My approach to job interviews is to come in with the mindset that the interview is my opportunity to see if I even like this place enough to work there, rather than thinking the interview is a “test” that must be passed.

@lilymulligan8180

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed. It's just like dating.

@crazyscarecrow8136

2 жыл бұрын

That’s a great outlook, although it can be kind of hard to keep that mindset when you’re in a position where you *need* the job.

@JLchevz

2 жыл бұрын

that goes with relationships too

@LiveType

2 жыл бұрын

It would be nice to be so skilled that the "test" part is insignificant. But yes, I have noped out of several interviews when I quickly understood I would be working 60 hour weeks, on call, Amazon entry level toxic productivity work culture. I've been there, done that. You won't pay me enough for me to voluntary take a quality of life reduction like that.

@joshparker5779

2 жыл бұрын

@@lilymulligan8180 imagine grinding leetcode before a hot date🤪

Something I was told by someone working in HR once, was that in many cases, job interviews are about personality first and qualifications second. If you're invited to an interview, they already know your CV, so the purpose of an interview is moreso to find out whether you're a good fit for the company. So if your natural attitude and instincts is to crack a joke every now and then, do it. If it's more to gush about the interests related to the job, do that. You don't need to prove yourself to them.

@gnarthdarkanen7464

2 жыл бұрын

Yup... Lots of times, I've gotten the job over a "more qualified" person who had years of training, college programs where I didn't, and even real experience beyond me... It was because I said something like "In my experience there's no such thing as JUST a ..." (fill in anything you like)... I'd point out that were it not for the janitorial crew, I'D be the one cleaning toilets and mopping floors. OR The company drivers can't do any driving without the technicians keeping the vehicles road-worthy... SO nobody's JUST anything. I always kinda took pride about that... and I'm often the wrench pusher... ;o)

@pepe-gamer

2 жыл бұрын

I just got accepted for a job where I failed (almost) every technical question. I was really confused, surprised, and honestly broken, but then I understood that (specially in big companies) they are way more interested in who you are than what you can do. Not that your skill is not important tho, just not as much

@Gn3rd

2 жыл бұрын

@@pepe-gamer Exactly. Whatever you may lack in qualifications, they'll teach you.

@phesterful

2 жыл бұрын

*Laughs in "technical interview".* Yes, the traditional interview is like that. Not all interviews are traditional. For every coding position I've had, I've had to prove my technical skills and ability to communicate technical information. Often that includes an automated quiz or live coding exercise. Those will have very frank and direct feedback. Whether you pass or fail those is not based on your fit. So there's the (incorrect) assumption that they're more "accurate" because they filter out people who merely bullshit their way through interviews. They are also often considered inappropriate or useless among the most senior engineers. The most senior engineers I know (20+ years of experience on high-performing teams) frequently say they are a sign that hiring in the software industry is fundamentally broken... along with 6+ month turnaround on new hires and common practices actually filtering out the *best* potential employees. I've seen this from both sides of the table many times.

@phesterful

2 жыл бұрын

Those are often combined with interviews to find "cultural fit". There is sooo much wrong with that phrase. Including that it often directly filters out people with different backgrounds unrelated to the job requirements. It's not very surprising to many people that the result is a lot of dudes who look nearly identical, especially in demographics compared to even the rest of the industry. A company is quite literally saying they are incapable of handling cultural diversity. They are including *everything* possible about "culture" (and sub-culture), whether HR means to or not. Frankly, with years of experience... I don't think that's unintentional.

I used to run my high school's public speaking club and the piece of advice that was spread around the most was "play to win, not to avoid losing". If your attitude is not to mess up, you'll be preoccupied with a thought that can lead you to doing the exact opposite. It takes time and practice to build confidence but it's an attitude that can help when you're afraid about an interview, presentation, etc.

@destroyerinazuma96

2 жыл бұрын

This can expose underlying problems. Let's say your parents forced you to come to an interview and you don't see getting the job as a "win", but you also think you'll be a failure if you don't get it. It's a lose-lose situation. That can tell you it's time to rethink everything and maybe even tell your parents you don't want that one job and you want to think about what you want, not what they want.

@shaereub4450

Жыл бұрын

​@@destroyerinazuma96true but even then you can use it as an opportunity to test your speaking/interview skills. If you don't want the job, use the interview to test your speaking/interview skills, and then decline the job later.

Well one problem is: you want a job so you don’t land on the street. And if you have to do many many interviews or don’t even get invited to many interviews, then any interview you DO get has really high stakes. Because it feels like your livelihood depends on the success. That’s not nothing. It’s actually a good reason to be anxious. So what Dr. K describes shouldn’t take away your anxiety, it’s okay to be anxious. But its simply a better strategy to be less occupied with yourself and instead focus on the thing itself (the company, the problem to solve, your interview partner etc), so your chance for a positive outcome is just higher. It’s quite pragmatic

Going into a job interview, it's best to think of it like a blind date- it's between two equal parties. As much as "the job" is looking for the right fit for that position, you are also looking to see of the job is a good fit for you. Ask about work culture. Ask about benefits. Ask about retention. And whether people who leave the company come back. They want your expertise and are willing to pay for it. You want the job and are willing to work for it. It's a win win. No need to stress.

What I dislike the most is the scrutiny, being judged, stripped down of all my personal data, and being treated like they doing me a favor.

@AllTheArtsy

2 жыл бұрын

But it's only you that feel that. They're not necessarily doing that. Think of it the other way if you want. You are deigning to give them the time for an interview. Job interviews should be stressfree. If you were called back, you already meet the requirement. Now it's just to see if you fit the work culture and the team vibe or not.

