What’s wrong with today’s dating world? What are your experiences? How can we improve it? Let’s start a thread👇🏻

@NotUrAverage786

Жыл бұрын

I think the Western culture is such that men have been conditioned to only seek out casual relationships. Promiscuity is encouraged, incentivised and celebrated! Being intimate isn't viewed as special or sacred, as it should be. The women mistakenly think that to get a guy to commit to a relationship, they have to get physical! It's totally warped in my view. Both lose out, cos guys aren't connecting emotionally, and the women are putting themselves in compromising, uncomfortable, or dangerous situations. They are losing sight of their value, instead looking for men to validate them.They may also be constantly second-guessing themselves after being intimate with someone who has no interest or inclination to take things further. Women needn't get intimate as a means of guaging interest, and the men should learn a bit of self-control and respect. My experience, especially on the apps, has been that the vast majority of men are looking to hook up. The idea that women are just there to serve and gratify them is gross, selfish, and disrespectful but seems perfectly acceptable -WHY?!. I've personally stopped using apps altogether.

@veroverobrian

Жыл бұрын

We're too disconnected. Nobody wants to engage because it's too comfortable behind the phone screen. Discomfort is truly terrifying right now. Search up the streetlight effect. We're all a part of it.

@Jamienicholas02

Жыл бұрын

We all lack clarity, we are lost.

@G8rquest

Жыл бұрын

1st: Sprouht, I love your quest. I was married 34 yrs when my wife died 2 yrs ago, I have not dated...in this century. 2nd: The 'romantic Subway dinner girl' revealed some of what I learned about a meaningful relationship; You both have to keep putting effort into a relationship for it to sustain you both. Think of it like a bamboo raft, if you only compete for what you can take away to share with your "friends" beware, egos are like pandas; adorable but they only eat bamboo...it's like that. I think people want to sustain a portrait of what they imagine others will perceive as successful, that's a yacht to wrap your hopes around and will require more to moor than threads. Hope smaller the world is counting on you, little by little.

@s3renity608

Жыл бұрын

We can't improve it. Leave america. Let them improve it.

Social media and dating apps have started to commoditize dating. So people just view you as a profile or a number and not a human being. That’s why flaking and ghosting are at an all time high. I think I’m 2023 we should all make an effort to meet people in person. Go to social groups, join a sports league etc. Organic is the best way

@ashwin.unlead

Жыл бұрын

Agreed!

@tman5634

Жыл бұрын

Very well said, totally agree. This said, people need to start a fresh, a clean slate & put past social media dating behind them. Be open & friendly to meeting organically, in person. Get out there etc.

@tromboner6061

Жыл бұрын

I also feel that misogyny, feminism, sheltered upbringing are partly causes too

@LabRat6619

Жыл бұрын

I met my now wife at work and we have been together 35 years. In those days flirting and innuendo was all part of office banter. Now this behaviour is seen as sexual harassment and you can get sacked.

@arianamontenegro5528

Жыл бұрын

😢

We need to bring back activities, hobby clubs, and social gatherings. A large portion of our social interactions is through a screen.

@ivanronin8209

Жыл бұрын

No Kidding . But Feminism killed all of this now . Most Men now are MGTOW ! Too late now . Men just Don't trust women ! truth !

@grizzlymm

Жыл бұрын

How?

@grizzlymm

Жыл бұрын

It will never happen such times are coming fast

@grizzlymm

Жыл бұрын

I realised that God is the only medium for such beautiful gatherings take for example in church or temples, those places you can feel the joy you know and I know it's all possible because of God❤️

@itaiitai100

Жыл бұрын

​@@grizzlymm what about a soccer game mate?

I feel like a lot of us have become so used to being alone that even though a part of us wants someone in our lives, we are terrified to step out of that isolated bubble and let someone in. It feels safe to be alone even though that safety somedays is suffocating

@noewantstosleep

Ай бұрын

Yep... Even when I go on a first date that went well, I end up getting super stressed at the idea of actually getting close to them... And I usually run away.

@julistar90

Ай бұрын

Me too. A Relationship is a lot of work.

@KEVWARD63

26 күн бұрын

I like solitude too much , I prefer the company of other species ( my cats & ferrets ) , to the vast majority of our own species.

@ssvv431

23 күн бұрын

​@@noewantstosleep Ikr, I can relate

@naomivought9317

17 күн бұрын

I feel like we’re all just exhausted

"The best thing you can give someone is your attention" That women absolutely nailed it. And this goes for women too. Show your partner attention. Listen to them. Show that you care about what you say and don't just make it about you. Remember the important things for them. Do that and the rest will take care of itself. Good looks, great sex, money all subside when you have someone who is truly invested in your life.

@THunt-ss4hy

3 ай бұрын

I’ve found women want way too much of an upper ground on attention (cue the game of no message back, ever, unless you double, or triple text or message first). They don’t want to keep attention in the middle, it’s unattractive.

@user-gh8sg7oc9r

3 ай бұрын

​@@THunt-ss4hyIf she "no messages back" bring it up casual next time you meet in person _hey, btw what's up with our conversation? I bore you to sleep? lol_ That's all you need, acknowledge that you noticed and confront it without going overboard. If there's pushback or some kind of disrespect drop her like a bad habit, it's a sign of more to come.

@erik9817

Ай бұрын

This is good to know. Somewhere I forgot this and thought that I did not want to be intrusive with my attention, since that is how I survived childhood.

@jonjon8051

20 күн бұрын

I gave all my attention to her and she ripped it😢

Confidence is not the feeling that something will work out, but rather it's knowing that you'll be ok if it doesn't. This is the best advice I've ever gotten. It means you can internally process your thoughts and desires and decide to pursue something without attaching a needed specific outcome to it.

@WiWillemijn

Жыл бұрын

Love that, thank you for sharing!

@linuswi1

Жыл бұрын

Love that!

@angel-peralta

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing!

@lshwadchuck5643

Жыл бұрын

Very wise. Maybe 'strength' is a better name for this quality than confidence. People watch and read life coaches and try to SEEM confident.

@kevindelgado7083

Жыл бұрын

How do I reach that point tho? I’m incredibly extrovert and super confidence with my people, but if I’m with a strnager then I’m just a fucking wall

I literally have no idea how anyone gets into a relationship nowadays. On vacation I’ll walk around and see everyone my age looking at their phones. There’s no way anyone would even start a conversation with me and my friends. They just stay in their bubble. I hate dating apps but I’m not seeing an alternative other than dying alone.

@harrisonrutledge5

11 ай бұрын

Still single? Want to travel? Take a trip to Loreto with me, have the time of your life.

@shah9394

11 ай бұрын

Speed date! Or if you see a person you like buy them a drink. Ooooorrrr throw a rock at them

@pepepiedone7127

11 ай бұрын

Dying alone ? No. Dying with Robots. They will come to the rescue. Also technology will probably allow you to have a child as a male froM your DNA only.

@williamlevy6964

11 ай бұрын

Lol. "You and your friends". That there is exactly the problem. You're intimidating the boys away. It's hard enough to get rejected by a girl but rejected and laughed at by her friends too? Perhaps if you weren't a narcissistic asshole a boy would talk to you. Oh well. Dying alone seems to be your conviction.

@morpheuslaughing

11 ай бұрын

Dating is based on the curated images you present of yourself in today's world. Its all vibes and aesthetics, bruh

It’s even worse in middle age. I was married for 20 years. Then dated for a few years, hated it, and have now been alone for almost 4 years and I’m learning to be happy on my own.

too many people these days dont know how to go from the "fun" phase to the commitment phase of a relationship

@christiansnaturestudio6599

4 ай бұрын

I never get to the "fun" phase to begin with 😂

@acegikm

3 ай бұрын

I don't date anymore because I have sporadic depression and anxiety I don't want to put someone else through. I think people are considering real problems now the they didn't in the past.

@Adeyum64

3 ай бұрын

⁠@@acegikmFunny that you're in that comment too, but what makes you think such a thing? ;o The right people will have enough patience, regardless of having a relationship or not. There are so many anxious people out there, but for some reason I mostly find those people funny af, since they actually try their best to make me laugh or make me feel like I am worth something. It really is completely fine, as long as you don't shrug off everything in life. And with everything, I really mean *everything* Even if that spark of hope is sooo small, so tinyyy, that tiny bit of hope can change so much. I really wish the best for you! And if things don't go well, I won't run away from the comment section. No matter if it's days or months, I'll gladly hear ya out! ^^

@JewTube001

Ай бұрын

They know they just don't want to. Most women will be riding it for 20 years, and even if they have children they might still move on to the next guys again.

@Ramxie35

Ай бұрын

maybe the "fun" phase is the problem

Having returned to the game after many years being out of it, I can confirm that yes dating is ridiculously hard today. It's damn near impossible. It doesn't feel like it's acceptable to approach people in public anymore.

@nic7761

Жыл бұрын

That sounds terribly sad, but even outside of a dating perspective I understand. We need unity as people again

@kostarossides5062

Жыл бұрын

Exactly this, women think you're a weird creep if you try to approach them nowadays

@cstuartdc

Жыл бұрын

And don't dare meet someone at work like my father and mother did. That's not woke.

@paulfitness5157

Жыл бұрын

No they don't, if you do it right they love it, I always do it

@fiveleavesleft6521

Жыл бұрын

Women: "I like meeting guys naturally out in bars or whatever" "Just shoot your shot guys!". Also women: "Creeps who hassle and objectify women going about their business are disgusting".

Everyone’s standards have gotten sky high, while hardly anyone can realistically meet these standards

@gabrielacortez4893

Жыл бұрын

Agree. Super high unrealistic expectations.

@colbalt95

Жыл бұрын

Males are not hypergamous

@toddpacker1015

Жыл бұрын

@@colbalt95 Expecting vvomen to be faithful, not single mothers and not gold diggers already is impossible standards in today's dating world. In all honesty says more about the low quality of these chicks.

