The following things are true at the same time: 1) Some people are in interracial relationships for the wrong reasons (internalized self-hate on the part of some Black folks, or exoticism/fetishism on the part of some white folks). All people in IRRs should not be equated with them, but we all know these people exist and can be loud and annoying. 2) In the context of Black-white IR dating and marriages, given the racism and/or misogyny of some swirlers and the history of the USA, it is understandable that some Black women resent Black men dating/marrying white women, and some Black men resent Black women dating/marrying white men. 3) Despite factors 1-2, opposition to interracial relationships is a reactionary position that is almost always based on either pseudoscientific biological assumptions about race and/or logically dubious nationalist-collectivist demands for racial loyalty. 4) If you're going to do the swirl, just STFU about it and be a decent person, and most of the world doesn’t care. It is mostly corny, ignorant, or egotistical people creating problems around this issue.

@OFFICIALSDSK

6 ай бұрын

i would say more than some lol

@IshtarNike

6 ай бұрын

Preach!

@royalgardner2

6 ай бұрын

THIS!!

@munchkingod6

6 ай бұрын

The part that’s WILD to me is how many POC (online at least) jump to full on white nationalist brain worms over the topic. It’s so depressing seeing the same sort of essentialist bullshit just aligned the other way coming from the mouths of people who should know better. I wish we had a better way to point out that actually it’s not woke to just go the other way. Obviously it’s not a comparable threat, but if we want to build a better world it’s got to be built on good foundations, not the same essentialist bullshit with a swapped palette.

@freddyP300

6 ай бұрын

I agree I always say I have no issue with responsible IRs, but we need common sense regulations! I’m talking background checks, waiting periods and review boards before a social media post. Basically the same things I believe we need for podcasts lol (\j)

Coming from a black woman, who was taught by those inside and out of her race that my blackness made me undesirable: ladies, you are more than enough and deserve all the love in the world. Find the person, whether it be a friend or partner, black or other, that honors this truth for you.

@tristanband4003

6 ай бұрын

Trust me: there are a lot of people who find black women irresistable.

@camille3083

6 ай бұрын

That doesn’t mean that they will marry a black woman. Just because a man will sleep with you doesn’t mean anything. As black women we have to take our time with non black men to ensure they aren’t using us for an ego boost and or for flings.

@chrislyn1868

6 ай бұрын

@@tristanband4003statistically, that’s debatable.

@tristanband4003

6 ай бұрын

@@chrislyn1868 i was talking in absolute numbers, not percentages.

@tristanband4003

6 ай бұрын

@@ilikepancakes2368 Don't rule out anyone

Umar Johnson is the epitome of someone who can rattle off a bunch of takes that are 100% spot-on, but then say something so cartoonishly absurd that it immediately distracts from whatever valid points he'd just made.

@KayleneRomero-oz7yz

6 ай бұрын

Lol

@m.d.1395

6 ай бұрын

He's Oswald Bates... for real

@shane2863

6 ай бұрын

Easy to have some good takes when you are simply regurgitating great minds before you. Harder to have good takes when it's time to draw your own conclusions.

@rosewrath_s_revenge

6 ай бұрын

He's a reactionary traditionalist to the bone. Media savvy enough to know what will provoke.

@heyyitsjude

6 ай бұрын

Not gonna lie I was on the floor when he said Spider-Man is thristing for skim milk

“Being black is inherently political.” That just hit me to my core.

@jimtc1000

2 ай бұрын

You do it to yourselves.

@ChannelMath

2 ай бұрын

@@jimtc1000 so you think it's problem that being black is inherently political?

@-ucanthandledatruth01-12

2 ай бұрын

@@ChannelMath I don't even think they care. That's why the oaf prematurely spat out words of deflection, eager and ready to dismiss any fact pertaining to reality and not the delusion and !gnorance that perfectly suits the oaf.

@yuborthedominator687

2 ай бұрын

@@jimtc1000 ❌Wrong. Being black is inherently political because we’ve been struggling in this country for liberation for decades

@robertdore9592

2 ай бұрын

What dos that even mean?🤔

I'm South African and even here we have the issue of media over representing racially mixed couples and particularly mixed family structures. Our population is over 80% black and mixed couples are virtually unheard of. The only places you can observe mixed couples are in the major cities and even then its a rare citing. Our media is white owned which explains a lot. We have a unique myth around being "the rainbow nation" which is a myth similar to "the american dream" that informs such representations though.

@wrestlinganime4life288

Ай бұрын

That rainbow nation thing was a scapegoat to unaddressed the social issues and consequences of apartheid personally

@BrittneySamoneSilver

14 күн бұрын

They also speak a lot about skin bleaching in the media.

@do3807

12 күн бұрын

Safas 💯

@LavishLilacNails

Күн бұрын

This! And I'm a South African too btw.❤

@EvolutionofEva

7 сағат бұрын

Wherever I go in these pro-black and pro-black academia spaces on KZread I always find a SouthAh in the comments and it makes me so happy to know there are people (and I'm guessing you are also a born-free if not, a millennial keen to learn / unlearn & build / dismantle). As a darker coloured with kroes hair, men within my OWN RACE has made me feel undesirable. I dated a lightskin coloured (he was so light his nickname was Boere bc u know in kasi everyone has nicknames... mine was kroeskop/bossiekop lmfao) and EVERYONE was angry because "she has kroes hair" etc. There is a lot to say about anti-blackness in my community but that's a different discussion that will take me the whole damn day. The point of me bringing that up was that even in a coloured township in the coloured "capital" (Western Cape), people were angry - even though I am also literally coloured but you'd think twice upon first glance. Apartheid left a legacy of white supremacy everywhere - even in kasis where it's overwhelmingly just one racial group. Our media doesn't represent inter-racial couples and even when they do, its Siya Kolisi & Rachel, Bryan Habana & his wife, the late AKA & Zinhle. It's often skewed (misogynoir entering the chat here) to represent men who are of colour or just men nje (remember how gagged we ALL were to see J'Something from Micasa's wife!!!!) because of the intersectional legacy of Apartheid. White Men = Most valued, Black women = least valued. So gender, race & (sometimes class) overlap to dictate whom the media shows. Siya is everywhere because of gender but mostly CLASS (thank you Nelly M for that one, Cyril Cupcake Ramapheezy learned from the best there) because we place rugby players (sports stars excl bafana tbh) into higher social & economic class. One outlier would be McCarthy or Matthew Booth but then again gender and with Booth - race (and also they were in the golden "we are one", "rainbow nation", "I'm not white im South Africa" era post-apartheid group of sports stars who actually WON, so). Coming back to intersectional oppression think of how black South African QUEER dancer Somizi & his partners weren't in traditional media AT ALL. You had to go seek them out online, the blogs, etc. Siff shit.

“Travis went from ‘Ayy shordy what it is?’ to ‘License and registration please.” Is exactly the kind of commentary I come here for 😂

@Tangerinesorbet

5 ай бұрын

So funny and true! And sad, at the same time. I don’t see why anybody would be interested romantically with a guy like that. Mask changing because of who you date.

@freedomm

5 ай бұрын

It's funny because it's true. But what is even funnier, is that his black women fanbase was offended a white man is dating a white woman. This is some mind-boggling surreal sh*t.

@saami9606

5 ай бұрын

i cracked up laughing at that

@dr.braxygilkeycruises1460

5 ай бұрын

@@freedomm OMG, that is so true!!! You got me cracking up in here!!! 🤣😅😆 The funny thing for me is that I didn't know who Travis was until *the actual friggin news networks started talking **_Non Stop_** about him and the Mayonnaise Singer.* Before that, I saw him on Saturday Night Live once, but didn't know _why_ he was hosting.

@Sarah-re7cg

5 ай бұрын

F.D has so many wicked one-liners 😂

I spent my teens in a predominantly white liberal city and was in an interracial relationship. The amount of times white strangers congratulated us on the street for holding hands was truly bizarre and the segment on interracial couples in ads was on point with that experience.

@ericzajdel4259

6 ай бұрын

I would prefer that response to some of the more "traditional" response here in America..

@PoeticMachineDreams

6 ай бұрын

I had a slur spat at me next to the highway by some old white guy (in Alberta, not US)

@ShinMail6164

6 ай бұрын

​@@ericzajdel4259 I mean sure but I would like to emphasize that its still shitty. Sure it could be worse, but we can recognize that all options suck

@heyyitsjude

6 ай бұрын

In my anecdotal experience dating a white person, I have also been told by white people that we are a cute couple more often than I ever have when taking space with a black man, where usually black people will tell us we look cute. Obviously there’s more factors there, attractiveness and such. But I can’t help but find it funny and a little sad.

@akphison

6 ай бұрын

Funnily enough me and my black wife live in very red state and also get compliments at a disproportionate rate but given the context clues of the interaction we both always saw it as white republican types trying to show their not racist.

That stuff about black women at hospital is something my wife had to face. Those nurses gave her something that made her itch then gave her 3 doses of benadryl. I had to ask for the senior nurse or doctor cuz she was half awake during child birth. Our daughter was asleep when born...it was a nightmare.

@LisaSimpsonRules

4 ай бұрын

I am sorry for your experience.

@UpliftedTranceJunkie

3 ай бұрын

I lived in a very conservative small town growing up and in my early adulthood. I used to dread having to go to the hospital for anything. I had an experience where the attending nurse was very aggressive, condescending, and rude from the get-go, and purposely did something unnecessary that caused me a lot of physical pain while stoically observing my pained reaction, and not apologizing. I just wanted to get out of there, and regretted my decision to go. Also experienced other instances where staff were mean and dismissive where I was completely polite, and I didn't understand why.

