You make men become real men and strong enough to make decisions especially after being discarded. No more selfblaming or weakness. We get wisdom here! It's great thanks Andrew

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

24 күн бұрын

Welcome..💯💯💜😌

When you're with a narcissist, notice how you're always blaming yourself, how you're always anxious, your life seem like you're walking on egg shells and you watch what you say or do when you're around them. Also you strive to impress them and yearn for thier approval. Those people will change who you truly are without you even noticing, until you LEAVE.

@Leelee-op7vj

Жыл бұрын

I never felt that way. I never yearned to impress him. I grew to hate him and have zero respect for him. I never blamed myself cuz I knew he was nuts. Everyone has different reactions to them I guess but very interesting 🤔 I was non-reactive to him ...maybe that made him get crazier. Probably did cuz he couldn't get my goat. He did cause me anxiety but I kept it inside cuz the stuff they do and say is just head spinning astonishment. I hope and prey most people in narcissistic relationships never lose themselves and I wish we could announce that to the world 🌎 🙏

@elainesetford549

Жыл бұрын

Well said! I experienced all that you have mentioned…

@eadler5929

Жыл бұрын

Was so bored with myself, so disassociated from my own life. After I figured out why, I couldn't put a name to it, I didn't look for any channels, I let him hurt me more.. Even after I left. Almost 4 years later and I can now call it abuse and mean it.

@eadler5929

Жыл бұрын

I was there from 1984, married in 1987, until 2018.

@elainesetford549

Жыл бұрын

@@eadler5929 wow! That was a long time! You deserve a metal! Hope you are in a good place now 🙂

I never knew these people existed. I learned a big lesson very late in life. It really shined a light on me.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💡💡🙌💯🙏

@maried7776

2 жыл бұрын

Same here~crazy makers

@bradmcewen

2 жыл бұрын

Ditto. In the end its actually liberating not needing anyone to complete self.

@maryrouse9821

2 жыл бұрын

I recently discovered this channel. I have really learned a lot. I only just realized that I was a victim of gaslighting, and am relieved to know that I was not losing my mind.

@carriedillmann4455

2 жыл бұрын

I love this channel because I am too a survivor !! I learned AFTER THE FACT that I was married to. narc! I am liberated and free! You are all my friends and I feel grateful !!!❤️

“ When you find out, it validates everything you’ve been thinking for years” This is so revealing. I knew all along it wasn’t right. I just couldn’t put my finger on it. I’m wide awake now. Thank you Jesus!

@blueeyes1827

Жыл бұрын

Amen

@cshell64

Жыл бұрын

Amen. ❤️🙏

@CVICURN1

Жыл бұрын

Same. I knew he was a narcissist. I just had no idea what the depths of the narcissist was! I’m astonished at how it all falls together now. Light bulbs everywhere! It’s insane the intricacy of their darkness

@shannionferrell3248

Жыл бұрын

😁

@AliceArendse-ft8rw

Жыл бұрын

Only after I'm divorced I found out that I'm been living with a Narcissist for 12 years. I knew I was dealing with a psychopath but was not educated enough but luckily I had counseling for 6 years when this abuse started and I was medicated for calm,sleeping and anxiety and that kept me going....it's now through the guidance of the Holy SPIRIT I came across channels and whatever uplift me and let me grow I will take bcz I lost my almost thank you Jesus....and thank you for your education God bless...AMEN

It's amazing how the sunlight is brighter now, when he's not around.

@MikeJackson690

2 ай бұрын

Same happened to me. I confronted her and a cloud lifted. Everything seemed brighter. It was a big moment.

My story: I am 62 and discovery quite by accident about narcissism because someone I knew was officially diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. This happened when I was 58. Being curious I looked into it, and discovered to my HORROR that my husband of 30 years was the Narcissist personality disorder. THEN I realized that I had been ‘primed’ to accept that type of personality disorder by my Mother who neglected all her daughters, and only paid any attention to my much younger brother. Anyway, this discovery about narcissism was so strong that after my last Son graduated University, I myself entered a state University for the first time at the age of 60.😂😂💪🏼. It had been over 40 years since I graduated high school but I was determined to see how I would do. Of course my mother and husband had ‘worked on me’ for decades pointing out how mentally deficient I was, so my confidence was very low. My husband once told me I was putting a trash bag in wrong and proceeded to show me how it ‘should’ be done.🙄🙄. He and my mother found fault with everything. So I entered University. I loved everything about it. The essays, the homework, the tests. I got my first A. Wow! Something must be wrong-I am stupid, remember? But no, I kept getting As. I got a semester of As. Then my first entire. Second entire year. Third entire year.😎😎. Every year my confidence grew. I was smart. Not just smart-but 4.0 smart, entering my Senior year. Then Covid started and I had to put college on hold. My husband treats me differently because now I KNOW I am none of the things he said-and I KNOW it. 😂😂. My three Sons are so proud of me, my husband is still totally a narcissist but he treats me better because I am the best supply he ever had. Once this Covid weirdness is over, I will go back for my final Senior year. Oh, I forgot to say what my Major is.😁😎. Can you guess WHY I did so well in college and was able to connect with the syllabus and class work SO well? Yes, my Major is in Behavioral Psychology. I have learned lovely lessons about Operant Behavior, Classical Conditioning, Stockholm Syndrome, and hundreds other terms I have experienced. Those classes were my therapy. We who have gone through narcissistic abuse have in a way been blessed-we are stronger psychologically and mentally than people who have only interacted with normal people. We have life lessons that can never be taught academically. We know these lessons in our SOUL. Thank you for your broadcasts from lovely Costa Rica. They are the highlights of my day until I can re-enter the classroom. Be blessed everyone. Better days are before us. 😁🥰

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this beautiful message Julie 💯🙌🇨🇷🙏💯🙌

@heidijones7670

2 жыл бұрын

Totally amazing reading your story thankyou for sharing with us all Namaste what a strong and inspiring person you are we never too old to learn 🙏🙏🙏

@chucksilver4973

2 жыл бұрын

Be blessed and continued success in college and many blessings to you

@bareminimumlifeing1240

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story ❤️, I very recently discovered my husband of 15 years is a narcissist. I am so lost, angry especially at my parents as this was a non negotiable arranged marriage ( yeah those things still happened 15 years ago in my part of the world, I wasn’t pretty enough to have any say in the matter as the ugly duckling of the family). Anyway you may not even see this message as it’s an old video. I cannot afford therapy and am still trying to figure out what to do. So I am catching up on these videos. All the comments are from people who escaped or walked out. I still can’t. It’s going to be a long time before I manage to do it if at all. So hearing from someone who managed to be better and still had to stay in the relationship gives me so much hope u can’t even imagine. Thanku again hope u see my comment.

@twowingsatlanta4007

2 жыл бұрын

@Julie Anna. 1st CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU!!!👏👏 Super Proud of You!!! 2nd. ALL Perfectly said. . . Agreed!!✔♠💯💯 Wishing You The Very Best of Success, In Your Future Endeavors!!🌻💛🌻 Cheers!! Sending . . .Peace, Love & Light!

They can no longer hover because I now BLOCK THEM. No contact is much safer, even though i deal with feelings of guilt for "abandoning" them. But my mental health was being crushed. I've never KNOWN such pain. Thanks all y'all for BEING here. Praying for recovery for every one!!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

Welcome 💪🙌💯

@franceshaggitt3104

Жыл бұрын

Hear you. I left five weeks ago feel lonely

@dianebarron8362

Жыл бұрын

@@franceshaggitt3104 I started calling him out on his thoughtless, inconsiderate actions and decision making and now I feel like the bully .I am just not going to take it any more ,the secret bank accounts and investments and purchases and never including me in the decisions and he doesn't see anything wrong with that .He said I knew you wouldn't approve so I didn't bring it up ,and we are talking about a lot of money. He doesn't need anyone's approval but his own. He thinks he is God. I told him I am going to get him a T-shirt that says " I am God - and I make all of the decisions ." That describes him to a tee. In my old age I have reached a point where "I am mad , and I am not going to take it anymore "

@msgme8083

Жыл бұрын

Same here 5 weeks over

@Christinesobsevations

Жыл бұрын

I feel this as well …. Sooo thankful I got away life is so peaceful now . Sometimes I get “ bored” then quickly remember where I am now is what a prayed hard for once upon a time & now I have it ❤

Narcissism education allowed me closure to a horrific chapter in my life. So grateful for your help!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

Welcome 🙏

The trauma bond was the most difficult experience I'd ever had. I was destroyed but realize now it had to come to that so the healing could begin. Thank you for educating us.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

🙏💯🙌

So true, they surround themselves with enablers and people who can offer them a fake facade.