@titsbitchmcgee7502

Жыл бұрын

Everyone = women

@MorphingPussy

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. Although honestly, it's not not that people's standards have become too high --- more like too absurd, too plastic, too shallow. A checklist for the best shiny packaging. I even found myself caving and watching makeup tutorials, despite not enjoying makeup and previously only wearing it for a job which allowed the frivolous cost to be written off taxes. And then I saw a video about AI filters and how angry men were that they could be tricked, and the comments section was a cesspool of seething misogyny and unfathomable entitlement. Snapped me right out of the make-up mind***k and the idea of dating at my age. I'll just stay celibate until I can move to a place where sexual encounters can be done by appointment as a legal business transaction with criminal bg checks, clearly established boundaries and expectations, and no one's time wasted. Bonus if I can market myself to guys who yank it to centuries old works of art and thus still avoid makeup!🙃

Man even though all of these comments are sad to read because it’s people struggling, it makes me feel better that I’m not alone. The world can seem so isolating because we focus in on a small minority of people who seem to have it all when it comes to relationships but we forget 95 percent of people are in the same struggle as you are. Take care everyone and don’t give up x

@christiansnaturestudio6599

4 ай бұрын

Thank you! I hope this new year 2024 will be filled with kinder, more compassionate, and understanding women arriving into my life. My experience with college dating was hell. Nothing but getting blocked, my emotions toyed, getting ghosted and losing many female friends drifting apart. Even though I have been growing and evolving a lot, not one incredible woman bats an eye at me. USA sucks lol.

@guitarreilly

4 ай бұрын

@@christiansnaturestudio6599 totally understand friend. I've been there. It can seem so unfair but youve just got to do things that make you happy, socialise and don't isolate. Just hang in there and do your best x

@christiansnaturestudio6599

4 ай бұрын

@@guitarreilly That's why moving overseas is a goof route to take

@christiansnaturestudio6599

4 ай бұрын

@@guitarreilly well have fun being lonely forever 🙃

@guitarreilly

4 ай бұрын

@@christiansnaturestudio6599 huh?

The ending made me tear up, knowing I'll never have a girl be that excited to see me. Been single for my whole 33 year life. Every girl I thought I was building something with ditched me for someone else. I don't want to date a girl who's been with tons of guys in her 20s only to settle for me now. I missed out on teenage love and now 20s love. Yet standards are just becoming higher and people are getting more flaky. It's not worth all the effort just to get heartbroken again.

@jenni7493

3 ай бұрын

brooo I know it’s sad, but don’t give up! I believe someone is out there for you, you just gotta find them :) and even if you don’t, for some people it’s better to go solo! Just don’t give up just yet!

@Just_a_Lad

2 ай бұрын

@@jenni7493 c`mon, don't lie to him with those romantic comedy Hollywood BS :) . @BlazingsNL , just don't deal with women and do whatever else you like.

@AllUserNamesAreUsed

Ай бұрын

There are so many women out here who spent their teens and 20s not even daring because they belived the right one would cone along. The idea that womwn have been pssed around is a just a myth that insecure guys are obsessed with because the women they want are always OF modles, head cheerleaders, celebs or prrn-stars in the first place. The women who havent had many relationships just have to keep it on the DL cause if men learn you havent been with many people they will get VERY predatory. Sadly (if there are any good men) you all dont read between the lines on dating apps and dont even shoot your shots in real life.Trust me they are out here!

@AllUserNamesAreUsed

Ай бұрын

Also, put your pic up! Theres a guy who posed something similar online and a really beautiful women from brazil posted that he was cute and they ended up getting married.

@christiansnaturestudio6599

Ай бұрын

I am super jealous as well

Everybody is insecure, some are just better at hiding it than others.

@elizabetht6965

Жыл бұрын

I agree 100%.

@daebak_hana

Жыл бұрын

🎯🎯🎯

@tricatame7427

Жыл бұрын

Everybody is more insecure than ever today because of many fatherless homes and kids being pathologically held back from facing real life so as to develop resilience and self confidence that isnt gonna come from stupid participation points and being coddled and too preoccupied with meaningless online activities that are basically an endless cycle of dopamine chase after dopamine chase.

@therearenoshortcuts9868

Жыл бұрын

the secret to happiness is not giving a shit

@Maarten8867

Жыл бұрын

Or they express it in different, less obvious ways.

I met my wife 30 years ago this July. I was playing in a band at a bar that she just happened to go to with her friends in a town an hour away from where we both lived. My guitar player knew her, and introduced us between sets. She was shockingly beautiful, and I’m definitely not a typical good looking guy, but I loved her bold, unique style, so the first thing I said to her was “I like your shoes”. We chatted a little more and when my band did our next set she danced on stage next to my drum kit. At the end of the night I asked her if I gave her my phone number, would she call me. She later told me that the fact that I gave her MY number, putting the ball in her court to call me, plus complimenting her shoes, made her want to see me again. She called me the next morning! She asked if I knew who it was, “of course!” I responded, and we made a lunch date for the following day. We moved in together very quickly and were married by that Christmas. We have been in love ever since. I am so lucky that she decided at the last minute to go to a weird bar in a faraway town that summer night, 30 years ago.

@iamyoda1980

Жыл бұрын

Gorgeous love story ❤

@cb8962

Жыл бұрын

L❤VE this story! Thanks for sharing!

@AutisticMorty

Жыл бұрын

It had nothing to do with her shoes or how you behaved that day. It's the fact you proved your social status, you were a musician performing in public. A man without status, it doesn't matter what you say or do, she's not going to call. As a man, you cannot afford to be weak, broke, or boring; you either build up your value, your status, or you die alone. Women don't have to worry about that, they're born with intrinsic dating marketplace value; women face the opposite problem, where they run out of time, and the years after 40 they're treated like a broke statusless 20-35 yo man.

@WhyTheHorseface

Жыл бұрын

@@AutisticMorty I was a 21 year old skinny longhair working in a shitty cover band in a dive bar with only a dozen people in the audience. My “day jobs” were working at a Pizza Hut, painting houses, and working at a comic book store. I didn’t have a car, and had just gotten a drivers license two weeks before I met her. Yeah, I had “status”. I can confidently say she loved me for who I am.

@Fujtajblus

Жыл бұрын

Congratz man, stories like these are always warm to read :)

I know a girl who told me loves going dates meeting on apps, she taken to fancy restaurants etc and never once had to pay anything, no intention of going out with any of the guys she meet, she said too much fun, being taken to dinner etc, doesn’t cost her one cent. She said she got presents, flowers, shopping etc 😮

@lloydeelloyd

3 ай бұрын

Went on one date with one girl like that last year , I didn't ask her for a second date when I knew what she was up to. Dating around getting taken out for meals every other night by different men with no intention to get with them

@user-gz4ve8mw9l

3 ай бұрын

She's a terribly toxic person, looking to use poor men for free meal tickets. This is why you split the bill on a first date. Tell the waiter as soon as you order a drink or whatever you want a separate bill for what you ordered. Leave her with her own bill. If she appears to be disinterested or toxic pay for whatever you ordered and walk out. I don't like it when people take advantage of one another in such appalling ways.

@Nika-je6zd

9 күн бұрын

Its rare - I actually do not like to eat out with someone I do not like...

@BrianMolstad

7 күн бұрын

Those opportunities will soon end. She can*t do that in her 40s, 50s,90s, 110s.

I’m a guy who made a fake Tinder account pretending to be a woman. The results were… disturbing. I now truly understand what’s going on here. Hearing about it is one thing, but seeing it with your own eyes is something else entirely.

@Lauren-gs7bn

6 ай бұрын

What did you find out

@sv-xi6oq

6 ай бұрын

@@Lauren-gs7bn How desperate men today are and how few options they really have. I used a random low quality stock photo of an average woman (about 35 years old), and within an hour, I was already at 99+ likes. A lot of the men weren’t even unattractive. It’s no wonder women today are so arrogant.

@JS-it3dx

6 ай бұрын

@@Lauren-gs7bn Thousands of matches a week. Most guys have no chance with an average female on Tinder.

@Lauren-gs7bn

6 ай бұрын

@@JS-it3dx geez that’s crazy. My experience was horrible on those apps

@dietlindvonhohenwald448

3 ай бұрын

75% of those profiles are scammers/fake accounts. Probably more on free Apps. A real waste of time.

Women on dating apps: There's too many options. 90% of men on dating apps: I have absolutely zero options. I tried Tinder for a few months. It was making me depressed and angry at women. I deleted it, and instantly felt better. Now, I would be very reluctant to even date a woman i met in person if she told me that she uses dating apps.

@catcabrera6448

Жыл бұрын

not to mention that the focus of a lot of the people who use those apps tends to be on hookups and casual relationships, which isnt ideal at all for someone interested in a romantic relationship

@GryffindorPrefect101

11 ай бұрын

Gay men as well sigh

@wtfisthis96

11 ай бұрын

​​​​​@@GryffindorPrefect101 Im a bisexual men (yeah, a torture) and dating gays is just as exausting as dating girls. All the gays I have matched are damn weirdos with unhealed traumas and women instead of asking how are you they ask you how tall are you. Both men and women had reject me because of my sexuality because "bisexuals cheat more" (I will never cheat, NEVER, I will never forgive myself for that) It's tiring and honestly, Im just gonna meet people in real life, I need to stop being shy and grow some balls.

@MrCassett

11 ай бұрын

@@GryffindorPrefect101 Do you think is easier or harder for gay men?

@themothers

11 ай бұрын

I met my love on badoo…. But talked to a lot of people first and it was pretty wild

Dating apps have made the joy of dating excruciating painful. I feel for you young uns, having to deal with this. Back in Old Man Tommy’s day, dating was a joy. Met all my dates at parties, the shopping mall, through friends,etc. What’s even worse today is, even when you’ve met someone and think you’re free of the dating apps, the dating apps are still out there. Which means you’re always just one swipe away from being single again.

@575leena

Жыл бұрын

Omg so true 😭 i have experienced this first hand

@MrColdwilliam

Жыл бұрын

Two of my best male friends on this planet were guys that my female friends were chatting up in public while I was about. There's a whole vast universe of interaction that people are missing by not doing in-person interactions the way we once did.

@neltins5308

Жыл бұрын

Yup man I feel the same, the master cheat code hack to life, quit all dating apps entirely & being extremely happier it mas mind blowing, only met women in real life and everything happened so naturally, was much more enjoyable

@martinmartin9084

Жыл бұрын

Dating apps are for pushing men to suicide

@PraiseJesusChristOurSavior

Жыл бұрын

Aw women created this disgusting environment and now they're sad men don't want to play anymore, GO CRY

There's nothing you can do about the people you want not wanting you. Life is hard when the relationships you do have access to (friends, family, partner, etc.), don't reciprocate.

