Having people around who only approve and agree is almost the same as being alone.

@thegreengoddess8850

4 жыл бұрын

My ex's mom always would approve of him and accept whatever he did and never question him because she was afraid of being alone

I love how teal laughs when she knows you are being called out

I've watched this video 5 times and I'm still unpacking what this means for me.

TOPIC IDEAS: - cognitive dissonance - Maladaptive daydreaming - Shadow of feminism - Hypersexuality / Hyposexuality - Borderline Personality Disorder

@storm8331

4 жыл бұрын

Taking the words straight out of my mouth AND Compton, daaaamn.

@lextor4712

4 жыл бұрын

Awesome topic ideas. Coginitive dissonance especially is a huge one.

@arothimi

4 жыл бұрын

how much i want an episode for mdd!!

@katharineanonymous6992

4 жыл бұрын

Borderline please

@katharineanonymous6992

4 жыл бұрын

Shadow of feminism also there’s such a heavy shadow there to me

As someone who's gay and grew up in a Christian family and around people who always pretended to have my best interest by saying they love me but disapproved of who I love and how I express myself this video was very relevant. I don't trust anyone to have my best interest, as in I don't trust them to NOT disapprove of me for the wrong things. Approval is something I've always wanted and knew that I wanted. Rejection makes me feel alone, and like I did growing up. It's hard to trust people because they were so disapproving, and it's hard to trust myself because they made it seem like I didn't know what's best for me. I've been constantly questioning myself and pushing others away. It's made me stagnant in life because taking action feels like a risk with two consequences: 1: me changing my mind and realizing I was wrong all along about what I wanted and 2: people disapproving of me.

@mikeybeanhi181

2 жыл бұрын

If you feel it in yourself that you are pulled in attraction to men, you should trust that because even if you were wrong, you were just curious and intrigued.

@mikeybeanhi181

2 жыл бұрын

And that is natural

@grrrl420

2 жыл бұрын

@@mikeybeanhi181 Oh I'm fine with being gay, it's just that state of fear and questioning I had as a child made its way to other parts of my life.

@leahflower9924

2 жыл бұрын

Not to sound silly but what happens when you fall in love and wanna introduce your love to family ? If they don't accept your gay they can't accept your significant other then

@TheLebo01

Жыл бұрын

Story of my life

Ideas: -Schizophrenia ("bad"/"dark" hallucinations vs "lighter"/"neutral" hallucinations) -Borderline -Phobia -Ocd -Chronic procrastination -Rape (the abuser's perspective + how to heal from sexual trauma) -How to help people -How to make change-manifestation vs action -What to prepare for before "The Shift"?

@serahbrandenn434

4 жыл бұрын

Those are all good ones...I hope she answers them

@FunnyxFroggies

4 жыл бұрын

Yes to these! And she already has a video about helping people i think it’s called to help or not to help

@Beccanator007

4 жыл бұрын

Make sure to look through her older content, I've seen a good deal of her work on some similar topics. She's got many years' worth of videos. Blessings.

@phoenixash3076

4 жыл бұрын

drop it all and let it go

@Bastet32

4 жыл бұрын

Last one.

I choose you, Teal, as my spiritual teacher because you are authentic. You don't hide your wounds, you admit you still struggle in life... That's inspiring. I like your strength and intelligence. That's why you awake same things in me. My vote goes to authenticity. Much love and respect for you, Teal. I am in the middle of reading three of your books. Greetings from Serbia 🇷🇸

@TealSwanOfficial

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your words

@velikimilos

4 жыл бұрын

@@TealSwanOfficial, thank you 💗🍀🙏✨

@velikimilos

4 жыл бұрын

@@Vention1MGTOW, of course. Choices are mine. Thank you, brother.

@eirikmurito

4 жыл бұрын

That sounded incredibly gay..

@velikimilos

4 жыл бұрын

@@eirikmurito, hahaa! Why? 😁

i had a dream, after i broke up with my twinflame a few months ago, saying we would both go on a self love journey and then meet up again. since then, my clairvoyance has opened up like never before, as well as other things! i didn't realize how much i was invalidating my feelings and mistreating myself. then, i came across your channel, and it was exaclty what i needed! you made me so aware. you are absolutely brilliant.

our weekly dose of "true truths" has come

THE most I’ve ever get called out... but it’s the call out I needed the most.

