Real maturity here, I wish you and your family well!

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the kind words!

Why choosing unnecessary additional challenges in an already existing relationship, involving third/fourth parties, instead of working on the challenges you have with your one partner, make this one the best and grow on THIS ONE???? I don't see the point. To have a real good relationship with your one partner is challenging and nourishing enough. The first wifes heart is mostly broken and she HAS to deal with it. The second wifes heart was not broken and so the situation of this two wifes are never the same.

@Visionary_of_Love

3 жыл бұрын

@@nevertrustjinns8375 I believe you....

@Visionary_of_Love

3 жыл бұрын

@@nevertrustjinns8375 I know exactly what you mean. Somes see it different. Let us just be loyal and faithful to ourselves first and go OUR own way which suits us best, because; If WE are not happy, we can't make nobody else happy. 🙏🏻

@rhondabell7582

3 жыл бұрын

Why does she HAVE to deal with it? We all have free will. She can divorce and remarry if she pleases (my grandmother was married 3 times). Maybe she's not heartbroken and anticipated it. So she chooses to stay.

@Visionary_of_Love

3 жыл бұрын

@@rhondabell7582 Yes, I ment with it, the first wife has no choice, she was often not asked, if she wants to share her husband. The second can choose from the beginning, if at all she wants to marry a man with a wife and refuse. Ofcourse the first can divorse, but it is more painful, than just to refuse the marriage from the beginning.

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

3 жыл бұрын

The first wife also has a choice. Especially in Islam. Every Muslim knows that polygyny is allowed and that it is a possibility, so there is knowledge there. It can also be put in the contract that if he chooses to practice polygyny, then there can be things to consider like asking for permission and possible divorce, so the first wife does not have to accept it at all if she chooses not to. We all go through pain in our lives at one point or another and one way or another. It is up to us to choose what pain is acceptable, necessary or manageable to deal with in our lives. Once, we take control and get out of a victim mentality then we can enjoy and be grateful for what we have which in turn puts us in the mindset to have more and do better because we are better. People fight polygyny like the plague and try to give it a negative rep because of what they may have heard from those who are so against it or what they think someone else should feel based on their own insecurities, feelings and trauma. Polygyny is a form of marriage and if the husband is a bad guy, he's just a bad guy and he would be that way in polygyny or not.

I decided to be a single mom all by my self. I thought this was what I was wanted,but I clearly see now that I made a huge mistake and now I want out of this marriage 😢 I’m in my 60’s and has decided that I want to be alone again so I can experience a piece of mind.

I’m a second wife but my husband is in USA 🇺🇸 with my co-wife , so he visits only once a year. But truly speaking it’s not easy cause most of the time I feel lonely cause there’re times when he’s busy and hardly talk to me , so he call only ones. A times I regret getting married to a man with another wife. I really need to talk to someone 😢

@mariaray7614

10 ай бұрын

He didn't do according to sunnah!! You need to be treated equally.

@goodlifesince90

8 ай бұрын

Why r you with him? And how long has it been like this? This is not healthy at all

@Bestreeh

7 ай бұрын

He should be giving you equal amounts of time as your co-wife. This is not right, I’m sorry you have to deal with this… it’s like you are not a priority to him, just a side wife he forgets about every day of the year except the few days he comes to see you! May I ask, why did you seek for a married man that lives so far away? You could have married a single man whom will spend all his time with you and buy you anything, not a man that is not fulfilling his duties on not giving equality and justice to all wives… I think you should leave him, he doesn’t seem like a good Muslim man if he is not giving you (his wife) your rights… Please get the help you need, I will pray for you. 😢