@ammj6202

2 жыл бұрын

The enablers actually scare me quite a bit.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Completely correct Pink Diamond 😉😉💯💯

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

Sadly I think we were all enablers throughout the relationship. It all goes to that codependent role of trying to rescue protect and fix them. Its definitely a hard thing to admit but by doing everything for them we in a sense gave them permission to do whatever they wanted and we let them get away with it. Those days are definitely done. Once you see these things you cant unsee them. At that point we have a choice to educate, self heal and move forward or get stuck in repeating the old bad patterns of the past and doing nothing. I Chose to move forward and I have been proud of that decision ever since 💯 🙏💪🕊️✨

@iclickedbecauseiamtiredofs4630

2 жыл бұрын

@@ammj6202 they should. they are the equivalent of Scar & its hyena henchmen from the Lion King. they WILL take you out. vultures hang together for a reason, & their feathers are tar because they reflect the heat of h3ll 🔥

@anitaknight3915

2 жыл бұрын

Codependents, empaths, and enablers are who they are attracted to. I see many narcissists in CEO/leadership positions too because they are drawn to control, greed, image, attention, and power.

I would rather rebuild than be in their presence

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏 💯🙌

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

This statement is 💯🎯 Moving forward in present is the path. Lock the door on the past and never look back🙏❤️🕊️

Everyone around me is a narc. I’ve stopped making friends and I’ve isolated myself away because I just seem to attract these people and I can’t keep coping putting myself through it - the drama, the gaslighting, the manipulation etc etc. I just can’t trust anyone so I’ve opted for loneliness instead 😖 Thank you for your videos. They’re invaluable 💞🙏💞🙏

@donna3510

Жыл бұрын

Sad but true it's lonely at the top and most people are narcs lve been in a few narc relationships and they all attend the same school my mother is a narc my siblings even some of my children it is a contagious disease plagued with evil and wickedness the chosen must stay close and distance from the others

@angelfirelite

Жыл бұрын

@@donna3510 .......so so true, ya even have doctors, dentist, mechanics, sales people, waitresses, nurses, you get the picture, almost more than half the world are ugly, evil people we deal with, disgusting! No empathy for anything!

@mindblownwhattheydidntteachyou

Жыл бұрын

Can totally relate! I've learnt though, its really important to heal becaise you deserve healthy happy relationships even it's with the few... So long as they're healthy. Ive just had the wool pulled from over with my mother for over 25 years and i took a break from her for 2 years she's recently unexpectedly resurfaced and i see her for EXACTLY what she is now that i was COMPLETELY blind to before (though i knew something was wrong) but spending this last year getting clear on myself and taking a step back and just observing without judging yourself because you dodnt know! Im sending love and light... I hope your healing completes x

@jamesweatherford988

Жыл бұрын

Your not alone,but you still have your self .I only find like minded people like you on Ytube.

@donna3510

Жыл бұрын

@@angelfirelite real vampires always love love

They absolutely do "compartmentalize" their relationships. They have discreet little "pods" of groups that they maintain, but mostly they keep the people in those groups from having a relationship with the people in the other groups because it's for fear of having them all compare notes, etc. If they were to let that happen it would be much more difficult to control the deception. I'v seen it and experienced it first hand.

I wonder how many of us always knew something was seriously ‘off’ for years but in addition to not knowing its name gave them supply rather than walking away

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

My guess is virtually all of us..💯🙏🙌😉

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed life lesson learned ✔️

@TyStar10

2 жыл бұрын

I did

@ThisIsMe155

2 жыл бұрын

We are only 'responsible' for what we are aware of. Y💕 I think I would qualify this earlier comment as I think that if we do bad things, hurt people etc, then we still bear a degree of responsibility for the outcome even if the intention doesn't match the end result. With awareness, however, we are wholly responsible and therefore obligated to take action. If we are on the receiving end of bad (particularly if malicious) treatment/abuse/narcissism I think the initial comment is more apt.

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

@@ThisIsMe155 Exactly that's why it's always so important to be kind to ourselves 💛

Silence helps but it’s also important to remember that in those moments of silence when we might start to feel sorry for how unhappy the narcissist is; that it’s not our responsibility to “fix” them. No one can

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💯💯💯

@onelife7247

Жыл бұрын

Thanks Andrew. I should add that for anyone going through legal proceedings; it’s important to keep quiet and observe where possible in order to gather evidence of their unlawful course of misconduct.

@Soulactivations

Жыл бұрын

They will use your empathy and sympathy against you, beware !!

@onelife7247

Жыл бұрын

Hundred percent- yup.

@onelife7247

Жыл бұрын

@Durval Silva It really is soul destroying ... what sort of support network do you have?

Narcissists are junior psychopaths…now imagine being raised by one and thinking that shit is normal. It happens more than you think.

My daughter was in a toxic marriage with a narcissist - she finally had that “light bulb” moment and is now free from him. Happy to say she is now thriving, returning to her nursing education goals, and getting back to being her wonderful self!!! I’m so happy for her. I just wish her enlightenment would have come sooner. These are most certainly dangerous people!!!

@elizabeth8464

Жыл бұрын

You are such a sweet mom. She is blessed.

@rossbegley4042

4 ай бұрын

I am 58 and have recently discovered what a narcissist was as a friend I thought I meet at work and went out of my way to help them and discovered what she was and did very narsty person and have learned a lot of what they do

Mine wanted to stay up until 6 am on Friday and Saturday nights wasting most of the night engrossed in word salad. In hindsight I think he just wanted to deprive me of sleep.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Always manipulative.. always..🙏🙌😉😉

@flowersofthefield340

2 жыл бұрын

They love to exhaust their victims in arguments that go nowhere.

@lb9171

2 жыл бұрын

@@flowersofthefield340 100%

@kristenlang1975

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, wow….profoundly true.😌

@universallove280

2 жыл бұрын

Yep. Sleep heals your brain. Sleep deprivation is their favorite tactic of destruction

When they know you know, you get “dust-busters” not “Hoovers”. You get the 3am phone calls or the super random reach outs just to see if the water is a bit safe. Never respond! You’re sooo much better when they think or know you really get the game.

@misfit7866

2 жыл бұрын

Mine text at 3:55 lol

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely correct Sean..💯🙌💪

@smokeyfreestyle22

2 жыл бұрын

So true i feel 16 again XD in my 30s :P just to see not much is changed :D

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

I absolutely love this visual in the first line of this comment about when they know you know you get a dust buster instead of a Hoover. That totally made me laugh 😊😂. Thank you💛 It's been a long work day and comment definitely made me smile.

@annegreen4695

2 жыл бұрын

Sean ..I have a sister who does this. The problem is I responded.

I have written on the wall in my hall "A Narcissists last smirk" 😁

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

😉😉💯

Its insane to hear you speak my words.... once an empath wakes up, it becomes game over with narcs...

That's exactly how it happened. It took me 60 years to have my eyes opened. GAME OVER!!!!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🙏🙌💯

@johndavid3132

2 жыл бұрын

Growth comes best through suffering. I value all the life lessons that has led me to present. Once I had the lightbulb moment all the brokenness and confusion of 60 years made complete sense. Then the internal work started. 3 years later, my path and purpose are clear. Thank you! 🙏 Focusing on Spirit, Truth and seeing the world as it is shining the light brightly in the darkness.

I love the cockroach analogy! You're right, I'm relieved to know that I was not imagining things but totally disgusted that someone could be so calculatingly evil.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Diana 🙌🙏🙌💪💯

@nycstarport8542

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, they are Evil 😈

@universallove280

2 жыл бұрын

Yes. I used that analogy many times. When you shine your Light, the cockroaches scatter

@mehrbano506

2 жыл бұрын

Yes they are devils, dead souls .

@ryuhayabusa5861

2 жыл бұрын

The cockroach analogy - WOW!!!!! I experienced this recently as I became completely silent towards my ex for about a month and a half now. During the divorce process she is still in the house and we ended up in the kitchen together and when she saw me I stood my ground not leaving and she left immediately! Just like a roach when you hit the light! I have not stopped using my confidence and light since to maintain silence and its working like a charm! Now I read this roach analogy today (a week after my kitchen experience) and it was such a perfect description to what I felt in the kitchen! They know when you unmask them, Andrew was dead on with this and I am so happy that both you and I discovered these videos!!! And yes I have been for a while simply disgusted of my ex and the years she got me trapped with her manipulation. Silence is truly the key in ending a chapter with a Narc. After all, we are the light and the greater human being!