@Carryon22865

3 ай бұрын

When I was a kid, my mom used some bad tuna apparently, and we all had to go to the hospital for treatment, and I will never forget what this heavy set nurse did to me, I was alone in a hospital bed in a room, and she comes in without saying a word, flips me hard onto my stomach, and without any warning she rammed a suppository up me, so hard, that my body goes stiff with shock and pain, and then she just simply walks out of the room and then she looks back and gives me a dirty look, for Pete's sake I was just a little sick kid, but it didn't matter to her. 😢

@alejandronopasanada5302

3 ай бұрын

I had to get my blood monitored for an hour during an ER visit. The LPN didn’t know I was and she kept making sure it hurt. They found the issue after 3 draws so I moved on but let me tell you, I have no want to get along with anyone who says anything near “racism” doesn’t exist. There’s several reasons I had to go to the white hospital anyway.

@chump315

2 ай бұрын

When I had my daughter the nurse stuck the needle for iv into my arm but neglected to connect the iv so I was bleeding out onto the floor and she told me to go sleep… when my daughter’s dad came in the room saw what was happening and tried to take a picture the same nurse came in and shunned him about recording her mistake which could have been dire. Also when they started cutting me I could feel it, I told the anesthesiologist and he asked me “are you sure” as the tears rolled down my face…. Yeah

Thank you for the video! It hits home because I experienced it through my Russian family. My half-aunt, my dad’s sister from my grandfather’s second marriage, once married a Nigerian man and gave birth to my cousins. I don’t know why, but that man didn't want to take the responsibility of fatherhood, abandoned my aunt and returned to Nigeria. Neither he nor his Nigerian family ever contacted my aunt and never inquired about the fate of the girls. The girls are raised by their white Russian mother and grandparents. They have been going to school for a year now, and I can already see how the majority and even some parts of our family treat them as "others". I heard people say about my cousins: "Oh, I saw how they played, their games aren't at all like the games of OUR children" (like if my cousins aren't even Russians) . Even my grandmom, my granddad’s ex-wife, sometimes teases the girls with racism and can call them “little monkeys”. I love my family, but I don't want my cousins to feel like they're "outsiders" just because they're biracial. I’ll say it from a Russian perspective of biracial relationships: when there were Youth Festivals and white Russian girls gave birth to children from dark-skinned visitors, they were hit with such a barrage of hatred and bullying towards their biracial children that we can talk about it endlessly. In general, judging by the history of the Soviet Union and present-day Russia, people constantly talk about “equality”, that “there is no racism in Russia, we accept dark-skinned people as people,” but at the same time, if a white Russian girl wants to start a relationship with a dark-skinned guy, she and her partner will experience a barrage of hate. Moreover, if a white Russian girl starts a relationship with a white foreigner (mainly from America and Western Europe), then the majority won't care at all. When a white Russian man wants to date a non-white woman, people will even support him and call his partner “exotic.” The systemic idea that non-white men (especially from post-Soviet Central Asia) are trying to “take over Russia” through white Russian women and that “they are spoiling our gene pool” has become so wedged into Russian society that no one wants to talk about it, because just dare mention this hypocrisy, then expect hatred, bullying and even death threats from your own people. So, I think yall understand what I mean when I don't trust "there's no racism in Russia" bias, despite me being a white Russian. Because, yeah, a lot of Black foreigners had pleasant experiences while travelling Russia, you won't hear someone shouting racist slurs at the Black man on streets. But just because Russian or just Eastern European racism is different from American racism, it doesn't mean we don't have it all. Our racism is deeply rooted in xenophobia and Slavic nationalism. Our folks will accept you as non-white IF you will be at the acceptable distance and you don't try to interrogate into Russian society (cause it is automatically seen as a threat). Sorry for a long comment, but I really wanted to express everything that your video revoked inside me.

@Yunglex313

14 күн бұрын

I feel like this is something that sits in a lot of cultures all over the world. I spent several years in Japan and have learned a lot about Japanese society. As foreign tourist, no matter what race you are, if you go to Japan for vacation and behave well during your stay, honor their customs and traditions, and you will be fine. No one will insult, no one will hate you just for being different. You might see a little resistance from some, but at most it's a rejection of service because they don't want to deal with foreigners for whatever reason. Stay there for a long time and try to integrate into Japanese society, and even if you date, have a family with a local, they will still see you as a foreigner and your kids will be seen as different, despite growing up alongside other Japanese children, because they are. All this tells me is that countries are still dealing with breaking away from their traditionalist nationalism and values that have been ingrained for Eons in a world where more and more people are finding that they want to live in a culture that is completely different from where they were born.

That last bit with Sojourner Truth's actual words being changed by a white woman because she thought it was too eloquent and not black sounding enough.....maaaaaannnnn that knocked me out.

@tacrewgirl

6 ай бұрын

Same

@bored4161

6 ай бұрын

Somehow I didn’t know about it being changed before, and something about it truly is horrifying. I remember that speech from school and I really wanted to write a comment trying to explain the type of despair it made me feel but I don’t think I can. Just a strong reminder of how deeply the sickness runs.

@ShawnC.W-King

6 ай бұрын

And that my friends is every black person collectively telling that white woman that she totally missed the entire point and the irony went way over her head.

@NunchuckPup

6 ай бұрын

This was almost as big a surprise to me as my first time learning about the Tulsa massacre. So much truth buried under empty gestures of "diversity" by liberal media. Fiq, thank you for doing your part to share this truth with us 🙏

@Mariposa-11-2007

6 ай бұрын

Yup. And, of course.

I work with a few black men and they all have white/ Latina partners. They were always pretty rude and short with me, but when they found out my partner was also not black they were all a sudden angry and disrespectful with me. It’s literally the only thing we have in common, I just didn’t make it my personality.

@Princetonian4eva

6 ай бұрын

This is sadly fairly common with black men who date out. It’s the self hate mixed with jealousy because society has traditionally ranked men above women and then non-black people above black people. So, those that subconsciously buy into this see you as being chosen by someone more valuable than both them and the partner they chose. So technically you have higher status because you are with someone with a higher status. It’s messed up for sure but they can’t harp on about how horrible black women are when someone with a higher status than them or their partner chose to be with a black women. The logic crumbles and they’re forced to confront their demons or get mad. Crazy

@rf3575

6 ай бұрын

This…. Some black men make it a point to be disrespectful to Black women and highlight their non-black partners… But when they find out that you too have a non-black partner 🫣. Rage, hate, bewilderment… it’s wild. I think they expect black women to remain single. And I will also say their non-black partners are also perturbed, especially if your non-black partner is of their same group. Like the equation was never suppose to go that way. Non-black women are great, but never engage with their brothers. And black men are great, but never engage with his sisters… What 😂

@jewlzn7130

6 ай бұрын

​@Princetonian4eva that is such an interesting take. I never thought about it that way!

@KrisDeLaRash

6 ай бұрын

Heavy on the "I don't make it my personality"

@iliveontheinternet1009

6 ай бұрын

​​@@Princetonian4eva I was just saying this yesterday! How a lot of black men who date interracially will create narratives about black women "craving validation" from white men because they, themselves, see non-black people as our betters who can affirm our (black people's) worth. They keep forcing this imaginary competition of who is more desired by the "betters" only to repeatedly run into the wall of contending with a massive fear of being inadequate to white men.

As a Brazilian afab person, this was very educational! It’s so “strange” to see other experiences and essays on this topic through an American point of view. In my country black people are encouraged to marry outside, and it’s very rare for me to find black on black marriages basically anywhere, but specially in the Christian community I grew up in. This comes from an attempt to “lighten” the population post slavery. While in America interracial marriage was once illegal, in Brazil it was encouraged as a way to erase blackness from our country. A very popular example I can remember now is a painting of an elderly black woman thanking god that her newborn grandchild had fair, with the mother, who is also mixed, and a white father holding the baby. Today most of the population is mixed, and the so called “Solidão da mulher preta” or “loneliness of black women” affects the lives of almost all Brazilian black women, who usually end up single or are discarded once the man finds a white woman who’s willing to date him. So when you showed the data and how most black men in America marry other black women, I was definitely surprised. The vast majority of couples I see here are interracial, mostly black men and white women. Black men are often fetishized in relationships due to stereotypes and believe they have to marry white women for validation, while black women are often discarded and left alone for not fitting in the mainstream beauty standards. I hope one day we overcome this self-hating anti-blackness mentality

@nathanthompson663

4 ай бұрын

In my country it was not as bad but there was a preference to lighter skinned children by the older folks.

@sarahlysobey2917

4 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this.

@r.a.5519

4 ай бұрын

Maybe you could go on social media in Brazil and tell BM to stop killing off BW since you say you want the Blk selfhate to end...

@standowner6979

4 ай бұрын

Também espero. Lembra-te que és uma pessoa linda.

@maryannwaters339

4 ай бұрын

Well, when you have Xuxa and her "paquitas," being the former pinnacle of aspirational Brazilian beauty, and men like Pele, seeking out said perceived zenith of "perfection," it's not surprising Brazil is the way it is.

Your time is NEVER wasted when you teach us! Please keep going.

My sociology professor 5 years ago told me about the over representation of interracial couples in the media. He was biracial (black and white with a white mother) himself but he was born in the 50s. He said that he remembered barely seeing any families that looked like his and now instead of seeing Black families in media all he sees are interracial families. He said that the “browning” of America will be the excuse the media uses to justify their lack of positive Black media. He told us to watch how they’ll keep putting interracial families or a black family with one racially ambiguous “black” person and then act like we’re crying over nothing. I remember thinking that class was so pointless as a biology major. 😂😂

@wrestlinganime4life288

6 ай бұрын

Hit the nail. Hollywood default ideas of black woman is essentially zendaya, when it comes to trauma content then boom everyone is dark skin

@John-PaulHunt-wy7lf

5 ай бұрын

The deal breaker was NOT race, nor age, nor sexual orientation, nor social/economic status. It was religion and lying about it to the masses post Gaza war failure.

