They hate their mother, and then become her. This is scary. My ex narcissist's mother abused him, and that was so damaging to him. But now HE is way worse than her because he has abused dozens of women in the past 45 years.

@bebe8842

Жыл бұрын

That's my observation as well , when it comes to men that had a narcissistic mother...

@dakotafox7326

Жыл бұрын

So you basically saying men are to blame for their toxic ass mothers behavior. I get that your ex was horrible but ya'll need to stop putting all men in the same category cuz their mother was shitty and toxic and abusive then ya'll say all men who had mothers like that will be abusive

@wilblissful

2 ай бұрын

Can confirm. He is her.

Oh That Is Why He Is So Detached From Reality !

Thank you, this is my ex narc boyfriend. A lot of emotional incest between he and his mother, his dad was an alcoholic womanizer who left the family. My ex was a covert narcissist

@denisegladden-peters4435

Жыл бұрын

Mine too

Explained beautifully, my ex had a love hate relationship with his mother.

You articulated that so perfectly and concisely! This was the scenario of my ex-husband and his mother and their relationship dynamic to a "T". Throughout our brief marriage the mother put herself in a competition with me. She used to accept hand me down clothes from me. She even tried to wear my wedding dress for a costume party, but she couldn't fit in it. She was a nightmare to deal with. And he was a mess! He actually lived with his parents his entire life. Except for 4 years of college and two brief marriages.

Yep it took me a long time to understand that the man I married was already the place card holder as the husband of his mother. He took the place of her husband when his father passed away.

This explains the misogyny of the narcissist.

Wow this helped me tremendously. I had a feeling there relationships with a parent might be the cause of there abuse.

@ND-or5so

Жыл бұрын

It's still not right to abuse others and they know this. I know many men that were abused and they don't abuse others.

So correct .. My narc husband hates his mother and his hate transferred onto me

I would like to point out that not all men who have toxic or narcissistic mothers end up as narcissists themselves. Some people can't stand the constant criticism and degradation, so they distance themselves from that toxicity.

@ND-or5so

Жыл бұрын

So what does that have to do with abuse? Some men don't abuse even though they were abused. It takes a certain type.

@denisepoisson2907

Жыл бұрын

If a man has a toxic relationship with his mother, he will be affected in ways that you cannot even see. It will affect his physical health, his mental health, his self-esteem, his fears will take over to the point of either acting out or holding in rage, which eventually all will come out on the woman he is in relationship with, as well as his own children

@sickofcrap8992

Жыл бұрын

​@@denisepoisson2907Their children OR any pets. The pets get the same abuse as the people.

@NS-id7ff

Жыл бұрын

True, some are scapegoats and turn into empaths

Sorta explains my issue bonding trusting and maintaining relationships thank you.

You had described my narcissistic brother (golden child) and his relationship with my narc mother to A TEE! I was the black sheep and decided to leave... my narc brother stood around to his own misery.

@supercoffeebean

Жыл бұрын

Sad story Leon. Be Well.

@leongarcia2842

Жыл бұрын

@@supercoffeebean Thank you Ryan. Likewise.

@Ayzazaheer222

Жыл бұрын

Same 😢😢😢

My husband loves his mother beyond measure but yet he has been narcissistic towards me. I am unable to understand this. but one thing is she used to pedestal him and was always doing things he liked or rather avoided things he hated.

It seems to me that there is more than one kind of interaction. Another interaction I've seen is one in which the son wanted all of the mother's attention, gifts, and approval, competitively resentful of any affection, gifts, approval given to his siblings. He undermined his siblings at every opportunity. He leeched from his mother well into adulthood, despite his mother's best efforts to establish healthy boundaries.

@ghdodo

11 ай бұрын

Yes. This is definitely one of the other scenarios.

Wow!! Hit it right on the nail. Been married to one for over 20yrs and now I’m so ready to get away from this person

Spot on!!

That explains everything! They are sick sick!

Wow you help me understand so much my narcissistic ex partner mother will never show love affection or nothing but she continuously used to say that's Her favorite child he never calls no problems he always did chores good thinks we always had to go see her every weekend they needed something we had to go help that's mother and father crazy thank you for this video

My mother screwed my brother up bad! I wasn't the favorite child, so I escaped quickly at 15 but my brother was trapped till he was in his late 30s he left in the middle of the night

@caseteamcouture8633

Жыл бұрын

Damn 😢

@minka866

Жыл бұрын

And so on?

@cassiebennet4262

10 ай бұрын

Wow. He at least got out though.

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This explains everything.

Experienced this personally for 6 years.

Sseeeeeesh nah. My mum today said to people who joked about ptsd when I recounted a bad memory “he hasn’t got ptsd!” Pure self serving justification man I don’t if this resonates but like i became sick of being used as a punching bag for my mothers emotional needs. Trying to grow from narcissistic behaviour. Keep the faith and the love ❤️

My Dad Loves his Mom (My Granny) too Much. They both Are Same Type & And makes a Plan Aginst Me & My Sister. After the Death of my Mom.