In the USA this is a problem, but in NZ and Australia it is pretty standard to partner up and get married. Almost everyone does it; it's quite rare to be single out here. If you're single, you just let your friends know you're single and looking and they'll invite you to parties and events so you can meet people. I don't get why Americans don't do this.

@amiruliman4963

4 ай бұрын

Can I go to Australia and help me to introduce myself to any Australian women's. Really helpful. Thanks

@DeadCat-42

4 ай бұрын

My friends and I stopped approaching women years ago. I doubt any of us will ever date again.. Dating is dead in the USA.

@FreeAgent321

4 ай бұрын

This is a load of garbage. Australian here, having lived overseas and spoken to other people who've lived in other parts of the world and moved to Australia. Australians are a uniquely unfriendly and VERY nepotistic, clique orientated populace, one that is severely judgemental of all outsiders, even of other Australians. It isn't anywhere near as easy in reality as this person is making it seem, unless you already are apart of a huge friendship group, you're essentially alone. Trying to break into friendship groups as a new person is almost impossible due to Australian's general ignorance and fear of difference.

@DeadCat-42

4 ай бұрын

Time is irrelevant, lunchtime doubly so. @@attraktive

@stevenphillips3466

4 ай бұрын

WHy, because the 90 % of single women are all dating the top 10% of guys on the dating apps . leaving all the other men invisible .... Men are totally afraid of marriage because women will divorce you 80% of the time and take you for half or more of your life long accumulation of money and stuff and if you have a child or children she will get those 90% of the time and all the father gets is to PAY her child support ....and under threat of Prison if you lose a job and fall behind in those payments .... Women wouldn't be stupid enough to fall for that and men are finally waking up and not falling for it now either . Would you jump out of a plane if your parachute didn't work 50% of the time ?

The dating pool is just crazy. Many are in search of this perfect person forgetting they ain’t perfect either. I think two people who agree to be together, who are committed & has the desire to pursue the best in the other person - life would be better. I really liked that birthday surprise ❤

@SlashinatorZ

10 ай бұрын

I'm 29, no beard, have autism, never had a girlfriend, & live in Houston (a depressing hellhole that's nothing but highways gas stations & fast food). How am I supposed to get a girlfriend or female play partner?

@kennypowers1945

9 ай бұрын

Yea but as men we should be allowed to have standards too. Just cause we aren’t the hottest doesn’t mean we want someone not good looking lol

@milan51259

9 ай бұрын

@@kennypowers1945 Ture that. If I wanted I'd go for every second women I see. But I don't do it as I'm looking for a very specific woman and actually are not ready yet. I need another 1-2 years.

@steveboone1498

6 ай бұрын

I really wouldn't get my hopes up because many women go postal seeing a man they hate looking for a woman to settle down with.

@Jedilord882

5 ай бұрын

@@SlashinatorZyou aren’t lmao

I have a good friend that fell in love with a woman from another country. She was a colleague of his brother that stayed in his parents home while she was doing research work in the US. He socialized with her a lot , but never dated. Two years later he could not get her out of his mind. He boarded a plane, and flew 5,000 miles to profess his love for her. Twenty five years later they are still married today. The moral of the story is when it comes to love you have to put it all out there. The only failure is the failure to act.

@daisybusinessview

Жыл бұрын

Awh such a lovely story, thank you for sharing, lights up the hope inside of me ✨

@imfinitiamusic.4632

Жыл бұрын

Oneitis is a severe condition

@redditor7548

Жыл бұрын

Most women don’t respond well to men that profess love, well at least in the west that is

@zeldadesantiago6974

Жыл бұрын

Awe that’s beautiful

@winstonmarlowe5254

Жыл бұрын

@@redditor7548 How the hell would you know? You're a redditor.

I totally feel Trevor bro. It was like he was reading my mind of how I feel when you asked him about asking that girl out. Like yeah, most girls are just being nice. They would absolutely say no if you asked them out. If they say yeah, give it about a month before they wanna move on… sometimes I feel like it’s kinda threatening to them to have a guy hit on them, so they act in whatever way and make up whatever they can to make them go away. I think more often than not, they’re just being polite instead of being genuine as a defense mechanism, so it’s often like “what’s the point?”. The safest bet imo is to get to know someone in a space where there’s some sort of shared interest/values (like shared religious affiliations or recreational activities)and then ask them out after getting to know them a bit over time. This will in turn allow particular chemical reactions to spark and create a sense of bond and attraction that makes the whole process smoother and increase the likelihood of longterm success.

Bro, thank you SO MUCH for making this. I am very strongly of the opinion that social media is poison and hate dating apps. The more people realize that meeting each other in the real world is the healthy approach to relationships, the better off we'll be. I have tremendous respect for your courage.

@christiansnaturestudio6599

4 ай бұрын

Plus we need less people to be addicted to their phones in public spaces

@CBReptiles1

3 ай бұрын

Courage 🤔

Does anyone else feel like we are witnessing the end of humanity slowly unraveling right before our eyes? The rise of social media and technology unnecessarily complicates human communication more and more, each passing year. There was a time - probably around the early to mid 2000's - when dating apps actually worked, and at the very least made it possible for people to meet without too much hassle. People could actually message each other without having to play matching games and sidestepping algorithms. The same can be said for the job market, and the process of finding employment. There was a time when technology worked for humans. Now it feels like humans work for technology.

@muraterkocevic9743

9 ай бұрын

Very good observation, indeed.

@Zeebsc

8 ай бұрын

i feel the same way

@AbelSesmas

7 ай бұрын

I’ve been trying to find a girlfriend since high school and it’s been hard for me because everyone is on their phone and I am 33 now Sucks won’t we just go back to the old days when there was no cell phones and Internet so people can just walk up to a girl or a guy and they won’t be stuck on their phone that’s why they can’t find a girlfriend or boyfriend they need to put the phone down And delete social media and go back to the 90s when there is no cell phones

@channeldoo5347

7 ай бұрын

@@AbelSesmas I hear ya! I notice many people not even looking forward when they walk. Phones have definitely made it more challenging to engage with fellow human beings in person. What a weird time we are living in.

@adamdilem941

6 ай бұрын

It's the end of societies that follow the western culture. Not all humanity. Muslims are doing ok untill they are mass murdered or bombed by the west.

After almost a year of having an absolutely miserable experience of online dating, I've deleted all my dating profiles and I'm now looking at ways of getting myself in the real world. I'm really happy for people who've found love on these apps but they're the exceptions rather than the rule. The whole experience is weird, and trying to find a partner in a sea of random people all asking how your weekend's been with 80% never replying back is the definition of madness.

@emmanuelleroy2915

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂

@Robin-is3ke

Жыл бұрын

Same over here!

@intrepidnomads

Жыл бұрын

Good luck! Don't give up!!! It's important to be and stay open. It took my husband 54 years to find me, but once we met, we are inseparable.

@nadiab7764

Жыл бұрын

Lmao facts 😂.

@Robin-is3ke

Жыл бұрын

@@nadiab7764 how was your weekend?? 😂

I think the problem is on dating apps is you get messages from so many people that is hard to put any decent effort into any one person, you are constantly distracted by new women messaging you. You start to place less importance on each person, you start to view them as completely replaceable. You talk to hundreds but never really get to know anyone.

One of the most wholesome content I’ve seen in a long time. Thanks for addressing this and making us feel human. Dating is not that complicated, yet we can be so focused on the ways we think it works that we might even forget to notice the little signs around us and enjoy the fun of getting uncomfortable and vulnerable.

@shubhamagarwal135

3 ай бұрын

I think dating is best because if it has effort of understanding to each other and respect towards each other

@shubhamagarwal135

3 ай бұрын

And iam person who still believe in understanding someone with effort respect and time and for me emotions are still precious

Take away social media, dating websites, OnlyFans, and let's all, both men & women put our phones DOWN and start glorifying being "Average" and being "Blunt" and honest with what we want that way no one's time is wasted and then maybe, the dating world might have hope in the future.

@vijaya9242

9 ай бұрын

its simple delete exactly those things and smartphone and everyhing normal. So who is going to make that happen?

@xuchilbara21392

7 ай бұрын

It doesn't work like that sadly. People forget that life is BRUTALLY selective. Many many members of humanity didn't even procreate. Many kids have died in famines and many people were born out of wedlock. Our minds have been intoxicated by Disney stories so we think that *happily ever after" is the absolute standard. Newsflash: the standard is, you are born with a certain hand dealt, your genetics and the way you express your genes in the upcoming years will determine what you will look like, the society you actively participate in will decide, if you are attractive or not, your status will determine your financial success. This is the harsh reality we live in. Life isn't a fairy tale, it's a battlefield

@Yggdrasill8

6 ай бұрын

That's not going to happen, in fact it will get much worse with the advent of AGI

@garythecyclingnerd6219

6 ай бұрын

This will never happen

@helialaska

5 ай бұрын

The destruction that all this has caused if ended immediately would take generations to iron out...Wouldn't be just put down your phones and end your accounts and shit goes back to normal. The amount of psychologically damage at this point is astronomical.

Dating in this generation is horrible because everyone is either stuck on their ex, have unrealistic standards, and have an entire roster of people in their contacts. Also, there are a lot of grown adults who aren't good at communication.

@christiansnaturestudio6599

5 ай бұрын

My communication skills are far from perfect throughout my college career, my social skills have massively improved and it was a bumpy process

@9395gb

4 ай бұрын

It's made dating hard and cheating easier. There are so many people who are already in relationships or married who are on dating apps.

@LilXancheX

4 ай бұрын

Welcome to America. The underdeveloped country

@Snofey1

4 ай бұрын

Or they can’t settle down. I hate how everyone these days want ”open relationships” or be ”friends with benefits”. Why is it suddenly so hard to find a normal traditional relationship? 🤦‍♀️

@christiansnaturestudio6599

4 ай бұрын

@Snofey1 I can't even get a hookup, lol 😂 either

I met my husband on Facebook, I traveled to Africa to marry him. We courted online, so we texted, video chat, and talked on the phone. We got to know each other very well, since all we did was talk, and I was able to see his personality, and he mine. He sent me pictures of his grandmother through messenger! We spoke French since that was what they spoke in his country. By talking and not doing all these extracurricular activities that keep you from talking and knowing the person, I got to know my husband enough to trust him to go to Africa and marry him. We are going to be married 2 years at the end of March, and I am currently in Africa with him! I was not looking for anyone, and it just happened.