Know that you are 100% whole, worthy and complete as you are! The more you come to that realization the more your life will begin to change. You will attract more things and opportunities. 🍀

@citaprevia9833

4 жыл бұрын

unless you are used as the Scapegoat for false flags : sabotaged and triangualted : emf´d end dewed : degraded to a point of crazy so others fall in line.

@citaprevia9833

4 жыл бұрын

tell me Andreas : how do you pay back a lifetime of neglect? You can´t since all the simmered neurons are set : do you really think the "devils,angels and truthers" : the wheat and the tears : how does one create loyal believers and followers : it is a roll over rape and death cult culture : the Ouroboros/Phoenix model : in not good enough. The discarded get off just the same : like the bull in the ring : dying in his own blood as an orgasm. Both polarities : die gladly for it : Death as pleasure. ibb.co/QjvKGvh

@phoenixash3076

4 жыл бұрын

love is just a feeling, don't put to much of anything on it

I was only able to focus on the bird in the background - LOL!

@SarahLove159

4 жыл бұрын

I was like omg?? It took me like 5 mins to figure out it was on the video

@farmhouseacres2379

4 жыл бұрын

Annoyingsounds

@atreju305

4 жыл бұрын

I ❤ the bird sounds! 💕 I would now love to travel to Costa Rica to hear them! 😄 Or to any other rainforesty area! 🦜🕷🐦🐒

@madameproblemes6548

4 жыл бұрын

OMG Me too! My dog was super distracted and barked each time xD

@lawofattractionsandmirrors

4 жыл бұрын

It was a big distraction unfortunately

The time on the wall clock never changes This must mean Teal’s teachings are timeless ☺️

when this first uploaded, i took a minute to see if i really needed to watchthis video, an example of my resistance haha

I love your birds, Teal. They are competing with MY birds! Lol I keep taking off my headphones to figure out which birds I`m listening to! I spent most of my life being Karma Chameleon for other people. Now I`m finding myself finally. THAT is freeing. I`m also learning not to take disapproval personally & express it without making it personal. This was a very good video for me. Bringing clarity.

@vickyedwards4334

4 жыл бұрын

I did exactly the same - kept stopping the video, as the exotic birds seemed to be with the other birds outside my window!

It’s 11:11 on the clock behind her 😋

@ninasmaragdas3281

4 жыл бұрын

@@siriansiren8866 when I read you comment it said you had posted it 22 minutes ago✌️

@vaneakatok

4 жыл бұрын

But it's still throughout the video

@franzabananza

4 жыл бұрын

manulaika maybe that’s on purpose

@vaneakatok

4 жыл бұрын

@@franzabananza exactly. that's what bothers me.

Self love remains the most important of all....

After binge watching for months now and being in the healing energy field I have now started directed people to you. You are the best teacher and approach these matters in a way we all can understand. I truly appreciate your effort, energy and knowledge. I love you Teal. You're changing this world.

@oscarwilliamson1264

3 жыл бұрын

Amy Simon,your pretty smile ☺️ can make the news!

Real interdependence is love not co-depending on your partner.

I feel like you have a good point. I'm letting go of toxic patterns and connections in my life but wishing the person well as I let go.

Yasssss yasss and yassss thank you teal for all that you do 🙏🏽❤️🔥

Teal, you are the definition of a Badass. I love you for being you. I also love you for sharing these messages with us.

Thank you Teal Swan for bringing us to places nobody wants to talk about. ✨💚✨Christine Vandenberg

My reaction to every video you release is"tell me more please!" Thank you Teal ❤️🌷

Perfect timing, as always! ❤️ Knocked it out of the park again. It is so amazing to be able to hear from someone who has such a firm understanding on the complexity and hardships of life, especially considering they are so relevant to everyday life. I will be a lifetime subscriber, Teal

Thank you, Teal. This resonates very well with me. You have understanding, which I great to hear. Your videos really do touch base with what I have been thinking and feeling for over 30 years.

*THIS WAS MY LESSON I HAD TO LEARN FOR THE PAST 2 YEARS...* Thank you for expanding on it and helping me understand all of the aspects... 🙏❤️

Approval in the form of undue praise usually comes from a person with extremely low self esteem. They project what they wish they were onto the other person & have no clue they're not only making their situation worse but also actually decreasing the self esteem of the other person.