@user-mh7ce9lw3g

5 ай бұрын

😢😢😢😢 I'm in similar situation, I met my fiance in europe. He told me he was single but has a child out of wedlock ( he Muslim from W Africa) I was excited because in my understanding it would be both our first marriage. Last year he went back to his country and he started acting strange, please keep in mind he still have nude pictures of some random woman he called his ex ( from America) on his phone and when I found out he quickly deleted them. Anyways in his country he didn't call as much only texted I wasnt used to it because he always calls or video calls me. A few times some weird messages were sent to me he blamed it on his 4 year old daughter 😢 , month later because I had his old phone i was using because i mine broke 😢 i got a notification and accidentally pushed the wrong button to discover not only did he block me from Facebook he had another profile and on that he sent messages to himself of copies of the pictures I found but also wrote a lady I went to her profile and that's where I saw wedding pictures and still to this day saying she married to him. After a huge fight he said he was gonna tell me when he was more financially stable so he could spoil me to calm me down, and his plan was to do this after the wedding 😢 so deceitful and manipulate and she doesnt to this day know about me😢 which is unfair on both sides he told me mind my marriage and dont worry or care about her but how is that possible? Isn't that cheating? That's how it feels 😢 anyways after math now that I know he treats me horrible and not acting pious , he rude , dismissive, mean , humiliated me , keep also in mind if been supporting him financially because he been having some issues and after his trip he decided to not come back home to live with his father to sort out his documents issues because on his end we cant get married in Europe legally because he doesn't have residence permit. So now I'm forced into a long distance relationship with a man I am coming to see communicate skills are horrible he duesnt know how to have a conversation without shutting down. He tells me when I explaining how I feel that it's useless and holds no value. We been engage almost 2 years now!!! Hasnt invested a dime on me , and knows I'm also struggling because I have an abusive boss. How can you find solutions when a man refuses to listen ? I also have no one to talk to and feel alone and my mental health is suffering. I dont care that he wants 4 wives for me what upsets me is how can you go around wanting this not live up to the standards, as it stands he was an absent father for 4 years!!!! Seeing this it makes me nervous how he will treat me when children come. He didn't go to school so how does he expect to provide lifestyle for at the moment two wives? And he has to give equal so if he buys me a Benz she gets one as well , if I builds her a house in his country ,I should have a house built as well we are in our 30s realistically how is that gonna work ? I'm 34 no kids time is not on my side 😢😢😢😢😢 I need a group of women to talk to , brothers also to see the prospective

Awesome video!!

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Thank you for doing what you guys do.. Very helpful! I've been asked more than twice to be a co wife, more than one man. Repeatly by someone that has always had a place in my heart and we have history; that goes back to when he was not Muslim. We lose contact ; but alway find one another. Now I'm doing a little research and taking him serious. I really want to THANK YOU BOTH !! 👑👑

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

3 жыл бұрын

It's our pleasure and we're glad you are being proactive, just be sure you're adequately prepared as the journey isn't easy but with the right man who is twice the man, it can be wonderful.

@prettydamsel9237

Жыл бұрын

Same to me i refused 3 offers before, now i have been proposed to the 4th time. Still praying and asking for Gods guidance.

You ALL have ben doing an EXCELLNT job family. May Allah continue to bless you. You are teaching our people.

You sisters are certainly the exception, not the rule! Here in philly it’s really common amongst the AA community, less so in other groups. I see a lot of times people get into it and are not emotionally mature enough to handle this life. Or the man can’t be strong enough to support two different households or two different personalities. I think it truly takes a special man and special women to make it work in this day and age. I would be okay with this as long as my co wife and I were on good terms and loved each other like sisters. But a lot of times sadly the women are jealous and fight. I also love a big family and my personal time alone, so I agree on those points. Plus, it would make intimate times together even better if you have more time apart lol. Thanks for your videos, it’s making me think more and more about something which I used to detest, Allah forgive me.

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

4 жыл бұрын

AlHamdulillah ukhti, thank you for your kind words. Sadly the emotional immaturity isn't limited to polygyny and which is why most marriages fail. It does take work just as we share in our videos, it took years of constant growth to get where we are now. It can work and does work well for those willing to do the work and may Allah cause you to among those who do the work required along with your family, ameen.

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

4 жыл бұрын

By the way, we should all strive to be the exception, isn't that what makes us exceptional after all? 😁

@rhondabell7582

3 жыл бұрын

Wouldn't intimate moments be challenging? The visual images of him with another woman... Feeling as if you're an option and not special/chosen. I'm not judging AT ALL. Please forgive me if I come across like I am. I'm just wondering. In my personal opinion, intimacy is special because of the two people. Adding additional people seems like it would kill the intimate moments that are supposed to be treasured.

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

2 жыл бұрын

Actually we've discussed this several times, feel free to browse our vids, especially the Livestreams where address questions like this from the viewers. If there are topics you feel aren't discussed and you'd like to hear our perspective, feel free to suggest them in the comments. Thank you.

@AnoushaSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

@@rhondabell7582 i think about this too

Iam a Muslim and is married to a Muslim man who I have been married now for two years going on three years,but I now feel like I and so terribly unhappy with myself and I just don’t want to be married anymore 😢

Thank you for your Experience .

السلام عليكم A lot of people need to have this view.

Thank you for sharing! Very insightful!

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you. I'm glad you were able to get some benefit from it.

As salamu Alaikum Sister Muminah, Coming to you from NYC. I love to watch you and sister Fatima videos. I’m also in a polygamy marriage and you are so right my dear sister it is a beautiful thing when you make it work as a family. And also it really nothing wrong with being a second wife.I tell my Co-wife that because she feel being a second wife is bad because she married a married man. You Complete half of your Deen when you marry. So dear sister may Allah continue to bless you and your family dear sister Insha Allah. As salamu Alaikum

@meccayahofzion2479

3 жыл бұрын

Polygany is not just for muslims. I am a hebrew Isrealite that's considering a marriage with a muslim hebrew as the second wife. I would be older than both the 1st wife and husband location in west Africa. We talked about this as a culture vs religion. I have met most of his family and his wife who's in support of the arrangement. While I see the beauty in it, I am still learning about it. The husband says ultimately it's my decision and he will give me time. Any advice would be great...

@proudtobe9932

3 жыл бұрын

I wish I could find a second wife , sisters should put themselves more like this It’s better for the women and the society I’m researching about polygamy, and married for 30 and now I need a second wife for reasons of worship and getting closer to Allah

@Hellfire_is_real

2 жыл бұрын

ما شاء الله May Allah strengthen your marriage.

@user-mh7ce9lw3g

5 ай бұрын

Dont use that to enhance your spiritual journey

This was a very needed video!!

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

4 жыл бұрын

I am glad you enjoyed it! Thank you.

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

4 жыл бұрын

I'm glad you enjoyed it. Thank you!

@mohdz1108

4 жыл бұрын

i need polygamy . wish seriousky to find a second wife for me . iam muslim and prefer to find a muslim woman

salaams: chose it over 25 years ago...the best decision ever. Masha'Allah...God is Just and he allows different marriages for all the situations we humans find themselves in. personally, i like having the best of both being single and married...

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

4 жыл бұрын

AlHamdulilah. Lol @ both being single and married. I feel more like "married with a break". 😊

@zaujababa2

4 жыл бұрын

@geranienbaum this is why i believe man sharing is more beneficial to women (assuming the man is just and able to manage and love more than one, as Quran says..). it's a loose game of basketball...team players...family. i do know some men who have their own spot or room where they schedule their days alone: 3 rooms with each and then time where he's not with either...lol. it can be tweaked if dude just needs that break. but i've heard from that men are the ones who do not like to be alone. women are much stronger on that level. ;-)

@zaujababa2

4 жыл бұрын

@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi lol. that's true...since we all live in the same house, you are correct. but for those women who have their own spot...i can get that. know some career women, single most of their lives who view it like being married and single. i

Well said hope sisters can understand it as well as you did and benefit it from this rather than comming in as an incoming wife and breaking the first and making a disaster for all

@PunishmentInGrave

2 жыл бұрын

No, forcing sisters into polygamy marriages is haram

Hamdulilah for Islam

Excellent Thanks

Isaiah 4:1 Amplified Bible A Remnant Prepared 4 And in that day seven women will take hold of one man, saying, “We will eat our own food and wear [and provide] our own clothes; only let us be called by your name; take away our shame [of being unmarried].”

I would only let my husband to marry someone else if he would be fair as much as my prophet is - which is impossible - so …… he better deal with me alone or else 😁. Referring prophets’s wifes nowadays would be an abuse of women. After accomplishing all sunnah’s it might be the last one to practice. Is there any human being who does every single thing what the prophet said ?????

@Bestreeh

7 ай бұрын

Finally! A real, sober person on here! I’m tired of everyone else in the comment section being so delusional. How dare anyone compare the men of this time to the holy prophets peace be upon them, and their wives?? Crazy people jump from all the sunnahs and drool on doing just this one…

I would really like a sister wife. But I have no clue on where to start. I have discussed it with my husband.

