What's brought me tremendous freedom is the realization that you will be rejected whatever you do. You can totally submit yourself to someone else desires, mortify yourself completely, and they can still reject you. It feels so much better to be yourself, then at least you get to have fun while being rejected, and then the rejection hurts so much less, because you're having a great time.

@user-gs1et6sx4k

Жыл бұрын

I agree! Some people will never welcome or love you no matter what you do, accepting that fact and that you are absolutely ok, just with incompatible people, sets you free :)

@zeedo666

Жыл бұрын

That's clever!

@BetaBuxDelux

Жыл бұрын

Very wise Thank you

@blueangel9544

Жыл бұрын

Yes!

@srikwari360

Жыл бұрын

This is something that I am slowly coming to terms with. My work has been constantly criticised and rejected by higher authorities at my work place and peers since 2014. It got worse in 2019. Finally I just stopped listening to them and listened to my inner self. It still hurts but it hurts less when they redicule my work. I no longer care. I just do my thing.

If anyone is interested, this modality Teal is discussing is internal family systems which was refined by Richard Schwartz. There’s a wonderful book “No Bad Parts”. Internal family systems really began helping my ptsd versus the usual cognitive behavioral therapy. I’m finally starting to take care of myself as the ‘self’ and show my younger protective parts that I can take over their duties.

6:22 I remember consciously choosing to call myself ugly, stupid, unwanted and all sorts of nasty negative self talk in high school so as to "beat others to the punch" so it won't hurt bc I've already hurt myself or that I've already accepted these as "facts". And I wasn't even objectively ugly. But I developed deep body with focus on face dismorphia during those years and even prior.

I sabotage myself in relationships with others... I always want to show who I really am but I end up showing a dull and grey mask... This correlates to my past that was full of rejection from others and from myself... Anyway, I know I am gonna get through this 💩. Thank you for doing this video! Greetings from Uruguay

@user-gs1et6sx4k

Жыл бұрын

You definitely will, don't loose hope 🌼😌

@DannyGu33

Жыл бұрын

@@user-gs1et6sx4k thanks 😙

@tanjaborchhardt2123

Жыл бұрын

You are not alone on this journey... rejection, abandonment and abuse are part of our collective luggage...and we are here to transmute this collective wound... together

@user-gs1et6sx4k

Жыл бұрын

@@tanjaborchhardt2123 beautiful words 🙏✨ I really hope it will be exactly like you said

I always watch everything you put out. Smartest person on the net.

@sinaloa996

Жыл бұрын

Hahahah

@carolinelaronda4523

Жыл бұрын

Smartest person on the planet imo 😊

@IamRanJos

Жыл бұрын

She's so emotionally mature, rare to see people at this level who understand human nature at such intrinsic level.

@jacky4u3

Жыл бұрын

Wow. You need to get out more if you think this nutcase is smart.

@aquasapien9275

5 ай бұрын

Most courageous, going for mastery and excellence in a world of degrading meoracraty.

"All to often our attempts to avoid one type of pain simply land us in another." LOL it's funny because it's true 🤣😭

@jennyquezada9644

Жыл бұрын

The shadow follows us…

This is exactly right. I've been thinking about what's wrong with myself for years and she explained my problem exactly. I have a great career path, lots of friends, a hobby and work I enjoy, and yet I hate myself. It's all because I know I'll be rejected if I'm authentic.

@vidamrita

Жыл бұрын

You will only be rejected by the wrong people. It’s painful to lose certain people (although you may be surprised by others and your relationships might simply change) but you’ll never be with the right people and doing what you truly want, if you don’t risk losing what you currently have… Being completely authentic is the way to find your people and the right life for you. And that’s a journey in itself, for sure. Sending love

@ethanjensen7967

Жыл бұрын

@@vidamrita thank you :) I'm doing well

@vden02

Жыл бұрын

You don't "know" that, you are assuming it based on your core beliefs you will be.

