video

I have never done a no-buy year, but i did radically lowered my consumption a few years ago for financial reasons, and now that i have more capacity to buy things dont seem to want them any more. I guess it is about that fine tuning you were talking about. At the end of the day for me is about tring to move in the general direction you are going for. Like for example, i consider myself vegan, but i will still choose a second hand wool jumper over a plastic new one, because my end goal is sustainability. So even though i think the label is useful when interacting with people and trying to explain my needs, i will prioritize my values over the label. I guess what i am trying to say is that, even if you bought some thingsduring your no-buy time, if it helped you to live closer to your values and evaluate things, i dont think you can say you failed.

ooh projects... how mysterious exciting. life isn't about perfection and sometimes ya gotta buy stuff plus the capitalists are smart with drawing you in. also keep an eye out for XR things, I went to one today and they literally had a clothes swap (I found a cool jacket that actually fit me)

Hannah is a true gem

My problem is with buying coffee. So like need to stop buying that because aside from that I don't really buy things I don't need.

@Hillary429

4 жыл бұрын

Em even with a great Nespresso at home and free coffee at my workplace I still find myself buying coffee ☕️ I understand that struggle 💸

@emilyschettlers

4 жыл бұрын

@@Hillary429 I work in a library that has a Starbucks in it so the struggle is real even when I bring coffee from home.

@thefrancophilereader8943

4 жыл бұрын

Move to Switzerland. I've been living in Geneva for less than a month and already I have cut buying coffee and restaurant food out of my life. When coffee is 7 fr for a tall regular coffee, you stop buying coffee out real quick. Everything is super expensive. Unfortunately, in the US where I'm from and in other countries with cheap prices, it's so easy to buy coffee out. I did it everyday for years. I totally get the struggle. I also understand why you would go binge shopping too when there are so many cheap clothes to buy online. Until I was forced to for financial reasons, I couldn't will myself to buy less coffee or cook more.

@emilyschettlers

4 жыл бұрын

​@@thefrancophilereader8943 I think moving to Switzerland would be a lot more expensive than quitting coffee for a year! But I get what you're saying.

i'm doing a no-buy but i've been lenient with the rules i've put for myself

I’ve been doing a no-new-clothes year and it’s going well! I bought ONE T-SHIRT but it was at George Ezra’s gig in Paris and I always buy the T-shirt’s of people I see, so I’m seeing it more as a souvenir. I have another planned T-shirt buy in November when I go to my fave podcasts live show but otherwise that’s it! I have done a bit of eBay and chazza shopping (second hand obvs) but bought way less than usual, like 90% less. I sort of don’t feel that different though and I have a sneaky feeling that January 1st 2020 I’ll just wind up buying a year’s worth of clothes.... damn

I was inspired by many no-buy videos from earlier in the year, and became more conscious about my spending habits. I stared a spending tracker and became anxious when I started having travel expenses (grad school conferences). I know I cut down on my old spending habits (the public library is great) and I’m more aware now, but buying these on the spot has become a more conscious thing now. I’m becoming a bit more strict with my budget now bc I wanna make some kind of balance. But I’m pretty sure it’s a reaction to the anxiety.

I don't think it sounds like you failed, I reckon the coat and work clothes count as pretty useful and necessary things xx Growing up, my mum only ever went shopping with me when I needed something, and coats and formal clothes came under that umbrella 👍👍❤️

I do exactly that with charity shop stuff! I'm doing a no-new-stuff year although I still have had to tone it back because charity shops are so addictive. I still have bought some new stuff (boots, a winter parka, because I live in a place where they are not stocked in charity shops, and gifts) but considering I had to furnish my new flat I'm pretty happy with so few new items. The main thing with charity shops is that I have no ethical qualms about buying stuff there, so it's just my bank account suffering and that's not enough of a deterrent to me. I'm trying to practise more gratitude for what I already have and ask myself if I need the item. Trying to own less and not just accumulate, even charity-shop finds.

Ouch, hard relate on the need to 'look' professional! Definitely a young woman/imposter syndrome thing for me. I also had some changes to my body in the past year so I'm also struggling with the need to buy new clothes that fit. Doing my best to buy fair and well made clothes or to make them myself but it's definitely a process working out what works for me.

Omg Leena, be my friend, you are amazing.

I kind of have a problem with actually making myself shop. I genuinely need new things, but... I just don't buy anything. I have enough money to buy them, and enough time - so I can't explain why I don't, other than taking the frugal mentality a bit too far. Interesting to see the other side of the coin!

I went on a book buying no buy because I don't over buy anything else and I'm doing really well. But I also started working in a library so now I'm just borrowing books and not reading them instead of buying them (if you work in a library there are no fines). Still it's better for my purse strings and libraries are funded by issues so i like to think im doing my bit in not buying new things and saving local services, even if my mental approach to books hasn't really changed.

