THE FACT THAT SHE WAS ALREADY BEING DISCUSSED BEFORE EVEN WALKING IN.... should automatically let you know it was not a compliment. She was being made into a spectacle and THAT is a form of aggression.

@kayshawnsimmons5585

8 ай бұрын

I Agree 💯

@NottyAries

8 ай бұрын

Yep. That part.

@elamac5628

8 ай бұрын

"...see, she..."

@malyzhus

8 ай бұрын

The fact that she felt the need to record it. She didn't record her just herself. Her initial greeting and rebuttal. There was a lot of thought put into this interaction prior to engaging. She was on guard. And probably recorded it initially to protect herself in the case that this interaction went south. Well handled and good on her for setting boundaries.

@SuperHarare

8 ай бұрын

Truth

Why do they get so mad at the boundaries we set for ourselves???

@kisht7469

8 ай бұрын

Because they want to control us.

@ninadaly7639

8 ай бұрын

You mean entitlement?

@Mrs.SimonifYouNasty

8 ай бұрын

Because your standing up for yourself, and it makes them uncomfortable.

@ninadaly7639

8 ай бұрын

@@Mrs.SimonifYouNasty When did acting like an entitled brat who thinks the universe revolves around them and couldn’t take a mental punch to save their life become synonymous with “standing up for yourself”? It used to be called “pathetic”.

@AnimalAlmighty

8 ай бұрын

@@ninadaly7639Yea yt folks got it bad dont they?

He wanted to look as feminine as Ben Shapiro, and yet as masculine’s as Ellen DeGeneres

@JaiK64

8 ай бұрын

😅😅😅😅

@kayshawnsimmons5585

8 ай бұрын

😹😹😹😹😹

@theinvisiblewoman5709

8 ай бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣

@mistol2130

8 ай бұрын

Lol

@zaheerahshareef8131

8 ай бұрын

Actually he looked like an incel to be honest

My favorite 'compliment' is "Wow you're so articulate." 😳 I usually say "Thanks. You should see me with a knife and fork." Living in someone else's head rent free is SO exhausting 😂

@mistiqueentourage7182

8 ай бұрын

Some black people are not articulate and I know you know that so there is nothing offensive about that compliment. Im sure you have had black people tell you you sound white simply because you are very articulate yet you are not offended by that. It has happened to me and I am a black woman who is very articulate and always have been from the age of 2.

@Alex-HHP

8 ай бұрын

@@mistiqueentourage7182 You missed the point. Commenting on someone's ability to speak when you do not know them shows what you think of them in general. If you think black people are stupid or uneducated and you come across one who isn't, you are so surprised by this that it moves you to comment on it, is the point. Compliments about abilities or behavior are for the exceptional. A black person who can speak well is not exceptional unless you hold the belief that in general, they can not.

@lexisgood1783

8 ай бұрын

​@@mistiqueentourage7182wowww since 2 and u still know no better aht aht 😂😂😂

@mistiqueentourage7182

8 ай бұрын

@@Alex-HHP I got the point and you are correct however all I was saying is there I s no reason to let a comment like that offend you because you are being commented on it means you are doing something right and it means you are very important. So just say thank you and keep it moving or don't respond and keep it moving as if you didn't hear what was said.

@mistiqueentourage7182

8 ай бұрын

@@lexisgood1783 yup since the age of 2. I had people asking me if I am sure I'm my age if I'm sure I'm not an adult with dwarfism 😂😂😂😂😂😂

The way they try to force us to accept compliments is disturbing. Also, talking about how somebody change their hair everyday and making that a whole talking point in the office is racism simple as that and then when she told you she did not like it you try to play victim and make her look like the aggressor is unhinged. This reminded me so much of Sarah Bartman and how they talked about that woman's body and exploited her body like she was some sort of circus freak. I am glad people gathered her together because that was not a compliment.

@theinvisiblewoman5709

8 ай бұрын

When I would get braids this girl in class would say “oh wow your hair grew so fast” every single time over the course of 4 years (high school). It wasn’t funny but she did it and laughed every single time… and most people just ignored her while I would just stare at her quietly until she felt weird and walked away. And she 100% did it to be nasty; you can’t twist that into a compliment.