@UhOhJacquinette

5 ай бұрын

@@wrestlinganime4life288this is why my video About biracial Being separated from mono racial blackness is key.

@HunnifredBee

5 ай бұрын

I wonder if you saw the video FD did as a response seemingly to the one drop rule / including mixed folks in Blackness?

@TheLilly

5 ай бұрын

BIG FACTS

Imma put it out there. I also need to see more platonic black love. Like we dont even have that. We dont have images of black folks caring for eachother just cause love but ESPECIALLY amongst black men and women. Low-key this what made Nope one of my favorite movies in recent history. Like of course theyre siblings but i also think like damn.... how much do i see black brother sister duo portrayed like that. Also why soiderpunk is the best aprt of across

@ReshonBryant

6 ай бұрын

That's what I'm talking about. It's nothing to just tell people no means no and walk off💁🏽‍♂️

@gayles76

6 ай бұрын

Totally agree 👏🏾👏🏾

@Audreylalaland

6 ай бұрын

Completely agree

@pennyforyourthots

6 ай бұрын

Spiderpunk is my new inspiration.

@spaghetto9836

6 ай бұрын

Ace here, and _yes._ Especially ones that aren't done performatively.

Thank you for this video man. Growing up in a community that had a black majority I dated black women. Too be fair, we're talking about middle/high school relationships that did not work out but the attraction has always been there. But now, as a black man attendeding a majoroty white college, I found the woman I honest to God see myself marrying and she just so happens to be white. When the relationship first started, there was those feelings that I was betraying my race or I started questioning if I was a bunny hopper that Dr. Umar or other black people talked about and it put me in a weird place. Luckily my family and black friends are understanding and open people who all love this girl I'm seeing cause she is genuinely just an amazing person but it took a second for me to feel comfortable even letting my family know she was white. This video kind of retroactively validated myself from 2 years ago and I didn't even realize that was something I even needed man. Very much appreciated 🙏🏾

@munaali840

Ай бұрын

lol. make sure to raise your children as biracial and dont try any 'black pride' fraudness. i always hated my father for it and wished i was fully black, i dont speak to him and hate my mom too. its not about you its about the kids dont create us

@mochachinomonahan8462

Ай бұрын

How's her family handling it..?

@WokeishJester

Ай бұрын

@mochachinomonahan8462 Most of her family are really cool about it. Everyone is so nice to me everytime we see each other. The only one who's bad is her grandfather who's real in his racist bag who doesn't know I exist

@Stingerman100

3 күн бұрын

@@WokeishJesterI’m in a similar boat as you. I’ve just accepted that ima just have to wait for em to pass on.

I'm really glad you brought up the editing of Sojourner Truth's famous speech. Now I gotta go back and watch Into the Spiderverse again.

People on social media have found a way to capitalize heavily on being in interracial relationships. It's so bad to the point where you can clearly tell, they would have no following without their interracial relationship.

@izzyNFT69

6 ай бұрын

Omg! Yes! Glad someone finally said it!

@duhduhduhdiesel1436

6 ай бұрын

Shit, Bill De Blasio did this to some degree

@user-rv9hp6bo3y

6 ай бұрын

Very true. Having a partner of a different race is a whole promotional plan for some people.

@awrebyawe

6 ай бұрын

Oof, speaking the truth. There are a lot of social media couples where their whole thing is being in an interracial relationship and "funny" cultural exchanges.

@wrestlinganime4life288

6 ай бұрын

Boy instagram is full of ut and it's soo cringe most of the time they ain't got nothing else to talk about it.

My hairline ain't crisp cause I'm broke lmao. These bills, rent and rising costs of a barbershop visit been whooping my ass. I swear my girl is black Unc 😭

@Chipster988

6 ай бұрын

😂

@wombat7961

6 ай бұрын

Hair cuts get more expensive as you age... was 10-20$ as a teenager, currently 60-100$ in california for working adults by appointment. That hairline stereotype seemed like a gross oversimplification lol.

@Udontkno7

6 ай бұрын

I'm growing freeform locs rn. I ain't shaping shit! but yes, I'm a trans black man trying sooo hard to find another black man.

@Jsmoove8k

6 ай бұрын

Dawg search up lineup/fade videos on youtube and line yourself up 😂😂 Im my own barber now and it saves so much money plus it’s a nice skill / hobby to have

@pennyforyourthots

6 ай бұрын

My barber shop closed because they couldn't afford the rent anymore. I'm just letting it grow free and picking it out, and I'm starting to look like my dad from the 70's.

Content like this is soooo important. Giving data, facts, and just breaking down why it feels like we’re not seeing black love and always being slapped in the face this feeling anti black love and blackness in general. Ive told my friends I was getting more divestor content in my algorithm (bc I was clicking it!) and luckily I had dope black men and women that called me out on some of the rhetoric I was saying and I made an effort to look for balanced black intellectual thought. I thank God I found this channel. You provide so much historical content and just give a better overall understanding of wth is going on. Its helped me have a better gage of misinformation and soooo appreciate it!!

From senior school, I've found myself typically more attracted to black women than white women or those from other demographics, and for a long time, I never thought about why this may be the case. Having talked about this with my exes over the last 10 years (most of whom have been black), I came to the conclusion that I just feel more accepted than I do amongst white women. I do my best to educate myself on the history around this, without driving myself crazy, but unfortunately, I find that I have so much pushback (predominantly from white people, including friends and family) who seem to think I do this on purpose. This leads me to ask the question, "Would I get so much resistance if I dated exclusively within my own culture?" I like to believe I follow my heart, but I can't shake the troubling historical implications that get highlighted whenever I'm with someone. This put so much strain on my relationships that I'm choosing to be single for the moment because I can't currently deal with the racism faced from my white peers

@learn_live

4 ай бұрын

And while others are getting hundreds of responses. . .your which I feel is truthful, no one is interested in. . . we're fucked here in America.

@Cheese_Pope

4 ай бұрын

@learn_live I think we're screwed in a lot of places. To add a bit more context to my original comment: I was assessed with Asperger's Syndrome about 4 years ago, and I guess this probably explains my difficulties dating in general, but I had this unfortunate habit of staring too long at girls when I was a teenager. I was incredibly shy, but for whatever reason, I've never really been ostracised by black people, but I can't say the same for a lot of white people. I lived in Bermuda for 2.25 years, and I yearn to go back to live there and chill with all the lovely people

@Gearsturfs

3 ай бұрын

I’ve dated majority black and brown women. Mainly because I found the white women to be extremely controlling and where I’m from they were very upper class and I was culturally lower on the totem pole. Latin and black women liked me more. I also loved hip hop and all that but tbh most hip hop head white guys I knew liked other white women. So I have trouble believing that’s the reason, maybe a contribution tho.

Making my white friend say "It's a black thing, you wouldn't understand." is exactly some shit I'd do lmao

@georgep5590

6 ай бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

@ReshonBryant

6 ай бұрын

It pays to just let people talk sometime I swear😅

@USSAnimeNCC-

6 ай бұрын

Had me dying

@matthewdouglas2373

6 ай бұрын

White guy here. I was on a date with a BW and she was trying to get me to say "brutha" with full conviction I'm like "oh hahaha you're so funny 👀 😅" and she was like "no do it 😠"

@sebastiaanv

5 ай бұрын

@@matthewdouglas2373did you do it?😂

What happened to Sojourner's speech is the most unnerving, despicable thing. It feels so unreal like we're in the twilight zone.

@astrohaute

6 ай бұрын

yeah that shocked me.

@jon-cx7jq

6 ай бұрын

My jaw dropped. That one hurt

@hackprefect

6 ай бұрын

My skin crawled.

@itsrodneyj

6 ай бұрын

Genuine shock when he mentioned it

@WeedgokuBonerhitler

6 ай бұрын

I still remember the first time I learned about it, and holy shit; I genuinely felt *unclean* just learning it. Like, legitimately "I need to go home and scrub myself off because of what that woman did". It's a whole new level of gross. And it's a vile shame because Sojourner's original speech must have been amazing to hear in person.

I always love when these videos include other KZreadrs reading the titles because it’s so exciting to see that F.D. Signifier likes the same channels I do

Licenses & registration, please! I freaking love it!! I nearly pissed my pants!

Had me dying at "went from, a shawty what is? To license and registration"

@alyssedani

5 ай бұрын

YES lmaoooo

@indiaselene6788

5 ай бұрын

was literally crying omfg

@cantthinkofaname5046

5 ай бұрын

Timestamp

I gotta say this was a very informative video about “swirlconomics” and how when people think of interracial relationships, their minds refer to blackmen. A few things I want to highlight; 1. Pick up a book titled “The Man-Not by Tommy J Curry”. In this book the author, a Blackman of course, gives eye witness testimonies about the United States obsession with black males’s sexuality. And let me tell you, the author highlights just how deep this obsession is. One story that stood out the most for me, was a story where a white man remembered a public lynching when he was boy and how his mother, father, along with himself, became sexually aroused while gazing at the lifeless corpse of the blackman. Now here’s where it gets creepy, the man used this childhood memory to arouse himself enough to have sex with his wife… Now I left a few parts out, but if anyone chooses the read the book, you’ll get the full gambit of the story. Also the book highlights how a lot of young black boys are consistently sexually harassed by police officers. Now there are many more stories in the book of course. Now to my next topic; when I used to drive Lyft, I picked up this army war veteran who served in Vietnam. The elder I and started to talk seeing how it was a 45 minute drive to his home. Then our conversation gravitated towards his time as a young man growing up in Chicago in the 1930’s-1940’s. Some how we end up on the discussion of women. And he opened my eyes on this topic. The elder shared story about blackmen dating white women. Now in my mind I’m thinking he’s going to share how black men back then were chasing white women. When in fact it was the opposite. It was the other way around. He stated that at the time a lot of white families lived in the city limits of Chicago and then started to moved to the suburbs to keep white women away from black men. I asked him “was it because of brothers chasing white women”? He replied “no, it was the white women chasing black men”. He shared that the white women back then were obsessed with black men. The white men took drastic measures into thinking if they can move their wives and daughters away from black men, that they would somehow lose interest. They were gravely mistaken. The white women still chased down black men. That conversation with the elder made me reflect on with my dealings with white women. Now as for myself, I moved to Atlanta, GA from Brooklyn around 2002 for college. Like most brothers we used to hear the stories on how black women out numbered the brothers in Atlanta. After moving here, enrolled in college and found a part-time job I soon discovered that I was pursued by more white women and non-black women than I was with black women. Mind you I was chasing after black women. But in a lot of public settings white women were approaching me. I was shocked to experienced this being that at the time, Atlanta was the black meeca of the US. Now I know there is alot and I mean alot of tension between blackmen and black women, but the whole interracial thing is often falls on the shoulders of blackmen. When in fact what’s not being discussed is how women from other cultures are actively pursuing us blackmen.

