You know we all had traumatic childhoods. They decided to build walls. And we held on to our empathy and faced reality head on

@maticbukovac6966

Жыл бұрын

I wish I was able to build walls!

@terrywagner3662

Жыл бұрын

Spoken like tru narcissist

@natlee5879

9 ай бұрын

They didn't decide though. It's out of their hands

When my narc knew I was done he tried to do everything he could to hurt me . Be very careful in everything even if they are acting nice expect the worse in all things .

@peacetwinkiesandlove

Жыл бұрын

When they get silent on you, after the punishment after the discard, watch out! Because they may not be done with you. My ex narc boyfriend won't stop stalking me on my phone. I'm indifferent now. I've had five months to heal and accept that nothing about him or my experience with him was real. They'll do anything to get that last ounce of narcissistic Supply out of you, won't they?

@helenduffy6642

Жыл бұрын

When they do nice things for you it's control. I never picked up on things thinking he was being considerate but listening to these talks it was control. Look after yourself. Call police if your being harassed,.

@user-gf2xb1lv8l

4 ай бұрын

Mine has to he wants out of this life forever

The best way to deal with toxic, demonic influenced, dysfunctional narcissists is to put them out or get out! And stay out! More than likely if you accept them back, you will only exist and still live unpredictably with them. You won't live an abundant, fulfilling life 😭

@doppelganger8329

Жыл бұрын

This last message is 100 percent correct.

@johnsoutdooradventures3293

Жыл бұрын

Yep, leave the trash at the road.

@vincenzoc4275

Жыл бұрын

It is definitely demonically influenced!!!

@helenduffy6642

Жыл бұрын

It's so hard to come to terms after 50yrs of marriage how someone you love treats you so bad. I'm living my life now and I have not spoke to the Narc for 6 months. These videos have saved my life. Thanks fir sharing.

Devil 😈 in sheep’s skin 🙏🏽💯🙌

@helenbrooks4787

Жыл бұрын

They can also be a devil with a blue dress on.

@mightymouse1005

Жыл бұрын

Angels in public and demons in private

@sheezPOMO

Жыл бұрын

thrown in the fact that they are GEMINI's and poof tormented and manipulate always. I tried for 20 years well it was not revealed to me in the early years but it was like out of nowhere psycho narc showed up and never looked back or looked at what he was doing to me, and how our relationship became a non empathetic dark time , it was (me) he obnoxiously and with such disregard willfully shattered. He Almost turned all my attempts to SAVE US my effort to communicate with him daily were not enough.He said that I had let him down ,and if I dont GET THAT well thats one of the MANY reasonS im done with u Being IN THE TOXIC MANIPULATING PIT ALMOST defeated me. Feelings of continued rejection, really being more lonely and shattered living with him it was crazy to use that word LONELY but because he could disregard my existence with such cruelty that kind of lonely could take over even if there were physically other people in the house . Lonliness and feeling lonely is like being spit on and walked over as if i was never around FUCK THAT SHIT I LEFT BEEN ONLY 5 MONTHS but making a geographical separation five hours away ...as well as no communication with the dark sad life i am seeing how wow gaslighting, lies ,and the ability to show no empathy and fk if ever there was sympathy i can regroup restore reflect and realize I am not a failure i believe i have won bcz i left on my terms .

@melodyal3357

Жыл бұрын

Described 💯💯💯👌

@MsDreya22

3 ай бұрын

This is so sad and all so true 😢I had enough my ex narc of 7 yrs got worse and worse to the point where he was staring and flirting with women right in front of me and if I would say something he would tell me that I’m just being insecure then I would bring it up and he would tell me I seen you looking at guys so basically it was his excuse to do what he does Has broken me to my core I lost all my friends and even lost my connection with family. I’ve never felt so alone. I’m OK with starting over. I can’t let somebody destroy me like this. It’s just time to move on and save myself.

They act like little kids. It's beyond hilarious and sad and pathetic

Being with my ex narc for the past 6 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I hired a private detective Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Once I knew what the narc was up to, it got easier to get over that lying, cheating, sack of doo doo, loser. I didn’t need closure from the narc, I paid for it. Best money I EVER spent!

@anonymous-ze2ug

25 күн бұрын

I was going to give u a thumbs up until I saw the private investigator part. So here u r struggling financially but instead of spending it on your daughter u instead spending it on seeing what the ex-narc is up to. Who cares what he is up to. This shows u to be just as bad as him. Move forward and be happy with your daughter. Good luck.