@Nerdificent

8 ай бұрын

I certainly would not have found having someone shout to someone else about my hair to be a compliment. That the loud woman thought she was paying a compliment by shouting about how someone changes their hair tells me her judgment is off, among other things.

@TrueOrigins1618

8 ай бұрын

I don’t think it’s racism but it’s definitely rude and annoying

@meyeah382

8 ай бұрын

Or try to make you accept them calling a grown woman girl... I put a coworker on check for that shitz yesterday. Calls every white person by their name but calls me girl. 🤬🤬 Now I'm rude😂😂

@fernandinapelage2648

8 ай бұрын

😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

I just wish they left us alone

@maddcapper4548

8 ай бұрын

They are too insecure to do that.....

@SweetUareDesi

8 ай бұрын

Tell black men to tell them lol

@ninadaly7639

8 ай бұрын

I gotta ask. I’ve seen that comment, “Why don’t they leave us alone?” before. I’m confused. The black progressives have been jumping up and down, screaming non-stop in everyone’s face for the last 5 or so years, bitching and complaining, demanding everyone else hand them huge sums of money, criticizing everyone else, and attacking everything about this country. That has all been because you want to be left alone? More like a child having a tantrum to get the attention they want. Perhaps if you tried leaving everyone else alone you’d be happier.

That white man that came to her defense is everything ! I do appreciate how he completely understood! God bless him where ever he is !

@omaribishop5641

8 ай бұрын

Of course, the white savior comment gets her like

@UnluckyGirl81

8 ай бұрын

​@@omaribishop5641The white man literally had the best comment of the whole video. He gets it!!! 👏🏾

@omaribishop5641

8 ай бұрын

@UnluckyGirl81 wow that'll do it, His people will stop being evil now. Bunch of weak minded pathetic.....

It wasn't a compliment, it was sarcasm at its best!!!

We are not MINORITIES!!!

@kadagyalsmily

8 ай бұрын

‼️

@kay-collins

8 ай бұрын

FACTS!!

@TabithaLynnIsrael

8 ай бұрын

Thank you!! Your comment is 💯% facts...

@shaunaholmes6561

8 ай бұрын

We are, but not in the population sense. We're social minorities because in society, we are treated as less than. We're economic minorities because we're 250 years behind in wealth generation, we've spent another 150 years attempting to generate wealth as a whole, only to have them destroy what we've built. Only in the last 50 years, have we been able to generate wealth and also pass it down to our children. We're political minorities because we don't have the political power to ensure our lives can be as the Constitution stated. Therefore, we're socio-economic-political minorities.

@soulspeedforever

8 ай бұрын

@@shaunaholmes6561 regardless, I don't accept what anyone else thinks we are, nor what they believe us to be.

Talking behind someones back and then saying your complimenting them mid backstabbing is NOT A COMPLIMENT!

I do NOT give her wrong. I automatically felt the phonyness in her "compliment." It was not coming from a pure place. She had an attitude. It was very loud and clear.

@dangelamarx80

8 ай бұрын

She was so loud about it. She was definitely trying to embarrass her

@kadeemjoseph8138

8 ай бұрын

Women rarely give each other genuine compliments A WW giving a BW one is damn near non existant

@AleciaRenece

8 ай бұрын

Even if she did have an attitude, leave her alone. Lol. It's not that deep. Black women are allowed to have attitudes.

@leely577

8 ай бұрын

​@@AleciaReneceI think the OP was talking about the complimenter having an attitude not the black woman.

@l.b.5187

7 ай бұрын

As if she was jealous about the attention she gets and she had to tell everyone how her hair changed. Mean girl.

She's not wrong. That *compliment* is wack.

@kayshawnsimmons5585

8 ай бұрын

I Agree 💯

They can keep their compliments, commentary and everything to themselves…I don’t fool with them anyway.

@kayshawnsimmons5585

8 ай бұрын

WE DON'T CARE 🤡🤛🏾😒😑

@uwilberforce4628

8 ай бұрын

Period.

@SonQuay.

8 ай бұрын

See that's what y'all get for giving em to much leeway in his mind he's like I'm white you need to except my complements 🤷🏿‍♂️some

@ninadaly7639

8 ай бұрын

So then you would be willing to do the same?