You can disapprove of something and be with and for someone instead of against them and therefore in alignment. -Teal Swan

This was my relationship with my ex, he felt like me approving all his bad habits like smoking, drinking or drugs was love and me not approving that was me not loving him for who he was. It was very very confusing for me, it really hurted me to see him harm himself like that but I also felt like I couldn't do anything...

Thank for you putting this out :) It’s deeply relevant to what’s happening now.

I love your discussions, Teal. I always have to listen to each video three times to fully absorb want you're saying. But it so worth the time.

This girl is so provocative in her knowledge and honesty.

Love your straight forward non "enlightened" understandings and help its desperately needed in the "spiritual" groups especially. Well spoken and much appreciated as always

@oscarwilliamson1264

3 жыл бұрын

Sherry Moon, you got a pretty smile ☺️🤙

Much needed video for the spiritual community. Thank you, love.

@oscarwilliamson1264

3 жыл бұрын

Spiritual Underdog,you look stunning 🌹🌹

I absolutely LOVED this video. It TOTALLY helped me better process a very very complicated relationship dynamic I am involved in and has even been seriously struggling to make sense of day to say without my judgements, anger, hurt, upset and my own self interests making things more complex. With this one video I gained so much insight and understanding and immediately felt more at ease inside of myself about the whole situation without resistance. It affirmed some of my own rough feelings and made everything make more sense and much easier to experience and accept though it isn't ideal to me and I find myself in approving. Rewatching now. Thank you!!

This makes so much sense! Thanks Teal! 💜 Xx

Love to see the tribe on their purpose !

what a great video pretty intense message, very much needed in the world

I love the message you started sharing at the end of your videos. Thanking us for doing the work of self awareness. ♥️

Very beautiful! So well said, Teal. :) I was trying to make the difference between the moments when I have been disapproved in a loving way vs. in an unloving way. When my friend did not approve of me and it did not matter, it was because I know he loves me. I know he separates facts from my essence. And that he doesn't agree with those facts but he loves me: personality, patterns, talents, etc. And the moment when I felt another friend disapproved without love, was that....that kind of intimacy, relationship outside the conversation, was lacking. There wasn't any intimacy with my real self, because there wasn't any intimacy with his real self. He is not in intimacy with himself, therefore not with me. So I said to myself: "so I was expecting from him the relationship I have with myself. And he doesn't have it." That's why his disapproval feels unloving because there isn't any genuine, actual intimacy to compensate it.

@oscarwilliamson1264

3 жыл бұрын

Dana Stoian,hope you are in a good relationship cause you are too precious 🌹🌹🌷!

Damn Teal, this is exactly what I have recently observed in myself as a newlywed. Thank you for giving me information to process and help move me forward in my journey.

Teal, thank you for giving yourself in the terms and ways of your delivering what truth we know equally. Thank you for your grace amd compassion with me, and thank you for observing me as we know. Thank you for your comprehension and completeness of the knowlage you do know true. Thank you for your secret admiration and lead. Now I create of my fingers touch, the words you know intended and meant, of me I knew as i know you are as we be. Thank you for forgiving me of my arrogance and angle of entry. Thank you for arriving ahead of me, and yes indeed thank you for your great direction. Our tribe is real and I am your Golden Swan here in my graces a father with my daughter and my sweetie with me. Have me know when you want to have me step in. I am here and by my body my point of expansion I enter through and to what world i have about me. Thank you Teal, sincerely.

Loving your work teal. You're spiritual/psychoanalysis skills are amazing. 🙏☯️

Teal, thank you. Message delivered perfectly on time as always! 🙏❤️ Endlessly grateful for your ability to explain other perspectives!

Every Video is a Wake Up Call. Thank You Teal

This was beautifully articulated. Thank you 😊

Just on time! Thank you very much Teal🌱❤

This is a powerful reflection, thank you Teal

This video made go through so many waves of emotions 😭💓

Sooooo muuuuuch THISSSSS. Completely SPOT ON. ✨🙏🏽✨ on both sides of this! Thank you Teal. Ugh I SO appreciate the way you articulated every single angle of this!! Xo 💙💙💗💗💗💙💗💗💗💗💗💗

This resonated deeply with me and I feel how complex this topic is. I would love if you would share more of your insights about this topic with us to get a fuller understanding of it. Thank you so much Teal

Yes, Teal is so brave and wisdom to tell the TRULY TRUTH.

