They never get help because they do not have to. This world caters to and rewards their disgusting behavior.

@jessicabailly2916

3 ай бұрын

True 😢

@ProfessorElb

3 ай бұрын

Even if they do "get help" they are too emotionally stunted to make use of it

“ the lion is most handsome when looking for food “ ~ Rumi

@mygirldarby

11 ай бұрын

What's interesting is that the lion just lays around while a group of lioness are the hunters. After making a kill, the lioness group backs off and the pretty boy lion gets up from his lounging and takes his share. Only after he finishes do the females eat and then any young lions eat. Talk about a narcissist!

@MysticalDragonFly

11 ай бұрын

@@mygirldarby yup exactly, like narcissistic lays around not lifting finger only expecting females make living for them 😓

Envy is the key word here. Most abused and neglected people experience passive aggressiveness, but they know that self love and self observation can help one gain control and confidence. The narc needs recognition and is envious-stay away from envious people. At work, don’t make small talk- don’t share your hobbies….don’t brag or else you’re dead 💀 🔪

@bebedulce9986

Ай бұрын

💯

I made the mistake of telling the covert that they were a narcissist after discard. Now she’s an Empath and life coach, with no background in the field. 😂 She’s acting like me now.

@christinarodriguez8194

11 ай бұрын

I made the same mistake and now they are trying to be empathic and giving advice on relationship reddit with my words 😅. I've finally realized I spoon feed by talking too much and go into details... while they remain quiet and also don't "recall" much. Only the bits that are useful to their choice of narrative 😅. I'm like I'm not longer going to be a narcissistic supply... hadn't considered how much they mimic me and use my words. But I have to give myself grace...the whole situation is messy and I'm holding strong otherwise... while they're working on things/therapy 😬

@vickiezaccardo1711

11 ай бұрын

😆

@vickiezaccardo1711

11 ай бұрын

@@christinarodriguez8194 I finally got the full effect yesterday when I heard one incorporate one of my early childhood traumas into their experience. In a way its almost funny, but not. I swear they have a kaleidoscope memory, and it is a real mish_ mosh of a mess.

@thendebele

11 ай бұрын

Lmao 😂😂😂

@anne48503

11 ай бұрын

They do mirror but they cannot really hold on to true empathy for others.

I’m happy to leave behind the version of myself I was when I was with the narcissist. I’m not that person anymore. He’s free to mimic her all he wants. 🤷🏽‍♀️

@almondmilksoda

10 ай бұрын

Yes! This is the way I'm looking at it, too. That version of me is long gone. 👋🏻

@nadinesoussi7352

3 ай бұрын

Yes exactly move on ,never to look back .

@DoHisProphetsNoHarm

2 ай бұрын

This!!!!! ❤🎉

So, profoundly sick that it can only be called psychotic psychopathy. The stealing not only of someones life but their identity and their soul.

Outstanding description of the covert narcissist. They take and take but they will forever remain as the miserable, unhappy creatures that they are without a soul, heart or conscience. I sometimes wonder if the covert narc is ever human. They continue to disintegrate and destroy themselves unfortunately.

@futureofmoney3527

11 ай бұрын

This is it: they are deeply troubled, but try so hard to appear light and breezy. They can flip to faux empath when required.

@kkeiter

4 ай бұрын

They self sabotage sadly and mostly just want to whine. EXTREMELY entitled

@reaperrobb1523

3 ай бұрын

It's not unfortunate. What's unfortunate is that they even existed

The one thing that has always astonished me is how such an insane person is able to convincingly pull off a mask of sanity and convince almost everyone of their illusion! Its as if they are emotionally insane but cognitively intact so they can scheme and carry out their insanity with an extraordinary callousness, it almost becomes an advantage to them to lack empathy. Scary stuff.

@PennyDavis-cm9tl

2 ай бұрын

You just described it perfectly. This person I had contact with also had a Master's Degree in Dramatic Arts. And I have three brain injuries. She really destroyed me. I was so clueless.

I came to this realization about my narc sister, not long after my 'awakening' about her narcissism. She essentially 'mimics' me, and tries to be 'me' in many of my unique, wholeseome qualities and attributes. All while passing everything off as her own ideas or attributes and making me look like the 'villian' in the family. It's so insidious and evil. And, yes, I use the word 'evil' unapologetically.

@sallywillis1448

11 ай бұрын

Dishonest in the extreme. Taking responsibility for nothing. I said to her, after many years, "You are empty and you have filled yourself up with me. Go!"