@TheMissuz82

8 ай бұрын

@@ninadaly7639 obviously if I said I don’t fool with them anyway…you’re comprehension skills are lacking 🙄…I have never felt compelled to compliment any wp 🤣

Some snakes are poisonous while other snakes embrace you to death. The first guy was a Viper and the second one is a python.

@kayshawnsimmons5585

8 ай бұрын

I Agree 💯

@diohpeah371

8 ай бұрын

🤔 Damn

@ninadaly7639

8 ай бұрын

But the majority of snakes are harmless.

@kayshawnsimmons5585

8 ай бұрын

@@ninadaly7639 snakes are but not males

@ninadaly7639

8 ай бұрын

@@kayshawnsimmons5585 Well now, I’ll have to go with you on that one. Even when they don’t think they are, or mean to be, they are pains in the ass.

The one silver haired dude in the beginning GOT👏🏾IT👏🏾ON👏🏾LOCK👏🏾

@AlmondJoy4u

8 ай бұрын

Right 🎉🎉🎉

@joeshmoe0136

8 ай бұрын

I was impressed by him. When an older man is setting a younger man straight, it just goes to show that prejudice is not about age it's about ignorance.

@jasminebrown8651

8 ай бұрын

Yes!!!

With the entire video the white Lady was talking ABOUT this black womans hair to SOMEONE ELSE like it was some type of dang spectacle and then was so fake with the compliment… like she only decided to compliment because she got caught talking about her. Let’s keep it real. Why is it that black womens hair are looked at like some type of exhibit it’s annoying. 🙄

And i wouldn't even want a compliment from someone that refers to us as a "minority"...

Getting a compliment on your hair ONCE is one thang, somebody CONSTANTLY making a spectacle of your hair is a whole nother animal 😗

It's not rocket science. We've observed them enough to know who they are and what they do. My first job out of college was😮 being black with a group of white fratboy types. One made it a point every day from day one to tell me how sharp I was and how much he liked my style. Compliment, right? I watched it devolve into those same fratboys standing around the coffee machine every morning and under the guise of a compliment start trying to clown me and mimic black people with the usual stereotypes. Until I caught him alone in the parking garage and with less than 20 words made him understand I knew what he was doing and what would be the consequences of what he was doing. They know who they are. They're just used to getting away with it. Those days are over. Fck around and find out!.

The thing is we let these people know too much about us .Now they have claimed the hair extension, wig, weave ,braids and other hair styles etc.....as their own .They are making most of the money and gaining popularity. ONCE upon a time they didn't oil their hair / skin now they have claimed it as their buzz word moisturiser . As for the hygiene and washing etc....that's on another level let's not get into that .We taught these people a lot yet they deemed us as minority, uncivilized , less than the list goes on and on . But I know who I am

@ninadaly7639

8 ай бұрын

It all stems from hygiene????

@tredinabrown2249

20 күн бұрын

​@@ninadaly7639We Are Psalm 148:14

@ninadaly7639

20 күн бұрын

@@tredinabrown2249 But you are not children of the Israel referenced in the bible. Plus, you realize, everyone thinks they’re a “chosen” one. It’s part of the nature and purpose of religion.

@tredinabrown2249

20 күн бұрын

@@ninadaly7639 They All KNOW The TRUTH! Truth Shall Spring Out Of The Earth, And Righteousness Shall Look Down From Heaven. Psalm 85:11 PRAISE THE MOST HIGH YAH!

@ninadaly7639

20 күн бұрын

@@tredinabrown2249 LOL. The truth as YOU see it. Alas, religious texts by nature are interpretive.

WE CAN WEAR OUR HAIR IN 1,990 STYLES WHILE THEY CAN ONLY WEAR A PONYTAIL EVERYDAY THAT IS WHY OUR HAIR IS SO IMPORTANT TO THEM

What the lady started out with was not a compliment. Also, by the way the conversation went, that tells us that she was being spoken about BEFORE she walked in. That leads to the fact that this has happened a lot and sis expected more comments.