@gnarthdarkanen7464

2 жыл бұрын

Places like that tend to have high "turnover"... SO some jobs are "just stepping stone jobs"... Meaning they pay the bills for the time being, but DO NOT STOP LOOKING... Keep improving yourself and your odds of landing a better job somewhere (anywhere?) else... AND keep on putting yourself out there. Take the personal days carefully, but take them... AND use them strategically. When they don't get you into a workshop or class for some skill you need or want to refine, then they should be to get another interview at a place you'd rather be working... At the very least, you can find out how you might qualify better for the next time around... OR that you don't want to work that place as much as you maybe originally thought... BUT don't let it tear you down... Whenever I was hired by someone who acted like they were doing me a favor, I found out in fairly short order that they were a self-destructive mess and they struggled to keep people. I was actually (usually) doing them a favor just sticking to the job at least half the time... AND it wasn't difficult to "put them in a lurch" when I left for greener pastures... More than once I've had a boss chase me out the back door on the day I walked in and told them I was done... and they were suddenly BEGGING me not to screw them like that. I never gave the current place I was working as a reference without the understanding that my current boss had no idea I was even out looking for a job at the time... You can call it a "request for discretion"... BUT I also never shirked the idea of looking to better positions or pay when a boss found out I was interviewing, either. "Yeah," I'd shrug. "It's a shitty place to work being run into the ground by a shitty little bastard too scared shitless to treat his employees like respectable people. Of course I'm working on getting the hell out of here! Anyone with half a firing brain-cell is working to get the hell out of here. If not, they need professional help!" ...AND I've accepted the chips as they fell... figuratively speaking. ;o)

@RTB1400

2 жыл бұрын

@@AllTheArtsy Depends on the industry. OP nailed it for some areas like investment banking and some higher education (MBAs, med school, etc)

@Nightjewel-rp1bl

2 жыл бұрын

Different places make different job interviews, usually shitty places makes awful job interviews (no always but most of the time) and polite and normal job interviews can lead to more healthy job enviorments, like on the previous replies try to find a better place if you end up in a place that is harmful to your mental well being

@Candyy248

10 ай бұрын

Job interviews are just pointless and it does not rly prove if you are the best for the job or not 😴

One interview advice that I got is "Don't just mention what skills and experiences you have, but also how you can apply these skills to the job position". You have to convince the interviewer that you can learn and solve their problems. This is how I got a job as an Oracle Database Administrator while having no experience in the database side of things. They were very convinced that I was willing to learn and grow and decided to invest in me.

This is so true. Take yourself out of the equation. Don't mistake being nervous for anxiety. Being nervous makes you alert, helping you perform your best. Also recognize the difference between being prepared and being knowledgable. You HAVE to be prepared to give a speech or presentation, but being knowledgable is what will make it good. Having the actual knowledge to back it up will give YOU confidence, and you will not be bound 100% by your script or slides. Then you can focus on TELLING THE AUDIENCE SOME COOL STUFF. Also we don't have to pretend all presentations actually have value, especially in school. Sometimes they are just throwaway assignments. You can't be knowledgable about everything, but a prepared presentation is still good. Don't focus on the details. Give the MOST barebone information you can, and imagine you're giving it to a child. Just go up there and explain the simple thing and enjoy being nervous. There are people who CHASE fear like maniacs, so it's not entirely wrong to get enjoy some nervosity.

@whatsnew955

2 жыл бұрын

Really good advice! Thanks mate

@MiketheNerdRanger

2 жыл бұрын

How do you take yourself out of the equation when you're the one doing it?

@gnarthdarkanen7464

2 жыл бұрын

@@MiketheNerdRanger It's ALL about the thing you're doing, NOT you... Look, I've ridden something on two wheels almost as long as I've been able to walk... Even longer, if you count my parents bundling me into a back-pack for night rides on my father's bike to get me to SHUT UP AND GO TO FRIGGIN' SLEEP... as an infant. (Lolz... I'm probably screwed up because my mom rode pregnant with me)... That said, I've been over hundreds of thousands (possibly millions) of miles in dozens of countries. I've ridden bikes that had no business in the terrain I was in, and only ever changed wheels to suit... and go. SO there probably isn't a lot about the actual physical riding (the "doing part") that I don't have a solid understanding about... BUT I'll still click on a "Riding Instructional Video"... I still like to get someone else's perspective on how motorcycles work, what the current thinking is, what new drill(s) might add to my skill-set... whatever. It doesn't matter that I've been "street legal" for 30 years, compared to the maybe half a decade of some teen or twenty-something floating head or hands on handlebars on the screen. It's about the sport, itself... The art of trail braking or Out-In-Out turning... or which lane position might be the "best default" for 90% of traffic in whatever country... I'll still click, AND I'll still watch the whole way through before I decide whether or not to hit the like button, and whether I might add something to some conversation in the Comments... SO in your mind, eliminate yourself. It's just NOT about you doing the thing. It's only the thing ITSELF that matters. It could be a computer generated speech algorithm and you could train a monkey to do all the hand-waving and semantics part... the gestures and facial whatevers... while the robot voice gave the speech, and the results are basically the same... If you bring some actual knowledge to this "speaking engagement" it might help that you don't write out a fancy-ass script. Don't bother... JUST read up a bit to brush up on the current stuff the best you can, and scratch out the general "bullet points" you hope to cover in the time allotted... AND then a decent greeting and dismissal (ending... or what have you) and you can move on to the practice in front of the mirror, while you contemplate most of the likely questions... If it's something you've been passionate about, think back on the questions you might not have handled so well in the past and maybe jot down a few notes and rehearse for those questions... meditate on them a bit... see if you can refine your responses for them... You'll already have a pretty good idea of the kinds of things most often asked in "casual conversation" on your favorite subjects... SO run with those, and maybe add any research you've personally hoped to get done... as the time in preparation allows... BUT mainly, it's about remembering, even those of us who might be "well seasoned veterans" of whatever subject or hobby... WE came to SEE AND HEAR YOU, for YOUR express perspective. It's only about this thing you're presenting/talking about. ;o)

