Why I Left a Muslim Cult | Sidi Yousuf Azhar

Sidi Yousuf Azhar, a survivor of spiritual abuse, gives a personal account about his difficult decision to leave a spiritual community (tariqa).
Brother Yousaf said he had found kindred spirits within the Sufi group, but he grew disillusioned as he learned about alleged spiritual abuse by the Sufi tariqa's leader.
Sidi Yousuf shares his spiritual insights and his experience in an effort to neutralize spiritual misuse, which is when a community leader, a religious figure, or a spiritual group may use the potent power of faith to exploit a congregant's sincerity for personal gain and even to harm others.
"They are using these mind games to make you think: no matter what the sheikh is doing, no matter what the sheikh is saying, you just submit and do it” - Yousuf Azhar, a survivor of spiritual abuse
He spoke at the weekly men’s halaqa as a substitute for Shaykh Rami Nsour (watch recordings at mcceastbay.org/reminders).
MCC Youth Director Shaykh Rami Nsour recorded this public service announcement (PSA) about spiritual abuse in the American-Muslim community: • PSA
- More Brother Yousaf: mcceastbay.org/yousuf
Lessons I Learned From Being in a Muslim Cult for 13 Years: / lessons-i-learned-from...
Here is an interview with In Shaykh's Clothing with Sidi Yusef: inshaykhsclothing.com/account...
Watch a detailed discussion about this important community issue at • Addressing Spiritual &...
Here is an article about leaving spiritual abusive groups: inshaykhsclothing.com/home/in...
- More topics addressing community & social justice issues: mcceastbay.org/community
This talk was delivered at the Muslim Community Center - East Bay (MCC East Bay) in Pleasanton, California on Friday, December 20, 2019.
When Yousuf Azhar first joined a religious Sufi community in Chicago, he felt more connected to his faith and to Allah. He made close friends, and followed the guidance of his ​​shaykh and mentors. Azhar and his family stayed in the community for thirteen years, and lived under the guidance of leaders until Azhar became suspicious that something was amiss.
In this week’s episode, Yousuf shares what it’s like to be in a cult - and what it’s like to leave one.
Yousuf tells us about the ways that cults pull people in, and how they trap their followers with manipulation, fear, and dehumanization. Now that he’s on the other side, he shares the importance of knowing the red flags of these groups, and how to avoid getting sucked into them. He also tells us what it’s like to gain personal and spiritual independence after thirteen years of reliance on others to make his decisions. Yousuf’s story is one of immense resilience, and is a testament to the strength of personal spirituality and self determination.
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Lessons I Learned From Being in a Muslim Cult for 13 Years
Yousuf Azhar, Muslim Sketchnoter
May 20, 2020
No one thinks they are in a cult while they’re in a cult. It’s easier than you think to fall prey to a corrupt shaykh/teacher. We assume that people who don religious garb are honest and sincere in wanting to help us. When we let our guard down and cease to assess them critically, we open ourselves up to abuse and exploitation. That’s what happened to me. Alhamdolillah, I was able to get out of the Muslim cult I was in. After spending a few years thinking about the lessons I learned, I decided to compile them for the benefit of others. I pray no one goes through the emotional torture I went through when leaving the cult I was in.
LESSONS
The moment you get comfortable NOT critically analyzing something is the moment you are setting yourself up for abuse.
People who justify their inconsistent behavior are lying to you.
If you find yourself justifying the wrong actions of your shaykh/teacher, you need to realign your loyalty to the truth and call out your shaykh/teacher.
Unlike true prophets of Allah, abusive shaykhs/teachers EXPECT reward from you for their help through your donations and your service to them or their causes.
If a shaykh/teacher tries to cut you off from information other than the Shaykh’s/teacher’s, know that your shaykh/teacher wants to control you.
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  • @brothersman524
    @brothersman5242 жыл бұрын

    I left a sufi cult over 20 years ago and almost left Islam so I understand what he is saying and the reality is that a lot of these Sufi cults which is widespread isn't good at all - my old friend is sucked and brainwashed into one which caused our friendship to dissolve and he is getting messed up more and more while my eemaan and ibadah became stronger. Alhamdulillah I was lucky that I connected with a few amazing brothers who helped me and they have beautiful akhlaaq and knowledge - and to this day they are still my best friends in the deen of Islam

  • @Jorjina.hayatt
    @Jorjina.hayatt4 жыл бұрын

    This is eye opening and much needed, jazakAllaahu khyr

  • @nina1996ization
    @nina1996ization8 ай бұрын

    Same - I also had a terribly traumatic experience and it wasn't the sheikh but the mureed who really were dangerous. The Sheikh doesn't 'police' the mureed or censor their behaviour. So in some ways people can get away with abusing others with no consequences for whether they will be allowed to remain and even speak on behalf of tariqa. I would recommend people to stay away from these spaces, they aren't what they were traditionally and because there is no way to safe guard what goes on, it is a free for all. I also noted that the majority of people who gravited towards them have mental health issues and existing traumas. If you are only there to learn - you still end up having to deal with a soup of negative, toxic, disturbing behaviours of those around you in the process.

  • @affy45
    @affy456 ай бұрын

    I left a salafi cult 20 years ago they were practicing the cancel culture in their own way which made it difficult to step away, Alhamdulillah

  • @dontlogin79
    @dontlogin794 жыл бұрын

    Very brave. I know exactly who he's talking about. He's 100% on point on this topic.