@richardborowski5463

3 ай бұрын

Did she discard you , my sister did and smeared me to others

@franco2b145

Ай бұрын

Yes.. it’s time we start calling it by it’s true name: EVIL. They are indeed the People of The Lie! ( Author M. Scott Peck) It’s a book you must read y’all!

They steal your ideas-that's so true-one narcissist friend just does not listen to anything I say, but when listens, I know the next thing he will say is what I have already told him as if he has said it himself-if you do not know their games, it can be so confusing and frustrating.

“stage 4 cancer of the soul”

My brother in law stole my life. It was beyond bizarre. And I had no idea it was happening.....it was insane.

@rzone9546

10 ай бұрын

you’re not alone. For me it was inlaws and brother in law. All set out to destroy me. Seething with envy at my success. I had to go no contact and lay down a boundary. Now the long process of healing. I feel so damaged but refuse to be a victim. Man they did some damage

@PutTheGlassesOn...

10 ай бұрын

My ex stole mine as well, even after discarding me she scrambled to use my credit cards and whatever else. Not only did she take material items and money, she took my dreams personality and life experiences. Fully absorbed into the new her. During the marriage her family and friends took advantage of me too. It's really difficult to wrap your head and heart around the wreckage these demons cause, and usually without any consequences.

@thebrains4029

8 ай бұрын

Let him have her, they would level out themselves! God bless!

The problem is after stealing the other ones personality, they push others away from being themselves. (It happened to me with studies and private life and by trying to avoid this sick person, I had to search for other ways to follow my vocation and plans in life). And if you re not fast enough in fulfilling your plans, they will steal you your things in front of you (mostly combined with intense stalking to get to know your plans) and try to live your plans in front of you (also to punish you)

" he self - supplies by becoming someone else" 😮😮😮🙌🙌🙌

After I started to step out of the role of Cinderella, my mother no longer called me by my name, but by her sisters. Only by watching your videos could I understand more deeply that narcissism goes beyond what the self-proclaimed experts say. It's a big mess all of this. Their inner word is so chaotic...

@nmc1859

11 ай бұрын

Do you correct her? Or think she might have dementia?

@traceydunlop9728

11 ай бұрын

​@@nmc1859selective dementia.

Great description, sounds exactly like my late husband of 33 years during the last few months of his life. He needed me to take care of him, and I swear he was delusional towards the end, his fantasy and reality gave him quite a reckoning. He found a gold digger in another city and thought he could be with his wh0re during the week and come back to “mommy” on weekends. It’s so sad to realize what happened over 33 years and as sad as it was to watch him die, I’m so much better off now. I finally have peace for the first time in my entire adult life.

@marciestoddard730

5 күн бұрын

I hope my mom has these realizations as her husband passes. Hes awful and she fawns over him destroying all of her other relationships. You are so strong!!!

@oilselevated4808

5 күн бұрын

@@marciestoddard730 so kind, thank you, it means a lot. Unfortunately, you can’t force someone to see things if they’re not ready. Wish you the best🙏

What happens to the covert narcissist that FAILS to steal your identity? That's what happened to my ex best friend. She tried to steal my boyfriend and she FAILED miserably, crashed and burned. So she discarded me harshly, but it was a blessing in disguise because it woke me up to the very sick person that she was.

@fragrenscat9468

11 ай бұрын

just asked the same question.. what happens when they fail ? my ex best friend is just looking more ridiculous trying to do all this .

@smithashenoy2742

11 ай бұрын

My sister tries to catch and carry my kids... It's so disgusting

@anissa-joneal5277

11 ай бұрын

I don’t think it’s literally stealing a person… but what he’s referring to is “ occupy the victims mind” Sort of a take over of the victim, the spouse, etc. to inject himself, to confuse and control, isolate, break down and capture their persona per se’ … to strip them of themself. I hope both of them are gone and you have really enjoyed being self aware now

@PutTheGlassesOn...

10 ай бұрын

They move on to the next target, no big deal for them

@yuu_miran

9 ай бұрын

They go to find a new target

Professor Vaknin, in addition to the problem of people not attributing to you the authorship of terms and the definitions you coined, I have not seen a single one who is capable of talking about your written material with the slightest ability to reflect the brilliance with which they were produced . It is very satisfying to be able to drink from the original fountain. Thanks a lot!