Jealousy, she wanted to knock that sister's self-esteem down a notch. She should go get her own hair done and stop being a racist hater. I literally left healthcare and corporate America because I fear no one and I hate bullies and I can't hold my tongue when it comes to shit like this, I would've hurt that ladies feelings so bad simply by telling her she looks the same everyday with the utmost blatantly condescending passive aggressive (heavy on the aggressive) tone I could muster up.

@mistol2130

8 ай бұрын

Shouldn’t leave deal with devils by being as soft as a dove and wise as a serpent

@THELIONSDEN-jw4ul

8 ай бұрын

THE SAME RACIST BLACK WOMEN WORK WITH AGAINST BLACK MEN? HHHM VERY HYPOCRITICAL. BLACK WOMEN LEAD IN CHILD ABUSE AND DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND WORK WITH WHITE SUPREMACY AGAINST BLACK MEN AND BLACK WOMEN LESBIANISM DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS SKY HIGH AND SABOTAGING THE RELATIONSHIPS WITH THE CHILDREN FATHERS LYING ON BLACK MEN ALL THE TIME

@Guesswhatyo

8 ай бұрын

Child they ran me away too not corporate but hosputals, same crap. I drive Ube mosr of the time these days which is sad!! Cuz I'm a nurse, i can't with them. I might go back. Ill take that advice up top.

I'm glad someone saw the minority statement tactic

The 'compliment' was loud, raucous and out of place in a work environment. She didn't need to crow about how the young BW changed her hair up. Heck, if I could buy some hair and make it look good, I'd be tempted to try it too. Had the loud voiced woman said something along the lines of 'looking great' in a reasonable volume of voice, that would have been a compliment. As for the guy saying you can't compliment BP anymore, his smirk suggests he knows he's being an untruthful s disturber. He'd be better off to say Black people's hair is not public property.

They have a weird obsession with BP. We are always on their minds. We dont worry about them the way they worry about us and thats a fact. Whyte men compliment my natural hair soooo much. At 1st i didnt mind,now its annoying. It happens so much, i expect it to happen . I work for a big company. Not saying the name. My boss,whose right under the owners, says " my name, your hair looks good",i notice things like that". I only had my natural hair in a curly high puff,with bangs. He said it in front of other in the dept. Some of those ppl too say things often about my hair. Im the only BP in my dept. Also the only BW I especially hate when they say "i like the hair". My hair isnt a THE. WW do it too. Its the tone. You know a genuine compliment when you hear it.... I wear twist outs,puffs,buns, box braids once in a while. They say something no matter the style. I often catch the men staring at my hair. Its just weird.

@princesschanel469

8 ай бұрын

If we stopped pushing ourselves onto them in their spaces they probably wouldn’t think abt us like that. But we don’t build our own stuff and we always go to them for everything (banks, schools, hospitals) so ofc we’ll be on their mind bc we’re everywhere

@princesschanel469

8 ай бұрын

Black ppl are really not that interesting for ppl to be obsessing over

@SasaSasa-wy9wu

8 ай бұрын

Lol u have issues getting mad at bp saying I like ‘the’ hair. Girl get a life, there’s worse sh to get mad over. This aint one of them

@ItsMyOpinion-sd2iz

8 ай бұрын

@@princesschanel469 Lmao.BP are that interesting. We are trendsetters. Everyone wants our rhythm, but not our blues. Proof is all over the Internet. Maybe you're not an interesting individual, but BP as a whole are all that and some. The world watches us

@hope3290

8 ай бұрын

@@princesschanel469 Somebody doesn't know their history. When we build our own, they burn it to the ground. Tulsa ring any bells? Rosewood? Oscarville? Wilmington? They ARE obsessed with us and do everything they can to make sure we never rise higher than them or have any space for ourselves. Stop talking without educating yourself first.

That is what trying to be down gone wrong looks like. I've especially gotten the inappropriate "I wanna be down," yt girl who dates dates/sleeps with/marries black men and thinks that transfers to a familiarity with and understanding of black women. She believes that having access to black men and bearing biracial children somehow gives her an in to black female culture. No.

@ninadaly7639

8 ай бұрын

Maybe she was trying to be a friend or connect as a fellow female. Don’t be such a racist.

@CleverLoyal247

8 ай бұрын

​@@ninadaly7639if she's trying to be a friend or connect then she will give up her privilege

Sister with the locks was spot on!