@luuhax

2 жыл бұрын

@@MiketheNerdRanger Like gnarth said we're assuming you have something to say. The audience is assuming you have something to tell them. That means the presentation is about the audience recieving the thing that you can tell them. Yes, you're the one giving it. But if you're dressed up well, showered and cleaned, have you not already prepared "yourself" for the presentation? The problem most run in to is presenting to people they think don't care. "They don't care about what i have to say". You. Don't. Know. That. It's your job to assume there might be SOMEONE in there, that can take a GRAIN of what you say and learn from it. That way you single in on your purpose, to get the knowledge across to someone who might care. At the same time that helps with the anxiety of talking to people who don't care what you say. But make sure you know the difference between anxiety and being nervous. Don't whimp out, because you're going to be nervous, for the rest of your life. It's WHAT WE DO. But the anxiety of speaking to people that don't care about you or what you have to say, that's something you deal with BEFORE the presentation. You don't have to do both at the same time. You do that by thinking about the reason you're doing it --> To get the knowledge across to someone who might care. When you've made up your mind to do the presentation, don't get it twisted: Anxiety already got beat, you did it. Now you're nervous, and that's FINE. Go out there and be nervous.

@phesterful

2 жыл бұрын

WTF is the diff between "nervous" and "anxious"?

I think I might be getting it. Shifting the focus from me to others isn’t just about ethics or kindness or compassion. There is a cognitive and emotional advantage to me.

@ashleybursch2804

2 жыл бұрын

that's a great way to put it. thanks for commenting this.

Honestly what really helped me begin to succeed in interviews is to try and get along with the interviewers - they want someone they will enioy seeing everyday, be positive and friendly, make casual conversation and it will go a long way

As an employer, when I’m asking people about their previous jobs, yes applicable experience is a big deal but also just being able to tell me a lot about the specifics of the job. Like, if your only experience is working at a fast food place, but you can tell me all these detailed things about the process, the equipment, responsibilities, etc, that shows that you learned a lot while you were there and retained that info. It shows that you’re bright and passionate and like to learn. Sometimes when I’m interviewing people, it feels like they’re hesitant & insecure to talk about those “low tier” jobs. Don’t be ashamed about it, we’re asking because we want to know! Talk to us about the things you did and learned there, what you liked about the job; don’t just try to relate everything to the job you’re trying to get, yes do that, but also just tell us about what interested you

@orcishh

2 жыл бұрын

Good info. I'm 19 and haven't started college yet, but I've worked in fast food for a year and a half. I planned on starting this semester and going into computer science, but got a surprise promotion to supervisor haha. I know its still fast food, but is the added responsibility of managing other people a plus when looking for employees? Thank you :)

@championsanchez1683

2 жыл бұрын

@@orcishh for sure, and it’s a good sign when you move up in whatever place you’re working

@4xzx4

2 жыл бұрын

Most people take "low tier" jobs just for the money and the fact that they've got no other choice. In interviews you can't say that however, and need to "come up with an excuse" (or bs:ing your way) for why they "liked" or picked the previous job they had.

@wlink639

2 жыл бұрын

Nothing interested me, it was a shit tier job. I worked them because I was/am depressed and can't control my life. I feel like I just can't be honest in interviews.

@lalakuma9

2 жыл бұрын

But I hate it when interviewers ask trick questions, where they ask about one thing but actually want to hear about something else that doesn't sound related to the question they asked. That goes against everything I know about good and clear communication. People shouldn't expect others to read their minds, that creates the power dynamics where the employers are wishy washy but feel entitled.

The "you have something to offer" part is also a decent way to approach a first date in my opinion, which is another type of interview in a way. You have something to offer. Don't try to convince the person to date you. Genuinely put yourself out there, and let them decide.

Letting the public have access to lectures from someone as brilliant as Dr. K who most people would never be able to meet IRL is such a wonderful thing. ❤️ Amazing

Interviews have been the bane of my existence for so long. I always undervalue myself and make everything personal. Needed to hear these words.

I would sum up what you said as “be yourself and see what happens”. I think people’s lack of self esteem is giving them the idea they have to mold themselves into something they are not in order to get what they want. I believe that by being yourself you will attract people and opportunities that suit you more and appreciate who you are and what you have to offer.

@mattb7847

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks bro I screenshotted this

@AgentMoler

2 жыл бұрын

@@mattb7847 glad it was helpful! I’m a therapist and developing new theories and approaches to help people with low self esteem. It’s so common and robs people of engaging in life and growth.

@joshparker5779

2 жыл бұрын

"Be yourself and see what happens" sounds very passive to me. I know that's probably not what you intended. How would you sum it up in other words?

@AgentMoler

2 жыл бұрын

@@joshparker5779 actually it’s not passive at all since many people are scared to be themselves because of fear of judgment which makes them calibrate their behavior to do what is EXPECTED/DESIRED and not exactly what they WANT.

@elyaequestus1409

2 жыл бұрын

​@@AgentMoler This is very true. I am fem/autistic and I grew up in an extremely judgemental village. Everything was judged, scrutinized and all this judgement was all said outloud. My family life was rocky as all hell and somewhere I picked up the notion that it was *my* fault that I was unable to cope. *I* was incompetent. My bullies said that "She had fleas", suggesting I could also no have them. They made gestures of 'killing the fleas', making me feel like I had to be fixed. And that *I* had to prove my competence. At work, at school, at interviews, etc. It left me severely disconnected to the world around me. No wonder I did countless interviews and no-one hired me. I was only busy with being competent while they were dealing with their own problems. With EMDR this connection was stripped and I can now see that. Hey. It wasnt *my* fault, it wasnt that *I* was incomptent, I struggled a bunch due to my background, autism and that I had different ideas about the world then my classmates had. Accepting these differences and the fact that they were cruel + judgemental is one hell of a trip.