At 6:25 Teal sets out 3 possible goals of the self rejector. #2 struck a chord with me. “…to maintain connection with those who reject you by agreeing with them about yourself”

Wow, now I understand my attitudes better. The inner critic theory never felt real or the whole story for me. I never understood why I'm so agreeable with everyone and can not stand up for myself. I've always hated myself for that, not being able to speak up, to voice my opinion, to go against other people. Now it all makes sense. I knew it had something to do with me not feeling safe in the world but never knew about this self rejector part of me. It makes so much sense and ties everything together. Even the example of the 'golden child' totally resonated with my life. Being agreeable with my parents made them love me and I've rejected the part of me that has a voice and any opinion as they have rejected. I need to integrate and bring that part of me back to life. Thank you 🙏🏿

@zucita85

Жыл бұрын

Same here. You are not Alone. But I still don’t know how to deal with this. It is kind of hard to get out of, because we will not get applauded directly or hugged. For a long time I just thought I was victimising myself, but this really is an eye-opener. Good luck to you.🍀

Incase You'd Rather Read About It Instead: tealswan.com/resources/articles/self-rejector/

@robertmalatesta4545

Жыл бұрын

Teal, I’ve heard a little about your background in the Mormon church many years back and was curious if an interview would be possible to discuss certain things?

At the top of the hill , once all rejectors as obstacles have been cleared there is such thing as exaltation in a sanctuary a newly acquired zone where all of our truth rallies under one banner, for one main purpose : to be Loved, to be Loving and to become Life Lovers .

Wow, Martin's psyche is similar to mine. I got rejected so many times that I stopped making efforts to connect with people.

Today I had one of those depressive and difficult days, your video helped me a lot, thank you for your inspiration and kindness as always 🌺✨

@DannyGu33

Жыл бұрын

I send you lots of love. You are perfect as you are, you know? Don't ever forget that. 💛

@mare2723

9 ай бұрын

I can’t stand being this alone anymore I like my own company but I am exhausted I can’t do everything alone anymore universe please help!

@user-gs1et6sx4k

9 ай бұрын

Sending you my support and prayers 🙏✨🌼

Greetings from Taos, New Mexico

I would really love to hear Teal speak more on the "lost child"! She touched it briefly in this video but there's still so much more to it. I would love a video on that! 😊👍🏻 Also this video was great, thank you so much for the insight!

@lkintuition2508

Жыл бұрын

Yes plz

Welp, that's just what I needed a reminder of. Now moving so deep in to my healing, seeing this pattern of self-rejection and abandonment (with a healthy glob of shame and self-loathing for good measure!) was actually created in my childhood - and not operating on a conscious level, but over the past 10 or 12 years, I have been going through this loop of extreme betrayal in every situation, context and relationship type from friends, to business, relationships and family.. Clearly this is what has been going on BENEATH the surface. Only this year have I really been able to begin looking more deeply (after 16 years of self work in the spiritual realm and 12 step recovery +) at what happened, what it was like for me, and call it what it was - abuse and neglect. Love ya Teal! Way to stay solid when people are trying to tear you and your business apart! #TeamNoThankYou

@davidcassese707

Жыл бұрын

Love you teal... Should be FEEL Swan... Feel like a swan... Interesting... 2 throw caution 2 da wind... Is 2 abandone this internal critic( cautionary) brakes on our authentic wants& needs... So 2 feel swan ... Is 2 be your real self! Why we are here... 2 flower what we really feel... Being the swan vrs tho while being this swan ... One believes they are a do do bird...

Yes! And I would do this for people, get treated like garbage by them and even be told that I take on the problems of other people. It got so bad I just stopped talking to people and it’s not what I want. Even when I was around these types they had similar traumas and just like my close family, they don’t deal with it, but they get angry with me when I freeze/fawn. I’m ready for a change.

the good human beings need to all be in communication with eachother so that they can each always have the aid of all other good humans as available to them.

@ElleS572

Жыл бұрын

My father's name was Joe Smith 😊

There was literally no one who wanted me to succeed in my career, family or friends, so I destroyed it. It makes sense why I did it. Thank you teal❤ It feels really good to know why I did what I did. Hoping to get back on track soon!!!

@TheBFA22

Жыл бұрын

@RR d9pq I am curious to know in what way how and why you destroyed yourself because others didn't want you to succeed.?

Thank you, Teal. How can we possibly thank you for all of your service?

@abejitasqueaks

Жыл бұрын

Send her protection 🙏

@molchaniazolotovacommunica9015

Жыл бұрын

You just did. Drink tea every day, and feel the energy that you drink TEAL🫖

@anthonyrayballou450

Жыл бұрын

Live Your Best Life.... smh Its Her Joy and Your Thanks to Her.