She was pointing out that she was wearing a wig. Plain and simple

When they walk in our shoes, they would see what we are talking about. But they won't do that.🙄🙄🙄

@ninadaly7639

8 ай бұрын

Back at ya!

What he really meant is “We can’t even talk to and about theses people any kind of way without them getting all uppity.” This is what they mean by make America great again. They mean let’s go back to a time when POC knew how to stay in their place & not talk back.

I really like this video because I have locs all down my back that I have been growing for almost 8 years and white people and some black people will ask me is my hair real or why would I do that to my hair. I can't stand it. But. when I tell them my hair is real, they will roll their eyes at me like I did something wrong. All black people are not bald-headed.

@Ms.Byrd68

8 ай бұрын

Okay, Dear Heart, 'BALD-HEADED'?! So who exactly is that baby? Every Black person whose hair is not as NATURALLY long as yours? I agree that many people seem to believe Black women can't grow hair but we know that 'Genetics & Care' play a role just like they do FOR ANYONE ELSE. Let us not, however, purposefully OFFEND EACH OTHER though. Be blessed.

@Nerdificent

8 ай бұрын

Whether you grew it or bought it, your hair is yours and your business only. If I think someone's hair looks great, I may tell them so...end of. The only hair that's any of my business is growing on my own head. ❤❤❤

@goldenheart751

8 ай бұрын

@@Nerdificent That part!

@INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha

8 ай бұрын

​@@Ms.Byrd68 Chile, you must be bald-headed bcs her comment was not offensive AT ALL (except to you-OBVIOUSLY)😆 Dang, get your blood pressure back down.

But, I never heard a "compliment".

I hate when they call my locs braids. Its 2023, yall know what locs are, stop calling it braids. Stop telling me my kids are well behaved, etc. I love compliments, make sure they are not backhanded.

My policy is don't interact with em, and whatever they say let them worry about.

Leave our hair alone and we won't talk about your dog shedding hair. Easy😅

@INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha

8 ай бұрын

Chile, they don't have hair; they have FUR 😂

On a side note I ease my coworkers into my hair changes. I gradually go longer and longer or shorter and shorter. They already understand the magic of shrinkage and the difference between my own straight and curly hair. I was so proud of my 77 year old White conservative male coworker who schooled someone’s off hand compliment about my braids. Glad I don’t have anyone with audacity to give backhand shady compliments.

When white women have extensions we all have to pretend that it’s real, if we say “oh wow, I know that it’s not real, it’s pretty thou!” They would lose their minds if we talk about how they wash their extensions or ask IF they wash their extensions, they would lose their minds (I have been asked that and when said no I do not wash my hair every single day they acted like my hair, and therefore me, were dirty, ignoring the fact washing your hair every day is terrible for your hair)

What is obsession that some folks have for Black people hair, dress, music, and the list goes on? I wish someone do a study to see if other races are observed in detail from head to toe like Black people are . It has been said that Black people are the most researched people of the planet. Why is that? And yet with all that data they could not come up with hypotheses that most Black people just what to be left alone live their best life and to mind their own business and their fellow man do the same.

@TabithaLynnIsrael

8 ай бұрын

It's because we are God's Chosen ppl [Children of Israel] Deut. 28 kjv. The world hates us cuz they ain't us. It is why we are so gifted, we are the salt/flavor of the earth. Their hatred, including slavery is to return us back to following God's Laws, Statutes, & Commandments. This is explained in our history book, The Bible, it also explains the judgement for those who have done us wrong. *Deut 7:6-10, *Deut 28(the curses on his ppl we see today) *2 Peter 2:9 *Matt 5:13-20 & *Matt 19:17 *John 14:21, *Exodus 20:6

@tredinabrown2249

28 күн бұрын

​@@TabithaLynnIsraelThey Know That The Most High Is The Righteous Judge!

@tredinabrown2249

28 күн бұрын

​@@TabithaLynnIsraelPsalm 102:16 & Psalm 148:14 & 2 Corinthians 11:22

Their caucasity knows no bounds. 😅🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🙄🙄🙄

These are the same yt people who will complain about BP using the slang n***a in rap songs when THEY can't..🤷🏾‍♀️ It's like... Why do you want to use the term so bad? Why are you offended when we say we're not comfortable with your "compliments"?