@lips098

3 жыл бұрын

Why do you want a sister wife?

@larrylove5081

3 жыл бұрын

I have been talking to my wife about it but she feels like I am disrespecting her. Any advice??

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

3 жыл бұрын

Watch other vids, especially ones with Coach Nazir being candid.

@deronr7560

3 жыл бұрын

@@lips098 because she wants it and she’s grown

@bartobartomann2782

3 жыл бұрын

@@lips098 It NICE BECAUSE WHEN HER CHILDREN GROW AND LEAVE HER SHE WILL FINE SOMEONE TO KEEP HER ACCOMPANY.

Asalamu alikum .... I can relate to this sister so well with children etc now I’m with my husband and he is seeking a second wife..... may Allah swt help him in his search and may she be a coolness to his eyes and a asset to this family......

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

4 жыл бұрын

Allahumma ameen

May I ask why you don't wear a wedding ring or band?

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

3 жыл бұрын

The wedding band is a Christian tradition so we don't wear wedding bands. We do have rings and different jewelry but wear it as we like. Islam has a mahr/dowry system where the husband provides that as an agreement for the marriage. The major can be large (house, $50k) or small (ring, cash, etc...)

How do you deal with jealousy? don't you feel less loved or less cared about at times?

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

2 жыл бұрын

@zaisha dada We get the jealousy question quite a bit as it's understandable that those emotions can creep in from time to time. Dealing with it takes working on yourself more than anything and appreciating what makes you special and amazing. I incorporate a lot of personal development in my life, I read, enjoy my family and do hobbies and things I love to do. Despite what people may think from an incoming/subsequent wife, I don't feel less loved or cared for. The reason for this in my marriage, is that communication is high priority. We know how to communicate with one another and that is important when expressing any concerns and insecurities. Don't get me wrong, I can feel jealous and insecure at times, but being able to decipher if it is something I'm making up in my head or if it's something that I may need to discuss is a skill I use most often during those times and as I stated above, if I need to talk about it, alHamdulilah (all praise and thanks be to Allah) proper communication comes in handy. Insha Allah (God willing) that helps.

i just viewed your co-wives video and she said that your husband did not include her in the process. he just married you behind her back. She struggled with trust issues after that. Glad you worked through it but it sounds like alot of drama.

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

3 жыл бұрын

@Teresa Jones we have countless videos speaking on our journey and what happened as well as what could have been done differently. The husband is not required to include his wife in any process of his marrying another as our Prophet (SAWS) as well as companions and other polygynous men in history did not always include their wives in the process of them marrying another woman or other women, however there are best practices that we speak on and train on due to our mistakes, lessons and trial and error that we hope others would learn from. You say, "It sounds like a lot of drama". I guess that's relative. There was not a lot of drama, especially between us, but there were issues as with anything that can cause change, uncertainty, growing pains or anything else that can happen in one's life, especially polygyny, (regardless if the initial wife or wives were included or not) but again there are many videos that we have that speak on the mindset we had, how we grew and what we've learned along the way.

@globalgogetter4469

3 жыл бұрын

That was THEIR individual case. And the key word is WAS. They are now years later strong as a family unit. Drama is a part of Life. Although he clearly could have avoided this, we don't know what the situation was. In Islam , technically a man does not have to seek the approval of a second wife. i give thanks for this wonderful and beautiful family. As so-called Black people we are returning to the traditions of OUR forefathers and mothers

@aygulismayilova8414

3 жыл бұрын

@@globalgogetter4469 yes it is just a tradition. Marriage is bilateral agreement, her husband just did wrong. He chose another wife and was ready to let go his first wife. It is not fair. As a muslim I cannot understand why people defend polygamy. Polygamy was allowed after Uhud , to take care of widows.

@mck5549

3 жыл бұрын

Perhaps take some time to reflect on why they got married quietly; its a reflection society in general needs. Please be honest and you will see how difficult it must have been for them. But Allah is amazing, He has a way of coming through and using our weaknesses to grow us and to change society.