I was in a nightmare, dreaming with hope. I’m waking up to heal. 💤☀️❤️

@carsonc6659

Жыл бұрын

I'm in the healing process. I'm better now. It's been 8 months since we're apart.

Its the silence that holds high power against a narcissist. Eventually the mask comes off and their true face and character reveals itself. Prayers for those lost, hoping they’ll find there way back

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🙌🙏☀️😉

God comes first always

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

Your comment is a 💯 As a person of faith in this community did you ever experience such an unexpected sign in your morning where you really have to take major pause and say there truly are no coincidences in life? Do you believe God uses some people as vessels to get his messages across to provide clarity of his unfolding plan? 😇

@rockboomhower9564

2 жыл бұрын

Yes I have

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

@@rockboomhower9564 Somehow it always takes me by surprise. It's just truly unbelievable. I had 3 today pretty much within a hour. 😇🙏💯

Once they know you know, they will disappear as they will see you are very strong and that they will be rejected. So they rather find a new supply than to battle with your strength. But they will test from time to time just to see if you will let them back in. This has been my experience after over 50 hoovers after the break up within 4 years.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Connie 🙏💯🙌

@jeneanegrotewiel4184

2 жыл бұрын

Love!! this I just had a man who was telling me he didn’t love me and nobody ever would and I was worthless I went no contact for a year and he was making fake accounts and stalking and I never went into his accounts at all. It was so confusing that he was so abusive to me but still wanted to know my every move: I’ve never told anyone in their life they weren’t worthy of love. It really hurt me to hear this from someone.

@jeneanegrotewiel4184

2 жыл бұрын

It was the most painful relationship I’ve ever been in

@Jerry-rl5es

2 жыл бұрын

50 times hoovered is something! You should have an award🥇God bless your fortitude. I always wondered if hoovers would make me stronger but even after knowing my ex had a mixture of cluster b traits and I knew what she was doing to me didn’t make it easier. Called me unlovable too (from another comment) which still hurts but I know it was her way of admitting that she is incapable of love and just projected that lie. Solidifying my truth by being hoovered 3 or 4 times thus far. I know I have always fought for myself and stood firm in my truth and protected my boundaries after knowing her narcissistic ways.

@connie4235

2 жыл бұрын

@@Jerry-rl5es these demons are not even worth the energy or time to answer a hoover. I consider them toxic trash. Better they stay gone.

The cockroach analogy 💜 Andrew, you speak fluidly from the heart. I am sorry you knew a narc but it became your calling to educate us - this beautiful community x

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🙌🙏☀️

Too many people get a lightbulb moment of "Ahh,this person I'm dealing with is a narcissist" & then they proceed to tell the narcissist every reason in the book why they no longer want them in their life.It's best to stealthily & clandestinely leave the narcissist & go no contact that way, because even with conclusive proof a narcissist will NEVER EVER admit to being toxic & will actually use the opportunity of being confronted to inflict more injury to insult.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Excellent insight..🙌🙏😉💯

@bttrflyjoy7374

2 жыл бұрын

And, they will most likely twist your insight and call you the narcissist. These people have been perfecting manipulation since childhood, and without empathy, they will stoop to any level to tear you down. True evil...better to disappear and give them no more opportunity.

@LOOTLORD605

2 жыл бұрын

Alternative,is report,but no direct contacts whatsoever. Give to God.

@yhwhtlc9217

2 жыл бұрын

I actually had to fight the extraction with my narc sister because she just would not accept the fact I wanted nothing more to do with her despite my being verbally blunt about it,,,and changing my phone numbers etc...after 2 years of attempted untanglement I finally wrote her a letter, spelling it out extremely mean and nasty, along with our states law on abuse, stalking and fraud...ended it with...please continue with your stupid irrational attempt to get me back into your clutches, it won't work as I am prepared to file a harassment suite against you and take you for every monetary value you have,,, name being, your house, vehicle.....I sent it certified signed letter....years later she's hauled into court as her husband was arrested for child molestation and I got called into court, her son who's daughter was the one that got molested by her husband tells me he was there when my letter arrived and she still didn't understand it, her son, my nephew had to explain it to her.....yes her husband was found quilty, spent 5 yrs in jail, and she is still with him...narcissism just breeds evilness...

Thank you for my light bulb moment. I’m cancer free for 5 months now. A 170 lb tumor gone from my heart

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💡💡❤️❤️💯💯

@andreiarosa8813

2 жыл бұрын

They are must worse than cancer!

Abouut 8 years ago, I just made the decision that ANYONE who messes with my peace of mind and constantly caused stress in my life, I just let them go and pretended they died! It was the best decision I made in my life!! And it totally changed my life for the positive too!! I can't even express the peace, tranquility, and contentness that is my life now!!! But making that deciision is so hard for most people!

@kingdomoftheenglish5738

Жыл бұрын

Doesn’t it work to think about them being dead

@brit8802

Ай бұрын

LOL

Healing from the narcissistic abuse is a process like : im not good enough and dont deserve your love -> I ROCK!!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

5 ай бұрын

💯😌🙏

Yes! Please do a video on the "Secrets the Narcissist Keeps". That has to be one of the most horrible aspects of the narcissist's personality. Especially their lies of omission. They cannot be trusted!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💯💯💪💪.. thank you 🙏

@fian1286

2 жыл бұрын

Yes the lies and deceit is truly shocking.

@jhowell7680

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, he would just say, "I can't give you an answer because I don't know." The day I called him out on his lies was the day he discarded me.

@laurelobrien9438

2 жыл бұрын

Holy moly....yes, lies of omission. How many times have I called him a liar to his face. He doesn't even blink.

@l.5832

2 жыл бұрын

My mother died with the her lies of omission. I believe I have/had a half sibling. She denied but the evidence is very strong. I would have been thrilled to be told I had a half sibling. Instead, everything was a 'secret' and the shame that she carried but would not explain was projected on to me and I was abused and neglected. Even accused me of sleeping with my boyfriend and I never did. I was made a scapegoat to carry her shame.

It took me until my 50s to understand the narcissism in my family of origin. Now I know it was not about me at all. No need to go back to the source of pain. Free at last!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful John..🙏🙌💯

I am a narc survivor!!! Glory to God!!!!! I am proud to be an empathetic person because we are trully social beings and we need each other to live in this (bad) world. Best wishes from Brazil!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

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@shannionferrell3248

Жыл бұрын

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@fugetabouit663

5 ай бұрын

God bless! We're all brothers and sisters love eachother. 🙏 ☯

My wife out of the blue mentioned a few weeks back that I was a Narcissist so I obviously looked it up on many videos and I couldn't believe that it describes her totally. I should have listened to her when she told me in the very beginning that she tends to try and push people away! so the light bulb is like a spotlight now. Thanks for your channel.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome always 😉😉💯💯

@browniebun

Жыл бұрын

Narcissistic people tend to be attracted to each other. At times one of the partners is covertly narcissistic and their neediness and abuse is well hidden. Their need does not take from others as much as the overt narcissistic person does instead they excessively give and often become the doormat in the relationship. It may be that your wife recognizes what she can't see about herself.

@brit8802

Ай бұрын

Good grief 🤦‍♀️ Sounds familiar

Narcissists are very afraid to be exposed . If you know the narcissist´s tricks, they not longer can play the narcissistic rage wheel with you, so they lose their "emotional punching bag." After you have raised your level of positive energy through self care, the narcissist will in very sneaky fashion try to drain you again with their negativity , word salads and pessimism .

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful insight Maria.. thank you 💯🙏🙌

@praeparatus_supervivet

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks haha I have just begun the empowerment of silence and a "whatever attitude" towards my wife since a couple of weeks now and I will think about what she says as world salads...great name 🤣. It can still hurt if I care about what she says but knowing now it's a game and that she is most likely a narcissist her bad words just falls off of me like water on a goose. I believe it looks like she is starting to figure out that I know what she is doing and that she can't control me anymore.

@mariaawake4502

2 жыл бұрын

@@praeparatus_supervivet , yes narcissists will notice quickly, that you have figured them out and will start seeking new supply immediately - probably following their narcissistic instinct. They are disturbed about your new found independence and increased emotional strength. Still, if you are dealing with a pathological narc the relationship will stay limited (no trust is most problematic for me) and you will have to learn to accept that.