@mistiqueentourage7182

8 ай бұрын

It has nothing to fo with that it has to do with the fact that we are offended by the word and yet we use it at eachother and in music. If we are offended we need to keep that energy in all we do is the point being made when that question is asked.

TYSM for finding positive stitches for this encounter..like it hurt my feelings to see so many people critique her for just stating her boundaries I felt the security guard was rude and her response to making her uncomfortable triggered me further bc it as obvious that it has happened enough times to make her fed up and it's so stressful to be forced into a situation to create boundaries like I wear contacts if I look pretty why even ask for specifics I ask are you gonna ask about my hair next just to put it into perspective for people to understand that's not how you speak to a stranger one man respected it apologized and just admitted I in fact look beautiful because damn it I know what looks good on me....black women are always expected to be a monolif )[I don't know how to spell it lol] when we are just people who want to like what we like in peace if you like it amazing but trying to lower me publicly and often loudly is just like why does my happiness need to be scrutinized....

@ninadaly7639

8 ай бұрын

Because you demand others make you happy.

@ninadaly7639

8 ай бұрын

“In peace???”. Good one!

I generally don't acknowledge yt peoples compliments. Because I know right after the compliment comes the touching....like I'm one of their pets. I feel like Yt people don't understand that some of us have boundaries set up because we don't know which yt people are the good ones and which ones mean us harm. And that's how we survive this world that THEY created for us....

@oneinamillion8769

8 ай бұрын

The touching is the worst part. Why must they do that? Such a violation

@tredinabrown2249

28 күн бұрын

​@@oneinamillion8769They Know What They Have Done In General!

@tredinabrown2249

20 күн бұрын

​@@oneinamillion8769We Don't Need Nor Want The Compliments ! It's Just That Way!

He’s dressed like a Conservative. Just like the one from the video from yesterday.

@kisht7469

8 ай бұрын

White liberals are just as racist. Get real!

@hope3290

8 ай бұрын

Dude wants to be Ben Shapiro so bad.

@oneinamillion8769

8 ай бұрын

Little Ben wants to take a stance

Exactly, I don't mind people saying. Oh, your hair looks nice. Or I like what you have on today. But when they get into the extra stuff, that's going too much. Wow , You change your hair again, how can you afford that. They're singling you out, and they're doing too much. A lot of time it's, low key envy and jealousy too.

WHY CAN'T PEOPLE LEAVE BLACK WOMEN ALONE?!🤬🤬

A compliment is made to her. A conversation about her is not. Pretty simple.

@INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha

8 ай бұрын

You have it backwards... A conversation WAS made about her; a compliment WAS N O T.

@user-pb5fk7lv4t

8 ай бұрын

@@INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha I disagree. I didn’t say they complimented her. It should’ve been so but it wasn’t. To deflect from their dismissive conversation being about her WHILE she was present. They eventually came up the a face saving explanation. The conversation apparently occurred more than once in her presence. Those conversations were NOT complimentary. Passive aggressively they were dehumanizing.

@INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha

8 ай бұрын

@@user-pb5fk7lv4t Ok, gotcha. I understand now and I agree 💯

They don't get, and they never will. Especially that young man.😣😣😣

*THE GIRL WITH THE *NOSE RING* LOVE HER TO PIECES! ❤ *THE BLACK DREADS ONE*

Nah you ain’t complimenting me! You just fkin with me. It’s not complimenting when you want to discuss my hair at anytime, nor is it complimenting for you to put your hands out to touch my hair either.

@oneinamillion8769

8 ай бұрын

🎯🎯🎯

I’m trying to figure out why is it so important to compliment black people on our hair all the time🤦🏾‍♀️. What is so fascinating about our hair🤔, or the styles we do? Inquiring minds would like to know.

Who is he referring to as a “ minority?” I do not have that word in my vocabulary regarding my race. That is insulting!

I appreciate the awareness the second white guy has. He gets it

I am reading the book Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout. Eye opening. You can't win. Best to ignore and walk away.

I love receiving compliments about my appearance it warms my heart.

All of these stitches were great, but our good sis @7:19, @10:03 and our brother @11:00 hit the nail on the head to me!