Yip…. This is happening now!…. Passive aggression is the worst. Why can’t some people just say what they think 💭 about you instead of poking and insidiously pulling you down?… isolation at the moment works for me until I get the hell out of it. The awful consequence of these behaviours is NO one believes you. 😬🙃

@PravusJSB

11 ай бұрын

Yea, lose the relationship, then realise youve lost your family too. Double barrel to the chest. Im going through it now

Total suspension of reality... he backstabbed me so badly and is completely convinced that it was all okay because I'm the true bad one. Yes, he stole my life... he saw me shine and wanted the spark. He spent 7 years on this project, first idealizing me and yes, I fell in love with myself through his gaze. But the abuse was always there (he painted himself as a BDSM guru and I was young and dumb and let him "teach" me, opening the door to some pretty awful experiences). He crept in and forced me to think like him and agree to his every wish. Sex, supply, and services. I gave and gave and gave. But with the birth of our first child, my world gained new meaning and my purpose to love and protect the child overrode my blind devotion to the narc. Then came the devaluation and eventual discard. All enabled by his mother and toxic family (just watched your video yesterday on pseudomutual and pseudohostile families, we both came from them - but I cut my worst characters off, while he couldn't get away). It's all terribly sad and pathetic. Every day I get stronger and I thank Professor Sam Vaknin. I would not be where I am today without your work guiding me. I wouldn't have even known where to start. He was my "soulmate" and I believed it to my core.

The malignant narcs suck the very marrow from your bones before they throw you away without anything. Then, they set about to finish destroying you utterly. They set the shards left on fire and stomps the ashes into the ground.

Yes my malignant covert narc brother used to befriend all my female friends behind my back and try to turn them against me. He dissuaded me from making certain life choices under the guise of advice but really because he was jealous of the moves I was planning. He also tried to get me fired from a couple of jobs. I never knew this until far too late. He’s actually a monster. I’ve cut him out of my life permanently. And since that time he has gotten so much worse because he can’t use me to regulate his emotions. What was worse then him was my covert mother. I can only describe her as being a black hole who sucks all the life out of those stuck in her orbit. A true soul sucker. A constantly complaining death obsessed person with a mask of helplessness and victimisation. But of course a ‘nice’ person to her friends and strangers. A very brain-scrambling personality to understand. Better to stay away. My brother is her creation.

@thedelta88

4 ай бұрын

my brother is 4 and a half years older than me. what is the age gap for you? my brother also has zero friends and has done absolutely nothing for the past 25 years. i mean nothing. never worked one hour at any job in his life. he was a top student til dropped out of college first semester. your post is so close to me i thought i'd see if anything else matches. no one understands what this has done to me. my brother was the most important person in my life.

@livelystones7773

Ай бұрын

⁠@@thedelta88oh my goodness. I’m honestly shocked. This is pretty much a complete match 😮 My brother is 3 years older then me. He too is an extremely clever and brilliant person. But he also dropped out of college and no - has never had a job in decades. I wouldn’t say he has friends - no. But because he’s clever and well read, he has the ability to move through acquaintances on a surface level as he can’t sustain any friendships. I suppose he can’t keep the mask up for too long. Hmmmm I’m very curious why they are so similar? 🤔 You are correct that very few understand how utterly confusing and painful this is on such a deep level.

Omg, the splitting explains why my sister would refuse to acknowledge anything positive I would do or try too for her, my nieces, or anything good in general. It was either the silent treatment, stonewalling, or baiting to provoke negativity from me. When i wouldn't be reactively abusive, she would completely cease the conversation. I said many time it was as if she was fully committed to the negative idea she has of me and doesn't want to see me any other way- I had no idea how fucking spot on I was. Edit to add: I interpreted this as her way of shaming and distorting my own self-image, but it was about maintaining subjective consistency of her delusional, immoral perspective of me. She justified her abusive, inhuman cruelty by convincing herself It was deserving. When I asked if she needed something for my nieces, she wouldn't answer, and this was during the children Tylenol shortage. It made no sense. Wow. It's hard to comprehend how these realizations still shock me almost two years later especially after going through worse damage she's done- abandoned, abused, neglected, and manipulated her nephew directly and indirectly, destroyed his secure relationship with me by demolishing my mental health, created estrangement between our kids and me, alienated, trashed, betrayed, and ostracized me when I had just moved hours away to live besides her after divorce. Forever shell shocked and heartbroken.

@yuu_miran

9 ай бұрын

She just doesnt want to face her own fault and inedequacy.

@user-qn8xk1zj6g

4 ай бұрын

Very well written, thank you.