@praeparatus_supervivet

2 жыл бұрын

@@mariaawake4502yeah if I refused something (usually money related or buy something) then she acted like a child and gave me the silent/cold treatment. I always succumbed to it in the end being the very agreeable person that I am I just couldn't stand it if people close to me doesn't like me. I was always the one trying to make peace either later the same day or the day after. After I found these videos I realized she is a narcissist and since then I confronted her and she said she has no physical attraction for me but likes what's inside my heart she said she lost the passion already after he first year. Thanks for letting me know 8 years later!?. Sure we stopped having sex early but still kissed and hugged. Then when we wanted a baby and tried to get help they said she is a bit to thin. I played computer games and she found a game also that she got addicted to. I got overweight and then the pandemic came. We just never were compatible. I should have divorced her earlier. One year separate due to pandemic and she came back seemingly no interest in showing intimate emotions and that's when I confronted her and she told me I'm more of a brother to her and that thing about lost passion. She has never been interested in western culture or food like Christmas and since she came back in November she just play that game all days. I sat all alone during Christmas and new year in the sofa watching TV or movies. She never cared much for what I want or my interests during the years and rarely gave me a birthday present worth remembering. Only 2 pictures of us together in her 1000 picture Instagram during all the years. About 100 with friends. I wanted to restart the relationship and I wanted to pick up the sex when she came back. I said maybe we should have a dog and she said then maybe she can get closer to me because everything else is boring like watching movies together. She watches movies and funny videos herself though in her own language. She never really took initiative to do things together during the years and I always felt that it was a struggle too please he. I couldn't make any jokes with her like I do when commenting things online or with my coworkers. Either she didn't listen or didn't understand or just plainly said she doesn't care even if I shared something interesting I wanted two tell her. Still after she came back in November one year separate during pandemic I have to admit that I think we both didn't miss each other. She said she wants to live as friends i think she was referring to a non-sexual "relationship" but still that doesnt atop her from showing intimate emotions like hugs our kisses but I had two telling her that and it's like she tried too give me that then only because I told her. But as friends goes she is usually very short to me when we talk and we have nothing to talk about naturally be she spends all time playing that game. Usually she is just complaining about things or give me sarcastic responses then we have the days where she seems nice and she gives me a kiss or hug like she is building update forward getting me in town a goods mood. Then comes the question when I can buy the dog or that I must send her sister money to pay for the bank loans for her apartment in her home country. So she plays me and think that I will be an ATM machine even now after she has told me she doesn't love me like like a lover. We have nothing in common and we don't have sex so there is no reason at all to stay together. It was always about her the while time.

@wendyperalta3300

2 жыл бұрын

Hahaha 🤣 word salads

It is awkward when that happens - standing there with them.. It is strange ... PLEASE don't ever underestimate what they will do. Evil deserves no trust and they are not bound by any limits of their actions. Normal people have limits - they do not !

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this insight Eric..🙌🙏💯

@bsc4344

Жыл бұрын

agreed. Especially hard refusing to believe it when it’s family. Cuz an entire life of being just a tool to use and not care about, formed me to thinking that if i actually DONT want to be his servant and do something (it always starts “i need you to...”, it never was “can you help me and drop by please?”, ) it doesn’t mean i’m a “bad spawn” The more i stopped tolerating or ignoring such flags, the more historical rewriting he did to cover all that narc exhibition of his. He even tried pretending he never said it that way, right after i called him out on it with “well how about you ask for my help for once, instead of state it like i have no choice”. Mere mins earlier... and he tried lying his way out of it like he didn’t just do it. that got me rethinking every conflict over the years, manipulating mind games, the fake narratives, the way i was treated, the perma expectations, and it all crumbled. OH HE KNOWES I KNOW NOW, and still he tries now and then to goad connive or bribe something out of me. I’m fair and polite but by no means have any urgency to pander and race to answer any email or phone call now. He deserves NO response the rest of his life actually, but i’m not cold to his level of evil. I’m fine with no connection really, even with him being the last of family alive. I’ve got lots of practice not having a father already.

My mother was the narcissist I had to deal with. I was always afraid. I would actually pass out from anxiety and fear. Thank you for your channel.♡

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

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@mindblownwhattheydidntteachyou

Жыл бұрын

Cant totally relatw as a kid i lived in axiety and stress pretty sure it caused a disease im fighting through. Couldbt talk to ANYONE and thought i was crazy because no one else could see it, thinking im the problem damn near my whole. But now i feel like a spell is broken as are the psychological chains. Oh and if you need a pick-me-up, I'm here... I've healed and on the other side. Super excited to live MY life of freedom now

@pattif192

Жыл бұрын

@@mindblownwhattheydidntteachyou Thank you for your reply. I am having to be her caretaker now and I am trying not to let memories come back to my mind. It helps so much knowing that I am not crazy and other people have been through the same experience.

@vickipacheco9787

Жыл бұрын

My so called Halfling parents were vicious NARCISSIST'S. They are both passed, I understand that they were abusers and from the Dark Side. I am very grateful to be walking with Jesus, for 35 yrs. He is the ultimate NARC.SLAYER. or I definitely would not have survived my childhood.

@retrogirl2443

Жыл бұрын

@@vickipacheco9787 I can identify with you and MindBlown. I forgave my mother and returned to help her several times only to subject myself to her viciousness. I had just exited a thirty year marriage after being assaulted. I arrived in need of emergency surgery (four level cervical fusion with grafts and hardware) and she had me at my most vulnerable. I laid in ICU for three days and she didn’t even call to check on me, nor stop in to see me and the hospital was right down the hill. When I was discharged, I wasn’t sent to a TCU or rehab because I was considered a high risk of contracting MRSA with the size of my incision. I was sent home and she stepped up the abuse with the silent treatment. That alienation extended to my two dogs. Then, just when I started healing she began calling the sheriff’s department multiple times alleging abuse. As a former healthcare provider and mandated abuse reporter it was ludicrous to think she would think that would have ever held up, but it was devastating and I felt totally defenseless and freaked out at the same time. She was cunning, but I believe all parties saw through her act. My faith has gotten me through over and over. At one of my darkest periods a girlfriend sent me a KZread link to Casting Crowns, “I Will Praise You In This Storm” and it was the best gift. I’m the youngest and for some reason I was considered her favorite child, but what that meant was that I took most of her abuse because I was like her little pet. She not only took me everywhere, she used me as a mirror growing up. That’s the tip of the iceberg, but in spite of all the hatefulness, she never prevailed. I don’t know why her hatred ran so deep. I remember arriving here in need of medical treatment and she said, “It’s too bad it took you thirty years to wake up!” I was stunned and speechless. I wanted to say, “You trained me well,” but I said nothing. She finally left after destroying vital documents and personal possessions that were needed such as my prescription glasses. If she called me tomorrow for help, I’d let it go to vm. If I was her only option, I’d arrange for needs and services, but I would never grant her access to my heart and mind, nor would I allow myself to be in her physical presence ever again. I believe the Lord has given me the ability to forgive. There are many avenues of faith as well as spiritual paths, but I know the Holy Spirit has moved me through all the storms. 🕊

It’s absolutely a lightbulb, eureka type of moment. I just escaped a terrible narcissist a couple months ago with God’s help and because I knew one thing: my life had become radically worse because of them. I saw that starting with my daughter, too, and that’s when I decided I HAD to go. But I saw a little meme that said: “A narcissist cares so much about what a stranger thinks, but treats those they claim to love like monsters.” That hit home and made me start to look up the true meaning of “narcissist.” Lo and behold, it’s a complete personality type that is nothing short of pure evil. As a empath, I was horribly mistreated. I praise Christ for waking me up, getting me out, and providing me with answers through videos like this. Not only will I never fall for it again, but I may just be able to help save someone from the nightmare. Thanks for your help!

@brianrossiter6427

11 ай бұрын

*an empath

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

11 ай бұрын

Welcome 💡💡🙌😌

Yes needs to be taught in high school. But no one understands it unless you went through it. I am a HS teacher and we actually discussed this one day in class and teens are slowly becoming aware and one young lady following Lee Hammock. It was a Wow cool moment that a 15 year old is recognizing this and talking about it. A huge step for the younger generation.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

This is so enlightening.. thank you sincerely for sharing this insight 🙌🙏💯💯

@nancydowling4049

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with what you say that there needs to be more awareness especially at that tender age. On a personal note that might help a young person that has grown up with a narc parent or relative before they enter into their own committed relationship. It's about having tools of prevention, because once you're in it, the fog is overwhelming. I've always believed that there should be a required class in communication in general. The other thing that is slightly off topic is that having a required class about managing basic finances could be helpful. These are life saving tools that should be taught right at the junior high level. I think many people just don't know how to express their feelings in a way that society deems acceptable. If people could understand the basic equation of communication and try to practice it, hopefully that could help them learn to keep boundaries.