They know they need you and will have no one to clean up their messes. They'll have no one to pick on and make miserable.

@barrybleich3455

4 ай бұрын

That's my wife she abusive but now being nice because she thinks I'm getting money since my dad died she's been nasty to me talking all kinds of bad stuff about my dad but yet she's asking about money and trying to be nice.

They have No conscience.

Very clear and succinctly expressed. I am exactly at the point of cutting the communication once and for all. They are refusing to accept that... but i can see that nothing has changed. Thank you for the clarity you give.

Some narcissist been through this so much with so many different people they literally think your the one following them or after them 🥴 just because you drive down a certain street and they spot you not the other way around 😂 they literally try to cut people off as if your chasing them so pitiful like no and yes please get away asap but did all that for nothing because I never realized that person was near till they made it obvious 😩 they make it always about themselves or if your after them lonely creatures

Spot On. High Marks!👍🏻

this is gold.

You are like Morpheus with these glasses. Bringing Neo back to reality

I really enjoyed this video!! It helped me a lot because I am done with my ex narc and going on 2 years no contact but still have been getting harassed indirectly.

@generationalcursebreaker5397

Жыл бұрын

Yeah they called me on a phone app with different numbers

@iamtiffanymarrie

Жыл бұрын

@@generationalcursebreaker5397 yes, same! I changed my number now he creates fake social media pages

I truly am relieved to know that this is an actual condition that has consistent and recognizable symptoms and traits. I am literally in THIS phase...and have been for some time. Trying to cut it off. They refuse, maybe a day or 2 goes by without contact...but I fear they'll come knocking on my door. The surveillance is real. I worry of I try to move on and have a new guest, with whom I'm spending company, my door will fling open and there they'll be causing a scene, destroying my next chance at happiness, and even getting violent with us. I wasn't sure if it was me doing something wrong? Was I the narcissist? I was being gaslighted into thinking I caused their behavior to be outright psychotic because they "love me so much" and they're "crazy because they don't want to lose me." I'm "too attractive to socialize because other women want me, so I need to stay home". I've "hurt them by leaving" after they've "done so much" for me. They haven't. I did everything for them and an disconnecting because of the lack of gratitude, the onslaught of toxic accusations and drama that recurs incessantly. Crazy thing is it's always the same song. Same problems, same past bring dug up. Never anything new, never able to move on, going hours and hours and days and weeks, unreasonable hours of the night, trying to find a "solution" that never comes. It's truly scary and I'm so glad that it is something that is not natural, normal and can be identified and dealt with. Like a cold. It always has the same symptoms and there are ways to recognize and handle it. A narcissist is the same from person to person and there are ways to handle it and other people going through it. So glad I'm not alone. Sorry for the rant

@faithful8942

Жыл бұрын

You’re not alone my dear many of us have been hurt by these despicable humans . Be strong my dear 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

@vincenzoc4275

Жыл бұрын

They make you feel like you are losing your mind,cut them off and stand strong, they may get violent but don't react the same way, they thrive on reaction and it empowers them, they are toxic and demonic!

Very informative Thank you I like the way you add explanation at the end of video 💝

@col2959

Жыл бұрын

Me to. Actually saw the ‘real person’

No means no but not to a narristic person

Very good video. Appreciate the information! Thank you!🙂

This is so true after two years of trying to get a chance to go without getting hurt again I had to put my emotions in check and see what I was dealing with think I really was blind I thought it was me that had a problem now I see hear and know will not be fool again

Each word of this video is very practical and true.. suffering 30 years with a narcissist husband..he always treat me as beautiful property only..the way he played with me was amazing master mind way..always ..he is 14yrs older and I was teen that age when marry..he was 31... Worst experience..but he was was really mindfull.. narcissist are just beast in a human body..they made life hell..in our asian society cutting ties divorce affect children a lot but this hell life also is crucial..I spent whole my youth to protect my children from this beast :(

My ex tried that shi and when I didn’t respond the way she wanted she blocked me in the past it would have made me run behind her because I needed to be seen, heard and valued as I was anxiously attacher and Now I don’t need that I am no longer struggling with my self esteem and codependency. So I didn’t run behind her but whatever she needs to feel positive and secure . I don’t really care long as she leaves me alone 😂

It's amazing how all this fits

Thanks for sharing, very helpful.