This video is Vitally Important Today more than ever. People are so desperate for approval that they will approve of violent criminals and terrorists doing violent acts.

All of your videos are just brilliant, thank you Teal ! I truly appreciate all of your advice and amazing insight 🤗

Thoughtful presentation. Thanks for your sharing your reflections on this vital topic.

Ok, so luckily I have the whole weekend to wrap my head around this!😅 Thank you, Teal!

Teal would be a great lover and friend to have . She is super duper honest. That’s really cool and love 💯❤️

I've always had this problem but yesterday and today I went on and on trying to find information on how to solve it. Because it's exhausting. And after reading online and not finding what I was hoping for I came to see my favorite channel ever (it honestly is). I wasn't hoping to find something along those lines, honestly. I was just planning to catch up on whatever was your last video about and hopefully it would somehow help or fit. And guess what? It's exactly EXACTLY what I'm going through. You don't know me but I've been around this channel for like 10 years. This is why. I don't know if somehow I knew you were talking about this. I don't know why I started looking for this information again (I tried to solve this a million times). But here I am and here you are once again. I know many people might not agree with you or might not like you. In my case, it's like your read my mind and behavior and childhood trauma in the distance without even knowing. You've helped me more than my many many years in psychotherapy. Seriously. Thank you

@Natalia_85

3 жыл бұрын

@@oscarwilliamson1264 aw! Thank you

@Natalia_85

3 жыл бұрын

@@oscarwilliamson1264 I'm from Argentina :)

This is exactly what I needed to hear right now... how did you know? ;) definitely gonna have to watch a few times to let it all absorb but as always grateful for you and your insight teal 🙏❤ truly wishing everyone unconditional love and blessings during these crazy times 💫

Superb video. 😊 💐 Have a great day Teal. 😊

Thank you so much for this video, I know now that we are all swirling together somehow and what goes on in our vibrations is better translated by Teal every day and second. So thanks again. I'm being explained one if not the darkest shadows of mine and I'm ready :D

Teal this is something I had learned and learned on my own. I was never the person to like want all the attention and what not but one thing I wanted was acceptance and approval from people and I learned fast that it didn’t really matter to me. I found my own peace and knew right from wrong without even questioning it. Jumping in and just knowing the truth! Saying it and whether someone likes it or not it has to be said! would develop an open mind and in 2018 after being like the rock and support for someone I had been with for like 5 years, I got tired because I realized that it was them always wanting their way and me being honest about the truth. I know I didn’t care about the approval much but I knew my responsibility and I wasn’t going to take blame for things that were not my fault and the person was not taking responsibility on their end. Knowing the truth, telling them, and there would be moments in which they would disapprove. Being aware as well and if they disapprove of the truth then well it was their decision. Whatever happens after that will be a result of it. 2019 was huge and this video was some of the growth I went through for the beginning of last year. Bless you teal!

Thank you so very much for your help today 💚🧡❤️💖💙💜🌈🙏🏽💓💛💚🧡❤️💖💙💜🎉🥰

Topics that would be interesting: -how to deal with passive aggression -procastination

You say, regarding the correct manner of giving loving disapproval: "You just have to be very, very sure that you're actually right about what is actually in their best interests, what will actually hurt or benefit them, and what is actually wrong for them." Often we cannot be "very, very sure" of what we think might be in their best interest---and that's okay because we can communicate that to them. "Hey, Bob. I can appreciate your interest in taking this particular course of action. But here's my perception of it all and why it might not be good for you. I could be wrong, but I wanted you to know about how I see and feel about the matter."

I love this. You're a gem, Teal.

thank you very much Teal.. this is very helpful

Thank you for expressing these ideas. Best, B

Sometimes I see a video of Teal and get it all, but when I dont, I feel it is because is a subject I need to grasp more because it is something lacking on me or that I have to improve. Best part of it, I can see her all over again!

You drop so many bombs of wisdom and I´m always speechless after watching any of your videos

Got your book, Anatomy of Loneliness, as an audio version, love it so far! The chapter about shame is make s a lot of sense. Also I really like that you are reading it yourself!