One thing I noticed about my father is he would shame me for what I did and thought. Then he would slowly adopt those same things/opinions for himself.

@user-bn4dr3et1n

10 ай бұрын

Same case!

@CarterSams

10 ай бұрын

So mean

@TheIsraelProphetess

8 ай бұрын

My narcissistic mother and aunt did the same thing.

@thegreenwoodelf8014

3 ай бұрын

Criticise, assimilate, imitate, annihilate .... wash, rinse, repeat 😐 no joy there ... sucks the life out of you

@marciestoddard730

5 күн бұрын

Yea i was shamed for meditating and studying the tao, buddhism. Qas told my soul was prayed ocer and now everyone is soing kundalini and and a self professed yogi in my family and it kinda grosses me out given how unaccepting they were of me.

My potential son in law covert narc is trying to become my daughter. He’s consumed her so much he even answers direct questions that I ask her. I was saying to my friends it’s so weird, like he wants to be her. And now I know this is actually possible thanks to you Sam.

Regardless: of what they steal; thefts are still a theft!

I think this was geared 100% at Richard Grannon.

@divyabhasin3002

11 ай бұрын

I thought they worked together. I recently saw an older video they made together. Did they have a falling out?

@thendebele

11 ай бұрын

I didn't wanna say it, but thank you 😂

@vickiezaccardo1711

11 ай бұрын

I thought they had partnered in many videos

@maw-zs1vr

11 ай бұрын

Im not sure... I have seen Richard Grannon video about healing from narcisstic abuse where he has mentioned about work of prof. Vaknin (Dual Mothership model) and he has stressed - two or tree times - this is Sam Vaknin model.

@ephemera5714

11 ай бұрын

He's called him out before I believe.

Wow! “You can see it in their face it is stage 4 cancer of the soul “ professor Vaknin your videos are poetry to my ears, and comforting to my heart. I often describe my narcissistic partner as soulless and desolate 😮 p.s. while he is loosing it I take photos, I have noticed his eyeballs turn black 😂

@nmc1859

11 ай бұрын

Sickness. I don't laugh at mine but pity him.

@TheIsraelProphetess

8 ай бұрын

They have the spirit of Satan. The first narcissist.

@horiboyablemgtow7842

5 ай бұрын

Before I even knew what narcissist was, I described my wife like being a shop window, you would look and the shop window with all those lovely products on display..... so you walk into the shop and it is totally empty, they have no stock.

I grew up with narca and manipulators. What i learnt during this very painful debilitating phase is that they might actually be genetically disabled as they severely lacks an inner eye and have a constant eye for external world. They fake emotions but never feel or understand them. Everything is exaggerated drama for them because they fear being exposed and find out being empty inside. They really needed to go to a drama or theatee school when they were child. At least it would prevent them from hurting others . You would know at least they are acting.

@yuu_miran

9 ай бұрын

Yes they are indeed very sad human beings, mentally disabled though look just as the rest thats why when they harm you you take it really personally which not a correct stance.

I can't believe it. Some episodes hurts like nothing else.

I often attract friends with mother wounds.

That's very interesting the concept of the snapshot. No wonder my inlaws would try to devalue me everytime I showed up as my confident and grounded self. That's not what they want me to to be in order for them to feel superior. You're absolutely right about them trying to steal your identity because they don't think you deserve what is rightfully yours.

I sometimes wonder: am I the bad guy? But then I think “I actually like to be alone most of the time”. The only “supply” I seek (which is only sometimes) is truly positive conversation. I am almost pathologically averse to putting someone down (maybe a weakness). However, who knows? Maybe I’m not self aware enough. I’m not saying this with any false modesty. I just try to stay vigilant.

@yuu_miran

9 ай бұрын

Hello, bro😁🤗

Ever since I told the covert narc that I was leaving and getting a divorce, they have creepily been starting to copy tons of things i do. I start taking new vitamins, the covert narc does. I start learning a new language, suddenly they are. I start working out, then they do. I start drinking protein shakes, then they do. It goes on and on and on. You really couldn't believe it.

Im a diagnosed covert narcissist and I totally agree with prof vaknin, 100%

@yuu_miran

9 ай бұрын

What made you get diagnosed?

I was briefly married to a covert narc that also believe she is diagnosed as a sociopath or psychopath. She was able to keep her medical history from me during the divorce. She slept with her married attorney to pay her bill and try to gain leverage. What really hit me was realizing during the short term marriage she roofied me and slept with a guy from the wine bar we would frequent. It should have been obvious when it happened but the gaslighting and love bombing threw me off. Took a couple years to realize she drugged me. 6 years later and still hard to believe I fell for her. So many red flags. She gave me credit for uncovering her quicker than any other man in her past.