@bfnew4440

Жыл бұрын

Buy crypto

@anthonyrayballou450

Жыл бұрын

Lol. Yes! She has been on a mission to spread the wealth. Investing on Her Guidance would say Thank You...

This is my life right there thank goodness for you

Ah man.. I'm literally Matin. Thank you for all the insights💕

Thanks for your insightful teachings, the analysis of the inner rejection process makes sense and made me thinking about myself. Greetings from Germany, with love! 🙏❤

the person I loved the most in this world just left me because I did literally every single thing Martin did in this video. It was hard to watch. I didn't want to accept the fact that we were not compatible. it is hard to admit this right now. but I need to make a change. They kept begging me to be honest, and all I did was placate them. I lost the person I loved the most.

That's literally what I discovered this week😂😂😂😂

Thank You Teal. Timely words that you have now spoken to my heart.

Knocked this video out the park Miss Teal

Thank you, Teal and team teal! Live and light. 💕

those chakras decor behind you , thats so beautiful also thanks for such an informative video

I remember when my consciousness split 9 years ago after incident in high school, I became hyper aware of the cycle she explained, and what i feared most is that this pain of abandonment, rejection and being turned against myself is what i'm going to do and feel for the rest of my life and to make matters worse i was aware that's NOT AT ALL the worst of pain i could have felt. I just can't handle uncertainty of being corageous it's like my thinking is : cemetary is full of corageous people i can join anytime.

That was really helpful!

Your empathy bandwidth is astounding.

Thank you...always. For the insight & wisdom as we journey in self awareness 🙏🏽❤️💐

And I thank you for your bravery too Teal! Happy Thanksgiving Lady. Much love.

This new intro gets me excited every time I listen 😂😂😂

Maybe if we all had more time on our hands then slaving in this world of work... and grew vegetables and ate better we would all be healthy and more present with ourselves and be more aware of decisions and choices we all make... 😱🤷🏼‍♀️🙏🏻💗

Thank you, Teal 💚 I only wish I was aware of this earlier in life, but I am grateful to know about it now.

Incredible video and very relevant right now

I admire & respect the beauty you have created in your life and share with others.

Wow, I felt as you were talking about me!! Thanks, this really helps!

Ohhhh! Ofcourse!! Everything makes so much sense now Thankyou VERY much for this Teal 🙏😇🙌🌞

Thank you for your work Teal. I'm just so amazed with your balanced act of leading us ppl through these extremely complex concepts & processes. I can remember when I once did those self destructive choices, and then they just became automatic & unconcious. Feels like I still haven't resolved the self rejection, fighting to find and own my truth. It's hard, don't really know How practically, yet. Will look those videos you named there next. Thank you again

Thankyou Teal! 💖

So insightful! This resonates a lot. Thank you!

i have no words for how much this resonates with me.. unfortunately.. I love your thought process, presentation and delivery. youre awesome! thank you

Yay new Teal video ❤🎉🎉🎉

Oooo ive been waiting for more info on this topic... It's like my mom living inside of me, denying any feeling i have 😥

@Kimmy-nt7th

Жыл бұрын

Russian Dolls. I thought I protected my children inutero from my pain.. I did not. I only wanted them to feel the Joy of life they created. Forever Sad🐣

Thankyou. For everything.

You are brilliant.

You do great work🎉

Thank you Teal Much love from Germany

years back i came onto your channel. Then I wasn't able to connect as much to what you had to say. Lately I am able to connect to every video of yours and to the conversation about self. This one nudged me to type in this comment. Self Rejection is something I've been dealing and struggling with for sooooo long. I am so going to put in the work to dig more into my psyche, unravel this knotted mess and hopefully undo it.

GOLD!!!!!!!!!!! Thank YOU!!!!!

I needed this one big time!! Thank you! ❤

@StewARTist5

Жыл бұрын

😑

This is exactly it. Thank you for putting it into words. I have worked with it for so long and somehow managed to acknowledge it as a strategy similar to this, but god, what a mess it was. The order and precision of your words here sums this process of mine up perfectly, brings calm to it. Thank you for your sharpness :-)

Thank you Teal ❤ everyone experiences this so differing degrees and it’s not talked about enough

Thank you! ❤️❤️❤️

The synchronicity of this release and what I am discovering in my personal life....