Gonna watch this video a couple more times. Describes the story of my life perfectly

knowing and realizing this truth is really painful. but I must gain acceptance. pray for me 🙏 and all others who feel the same way

People may not align with all your beliefs, But that won't matter Since it's so calming When you speak...

Wow ! She is amazing! I just learned so much 💗

I can totally relate when you said 'I'm gonna have to claim that you can know what's best for someone else better than them. *Let the battle begin!!!*'

Did anyone else notice the clock in the background is at 11:11?

Always helpful. Love your videos. Thank you :) Love the sounds of birds in the background.

@oscarwilliamson1264

3 жыл бұрын

CANADIAN KABINGURL,hope you are in a good relationship cause you are too precious 🌹🌹🌷!

You are amazing Teal 💝

Video idea: avoidant attachment in childhood and adulthood, and how to deal with it I have suffered exactly what that little girl in the beginning of the video suffered from Knowing that you are invaluable and unappreciated in your close and extended family can cause lots of damage to your adulthood, so often you think that in order for other people to love you need to get their approval and try to impress them with what you’ve become, eventually you get tired of trying that so you decide to live yourself no matter what even if nothing changes in you , then teal uploads a video that breaks your mind and you realize that completely approving of yourself might not always be loving ...

@Google990g

4 жыл бұрын

And this whole pattern yields with avoidant attachment in adulthood because you think to yourself, why would I even try they wouldn’t love even if.. the problem is when you are aware of this but you can’t find the next best next thing to do and and even after you became aware of the pattern yuh still can’t stop it and the same results keep happening and you end up alone and you have not idea whether to accept it or try to change it ..

@deepak1987

4 жыл бұрын

​@@Google990g Yea I get what your saying. I was thinking of a perspective of: There is power and awareness. # Maybe too much awareness and too little power creates this kinda boat (of looking through a glass window). # And too much power and too little awareness creates a tyrant (the opposite kind of person). Transformation seems to takes a long time and consistent committed efforts. And happens a little each day even if we dedicate ourselves quite a bit. Changing ourselves is quite difficult. And it is also pretty non-linear, I think because our vision gets pulled quite a lot into things when they come up, and then we are temporarily in that episode, and then another episode, and so on. Since we do not have the full panoramic view (sometimes its wider, sometimes narrower), we cannot get a proper consistent scale of what's happening, how long it would take, what is its scope, and so on. In my experience it kinda works holographically. Like every small thing you heal in a relationship with one person around you, heals that aspect in all of your other relationships too. So yea, its pretty hard. We gotta go at it brick by brick, lego by lego, and the way the healing unfolds is pretty crazy. I try to live from the space of understanding as far as possible. Waves of crushing despair, rage, futility, dread, loneliness, isolation, forlornness, forsakenness, apathy, deadness, sadness, grief, bleakness, horror, do come and go though (quite often :/). They are to be somehow endured I guess.

@phoenixash3076

4 жыл бұрын

gee, dont doubt yourself, teal is a noob, she doesnt know what she's talking bout for 99.99998 ℅ percent of the time

@Google990g

4 жыл бұрын

phoenix ash so you think I shouldn’t doubt my self that means I should trust myself but the way you suggest that she’s a noob makes me feel that trusting myself would mean trusting your opinion of her so so what you’re really saying is that i should trust you and call it trusting myself, that’s funny because I don’t think she’s a noob and now I don’t know whether I should trust your opinion or mine .

@phoenixash3076

4 жыл бұрын

@@Google990g just trust yourself, no matter what, it aint rocketscience

Approval may not be love but....I CANNOT TELL YOU HOW I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS ALL THOSE YEARS!!!! 😍

teal you are my biggest inspiration. youre such a beautiful soul and ever since ive discovered you you have sparked so much understanding and intergration within myself. thank you for being here

this rather complicated, I listened to this video twice. I hope you can elaborate on these ideas a bit more, thank you!

That was a BIG PLATTER Of Food For Thought...Extra Thumbs Up!

@oscarwilliamson1264

3 жыл бұрын

PrairieDogers,your pretty smile ☺️ can make the news!