Hi there, new subscriber here! Just wanna say your videos have been really inspiring during this fucked pandemic of a year. Ugh, disgusting to even think that... Bleh. Anyway, I don't think you really failed. You talked about buying a coat you didn't think you needed but you definitely needed it for comfort and the ability to even travel (i.e space in your bags) and you also donated it back after you didn't need it anymore. I also think you set a very obtainable goal for yourself. You knew you probably couldn't do a whole year so you shortened it to what you could do. Instead of forcing myself not to buy ANYTHING (something I definitely knew I couldn't do bc I switched job environments this year) I just push myself to really think about the thing I'm holding in my hand at check out. I bought a candle last week, do I really need one this week? I just bought a pair of flats last month, do I need another pair? Yes they're on sale but is that the only reason I'm holding them? Yeah colourpop is having a sale but how many palettes do you already have? I think small changes eventually lead to the ability to make big changes. Especially considering the shit mental place everyone seems to be and the uptick in mental health emphasis.

I have been getting so frustrated with consumerism lately, especially as we are now on the run up to... halloweenchristmas... The hauls on KZread are getting me down a lot, especially thinking in terms of the environment... I haven’t done a no buy year but have realized (ignore the fact just brought a house) that I don’t often buy a lot outside of normal bills and I have this inherent guilt anytime I buy something for myself now, I go to the shops to try and buy things that I need but often end up coming home empty handed, yet I feel this urge to consume and collect things.

My no money year is going absolutely fantastic so far 👌🏻

I think the fact you could list off many positive things that came from doing this eg. saving money and allowing you to consider doing a full no buy year shows that it was a success. while you clearly feel bad about those 4 items you bought, i wouldn't say that you failed at all! :)

I haven't been doing a no buy year but I have tried to be conscious in how much I am consuming and why I buy certain things. Because for me awareness of my own actions is a better way of controlling my impact than saying to myself that I can't do something because for some reason that just instantly makes me want to rebel and do the exact opposite, something I've been trying to work on.

Okay,but your level of self awareness and how well you seem to know yourself,is staggering! How does a girl get there?

If you set out to be cured of the desire to shop then yea you failed but taking on the challenge has helped you grow so I think that that's success

you are right, there are so many shops. but once you decide to not go in anymore, isnt it that you realize they are selling the same stuff? and literally they are all the same shops. its always the same brands, same cuts. i've had similar experiences with food. once you leave out meat and dairy, there is actually not that much left to tempt you.

Oh my god, I can’t even imagine what I would do in the jumpsuit/squat toilet situation. Probably just undress fully 😂

The good thing about buying clothes for me is that ever since I started learning sewing clothes I tell myself every time that I don't need to buy this if I can make it myself someday. The problem I have is buying books. Especially in second-hand book shops when they are cheap and it feels like I'll never get a deal like that again... for some reason, I always have the fear that if I don't buy the book right here right now I won't get the chance again, which is just not true. So that is definitely something I want to work on in future.

I've been doing a no buy year also and have to admit to a couple of small slips. I adopted a rescue kitten and along with the adoption fee indulged in a few cat toys. I also bought gloves while away on a weekend when it unexpectedly snowed. I kind of felt these purchases were necessary.... Otherwise, I feel I've done really well. It is a bit shocking that I've had so much makeup, hair and bath products etc that I've not needed to buy anything in that realm. I didn't include ebooks in my no buy criteria... I had to draw a line at cutting those out! I want to do a no takeout foods year next to cut back on processed foods.

There are so many shops. It’s everywhere, you see that once you stop buying that many things. I’ve never saw it as a challenge but this no-buy thing is my new lifestyle. I don’t see things the same way anymore, I see the fast fashion shops that hires poor people in third world countries, I see capitalism and I have no desire of buying anything. I just buy things when I need them, and I usually buy them secondhand, from a friend or what people around me give me cause they don’t need them (out of my only four pair of shoes, I only have one that I actually bought, all the other ones were given to me!!), all of my trousers are trousers I’ve been given or that I found in charity shops, and I only own like 3 that I wear all the time. The main problem in this lifestyle is that as I only buy things that were made in the country I’m buying them from, making sure the company is actually considerate towards their employees, and it’s quite hard to find clothes that are ethically made, and for underwear and trousers for instance either you pay very very much to a company or there isn’t any ethical options. That’s the only hard part really, I don’t have that feeling of wanting to buy new things except if I need them or if I realise I’m always wearing the same things and I don’t like to dress up anymore : it means I need to change my clothes and give the ones I don’t wear for new ones in charity shops. :) I think now that you’ve done the no-buy half year, you will never buy the same way, and frankly I’m so glad for you cause as you said, it has a very good impact on your finances and also moral, because you want to do better in the world.

I loved this, still kinda wish you'd caved to the purple doc martens though. Thinking of doing this next year to see how much money I can save. I don't think you failed at all, I hope you discuss this more after a year of it.

I'm not sure of the entire year, but I know since the beginning of summer, the last time I bought something that wasnt groceries/food/necessities was a lush bubble bar (I was very upset because my summer job ended) and a book (it was a rare signed book that meant the world to me, probably the second most important book in my life and the first being from the same author so having his signature meant a lot). I was never the kind to go shopping and buy a lot, malls always made me uncomfortable and buying in general made me feel guilty, so it wasnt really that hard? I'll rewatch your first video and see if I can follow through because I really havent been spending much this summer! Thank you for this.

You definitely didn't fail because you did manage to make positive changes. You are just figuring out how it works for you so there are bound to be hiccups. You're doing a fucking rad job.