Former national debate champion. Great video. Dr K is on point. You almost certainly know something your audience doesn't, be excited that you get to tell them about it! My biggest tip for any speech/interview is also, understand your audience. Figure out what they're expecting you to talk about. That might mean going through their social media, talking with them beforehand, or figuring it out on the fly by watching how they're reacting to what you're saying. But, as Dr K says, if you get stuck in your own head, that's when you lose the audience. You have to understand them, and what they need. You have to empathise. I'll never forget, at my first job, we were developing a small educational game for young kids. The client comes in and my boss was trying to explain to him how the game works. And the client keeps saying to him that he only knows about FIFA because that's what his children play. I'm standing there thinking, this guy is making it so easy, he's literally told us exactly how to explain things to him. All you have to do is explain everything in terms of FIFA. Use FIFIA analogies. Talk about features in FIFA that our game has as well. etc. But my boss couldn't. He just kept going on with the points he had prepared beforehand. And the client is sitting there and has no idea what he's talking about. It was excruciating to watch. This happens all the time. People tell you exactly how they understand the world. They tell you the language that they understand. Use that information! Explain things to them in their own terms! Literally even just using the same words that someone else uses will make them like you immediately.

I literally just went for a job interview. I can't wait to see everything I've done wrong haha

@nandishsenpai4646

2 жыл бұрын

I hope you get selected! If not, learn from your mistakes and do better the next time!

@Lazo4200

2 жыл бұрын

Same bro lmao

@kigamezero8636

2 жыл бұрын

Hope you get the job!!

@itachioftheleaf5580

2 жыл бұрын

Tell us if you got the job

@crimsonmustang8026

2 жыл бұрын

I will have an interview tomorrow. I have to watch this before going to sleep.

I find asking good questions shows you are interested and can think beyond basic job duties. Be interested in the company and be personable, it goes a long way.

Dr. K: "I have very little to no formal training in giving speeches" Dr. K: Proceeds to make a 450th+ video to an audience of 900k+ subscribers and plenty of twitch viewers without a script.

@MiketheNerdRanger

2 жыл бұрын

Still not formal training. He just does it a lot.

@ClassyJohn

2 жыл бұрын

@@MiketheNerdRanger actually, hes a good storyteller so that naturally makes him a good presenter.

@jaedongovich7110

2 жыл бұрын

The best training for ANYTHING is just doing it alot.

I have an interview in an hour this is such perfect timing

@MrBUTTMAN17

2 жыл бұрын

ez money

@BlaximilianD00d

2 жыл бұрын

Good luck and stay focused.

@beyond6202

2 жыл бұрын

Same. Night shift at Asda 😂 this video and the comments around the topic really help

This would have been so useful to me 15+ years ago in high school Every year, we had to perform a poem or something for English class, and I always failed them because I pretty much just forget everything and freeze the second its my turn at the front of the classroom. That said, better late than never. I can still use this for when I want to switch jobs lol

THIS IS GOLD! THIS CAN BE APPLIED TO SO MANY THINGS! Such an easy shift of focus...you go from talking to a person of authority to ...telling a friend about what you got without caring if they like it or not. You just share to see if the idea is compatible with them. Amazing.

I used to do hiring for my former company, and was part of the interview process of hiring new software developers for entry level positions. At least for me, I was mainly just looking at whether we would like working with them and secondly getting a feel for how they deal with problems. To be honest, most people who we were interested in enough to interview had great resumes and we were already 90% confident that we would like to have them. But we typically get a roster of 3ish interviewees per position, and we have to make tough choices. (Interviewees reject our offer sometimes too!) So definitely don't be disappointed if you don't get an offer. If you get a lot of interviews, but no offers, I would evaluate the way you do your interviews. I would bet there's something obvious that is disqualifying you from offers. We had one guy who came in and was really funny and talented, but he went on a story about how he got fired from a previous job for going to work drunk. Don't tell that story at a job interview! O.o Since we hired engineers, we would usually have a technical interview portion where we would have our interviewees solve a few problems. Occasionally, we would have people who would just freeze up and say "I don't know" to all the technical questions. Unfortunately, that usually let other interviewees get hired over them. But it's definitely okay if you don't know how to do things or even if you solve it wrong. We're more interested in seeing whether you were able to identify an approach to solve the problem and we definitely didn't mind helping you if you ask us questions. Literally none of our hires answered every technical problem perfectly. I didn't either, when I got hired.

@awawa5594

Жыл бұрын

Do you have any examples of the technical questions/problems you use? I've got a job interview coming up soon and I'm mostly scared about the technical portion because I have bad social anxiety so I feel like I can't actually "think" around people in situations like that? So if they want me to try problem solve on the spot I'm probably going to just blank and freeze up which sucks because I'm good at what I do, but I need the space to actually think it over and preferably provide it through written communication 🥺

As a person who has hired around 75 people mostly entry level positions, just arrive on time well dressed, and behave in a way that shows you have a positive attitude and a good work ethic. We called you back because we are interested in you, the interview is really yours to screw up. If the interviewer asks why you want to work at the company answer by saying I can provide XYZ skills that I believe will make me a value member of your team. Have a couple of questions such as what are the characteristics of successful people in this position, and end by asking what the next steps are. I'm amazed at just how low the bar has to be for employees because people have bad attitudes, don't show up on time, and can't be trained because they can't admit their wrong. The advice here also applies to dating. Just discuss honestly what's on your mind and the outcome doesn't matter. It's really important to have faith that there are opportunities for you and you will succeed, it may take alot of attempts and time but it will eventually turn out well for you. There are very few make or break moments I life, you can always recover from mistakes.