Finally I know that he is a narcissist but how can I'm forget him 😭

@ncr4007

Жыл бұрын

It’s good to forgive them for inner peace. Plus if you hold on to any negative emotions that in itself shows you’ve completely free of them.

@peacetwinkiesandlove

Жыл бұрын

You can forget him by moving forward, don't look back. All that is back there is the breadcrumbing of planned Good Times with alternating hot and cold, love bombing to keep you in their control and future faking with you like promising you things will get better or they will change. I'm sorry, but he is a master puppeteer. But they are like a fish out of water without their narcissistic Supply. Sadly, you were only a good source of supply. He will undoubtedly try to Hoover you now. But, try to ignore him. He wants some leftover Supply from you, or to reel you in and finish discarding and punishing you. Kudos for getting out hellacious relationship you were in! ♥

Tough to do when the Narcissists is my daughter. Your video is good 👍

They are demons. He will punch me then wanna cry in my lap. I’m moving soon. Can’t wait.

They do not have no conscious

Spot on.

It’s so interesting what you’re talking about narcissist, I have been married for 32 years to a fairly nice gentleman, he passed away from a car accident. And then I met another man thinking he would be like my previous husband, kind, gentle, loving, not knowing I was getting into a narcissist relationship. It took me about three months to realize this is not healthy. When I told him to leave my house, he got extremely defense. And upset. We were on a bowling team together, that day he chose to try and belittle me to my friends. The funniest thing is, my friends knew me. The biggest issue I had was this narcissist is he drug out the divorce for two years. He made so many excuses, and things were never his fault. I’m very thankful I have divorced him and I would love to say he’s no longer in my life, but he chooses to bother. At different events by trying to come up behind me in front of me to see if I notice him, I make no eye contact with him, and I don’t talk to him. If you have any other Hints on getting rid of him for sure. I would appreciate that. Have a blessed day.

@fasttrackblastback8286

Жыл бұрын

Sounds crazy, but you might have to move. Certainly watch who you talk to about your whereabouts or plans, and block him and any associates of his on all social media, even if you feel they're impartial.

@diannakins7333

Жыл бұрын

@@fasttrackblastback8286 I respect what you’re saying, but it’s almost funny watching him when he does bother me at church, making a fool of himself. You gotta realize I’ve been attending this church since 1981 and the people at the church know me for who I am a strong Christian woman. And I’m never alone there’s always a friend/gentleman by my side. But thank you so much for your concern.

@patfume23

Жыл бұрын

He can not believe what hit him! Ignore him completely, they Never change, be strong 👍

@dididisun

Жыл бұрын

Resist the devil, he will flee! Be firm with your grey rocking method & total diassociation, he might get worse before it gets better (meaning he will leave you alone & move onto searching on next prey)

@Houseitch

Жыл бұрын

Check out the stalking laws, you just never know about some people! Best wishes.

My narc is a straight incubus from hell.

I did NOT have a traumatic childhood and that’s why it took me SO long to see this for what it is. I would go to support groups of places to help someone that is in a long term relationship or marriage with a Narcissist and I didn’t understand. So I had to dig deep into my childhood and see exactly what happened or I was just an idiot doormat. 3 years of this with a trauma coach and speaking to relatives outside of my 4 other siblings and here it is….. UNINTENDED neglect early on from birth on. 5th child and not wanted my my mother ( she loved me but had what I believe was sever post pardom depression.) and the other children saw this as spoiled. Then my father who as my everything died when I was just a teenager. That left an abandonment wound. Our body’s don’t know the difference. Weather it was intended or not…. Read “, The body keeps score “

I want to share something... So, I was engaged to someone last year but called off the wedding as he had lied about his habits(he smokes and drinks and he totally lied about it), and had been with 15 girls and forwarded their images as if he were showing off his trophies. His nature was a huge red flag and he lied about his salary and went on to discuss my finances. Anyways I called off the wedding as there were other things which were telling me he was not the right person. I called off the wedding on 18th September 2023 and within a month he was married to another girl. One more thing I noticed was that when he was engaged to me, he changed his social media dp to our engagement pic and he has done the same thing again by putting up his pic with his wife. I'm not saying it is wrong but something deep down tells me that women are nothing more than passing profile pics.. I pray for his wife 🙏

Some people have no problem reading social clues however they prefer to keep any utmost importance conclusions about that to themselves and maybe their closest friend or a spiritual advisor if they need to maybe in the future ask for help about how they are starting to be treated like someone else's property too next. People like that are much better at avoiding drama than the average person is.