Prof I really like the way you mentioned how your work is often stolen. You have a true gift and an exceptional way of explaining everything. Thank you for your like long work. Snapshotting, intraject, object constancy, cognitive dissonance, co-idealisation, somatic, dual mothership bond, I had NEVER heard of these terms! Exceptional work!

The female narcissist legally stole my identity, & I had to clear my name and she had the audacity to blame me and never apogize, truly pure evil in any ways.

In my case they try to imitate what I have and do. Whatever I say about myself they’ll eventually come up with a story that they’ve already done or had that in the past. So annoying, I can barely bring myself to talk when they ‘re around. But even when I stay quiet to avoid volunteering information about myself it's still annoying to watch the grandiose things they say as if they're specialists in every professional field in the world.

If I wouldn’t have seen it hard to believe people like this exist.

Sad part is if he would have asked kindly I would have given

Finally! I admitted that my marriage to this cruel monster is now NOTHING BUT A FRAUD

Had my identity stolen from me multiple occasions by "friends" and ex "boyfriend"s.

Dear Sam, Impressed by your lectures on daffodils, I have described my story with my daffodil. I can't believe daffodils are monsters. These are the images that have developed into such a fairy tale. "I enter a beautiful room and see many interesting people there, they are attractive and show interest in me. We talk. Then I notice that they only repeat my words or thoughts. Their phrases are universal. I stop, and so do they. Then I understand that these are mirrors that reflect me and other people entering the room.Mirrors return people to themselves.I am in anxiety and uncertainty looking for the owner of the room.The one who is in reality, and not in the mirror.I am in fear, I feel that I deceived. I'm angry. I see my aggression and ugly grimace in the reflection of the mirrors and disappointed in myself. I would like to look better for the owner of the room. But I'm looking, my hands fall into the void. There is no one. The mirrors disappear. I have to leave, but "I can't. Suddenly, in the farthest and darkest corner I see a boy. This is the real owner of the room. He created a fabulous world of mirrors and rejoiced when more and more status, strong and successful people got into the room. When they were disappointed and left , he easily replaced them with others, because the fabulous room attracts everyone. The boy does not understand that he is already an adult and that he is the owner of the room. He is afraid to go out from behind the mirrors, because he has no friends and even no clothes. He is vulnerable and afraid of being hurt by any person. He almost does not see living people, and is not shown to them, only reflections. And he doesn't see the real me either. It's sad and heartbreaking. I have to leave." And now I'm thinking: am I normal? Or not, if I have such experience and experiences.

OMG I feel absolutely sick now. I've experienced almost everything that's mentioned here. It's terrifying. 😔 Prof. Vaknin, thank You for all these information! You're saving our lives...and sanity. ❤

Do other people eventually catch on to what these covert narcissists are doing to their victims?

@samvaknin

11 ай бұрын

Rarely. These coverts fake empathy, compassion, kindness, and “expertise” very convincingly, preying on the gullible masses.

@fragrenscat9468

11 ай бұрын

@@samvaknin but it only works at one level, i dont believe they are capable of sustaining, the well "runs dry"

@leilaliquidlines

11 ай бұрын

@@samvaknin maybe covert narcissists are developmentally frozen in childhood and that child like behavior is what others can’t tolerate when coming from an adult? Empathy, compassion, expertise… perhaps these are all skills they never learned? Or maybe they just choose not to use them

@jessicaabbott10

11 ай бұрын

I was fortunate and had a good support system that saw right through her tactics, and on multiple occasions at that. So yes it CAN happen, even if the chances seem bleak. Don’t give up hope!!!

@llhannah9297

11 ай бұрын

I have been building my own support network outside of my family. I don't tell my family anything about myself. I confide in good friends. It helps a lot.

So glad I found this video! A former acquaintance has been copying every aspect of my life for years and stalking me online & in person. They also recently attempted to get close to my romantic partner who they don’t know at all! I finally confronted them and they pretended to have no idea what I was talking about and quickly blocked me 🤣. What a shame. These people are demonic.

Yes, they seem to sideways slip into their repertoire new concepts you present to the whole. Sometimes within a few days, and in a tiny dose so not to be caught.

My sister in a nutshell. Wow I'm so glad I found this video. I have to rewind and watch it again.