@AnymMusic

2 жыл бұрын

let's be real here, job interviews are just a testament to how well you can lie or not. why do I want this job? well I like the house I live in and want to keep it that way thank you. if it's not for money there's no way in hell I'd apply for any job

@nbonasoro

2 жыл бұрын

@@AnymMusic Lying is not a long term successful strategy. If you want a relationship to get laid and you lie because the other person wants something different out of the relationship at some point the truth comes out and the relationship implodes. If your waiter came up and said if you don't tip I'm spitting in your food they may be honest but will you have an enjoyable interaction? The same comes with employers. The interviewer is a human too they know you need cash. They need to feel like they can work with you day to day and when asked to justify their decision they need to be able to point to something you said in the interview that made you seem like a good candidate. If the company wants someone with 3 years experience in excel but you know you have knowledge of excel and can learn what you need to do on the job then lie alot of the requirements are BS.

@kiss-shotacerola-orionhear220

2 жыл бұрын

If i wd say what is on my mind i wd end up in jail in my country.

@johnmickey5017

2 жыл бұрын

@@AnymMusic you picked this job over other options to interview. It’s not like the interviewer is doing it for the lulz and you aren’t. That’s like saying “I picked this dinner option because if I didn’t eat I’d die.” That’s true but it’s the starting point that everyone is agreeing on.

@AnymMusic

2 жыл бұрын

@@johnmickey5017 aight. "This place seems like it doesn't make me go insane, and money." My point still stands, if there was no money involved, you wouldn't find me getting a job at all. I don't do it for the connections, or the opportunities, I work a "normal" job for the money in the hopes to eventually do music as a job.

man... Dr K... I literally have an interview and this video calmed my nerves a lot. Thank you for everything you do. I wish I can speak with you 1 on 1

This honestly helped me think differently of social interactions, not the place i thought but thank you for the words man, you're doing a lovely job

My approach to job interviews designates the interviewer as a client. I guess it is my comfort zone after pitching in a startup marketing agency environment for several years. A year ago I joined a company as an employee and dealt with toxic office politics using this setup. Toxic colleagues? They’re the clients employees, treat them professionally and deny them the right to close distance which would give them the opportunity to express their toxicity. Required to work overtime? Okay, note the hours down, seal it on with a formal email and, when I need it, inform about my leave to make up for those hours. Since I freelance, I have no job security tab hanging over my head, or as far ad they are aware, so it worked really well and every encounter with the toxic leadership turned out in my favour. Dr. K says that one should let go of ego, but I guess I come from different worlds and negotiation IS ALL ABOUT you. And them. It may be a trick you may pull on yourself to make you more comfortable at an interview, but one too many of these tricks and you’re in a bad mindset to negotiate for your own good.

I think the attitude of detachment toward a job would be greatly improved if we all had universal basic income. We would not have to worry about not getting the job.

@inplane9970

2 жыл бұрын

Very true. For most people, getting the jobs means whether or not they will be homeless for the next few months. With an omen like that looming over their head, it's difficult to just "be confident" when the time comes to get that job.

@punoko6062

2 жыл бұрын

okay but then everyone wouldnt give 2 shits about their attitude towards the job

@orcishh

2 жыл бұрын

@@punoko6062 True, nobody would work if they were paid not to.

@TAKEYOURCREATINE

2 жыл бұрын

@@orcishh this is just objectively false.

@Daniel_WR_Hart

2 жыл бұрын

@@punoko6062 Only if the UBI was too high

I’m literally about to start the interview process with the phone call tomorrow and the hopeful in-person interview soon after. This was perfect timing!

This is such a brilliant and well articulated take on this. Love your work, Dr. K 🙏 Thank you

Top-tier video HeathyGamerGG. It was very informative, to the point, and covered a lot of social interactions you could come across in life. Thanks a ton for sharing this advice with us!

All my interviews have been "can you do the job?" All you have to say is "I can do the job" After that it's usually just chatting and then you get an offer.

He's so right. The "me, me, me" culture in the US has become so detrimental to the psyche of young folks (and plenty of older folks but they have has a chance at life experience changing their mentality). Walk into a job interview with the goal of offering your skills to THEM for THEIR benefit. Walk into a speech with the intent to offer your information to THOSE people. This is a massive view shift that we are never taught and have to learn on our own in the US. Maybe other countries are more prone to the service angle, but here it's a me, myself, and I culture first, and what can THEY do for ME. It makes me sad because we've lost so much good community among neighbors, coworkers, and peers over the past 4-5 decades.

@wcm4346

2 жыл бұрын

What the f*** are you on about? The reason people are thinking what can THEY do for ME is because 95% of employers are disgusting greedy lifesucking trash human beings not worthy of breathing oxygen. I'd rather put my d*** in a blender than think about what I can contribute to a company that doesn't give a single flying f*** about me. If you're interviewing me you are doing that because you liked something in my CV, if you decide to hire me I'll do my job because I have to that's it, I'm not wasting a second thinking about the job once my shift is over. I'll do me you do you, but don't expect people to care about trash corporations that take everything while giving nothing back. TL:DR; Just fu**ing pay me and shut up, nobody cares.

@LFanimes333

8 ай бұрын

Do people in the US actually go to a job interview and ask what the company can do for them…? As a Brazilian, that’s such an outrageous take lmao.

This motivated me to keep sending applications. I wouldn't mind meeting more publishers, but I have a lot of resistance whenever I set up encounters with people I don't know. I try my best to focus on the other party and not think about how awkward I might be, and usually conversations go well, but it's hard to enjoy conversing with a working professional when you aspire to reach where they're currently at. It's not jealousy, it's more like internalized self-deprecation.