@cheddmt8365

2 жыл бұрын

@@aygulismayilova8414 True it was after Badr and Uhud, polygamy was prescribed because of the shortage of men due to battle loss, leaving behind widows and orphans. If you look at society today, there exists that shortage of men right now. Not because of population deficit but because of the ideal standard; there's not enough men that are equipped to be ideal husbands. As a matter of fact, there are more women wanting to get married than men. As in, the demand of husbands outnumbers the supply of husbands. Leaving so many "widows" around with so many abandoned and rejected women. Nevertheless, I suggest to people (who are materially buoyant) that wants to practice polygamy to marry a widow/divorced as their FIRST or marry someone you have actually discussed polygny with, and they are favorable to the idea, BEFORE you married her. This would make it very easy going into Polygny later on as these are matured women that understands the marital epidemic in today's world. Besides, it really was the Sunnah of Rasul, i.e: most of his wives were either widowed or divorced.

Masha Allah... I have a question though...what were your parents and loved ones impression when you told them about your decision on getting married to a married man....JazaakumuLlaahu khayran

Mashallah sister. Jizakallah khair❤❤❤❤

Nowadays everything needs to be analyzed

AsSalaamu Alaikum my sister , as always very informative and very well said . A lot of times we look at our partners as our personal property instead of recognizing we are not each other’s property. We all belong to Allah swt. And as such we are all trust from Allah swt that he has entrusted each of us with to care for . As long as we stay conscious of Allah swt first we should be able take good care of the partners he has entrusted us to love, provide, protect and care for without fail. And many polygynous marriages last a lot longer and are more productive and successful than many monogamous ones. 3 ppl working together has always been better than 2 when you got everyone wanting the family to win ! The maturity is definitely on full display here . Shukran my sister and may Allah swt reward you and your family .Aameen

Thank you for educating us. You have such an amazing family. May Allah bestow his bounties upon you and your family.

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

4 жыл бұрын

Ameen. JazakAllahu khair for the kind words and dua.

@abdullahimohammad9513

4 жыл бұрын

@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi Thank you sister. I want to go into polygyny, but my biggest problem is getting the right sister that can be a best friend to my first wife, please, advise me.

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

4 жыл бұрын

@@abdullahimohammad9513 this is Coach Nazir. If you are interested in marrying again, the first thing is to make sure she fits what you seek. She won't be married to your wife, she'll be married to you. I'd recommend finding a righteous sister who at minimum fears Allah and has self-respect, that way she will fulfill the rights of your wife out of love for Allah. Finally, you don't have the ability to make someone a best friend of another. It's a natural process and you can voice your opinion but that must happen naturally if they are open to it and doing the work. We have a course for cowives called conflict to cooperation where we discuss this. If interested, check out our store at outstandingpersonalrelationships.com/store

As salaam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh my beautiful Uhkti I really appreciate this from you Sis it lets people know the positive part of polygyny and not always the negative it lets people know that you can work through things and get something beautiful out of it like your beautiful family may Allah bless your family inshaa’allah

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

4 жыл бұрын

Wa alaykum as salaam ukhti! JazakAllahu khair for the beautiful words and dua. Any type of marriage takes work, I'm just grateful to share my story and am humbled that it opens others' eyes to the positive in polygyny.💎~Coach Nyla

@jannahrivers5765

4 жыл бұрын

Jazak Allahu khayen wa iyyakum my beautiful uhkti

Coach Nyla you are my best friend in my head 😂😂

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

4 жыл бұрын

Aww! We were just talking about energy you can get from people even if you never met them. Thank you😊

wonderful, beautiful testimony! 💎 thank you sister in Islam ❤️

This is very helpful.

ALHAMDULILLAH!!! JAZAKALLAH KHYRUN UKHTI

Can you guys make a video about the challenges you faced?

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

3 жыл бұрын

Most of the videos we share on this channel deal with those challenges and how we've overcome many of them. Feel free to watch them and listen to the stories of our struggles.

@proudtobe9932

3 жыл бұрын

Sister selina, mashallah good question but we also have the up and downs in the prophets relationships , like two of his wives had a food fight and he laughed about the prophet Muhammad peace and blessing upon him

What problems were you dealing with in the beginning? Why wasn't it the way you wanted it to be? Is it the way you want it to be now? And what do you mean by "working on yourself"? And how it help you make the arrangement better for you?

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

3 жыл бұрын

Great questions, these tend to be oft repeated soI have answered each of these numerous times in other videos in order to do each question justice. Feel free to continue watching the channel videos for thorough answers.