@gregorteply9034

2 ай бұрын

How long his hose is?

I’ve never once regretted asking a girl for her number but I always regret not asking. I have also never had a negative reaction, and I’ve asked a lot of girls. Just give it a shot dude you got this!!!

@Miserere860

4 ай бұрын

its just not worth it. all the girls in my area seems so boring

@Avareee.

4 ай бұрын

@@Miserere860 That's the thing, 90% of them aren't worth it.

@reaganthai9529

4 ай бұрын

​@Avareee92 yeah fr social media made dating so dumb and both sides have too much of high standards

@TheBrianp1

4 ай бұрын

I don't even need to ask someone out to get a negative reaction.

@user-cz5lj2vx1f

4 ай бұрын

You could also GIVE A GIRL YOUR NUMBER!

I've deleted most of my social media platforms because they were making me unhappy due to what it's become. In terms of dating, there's little to no genuine connection. I've also decided to not chase love cause it has a habit of ending in a ball of flames. The best thing for me to do is just focus on being happy for myself. If love finds me, great. If it doesn't, so be it.

@user-mc1yd9bp5x

8 ай бұрын

@@xXxRoseThornxXx honesty is the best policy

@darassylmoniakam

8 ай бұрын

just find some good friends then instead of forcing yourself

@greganderson2239

7 ай бұрын

I just do me, I don’t even hunt for woman like I used to and seek their validation: total waist of time. Im perfectly fine being single

the key is to never be obsessed with anybody and be confortable with yourself. Self love is the most powerful thing, people will always fail.

@Rochester92G

11 ай бұрын

Self-acceptance*

@iiCounted-op5jx

11 ай бұрын

cope

@arie_lovexi

5 ай бұрын

@@iiCounted-op5jxsthu

@alexvig2369

4 ай бұрын

At 30, I can testify it’s such a waste of time. If you reach that point, might as well quit dating and at least walk away with your dignity.

@christiansnaturestudio6599

4 ай бұрын

Bruh

Wow I wasn't expecting the personal angle at the end. It was beautiful. I'm a hard hearted cynic and I was touched. This is the real thing. Never let it go. Trust me I'm 54 and I know. That doesn't happen often in life. Once if you are lucky. You look super right together.

I'm going to be 37 next week, I've never dated I have Asperger's Syndrome to me--- this is an NT's game that I'll never understand guys throw themselves like bashful idiots, if I like a girl I walk up and see what she's about and I'm relieved to shatter whatever fantasy I somehow got hyped into believing and I can move on with my life. I've only crushed on 5 girls my entire life.

At 33 my dating life is complete. I would rather live whats left of my life with dignity than be in a dysfunctional relationship or run the rat race of dating.

@mrfixit8776

Жыл бұрын

I'm 34 and I never dated...

@Aenygma_

Жыл бұрын

I'm 35 and I put an end to my dating life years ago. Not worth it. I just hire a prostitute to satisfy the need.

@mrfixit8776

Жыл бұрын

@@Aenygma_ Bro I'm almost 35 and I do the same thing... I hire them for intercourse, hire mistresses for fetishes, and go to massage parlors for happy endings... Cheaper than dating any modern self-entitled chick.

@magnisky

Жыл бұрын

@@mrfixit8776 aww I am sorry dude.

@zusk8556

11 ай бұрын

​@@mrfixit8776 When you're done though, do you regret having spent the money? Like post-nut clarity, "shit that was worth $250?"

I am living alone for 7 yrs and couldnt get a quality relationship but i feel happy for the people that find love. If you found it, take care of it cherish it and nurture it.

@RS1xT

Жыл бұрын

You are loved and so naturally you attract it❤️. May your next chapter be fill with love, spicy living hot sex, joyful laughters, cries, living, transformation, elevating to your higher self, and spreading that love. Know that you are chosen to be part of this life & everything you desire YOU CAN have. You’re seeking love, something that’s great for this world, so of course you’re going to experience that. That kind of energy spread😝🤗 Seek it from God with gratitude and before you even ask God, this universe and everyone/everything in it is ready to aid in making your thoughts into a reality.

@danielroque6300

10 ай бұрын

we are in the same boat, are you "me" by any chance?

@SonOfABith

10 ай бұрын

@@magniskythat’s bullshit, stop feeding these people lies.

@SonOfABith

10 ай бұрын

@@RS1xT bullshit. And god doesn’t exist

@darassylmoniakam

9 ай бұрын

thats stupid. i don't take advices from loner

I feel like “work with what you have” is one of the best pieces of advice I ever got. I’ve found that, even though it decreases as we get older, teenage years can gate keep you from meeting people outside your circle for many reasons. I’m currently in sixth form and I’m learning to keep searching outside for clubs etc whilst still accepting the opportunities that I have within my own circle. Although things may disappoint, it’s good to accept the good bits about your current friendships, since they do provide something - just a different level than you want. In those instances, it takes some mental strength to adapt to their level of care so both parties are happy (or leave if they actually suck)

@jenni7493

3 ай бұрын

I relate to this so much as im also in sixth form. I joined a group outside of school when I was in year 10 and it felt like a breath of fresh air. I love my friend group so much, but it’s nice to socialise with different people too :)

I love that you are helping your friends out. Some friends won't take a chance on setting up a friend because of how it could affect them, not considering that it could turn out well for their friend.

@detectiveMM

4 ай бұрын

Yeah, but the way he did it was BS. Having the girl on camera first put so much pressure on her to be nice. No way she thinks he’s a nine going on 10. The I have a boyfriend thing had a good chance of being fake too.

@melissachartres3219

Ай бұрын

He's not really helping his friends out- so much as he's TRYING to help his friends out. The road to h3LL is paved with good intentions. He's full of hopes and dreams- he's not full of realistic plans rooted in historically proven methods.

I hate online dating. IF you're not 98% attractive, you're either gonna get ignored or get likes/messages from the worst low level types.

@ninjapirate123

10 ай бұрын

thats correct

@ahappilydrunkpuppy8961

10 ай бұрын

What is low level types? So let me get this straight so I can understand you better; YOU are ugly, but dont like it when people you find ugly want to message you or talk to you? Your own logic disgusts me

@darassylmoniakam

8 ай бұрын

if i was you i would explain why i look like that and interrogate them about how long this will go

@LUIS-ze9rs

7 ай бұрын

My point exactly couldn’t agree with you more brother

@sadhu7191

7 ай бұрын

Do u see insanely attractove men only dating where you are? The men I see are 6 2 and usually look less attractive then girl amd basic. Like an accessory

I was flirting to someone I found at a dating site , because he was cute. Knowing he lived so far away , I didnt think we would have met. One day he decided to fly to my hometown. Now we've been married for almost 9 years. His action to just see me in person changed everything.

@BFechner

Жыл бұрын

Me too! My husband was a foreign exchange student from Poland living in Southern California doing his graduate degree. I lived in the next county. We never would have met if not for the dating site. Together 7 years and married for 3 years. I now live with him in Poland and we have a baby ;)

@swirvfly

Жыл бұрын

dating is easy for women (if you don’t have delusional standards)

@kamu38

Жыл бұрын

@@spotscorner6040 nailed it.

@user-br3fk8dx8o

Жыл бұрын

@@spotscorner6040 now imagine how many guys have done the exact same thing and got rejected - the survivorship bias is fucking DRIPPPING on some of these comments

@PlayerOneDS

Жыл бұрын

@@chuckycheeser If he didn't he'd be a creep for travelling so far.

confidence is a flow of energy not a mask

Absolutely. Social media has ruined dating but that doesn't mean you should give up. Avoid dating apps and you'll be surprised on how people will be less picky.

@ibomourad1923

Жыл бұрын

Honestly I blame people mostly, yes social media has created this context where you have to be "perfect", and it has rooted itself in people's minds. People are afraid of failure and rejection, but if you don't fail and get rejected, you don't learn and change. Ask any scientist about experiments and they will tell you they rather see failures in the beginning rather than success so that they can void ways of not experimenting that way. Same is true for us, whether being finding new friends or seeking romantic relationships, if you can't find your flaws and reason for rejection, you are not learning.

@ashlynnleray5640

Жыл бұрын

Very true!

@iamyoda1980

Жыл бұрын

Meeting organically can’t be rivaled - it’s what true attraction is all about - the inexplicable. Connection, scent, confidence, a look in the eyes, style, a voice, a laugh. Sorry but can’t outsource something that human to technology.

@therearenoshortcuts9868

Жыл бұрын

it's not that 'They are too picky' sometimes im pretty picky myself LOL

@helenlundeberg

Жыл бұрын

Yeah I think, as a man, an underrated part of dating is trying more in the real world where you have some form of agency as opposed to hoping for a match on some app, where only pictures and a few words are the sole factors. Getting rejected (potentially a lot) is part of the process, it's surprising how rarely people mention this. I've dated people in the real world who wouldn't necessarily have swiped right on an app. And yeah looks do matter but dressing according to your style (doesn't have to be fancy could be streetwear, casual, whatever but it needs to reflect you). Something that took me a long time to figure out : you always need to work on yourself but you're most likely good enough to get going, fear of rejection is normal but shouldn't be crippling.

I think one big problem not addressed here is: Social Anxiety. You can so clearly see how your friend is ridden with social anxiety. I know because I have the same problem sometimes. And let me tell you: You can look like Henry Cavill and still be full of anxiety. There are usually psychological and sometimes even organic reasons for that beyond "feeling or looking good". Some people are anxious their whole life and never realize they're just intolerant to certain food or had some subconcious child trauma or literally thousand other reasons. I think we should address anxiety the same way we address depression and other conditions: methodically with help of modern psychotherapy and medicine.

@LabRat6619

Жыл бұрын

Social anxiety comes from internet and spending too much time using technology to TALK. Having seen life before internet and after, the change in people has been unbelievable!! People used to talk to strangers in the street.

@ExeTheEnhanced

Жыл бұрын

@@LabRat6619 I completely agree. I used to spend a lot of time on the internet and have been doing self improvement over the past 3 months. I've spend more time getting to meet and talking to people in real life that my confidence has gone way up. I'm still less confident than a lot of other people I spend time with, but the amount of confidence I was able to gain in just 3 months is unbelievable. I spent years with social anxiety unable to talk to strangers or get out of my comfort zone without being able to change. I was completely unaware how much change is possible within such a short time if you just work on improving yourself instead of accepting your fate.