I stopped complimenting female coworkers about their looks years ago. I never got into the complimenting strangers idea. And don’t say congratulations when I think a woman is pregnant.

@mistiqueentourage7182

8 ай бұрын

Oh dont let that bother you. I tell them congratulations. I can tell the difference between having on weight and being pregnant. Dont mine the sensitive and bitter Betties one day they will get much needed therapy and stoo trying to force folks to walk on egg shells.

@nicolec8884

7 ай бұрын

Thats smart of you.

Navy blue shirt white man….preach, bruh, preach!

I love her channel 😊❤.

I like the guy with the sunglasses' response 😎

Dumebi Lea, I like your hairstyle in this video, and this is the best I've seen it. It looks more natural, I get to see the shape of your head more, and you look younger. In fact, your African clothing just adds to the entire flavor. You Black women are so powerful. It really amazes me the kind of effect that different hairstyles could have on ladies appearances 😀🤗

@DumebiLea

8 ай бұрын

Thank you

@emekaadibe5553

8 ай бұрын

@@DumebiLea You're welcome 😊

I love the guy from the first stitch

I had a lady at work to come up to me and asked where could she buy a wig for her daughter who had alopecia...i was like maam I don't wear wigs...

What I’ve noticed it takes more words to lie then it does to tell the truth…. Miss dreadhead

Yeah a lot of times when they do compliment us it is condescending micromanaging type of Polite racism.....

15:15 THIS!!! 👏🏾 👏🏾 That’s going to be a hard pill to swallow for Most.

It does makes you feel uncomfortable, very uncomfortable

Tbh…. You so beautiful and I love the way you speak 😌I love watching your videos 💯 you so fine 😩and the way you speak is top tier ❤ my bad I’m crushing bad 🫶🏾but your videos have educated me way more than school ever have…and it changed my point of view on a lot of things and I’ve started to recognize and understand certain situations I happen to be in with yt people

Her hair was being pointed out, not complimented.

They always want to touch our hair..... WHY????? So you can say ish like oh my gosh it's so so soft it's not hard .....wtf! I hate em

@oneinamillion8769

8 ай бұрын

Yup I was in an elevator at work and a random older white lady just started touching my hair without warning and definitely without permission... I was froze. Then she said if she were black she'd want hair like mine. Wtf??? Creepy af. This is not how you compliment people. It's like if you're in that same elevator with a man who happens to like your boobs and reached out and grabbed them talking bout if he were a woman he'd want boobs like yours. Where is the compliment? That is assault

@mysticcosmic3ngin33r6

8 ай бұрын

@@oneinamillion8769 💯

I admire your fluency of content ❤ Thanks

@DumebiLea

3 ай бұрын

I appreciate that! 🙏🏽

Was the 1st guy satire “curls down the small of her back”

Micro aggressive complements give me the energy of if I could I would “Pet you”! It gives lean in and touch without permission! But hey when your people haven’t been treated like cattle or zoo animals an were the ones doing the “herding” it’s easy to be oblivious.😒

You can make that face? 😂 Wow!

When micro aggressions backfire 😂 BTW, non-yts outnumber yts globally so to call non-yts a “minority” is deliberate gaslighting 😏

@oneinamillion8769

8 ай бұрын

That part

🤗🤗💜

I love coming back with petty comments. 😂 I would have said "so much more if somebody came at me the way that lady came at her."

I love receiving good compliments from all races of people it warms the solace of my spirit.

It’s done to all POC not just Black women. People walk up to me or just compliment my hair and then ask to touch it. It’s very uncomfortable

7:01 real talk sis i did not catch that.

We have white friends. 😂😂 We know when you’re being shady. When was the last time you complemented a white person like that?? Never. That was passive aggressive cattiness.

@KRW3321

8 ай бұрын

They do that to each other, too. The one difference is that they might keep up with the back and forth passive aggression without calling one another out. Sometimes it’s good to fight back with their tactics, but I generally don’t have patience for that so I’ll ask the person what their problem is. They won’t like it, but once you call their bluff and show you’re not playing games, they lose interest.