Oh my goodness, on point! But my husband worships his mother (as do his two sisters who were also poorly parented) and he saves that underlying anger and redirects it to me.

Most men are like this ... They "love" their mothers n sisters n other female relatives who may be obnoxious, but they hate their wives, girlfriends and lovers 😐

@cassiebennet4262

10 ай бұрын

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Makes sense to ME ... I'm living proof - a victim of a narcissist that hates his mom .

This is facts my narc ex took care of his whole family even his daddy and his father and mother was married and he feels some type of way about his father that's crazy

It terrible that these people grow up like this and you think I finally found the love of my life. Fast forward the tears, the trauma, everything you ever could believe love would bring. These men are children that never grew up going around ruining every good girl that just wanted love.Cheating, lying, abusing, using, and the list goes on. Making us think it’s us. I go back to before I met him. I loved my life, my job, my friends, healthy relationship with myself and body. Now I’m an insecure, fat, isolating myself 24/7 that I can’t get a job, I’m an alcoholic. How does this happen. And he’s out there with the next victim. Meanwhile he has nothing is never going to be nothing he uses these women for a place to live and money

This was my exact situation with my ex & his mammy dearest. 😝 all of us women after her punished for her treatment of him as a child & extremely unhealthy enmeshment between them 🤯

@denisegladden-peters4435

Жыл бұрын

Yup!

@mimi42428

Жыл бұрын

This is what I've always thought

@cassiebennet4262

10 ай бұрын

Yep.

He definitely hates her but refuses to acknowledge it. They are extremely enmeshed and this has destroyed our marriage and children's lives. He still tries to convince himself and I that he loves her and his family are super close and love each other when all they are is enmeshed, disordered and Abusive.

@mvoyage7282

2 ай бұрын

Faced the same. I never saw him speaking to his mother directly for 4 years even while living in the same house. He would never even refer to her as mom. But he tries so much to convince me that he loves his mother & their family is great.

Your content is very helpful and detailed

Mine is so enmeshed. Im completely baffled and amused. I know he does hate her but he alsp cannot wait to go get the supply juice from her. She cut him off, because he wanted to stay married, for 1.5 yrs then hoovered him back. I can only imagine the palpable resentment in that room. Im sure its all sweet voices rn but that hideaous beast will come out anyday now. Cant wait! Im on my way out and i am the glue that holds them together in their individual hate for me. I am hopefully leaving soon.

This makes complete sense!

I think I know someone like this.

Ungodly soul tie is what it is too

This confusing, my ex who basically raised our son is narcissistic. My son is now displaying malignant characteristics like his dad Clay has gone in and out of baf behaviors, but we've had many good years. I did teach him about empathy, how we should help others and act kind as we can, though we're human and we all have our days. However, I indulged him way too much, everything was centered around him, his needs came before mine and I put him up on a pedestal Millennials have had it rough with bad economies. He didn't fare well, and his father and his family are quite wealthy and the majority are successful. It should be said most of them lack morals and values, are greedy, selfish and have superiority complexes I allowed myself to make sure he saw all of my divorced family members, because he had a lot of cousins and his aunts, uncles, and grandmother who he was very close to Instead of being grateful for my kindness, as Clay flew up on most holidays and summers and lived with his dad over 1,000 miles after his dad basically stole him from me - that family spread awful lies, malicious gossip, made fun of me behind my back. Clay would almost always dismiss it. They tried and tried to come between us, shame my son, etc Somehow we overcame, and he was self aware and had good qualities Then he became involved with a girl who has bad designs, and he went to rot. He gets depressed around her, puts on a lot of weight I made the mistake of leaning on him too much these past 3 years, it's been awful. I feel like I'm cursed Anyway turns out Clay has been playing hero and victim with me his whole adult life and has been talking behind my backs for years which is rewarded by the family. He's a 2 faced backstabber, and because I'm homeless and struggling, he hates me now because I can't give him anything and have gotten old. He's 33 I don't know how much of this is his gf, dad or friends and family, turns out he's been telling them all the person personal confidential details of my struggles, and he's also given me terr terrible advice. It's like he wants me to kill myself I blocked him on the phone and dropped him from Facebook. He can email or message me on FB, that way everything is documented and saved for my sanity and to stay detached and logical For a couple years, the abuse kept getting worse and worse, verbal and emotional. Just curious to see if my life will get better now Thank you

YOU JUST DESCRIBED THE INCOMPREHENSIBLE SHIT SHOW BETWEEN MY BROTHER AND MOTHER. DAMN IT TO HELL THEY WERE A NEVER-ENDING, ALWAYS ON BS FACTORY.

In my experience, the person's mother was needy not narcissistic.

@Mary-sm7fd

Жыл бұрын

What's the difference ?

@nathankinman7753

11 ай бұрын

We're all needy in form or another. However, there is still a fine line between the roles of a child, and the roles of an adult, be it a spouse, adult sibling, parent, adult relative, or equal peer similar in age.