@imfinitiamusic.4632

Жыл бұрын

No man, main problem in the west is the Dick Riding generation..... All women in Canada and other western countries, especially white females have 5-6 dicks at reach simply one text message and she is jumping on one.... Why would a man bother wifing up a woman like this?

@jackysanchez5015

Жыл бұрын

Listen man, I get the whole anxiety thing but those things will only worsen if one does not do the neccessary things to improve it. We have access to phones and internet now, right? Why arent people looking for resources to help with their anxiety? There are several videos online to help better it. Maybe we should also address that as a society we spend too much time on our phones looking for garbage content online. Instead of focusing on the things that matter. Moreover, spending so much time in front of our screens have really contributed to isocial anxiety increasing. People lack basic social cues and emotional intelligence overall. All it takes to approach somebody is being kind and smile. Everybody gets nervous, that is normal. People will notice your nervousness and its OKAY. We need to make the necessary steps and the more we do it, the better it gets, I promise you.

@ExeTheEnhanced

Жыл бұрын

@@jackysanchez5015 You're right that there are a lot of resources online to help with social anxiety. Most people with social anxiety are aware of this. The problem is though that knowing the things that are taught in those videos isn't enough. Knowing isn't half the battle. Actually implementing the tips from those videos into your life on a permanent basis is the hard part. Most people with social anxiety lack self discipline and unless they manage to discipline themselves to overcome their fears, they won't be able to just make permanent changes to their life that easily. I'm saying this as someone who finally managed to get through all of that.

People either are afraid to approach or don't know what to do when they are approached.

wow I love the ending of your video because you also applied your experiment to your own life and you actually overcame that fear by taking your chance, which looked like it was a beautiful turned out :) It also prove how much we let fear take away 100 shots we are missing out on rather its on apps or in-person. I feel more inspired to take a chance if I find someone interesting as a potential no matter what the outcome may be.

From someone in a relationship for 16 years...just remember that people change with time and age. Things happen in life out of your control...deaths, illness, kids, job situations, looks. If you're willing to help each other and work through anything that's how people stay together. Don't waste time with people who don't take relationships seriously. And having a sense of humor! The only thing you shouldn't put up with is any form of abuse.

@TheParaxore

Жыл бұрын

Great advice, absolutely true. People need to be able to meet each other where they are in life. When my wife and I first met I was very young still (22) and still was figuring so much things in life. Nearly homeless and not in school and struggling with undiagnosed ADHD. She was patient with me for so long giving me all the support and time I needed to thrive and now I'm doing much better and have gotten much more of it together. Later in the relationship she struggled with depression and anxiety and it was my turn to be the rock and support. Relationships are give and take and you have to give people time to grow sometimes are heal from trauma. As long as they are still fighting for the relationship and responding to your needs when you communicate them you can make it work even in the toughest times.

@auxi-7510

Жыл бұрын

​@@TheParaxore Finally yes, sensible people! Relationships are in fact give and receive and it's crazy to me that people tend to forget that. Being in love with someone isn't just that warm feeling you get, but also involves you and your partner willing to push through the hardships together. Communication plays a big factor into it as well, the lack of communication will only cause more problems, that's why I believe people need to open up with how the feel. Of course not full on trauma dump in one session just open yourself up about issues when the time is right and have a clear and open mind for whatever you or your partner discuss.

@julianmanjarres1998

10 ай бұрын

Kids are generally within your control lol.

@anja5017

9 ай бұрын

Kid are not out of your control lol I DONT WANT KIDS AND WILL MAKE SURE I WILL NEVER HAVE THEM

@joezermoreiraleite1607

5 ай бұрын

@@TheParaxore Yes. Building a relationship requires planning and effort and a lot of communication. People just expect relationships to work miraculously.

Glad to know there’s a real struggle out there. Been single for 9 years, wasted most of those trying to meet people on apps, always ends in ghosting, had a second date once. Didn’t meet anyone for the last three, guess covid didn’t help. Lived in a country I didn’t know the language and had no friends for for the past year on a work secondment. I’m now 35 and pretty unsure of how to get out of this situation. Confidence and experience are both low. Being single this long often just feels like I’m a huge red flag. Feels like I’m starting from scratch

@helenlundeberg

Жыл бұрын

Don't worry bro, you got this.

@huntstyle

Жыл бұрын

I feel you, bro, but you can't give up!

@ceeIoc

Жыл бұрын

You got plenty of time. I'm in your exact shoes at 44. Been single for 4 years. It's a loooong time I almost forgot what it feels like to be in a relationship. I took this time I had though to work on myself and love and accept everything. Now that i'm in a better spot, I can look for someone again. This time i'm joining classes, taking up hobbies, and going to singles events. I have one app left, Hinge which is just a supplement.

@deanVodkahouse

Жыл бұрын

Ive been single for 13 years and that relationship was only for 3 months, I am still an outgoing person and can approach women in bars and clubs but ive not had much luck, it's a real confusing one when you like yourself but others aren't into you enough. I got dates and pulls easier back in the day.

@pedroohm5115

Жыл бұрын

I feel you mate, i've also given up on dating apps for the same reasons and been single for 6 years. It's not easy out there for the average man.

Let go of social media including dating apps about 3 years ago. my view of the world has been a real experience. When you live through a profile, it is merely just another mask atop the mask of the ego. If you want something real, attract real, be being real.

Dating is a lost cause and the only way to find that love you're looking for is through persistence and not giving up. Taking risks and being vulnerable at any moment brings out your character. The dating scene is a passive and unnatural phenomenon whereas expected encounters elite genuine personalities. Keep up your spirits!

@christiansnaturestudio6599

4 ай бұрын

Yeah. Dating should be safe and fun, not feel like you're in World War II

@mrconfusion87

2 ай бұрын

MeToo did NOT help matters at all!

I’m 36 and I really don’t date anymore. At least not like how I used to. It’s too tiring. But I am open to just going out and sharing space with people. I find that when you’re in a natural, neutral space, it’s easier to get to know someone. Might not go anywhere. But still wouldn’t hurt. I’m definitely never going back to dating apps.

@hahahahaha7824

11 ай бұрын

That's how it used to be. A community where you feel like you belong, a place like your home or hangout place, school or church whatever.. but IG and dating apps kinda fucked everything up. People gotta get off SNS and dating apps. It's not for the most.

@mps397

9 ай бұрын

Yep same been doing that for years now myself and I'm completely content.

@temich1985

9 ай бұрын

After you turn 35, all your matches in dating apps are pretty much the leftovers from a cheap buffet.

@dietacomdetox

3 ай бұрын

Here in Brazil this sad reality is the same... many people alone waiting for the perfect person....

@lloydeelloyd

3 ай бұрын

I'm 40 and I'm done with dates

To be honest, I gave up the dating thing and plan to stick to the "single" mindset. People nowadays are so superficial and think they deserve the best man/woman. You get what you deserve, not what you dream. I tried countless of times, took my time to know the person and never worked. For those who are asking themselves "Should I date in 2023?", my advice for you is "No, you should not, instead, focus on yourself and improving your mindsets. Reach your goals."

@Feber2001

Жыл бұрын

Love this.

@TheParaxore

Жыл бұрын

Just don't close yourself off to it if you would like a relationship at some point. I agree you should work on yourself and the right one will be attracted to you. Thats what happened for me at least. I was trying so hard to find a SO and then I just decided to work on my self and focus on self improvement and making platonic friends. This made me feel very comfortable not letting toxic people into my life and not making any concessions. Eventually I found a women who became my best friend, we were nearly inseparable for around 6 months while we had deep conversations with no expectations for romance on either side (Neither of us were dating for the same reason of self improvement). After that time we knew each other so well that I knew she was the one. We've been together for almost 10 years now and its been the best relationship I've ever had. Built on mutual respect and knowledge of each others past. When I finally talked to her about being serious we were both ready and knew we could completely trust each other. So yes focus on yourself and be open to new friends and experiences and you may end up with the relationship you always wanted.

@awesomeness24158

Жыл бұрын

That's just a cope.

@nineonine9082

Жыл бұрын

I've reached all my goals except owning a house, because your not allowed to own one in this day and age with the insane cost.

@seraphim108

Жыл бұрын

I don't get how it has to be either or. You can work on yourself while dating, of course, if your going through hell, it would be better to avoid dating completely until things get better.

No, it's too late. The choices were already made, the dating market is exactly what people chose. Nothing less, nothing more.

I appreciate you showing the perspective of dating in the 90's and pre dating apps versus people now. Even the older guy seemed so much more eloquent than the younger generations. Very telling

I've been single since 2018, Feb. 2018. That same year I started the gym, a business, travel, my raptors won the championship in 2019 lol etc. etc. My life has been INSUMOUNTABLY better since I stopped playing society's game. 5 years later and I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt, be your own person, work on yourself, heck take yourself out. When was the last time any of you took yourself out for steak, mashed potatoes or lasagna lol go on weekend trips and pamper yourself! And above all, work on your spirituality, you will not regret it!

@theworldisimmense

Жыл бұрын

It’s true and I know where you coming from. I basically did that all my 20s and I’m 29 now and as years go by , you do realize as a human being, you have this need and there’s nothing wrong with it in having a relationship with a girl you have some connection/vibe with and spending quality time together. It’s really a good feeling . My few relationships I had was when I was 15 then at 18 for a few months then at 23 for a year and a half. After that been always single and sleeping around here and there but then I realize it wasn’t my thing and that I’m a relationship guy

@j6873

Жыл бұрын

I can relate. My last relationship was 2018 as well. Since then I just focused on myself and self development. Through just focusing on myself, i met a girl who was interested in me. She asked me out and now we’re dating.

@Turnpost2552

Жыл бұрын

Gross My raptors, you make it sound like you sleep with basketball players.

@TokioTE

11 ай бұрын

Spirituality yes

@THunt-ss4hy

3 ай бұрын

Sounds miserable and lonely. Giving me cat lady vibes

Also seems to stem from people generally feeling unhappy in themselves. This unhappiness is held within a relationship. Once they have a relationship and the buzz has worn off they realise they are unhappy so blame their partner. Get yourself sorted out first, because your partner can't fix your unhappiness.