@heidibennett6622

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!! I was 15 also when my world turned upside down. Would have saved 36 years of utter confusion and oceans of tears and years of dysfunctional relationships if anyone understood what was happening and could have offered education/support. I am sooooo glad this is a conversation in school - I am trying to find a way to educate my 13 year old without throwing her family under the bus as her father has some strong narc traits. Challenging to present a highly charged topic neutrally...

@MargauxNeedler

2 жыл бұрын

The fact that you're a teacher who is aware of this is fucking awesome

@kimgordon3695

2 жыл бұрын

Watch 2 & 1/2 Men for training 😂

When you know, every little action tells them you know!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💯😉💯

@1000REMBOY

Жыл бұрын

It's so crazy how sensitive they are to their charade being found out, probably because they spend so much attention keeping up the act.

The relief is indescribable!!! 🌈🌸💖

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

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Once I know it, I can’t un-know it ❤thank you Andrew 😊

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

Welcome 🙏

For all my people who fought there way through narcissism. Raise her hand in the air and wave in the air like you just don’t care. Whoop whoop 🙌 ♥️

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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@susieq8008

2 жыл бұрын

Lol....

@annb5562

Жыл бұрын

@@maryseokley6061 It can eventually 💛

@invadingminds

Жыл бұрын

@@maryseokley6061 The thing is..they never change. It is you who changes. 🙂

@tezzo55

Жыл бұрын

The narcissistic lack of self-awareness going on here is MIND-BOGGLING. All victims in despair, Strut your butt, And raise your victory in the air, Exactly like a narcissist would.

Every topic you raise is so captivating!!!!!!!Narcs are very needy and boring….

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Doris..🙌🙏🙌

@krismerolla7858

2 жыл бұрын

Boring Yes! Thanks for the Chuckle

Right now I’m in the healing process .. I have decided to educate myself daily so that I don’t fall back into the trap .. thanks again for helping others

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

Welcome 🙏

Yup! My mother is "melting" tonight since I was awakened last week!

@brit8802

Ай бұрын

LOL

You, Andrew, are spot on to a TEE. It took me 55 years to figure out what the hell is wrong with my dad... Crushing, crushing, devastatingly sad.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Coleta.. you are amazing and loved.. thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌😉💯💯

@JNYC212

2 жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear 😔💔 I had to find out my sister & a friend of mine are. You try and get burned in the end. Gotta move on!

@ThisIsMe155

2 жыл бұрын

@@JNYC212 Keep going...Make sure you are 'moving on' towards greater health and greater happiness though.

@ThisIsMe155

2 жыл бұрын

So sad to hear that, Coleta 😓. You are part of a community of survivors on here, some whose lives have been impacted to a catastrophic degree. At least you know the kind of 'beast' you are dealing with now. Thoughts and Prayers To You, Coleta. May God Bless You (Us) All! ❤️

@anitaknight3915

2 жыл бұрын

Same with me Coleta. As a teen, I immersed myself in books, articles, and videos trying to understand my father's horribly damaging behavior. I think us empaths and very caring giving people are prey to narcissists.

She knew I knew when I asked her. Way before I knew what that really, really meant. There wasn't any argument about it. No rage. No blame shifting. Stunned perhaps. Free ride is over shock. Just the question "aren't you going to fight for me" ? Hell no. Wouldn't that be delicious supply. Its just more triangulation. My hindsight advice is if you are ready to pop the question "Are you a narcissist" ? Don't bother, you already know. Its over. The end. If you stick it out you will be tortured twice as bad. Guaranteed.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Brad.. excellent insight 🙌🙏💪🙏💯💯

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

Game over.... Move on... have a nice life. That's it....you know and they know enough said. Great comment spot on🎯💪💪💪

@MrNikhilgherwar

2 жыл бұрын

Agree, celibacy helps

🎉 yes and thankyou . You changed my life 🎉

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

Welcome 🙌😊🙏

Spot on as usual Andrew!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 ай бұрын

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Amazing video. I educate my 13 year old on narcissism. I feel this should be taught in school.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Agree completely Cookie..🙌💯🙌

@christineloz1686

Жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Our public education industry breeds narssisim with shame and demanding conformity.

So empowering when I look him straight into his empty eyes and say ever so softly but definitively, “I see you. I know who you are. There’s no turning back.” Am I risking a rage? Of course. Do I give a shit after all these years? Not one bit. It’s so epic!! 💪👊

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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@angelabowman343

2 жыл бұрын

Wow. Yes. I did that once and he left the house immediately - it was really crazy

@koolkat6755

2 жыл бұрын

I did the same I said to him you might have one this fight BUT YOU WON'T WIN THE WAR ....

@andreabeitey7302

2 жыл бұрын

This is exactly 💯 me today ! I feel such relief. Thanks you for this I've been dealing with this all my life and I just this last year has the realizion has some kind of mental problems emotional problem's insecurity issues and just the dynamics of our sibling relationship but I know this person have all my life and I know this person doesn't suffer from any of this what so ever and I have been nothing but good to her.The ironic part of the relationship / as wierd of one as it's been I've never known it to be any other way gets wierder even.in the fact that the narracasistic person was the very first person I ever heard use the term narrcasist , and she said it start to describe her ex and she was all crying with no tears and her face was red like she had been just sobbing her eye's out. Which she wasn't and she hadn't been her eye's ,.. and cheeks were dry as bone she was just doing her manipulative way of doing thing's trying to play with me and my emotions and what she basically what I think. She had just told me that her ex was a........ Narracasistic S.O.B. and I was like he's a what? I had never heard the term narrcasist, if I ever had I had no knowledge of hearing the term being used to describe someone I know or in my circle of friend's and family I have.anyhow I was instantly interested in what narrcasist meant. I didn't know what she was talking about.. So I asked her what the heck does that mean ? What do you mean ............ Is a narrcasist ? All the sudden she sat up straight face seemed to go a little bit white I think 😊 and now that I asked about it... It was just... Oh it's just me and........ haven hard times. Now after just getting ready to tell me all about it. But because I turned around and asked like specially what it meant...she didn't want answer.she didn't want to explain it to me all the sudden. And she knew she had just messed up. I didn't know yet just what she done but I soon would and she knew it.

@whitneyerwin9772

2 жыл бұрын

Just laugh about it.

When they know u know, it is game over……but if there are children involved, be prepared, that’s a whole new battle.

You have a gift Andrew. You know what we all need to hear! Yes! You do need to go into the schools and make everyone aware of this! Narcissistic people are very real! Every word spoken! The TRUTH! Bless you❣️

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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@Champaign1117

Жыл бұрын

Agreed. I mostly read about narcissism upon first discovery. Since then I've watched a few videos but none come close to Andrew. He seems to know exactly what to say to activate the healing powers we have within. i could tell he was different from others merely within minutes of the first video I watched of his, which happens to be last night....lol. Yep, Andrew seems legit.

@marylivich6058

Жыл бұрын

@@Champaign1117 This says so much coming from me 🙂

I agree Andrew. Once you know don't do anything and don't look back. It gives us our power back to move onto the healing path. In this case the best response is no response.

@marrynack6750

2 жыл бұрын

I so agree. At least you will survive

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Heather 🙏🙌💪💯💪

@jameshogue1639

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely, because any response would be a waste of energy, waste of time and a waste of more of your life.

@beachgirl4

2 жыл бұрын

Amen

@robertford532

2 жыл бұрын

Greetings from London! Andrew thank you so much mate. I can tell how much of a good person you are! These videos are helping me big time, and I appreciate the knowledge you are giving to us! Knowledge is freedom Thank you

I turned 64 in June. That same week I was finally able to put a name to my sister’s treatment of me. Years ago she had me hating myself and suicidal. So I sought professional help. Found a great therapist. My sister accused my therapist of planting false claims in my head and making her out to be the bad one. If you think you are a victim of a narcissist try this. Tell them you are going to a therapist. See how they respond. They will be afraid of being exposed. Don’t let a narcissist feed off you and steal your life away.