Yes, he drained me of myself and now he's the artist.

@meowkity1

10 ай бұрын

I’m an artist and the narc I was with started to learn to draw

@PoM-MoM

4 ай бұрын

What do you mean? Were you or are you a artist too?

@show_me_your_kitties

4 ай бұрын

​@@PoM-MoMYes, I was.

Thanks for all your hard work. Nobody can replace the man behind the green curtain, and ultimately you can be happy that what you've done has helped people and made a difference in our world. Credit or not, a job well done.

Please don’t worry about idiotic plagiarists because nobody can offer the wonderful accurate experience, observations and explanations, in such a clear way as you can. If I see them I will certainly scroll on…I have noticed that there are a few people plagiarising Jordan Peterson too…Thank you so very much for the real help that I get from listening to you. I wish that I could not feel sorry for these people in my life…

@dianevanderlinden3480

11 ай бұрын

Yes, feeling sorry for them is my rabbit hole. Then I don't protect myself the way I should.

Again! Reinvent yourself and confuse them.

Only a borderline can defeat a covert narc.

@maryfrances1307

10 ай бұрын

I’ve defeated a few, and now I’m wondering if I’m a borderline. I’ve been studying cluster B personality disorders for close to ten years, and your comment was the first to make me wonder. My mother and sister are both borderline, in my humble opinion. I love a shared fantasy, but I’m also fearful-avoidant, so I can back out of the fantasy as easily as I enter. I appreciate your comment.

@yuu_miran

9 ай бұрын

What do you mean by defeating them? Theyll always look for a new target, no?

@yuu_miran

9 ай бұрын

@@maryfrances1307how did you deteated them? What did you do?

@jesuschristthesecond

9 ай бұрын

@@yuu_miran Not anymore.

@yuu_miran

9 ай бұрын

@@jesuschristthesecond what do you mean? Can you explain?

Yes, i love cyberviking! He just explains your concepts in a different way. He is amazing...and so handsome too! I love that he makes sure the info comes from you as all good teachers should do!

I watched the video about psychopathic narcissim. Of course, like you said, we can not understand the full depth of it, so questions like "why" are irrelevant. Your clever viewers are still here. 😊

My father and sister sexually abused and groomed me. I didn't realize that an aunt had placed the family home in my name so they wouldn't be able to evict me. They lied and stole everything. I'm still too loyal to my family to pursue legal matters. Watts fucking wrong with me.

@themalibumalik

10 ай бұрын

CUT THEM OFF You need to love yourself and put yourselffirst. I support you

I noticed that I steal your ideas to shine in real life, although I rarely find someone who grasp your stolen thoughts in my surroundings. but when it comes to virtual reality , especially when I comment on those con artists , I mention your name every time I use the phrases that you've coined. It's like I hate covert narcissists in the virtual world , but I am one of them in real life.

@samvaknin

11 ай бұрын

That is pretty honest of you to admit.

@user-xj3ll9nx7s

10 ай бұрын

@@samvaknin I do that in real life, with my highschool days friends who had become teacher, and also with my teachers of philosophy in university. It's like a regard your introject inside my mind as a secret weapon that I defend myself with when I try to elevate my self-esteem around them. but when it comes to social media , I always comment against those con artist, and mention your name, and how narcissist really is ; so many times especially on the topic of gaslighting/ lies and confabulations. I think it's the same although I mention your name in virtual reality; is because I want to clarify to the audience whom are watching that con artist that there is a better source of psychology knowledge, and I am better than most of them, or should I say all of them, including the one who's making the video.

@yuu_miran

9 ай бұрын

@@user-xj3ll9nx7smy secret weapon inside of me is DrRamani😊 I like her explanations too. Some of her words are already engraved into my brain😂

Or they say, "it wouldn't bother me if someone copied all my ideas and identity. I wouldnt think it weird!"