Allahumdulliah, it's so good to hear from you. I'm an incoming wife myself, soon inshallah. It's good to know that there is more to being a second wife than being a homewrecker. Or unable to find a man, I can find a single man but why make myself suffer if I could marry a man that loves and respects me, and also his wife and kids. It's a halal practice. It will take work, but I could see us happy. Inshallah.

@dominock12

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate this comment.

@proudtobe9932

2 жыл бұрын

So true , recking family or destroying family , these are the words we always here !not true not true Islam has never brought something to destroy anyone !

@xoxox903

2 жыл бұрын

True but at the end of the day, you’ll need a lot of patient especially if you’re a clingy person

@PunishmentInGrave

2 жыл бұрын

Polygamy marriages are destroying families

Maashaa'ALLAAH sister, you are very brave my almighty bless you and your family include your husband and your sweet co-wife. Ameen.

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

4 жыл бұрын

Ameen. I am truly grateful.

سلام عليكم.. He is a good man .. Your Co Wife is a good woman.. Its many aspects including men can love ❤️ more than one woman.. Sisterhood.. Yet it can be abused and there unfortunately woman who wants to kick out first wife.. Maybe out of ignorance Maybe selfishness but it's There .. Just as there are men who doing it behind secret.. That's not Right and all wives suppose to have equal rights socially and economical as well.. That's how our Messenger *Saw* did it.. Its not to ask permission yet respect for women and family as well. Children

If you were not religious would polygyny still be an option? It seems that being a Muslim man or a man who practices a religion that accepts polygyny has an easier time getting women to accept polygyny. A man who doesn't come from a polygynous culture doesn't have the same leverage. Non religious Women look at polygyny in a much more negative way than do the women who come from polygynous cultures

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

2 жыл бұрын

Good question. I guess it depends on the person and how conscious they were. Many people who do not follow a specific belief system or only have a passing association practice polygyny and feel it's a more natural form of marriage. People like DeRay Davis for example or Umar Johnson don't get polygyny from a specific set of religious beliefs. Now as for women, whether they are Muslim or not, many women have an issue with polygyny, regardless of their religious beliefs. Sadly many Muslim women tend to be the most vehemently against it despite Islam restricting and regulating it for their benefit. They cannot outright say it's bad, wrong, or not allowed because that would be a direct challenge to Islam and Allah itself, however there are other nefarious ways to throw shade and there's plenty of it regardless of what culture or country they are from. It seems like women who are more open tend to have studied (history, psychology, biology, sociology, relationships, etc.) far more than others, they've chosen to be more conscious of societal agendas, and are more family oriented than many 'basic' thinking women. They also have the ability to be authentic and above the fray while having a deep sense of self from my observation. It makes them hard to find as well for the average man because these types of women aren't open to anything average. They must be attracted not chased.

@aaronjohnson6622

2 жыл бұрын

@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi I have heard DeRay and Umar talk about polygyny and you're right, they don't follow a particular religion. However, they seem to be the exception. Do you come across non religious, polygynous men who are not public figures? I don't deny that there are many non religious men who have polygynous unions. It just seems that religion tends to make it a bit easier (not easy) for women to accept it. Therefore I believe there are more religious people who practice polygyny than not I've heard another Muslim man speak about polygyny online. He says the same things you have said. He said that many of the western women buck against polygyny, which doesn't surprise me

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

2 жыл бұрын

We so come across them occasionally but only because of the space we're in. We do come across more who are religious whether Muslim, Hebrew, Moor, or other faiths. Most We've found simply remain quiet about it which is an ingredient to their success, as in most successful marriages.

@aaronjohnson6622

2 жыл бұрын

@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi n That makes sense

@PunishmentInGrave

2 жыл бұрын

Why are we Muslims forcing sisters into polygamy marriages!

Is there anything like MY MAN/MY WOMAN kind of thing even between those who are taking the so called VOWS OF TILL DEATH DO PART US!!!!!!!these very ppl have so many mistresses on every corner, ...

@kimberlythomas2296

4 жыл бұрын

koyla empire well they shouldn’t have mistresses in every corner! Just because men lack self control and have mistress on every corner does not mean that women should give in to polygamy !

@fuckyourreligionyesfuckit2889

3 жыл бұрын

@@kimberlythomas2296 why your arse is burning the women did it out of her own free will

@kimberlythomas2296

3 жыл бұрын

@@fuckyourreligionyesfuckit2889 you have an axe to grind and can't be taken seriously !

