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My ex husband (married 3 years) did this when we separated and later divorced (no kids). I said go ahead. Of course it was an empty threat. He also suddenly told he had been sexually abused as a child, but was vague about any details, even who. I also believe that was manipulation. I told him to get therapy and get help. When we had gone to couples therapy before all that, I realized the extent of his narcissism, him telling me all the stuff he said in front of the counselor was just to "look good" and he hadn't meant any of it. Meanwhile, I was doing everything I could to make him happy and the marriage work. Leaving him was the best thing I ever did, and all his craziness at the end confirmed I made the right decision.

My ex did this two weeks into no contact after the breakup few days later he was on top of the world again and continuing his smear campaign which is still in swing until this day sadly I have to see him at work but I ignore him as best I can

@belindablunderbus1365

Ай бұрын

You got this ✨️

Unbeknownst to me, my ex husband had form for this. Indeed, his brother had even warned my father about him. When we eventually split 20 years later, he used this tactic very deliberately when I took our daughter on holiday. One of my friends told me to give him the number of emergency support and leave him to it.

They will always be the victim despite 1. There being no danger & 2. They are the danger. I don’t encourage anyone on suicide but I have gotten to a point I stopped falling for this and I tell them that they already know my stance on the matter and that it’s on them at this point. I remember I went through this with a number of people over the years and it would be the worst feeling because I would hurt for them while they went right back to being and become stressed out over their well being just for them to go back to being happy and doing just fine.

This is the vid I've been hoping to find somewhere!

I also called my daughters bluff as it wasn't the first time, I called the Doctor and told him, she was backpeddling throughout the phone call... never had to do that again.

@otdreamer193

Ай бұрын

The thing about it is, Most people who really mean it wouldn’t use it as a threat. People who are truly suicidal sometimes will keep it bottled up or will ask for genuine help or try to tell someone even if not in detail that they feel something isn’t right. When people play around like this it makes me feel bad for the people who actually are suffering from those thoughts.

@pix318

Ай бұрын

@@otdreamer193 Totally right, more often than not they don't tell anyone but just do it leaving their family devistated. (happened like this to a friend).

Some guy in my past whom I didn’t know threatened to kill himself, if I wouldn’t go on a date with him. I asked my friends who this guy was & confronted the situation & told the guy that if he wanted to commit suicide, that I wouldn’t be there to stop him. In other words, I wasn’t abt to go out with him. My friends on the way out of the restaurant, thought I was crazy, not to go for the bait. I knew I could never take anyone seriously whom I didn’t know, nor wanted to know, with such a foolish threat. I don’t know what ever happened to him, however didn’t hang around long enough to ever find out. I bet he left the restaurant I was @ with my friends, with his tail between his legs. He probably had his mom move to the next town over!!

My sister in law, she disrupted the family along with holidays. She took two pills 🙄. But she got her new house.

@otdreamer193

Ай бұрын

Sounds like an attention grab.

I wish I knew these things years ago, wish I could have accessed this knowledge years ago. Seems like I've been involved with narcs for at least 50 years, seems like the suicide threat has been used to retain me in bad relationships a min of 4 times, 4 different relationships in those 50 years.

@otdreamer193

Ай бұрын

Better to learn it at all than to never learn it, Unfortunately many of us aren’t taught much in depth of what to look out for. Even now schools are teaching elementary kids about mental health etc…Knowledge many previous generations didn’t have access to. Something I used to fall for too was the suicide threat or the “Nobody is there for me, I need somebody there for me” and common sense hit me “If nobody is there for you, What the heck am I doing in this picture then?”. I still see it from time to time and it’s not that I’m mean but I tend to not feed into it anymore because some people live for manipulation, Control and drama by any means and playing victim is their biggest attempt to get your sympathy and energy.

@juliasullivan7519

Ай бұрын

I am now learning to spot these people and not get involved with them at all. Then I don't get to the point where they are trying to control me. It's a wonderful feeling to be free of that!

@otdreamer193

Ай бұрын

@@juliasullivan7519 I know exactly how you feel, Since I wised up to the signs and patterns I waste no time getting out the way. It Definitely feels a lot better not having someone trying to control us.

@juliasullivan7519

Ай бұрын

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