Men and women, they come from all walks of life! Behave like this 💯

Prof. Sam, I just want to thank you for being fearless and sharing these concepts. I'm 33 and back before social media I would notice people around me would randomly steal, copycat, and mimic in a way that felt very insidious and creepy. Whenever I'd try to speak on it people would always tell me, "no one owns Ideas, take it as flattery." I never felt flattered because it always felt like they were in competition. My mother and grandma were easy to talk to about it becuase they had experienced these same things but didnt have this exact language. Once Social media blew up around 2008 to now I started noticing people would flat out copy paste things I wrote (poems, random thoughts I'd post.) I always try to write in a specific voice and style and I always had a few that would make me scrunch my brow and say, "wait, didnt I just post that yesterday?" I'd bring it up and people would tell me, "these are simply concepts we all think about dont take it personal." I had friends that would copy everything from bands/groups I listened to, style, hairstyle, choice of words, even down to me changing my hair color. I notice with Narcs/cov-narcs if I was around them and got a compliment on anything they would then consume it and make it their whole personality. They're so odd. I used to really enjoy deep conversations and tlaking about dreams and goals but I learned even that is fuel for these people. I've had people flat out walk off with ideas I shared ( I know part of that is my own fault for not following through first) Id share because I used to believe you have to share and partner with people to make things bigger but I learned most hear a good idea and will pretend they came up with it. I've been played a lot in the past but teachings such as this help me protect myself. Ive been independently studying cluster b personality disorders for about 5 years now just through videos, and papers online. I now know that this stufff is intentional and how to stay away from people like this when I can. Thank you for offering clarity and for letting those of us who have been trespassed against that we are not LOONY, and something weird issss happening to us.

@Faaade_

11 ай бұрын

@@user-xr3bj2gx4j Thank you for this kind and thoughtful message. You're correct!

I became low contact in 2012 and rarely contact my narc mom and golden child sister. But I have noticed that they "took" my hobbies and personality at that time and still act like I did almost 15-10 years ago. I was in my early 20s and go to concerts almost every month, I was obsessed with Disney and traveling because I had not gone anywhere. My narc mom is now obsessed with the Disney movies I loved (she had no interest before) and traveling to Europe every year (even though she has no money and in a lot of debt). And my sister is now the concert fanatic and spends thousands every month on tickets. It does sound odd, but before I was very low contact they both had no interest in any of these activities. It wasn't until I left the situation that they started taking what I liked as their own.

I am asking to myself as usual, whether I am a covert narcissist or not. I'd rather ask it to my psychotherapist. Thank you Dr.Vaknin for you enlightening lessons

Prof. Vaknin thank you! 💛 Your work is invaluable.

@kkeiter

4 ай бұрын

Amen. He is spot on. The voice of god actually in narcissism and the narcissist’s tactics

Thanks for this video!! There are so many unqualified experts giving advice on narcissism only for monetary gain. They give you general information but never the root cause of narcissism. You’re the best Sam!!!

I know by heart every single page of your book " Malignant self love", I am referring to you again and again and again, these concepts are your concepts, your are the FATHER in this field, you had the vision, you found the " words", you have our respect. You are simply the best ( a la Τina Turner) and the FIRST. Everyone knows that, have no doubt.

@Faaade_

11 ай бұрын

I have so much respect for this comment. I always say it doesnt hurt to share WHERE we get things from. Referencing is not difficult at all.

@Prof. Sam Vaknin first anyone who would take the time and do 30 minutes of research, would learn that you are the originator of teaching and publicizing and naming exactly what narcissistic abuse is! I have an idea that you are speaking of someone with the initials of RG, but he is totally insignificant! We know and truly appreciate you for being the originator and helping those of us who have suffered from narcissistic abuse to escape the horrors of that existence! Second, you explained to me, why my ex-husband attempted to steal almost $1 million from two relatives that he claims that he loves! When he was applying for fiduciary guardianship of his uncle, his uncles two daughters names were not included! Just as you stated, these people are really not that smart, so he always had me do all of his business paperwork. At the time, I did not know his nieces names. That aggravated me that he did not include them so I waited to see if the court system would find them. After about three months, I called the attorney’s office and informed the secretary that he had two daughters, gave her the probate number and their clients name. I kept watching online and in about two months. I saw my results and I was ecstatic because his two daughters had been found. They started receiving annual “gifts “of $1000. But at the time that his uncle passed the funds had accumulated to over $960,000.00! Of course, he hosted his two cousins when their father died, and I could not believe the acting that he performed! He should have won an Oscar. Thank you for explaining to me how “they“ operate!

@samvaknin

11 ай бұрын

Very few people dedicate 3 minutes to research, let alone 30 minutes.

Ive seen so many versions of my narc neighbour ,every so often after a collapse when its obvious it hasnt worked we see a chest puffing brandnew person with new drive direction etc ....however the other person errupts out when triggered.. the same person.thats always been underwraps

This worries me because my father and sister have done this to me. My sister used to dress me up as a female when I was 11. Dad would sexually assault me in this state. When the police arrived my sister lied and said I was gay. Now she works as a transgender health care worker. As in she now reenacts the abuse she committed innocent patients. Her whole identity is based on things that happened to me. I feel unsafe. They have controlled my money since I was 12. We were abandoned here from a crap middle eastern country.