Dr K always seems to put out the videos I need at any given time.

Working in healthcare, this is the mentality I come to work with every day. I gave examples of how I helped patients in the past, and how they smiled at me,

Oh man the first time I gave a mock lecture I failed hard on this. I knew they'd be judging the delivery. True. But I focused only on this and couldn't prep the information well. At the end I was so surprised the other profs were complimenting things they'd learned from it. An aspect I was totally detached from.

Beside the talk. Love your new studio setup! Lighting, background, sound. All very personal, inviting and professional at the same time.

Your videos seem to come at just the right time for every thing I think about! Thanks!

i didnt know something as simple as changing your goals could make a difference..thankyou for your vids

I add in "I'll occasionally say things to entertain myself (within reason, got to account for the type of audience)", which works out pretty well for me.

I always think about it as seeing if the company is a good fit for me, it's not a test at all but a meet and greet and a chance to talk about the work I've done and the work I'm excited about.

For me, being nervous in an interview is less about public speaking fear and more akin to test anxiety. This seems like it was advice more for overcoming nerves for public speaking, like making a pitch to your boss or speech for your class, rather than interviews (which are much closer to a test IMO). I usually find your videos very enlightening, but you might be ever so slightly off the mark here. Either way, I appreciate your work Dr.K! Cheers!

@Julie-qd5hk

2 жыл бұрын

as someone with this anxiety, both the public speaking fear and test anxiety come from the root cause...fear. because of how you perform. test performance similar to how to act on stage, like giving a speech. both the same nerves, same anxiety and root cause.

@roswitha2466

2 жыл бұрын

I'm interviewing candidates for an open position at my company right now. It's like Dr. K says: It's not (solely) about the candidates. It's like matchmaking: They may be capable in many fields but what I'm searching for for the position may not match. The candidate may be a great salesperson, but I'm not searching for those qualities. So maybe just bear in mind, a rejection does not mean, that you are not capable and have a lot strenghts, it might mean, I think you may be bored as the job is not challenging enough for you.

@LIVEvil789

2 жыл бұрын

@@Julie-qd5hk Yeah, I can see how fear of failure could apply to pubic speaking for a lot of people. Personally, public speaking doesn't give me that problem, so it could just be I'm weird. I do get nervous, but I'm not afraid of looking like an idiot or that I'll mess up what I wanted to say, or something to that effect. Those things are all rooted in fear, but it may be the source of the fear is more relevant than that it IS fear. It seems to be from what you've told me and Dr. K's advice, it might be different for each person, dependent on our perspective of each situation. So, it would make sense then that you need different tools for different jobs, so to speak, and tackle different sources of fear differently. Nothing against Dr. K or the advice. PS. Sorry if this was long or confusing. Sometimes I find it difficult to organize my thoughts. Have a good day, eh!

What you said was really interesting - in my musical studies, I read in a book called The Art of Musicianship, a very similar concept - “Believing that you are playing on the stage at that moment because you are capable of doing it will result in a better performance.”

This came just in time.

@rutvikrs

2 жыл бұрын

Same here

@Guardianshrine

2 жыл бұрын

Good luck

@fingersonmyhand.7612

2 жыл бұрын

@@Guardianshrine thanks friendo

@caseybowman9017

2 жыл бұрын

SAME! I have my 2nd apple retail interview today. Good luck y’all :)) you’ve prepared for this moment and you are where you are for a reason. It’s time to shine :)

I like the new intro style with the epic music and stuff 🌈

Thanks Dr. K. The path of contemplation is a harsh one but your videos are a humble guide

I like the format of showing bits of the video at the start to let the people know what they are in for. A lot of people think very self centered, but since we are mostly like that, occupied with our own lives and thoughts, it is highly likely that our worries for how others, especially strangers, perceive ourselves are highly exaggerated or far less imporant than we believe. In an application process, I think that the company will only focus about getting a candidate with appropriate skill and perhaps company culture fit. If you are a bit awkward during the interview process or have a weak performance, but are otherwise trying to act professionally, nothing bad will happen, you just won't get the job and that's it. But always try to go for it if it is a job you can imagine working for/job you wanna do.

OMG this is exactly what I needed to hear!! Thank you, Dr K!!!

I desperately needed this. Thank you Dr. K

The timing of these videos are insane, really needed this

Editors really giving us some awesome starter clips to wait for holysmokes well done!

A lot of this was very helpful, thanks for sharing. I'm looking for a job right now, and will likely put some of this into practice in the next few days. As a programmer, I'm fully aware that using a skill is even more essential to learning it than merely reading / hearing about it. I'm also neurodivergent (adhd + autism), and that often presents as clear adhd + some social anxiety (often straight-up social phobia). I have experience public speaking on college and high school debate teams (national circuits), and from work... including seriously bombing some speeches. Both from social anxiety and from not being able to communicate technical skills due to lacking them... to simply not communicating well. Among peers who've given speeches, I can laugh, because I know social anxiety and performance anxiety (stage fright) is extremely common among very gifted speakers and performers. My perception of my own anxiety is often (not always) that I'm focused on others and do not understand their perspective. I may have trouble recognizing their understanding or their nonverbal feedback (see above: neurodivergent). I often have little perception of my own anxiety until after others react to my symptoms that they find disturbing or very distracting. That happens most frequently when I have lingering doubts about my technical expertise (real or imagined), the stakes for a conversation are high (as in senior management, regardless of expertise), or I'm including opinions that people I respect might quickly disagree with. When that type of situation hits, I am not at all focused on myself. I am strongly dissociated, from my perspective. That fits well in-line with problems I have recognizing depression until I have clear physical symptoms. Any new ideas about that? I should add that I often find your videos helpful if I make myself sit through at least the first few minutes. I've often said "oh that's not at all my perspective and Dr. K doesn't relate to how I think", while many of your later descriptions about how social interactions work are still extremely useful (again, see above about being autistic and frequently socially blind). Thanks for making the world a better place and spreading compassion.