@reesaallen5474

8 ай бұрын

@@KRW3321 White American culture has outlined itself and in every corporate HR handbook. That’s why they clash so much with Eastern Europeans/Black/Brown people. They spend too much time thinking of how to delivery a subtle insult rather than speaking their truth and trying to find a middle ground with their opposition.

@tredinabrown2249

19 күн бұрын

@@KRW3321 We Don't Need OR Want Their Compliments About Our Hair!

Why is it necessary to want to compliment a BP? The way the guard is talking about the BW is coming across more like you are bullying her;It doesn't sound like a compliment. The creator of video thinks he is being understood but he is not. It sounds like he is angry because the BW isn't responding like he thought she should. The BW is a human being she has a right to reject a statement that another individual is making about her hair.

He has no idea about anything that was going on from a Black woman's point of view. She walked in and a WW was talking about her s if she wasn't there. he needs to keep her name out of his mouth.

It’s crazy because white people can alter their hair in many ways and it doesn’t become a spectacle. I walk in one day with my hair twisted out and then the next with braids and get called “crazy hair.” Like I deadass straightened my hair and the commentary was suddenly non existent.

*THE CROWN ACT LOOK IT UP PLEASE*

@mistiqueentourage7182

8 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂 she isnt being reject from a job becquse of her hair that act does not apply to this video. There my people go again they learn something new and overuse it incorrectly. Smh one day my people will learn and do better I pray.

Yeah they will do that. Just say I like your hair. Unless she really just doesn’t know any better, just say I like your hair and keep it moving. Not all of them know any better. Some of them are being genuine and they love the way we switch it up, but most times it’s low key making fun of us for wearing fake hair. Lol and mad now because they didn’t know we knew what they were doing 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@oneinamillion8769

8 ай бұрын

💯💯💯🎯🎯🎯 they hate it when we are not only self aware but aware of their bs... stay woke

Thats a very nice top you have on....

@DumebiLea

8 ай бұрын

Thanks!

Attention Seekers¹🤣🤣🤣🤣

They dont give compliments without trying to make you feel like an exhibit. Why do yall feel so entitled.? LEAVE US ALONE!!

Yeah its not a compliment to point at someone and go "LOL LOOKIT HER HAIR 😂😂😂" like she cant even hear u. that's called bullying hon

6:10 and 6:50 segments speaks volume.

❤❤❤...

He's got the white savior glasses.

Yup

I think it’s a really good point to keep compliments simple because you don’t know what the specifics imply. (~9:30 specifically) The fact that the original clip is being recorded seems to me like these backhanded comments are happening all the time. You don’t just start recording and documenting interactions unless it’s become problematic. It definitely didn’t seem to be a compliment (coming from a white perspective), and the woman was completely in line to set and enforce her boundary. And that would be hella uncomfortable for someone to comment on someone’s appearance like all the time. It becomes harassment at a certain point. I try to just send good vibes and smile rather than actually commenting because I know it can get really uncomfortable… esp in situations where the other person’s intentions may be coming from a harmful place (unwanted attention). I’m also more likely to compliment clothes or just say a general “you’re beautiful”, but also less likely to strangers or people I don’t know super well. I think I definitely have room to grow and learn. But I definitely try to check people when I see something.

@mistiqueentourage7182

8 ай бұрын

She was recording herself/ mini vlog and happened to walk into what the security guard was saying so no she didn't record because it kept happening.

@ellanina801

8 ай бұрын

@@mistiqueentourage7182 sounds like you follow her platform? That’s a lucky coincidence then. Hopefully it doesn’t happen again.

@mistiqueentourage7182

8 ай бұрын

@@ellanina801 no I don't follow her platform. That's what she said in the start of her video before she walked into the other ladies talking.

@ellanina801

8 ай бұрын

@@mistiqueentourage7182 ​​⁠ oh I’ll have to rewatch it… I missed that lol… thanks for pointing that out 💜

She should have asked her, “Why is it your business?” And remind her to “Stay in Her Lane!” I wouldn’t have given her any satisfaction by telling her she’s making me uncomfortable. I’d have to make her equally uncomfortable. Stop trying to educate racist.

1. We are the aboriginals of this land. 2. We are not Africans.

12:33 What's with ppl touching other people's hair 😲😳✌🏿💞

I am sleepy

Dumebi you are very pretty