@narcissistlovepolygamy6221

3 жыл бұрын

Woman cheat too...

@rhondabell7582

3 жыл бұрын

Not all married couples behave this way and in these situations the mistress is still losing. If the husband were to pass away, everything he provided her will be gone as well. His widow will not provide for the mistress. And if the mistress is a secret and had kids, it's even worse for her (imagine your kids not being allowed at their fathers funeral) Even if he doesn't die... Breaking up with a mistress will cost him nothing. Divorcing his wife will cost him half of everything. Possibly putting him in a position to struggle and have to start over. So the mistress/side chick/ side dude is not an EQUAL comparison to a Wife or Husband. All sides can be discarded quickly and cheaply. This is not the case for a married person.

Alhamdullilah 🤲 🕊

I'm the incoming wife and woukd love an opportunity to speak with you

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

4 жыл бұрын

Congrats, I'd love to be able to speak with you but with the number of requests we get, serving our members, and keeping family balance, it jist isn't practical. However we do respond to emails at support@outstandingpersonalrelationships.com Otherwise our RMIC members get direct access and a bonus coaching session, for details see outstandingpersonalrelationships.com/rm

@sfreedom2007

3 жыл бұрын

@@taniac4063 contact me I can help. I'm 7 months in

@manalmorsi6527

3 жыл бұрын

@@taniac4063 sister there is no such thing in islam called a secret wife....If this is going to cause a breakup of a marriage for you to have one I would stay away. There are other families who are into this halal life but we cannot go in the idea that it's his right and we're gonna do it no matter what even if the wife objects. Stay away from them let him deal with his wife and you find another family that is willing to take you in That's my advise from experience.

@bashbash8279

3 жыл бұрын

Secret wives suffer!

@rhondabell7582

3 жыл бұрын

@@taniac4063 Your WHOLE union is deceiptful. What good could come from a foundation built this way (on lies, secrets and betrayal)?? Neither you nor the husband seem like upstanding people. You're both ok with hurting someone (in a secretive deceitful way) to get something you want. This energy will return to you all (that's how energy works). I wish you well and I hope that you make efforts to become a better human.

Alhamdulillah

Alhamduli’lah

Thank you for saying these things and your effort to normalize this.

Love your view on polygny you study it and go into it not like some go into because of competition and some to marry my man and some to destroy what is made already jazakumllahu khairan

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

4 жыл бұрын

Ameen wa iyyaki

😍❤️💙😍❤️💙

I'm a reverted muslim .. 27years old... I wanted yo marry a single man . I was not brave enough to accept polygyny.. but i Got to know that some people only appreciate you when they knoe you have accepted islam but the don't accept you as a family because of their fear. Or whatever.. same happened with me .. i was searching for a muslim man . First they showed their interest but after that they rejected just bcz I'm reverted . Just when i started to think about polygyny . Now im learning more about polygyny

Has either of you, your co-wive or husband wrote a book on yalls experience as a whole? I would love to get the feedback.

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

2 жыл бұрын

Yes we have, it has been challenging with the editing and design but we expect to have it available to the public this spring.

@jackoftrades2126

2 жыл бұрын

@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi ok thanks so much for the reply.

these wifes dont want to be loved by one man. I actually think women wants more loyality, and a father who watching their children because they are so tired of doing everything alone. Especially when knowing that ur man is with another woman.

@PunishmentInGrave

2 жыл бұрын

These women are narcissist

@ladyCY413

Жыл бұрын

I don't get that vibe at all from the wives,, but the husband is definitely narcissistic

In my culture in Ghana the more wives one has the higher his status and pride

@kaylahawkins

2 жыл бұрын

Do people in ghana still practice polygamy??

@user-mh7ce9lw3g

5 ай бұрын

But some aren't prepared to what comes with it and are irresponsible on how they treat women. Some dont know what equal means they also manipulate the text in the Quran

Damn your husband is living in heaven,lol enjoying two women anyway I guess now there is no chance of cheating atleast.

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

3 жыл бұрын

Interesting perspective but I highly doubt it. Polygyny takes work and he speaks of it on this channel. Polygyny isn't a solution against cheating either, it takes morals and good decision making to to prevent that.