@phesterful

2 жыл бұрын

oh, for others who may interact with neurodivergents... I need time to process communication. That's often not anxiety itself, but reactions to my need for that time (impatience) can make my social anxiety skyrocket because it's *then* that I'm suddenly self-focused, and that new focus on myself is very distracting. So add some compassion even if you're impatient, gamer folks. More never hurts.

I’ve been both employee and employer and this is the best interview advice I’ve heard

I had an interview recently where I had the list of questions they asked last time and was super comfortable with the ones I read and prepped for. But then they started mixing them up and, my god…at least I can say though, this video has helped a lot! 😅

I am glad you've got a professional doing the video editing, it feels like there was a recent upgrade.

When you’re socially anxious, focus on the THING ITSELF instead of on yourself. The content of your presentation, the problem you’re solving, the thoughts you’re sharing or someone is sharing. The content of those things. Being socially anxious is having too much investment in your ego. People don’t like if you’re just occupied with your ego, which makes social anxiety kind of self fulfilling

I have two job interviews in the next two days…perfect timing Dr. K thank you!

@penguin9588

2 жыл бұрын

Praying for your success!

I really love your videos, they are interesting, especially if they are shorter because I can stay more focused.

This could not come out at a better time. I have a debate in 2 days and I'm terrified, thank you

I try to think of job interviews as a date after knowing that you have piqued their interest. Now it's just about figuring out if it's a good match for both people. They need to like me, but I also need to like them.

whoa this is a completely new perspective 😮 Awesome 😃👍

I used to be so worried about this. I think my mom and dad coaxing me into wearing a tacky dress pants and dress shirt with dress shoes to an interview for a freaking food server job at a basic restaurant really scarred me lol

@Daniel_WR_Hart

2 жыл бұрын

Same, but it was Subway and I was 14

@_DMNO_

2 жыл бұрын

Scarred because your parents wanted you to put on nice clothes? Yikes.

@Daniel_WR_Hart

2 жыл бұрын

@@_DMNO_ That's definitely not what he said

@_DMNO_

2 жыл бұрын

@@Daniel_WR_Hart it is. you can read right?

@beyond6202

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, a t-shirt paired up with jeans and presentable shoes is the way to go. I learned that the hard way by looking like an extra in The Office for my first few interviews

Its most important to remember the mission and not the logistics. Even the least articulate people, if they talk about something they know about, are confident in, or are passionate about, the reception will always be good, even if its sloppy.

I am extremely socially anxious (the puking before a date and then cancelling out of panic type of socially anxious). I have also coached public speakers to speak more easily in front of crowds. Speaking in front of a crowd is like a conversation you don't really want to evolve into a conversation. You wanna keep it a monologue as much as possible because that's the part you inherently control. Your ability to deliver lines is linked to how you can get to deliver them with fluidity in front of a mirror. As Dr. K says, you are there to share with people about a given subject. Be clear in your mind about what that subject is and steer any question towards that subject so that is what people talk about. When speaking publicly, there's an ironical dimension. You are not there to showcase yourself, that's what makes it less pressuring for me. You are there to showcase a subject. You offer a better comprehension of that subject, or your thoughts on that subject. Other than that, as long as you have a clear structure, it will always go well because you'll stay focused on the reason you are there to talk about. Personal conversations are what I struggle with. I can't seem to find why an interaction occurs because there is no inherent reason and my brain needs a reason. For those who are anxious about talking publicly and okay with personal conversations, rest easy. You'll interact with individual people more than you speak publicly. Y'all are intelligent enough to nail it the few times you'll get asked to talk about what you know in front of other people.

@podchicane571

10 ай бұрын

Also, for young people, it's normal not to feel confident during school presentations. You're asked to talk about a subject you do not know well. Speaking about a subject you actually know and wanna talk about plays a lot into the performance. It's easier to talk for a long time about things we know and like than it is to talk about stuff we don't know and don't care about. Work on your passions, try to see ways to make them profitable if you can and then you'll feel comfortable talking in front of any crowd that invites you or that you invite.

I’ve got an interview tomorrow so this is pretty spooky timing! This is great advice that I’m definitely gonna keep in mind!

@jujujoestar9882

2 жыл бұрын

How did it went?

I'm preparing for an interview soon so the timing of this vid couldnt have been any better.💚💚

I interview for jobs a lot, and I'm very good at talking to new groups of people. I usually have great ideas or even know inside stuff within their industry. Like when I explain my management style, they seem to love it. But then, they don't hire me. I always get this feeling that they're just smiling, nodding and responding positively because they're just being polite. They can end the interview whenever they want if they hate me, so why can't I get a job?! I have years of experience in doing exactly the thing they are doing and want me to do. I know I must be doing something wrong, but I don't know what it is. I've been out of work for a long time, I am running out of money.

I subconsciously knew this. I had no problems getting a job but once I was on the job I'd always mess that up and get shut down by self-inflicted pressure

Perfect timing

I needed this dr. K

Some weird part of social situations is like at least in loud places my brain is like “I’m not having fun” because noises stress me out. But I also don’t wanna leave and make other people feel bad or question what my problem is. Lol.

just came from a job interview and then saw this. They called me and said im in. Dr k doing some magic here

Dr. K you mind reader. I literally have an interview in a few hours.

@clocktower5894

2 жыл бұрын

Here for update. Hope it went well

This was SO helpful! 🎉

I'm starting to be a dungeon master and this 100% fits, thank you so much

I can't wait for someone to make a video of K talking to K for group setting saying you can learn the important stuff when you see yourself in what other people are doing.