@themalibumalik

10 ай бұрын

I'm sorry to hear that man. That really shocked me that family can do something like that. I pray you find the strength to become the person you want to be and beat your demons.

Dear vaknin, please could you make an eloberated vedio on the working of a somatic narcissist’s mind and shed some light on how does he cope with severe narcissistic injury. Thanks in advance ❤

@samvaknin

11 ай бұрын

Search the channel.

@BeachHouse7

11 ай бұрын

@@samvaknin lol thanks a lot

Sam..i have been listening to you for i think about 10 years..i thank you very much ..for helping me understand millions of Narcs in my life..do not worry..EVERYONE knows..exactly who you are..AND..who wishes they were you..i am extremely grateful to you..for everything i learnt...never stop❤

I want to understand the sleeping pattern..when we know there is such a person and this person is harming others over and over the hunt for a new victim...we know the outcome and the harm the victims endure ..yet we cannot do anything and this is the hardest part

This explains why she crippled her mom, took her medical & financial power of attorney, put her in hospice care, then moved into her bedroom.

Absolutely wonderful work! Thank you sir!

Mine self diagnosed him with a medical condition I have due to a head injury I sustained 13 years ago, way before I had met him. He went as far as to behave as if I never told him about it and did extensive research about it, then proceeded to expect me to sympathize with him and care for him.

Invaluable insight, as always, Professor Vaknin🙏

Love your work. Thank you 🙏

Thank you, you are always very informative.

Many thanks for these clear words. Your work helps me to manage my life better and accept better the pain I am in and still enjoy life .

The hand writting can expand and grow, when copy is just a copy with wholes, no side notes and hidden pages... You are the source and he is just follen "angel figure". The Mine thing is authentic, lonely path of experiencing, learning and development. On that case must be painful, but how inspiring! You are the history, anyway. With great respect Prof. Sam Vaknin, and wishing you a lot more discoverys! ❤

This is again spot on! And I totally agree, they need treatment. And yes, psychosis… They need help!

This is genius! 👏 Terrifying and facinating at the same time!

I just want to say i am a fan. Your work is very insightful and helpful.

You are always amazing, Professor! A detailed analysis of narscissists sound really fascinating! In reality your lectures helped me to survive,get out of the darkness and become healthy and whole again! And I got a new skill of baking as you advised. Your knowledge is the way to healing for us. With great love from Israel and Canada.

A great insightful video and describes the very essence of my experiences with narcissts to a ‘T’.

Wooww i know this person! 😢 love your work mr Vaknin!

Thank you, so much value here, wow. I’m so grateful these hustlers will be brought into the light so we all can see them clearly. Self love is protecting you always. Know that we are loved, beautiful and strong. 🤍🦉🎼👁️🐦‍⬛♾️🕊️⚖️

Your thumbnail is from a game called Thief I played as a kid. How fitting for your video

This is going to help me immensely in demonstrating covert abuse in litigation. You just described my life since dissolution. Thank you so much.

Thanks for the lessons 🙏🙏🙏

Don't worry Sam we know you are the OG!

This video perfectly describes my X wife. Thank you for this added clarity. Your descriptions paint in technicolor the black and white image of my train wreck.

Brilliant as always

Interesting! And disturbing! My half sister has done all of these things to me. To the point it’s ridiculous and beyond evil. But, I didn’t realize that it was (in her psychotic little mind) literally taking over me. Or, trying to become me.

Pros for the Thief thumbnail The original from 90's truly was a masterpiece (even If you despise video games the story itself was magnificent) They don't make games like these today Thank you for today's video Professor and as always: Take care

This makes so much sense😮

Thank you so much for this....

What about situations where it could be a temporary narcissism as defense? Or part of other personality disorders and it's as if they go through an episode of narcissism when triggered by unresolved trauma? I'm in a predicament right now where it seems like this is the case and it's even more confusing because they disassociated and when I was ready confronted them and it's like a mirror broke. I can't help but be paranoid but it's so different...and I've known narcissists

@samvaknin

11 ай бұрын

Dissociated. And search the channel.

I have watched your videos nonstop for 4 days. I finally feel safe. I'm still listening while writing to you. This video changed my life.

Giving credit where it is due.... Always.