One situation the narcissistic will fear the most is the idea of living in a real community......I had a narcissist come into my life a couple of years ago, claiming that they shared my love for connection with Mother Nature and my wish to build a real community whereby everyone looks out for each other and it becomes like a large extended family (which is basically how Mother Nature designed us to be anyway.....hence why indigenous people's in their communities feel happy and content with their lives and don't feel the need to be consumers trying to be better or have more than each other all the time) .. So this narcissistic who came into my life claiming to be hugely aligned with all my hopes and dreams started playing a game with me ....a game that went on for over a year and a half, and 1 year of that was me giving them a free roof over their heads , cooking 90% of their meals for them, giving up my time and energy to ensure they felt safe etc (as this narcissist also claimed to be vulnerable in many ways , and also suffering from past trauma etc and wanting time to heal etc) ...So I bought into most of what they said.....but as time went past I could see and feel something was wrong and didn't add up with them....however I would make excuses a lot of the time and put it down to their so called trauma ...I also thought I could inpisre this person to be a better person by learning from myself. In other words if I spent energy on them , feeding them , listening to their issues , they would do the same back for me.....however as time went by I noticed very little was coming back......however I had pretty much fallen in love with this person and we even shared the facts we felt like soul mates early on in the friendship.....however this was clearly the narcissist putting on a act in front of me to 'love bomb' me and make me believe we would always be close friends and trust each other no matter what happened or where we ended up......However clues started showing , especially if we were sharing a meal I would keep talking about the importance of building real community. ....I started noticing the narcissist would not add much into the conversations....almost like the subject felt uncomfortable for them......as months rolled by during lockdown , I noticed the narcissist started getting really irate and angry when she spoke about certain of her friends (people I'd met via her and were good people ) ..she was angry because one of her so called friends had fallen in love with a guy at this community that the narc had wanted to attend now and again and get involved in some organic food growing etc....the real reason was so she could take photos of the growing food etc and put it all on her social media accounts to give the impression she was growing all the food herself and to gain likes (Narcissistic supply and build up fake trust from people who'd likely be her next victims) ..so she got really angry at her friend and called her friend selfish for falling in love and said her friend had disrespected her as it would make her trips to the organic community more awkward etc......I them saw her mask slip and realised all was not well and it was really chilling to see she had that little empathy for her so called friend......anyway as time went by and it became almost a year , she realised the we would no longer be able to live in the house as I was being evicted as a tennent anyway , and she could no longer be my guest in a spare room there....so boom , then it all fully came to light, because as soon as she moved her stuff out to new accommodation somewhere near by in the city, she started completely trying to block all contact with me......she wouldn't even tell me her new address and despite me spending over 90% of the last year cooking her meals , looking out for her , she would now not even invite me around for a cup of tea 😮.....this is when I realised fully that what I had been dealing with was a full of narcissist .......It hit me very hard at the time , and the best way to it was , it felt like a close friend and soul mate had actually died .......because I realised she had been putting on an act the whole time and the person whom I thought existed was simply non existent. ....like a ghost in fact. .... But when I reflected back , I realised why I saw certain clues as time went by during that year is so of being together ......I noticed how if we invited a few friends around for an evening meal, she would only hang out for the meal then a quick chat with everyone around the table , and then she would say goodnight to everyone and dissappear off to her room......it was like she didn't want her mask to slip in front of everyone ....she also behaved completely differently to me when other were there.....like she would even ignore me at the dinner table as much as possible .......it was only when we alone with each other she would property talk about things......And as said at the beginning here, she felt very uncomfortable when the subject was 'real community'.... So my advice people is...if you want to try and detect a narcissist early on in a relationship /friendship. ..keep talking about real community with them.....suggest taking then into community situations together and doing stuff with many others there........also check how they treat shop staff , waiters in restaurants etc...do they treat others with real empathy ? ,....also soon as you detect they have a lack of empathy with others, you know you are with a narcissist 👀 Real community & Real empathy Are 2 huge things we can use to detect a narcissist The issue may be though. .....narcissists can be quite good at acting and pretending they have real empathy to begin with....but if you keep chipping away and monitor as many situations as possible, you should begin to see their mask slipping off. 👀

A narcissist is a predator. If you are a zebra. They are the lion. You can’t stroll around calmly and expect not to be attacked. 

They will attack you. Often when you least expect it. If you are lucky, another prey (’supply’) might distract them. This is your chance to get away. When the narcissist discards you, it’s usually because they’ve found another target (’supply’). Instead of staying still, ruminating. RUN. 

HIDE. God has gifted you with a chance to survive and get your life back. Do whatever it takes to heal your wounds, rebuild yourself, and grow stronger. And most importantly - make sure that they never find you again, whenever they come back for a second round (’hoovering’). You’ve got this

Its about spiritual growth and letting go of ego

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Completely correct 💯💯💯

Yes, it was a light bulb 💡 moment for me! I did so much for 3 years! I did the things I wouldn’t have done for anyone! I wasn’t myself.. he turned me into his puppet! I am happy he’s not in my life anymore.. but the trauma is still there.. I am still mad I allowed him to treat me this way!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

You are amazing and loved Gunja.. always 🙏🙌💯😊

@gunjasoni

2 жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thanks to you for making us believe in ourselves again! Letting us know that we were not crazy! It’s only in here I feel like I am being listened and my feelings are valid!

@MrNikhilgherwar

2 жыл бұрын

Tc...

@MrNikhilgherwar

2 жыл бұрын

Speak to your friends

@christinebaisley7209

2 жыл бұрын

@ Gunja, thank you for sharing, what you said is the very thing I could not admit to my self.

So much truth, so disappointed, so relieved!!!

My mom is a narcissist which taught me to accept that type of “love”. I fell into a relationship with one and just got out of it after almost 3 years together and being cheated on/emotionally abused. Videos like this help me a lot and give me hope after years of being manipulated.

@mindblownwhattheydidntteachyou

Жыл бұрын

Snap! Absolutely wild... Vindicating and eyewidening stuff. Sucks when its your parent

@laughteraddict1003

Жыл бұрын

My mom too

@sajor1847

Жыл бұрын

@@laughteraddict1003 My Mama too! Growing up I always thought what was wrong with her. She actually laughed at me when I cried.

@sajor1847

Жыл бұрын

It'd so hard to understand being an empath how someone can treat someone so horribly! Such evil vile and mean people! So grateful im not like that!

@patsyballantyne9886

Жыл бұрын

@@sajor1847 me too

I haven’t seen my brother in 30 years. Thank God!

I’ve been no contact for over 2 months now! The tidal waves of emotion come and go from anger to sadness to being stunned at all that went on under my nose without me knowing it. I am so thankful for your videos Andrew! Ive learned so much and when I begin to have any self doubt, I watch your videos! You are a genuine blessing to this community and I’m so grateful to you!! Thank you!! 😊

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Kimberly 🙌💯🙏💪

@kimberlyalkire7945

2 жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you!!!

@karenwantland4724

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, isn't amazing that we didn't know what was going on in front of us? We could not imagine how such a human being could be so cruel, hurtful & EVIL to our beautiful souls♥️

@jennifermoody2189

2 жыл бұрын

I can relate to where you are Kimberly. I’m grateful for being able to have these emotions. The trauma bond is breaking… freedom to “be” isn’t far away. ♥️

@nz630

2 жыл бұрын

I am 63, married to a narcissist for 33, as I just became aware of, for the past 9 months I've had this cathartic experience, I started feeling confused about being in this marriage, 50% of me wants to stay and the other 50% wants to leave. I felt that I want to claim myself back even if it is for the last few years of my life. I even fantasize about having my maiden name back as a symbol of my new freedom. My husband was always nice and mellow but he cheated on me a handful of times (that I know of), he always isolated me from his aquaintences or friends, I found this odd, now I know that is something they do, having compartments or group bubbles, I think he did this to keep his supply of women available, he did not want to show them that he was a committed family man. I am an attractive woman, on the slender side, intelligent, hard working, good mother and homemaker but he never seemed to appreciate me a 100%, I even wonder if he ever truly loved me . We separated a few years ago for 5 years and got back together about 4 years ago. I had become distant with him because of his cheating and one day he said he was leaving because we had lost al ok communication and I did not love him anymore...but guess what? Shortly I found out he was going out with this woman that is pretends to be a fine woman but is nothing but a promiscuous slut and a full blown narcissist addicted to plastic surgery. He thought he had hit the jack pot, but later on he found out what kind of woman she was, she cheated on him with more that one guy, and to his embarrassment and humiliation this was made public among his circle. When he was going out with her, they were both posting pictures in FB of their outings and romance, something he never did with me. Now life is passing the bill to him for all the hurt he caused me, that man that was so strong and handsome is having very serious health problems, I don't any woman would now even give him the time of day.