@Niptuck1996

3 ай бұрын

thank you for the book recommendation, will look into it.

@emkhet7924

3 ай бұрын

@@Niptuck1996 no problem fam👍🏿. This book is definitely an eye opener.

@DumbKneeGrows

Ай бұрын

Cap 🧢 only the dirty ones are

@MarStoryTime

16 күн бұрын

It's not just in the U.S., bro. Go overseas. Black men are considered desirable everywhere.

@emkhet7924

16 күн бұрын

@@MarStoryTimeyep you’re absolutely right.

That last bit about Ms Truth's poem was the icing on the cake for me. Interesting anf thought- provoking piece. Thank you.

That last part about Soujourner being eloquent in her speech and originally speaking dutch hit home for me. In highschool we analyzed her speech in groups and this one bi-racial white passing boy made a comment about how stupid the speech sounded and why the words weren’t easy to read. And I checked him saying that this woman wrote an incredibly profound speech in a time where black people weren’t allowed to read or write and how disrespectful he’s being to this history. I never knew that the current speech we had access to was changed to sound less eloquent and “slave-like”. I was defending something that wasn’t even true about Soujouner because some white woman changed the vernacular of her speech to sound more like a slave. Wow

@Bobby-hn3cu

5 ай бұрын

Historical event manipulation is so blatant it’s almost comical. I guess it’s a human thing. I see people bending truths so casually I’m almost used to it.

@djjorge87

5 ай бұрын

Mhm yes I am glad you called yourself out on this. This happens a lot more than you would have thought.

@yogijaya2897

25 күн бұрын

Even photos of civil rights movement are usually shown in black and white photos and video, although they were originally in color. This is a psyops to make people think it was a looooooong time ago. It wasn't.

One of my professors long ago was at a faculty cook-out and he is a fairly good looking older black man, most of his colleagues are white women because he works in education, and they were all gathered by some table speaking to one another. It was about 5 in total including him, and one of the women ask him where his wife was because they would love to meet her. He stated that she was in the restroom. A couple minutes later she was headed to where they were from a distance because of a hill. When he glances back to check, he sees her and points out to his colleagues that the woman coming down the hill was his wife. Another colleague not the first one to ask the question, says "that's your wife?" and he turns to say "yes", there is an awkward pause and then she states "we all thought your wife was white." he then asks her why she would think that and she said "because you are so successful at work and in the community." (And when I say awhile ago like early 2000s)

@wrestlinganime4life288

6 ай бұрын

I'm sorry but..really???do people say this shift in real life

@brucepower3429

6 ай бұрын

​@@wrestlinganime4life288i don't know if they truly say it but i've seen it a lot that if the black dude has a "good life" the chance can be bigger that he has a non black wife next to him. -

@fcdraw

6 ай бұрын

​@@wrestlinganime4life288yes, yes they do.

@Sahdirah

6 ай бұрын

……..oh my god 😬😬😬😬😬😬😬

@Igboman87

6 ай бұрын

Had anyone I know said that to me, I would disassociate myself with the person. A remark like that isn't even at the very least a back-handed compliment.

Your content is wildly interesting and i love how you merge cultures, studies, and history. Thank you for the education as it will benefit my relationship with black friends that clearly have a very diverse worldview and history.

I just want to mention how hilarious it is to me personally that I love supereyepatchwolf and him reading the title card he was not ready for absolutely killed me.

Not gonna lie I do wish there were more videos discussing interracial couples that are two POC, as these relationships seem a little more on the fringes of both real life and in the media.

@gemain609

6 ай бұрын

Absolutely, mainstream interracial/interethnic dating is x race + white. Only movie I can think of with a PoC interracial/ethnic couple is that Issa Rae one on Netflix where she's dating a SE Asian man.

@b0nitaapplebum

6 ай бұрын

Lol I always get irritated at movies nowadays cause they wanna make every couple interracial to like what be more inclusive? Idk like they wanna add a POC but not take out the white person…just take the white person out…they don’t gotta be in every movie 😂

@WastedBananas

6 ай бұрын

se asian? what is that like Filipino?@@gemain609

@ookamiblade6318

6 ай бұрын

In my experience, as in my own family, those parings just aren’t as controversial. My family got away with two interracial marriages prior to Loving vs state of Virginia one on a technicality, he was a Russian Jew so phenotypically white, but not socially.

@roolime

6 ай бұрын

​@gemain609 The most recent one that sticks out to me is his reference to the controversy about Into the Spiderverse. They are so concerned about him darting Gwen when he is the child of an interracial couple. His mom is Latina and his dad is black and they are both obviously present and relevant to that movie. It's only important if white people are involved to these critics, even when they are faced with two POCs together from different ethnicities in the exact same story.

I dressed up as Umar for Halloween (it was cheap cause I already look vaguely like him). NOBODY, knew who i was. I immediately realized that I'm in the Bahamas and I dressed up as an incredibly American based icon. Same goes for the interracial discourse. Its not a global discourse in the same configuration and vehemence as in the states. My ambience is surrounding with Black partnerships. Go outside, if you can and preferably with mask, and you'll realize that the internet ≠ reality as well as the USA is not the world.

@ItsDaJax

6 ай бұрын

The people online generally don't exist in the real world and I think most people aside from probably a few exceptions, don't carry on in public like they do online. You could probably say it's a form of code switching for some.

@By_Ash_Away

6 ай бұрын

With a mask yes!!

@derrekbertrand

6 ай бұрын

For the algorithm - this is a good channel btw ^

@diggs825

6 ай бұрын

@@derrekbertrandNo he isn't.

@zainmudassir2964

6 ай бұрын

Yes. Decolonise the internet from US

As a Hispanic/Latino male, I’ve always paid attention to Black people and the Black experience in America. Because I learned young that the Black experience in America has ripples that impacts and defines all non-Caucasian life in America. As such, this video confirmed a lot for me but also deepens my understanding about the truths and the perceptions of Black relationships. One major confirmation: caution with how non-White anything is presented by White controlled media. It actively takes work to separate one’s own perception of media from the context being presented, to then look at the subtext in the entertainment. It’s like constantly having to check yourself and go “wait, what’s really being said here? Who has an interest in saying it? What do they get from saying it?” Unfortunately, it often goes back to what seems like an elaborate lie being told or misdirection happening.

@boydbay6274

4 ай бұрын

...well said. I often caution my children; don't just question if a thing is true, but also why this particular truth or aspect thereof is being highlighted.

4:55 Travis Kelce went from "Ay shawty what it is....to...license and registration please" LMFAO

as a black woman, that sojourner truth factoid just knocked the wind out of me. like I had to sit down and catch my breath

@shewilikers

5 ай бұрын

thanks for the always incredible vids FD!! love ur work 💜✊🏾

@sarahharkins182

5 ай бұрын

Yeah. Just wow.

@ereristark425

5 ай бұрын

I immediately went to read the original speech vs the remake and Y'ALL. I actually screamed.

@djntu2964

5 ай бұрын

That’s white allies for ya…

@OGseoulite

5 ай бұрын

What section was that? I think I missed that part while I was cooking

Being a Black biracial woman colorism is always in the front of my mind when it comes to relationships. I feel fetishized by everyone. I was "shown off" by Black boyfriends when I was a teen. I have always been pursued by much older Black men. My hair and skin color are always what I'm complimented on.I also am aware of being experimented with or being the 1st. I feel guilt and shame, disgust and disappointment more often than I feel flattered or appreciated. And more often than not those who pursue me have been with white or Latina women before me and after. I'm a safe alternative. Yes this comes back to racism.

@zeefaaldown3231

6 ай бұрын

Black/white biracial femme. Same exact experience 👍🏼

@GulfCoastGrit

6 ай бұрын

I had similar experiences starting college going to a PWI as a Black biracial man. It was really strange having more than one white woman tell me that “we would have pretty babies together” as a way to hit on me and it stuck with me for many years. The flip side to that is just like you said when dating Black women, there sometimes was this odd thing going on with them since I was a “lite brite”. It got mentioned a little too often with some folks. Honestly the only women who usually didn’t give me a weird vibe were international women and other biracial Black women. I think I chalk that up to both groups knowing how it feels to be a part or party to something, but never actually belonging. Sometimes I feel like we exist in a strange no man’s land where we’re liable to catch hell from everyone with a pulse.

@christinaspencer8388

6 ай бұрын

Mixed here and felt this

@DrUmarJohnson1

6 ай бұрын

@@GulfCoastGrit You attended a PWI🤨I now have to question if you're psychologically Black. Are you the biracial Black male who states: "Love is love" "Racism is so old I don't see it at all" "Slavery was a choice". Or have you accepted that Whites don't see you as half White and now identify as a Black male?

