Why Are Relationships So Difficult?
Why Our Relationships with Others Can Be So Difficult
An issue which troubles many people who come from narcissistic families is that they struggle in their relationships with others - this can be with work colleagues, school or university colleagues, friends, acquaintances, family members and romantic interests/partners. The struggle is in the inability for many to feel close or safe with others and that inability is there for many reasons.
Some people struggle to have any close relationships, some have a couple of people to whom they are reasonably or very close, and others have many people around them and these relationships may be superficial, or they may be closer. Many may feel isolated or alone even with people around them.
A person’s capacity to feel close to others will vary. Some may find that they can feel close to others and others may find themselves feeling more numb towards others and might know that they like a person, but it may be more intellectual than emotional. Others may find that relationships of any kind feel nerve-wracking, or even terrifying, and they may try to avoid them as much as possible.
Why does this happen?
02.26 Attachment Styles
03.44 Complex PTSD
05.38 Isolation and Loneliness
07.30 I am Boring
08.22 Feeling Like an Outsider - I am Odd, Weird or Strange
09.57 Relationships Can Feel Exhausting
11.10 Relationships Can Feel Transactional
11.58 Trust Issues
12.54 Fears of Abandonment and Rejection
13.40 Conflicts in relationships
14.33 Eye Contact
16.28 Emotional Dysregulation
18.05 Overexplaining, Oversharing, Undersharing - Rigid and Porous Boundaries
22.21 Shame
23.07 Projection
23.42 Body Dysmorphic Disorder
24.47 Substance Misuse
25.54 The Inability to Feel Joy
29.03 Interviews from Healing the Traumatized Self
37.35 Romantic Relationships - A Romance Between Two Adapted Selves
41.55 Lack of Social Skills
42.32 Resolving the Issue of Connecting With Others
Article on my website:
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The Real Self and The Adapted Self on KZread:
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Avoidance as a Defence Mechanism on KZread
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Attachment Theory
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Shame
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International Trauma Questionnaire
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International Trauma Questionnaire in many languages
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02.26 Attachment Styles 03.44 Complex PTSD 05.38 Isolation and Loneliness 07.30 I am Boring 08.22 Feeling Like an Outsider - I am Odd, Weird or Strange 09.57 Relationships Can Feel Exhausting 11.10 Relationships Can Feel Transactional 11.58 Trust Issues 12.54 Fears of Abandonment and Rejection 13.40 Conflicts in relationships 14.33 Eye Contact 16.28 Emotional Dysregulation 18.05 Overexplaining, Oversharing, Undersharing - Rigid and Porous Boundaries 22.21 Shame 23.07 Projection 23.42 Body Dysmorphic Disorder 24.47 Substance Misuse 25.54 The Inability to Feel Joy 29.03 Interviews from Healing the Traumatized Self 37.35 Romantic Relationships - A Romance Between Two Adapted Selves 41.55 Lack of Social Skills 42.32 Resolving the Issue of Connecting With Others
Dear Sarah, thank you for putting together your series of articles and videos. It means a lot to me that you record a video to go with your articles because the CPTSD can make it hard for a person to sit and read an article. It's much easier to focus on your voice in your recordings. Some of the points that really stood out to me in this video were: your explanation of the origins of feeling one is a boring person and your discussion of relationships between two people acting out of their adapted rather than real selves. Thanks again for your videos. They mean more than you may be aware.
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Жыл бұрын
Hi quitebright, Thank you so much for your lovely comment - it means a lot.
When I became aware I didn't feel as others felt, It just made me feel broken. I wasn't allowed to feel at home - feelings were "wrong" and I usually got punished for getting cross or mocked if I expressed positive emotions.So I guess it was made clear emotions were surplice to requirement. I am better than I was, but thanks for the book reference, I will get it and see if I can do better.
I am binge watching your videos. My narcissistic mother passed away last and without going into lengthy details my siblings scapegoated me and no longer speak with me. It has opened my eyes to the denial of my family dynamics and the role I played. I am left with a complete lack of trust in my own thoughts and feelings when it comes to interacting acting with others, setting up boundaries.
@childrenofnarcissists
3 ай бұрын
I am glad these videos are useful. The more healing we do the more we come to trust ourselves and setting boundaries starts to come naturally. I wish you all the best.
Thank you ❤very insightful videos.
Thank you for this video. I’ve been going through many of your videos and I see myself in them. I am recognizing I’m a victim of narcissistic parents but just using this information to move forward positively and change my negative thinking. I’m not going to live with a victim mentality anymore. Also, I love your voice and presentation.
@childrenofnarcissists
6 ай бұрын
Thanks. I am glad the info is useful.