Thank you! 🙂

Wauw. This one hit something in me. Thank you

I can so relate to your definition of the self rejector my own solitude and guardian, vibrational equilibrium be it harmonic or not, i can so integrate what you have said and every word hits home to my sense to my psyche and I end up totally in love with you, Teal Swan. Thank you for your psychic arrows you sharpened, in my quiver.

Thanks Teal. I listened to that

@lordblagoja4272

Жыл бұрын

@@Kountrywayne0.- where is the laugh at you button.

@lordblagoja4272

Жыл бұрын

@@Kountrywayne0.- Where is the "I'm laughing at you" button.

Advocate shadow in the thumbnail...nice touch 👌👌

Excellent thank you so much

so spot on

Thank you so awesome

"Many of us are engaged in self-sabotage. We do things that hinder our own success, that go against what we want the very most and that cause our own destruction". Teal Swan. Thank you Teal for talking about this 🌎

Thank you, the elements that is you.

@zulaitijjani

Жыл бұрын

Above ⬆️⬆️

As a man, I have never heard any woman speak to us like that ever. That's insane level of understanding.

Wow Teal! I mean, talk about hitting the nail on the head... this might be your most pertinent video yet, to me. Well, idk, there have been some very pertinent videos before, but this one feels as if it were catered to me specifically. So i will be back, again and again, to rewatch this. You know, i gotta let it sink in a little at a time if i am ever going to fully get it!

@telgrammelindaraynier8958

Жыл бұрын

*There's more you need to learn and* *understand telegram me via the above* *username ☝️*

Damn she is so on point with describing my previous relationship. I love this woman.

Love to Hear

I'm in love! This woman is simply amazing!

@telgrammelindaraynier8958

Жыл бұрын

*Thanks for watching and welcome* *For consultation and enlightenment telegram. me via the above username ☝️*

that hair light is 👌

@telgrammelindaraynier8958

Жыл бұрын

*welcome here Thanks for watching* *For consultation and enlightenment telegram- me.. via the above username ☝️*

I just wanna Feel good again while doing whats good

Thank you. 💯❤️🙏

thank you!

Thank you 🙏🙏

Perfect thank u teal

@telgrammelindaraynier8958

Жыл бұрын

*There's more you need to learn and* *understand telegram me via the above* *username ☝️*

great video

Thank you

ThankU brilliant and scathing. Martin's story is heartbreaking. My folks stayed together & made peace eventually. But my early years were a war zone. Mirroring= law of attraction? So much I don't know

I love your white, soft sweater...

The bigger question is WHY tf we are so easily traumatized and fragmented??? Is so Source so unstable at this point and expanding/fragmenting exponentially that it is mirrored in our own fragile, quick sand, unstable selves?

I'm not a fashionista, but that top/dress (can't tell) is very cool and beautiful! Particularly the sleeves

♥️thank you

thanks teal

When one beats another to the punch, about oneself...I’m wondering if I had ever really believed that about myself, or was I just pretending to, since it did not seem safe or helpful in those moments, to be my authentic self! I think part of me was pretending & part may have believed some things. Great food for thought! Really great insight! How you sorted this all out, I’ll never know! 😊 I’m so glad you did & Kudos to you for doing so! 🙌🏼♥️🙏🏼 Thank you for this info & I greatly appreciate this video!

Master goddess ! I think u just cracked the code. See in the past, I would use my fragmentation as power. But then u guy lost in them. So I got to get to myself and yank him out. I always liked self sabotaging from when I was young. To gain strength. If people made fun of me. I would internalize it and make it my own. Even if it’s untrue. But I thought or my mind did it would make me stronger and plus my self sabotaging behavior thought it would be good to ruminate on the idea. And since I never yelled or showed my feelings to defend my emotions. I would use that anger that I wanted to express as focusing it inward. Acting what they thought. To regain strength and use that anger to propel me in life. I guess my protector function. So I need to defend myself more. Which is hard. Bc when I let go of the ego. I don’t see the use to defend myself. But the anger still arises from my self who’s trapped in my fragments. So thank u! And ur beautiful yo! Plus adorable! These stories are totally my life! Your help is ummmmmmmm ding!