@fuckyourreligionyesfuckit2889

3 жыл бұрын

@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi yes anyway so how many years it has been since you got married

@fuckyourreligionyesfuckit2889

3 жыл бұрын

@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi how did your parents reacted when you announced that you wanted to marry your husband I mean no parents will want their kids to be second of someone If my words have offended please forgive me

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

3 жыл бұрын

We've been married in polygyny for 10 years.

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

3 жыл бұрын

My mother, like many others, didn't understand how it would work or how it'd look but she wanted me to be happy and knew that my husband was an upstanding man and husband already.

Why you called it polygyny not polygamy?

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

2 жыл бұрын

Because Polygamy means a person with multiple spouses. Polygyny means a husband with multiple wives. Polyandry means a wife with multiple husband's.

I love big family as I’m also from a very big family too

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

4 жыл бұрын

That's good to hear, we are too!

This is no longer the defination 9f marriage. Its one man one woman. Polygamy is just garbage.

@realmrdanger

3 жыл бұрын

So is Monogamy, which is why is why the divorce rates went high up and women had been sharing with men .

@jerryholbrook13

3 жыл бұрын

Its not that simple.

@realmrdanger

3 жыл бұрын

@@jerryholbrook13 Yes, it is. Like it or not, Monogamy is no better. Hell, even the first sin happened in the monogamous marriage. Smh

@sn9731

3 жыл бұрын

Ahahahahahahaha YA'LL need help Polygyny is solving problems but it's for adults, silly children won't understand!

@bashbash8279

3 жыл бұрын

Polygamy marriages are baseless...

Thank you for this

Is it a commom thing in ghana to have many wives?i watched a video many years ago about african woman ,i thik its a maasai woman who think along something like why would woman put up alone with the burden to take care of a husband,why not sharing it with other woman.

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

4 ай бұрын

It depends on what area or village you're in. It's more common in some areas of the country than others but it has been practiced there for millenia.

Polygyny is illegal in the U.S. please remember this dear brothers and sisters. Allah has made the world very vast to practice polygyny under sharia law! There will NEVER be fairness in a marriage if only one wife is the legal wife and the others arent. Be smart. Be guided

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

3 жыл бұрын

Do your research, polygyny isn't illegal, if so please provide any state statue showing such. It isn't legalized yet, big difference. However bigamy, two civil marriages with marriage licenses and certificates simultaneously is illegal. There a difference between lawful and legal, learn that first. Interagency what it means to be a sovereign without subjects. Then learn how The People gave specific but limited rights to States and specific but limited rights to the Federal government and the rights they did not give, they retain. So going by your logic, since it isn't illegal to be married civilly and have an unlimited number of girlfriends/boyfriends, why not just do that? See how that works, when you put any law above the law of Allah, you endorse and support immorality. Why not spend more time finding Islamic solutions that bring people together in honor, marriage is half our deen after all, than promoting other systems of governance over Islam whether directly or indirectly?

@anikanalohamin1077

3 жыл бұрын

@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi "Part of your good practice of Islam is to leave whatever does not concern you.”-Phrophet Muhammad S.a.w.s Please refrain from ever accusing myself or someone of endorsing immorality bc they dont agree with your choices and/ lifestyle. Stay blessed and safe.

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

3 жыл бұрын

Clearly you fail to understand terminology as you bunched several terms together in your response while deflecting answering my question. Furthermore it speaks volumes to your attitude and self-righteousness that you feel these women in married to do not have agency. How sway and supremacist minded. I'll leave you with Surah Furqan 25:63; "The ˹true˺ servants of the Most Compassionate are those who walk on the earth humbly, and when the foolish address them ˹improperly˺, they only respond with peace." Peace.

@anikanalohamin1077

3 жыл бұрын

@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi supremicist minded...thats taking it a bit far...most sisters in your situation respond in this nature so im really not suprised. To answer your question no I dont condone or endorse immorality nor do endorse several bf/gf. I and many many others Muslims, clerics, and religious leaders have our opinion on the subject. Say what you will...we cant change the rule of it being unlawful in your land. If you want to practice polygyny Alhumdulilah. However, it is still not favored bc we are in the West. No matter rude or nasty you try to be with me it does not change that fact. Okay?....have a great day.