Narc Ex-Wife used Triangulation to try and isolate me from my family. Narc finds ways to isolate and then control you. Stay Safe.

My sons fathers mother and him are both narcissists she now in a home and hes gone but they were a team when i was in the picture thank God i got full legal custody and left them in the dust. My sons a caring hard working man who will be a amazing father and husband oneday ❤

Love it and sharing ❤

Excellent 🎉

he didn't have his mom and he seemed like he missed her and he doesn't have a good relationship with his dad

Spot On!!!!!

It could also be that the mother destroys everything that the son does...because he can't achieve anything because the mother gets triggered which can start before the child even develops social connections.

@jaydrich8115

Жыл бұрын

Or she destroyed the potential of what he could be by beinga half asked parent taking her emotional hubris on a child that Resembles The man she made him with

Ive always felt like My boyfriends relationship with his mom was a little too much. anything she wanted or needed from him, he would jump. I use to think in the beginning of our relationship. Wow hes a good man, a good son. he loves his mom so much. Hes good to her. but towards me he was the exact opposite. Yet he and his mother never show any affection (hugs or i love you"s) but its like she had this control over him. He was 32 when i first met him now hes 57. and as i speak at this moment he had to get up early this morning to drive her to mexico. To take care of some business she has to do. And hes upset at mefor not going with him.

Goshh that’s why he never said anything nice about his mom 😭

So true, again best explanation

Keep learning your good. 📚

Explains alot actually

Exactly what I've dealt with..

Bam! That's it!

Well said

I always wondered. I sent your video to him

Spot on

Thank you

Damn that's crazy 💀

Thank you for this information

Danish: My husband took the place of the husband while his father was at work as a little boy. In kindergarten, he didn't know the female teacher wasn't supposed to take him to the bathroom and do things to him as his mother did. But why must we females get the punishment??

Truth....

TRUE.

Well spotted. I have been 5 yrs with such a guy he never oppossed to his mother tho she was abusive he was hurting me instead. When I pointed out that link between their relation and us he said I am stupid and denied anything.

My husband described

That's the conclusion I can to... He hates women Because of his mother.

This so on point

The ones i had were in love with her even with all the abuse they endured for years.

Well, so far I have read about 3 reasons why narcissists hate their partners: 1) They hate themselves and thus project his own hatred into their partners, 2) They hate their mothers and usually show the hatred towats them. 3) They like your personality too much and because they don't have it and won't have it, they will destroy it.

But sometimes the father is the narcissist and they feel so bad for their mother they end up taking care of Mom 🤔

I don't think all narc men have a narc mom though... maybe many but not all. Enmeshment maybe...

@UnluckyGirl81

Жыл бұрын

My covert narc husband has an enabler/codependent mom. He was the golden child, so a lot of what he said still fits. The mom depended on her kids to keep up her self worth because the dad is a narcissist. He was emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive towards the mom sometimes in the presence of the children.

@moonhunter9993

Жыл бұрын

@@UnluckyGirl81 Yes, I think that's a common pattern, too. I suspect that was the pattern at my dad's house, too. I didn't really know his mom well, so it's hard for me to judge.

Danish: Yes, I get it but why do they get with a female in the first place as my husband did with me and marry to subject me to abuse and my emotional needs are unmet? They must know it's wrong.

You are speaking so fast and this is so important. One should listen to what you say several times and pause the video. Why? These are very serious facts just to be stated so quickly . They should be assimilated...

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Don t think so, many really adore their mothers tho those were really evil, never cooked a meal for them, and so on and so on.. The revenge of a such narcissistic male will be exercised in the future on his partners but almost never on the mother, never on the one that truly deserves it. It s so sad, they are blind and will forever try to build a relation with the mother ehich ofcourse never happens . Still they adore their mother and never dare to raise even their voice to them

Wow so true!

Just because a man makes a statement against the modern woman, doesn't make him a narcissist himself. There is nothing wrong with pointing out a pattern of shitty behavior. Some women think that society will let them get away with their shitty behavior just because they are women. And some of us men are saying enough is enough. Now if that man starts acting like a piece of shit towards others himself, then he too would be in the wrong, and should be held accountable for such.

Is it possible to stop this process? If you somehow became aware at an certain age?

This is my story.

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This doesnt explain the men who never had a mothers in their lives who hate women.No one taught them to love how can thwy?

Yeah I see, it's too much

I see 👀

That's weird shit

Does this phenomenon have a name?

@Elisabet_L

Жыл бұрын

Bologna

@marcharsveld2914

Жыл бұрын

It happens during the separation-Individualisation phase, which is when the child is 18-24 months. See Sam Vaknin on YT on the topic.

@burkaboy1

Жыл бұрын

Enmeshed,

@moonhunter9993

Жыл бұрын

oedipus complex, sort of

@susanazinger2525

Жыл бұрын

Yes ...Hell on Earth .

Dude, why do these gremlins only have beef with their women relatives?? So, the narcissist male love their father?

@chauweissnat88

3 ай бұрын

No male narcs love no one female narcs can love but male narcs no