@angelsotired

6 ай бұрын

Colorism is the systemic oppression of dark skin people. You don’t experience colorism.

the videos keep getting more awesome, and I have been inspired to start writing, the videos initially helped me regain my critical thinking during pandemmy and I am very grateful. These are difficult topics handled with grace and wisdom, FD is a great role model, and the crew is doing an excellent job editing.

This is a very important conversation to have. Thanks for posting

As a Black woman in an interracial marriage, it’s bizarre seeing the amount of IR advertising in the media because I feel it’s not a true reflection of current society. Like most ppl date/marry within their race. The advertising feels forced tbh 🤷🏾‍♀️

@reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

6 ай бұрын

fr. i see more gay WM couples than BWWM couples.

@freedomm

5 ай бұрын

In the UK, interracial advertising is the default, to the point of absurdity. It's virtually impossible for a black person to be paired with another black person because of artificial quotas that do not reflect the reality of society.

@pysq8

5 ай бұрын

I've noticed this since the 90s, starting with the racially ambiguous women (with the mixedish hair lol)...I thought it was a clever way for companies to 'check a lot of boxes' in visual representation... now it kind of stings, seeing as how it's getting hard to see dark-skinned happy families as an advert. About it not reflecting real life, I think it depends on where you're at and where you go. In Chattanooga, I saw so many interracial couples I thought they were being subsidized. 😅 In Oakland I'd go to the park and wouldn't be able to tell what child belonged to what family (or if they were their mom or dad). It was like MLK's infamous dream being played out.

@wrestlinganime4life288

5 ай бұрын

@freedomm or black person with mixed black woman. That's too its annoying

@wrestlinganime4life288

5 ай бұрын

@reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee which is funny cuz the later seems to be more common

I appreciate the eyepatch wolf confusion, 10/10 comedy

@rudetuesday

6 ай бұрын

It's my favorite non-F.d part of the video!

@newgiohguy3711

6 ай бұрын

I was so confused when I heard him due the chapter one title. I recognized his voice immediately and was like wtf video was that from? Lol

@enemyskill4286

6 ай бұрын

i love that he keeps bringing him back for these things 😂

@rokkimaize7333

6 ай бұрын

Plus FD's repping the shirt! Love these dudes

Eyepatch Wolf on the title cards was an excellent touch 👌

Thank you! I am gonna watch this again and totally soak it in! So nice to hear logical talk with evidence

I'm Black dating an Asian guy and there's absolutely no representation in American media for us. Its almost always white/another race. It's partially why I hold the 90's Cinderella so close to heart because seeing that representation just hit different for me.

@jaytb5815

5 ай бұрын

Invincible’s Amber + Mark is the ONLY example I can think of.

@MiaMia-lb2iy

5 ай бұрын

Gen V too

@Crazy_Diamond_75

5 ай бұрын

My wife grew up watching that version of Cinderella, and we have since watched it together several times. It is incredibly charming.

@aboutashow

5 ай бұрын

That's why I went to see the movie Boogie- the rep was okay. Insecure and Lovebirds are the only other two I can think of

@A-M4

5 ай бұрын

Molly and Andrew from insecure!

As an educated dark skin black woman with type 4 hair and attended PWI higher education. I’ve experienced more interest in relationships with me from non black men than black men. I still have a preference for black men because that’s who I grew up with and that’s what I’m familiar with but I’ll date anybody I’m attracted to if we are on the same wavelength. Shared connection and mutual interest in each other matters more to me than the race of my partner. But there are red flags unique to non black men that I have to pay attention to as a black woman especially exoticism/ fetishism that usually comes with oversexualization that I’ve not really experienced with black men

@jamirr100

6 ай бұрын

As a Black guy, fetishization was my only experience with white women, and ultimately shaped my decision to only date Black women. Like you said the experience with Black partners is far from perfect and has plenty of issues. But the issues and complications and dangers you have to be careful with are still less than when seeking a white partner.

@heyyitsjude

6 ай бұрын

I have a similar experience! Also, I am not opposed to black men by any means, but me not dating them is not for lack of trying! Dating is just hard, because even if the race box is checked there are hundreds of other boxes still. It’s not to say non-black men on average check more boxes either, it’s just *whoever* checks those boxes gets my time of day.

@jamirr100

6 ай бұрын

@@heyyitsjude nothing wrong with that! I know it wouldn’t be for a lack of trying unlike some Black folks who spend all their time just bashing other Black men and women while talking up white people. I just know that, for me, a Black soul is the only soul right for my life. That, and raising a Black family with Black children is super important to me.

@bt2598

6 ай бұрын

Yes!!! This is what me and my black woman friends who went to PWIs experience

@josephmother2659

6 ай бұрын

I’ll say it’s definitely easier to objectify/fetishize/not give a fuck about people that are not like you, because it’s harder to imagine yourself being on the wrong end of it. Those guys and we all need to recognize where our double standards are

I watched the whole thing. You did a great job with this.

the end made me cry. you are so brilliant, thank you for the knowledge and your whole analysis 🙌🏾

The "ain't I a woman" fact is one of the reasons I appreciate your channel. The knowledge is immeasurable. Thank you!

@mjohnson1741

5 ай бұрын

You should read the book The Trouble with White Woman the author is a WW and expands even further on white feminist deliberately making black feminist sound more of their idea of "black" which was really less articulate. It deals with feminism and how WW have historically had the narrative about feminism. History consistently states women gain the right to vote in 1920 but the truth is WW gained the right to vote and sold out BW.

@KenpoKid77

5 ай бұрын

Yes, definitely learned something on that.

@jazzjupiter9545

5 ай бұрын

I feel like I knew this and forgot. What a great reminder! It's sad that the concept of intersectional feminism was brought up back then and we STILL out here reminding folks Black women exist 🙄

@tiatsele

4 ай бұрын

That book changed how I felt about myself before. It answers many questions I had as a young black woman trying to navigate why we are perceived the way we are. I came to understand that how people react to my appearance has nothing to do with me, it was never my fault - its a world disease. Nothing I do or don't do will stop it. I just have to keep on being better each and every day FOR MYSELF - although I will admit that some things were too traumatic for me and I had to stop reading it

@slhpproductions6707

4 ай бұрын

That actually fucked me up. I learned about that speech in university in my gender class, IN THE LESSON ABOUT HOW WHITE FEMINISTS MISTREAT BLACK FEMINISTS and I'm hearing about it for the first time here? In a KZread video?? Almost a year later??? I really don't know what to say but I'm pissed

Fig making an hour-fifteen long video about why he wished his left hand were white so he can do a raceplay stranger was very unexpected, but I admire his candidness.

@largeproblem

6 ай бұрын

understanding the words in this comment requires knowledge no being should ever be cursed with knowing

@0404chrisjz

6 ай бұрын

He just wish he was white period

@RapidBlindfolds

6 ай бұрын

When theneedledrop fans discover FD signifier

@chumajamesnxele106

6 ай бұрын

​@@largeproblemI'm sincerely trying to understand and empathize with the comment but...whats a raceplay stranger? 😂😂

@aliceyuri

6 ай бұрын

​@@chumajamesnxele106I need to know what this means too

Good Job Brother, this video nailed a whole bunch of interesting Taboo and lightly treaded Topics.

I like your video essays. They help me see the world from a different perspective.

The part about black relationships being written in Hollywood as inherently problematic, ridiculously tragic (ie Game of Thrones) or borderline non-existent on the most watched TV shows was so on point. You rarely see two dark skinned black people in a loving, fully fleshed out relationship unless a black person is writing the script, which apparently there aren't enough of.

@prettyprincess8187

5 ай бұрын

Yup and it's sad that I get excited when that actually is portrayed

@SRHisntSilent

5 ай бұрын

This is so fucking true and I am so fucking tired of it They really said 'one of them has to be lighter in complexion' I'm like: Why?

@PaidFamCap

5 ай бұрын

Damn so. brown sugar, love and basketball, the best man, and a gang of other movies don’t exist now?

@Ghost-eo6jb

5 ай бұрын

@@PaidFamCap The topic was about the most popular TV shows, the shows that are getting the most viewership in total.

@hotbreakers94569

5 ай бұрын

I wonder what would happen if a majority of y'all didn't watch these shows, maybe perhaps will they fall in line 🤔🤷🏾‍♂️

I remember when I brought home my Chinese gf my extended family making jokes about how I must prefer Asian women which I found kinda awkward, hope it wasn’t embarrassing for her. I wasn’t dating her because I sought out Asian girls exclusively. I was as open as I could be to anyone who wanted to talk to me, we just happened to keep talking the longest.

@pinestraker4840

6 ай бұрын

Caribbean people make jokes about exactly what’s on their mind, they don’t really hold back so I was kinda expecting some ribbing. Interracial dating isn’t as common on my Caribbean island just because there’s mostly black people and you’d think black Caribbeans would like black people more since most of the people in society they interact with are black, but no, they hate blackness to a degree just the same. Trust every other business owner before black owners, treat tourists better than their own, it’s a mess down there…

@rejectionisprotection4448

6 ай бұрын

​@@pinestraker4840I know. I'm born and brought up in the UK with parents from the Caribbean. I believe that they hate us the most and yes I've seen and been on the end of disrespectful treatment when I've travelled there.

@amaravazquez8591

5 ай бұрын

People always gotta assume things about you when you date someone outside of your race/ethnicity. My first long-term relationship was with a black man (I'm Mexican/Spanish). I've gotten the "you don't seem like some that would date a black guy" and covertly racist jokes from family and friends that I exclusively seek date black men for whatever reason. Like you, I just happened to meet someone who I can talk to, be friends with, and took it from there.

@advisorywarning

5 ай бұрын

I’m half Chinese and this has happened to me…. It was def embarrassing for her lol

@salishanmusic

5 ай бұрын

Ugh. Stuff like this is so weird. I have 2 mixed parents. My mom has a weird relationship with her Blackness and would fawn over her (super heckin small barley worth mentioning) Nativeness fir the longest time. My dad is half Native. I went to a Native cultural summer school program for a couple years and when I was about 13 she told me to “meet a nice NDN boy to thicken the bloodline.” It was so icky on so many levels.