Listening to this on my way to a job interview

Thank you for this video.

The fact this video got recommended to me just a few hours after I got accepted for a job interview 💀

This is so true. I am the type of person always think too much before doing something or saying something😂. Really learn a lot in this video👍

I just stopped caring and treated like I'm a mercenary. I either get a job or I don't. There are always ways of making money. Since I change to that outlook I've never not gotten a job and I've left jobs whenever I felt like it.

I think my problem is that I think too much of what the interviewer might want to hear, but that tends to lead me into faking being an ambitious workaholic who is willing to drink the Kool Aid, which is the complete opposite of who I am as a person. I think it's really helpful to think of job interviews as offering information about myself and my skills, and letting people take it or leave it. I've had a really bad time applying to jobs in the past, and I want to try approaching it in a new way now. Thanks Dr. K 👍

My experience with job interviews is it usually comes across like they are doing you a favor by giving you the time of day for an interview. They always have so many candidates etc that it just feels like I'm lucky to even be there so I don't really agree with his premise where they are looking for you. The nerves are from oh shit if I fuck even the tiniest thing up one of the other 50 candidates probably won't

@mk-ii4jy

2 жыл бұрын

Yeahhhh, I get anxious not knowing when and how many interviews I will get while they have many people to interview

@Halex_Gaming

2 жыл бұрын

I don't think they are 'looking for you' per se. He's saying that they're looking for someone to fill their role. This may or may not be you, but you're much more likely to shoot yourself in the foot and fuck up by seeing things from your own perspective and wondering constantly whether you've performed well enough to deserve the job. If you're focussing on just showing who you are, rather than the outcome of getting the job or not, it not only saves you a lot of stress but also is likely to make you perform better because you won't be so in your head about whether they like it or not.

@laven_durr

2 жыл бұрын

As a hiring manager, my experience interviewing canidates is mostly to scope out their personality and see if it will fit with the culture of the company and other employees. Of course I want to see if I can get a sense of work ethic and what experience they have, but the largest factor by far is personality. Is this person easy to communicate with? Level-headed? Reasonable? Willing to listen? Follow rules and instructions? Would they be enjoyable to work with on a daily basis? I agree with his premise that they are looking for you, and you're interviewing because they already see a fit based off your resume and just need to uncover more about your character. 90% of the time when I didnt give someone a job offer is because I knew that either them or my employees (or both) would be unhappy working with each other. Or that the canidate wouldn't like how the company runs based off answers to questions like, "what do you look for in a manager"

Good luck to everyone who has a job interview 👏🏽🥳

@OfficialCANVAS

2 жыл бұрын

thanks!

@amusiclover7340

2 жыл бұрын

@Canvas Deep breath and do your best and get that bread 🍞

Funnily enough, the interview is the easy part. It's the negotiating which comes after that takes some nerve.

Perfect timing, adhd brain here, have an interview later today 🙏🙏🙏

Offering 2 helpful tips that have always helped me (mostly interview tips cuz a speech is pre-written most of the time) 1. If you feel like you're saying "umm" too much slowly transition and shut up. They don't need to hear you thinking about your answer. 2. At the end of every interview mist people ask if you have any questions, there should always be one as the interviewee ask "was there any questions you'd like to ask me so i can clarify?" 🤷🏾‍♂️ if you did say something confusing or distressing to the employer it's your opportunity to do damage control or explain in depth.

@Fincayra15

2 жыл бұрын

@Wolfy 5Svn I like your second tip a lot. I’ve noticed what I thought was confusion but I wasn’t sure how to bring it up without making them more confused, or revealing that I mistook their “listening face” for confusion

@Fincayra15

2 жыл бұрын

@Wolfy 5Svn from your first tip, could you explain what you mean by ‘slowly transition’? Do you mean transition from saying “umm” to silently thinking about the answer?

Ah if only I had seen this before my interview last week. It would've really helped with my nerves. Staked too much of myself on it 😮‍💨

For giving a speech and thinking one may mess up, I think one idea is that this seems to be a form of binary thinking, either one messed up or one didn't, when it's really more of a spectrum of skill. That doesn't even talk about more fundamental questions, such as is it a good business strategy to only hire people who are successful who fear failure, rather that desire success and noting that growth means going into places that one isn't as skilled as and failure is much more typical. Then, the issue with failure I see is really avoiding costly failures.

I'm in the middle of job hunting, this could not have come at a better time

Dr K is a great comedian.

This is an essential concept. However, don't skip the prep work. Prep, prep, prep, then use this concept.

Perfect advice imo.

Ima be honest I enjoy giving presentations because it is a free opportunity to info dump on people. And I love info dumping. In addition, I understand how rare it is to get such a chance so I am always full of energy and tries my best to make it fun and interesting for others. It might just be me but it really is heaven for me.

Notes from video for self This is what I can do for you if they don't like it, that's fine. your choice to accept it or not this is what i can do orient your mindset to one of service -- you're offering your services: skills, personality, potential don't think about the way you're presenting yourself and how you're being judged they are there for themselves, to hear and learn the information that you happen to have they want to hear what you have to say this is an opportunity to share enrich the lives of those around you it's not about you in social situations: balance between trying to have a good time yourself and paying attention to others and what they have to say noticing things in other people, and then noticing it in yourself and reflecting when you see it appear

Oh boy! I hope this means that job I applied for calls me back for an interview!

Dr K spittin str8 fax

Might help to change the title. I understand it references the post, but it seems to be more about public speaking than a job interview. Great stuff either way!

Hi Dr K do you think making some material regarding Highly Sensitive People would be interesting and helpful for the community?