When he met that girl in a long distance, that so relatable 😭 I understand the joy so well

Dudeeee that surprise for her birthday at the end was amazing.... I've started watching your videos, and love your energy and personality. Keep it up, greetings from Italy!!

I was in a long distance relationship once. Planned on flying to Europe and surprising her for valentines day. Turned out she had already met someone else who was richer or whatever. Luckily she told me before I booked flights.

@starrilysky

9 ай бұрын

I had a long distance boyfriend, I was willing to wait long for us to meet and was excited to have my first kiss with him and everything. Then he said he wanted to have the possibility of meeting other girls and ghosted me. Completely put me off from long distance.

@TheLmfaodyl

9 ай бұрын

@@starrilysky That's an awful situation to be in. Completely understand why that would put you off ever wanting to do the long distance again. I'm in the same boat as yourself. Either break up on good terms before one goes the distance or discuss potential Polyamory (open) relationship.

@theanonymousasmrchanelguid2620

6 ай бұрын

Y’all should be in a relationship.

@dietlindvonhohenwald448

3 ай бұрын

Sounds like you dodged a bullet there.

The woman’s last words at the end are everything: you have to be happy with what you’ve got. A relationship won’t help you fix your relationship with yourself. No amount of being with someone can make you happy on its own, you need to make your own happiness. What can be scary is leaning into the power and freedom of being single. You feel like you don’t need anyone any more. It’s a liberation, and intoxicating. Curiously it’s that kind of non-needy energy that attracts people.

@Flo2

Жыл бұрын

Dude thats it! I am such a non-needy person but if I want to, I could have a girlfriend most of the time realistically. I am very grateful for that although I did not find the one for me. One of my best friends is pretty needy and he struggles in getting any girl at least...

@louisdewit4429

Жыл бұрын

Basically … you’re both lonely. Ok.

@TheParaxore

Жыл бұрын

100% this, work on yourself and when you feel content and are making good progress you will attract other likeminded people who strive to be the best they can be and are not afraid to admit when they are wrong. This is how I met my wife of nearly 10 years and its been the best relationship in my life.

@cathie3874

Жыл бұрын

It’s the attitude to everything. You don’t need to be happy about every outcome, but you have to accept that you can’t get a lot of things. But you will get some things. So be content with what you have.

@Flo2

Жыл бұрын

@@TheParaxore I am so happy to hear that!

I‘ve had a wonderful experience with dating to be honest. I started dating 11 years ago, at 15. Met amazing guys in real life (sports club, uni) and had 3 great relationships in 5 years. They didnt work out, but that was totally fine. Then I met my boyfriend, we‘ve been together for 6 years, he‘s the love of my life and I will marry him. For me they key was always meeting in real life, no online dating, and always thinking of what i can do FOR HIM, not what he can do for me. Wishing you all that you find a love like I found❤

I feel like biggest problem is related to what your 1st friend said after he asked the girl out. "I feel like she's a such a good person" what almost implies: "She's too good for me".

@Avareee.

4 ай бұрын

Low self esteem

Multiple reasons: -Women's standards in men have skyrocketed due to dating apps. Average women no longer date average men unless they're desperate. -Modern feminism have made women more combative and masculine, telling them to put their career first before a family. -Certain types of insane or hostile women seen in social media clips makes alot of guys too nervous to approach as they don't want to get labeled as a "creep". -Pornography and video games addiction has destroyed the incentive for many men to approach and interact with women in real life. -Alot of men are simply too scared to approach due to some women online saying "don't approach us". -Alot of men have gone down the "black pill" rage where they basically resent women for not choosing them.

@nineonine9082

Жыл бұрын

Just gotta correct you, black pill rage is not a thing, it is red pill rage, black pill is when you come to accept the **** of the world, sorry just had to I am a bit of MGTOW. Black pill is good if you handle it well, but Red Pill rage is a real and bad thing, if you let it destroy you, you will be a angry terrible person that no one likes.

@JenX422

Жыл бұрын

Average women now have been forced into the workforce and have had to buy homes alone, plan retirement savings alone, invest alone so they simply want a partner that is at least an equal financially and serious minded. Prior, women were (for the most part) provided for by the man. Now that women are having to slave as well, they expect a man who is at least at their level.

@nineonine9082

Жыл бұрын

@@JenX422 Equality doesn't sound so good now it would seem, having to finally put in some effort yourself, you could swap women with men and what you said pretty much remains the same in the current economic state, but women will sure want my resources anyway, the best women will understand that both will likely be financially independent, just working together for things like food and housing, maybe holidays. You make a point for good women, but many want a man who earns MORE then them and will provide for them, go on a date, good luck finding one who will pay for you, 25% chance of getting someone who will split, 65% will expect the man to cover and 10% will break all normal logic.

@Key_Di19

Жыл бұрын

The blackpillers resent their own looks for not being chosen.

@GurlPlz4321

Жыл бұрын

@@JenX422 I agree

There is a dichotomy which noone is aware of. A) On one side you have a group of people which feel they are spoiled for choice so it may cause choice paralysis, frustration and continuous search for a better option. So these people may always doubt their date if there's something better and B) The other group are people who despite the seemingly limitless options they are unable to even get one date, because perhaps they don't qualify as suitable enough partners for the current standards of society. So these people are left without a very basic human need, intimacy, affection and a sense of self validation. It's certainly a very severe social issue like poverty, inequality, etc. that goes completely undetected

@DarrinSK

5 ай бұрын

I guess everyone needs to let up off of incels then

@AworldAgainstHateSpeech

4 ай бұрын

It goes deeper than 99% of people realize. The truth has been lost to the winners of history, the world is being systematically destroyed from the inside out, it’s been getting worse every decade. Generations of the most wealthy, the most sick and twisted, the most depraved rulers of the world have turned it into a breeding ground for hate. They sow dissent into everyone. every culture, religion, and country is pitted against each other in a battle to the death without the inhabitants even realizing it. For example, everyone is so busy fighting whites and their supposed privileges that they don’t even see how their own race is being ethnically cleansed in the background, they don’t see how the destruction of white people is just the beginning of the destruction of everyone on earth. If you want to fight it, you have to put aside your differences and unite against a common enemy, the politicians and business that run your country and their schemes to make sure you stay segregated and suffer the wrath of crippling debt and isolation from the people and things you care about. What’s more important, the color of your skin and the spread of a culture that already exists and thrives in its own place of origin, or the survival and respect of all cultures regardless of their artificially inflated privileges and more importantly, their people

@zenden6564

3 ай бұрын

That is an intelligent and polite description of the current basic dichotomy. If a young man feels strongly enough about marriage he should go overseas for it. Western women are as a general rule, not especially feminine, extremely prone to divorce and frankly not pleasant to come home to. In our base social mores, it is highly consumerist, impulse control is disparaged in favour of encouraging endless gratification. Of course it's all a form of degeneracy. In our post-1970's culture, self discipline is not admired and praised (except perhaps in sport). Women are not absolutely necessary for an ambitious man to achieve fulfilment. Of course MSM promotes women as morally better then men. And women don't want unambitious men. There's another dichotomy.

Here's an idea: All of the single people stay off of your phones when you're out in public so you can actually catch someone's eye and start conversations. You know, the old fashioned way.

@Avareee.

4 ай бұрын

Not only cell-phones but a lot of people run around with headphones/earbuds on.

@Mmmmkaaay

4 ай бұрын

@@Avareee. Yes but with headphones, you can still make eye contact. We all used Walkmans back in the 90s listening to music. It's the head being down looking at a phone that is the problem.

@christiansnaturestudio6599

4 ай бұрын

Agreed 👍🏼 💯

@Avareee.

4 ай бұрын

@@Mmmmkaaay Doesn't make it good. It's a distraction. Takes away your hearing ability.

@mazengwe28

4 ай бұрын

​@@MmmmkaaayIt's a bit different than carrying around a walkman or discman because most women are into earbuds and have their hair over their ears so you can't tell without staring.

That vid was packed full of goodness.... thanks for sharing. Peace and Love, B Goat

Its not just about rejection. Its also a lot of social media narratives that scare guys into asking out girls.

@MiroTheHero7

Жыл бұрын

Facts, I literally don’t want to approach or even look at a girl because of the fear that I’ll look like a creep or a pervert.

@sselemaNrM

Жыл бұрын

MeToo has definitely made a lot of guys more scared.

@dennisjungbauer4467

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, I'm just 165cm (5'5") and I think I'd be more confident would I not have read so much about girls wanting tall men. Most girls I know are my height or smaller, so I wouldn't have expected that to be a problem. Trying to ignore this, not much I can do, but it's in the back of my mind.

@dmystfy

Жыл бұрын

@@dennisjungbauer4467when they get older and realize they were too picky you’ll be appealing. In the meantime, focus on yourself. Get your self esteem, self love, hobbies, and finances together and you were surely find the one right for you.

@Turnpost2552

Жыл бұрын

@@dmystfy Try not to get to happy based on someone elses misery, that never really works for a good person never wants to see someone else suffer. I would say focus on yourself and level up make friends and look better as well. Try again there are poepel with condition and mentalhandicap physical handicap its not a one size fits all equation out there.

I never drank, didn't have many friends or a social life during college. Mix that with relocating to new states/cities for jobs. I was feeling depressed as the apps weren't panning out the way I expected. Many people around me were already in relationships from people they knew. I went on a few dates but nothing ever panned out. Fast forward, I'm 31 and have a daughter. Of all the places I met my wife inside a Laguardia Airport terminal in NYC (we both live in Dallas). Never thought in my lifetime I would meet anybody in the circumstance. Life works in strange ways. Keep your head up and don't miss the world looking at your phone.

@DuckisLS

Жыл бұрын

Hey! Could you please elaborate a bit more on what "I met my wife inside an Airport terminal" looks like? Did you approach her first because you find her attractive? Or did you just awkwardly bump into each other?

@TokioTE

11 ай бұрын

​@@DuckisLS I'm also curious to know

@zoolmanv5477

10 ай бұрын

Good advice on the phone thing

@Subhuman5season

6 ай бұрын

I’m 5’10 I’m not meeting anyone bro lol it’s over

@christiansnaturestudio6599

5 ай бұрын

I wish more women would spend less time on their iPhones and more time smelling the fresh air of nature and great people around them

Thank you for going out shedding light on this topic

That last part when you saw your LDR made me smile so much

For most men, when rejection is all you know why would you expect anything else? Isn’t a definition of insanity repeating the same action and expecting a different result?