This video was Great in every way! Thank you so much for all the work & research you do!

Man, this was such a thoroughly enjoyable and informative watch. It was a short bit, but your mentioning of Queer representation in Media tripped me up so hard and has given me so much to think about. Im Queer and took the bait from the marketing folks. Thank you for giving me so much to reflect on

Hey F.D. Thank you for talking about my familys' heritage and story. I'm a 6th generation descendant of Thomas Jefferson and Sally Hemings. Our story has been told countless ways and even within our own family there are different opinions on the nature of their relationship. I'd love to have a chance to talk to you more about how their story has been twisted over time and why it is still controversial to this day. I'd love to get your opinion on how this story has been adapted over time and what work is left to be done. I love your content! *Can ya'll please like this comment so F.D. can see this? And comment if you'd be interested in F.D. talking more about Thomas Jefferson and Sally Hemings. 😀

@crnkmnky

6 ай бұрын

👍🏿

@RexytheRexy

6 ай бұрын

Boost

@Rossoneri2

6 ай бұрын

Definitely an interesting topic

@iluminati

6 ай бұрын

Also, shouts to your ancestor for making macaroni and cheese blow up. America thanks you! 😁

@Hemings91

6 ай бұрын

@@iluminati My great-great-great-uncle James Hemings! haha

I’ve definitely noticed the IR relationships in advertising a LOT recently. It’s like every ad executive everywhere realized simultaneously that having an interracial relationship in an ad aims the ad at two separate groups AND makes the company appear more progressive all in one simple TV spot. It’s a super efficient and effective to synergize some positive attitudes towards your company without actually really doing anything! 👍

@dameongeppetto

6 ай бұрын

Exactly! It panders to more consumers without alienating anyone. Notice there are no conservative boycotts of products for featuring multiple ethnicities? All of their anger is focused on cultural bigotry (anti-trans, anti-gay, anti-progressive, etc) not racial. Progress is slow, but take the token inclusion of interracial couples in the media as a step forward in culture (even if tokenism is cringe worthy).

@59spadesofalife52

6 ай бұрын

I mean that’s always gonna be the case unfortunately, advertisers in this damn country are always paying attention to what people are doing whether it’s on social media real life or events. IR are just another way they can market to a broader audience while improving their image which is important in advertising.

@wrestlinganime4life288

6 ай бұрын

Absolutely especially on TV shows. Its baffling how IRR have become the defaults for a lot of black characters in media especially cartoon

@ultravioletiris6241

6 ай бұрын

Surprise surprise, reactionary talking points in comments on an FD video. Im surprised how many people are openly disdainful of interracial relationships on “the left”.

@RampagingChipmunk

6 ай бұрын

⁠@@ultravioletiris6241That’s not what I meant by my comment at all. I’m a white guy who has dated black women so I have no problem with the concept of interracial dating whatsoever. I was just pointing out that advertisers who feature interracial relationships in their ads are probably not especially sincere in their apparent support for it and are just trying to make some extra money and improve the company’s image.

I LOVE that you fuck with supereyepatchwolf! He was one of my first introductions to video essayists. Y’all are so eloquent and diligent, thank both of you guys so much!

You said some very challenging things in this video that I truly need to digest a little more! Thank you for your content!

Im wasian and obviously my parents are in an interracial relationship. I really appreciate this video and while the issues facing interracial relationships in black communities are different I definitely feel some parallels with my view of them in Asian communities. I don’t like the fact that people (especially Asian people) will assume that my parents relationship must be toxic or problematic in some way just because my dad is white and my mom is Asian, but also I do have to acknowledge that the “preference” that some white men have for Asian women is often inextricably tied to racism and misogyny. And the “preference” of some Asian women to date exclusively outside their race is also fraught with disgusting opinions about Asian men that come from living in a white-centric society. I think it’s toxic to focus only on the women in this situation because ultimately they’re victims of objectification by mostly white men, but at the same time there are good reasons to criticize the behavior and look at the larger historical context, where Asian women are systemically objectified and Asian men are made out to be weak, effeminate and unattractive, for the interests of white people, particularly white men, to remain dominant.

@joepatrick3092

6 ай бұрын

To be fair most Asian women worship white men that’s just a fact at this point. I thought my Asian male friends were lying but I have seen it with my own eyes.

@artisticagi

5 ай бұрын

Almost every Asian woman I have met or befriended made it a point to tell me how much they don’t like Asian men. I’ve never met a white man doing the same about white women. I think the ‘fetishization’ excuse is over blown. Most of the time it’s because Asian women want to get more proximity to whiteness. They don’t like being Asian. I wish people could just be honest about that. It’s time to question why so many of them don’t like their own and decolonize those beliefs.

@supaclipz

5 ай бұрын

I'm black but I total agree it's sad and unsettling that Asian men are put down to cater to wm egos.

@advisorywarning

5 ай бұрын

I totally get where you’re coming from. My mom is white my dad is taiwanese and I’ve almost never had any comments like you’ve had about your Asian mom/white dad… however as an Asian woman I get comments a ton (not from family) in the beginning stages if I’m dating anyone but an Asian guy and especially when I’ve dated black men - people just assume I’m being fetishized. And I’m hyper aware of it too. It used to cause a lot of insecurity in me when I was younger… not so much anymore. Now it’s just EXTREMELY annoying. Also it happens way more when I date in the south compared to the west coast.

@advisorywarning

5 ай бұрын

I will also add that I never ever get any comments about fetishization from anyone when I date women (they’ll say other stuff then). Mostly-not always- get them from men when I date men.

Coming from a young African man, who as a child, grew up in multiple white communities as my father was in the military and I moved around a lot, I didn’t have a clear idea of what Black culture looked like outside the media I consumed. I watched a lot of TV when I was younger, specifically Disney Channel and Nickelodeon. And looking back, I noticed that there were very few, let alone, accurate representations of Black culture in the programming as a lot of it seemed stereotypical or just had a lack of substance to what it actually is. However the one show that always stood out to me was The Proud Family, which did address real social issues within not only the Black community but in society as a whole. Turns out the show was created by a Black man and goes to show that it is important to have people involved in these movies and TV shows that actually understand and appreciate the cultures that they’re highlighting rather than adding a diverse character with no substance just solely for “inclusion” and “representation”.

@main1033

5 ай бұрын

It's their media. They aren't obligated to include a race of people they've historically been at economic and literal war with.

@doclime4792

5 ай бұрын

I'm of the opinion tv and movies are mostly just shallow, quick money schemes and very little that gets produced seems to me to have a greater purpose then past the initial box-office sales I ask myself this: is film somehow closer today then they have been in the last 100 years, to making film that won't be lost in the trash heap, sort of like those top 100 best sellers of 1970 (but at least those didn't cost millions of dollars each)? Me personally I think no. I find film desperate, unflattering, narcissistic, delusional and at worst propaganda for the you know who. That being said I still implied I consider it still a work in progress and of course it effects the conciousness of us. Probably not as much as we think but I also think more importantly we do need to pay more attention to directors like Spike Lee. I think in 100-200 years he'll still be worth discussing. It's more than the moment, something profoundly human shines through in his work and truly grateful for that.

@main1033

5 ай бұрын

Movies are not get rich quick money schemes. Movies are used by Hollywood as propaganda and a transmitter of the superiority of White men and women as well as the traits of lesser races. That simple. Once you notice that the Black father figure/leader dies early for the 5000th time you really lose interest in western media.@@doclime4792

@bluesneakers

5 ай бұрын

I wouldnt expect you to understand Black culture because its not your culture. We just share a skin color 🤷‍♀

@whatscookingoodlookin1

5 ай бұрын

@@bluesneakersthat’s what…they said right…?

Straight facts, knowledge and information. FD always drops 30💯💯

I feel like the veil is getting pulled back for myself, recognizing the racial programming aspect. Love your content dude

Having Supereyepatchwolf doing the title card narrations was an unexpected but hilarious crossover.

@mellodees3663

5 ай бұрын

lowkey my favorite part of the video XD

@nowhereman6019

5 ай бұрын

It's ok, Irish people aren't white At least not until they became cops in Amerikkka.

@ManicKiwii

5 ай бұрын

I said the same thing shit came out of no where but was hilarious 😂

When you come back with a new video and a fresh retwist, I already know it’s gon hit.

@RaditzSayian

6 ай бұрын

He really did cook with this one.

@ReshonBryant

6 ай бұрын

I had an unusual phenomena take place recently. I was approached by several WW on separate occasions that struck up a conversation with me. Each time a white dude popped up shortly after showing interest those women. So, I left. I also had a Black woman approach me with what appeared to be some interest. A white dude showed up then also with a mysterious interest in the Black woman. I saw the Black woman later on while the white dude wasn't around. The Black woman just stared at me as if she made a big mistake by engaging the white dude. I just smiled, waved and kept my distance 🤣

Absolutely fantastic video!!

As the white partner of a black person, goddamn I am always so grateful for videos like this because I do not want my relationship with my partner to be me relying on them to help me figure my shit out when I'm trying to think about issues like this.

@SipMyCharlatte

5 ай бұрын

Thank you for doing your research. Keep at it. ❤️

@JGtho

5 ай бұрын

Listen. Respect to you for doing the work.