EGO VS SELF☯️

Omg, I do this! But I'm learning how to think for myself. 😤

what saved you from death in childhood kills you in adulthood

Thank you for identifying this as a protector, and distinguishing that it exists as another part (Is not the Inner-Critic directly). The vulnerable part this protector is protecting, is the part of self I have been searching for, for over fifteen years. "It" has mirrored itself in reality, through you, this video, at this time! My public comment here is myself communicating directly back to "it". The vulnerable part created the protector part. That kind of power is intimidating. Who knows how intelligent our vulnerable parts are? They can be more intelligent and aware thane even we are. If the vulnerable part wants integration with the self, "it" must learn to recognize how it distresses and prevents the authentic self from having the capacity to integrate it. "I understand you, but you must understand that you challenged me too much, I am overwhelmed, and your goals are unrealistically difficult. And then I am somehow the problem for not being willing to integrate you?!" When someone lacks will to heal and help themself, we need to seriously ask why. The willingness of a person is the most important of all things, and that which all depends.

@whitebirchtarot

Жыл бұрын

I discovered I was self sabotaging myself several years ago, but haven’t figured out how to change it. Maybe I need to watch Teal’s‘s video on parts work, or maybe there is a lack of willingness. I had never thought about that. I hope not! I certainly want to change, at least I think I do. No, I know I do. Good luck to you!

@reallythere

Жыл бұрын

This is so helpful 🙏🏻 my rejector is giving me Herculean work to secure myself. Full on PTSD and terribly hard work to run from the pain of mother's rejection when in fact the pain is my continued wish to be loved and accepted while what i impose to myself is terribly impactful almost making myself ruined financially and unhousing myself to run away. Moving multiple times and loosing me ability to work and earn a living

@whitebirchtarot

Жыл бұрын

@@reallythere I got to thinking about what Teal said about doing parts work, so last night after I got in bed I started having a conversation with the part of myself that is always self-sabotaging and it was very eye-opening. I always wondered if I could do that kind of thing, but it really worked. It was very helpful and I saw things in a different light. I would definitely recommend it. I have moved multiple times myself and had so many different jobs and relationships, etc. I finally settled down in my early 40s because I found someone who insisted that we get married, and he was right. but I even managed to sabotage that! (Unconsciously, of course) That’s the part of myself I was speaking with last night (when I should’ve been sleeping). Unfortunately, my sweet husband passed away last year which pretty much destroyed my whole life, but anyway, hang in there. There’s always a solution somehow, if it’s something internal that we can work with. I wish you luck and love. 💕

@whitebirchtarot

Жыл бұрын

@@reallythere P. S. Somehow you need to learn to mother yourself, which is not easy to do unless you’ve had it given to you by someone in some form. Just go with your instincts. If you’ve ever mothered anything, like an animal or a house plant or just anything, it’s the same kind of energy. You need to give it to yourself. I’m trying to learn to love and forgive myself and I think that’s the key. Good luck. 💕 do you know the singer Sinead O’Connor? She has a beautiful song from decades ago called “this is to mother you”. You might check it out, it really made me cry. It’s beautiful.

@reallythere

Жыл бұрын

@@whitebirchtarot that's a beautiful insight thank you for it 🙏🏻 yes u need to mother myself, I'm trying hard to even be able to look in the mirror since I've betrayed myself so much I don't even care look at my myself as I'm ashamed to myself for what i did 💯

thx for d service. nice merry go round. hehehe, better to not care about it and just see it as a beautiful illusion that guides you and makes u g row and overcome the inter and outer limitations. love it, bbswan.

@telgrammelindaraynier8958

Жыл бұрын

*There's more you need to learn and* *understand telegram me via the above* *username ☝️*

i knew someone who managed to have the "im mom's mini me" label attached to her but she was SO intensely self hating and rejecting. in all her interactions in the family she was invisible. completely. a wallflower. no agency and no form on her own. it enraged me tbh. i but for justice for her. as a scapegoat opposite we are often the truth tellers and we will see when the opposite are so deeply in denial. we are forced to see because there simply is no alternative. being able to be in denial for so long pehaps... is more dangerous.

How the heck did you become so awesome at doing this, keep up the great work Teal , is that your real name?

Thank You 9

I love every one of you

“The self critic is designed to try to force you to confirm to whatever would get you approval.” 7:06

Thanks💜🌹