@PlayerOneDS

Жыл бұрын

'Love yourself bro'.

@nineonine9082

Жыл бұрын

@@PlayerOneDS If I love myself, why do I need someone else to love, or love me, I already do it myself.

@justinfitzpatrick013

10 ай бұрын

No. That's a quote falsely attributed to Einstein and Ben Franklin. It's just made up out of thin air

@cryaboutit7499

10 ай бұрын

Rejection is apart of life.

@migueld5227

10 ай бұрын

@@cryaboutit7499 a part

The first girl was spot on it’s better to be friends… doesn’t mean the friend zone, they’re very different things. Just getting to know people makes it easier, meeting at the bar I wouldn’t agree with but starting an after work activity is what you should do to help you to build yourself socially and confidently.

@MrKrushgutz

Жыл бұрын

Being friends first is fine if you both already find each other attractive

@sselemaNrM

Жыл бұрын

It definitely is.. but imagine dating someone and then after the first date she says, "lets just be friends." I get turned off by that. I've been in situations where I keep trying and I get signals that she likes me, but I end up getting used and its a waste of time.

@smokeyson1887

Жыл бұрын

being friends and dating ( getting to know eachother) is different boss man

@huntstyle

Жыл бұрын

Very fine line with the friend thing. I've been friend-zoned in the past, and I try to avoid that now. Once you're there, there's no getting out. You can take things slow, but there needs to be that attraction, there needs to be some sexual tension from the jump.

@theworldisimmense

Жыл бұрын

@@MrKrushgutz to an extent. I always say this , the best way to know someone is when you both are already dating and getting into a relationship. You get to know more about each other and more intimacy. When a guy and girl are friends first, the guy will usually put a persona and will try anything to qualify for her so basically he will be political correct

Damn I've no idea how I always end up on your videos, but you've done a good job to pique my interest, from talking to strangers, to hugging people, it's all good.

Great video will. The production, the edits and what a positive message to bring to people. You should be proud of this video. Hope you and your friend finds love.

I am 44. I used to do dating online way back in the early 2000s when it was just about meeting new people and it was actually better then than it is now. I hate meeting people online these day. I have never met so many weirdos before in my life! I rather meet people organically but once again social media just made people really socially awkward. When I do meet someone, I do not invest my time in a date. I do a nice meet up for coffee/tea and from there I can depict if the person is a nut job…lol! I do not invest in dates anymore unless the person and I have hit it off really well when we did the meet up. I don’t know…dating is just way harder than what it was years ago.

@melissagarza2376

Жыл бұрын

😂😂 nut job

@steveh5307

Жыл бұрын

I'm 43 and most don't even respond back. The few who do are either fake accounts (Idk why anyone would even do this) who send me unsolicited/too good to be true msgs, or trainwreck with teenage kid(s). I don't wanna do the whole "shut tf up! you ain't my dad!" thing. I shudder at the thought. I make $160k, 6ft, and getting my house built on my land. I'm stable, presentable, and everybody likes me. I'd say I'm an avg dude and if I had to rate myself, a 5 or a 6 if I wear a suit. But women 5 and higher are always looking at 2-3 levels higher than them. They need to just drop their expectations and not live in the clouds. I'm almost thinking about changing all my profile pics to flexing my cash. I don't wanna meet anyone who got interested because of what I have, but at this point, I might as well.

@krapivakrapiva7871

Жыл бұрын

@@steveh5307 when you're 43, most women of your age would have children

@ranjittyagi9354

Жыл бұрын

@@steveh5307 Steve, I am 46. I read your words twice and slowly. Let me just say this- you're spot on with everything. Yes, because you're doing good financially, it'd be helpful to "use" your cash these days. Not at all encouraging you to keep blowing tons of it but yeah, it's gonna come in handy, particularly NOW. Society has changed so much all of a sudden and if we don't do it now, when would be a good time! I understand you're mature and definitely way more than me since I have some other issues that have smacked me hard in the brain but felt like writing to you feeling an instant connection. Wish you best, be safe. God bless you and all of us to become better folks. 🙏

@ranjittyagi9354

Жыл бұрын

@@krapivakrapiva7871 I didn't get what your observation has to do with Steve though. Also, he's 43. While I'd agree most 43 year old women would have kids, Steve would definitely know what he wants. It's just that he's done with his observations for the most part and is contemplating his future moves. There's no reason to believe he'd be looking out for folks only 40 or so. It could be younger girls. He's financially stable, just hasn't "used cash" to attract girls. Np. At just 43, he can do it now. I see no issues here. I am 46 and would do the same after facing the same issues as he did. I am financially stable, 6 feet tall and not a lout. Respect for other humans never waned in me, it's just that folks like him and me are fed up with these nonsensical games. Best wishes.

Biggest thing. Stop watching the Hub guys. I tell you it changes u so much and some y’all might have withdraws but this weird thing happens to where your brain flips a switch and you’re actually putting your life together and wanting to socialize after like a month. It’s really amazing and I just look at trees now and feel happiness. Life is so beautiful when you really take in life and not these quick dopamine highs

@markn9619

Жыл бұрын

the hub? pornhub you mean?

Hey @sprouht I absolutely loved this video and think you captured it in a nutshell. A lot of people have a hard time, communicating externally, and just stick to their phones all the time so thank you for getting such a wide spectrum of opinions from so many different people and I also wanted to ask you if you can do a video on women in their 40s who are single parents or single moms rather who are having a hard time dating and ask them the same questions, and also ask menaround the same age why it’s so hard to date single moms or what is there is not desirable about women in their 40s just because you seem to have a diverse selection of people so it would be nice to see that

I've hit 70. When I was a youngish man. Dating or "going out" as we used to say in the UK had it's diffiulties but people weren't neurotic about it. I thought dating apps and modern technology would make getting together much easier for young people. Obviously not. I never asked a woman out because they met a list of requirements. Just if I fancied them.

@hahahahaha7824

11 ай бұрын

An abundance of choice is not always a blessing. It definitely did the opposite for most men. Women can pick out the top 10% and they eventually get dumped after sex but that's after they have already wasted their 20s and 30s.

@life4trinity

5 ай бұрын

@@hahahahaha7824 It's true. Why would a woman date a guy who looks worse, makes less money, is less skillful, basically worse in every way than one of the 100 dudes she saw from the list. It's literally like throwing out resumes that aren't as good as the other. Extremely toxic and horrible way to date.

@Mmmmkaaay

4 ай бұрын

I think it's because when you meet someone in person you can totally get a vibe whether good or bad. But when you're on an app, people are literally only choosing for what the person looks like on a 2D surface. There's no sense of personality or charm or how they smell or how they laugh or how they put their hair to one side in a sexy way that gets you going. It truly is like shopping for a human being and it's creepy.

@DanFan2042

4 ай бұрын

Couldn't agree more.

@WARnTEA

3 ай бұрын

@@life4trinity The worst part is that women are only attracted to the 1% top guys, and the only reason those guys are so attractive to them is because they treat women like objects. Those 1% of men also have an abundance of choices, they have no reason to settle down with a girl. So you've got all these girls that go around thinking that all men suck, when they haven't even given most of the normal guys a chance. Or worst case scenario, the woman success at locking the 1% man down, but then she tries to change him because he isn't treating her well, or because he cheats with another girl (since its hard to break habits, and the top 1% have gotten in the habit of fucking around). The same reason that drove her to desire the guy ends up being the same reason for the divorce.

I gave up on dating. Because there is no love, trust or respect in relationships anymore. I am almost 50 and I am not the best looking or in great shape. But I try to have a good heart and care for others. But I will not be in a relationship with someone who doesn't care about anyone else but themselves. I have met too many selfish and self centered people. That is why I am single. I wish everyone else the best of luck.

There's nothing wrong with having standards but at the same time, never or don't settle for less you don't deserve, or think you should deserve.

I think also one of the reasons dating feels impossible is because people don't even know why they're dating anymore. The point of dating is to find someone reasonable that you can start a family with. That immediately means concessions and compromises have to be made. If you don't want a family why not try to swing for the fences and who cares if you're forever alone. Also the point of dating is to one day to not to date. It doesn't seem like people are interested in that. They seem to want to serial date until they die or something. Again this just leads to people not compromising and finding someone good enough.

@minty000

10 ай бұрын

Bingo! The whole problem with dating in this day and age is what is the end goal. If there's no end goal, then you just keep dating forever.

@marcoscabezolajr.8408

8 ай бұрын

@@minty000 instant gratification, sex before a true relationship is established which only really is secure at marriage if done correctly, is why. So many people want sex but they don't want compromises and years of developing a relationship

@jane_7777

3 ай бұрын

I agree 💯 percent.

@shirleyashanti3031

3 ай бұрын

Some might just want friends and not looking for a lifetime mate right away. Dating has become too exclusive, so people feel trapped and might shy away from that. If you're looking only for a mate to settle down with, that certainly should be communicated early. The lack of becoming friends with similar interests or goals is a lost art.

@rathelmmc3194

3 ай бұрын

@@shirleyashanti3031 In my opinion men and women can't be friends. There's always something that gums up the platonic nature of the relationship (even if its just the spouse of one of them).

Man I’m really old! The guy who said the last time he went on a date was 1999…I was married for 11 years and the father of three by then. I would say dating has never been easy, though. Each generation has had their own challenges. And a man’s fear of rejection is as old as time itself.

@prussiansocietyofamerica

Жыл бұрын

Pointless comment.

@tomnietz4158

Жыл бұрын

Wow! The answers I heard in your discussion was nothing like dating in my time early 1960’s. I asked girls at the beach for a phone number and nobody said no. I never had luck at bars, I think because then bars attracted desperate women, I hate desperate. Met girls working at the university but quickly found they were too popular, remember in those days college was 80% men. Finally, we had a birthday party at my rental house with 7 college guys and went next door to a small apartment building and wrote down the names of girls living there off the mail box. In those days telephone books listed name, phone number and address so it was easy to make contact. We invited a bunch of girls over to the BD party and none refused. And that’s how I met my wife. After a few months, I could she she wasn’t going to give up on me so I stopped seeing anyone else. She and I never went on a real date until after we were engaged. Life was certainly different then.

@prussiansocietyofamerica

Жыл бұрын

@@tomnietz4158 Vimmin are now hateful pricks who need to be punched in the face repeatedly.