I love this channel !! So, despite authorities escorting my adult child out of my house a couple of years ago and having to relocate , kid is back in neighborhood trying to see where imoved to. Also, I heard that hes using neighbors apts as a squatter. Do I keep ignoring or simply tell kid if i see, RELATIONSHIP IS OVER ? Suggestions appreciated...

@just1nita

Жыл бұрын

I would suggest having No contact, but if your Adult child confronts you, you should tell them that you cannot tolerate their behavior and they need to seek counseling . Just my suggestion, hope it helps

@spindrifter7519

Жыл бұрын

Tell the cops he is stalking you and more importantly tell them you are in fear for your life. They will have to look into it because if they didnt and you got hurt or worse murdered they would be in the shit for not attending to your fears.

@thereisnosanctuary6184

Жыл бұрын

Bad parent

I have a question my ex and I are now done since Feb 12th of this year but backtrack we ended up getting into a big fight in 2021 I had to stab him to get him off of me we both were locked up I was let out he was charged we ended up getting back together in 2022 I broke things off because I didn't feel right we got back together in 2023 but he ended up breaking up with me in February I am not trying to go back with him I hope I never hear or see him ever again but now I am scared because he knows where I reside and I have a feeling that he's watching me my ex is being sentenced March 1st of this year I am choosing not to make a victim impact statement as I just want to move on how do I stop thinking about him

Just finding out that I'm a narcissist. Is there anyway for me to break out of this trait? I need serious help.

@s0nnasauras630

Жыл бұрын

U need specialized therapy at the moment I can't remember what its called. But I'm sure if u do some digging on Google u can find the resources you need.

@terrywagner3662

Жыл бұрын

Just be you bud everyone else is taken already....just because you may not be accepted by some people doesn't mean you shouldnt be you anyways...all you can do is live one day at a time...try to keep your attitude on your mind all times it helps remind you that it's not hard to be nice or atleast not mean when you get irritated or angry...and if you do just stop what your doing and do not react at all when mad you wont feel the same 2 mins later..but most of all do not ever let anyone make you feel like theres somthing wrong with you..only you have to be ok with you and if your not only you can change you....but make sure you do everything for you first and foremost...and if you can listen more than speaking your opinion is allways just that..sometimes it's better to be quiet than loud...dont ket anyone make you feel like your not good enough my friend fr

@terrywagner3662

Жыл бұрын

Honestly everyone in the world has in themselves an element of duplicity...or deceiving everyone! No exception period...how is this any different from how anyone else sweeps there dirt under the rug just before the company arrives???? What's ok to some is not to others...the real problem is that whomever made you feel so not good enough well say..that's were the problem is at..that person should of thought it through all the way to end before deciding down the road they didnt like HOW you are! Anyone who feels different just remember your opinion is just the same as mine..its an opinion

@cassiebennet4262

10 ай бұрын

Were you legitimately diagnosed with NPD by a mental health professional? If so try to work on your root core of shame. Pin point what caused you the shame of being you.

These videos are very informative, however when are they going to be videos on how to help these helpless individuals?

@M3DIT4TE

Жыл бұрын

You can't help them sadly. They are programmed to believe they are superior and always in the right, and will remain that way until their bitter end. The only chance of them being helped is for them to come clean to the world, and that process doesn't involve you.

@Heretolearn333

Жыл бұрын

You can't help them. They will never accept that they are the problem. Nothing is ever their fault. Save yourself, it's not selfish.

@elalieleinyuy2106

Жыл бұрын

Just like you said "helpless" they can't be helped except they decide to help themselves

I like the narration better in your natural voice than in the AI. You should consider doing your videos as yourself!