  • @hamzahibrahim4881

    @hamzahibrahim4881

    4 жыл бұрын

    For the benefit of protecting others, who is it about?

  • @amd7285

    @amd7285

    4 жыл бұрын

    He is talking about Sheikh Zulfiar aka Peer zulfiqar ahmed nqashbandi and his khulifa Dr Shiekh Hussein Abdul Sattar...

  • @amd7285

    @amd7285

    4 жыл бұрын

    Now i don't know the complete picture.. But fatwa was issued against Peer Zulfiqar Ahmed Nqashbandi by Dar ul loom by non other than Mufti Taqi Usmani... Shiekh hussein has allegedly since broken his chain with Peer Zulfiqar reflectd by the fact that Sheikh Hussein deleted all material related to Peer Zulfiqar on his web site all names and mostly all audio lectures... What this persons story is this. m.facebook.com/yousuf.s.azhar/posts/2336143769997137?__tn__=K-R.. What is the real Truth.. Only Allah knows... But i was deeply shocked and saddened when i heard all this.

  • @scathatch
    @scathatch Жыл бұрын

    To demand unquestioning trust within a power relationship in which the most powerful demands unquestioning trust from the less powerful, is inherently abusive, A true spiritual relationship is to be encouraged to question every action, motivation and genuine spiritual wisdom of the 'spiritual' leader within the relationship.

  • @zali6370
    @zali63702 жыл бұрын

    This is why giving bayah is an extremely dangerous innovation which eventually leads to hidden shirk, Khalifah's , sheikhs, imams are all subject to sin or mistakes, even messengers (minor sins - saghaa’ir) this is why you sending our duas upon the prophets and sahaba is important. why these things happen is because some so called imams are put on a high pedestal. May Allah forgive them for All their sins major & minor, May Allah guide them and us all.

  • @kalm4766

    @kalm4766

    9 ай бұрын

    Just a correction Prophets are infallible, they do not sin, sending duas to them is for our sake not theirs. Allah won't be sending sinners down to guide humanity but rather the best of human beings, and the best of them and the highest level of perfection in regards to a human being is the Prophet (pbuh).

  • @AlphaMaverick1111
    @AlphaMaverick11116 ай бұрын

    Would change the title to sufi cult, as it is more specific. There are pseudo-salafi cults too. Shaykh Asrar of Birmingham has some very excellent content on Sufi cults in English.

  • @YouBuyWeRush
    @YouBuyWeRush11 ай бұрын

    Allah huma barik. These sufi clowns need to be refuted throughly and need to be shamed publicly

  • @Claire76genx
    @Claire76genx7 ай бұрын

    I converted joon a sufi group a big 1 was fine on the beginning but then it started to feel like a cult the sheikh worship was too much i now dobt practice at all

  • @iMan-610

    @iMan-610

    7 ай бұрын

    I would advice to Leave sufism and follow Sunnah of Prophet a.s

  • @saddiqfavors1693

    @saddiqfavors1693

    6 ай бұрын

    was it tijani?

  • @AlphaMaverick1111

    @AlphaMaverick1111

    6 ай бұрын

    @@iMan-610 (ﷺ)

  • @conscientiousscrupulous8942
    @conscientiousscrupulous89424 жыл бұрын

    I ask Allah subhanahu wa taala to help us to hold in our iman steadfast. I have to remember no one infallable or perfect except the messengers. And unfortunately cults like Sufi are whom devastaing and damaging the image of islam, but the wise people understand that there are misguided people and righteous ones in Islam.

  • @MrRiz157

    @MrRiz157

    4 жыл бұрын

    Sufi are not damaging Islam but Muslims are becoming more worldly. As for Sufi Look at the great work Sufi have done in the last 1400 yes around the world how many people they have converted to Islam. You only have to look at the history books.

  • @_Hajar_

    @_Hajar_

    3 жыл бұрын

    Not all Sufi. Sufism was simply supposed to be the pursuit of excellence in your belief and deeds. Not all these extra things that were added later.

  • @waymilky442

    @waymilky442

    7 ай бұрын

    Sufism isn't a cukt!

  • @MrRiz157
    @MrRiz1574 жыл бұрын

    I think it's important to understand what is spiritual teachers role and what is the role of a student. Most teachers expect certain amount of trust be it spiritual or not, political groups have their issues dawah groups have their issues The point is it's the age we live in, trust is important when learning just like we send our children to school trusting that the institution is going to protect our children but we find there are instances when that trust is broken however we don't close the entire institution. It's important not to have blind trust in anyone which means you have to know the sheikh Is he following the example of the Prophet (pbuh) is the most important fact and not just be impressed by the numbers. Submission trust isn't wrong it's who you submit trust that's important.

  • @waymilky442
    @waymilky4427 ай бұрын

    You know Sufism isn't like this!

  • @saddiqfavors1693

    @saddiqfavors1693

    6 ай бұрын

    Yes it is

  • @deniss1

    @deniss1

    3 ай бұрын

    @@saddiqfavors1693 what are you both talking?Sufism is something else,tariqa is something else ,what about Uweysi sufism ? Its better you guys dont comment on things you have no experience

  • @MrJammat191
    @MrJammat1918 ай бұрын

    Definitely a cult

  • @alhassangarbaabdullahi1065

    @alhassangarbaabdullahi1065

    6 ай бұрын

    How can someone live cult