@CharBearBlbpmassagestherapy

5 ай бұрын

Same. Definitely it's not our black partner's responsibility to educate us. I kinda hate when someone says I'm married to a black person, so I'm not racist. You can still have some anti black views without realizing it.

i was kinda scared to watch this ngl, being mixed myself. but you did a great job of tackling this subject. i was forced to stop being friends with a kid in 1st grade because her mom, who was black, didnt like the fact that my mom(also black) was with a white guy. then years later i learned a lot of my moms coworkers who were also black didnt like the idea of race mixing, which left me feeling a certain way for a long time. i talked with these ladies on a face to face basis and gifted me quite a few things for holidays and stuff, so it was very hurtful. but i got a better understanding of where they were coming from now... it just sucks that this was their conclusion. not to mention on my mom's side, one of my great aunts gifted me a doll the summer after 1st grade too, but with a catch. i had to choose between a white and black doll. i repressed the memory until a few years ago and now it haunts me when shit like this comes up. its a sore spot for sure so i appreciate you approaching it in this way.

@kazihiseguy-fernand4637

6 ай бұрын

😮My goodness…

@just_some_donkus

6 ай бұрын

the doll... sending love.

@billy2896

5 ай бұрын

Wow.. im so sorry. thats so strange.

@asafoetidajones8181

5 ай бұрын

That's like, a scene from a dark TV drama.

@elaryn.new.22

5 ай бұрын

This!!! As a mixed person, this conversation is always tough for me. I understand the need to have it but it always feels like my existence is called into question. I'm wishing for a time in the future when this conversation is no longer necessary.

this video was informative as always, but i gotta confess, the bit of having eyepatch wolf read those titles was a highlight for me, laughed every time

What a gold nugget to learn about the title of sojourner truth's famous poem. Excellent commentary!!

FD making John uncomfortable by making him read those titles is my favorite thing

My personal experience as dating as a black woman has been that it’s hard to find a good man period so what color they are is the least of my worries. But I see some couples that are terrible and some are same race and some are interracial. Long story short, people gonna people no matter that their color.

@rmuzic6531

4 ай бұрын

No it's not hard...the problem with black women is that you're trying to find the perfect man

@alxonpc9388

4 ай бұрын

crazy statement, "hard to find a good man" as if woman are any better than men?

@thepubknight6144

4 ай бұрын

I'm a black man my issue is I have biracial kids and it's assumed I only date white women when , I have dated black , white and biracial women throughout my life And I have freezed up when a black woman was interested because I didn't want her to assume she's a "back up plan" Because I don't want her to see that and because so many self hating black men online pull that "white women are better " nonsense I don't ever want any woman of any race to feel they're a rebound or backup plan especially black women

@UncomfortableConversations7

4 ай бұрын

This is the problem, women can be broke multiple baby daddies but a hard working man not good enough if he don't cater to a female wishes and b.s!This why you single!I've been dating outside my race for 30yrs plus and always found greater peace and less drama.Married a black woman to try to fit the cultural narrative only to married a gold digger wanna be city girl!So miss me with the idea it's about anyone else other than the person!Accountability Ladies

@ChrissieThefirst

4 ай бұрын

Lol this turned into a manosphere comment section quick😂

I love your work, please keep at it as long as you want to

Respect!!! I agree with everything you said in this video.

Always remember that there is a fine line between being in an intimate partnership with a person, REGARDLESS of that person's race VS being in an intimate partnership with a person BECAUSE of that person's race. Do with that knowledge how you see fit.

@wishingwell_333

5 ай бұрын

is "fine line" the best way to put it? i feel like you know what you're doing if you do one or the other. like you're just a person vs you like someone bc they're black or whatever race i mean they're very different things actually lol

@GentleBreeze-ib9dz

5 ай бұрын

@@wishingwell_333you make no sense.

@wishingwell_333

5 ай бұрын

@@GentleBreeze-ib9dz it happens sometimes idk if you meant to be rude or jus tell me i don't make sense but yeah oops my bad what was the point of your comment even lol

@4nn4h

5 ай бұрын

@@GentleBreeze-ib9dz it made sense to me. They're saying it's not really a "fine" line at all.

@seanyoung9014

5 ай бұрын

I would disagree that it's a fine line. They're two completely different things. People who don't generally approve of interracial relationships like to _say_ it's a fine line but as evidenced by this comment section, those people like to say all kinds of questionable things.

I’m a goth half black/half white dude but I’m actually pretty dark and I’ve found that because of my outwardly goth-alt appearance, black women want nothing to do with me, but goth white women also want nothing to do with me because they’re so used to dating and seeing white men and faces within goth culture. It’s a weird one that’s left me without any dating options even though I’m tall and what people would call stereotypically attractive.

@manniking233

6 ай бұрын

I wanted to say "Go Asian" but I then remembered the spirit of this essay by Fiq. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 So I'll keep it at, keep striving and focus on life... you'll find what you're looking for, eventually. Good day.

@Professoryu

6 ай бұрын

As a goth black girl myself, I can honestly say the dating scene can be weird, you’ll find what you’re looking for stranger. Don’t stress.

@righteouslioncomedian1069

6 ай бұрын

In my experience, 'artsy' black chicks and/or white chicks outside the goth world may embrace you. Keep looking, Queen Bubba is out there. 🤝🏽👍🏽💯

@kjs9

6 ай бұрын

Maybe the you should end the “Goth” phase 🤷🏽‍♀️

@SCHRODINGERS_WHORE

6 ай бұрын

I'm a metal head, woman. It's been ruff, black dudes just laugh at me and call me "manly"

thank you for making this, the part about media portrayals of interacial relationships was very eloquently worded and pretty insightful to me as someone trying to write my own story rn

I really fw this video, I learned things in more detail that I had an idea about but I was still some what ignorant about. Btw I'm black and I have Puerto Rican descent. My great-grandma is from the island but my grandma married a black man in the US. I'm really tryna learn the good, bad, and ugly about both of my histories/cultures you know. Honestly the media is so deceiving that I think everybody no matter race, ethnicity, gender etc... should sit down and educate themselves. IMO a lot of the misunderstanding and negativity comes when one side doesn't acknowledge or educate themselves on both sides of the argument especially if they only get their info from the media (wether it's the way they view black people or even this topic here). Only in a perfect world will that happen cuz there's always gonna be a ignorant person who just don't gaf bout nothin.

I'm a half black, half Mexican woman. Conversations about biracial people never include people like me because it only matters if one of the parents are white. I get pissed, but also understand that if ever there is any awareness, it probably won't be positive. No news is good news.

@MrisaVigil

6 ай бұрын

Make your own video?

@MrisaVigil

6 ай бұрын

It's free?

@firstnamelast5474

5 ай бұрын

​@@MrisaVigilshe's just expressing herself and no it's absolutely not free it costs time, labor, and possibly even equitment. And that still doesn't guarantee discourse or attention which is what he comment is clearly implying she never sees. Why you hating and bitter?

@cornerstone7036

5 ай бұрын

I appreciate that. Im a Black woman and my partner is Mexican. I never see couples like us.

@pysq8

5 ай бұрын

There are some conversations, especially online, about "exoticals" which certainly includes this often beautiful combination.

I know this is like a super minor thing, but Miles Morales is already a multi-racial character and it's an extremely important part of his character as he is one of the only explicitly Afro-Latino characters in almost any media. This part of his character (at least, it seems like to me, as one of those half white mom/half hispanic dad statistic) has always seemed to inform his openness with dating someone outside his race (as he has also dating Kamala Khan and Kate Bishop). [Love the videos!]

@lucyandecember2843

5 ай бұрын

o.o

@T.H.E.O.R.Y.

5 ай бұрын

I've tried telling my friend, who is Nuyorican himself, that in doing so they didn't really make Miles black. No shade to anyone involved with the character in any way, but to call him a "black" Spider-Man automatically "irrelevates" his PR side, and would likely make fans of that background feel some kind of way. Also, to me it's simply another case of half-stepping concerning black racial representation like they did when they failed to make Prince Naveen of the Princess and the Frog some idenfitiable black person. I know what I've said comes across as SJWy, but they are trying to show representation and this is that type of video, so I felt it to be warranted. I will always give props for progress, no matter how incremental, however we must acknowledge that there's holes where there are holes and more can and should be done where reasonable.

@DedHedZed

5 ай бұрын

As an afro Hispanic. Yeah.

@edwileo5660

5 ай бұрын

As a Puerto Rican, I get annoyed how little of that identity is really represented by Miles. But the thing about his character that really gets me is the fact that his father is a cop. You can't tell me that a Black or Brown writer would have made Miles' dad a police officer in the climate he was created in (Brian Michael Bendis was the original creator). Also, it doesn't make sense that his last name is Morales unless it's his father's last name. Miles' parents are together, and our culture is pretty patriarchal--it's weird/out of the ordinary that Miles would take his mother's last name and not his father's. Which implies his father is Afro-Latino too, but he's not portrayed as such. I wonder if Spiderverse will address this, since the Miles we see at the end seems to have a stronger grasp on Spanish than the mainline Miles we've followed in the narrative thus far. But as long as they don't do anything too stupid concerning his identity I'm down for Miles. Who got a more fire suit than him?

@lucyandecember2843

5 ай бұрын

@@edwileo5660 i've read a theory about Miles last names that basically states a possible reason for Miles to having mothers last name instead of his dad's, is because his dad might've been involved in crime when he was younger along with uncle Aaron. So when Miles was born he got his mothers last name instead of his fathers since his dad's image wasn't the best the best at the time. This is also why theres such a rift between Aaron and Miles dad as Miles dad eventually became a cop to support his son and wife. It's just a theory but personally i view it as canon as i think it sets a lot into context

Thanks. That was in-depth. Lots of food for thought.

I didn’t know that I wanted a FD Signifier and SuperEyePatchWolf collab until now! Didn’t expect these two worlds to collide.

One thing I would like to add is the lack of representation seen in media of pacific islanders. Although we have took matters in our own hands a lot of my childhood was seeing indigenous characters through the lenses and narratives crafted by white people. The biggest example of this is Moana. They knew that showing an interracial relationship failed in Pocahontas so in the new iteration of basically the same story (moana) they didn't show romance at all. This was seen as a feminist move at the time but I never saw it that way. Being half white and never seeing indigenous brown couples was hard for me growing up even the Polynesian boys I know now prefer white girls, latina girls, or light girls over anything.