I miss the Indonesian rain 😢

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If I don’t agree with my narc ex. Or answer the way he think I should answer he gets agitated and hang up. Example. We talked about his knee surgery. He said knees bend backwards right. I said not actually backwards but I get it . He can tell u something and always want confirmation as he is telling his story instead of just finishing. I always have to say right like he is a teacher or teaching mess I wanted to try and make it work but it’s over, exhausting and not worth the energy. To them ur stupid and they are the smartest in the world. No relationship with non of his kids except the minor .There will never be any growth in the relation especially if he doesn’t see a prob and the prob ( to him) is always me.. if u can get out… GET OUT!!!

So how about when they drop you for an old flame?

@chrisfoleys

8 ай бұрын

Good run far away

@BJBlaskovichGaming

8 ай бұрын

@@chrisfoleys That’s what I did. She lied to me and acted like she wasn’t dating anyone, I found out she was back with her first bf, lied to me about going to Chicago to see him in February (she said she was going to a city about an hour away to pick up work for her 2nd job when I knew she had a flight to get to) and that was it for me. The lies were never going to stop. I tried to be friends with her post relationship and she didn’t even want that. This is what I got instead, so I went deuces.

@chrisfoleys

8 ай бұрын

@@BJBlaskovichGaming sorry to hear that, understand that she's somebody else's problem. My ex was beautiful really really attractive my mistake was falling for looks. I was tormented for 15 years. Went broke I'm currently trying to recover 15k in debt failed business with two kids all I wanted was to succeed for my family but my narc partner would always find ways to drain and gaslight me till I got educated on narcissistic abuse. Please don't loose time over her focus on you and the positivity

@BJBlaskovichGaming

8 ай бұрын

@@chrisfoleys oh hell no. She can stay with him and waste his time and money, I’m totally cool with that, considering all the stuff I found out she was hiding and the stuff she blatantly lied about. The devaluing and all that. I’m merely telling my experience, definitely not losing sleep over her. More like the wasted time and money.

@clintonnagy1662

2 ай бұрын

Same thing happened to me. 2 weeks into no contact, she never texted/called on my birthday. Went to a local concert ( on my B-day ) and she was on a date with her ex boyfriend. She saw me, turned around and walked away. I confronted her, and she acted like she NEVER knew me. We argued and she got security but I left before being thrown off the property. I'm beyond crushed. To think I meant something to her is my own fault. I'm done seeing/dating/talking/sleeping/looking at another female. Never again. This ruined me and she is the devil.

I left my narcissistic ex, told him I'm done with him and this relationship, that he will never hear from me again, he broke down in tears, begged me and then got angry and spat in my face. When I was getting in my car, he put his middle finger up at me, I've blocked him on everything and he has tried contacting me but he is blocked

@TheBigStarz

Жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry that happened. Spitting is assault, I would inform the authorities and get an order of protection. Keep any threats in text, voicemail etc. And be safe watch your surroundings. They are angry & dangerous when they can not control you.

So are narcissist autistic?

GREETINGS FOR THE GREAT CITY OF KENTUCKY WHO ON EARTH IS PERFECT DUDE THIS IS RIDICULOUS THESE VIDEOS AND YOU KNOW YOU HAVE TO WHEN YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH SOMEBODY YOU WORK THROUGH IT ALL BOTH PEOPLE NEED TO RESPECT AND LOVE AND BE IN LOVE WITH EACH OTHER TRULY LOOKS HER SUBJECTIVE AND ONLY A MATTER OF OPINION NO ONE IS PERFECT YOU WORK THROUGH THESE DIFFICULT TIMES MY GOODNESS THIS IS NITPICKING EVERYBODY IS NARCISSISTIC IN THEIR OWN WAY AND AT DIFFERENT TIMES IN THEIR LIVES AND IN DIFFERENT SITUATIONS COME ON NOW

This makes me sick af yall act like it's not a disease alot of them dont even realize how they are acting or treating people or that thereams anything even wrong g...you thi m it's easy when nobody wants you around because of your anger?

If I don’t agree with my narc ex. Or answer the way he think I should answer he gets agitated and hang up. Example. We talked about his knee surgery. He said knees bend backwards right. I said not actually backwards but I get it . He can tell u something and always want confirmation as he is telling his story instead of just finishing. I always have to say right like he is a teacher or teaching mess I wanted to try and make it work but it’s over, exhausting and not worth the energy. To them ur stupid and they are the smartest in the world. No relationship with non of his kids except the minor .There will never be any growth in the relation especially if he doesn’t see a prob and the prob ( to him) is always me.. if u can get out… GET OUT!!!