@alexnothing7930

11 ай бұрын

Dating back then seems quite different compared to now, wow!

The ending is so sweet and touched

I agree, dating today is nearly impossible

I may be old-fashioned but I think the internet and dating sites/apps encourage people to put their best face forward to the extent that they are not accurately portraying themselves whether they realize it or not. I met my wife and got to know her face to face. We were good friends for years and I knew her well before I decided to ask her out. That personal element of getting to know folks in the real world and seeing how they interact with you and others is important and is all too easy to gloss over when the approach to dating is online.

@GracePK1929

9 ай бұрын

I agree. I tried online dating, but my best relationships have been with men that approached me in person or already knew me.

@9395gb

7 ай бұрын

True but a lot of these American men are acting weak and immature and don't seem to know how to act around women. It's kind of embarassing. Also they watch way too much porn and have unrealistic standards. A lot of men think they have a ton of options for love and relationships when the reality is they just don't. I had a guy friend who was nerdy and insecure blowing up chances with gorgeous and successful women. He refused to work out, be nice and get on the level of these women. He would end up mistreating high quality women and then he would complain how he couldn't find anyone. Lol. I think most women started checking out of the dating scene. They are either single, some are looking for men overseas, some are becoming sexually fluid, and some are becoming lees feminine due to the way modern American men are acting.

@marcoscabezolajr.8408

3 ай бұрын

Old fashioned should be the way dam it

@dmace81

2 ай бұрын

You were extremely lucky she didn't get with someone before you did.

@mattalley4330

2 ай бұрын

@@dmace81 Possibly. No approach to dating is perfect. That is a risk I was willing to take and do not regret it now. To each his/her own. Cheers

I was born and raised in Montreal but have been in Ghana for the past year taking care of my dad. Your videos have helped me so much man. Such amazing content!

@confused_plant6539

Жыл бұрын

I was also born and raised in MTL and am now out on my own living and working in another country, these videos help me a lot with the homesickness! Sending you love :)

@pabloescobarschanclas

Жыл бұрын

sending my best to you and your dad!

As someone who is the only single member of my friend group (and have been for nearly 10 years), going into public to date more “naturally” while being totally alone, really makes me look like a loner, and people generally don’t like the loners😂. Lost 65 lbs, educated myself (still educating myself on how to be a better version of myself), own a house, have a career… But man, not being 6ft tall, and being in my mid 30s has really been a hurdle.

@SirenaSpades

4 ай бұрын

I'm older than you, and doing the same thing. I don't need to lose weight but I own a house and it's not easier for women, we wait for men to ask us out. This used to be easy before the internet. Now apparently men don't have the guts to do it in public. Please, be the guy that does. Ask women out everywhere.

Suggestion from a woman: Instead of asking a woman for her number, GIVE HER YOUR NUMBER. The man I loved for 20+ years, I reached out to him. He always(only half- jokingly) said "I;m the shyiest man in the world!"--and he also said if I hadn 't asked him out, we'd never have gotten together. Only CANCER ended our wonderful relationship. a year ago...& I still miss him terribly.

@manfredschmalbach9023

4 ай бұрын

Should he not be "her type", no matter too short, too skinny, too whatever, giving out his own number "unwantedly" would be seen as harassment - or worse. You girls have set up a system since Harvey's lynching in 2017 within which You are the only ones to actually approach whoever You want to talk to Yourselves. Men can't do that any more. Meh2 and all those toxic, misandist ideas emerging from it, no matter where You look at - men can't do the first step any more.

@LM-nu3em

3 ай бұрын

Bless you

@WARnTEA

3 ай бұрын

I understand why you wouldn't understand but this is pretty bad advice. Women do not initiate contact with men, most girls are only attracted to men that do all of the work. The girl will not call or text him if a man gives her his number. Better advice is to not treat asking for a number/social as the only reason for approaching a woman, you will leave a much better impression if you spend some time talking/asking questions before and after asking for their number. The number should almost be an after thought.

@mikhailabunidal9146

3 ай бұрын

Sorry for your loss

@loislee2895

3 ай бұрын

This is horrible advice

You're doing good work, bro. Being born way before the social media high, I really dislike the idea of online dating because its just become swipe swipe swipe ego boost. Young people, just meet organically, let it flow.

The days before we were really hooked on social media were amazing! Before the dopamine and the algorithm.... we were so present with each other, gas was cheap so we drove everywhere. Jokes were funnier because PC culture didn't ruin humor. no one texted because it cost like 10c per text at least so we would talk on the phone for hours and hours. sit in cars and listen to music, go on walks, dates, hang out in groups. it was the best! you met friends through friends. it was simpler times and we were just so much more present and content. we did stuff instead of sitting in the house playing on screens.

The problem: We’re (and by that I mean I’m) too self-centered. Relationships start when one person shows their genuine interest in another. I’m single because I haven’t put in the work to find it within myself to relinquish some control and let it be entirely about another person for a minute or an hour or a day. I unfortunately don’t see this changing any time soon, and in my head it’s all doubting and hoping my dream partner will materialize from thin air and show the kind of interest in me that I doubt I’d be able to show her. ie: yet another case of debilitating fear and too much time spent in front of a metaphorical mirror instead of exploring what’s behind it.

Kind of just leaves a scar on your mind that you are never good enough, so you just have to shut the outside off and keep working on yourself until you are.

It just really feels impossible. It feels like I have no chance no matter how much I try to improve myself and make myself better it is never enough. People tell me to "Go out and talk to people" as I do and then I just get ignored or become invisible. I do the online thing and that doesn't work I don't have the looks. You can't just "be confident" when you've been put down all the time. After getting ghosted so much and ignored and not being able to get into a relationship for reasons I can't control I pretty much feel like giving up on dating...

@TurboFist0

Жыл бұрын

Judging from your profile pic and the videos on your channel, I can PROMISE you that your looks are definitely not the issue my dude. You have great facial structure with hollow cheeks, a great chin, and a good head of hair all of which makes for a handsome face overall. Also, a lot of guys would kill to have your physique. I don't want to sound like an a**hole, but when people like you who are quite good looking and in great shape say they struggle with getting dates it's very hard for me to believe.

@toastertoaster342

Жыл бұрын

@TurboFisto Well I've definitely been single 23 years. If it's not face it's definitely height. I'm only 5'8 in an area people are taller than average. Dating apps I get 0 likes. In the bar I've had guys want to talk to me but no girls. I think that was only because of physique but many girls don't seem to care about things that you can change like building muscle. They care about genetics for offspring like national geographic. I'm going to read books on how to approach people better but I don't think that's it though. Being ever so slightly socially awkward wouldn't have me single for 23 years, would it? I really hope I'm wrong but experience and maybe bad luck points to me being right.

@TurboFist0

Жыл бұрын

@@toastertoaster342 Not gonna lie the height could be an issue for some women, but I think you make up for it with your looks. Keep forcing yourself into social situations and trying to overcome the social awkwardness/anxiety. Also, you're only 23! I know it sucks right now not getting attention from women in your age range, but they're all either just hooking up with randoms from college or going after older dudes. The women you have to deal with now (18-23) are immature and lack any kind of idea of what they want in life. I'm 29 and I didn't really have success dating until about 2 years ago. Once you're near my age and you continue the self improvement route, you will have a much better chance of finding someone. Women typically won't even entertain a guy that's younger than them, so your only options now are college girls and as I said earlier and everyone knows, they don't a give a f*ck about serious relationships at that age. Once your dating pool opens up to include women who are post-college and want to settle down, then you will see a lot more success. Keep at it and don't get discouraged with the circumstances as they are. Good luck brotha.

@toastertoaster342

Жыл бұрын

@@TurboFist0 Thank you so much! I will keep trying.

@Rebecca.xoxoxo

Жыл бұрын

@@toastertoaster342 judging from your profile picture, you strike me as someone who may be on the spectrum. Is it possible that you have Asperger’s syndrome? If that’s the case, that would explain your dating troubles.

I've always loved the idea of doing activities together and bonding over a shared interest as a date. I do best in that scenario. I wish more people were into that. Also these parks you go to to interview people seem like a great place to meet someone in real life.

Maaaan, what a video, loved it! Glad the ending turned out great🎉

NO MORE AFFECTION, IT’S NOW ALL ABOUT ME , ME ,ME. NO MORE WE.

The whole concept of compartmentalising romance, of meeting people with the specific intention of finding a partner, is so impossible for me to embrace. I only ever fell in love with women I knew for some time as friends or coworkers, because that way I got to know their real personality over long term and in different situations. With intentional dating, people put the getting together part first and already have a relationship before they know much about each other. This just feels so terrifying to me. I can't be physically intimate with a girl before I'm emotionally intimate. It also inherently creates shared experiences and just feels like so much better of a foundation than just, well, looking for a relationship and then picking the favorite option. That sounds like shopping to me. Maybe I'm a hopeless romantic, but I'd rather have life write a beautiful story for me than just picking one on Amazon.

@robertadavello443

11 ай бұрын

I think exactly the same: I used dating apps for a year more or less, but I always felt unconfortable about the fact that the goal is knowing for having a relationship (any kind of) and not only to meet new people. So it put on me a lot of pressure in trying to be "cool", and I got stressed about it 😂 I need a little bit of time to feel confortable around new people, and to express myself at (almost) 360°. so definetly I can say that I'm not a dating apps person

@samrosendahl392

10 ай бұрын

Good luck with that. Only disaster has ever struck going for girls with common experience.

@Tempusverum

8 ай бұрын

@@samrosendahl392if you have common interests and they still aren’t interested that’s on them. Frigid lesbians

@Ihavehadmanynames7779

6 ай бұрын

Everything that can go wrong absolutely does go wrong!

@zenden6564

3 ай бұрын

Spoken like a true gentleman. However women do not love men the way men love women. Never forget that. Young women love love and falling for their dream-boat. Usually Chad or Tyrone. By thirty yo they are getting down tintacks and will give a beta-provider a chance. The fly in the ointment is, you are never going to be, or will never be her "first choice". The Will Smith dilemma with Jada Punkett Smith. Jada is an alpha widow. And that dear sir, with a lot of window dressing, is how the sh*t generally goes down in the West these days. Just sayin' , you aren't ever going "to make her happy"...but you might get a couple of kids out of it.

Bro you are doing big things, respect and love for that. The world definitely needs more love and light