@WastedBananas

6 ай бұрын

there's like 2 million polynesians. the reason you don't see them as much is because in terms of numbers its a tiny community.

@rhino5100

6 ай бұрын

Gen-X here. I'm not sure about this, but having raised 3 children (I'm white, husband is SE Asian) I can say that my education in public school in pre "no child left behind days" was more comprehensive than my children's education. I was disgusted by the Pocahantas movie. We were taught about that story, and everyone in my peer group knows that Pocahantas was around 8 years old and Capt. John Smith was in his upper 30's, at least 35 years old when they met. The idea of a romance between those 2 people is not only historically incorrect because it didn't happen....its sick. Putting that in there as "artistic license" or a plot twist is completely disgusting, but not because of race. I'm not sure if younger folks get that. I worked hard to teach my kids about the mountain of stuff they didn't learn in school because their education was much more geared to performing on standardized tests than mine was. I think it affects us as a country to this very day, including the loss of critical thinking skills. Sorry, its an off-topic soapbox because it's not about race.

@user-pi8pi3wj7h

6 ай бұрын

@@WastedBananas and?

“Put them out the house” when talking about ones own children is probably one of the most unloving things one could say

@chosenlyric

5 ай бұрын

Parents take advice about their kids from the wrong people.

Very in depth analysis. Nothing was left out.

Great video. I love how it ended.

Thank you so much. I didn't even realize how much of my baggage when it comes to this topic stems from romanticizing interracial relationships as being something progressive and "wholesome" or as a deep and intimate Romeo and Juliet story. Now I can finally start unlearning my fixation on this rosey sapphic fantasy of star-crossed love and try to just love people like a normal person. It's embarrassing how obvious it seems now but I'm very grateful you finally made that click for me.

Black and Indigenous history is always so hard to learn more about. It's full of the most inhumane and gruesome stories one could think of. It breaks my heart every time. Thank you for your videos. I'm learning much from them.

@righteouslioncomedian1069

6 ай бұрын

There's probably better stories and events to learn about within that scope. The problem with any black and any indigenous history is that it only ever seems to be nothing more than the documentation of the European's interactions with them. Hence violence and/or bullshit bias.

@Harlonna

6 ай бұрын

@@righteouslioncomedian1069 this is so real. The only ideal from the right wing scope that I agree with is the topic of slavery/racism be scrutinized to fit in more representation about black American culture & pre colonial Africa. Seeing woman king made me cry because I realized it was the first time I ever got insight into how my ancestors lived prior colonialism. It was beautiful and eye opening.

@pysq8

5 ай бұрын

That's what makes it world history. The gruesomeness often comes in when colonization and eurocentricity does.

@pysq8

5 ай бұрын

Oh, balance it out with learning about Black and indigenous inventors! ❤ It's so inspiring and amazing! The furnace, CCTV security, fax machines, the mop, the traffic light, the water gun, the ice cream scoop, and soooooo much more...all invented by "Black" folks. ... don't look too far into where the money and manufacturing went or you might get back to the sad stuff. 😅

I love all of this! I'd love a bsides addendum of how non-sexual intimacy affects interracial relationships, too. I've seen people talk about it like "soft" or "tender" lives, and I'm fascinated how the non-sexual aspect is integrated.

Great stuff mate

Something that I never though about until the Spider-verse section is the value provided by Cody Ziglar in his current Miles Morales run with working with other prominent Black super heroes like Misty Knight and Blade. While Miles personal life has always had significant Black characters, as a super hero he's never really depicted interacting prominently with other Black super heroes. So to see Miles looking up to and learning from those characters as role models provides a dimensionality to his life that was sorely lacking, and I'm glad that Ziglar was able to tell these stories.

@21swords76

4 ай бұрын

Honestly I don’t get why he picked Misty of all people. They’ve barely interacted in the comics. I would have picked Luke but he’s mayor now.

@BKMediaMan

4 ай бұрын

I thought about. I actually stopped reading his book because of his non -interaction, but was pleasantly surprised to see that changed

One thing thats always struck me as weird about the represenation of interacial couples is how few representations seek to celebrate the clash of cultures. Having grown up around different things, hearing different music, eating different foods, having different tastes in art and decor. These can be wonderful things about being in an interacial couple.

@wiseoldfool101

4 ай бұрын

I'm a white guy. I've dated and been in relationships with many black women. Most of the time I really didn't find any huge culture gap to overcome. Sometimes. I found to be more pronounced the less educated they were. But when they were or are more educated and most importantly a curious person by nature we would just go out and have experiences together and laugh and enjoy eachothers company. No thought about race seemed to pop up. And occasionally we might make a race based joke about about each other. But as long as it was funny we'd laugh. That was my experience with most of these women.

@darnellfelix8114

4 ай бұрын

personally i never thought of it much, my partner is white and im black but a part of why we've worked so well is due to all the similarities we share, there just isnt alot of differences to discuss in our case.

@ballershanelle

4 ай бұрын

Not always a culture clash, if u draw to similiar types. Music might be different but you dont have to listen to thier music.

@user-vg8tx4wy9b

2 ай бұрын

Funny, never had issues in my world, they were there. Just not like today. Im dark , and mama of my child got skin that dont tan and reddish hair and freckles. Had a pretty child. Not together for years now, just mentioning it

@viberantpearl

2 ай бұрын

Surface relationship 😢

I love your content. It's filled with critical thinking and deep perspective

I also love the cameo of the professor!! 😀

The last segment was fire bro. You articulated it perfectly. I am mexican. First gen American. The interracial stats were eye opening. Like the Irish and Italian, I can see the seeds being planted for my community becoming white. I already see Mexicans looking down upon the new Latin American immigrants. It’ll take time, but the process is already under way. Learning about the ever-lasting black struggle has been instrumental in maintaining a strong Mexican identity, if that makes sense. Much love.

@fluidthought42

5 ай бұрын

It makes sense to me. We live in similar neighborhoods, under similar conditions. The same systemic tools of oppression for black people are being used against Mexicans and Latinos of all stripes (except for Cubans, who were often sponsored by oil companies. No seriously, look up the history of Jeff Bezos' step-dad and "Operation Peter Pan"). The struggle for black liberation provides a body of work to build our own liberation off of, not in contradiction to but in solidarity with black Americans. Especially since they've had way longer to figure out how the US works.

@misslady5029

5 ай бұрын

It does make sense. What happened to black people was planned. Don't let that happen to your community. Continue to pray and love one another. 😊

@fluidthought42

5 ай бұрын

@@misslady5029 Actually I see the path for Mexican Americans to follow that of say Italians or perhaps Asians (South, East and in-between) ie being subsumed under whiteness or perhaps as a possible model minority model. Or rather, that's what will happen to a subsection of white-passing and conformist Mexicans while the rest are set to view those as aspirational goals. Because actual uplifting isn't possible without economic and welfare policies that would actually do something about Mexican poverty. As a people who are already quite mixed (mestizo is our term for it) intermarrying isn't an existential threat, but as a people who have to deal with an imperialist culture and our need to deal in the society that hosts both that culture and us we are in danger of losing touch with our own culture in favor of complete assimilation (which white authoritarians would prefer for a myriad of reasons). Luckily, we do still have a connection with our own country that we can more easily maintain (which is an immigrant privilege that was never extended to black slaves). In other words, for Mexicans trying to fearmonger about "mixing blood" isn't usually viewed as valid (although admittedly anti-black sentiment and colorism is still pervasive in Mexican culture), but cultural mixing IS feared because of the assumption that due to White American culture being that of a global hegemony it will naturally overwhelm our own identities. Personally, I think both fears are unfounded but the latter has way more traction than the former. We have already seen it happen to some extent in White Hispanic Americans who do not view themselves in solidarity with other Hispanics. But we also saw the the opposite with the unique strain of Chicano culture in the US and how it's been maintained through the years, modifying itself as different waves of Mexican immigrants (some earlier waves predating before the concept of "illegal Mexicans" existed in the US) come in across the years.

@misslady5029

5 ай бұрын

@fluidthought42 You gave a very well thought out summary of your community. I commend you. I'm aware of the colorism within Latin American culture as well. Thank you for presenting your facts and clarifying the differences.🙂

@redmaple1982

5 ай бұрын

One factor worth noting is the impact of religion/culture. Latinos (including Brazilians and Haitians) and Philipinos of all colors are mostly catholic and their family dynamics are extremely similar to that of Mediterraneans. While there may be an assimilation component to a Mexican /Italian pairing most likely what is going on is a very logical merging of population groups. There is less of a cultural divide between Mexican and Italian than there is between Italian and Anglo-Saxon protestant.

'Hey shawty what it is ' to 'Liscense and registration, please' is one of the best phrases ever!! Another great analysis

@tshidi129

5 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@abena7969

4 ай бұрын

I laughed so hard😂😂😂😂

I really enjoy your videos and have great respect for you. thanks for doing what you do

Thank u for this video

I'm a 33 yo gay black men. I don't think I've ever seen a commercial featuring a black queer couple before. The overrepresentation of interracial couples in media is incessant and honestly ridiculous. We all see it. We all feel it. Great video as always!

@Pinkladyisv

6 ай бұрын

There’s actually a Christmas one from Etsy. A black gay couple are at a family gathering together.

@Empathy_is_Logical

6 ай бұрын

"ummm technically they made commercials for moonlight so checkmate" /s

@gphjr1444

6 ай бұрын

Unfortunately the only commercials I’ve seen are for the HIV medications.

@brian_Austin27

6 ай бұрын

Yeah u have to look for them,

@bonystickmanking1250

6 ай бұрын

​@@gphjr1444which is so distasteful if we're being honest