Thank you, Teacher. Infinite ♥

Lol! Dammit, Teal!!! I can't unring this bell now. Thank You!!!

@oscarwilliamson1264

3 жыл бұрын

Heather Lawrence,hope you are in a good relationship cause you are too precious 🌹🌹🌷🌷🌺!

Thank you, Teal 💙 ~~~ One thing I'd like to hear your take on concerns the possibility of an "empathy gap" between our 3D selves and our higher selves. While 90% of your teaching have felt super congruent and really hit home for me, one that I have a difficult time with is the idea that we specifically chose to come into painful situations before birth in order to stimulate growth and expansion during our life here. Sometimes I feel like these higher selves have little empathy for their 3D counterparts, or "higher beings" for us humans in general... Thanks!

Thank you teal I love you and all your work bless your heart 💓💓🙏🙏🙏

Thanks for the free therapy session, Teal! Lol, I'm def a person who seeks approval from evveryyoonnee, no matter whether I value their opinion or not. I need to figure out how to shake off my tendencies to people please for any crumb of appreciation or admiration from someone else, anyone

Teal, you'vemade me aware and taught me so much. I just only wish i heard this in my 20 30 40s !! Im 50ish...and I listen to you...and just start laughing...YES YES this girl has FINALLY articulated the human condition !!! Thank you sweet girl...🦋🦋🐠🐠🌻🌻

Thank you for sharing your wisdom

How do you know all of this? You don’t even seem to be from this planet with this level of knowledge. Mind blowing 😮

Good video!

1:02 BABY DONT HURT ME, DONT HURT ME, NO MORE... Couldn't help it.

@mmaxeator

4 жыл бұрын

I was looking for such comment :-)

What a beautiful charismatic woman⚜️great coach⚜️🌟

Everybody should receive a link to her videos since the first day at school, so we could learn all about life at once...4 real.

@dani9622

4 жыл бұрын

For real!

@midiabuzz8220

4 жыл бұрын

@@dani9622 sorry, my English is a little outdated...

Very enlightening. Funny how I was meditating this morning when a person came to my mind and I asked for clarity with its regards. Long ago, I had a random encounter with a guy for whom I felt instant energetic attraction. We haven't met since then cause it was right the day before I took off to another country; but we continued chatting every now and then for about 3 years. No attachment strings or promise of something romantic; although I beleive there was an attraction there, but it continued just like two friends with a deep unspoken understanding of each other. I wondered all these 3 years how strange it is that I couldn't get a random person off my mind. I could clearly see how he wouldn't fit as a partner but yet the connection towards him was so strong and the love for him was undeniably sincere. I had always felt I wanted to protect him and his own interest, and it made no difference to me what was his best interest and what was mine. What was unique though is that He was the only person that showed me complete approval during these last 3 years as he never ever judged any of my behaviour or statement. In fact, I believe he appreciated the same thing about me for I didn't judge him for any of his behaviour. In the 3rd year of chatting, one day we randomly brought up the fact that we both still think "would what have happened have we dated". I let that thought slowly simmer, but every now and then we would bring up some insinuations of wanting to meet. Then, one day I took the courage and asked him what does he feel about me (and I wasn't rude or demanding or anything, I even said " I am not asking you for anything, I just want to know what is it that you expect from the idea of the two of us, It would be Nice to know cause I care"); then he just never replied. I left it there for I am not someone to insist on others. Since then, it had hurt me beyond what that person represented in my life. It was even ridiculous for me to tell this story as I have gone through way more extreme hardships in life and it sounded so ridiculous that such thing would even affect me. Yet I fell in such deep sadness and I still miss him way too much as if he was something indispensable. Only now I am realising it was about "unconditional approval" (and boy it is something I was so much longing for). I am also saddened as I now see how it was clearly his way of "not caring" about any of my life choices or their consequences. Even worse, this video made me realise that not only it might have never been "love" for him, it was not even "approval". Maybe that's the myth that was brutally dismantled in my subconscious (triggered by him not approving of the totality of me as he made it not safe for me to express myself with that last question I asked him). As tough as such realisations are, I wanted to thank you Teal for helping me see more clearly through this all. Clarity -as tough as it is- has always been the first step for me to evolve to a better place, and that ...dear Teal... is love :P

Lovely episode

Thanks Teal 🙏