My husband walked out and left without a word 3 years ago. The term "ghosting" is what he did, I didn't even know this stuff had names. I knew something was funky about him. This is all I did, seriously, I typed into Google search engine: "Husband walked out without a word". I must've gotten hundreds of thousands of hits immediately and all about one thing: Narcissistic abuse. I started watching videos and they were so accurate about his behaviors, it was scary. It was as if these people on the videos knew my husband personally. It was no doubt a very strange feeling at first, though it was also a relief to finally get answers. These creators and their videos have been life saving for so many people! Thanks for all you do!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

Welcome 🙌🙏💯☀️

@denster77

Жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thank you 🙏 😊

I realized my best friend of 30 yrs. was a narcissist about 5 years ago through another YT channel. I ended the friendship and have never been happier. You encapsulated everything I learned over the years in this video. Great job.

@mb-vf3qb

Жыл бұрын

Similar here. I distanced myself gradually. Wow. No more drama. Well worth it. 2yr on self be true. Be Yr own best friend. Cause even Yr own shadow leaves u in darkness..

@almohvn33

Жыл бұрын

Going through it now.. Scheduled for next week.. HE WILL BE GONE. NC .. NEVER EVER AGAIN.

He wore that mask for a long time with me, I mean I always knew something was off with him but I always blamed it on his upbringing, but now that I know everything that I went through I’m in shock but not surprised, kinda relieved that now I know I’m not the crazy one like how he made me out to be.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Continue to become educated and awakened.. you are amazing and on the path 💯💯🙏🙌

Any one of us on this channel found the spark of strength to stand up and overcome those horrible behaviours. We can and we could!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💪🙏🙌

Always At You, never, With You.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

4 ай бұрын

💯💯😉

Righteous.... the souls... and the soulless who attack them...

I never imagined these creeps existed, I was confused, knew something really off was happening to me, I became aloof unlike me, I was forgetting I had friends or family, I was in a different world, I had sleepless nights and the list goes on, I just found myself crying constantly and I knew I had to figure out what was going on, so I started searching and thank God I came up on this channel, the education here is priceless and now I'm doing so much better, I just walked away nothing said,ILL BE FIREVER GRATEFULL TO YOU ANDREW, GOD BLESS❤️❤️💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Always Monica.. ❤️🙌🙏💯🙏🙌

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

💯❤️🙏🙌

@rachelmorehead32

2 жыл бұрын

That is me too exactly.

@wendyperalta3300

2 жыл бұрын

I didn’t figure out who he was until a year ago. He was acting like he was single when married for 19 years! I always thought there was something off and couldn’t put my finger on it! I literally investigated him and boom figured out who he was! He has been out the house for 4 month my choice. Wow! Now starting to heal!!! The toxic energy is out my house! I am so glad I found this channel. Such a blessing!! Every topic is so on point!!! Have a great day!!!

@monicagreen6217

2 жыл бұрын

@@wendyperalta3300 Blessings and love on your healing journey, you are phenomenal, rare and very special 💪❤️❤️

You are SPOT ON!!!! I walked away from my first narcassistic husband, my Mother, my two Brothers and Sister along with at least so called friends that were ALL NARC'S. I'm very proud of myself in terms of finding strength and self love along this journey without ANY SUPPORT from anyone which made me as strong and acutely aware whenever being faced with one.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Education is the path 🙏💪💯🙌

@michellewall6748

2 жыл бұрын

Well done! Live your life..... be free!🥰

@angelabowman343

2 жыл бұрын

Where do you live? I want to be your friend. I am about to dump my mom and my sisters family- they are all narcs

@dennisrobinson8008

2 жыл бұрын

Must feel great

@teresafraser3049

2 жыл бұрын

@@dennisrobinson8008 it's more than great!! It's Cathardic!!

Non Violent Communication is a solution to this cultural dilemma. All people deserve a pathway to peace.

Problem is, I only had one Son and he turned out to be a Narcissist. At 37 years old he finally showed his true core. I called him on it and haven't spoken with him for over 3 years. I am 69 years old and only have my brother's and sister left. Lost my only child but I had to draw the line. Total lack of respect is a game changer.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Richard.. you are amazing and loved.. sending prayers and positive energy 🙏🙌💯🙏

@spmoran4703

2 жыл бұрын

Just love him from afar, and then get on with your life. If he does not appreciate you. It's the only thing that you can do.

@OSTARAEB4

2 жыл бұрын

Perhaps it’ll hit him after you’re gone beyond. I always appreciated my parents and thanked them for their sacrifices but wish they were here to express it a million times more. I didn’t grow up in a lovey, touchy all hugs family. I thought my mother was cold and my family lightened up from the John Wayne type to being vocal and giving me an occasional buss when he was quite elderly. It was the men don’t hug family decades ago. I know this varies from culture to culture.

@Drumbeat52

2 жыл бұрын

@@OSTARAEB4 Be to late then, I'll be in spirit form talking in his ear. I'll scare the crap out of him, I'll tell him I am God! lol

@iclickedbecauseiamtiredofs4630

2 жыл бұрын

@@Drumbeat52 welp i need a dad

I always said certain things that are confirmed with videos, years before I had a phone. One thing I used to say would be,remember the very scary OZ in the Wizard Of Oz? Just like they pulled back the curtain and seen the little midget behind the microphone and OZ wasn't so big and tuff. Ditto,the person I was married to when I unbeknownst ripped the mask off. I'm just happy as the other characters like Dorothy,tinman,the loin and scarecrow. I did make a better home for me and my son's,I do have courage, a brain and heart to move on and be willing to feel the pain with my faith in God 🤸‍♀️

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Amen Shelia 🙌🙏🙏💯

I had a next door neighbour and we became friends and I felt sorry for her from the get go . It lasted 7 years and the last year I was starting to notice stuff . She would ring me at 2 in the morning crying and I would get up and go round. I would clean her home. I would get her food shopping while I got my own. If I bought a new ornament for my house or garden she would want one . Then a old friend from her past moved next door and I was pushed out and I was angry and hurt . I saw a different side to her and all I did for her meant nothing. I seem to attract people who need something my help my advice and when I need that no one is there . I decided im going to learn to say no. Not in a horrible way but I have the right to. I depend on me and started meditation and it clears my mind and soul. Many people from my past forgot all the good things I did because I never asked them for anything just friendship. I was actually hurting most of the time but marched on but when I distanced myself and moved away to the coast I began to feel better. There toxic behaviour was draining me .

In taking my power, energy back, I am sure she can clearly see her punishment of the 'silent treatment' is not working. I'm all smiles again with a cheerful hello, and she walks around grunting with a permanent scowl. Who's winning here? Lol How can they stand to be so miserable? I choose otherwise. Grateful I can CHOOSE to be happy! Thank you Lord for Free Will.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

🙌🙏😌

Thanks so much Andrew for enlightening people. I am 8 years out from my discard. It’s been a long road of healing and hope. No contact would be my best advice. They are truly evil in every sense of the word. I now call myself a survivor of Narc abuse. I wouldn’t wish this pain and grief on anyone. Move forward and Never look back! Continue your path to heal 💔

@smokeyfreestyle22

2 жыл бұрын

I feel ya :D stay positive i start to beleave 74 % is good :) :P just for the record!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful growth Paula 🙏🙌💯🙌🙏

@giuseppemilano2173

2 жыл бұрын

Great advice well said!!!💛💪🙏

@twowingsatlanta4007

2 жыл бұрын

@Paula G. 🌻🌻 I'm Right With You!! Move On and Don't Look Back !!✔♠💯💯 Blessings!!💛

As soon as I sent him a video on narcissist entitlement I was discarded only days later ! Crazy!!!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Education is empowerment.. thank you for sharing Michelle 😉😉💯💯💪💪

@Bluemoon-sd8vp

2 жыл бұрын

Don't let them know -you know- until you have an escape plan. You will be discarded immediately. Make a survival plan first. Also some men will be violent.

Because I'm not compliant, and I expect something from the narc, I get "the look" (non-approval) from the narc. His real self comes through, and he knows I know!

I worked with a Narcacist who used to ring me and I would act as her support when all she talked about was herself.... This was 14 years ago and at the time I didn't know what narcissism was... She asked if she could introduce me to her brother, I said No and thankfully I met the love of my life, but that's not without years of her abusing me after around a year of getting together, her brother is my soul mate and thankgod he was the person who told me his sister was a Narcacist and now does nothing but protect me from her and all of the monkeys she's coached to believe certain things around me... My husband is 10 years older than me and I'm his third wife and to both of his previous wives she bullied them.... She's twisted and thankfully I now realise that you can't win when a Narcacist is out to never accept but always torment and find fault with you... She's destroyed the relationship s of both her sisters too but they can't or at least haven't disclosed that they realise this as they are both acting as her monkeys.... She labels one of her sisters as crazy and set out to destroy her relationship which she finally did, her other sister had recently remarried and now behind her back she is telling people that her sisters friends have commented that there is no spark between her and her new husband, inferring that they don't love each other.... She is one evil bitch that should always be kept at arm's length, my instinct years ago was to say no to her gesture of introducing me to her brother I just felt there wasn't something quite right with her however I am so glad I met my husband who makes up for his Narcissistic sister ... I feel for anyone she targets she is an evil bitch.

Until you experience this insanity, you can't truly understand. I am blessed to be 2 months no contact. I moved out, obtained new employment, and changed my phone number. In just two months my physical health has improved 100%. The healing journey isn't linear. I am learning to be patient with myself. Once I figured out what was going on and removed myself from that toxic environment, healing began. I am learning to focus on me and my life again. I was advised to get a pet and adopted a sweet little kitten that needs lots of love and attention. I went snowshoeing for the first time! Lots of fun. I journal to purge the dark, painful emotions from the abuse. I thank God for not only getting me out.,.for the opportunities he put before me to be able to get out. This has been a spiritual war and God is the only source to heal. I'm not a survivor I'm thriving. We can only do that by our journey of healing. May God bless you all and help you find peace from the pieces.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Dorothy..💪💪💯💯

I don't want to hurt him , I am able to care without caring because all he most likely wants is just a friend and caretaker. Remove the emotional attachment trauma bondage , start with celibacy, it helps develop control over your reaction, and gives you the ability to manage the situation. EXCELLENT example with the water on the witch!!!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Katy..💯🙏🙌

@KadyPowellAEROPOLEONEKD

2 жыл бұрын

@@lj2943 cremation of care is part of the bohemian Grove ceremonies for the elite

I blocked him a few times before completely going no contact. He did say sorry once told him a few times I will not be disrespected. Definitely evil and know exactly what they are doing. Here's one he never got. Thank you love your videos.

"They need to very special each and everyday. Each and every HOUR." Absolutely. My god. I'd be compassionate, caring, empathetic, give compliments, reassure, talk about the future, make plans etc etc. I was being as kind and giving as I could and wasted it on the wrong person. It's so shitty, but thankfully only 7 months of my life. I'm out. Thank you for your videos. They and the comments are so reassuring. So sorry so many have experienced narcissism, too. Wishing everyone peace and happiness.

Discarded 8 months ago by a covert. Took 2 months for the lightbulb to go off. Been in abusive narcissistic relationships all my life, starting with my father who is overt. Mind blown. Finally had a label for these people's behaviour and insight into my own. 51 years old and deep onto my healing path now that I understand what the heck has been happening. Watching tons of videos like these and want to say that this one is 100 percent bang on. I strongly resonate with every one of these points. Thank you everyone for sharing - sad to say you are all my peeps - wish we were connected on a happier note but maybe I can look at it that we are all loving ourselves, taking care of ourselves and learning how to stay open yet protected against the abusers. Wishing everyone a speedy recovery and an end to victimhood ❤

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

Education is the key to protecting yourself from ever getting involved in one of these Narscistic abusive relationships in the future. 💪💪💪

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Heidi.. sending you positive energy and healing.. you are amazing and loved.. 🙏🙌🙏💯💯😊

@beencouraged4163

2 жыл бұрын

Yes I’m your age and discovered the same thing. Almost all prior and current relationship were with a narc. I use to wonder what I did wrong. I’m woke now and so thankful to my Lord and Savior for keeping me and my kid safe and for healing. Many thanks to these channels with info and all of you for sharing your stories!

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

@@beencouraged4163 God listens and answers our prayers. Continue to pray as you move forward along your healing path and you will find the strength and peace you need to continue to move forward.🙏💪🕊️

@villasoka884

2 жыл бұрын

Discarded? Was the garbage taking the garbage out! I saw that in a comment. A gift! 🎁

I’m actually glad I know now. I can feel it really quickly when I meet people and I throw them away IMMEDIATELY. ❤️

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful empowerment 💪🙏💯🙌

@joelhenry4643

2 жыл бұрын

It gets easier

@anima6035

2 жыл бұрын

This but I keep doubting myself and reverting to self blame 🙈 then they show their true colours and I'm like ohhh shiii🙃

@donna3510

Жыл бұрын

Narc testing is a part of my everyday life everyone l come on contact with now it saves a lot of time narc testing love love

You can't unsee their crap.

Yea and when they know you know... The rage comes... Especially if it's a close family member.

Once I discovered that I was in a game instead of a relationship, my opening move was to not let her know that I had figured out that it was a game.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing Dr.Larry..🙏🙌💪

Ding ding ! Andrew my ex narcissist had relatives that were no longer speaking to him and his mother and father were not interested . I noticed he had no real close friends, he called me his best friend . That’s what made me feel sorry for him but now I know why . He has and will wrong everyone that’s what he does best . So sad, I thought everyone wanted to be loved but a narcissist wants your mind soul and heart to discard . Yes the more I knew the more he started staying away . I will not confront him about anything ever again it will only end up in lies and deny .. i’m still in no contact mode . Good post Andrew ..

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Vicky 🙏🙌💯

OMG all of that. 15 years …. Sent a chill back down my spine hearing all of those things ring true. Yes I’m soft, and caring but that ain’t ever happening again. Me and my dog thank you 😊 these vids are essential to helping people to stop blaming themselves or feeling guilty or sorry and help explain the nuclear behaviour when you try and communicate or call them out

Once they know that you know, they have no need for you any longer and will dump you, could be one year could be 20. They can no longer torture you with their idea of fun.

Once they know you’ve figured them out, everything starts to change. Once my narcissistic new I had had a light bulb moment he was gone. It’s like they suddenly become the comic book villain and you’ve become the goodie who holds the keys to the happy ending and they turn and run in the other direction. Which is good news! Even though it takes time to know it. Very powerful stuff! Thank you Andrew 💙🙏

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Polly 🙌💯🙏💪

@Verteune

2 жыл бұрын

Same, once he figured out I knew, he was gone

@jeanetteshawredden5643

2 жыл бұрын

Comic book villain - perfect 🥰

@Dragonfly_magictarot

2 жыл бұрын

Yes that’s exactly it! Once you show them their patterns and confront them. Booom! They are gone LOl 😂

@paulwisdom1090

4 ай бұрын

Yes crazy psychos!!!! I remember I called out my narc ex wife and told her she's a narcissist to her face 3x and she kept denying it and then she turned and looked at me and her eyes turned dark and evil and she got up and started blocking the door so that I couldn't walk through and then she disappeared for 4 days and sent me this longgggg text message about leaving and I was soo happyyyy that I got what I asked for!!!!

Yes I remember ! I was Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz in 8th grade😀

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful Carrie 👠💯🙌💪❤️💯

I said the word RELIEVED. RIGHT before you said it!!!! Huge!!! Relief!!!!!! I couldn't figure out why I was like a mouse running on that spinning wheel. Now I am off,the wheel has stopped spinning...I was dizzy and now trying to find my footing. You said kind words! I missed a lifetime of kind words! How DARE she not care about her child!!!!!!!! I am precious. And I would die for my son!!! I'm in tears

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

🙏🙌💯💪

Narcissist lied, stole and professed love for her own mom, and tried to burn us out of home five different ways! Thank you for advice. 👍. 😎

Get this, I met the guy not to long after I had a Traumatic brain injury, He was kind and helpful changed into a monster.can you imagine the struggle I went through trying to figure out is this my injury? Only after I separated my self from him and told my caregivers was I able to see How wicked this man was .Had I stayed I wouldn't have Made it this far .I'm healing well and am better guarded, He knows I know and I'm sure it shocked him to know I am still well enough even having a tbi to know the difference between toxic and dangerous people and,real loving kind people. He really thought he was going to ruin my Life isolate me and abuse me. Not in this lifetime God is with and for me. Blessed loved protected valued. God speed to all facing these emotional junkees 🙏💪

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Tami.. sending you positive energy 💯🙏🙌