after my dad being an alcoholic I now get unnecessarily angry when drunk people are even near me ;-;

@Jettchick

9 жыл бұрын

Mackenzie Ross I get scared when I see drunk males, especially the young ones when I'm in the city in the evening, it makes me cringe when I need to pass them ;/ I feel like they want to hurt me, it's even worse when they speak to me sometimes. Makes my life harder than it should be.

@Kazekage202

9 жыл бұрын

Basically the same here. Alcohol is the main reason why our relationship now is no where near good because I lost A LOT of respect for him. I grew up as a pretty angry child for reasons unknown to friends/classmates because I'm not the kind of person to talk about my problems. We (I'm a twin) were constantly picked on when he got drunk but I got most of it because he suspected I had something against him and I don't like agri-science (He wanted to plant a large garden when he was out of work. My brother did agri, I did business studies). I have no problems with friends drinking, but if you know you drink to get drunk, please don't come around me. I sometimes get an itch in my arm to swing at a drunk person (mainly because of him because again, never knew what he could've done when he was drunk.) Sorry for the essay, though. Haha.

@mackenzieross1837

9 жыл бұрын

naw its okay. yeah i totally i get it. when drunk people are around i want to hurt them i get so angry i cant even put it into words. accept my father i usually just waited for him to pass out ;-;

@TabzeeKat

9 жыл бұрын

Same here. It's difficult being in social situations.. solidarity.

@mackenzieross1837

9 жыл бұрын

yes it really is

Totally an inspiration. I feel Matt is one of the only people using youtubes potential to help people to its full capacity. Such a genuine, loving guy. Often encourages me to be a better person.

You're wise beyond your years Matt. I really appreciate the kind of work you do on your channel. The world needs more people like you. Thanks and keep on keeping on.

I understood what was going on around 11-12 years old and I’m a few weeks from being 31. Today is Father’s Day and it’s never meant anything to me it’s more depressing and makes me very pissed. Not long after I realized what he was I told my mom to get rid of him at 12-14 years old. Her dad was the same and she wouldn’t ever entertain that idea. She is a great person and the only one that I knew cared and loved me but still I had to deal with this dunk embarrassment and my mom and sister were just ok with it. I knew it was wrong without any outside influences. He drank everyday and blabbered on about god knows what without anyone listening both in public and home at restaurants when we were all together most of the time needing help out of the place. This seemed like it was normal and ok with my mom and sister and I was angry about it at a young age and still today on Father’s Day which means nothing to me. In 2013 my aunt had a birthday at a very upscale place where I had friends working and had to witness a small taste of what I lived with. By the end of it I was madder than you can ever imagine because I knew how he was going to act and embarrass everyone. My mom is a great person and never deserved any of it but still it seemed that it was ok. I beat the dogshit out of him 3 days later hoping it would erase 20 years of anger. After his shitty mangled face healed a few weeks later he went right back to being the same piece of shit. Now here in 2020 at almost 31 years old I’ve never been more depressed and angry that I’ve had to deal with this my whole life basically. I never want to talk to or see this dumbass again I won’t be at his funeral because it’s not fair at all that I’ve felt like this and my mom and sister turned their heads like it was ok that he is like this. I try to move on but it’s always there like a thorn in my ass. On top of that he’s always been racist. I hope my story helps somebody even if they haven’t been through as much and to know it could be worse. I try to stay busy and be happy but it’s hard to do. He has four brothers and a sister wife and daughter. Anyone of them could have tried but they didn’t. I’ll never regret beating his racist drunk ass and should have thrown a few more while he was knocked the fuck out he deserves it and still does to this day. God help me get through this and everyone else dealing with this bs

Thanks for this, Matt. I'm in a situation that isn't nearly as bad, but I can definitely take some things you said from this that I hadn't even considered.

From india good speech bro 😄 hug you from heart👍

I was in a very similar situation a few years ago. Dad was very overpowering and it hit the point of him eventually putting hands on me. He wanted to pay for college but like this situation, I knew he would just use it for leverage. Luckily, my parents were divorced so after I graduated high school I dropped out of college before it began and moved in with my mom. My dad still resents me for it and we don't talk anymore but i know it would have bean much worse if I let him pay for college. Separating myself from him has helped me grow as a person and learn who I am more than ever before. Now I'm applying to medical school and maybe some day when I'm on my own and supporting myself I can rekindle that relationship so I can learn why my dad is like that so I don't make the same mistakes. Matt you're a fountain of knowledge and this video reassured me that my decision was the right one. Thank you so much.

This hits close to home because when I was growing up my dad was extremely alcoholic and abusive. When I was 10 my mom finally got the courage to leave him. Once we were gone it was so much better. I love my dad but because of his behavior back then I try not to have much to do with him. I only see him when I have to at family crap. He's always offering to do stuff for me even though he doesn't have the money and I won't take it just because of the was he's always been.

My dad just came home after drinking and driving and started chewing me out for watching tv when he came home. Sure he has a good reason to kick me off but he just got very aggressive because I wanted to finish up. He started getting crazy and grabbed the tv and almost wanted fight me until I called my mom who I told right away everything that was happening. Obviously he got scared and tried playing it cool but mom already knew. He was acting exactly the way you were explaining your drunk dad. Now me and my mom are in the room letting him watch tv by himself self while my mom is crying to my sister on the phone. Feels tough

My Mum is an alcoholic. While I am in a totally different situation than this Lieberfriend (I am over 40 and my Mum isn't violent) I understand how you must feel. It is so frustrating when people deny their problems. I worry about my Mum because of the harm she is doing to herself. She has already had a brain scan which shows damage, a neurologist has told her that she now has alcoholic dementia and will continue to get worse, she leaves doors open, stoves on, has trouble remembering things. The worse things in all this is not her denying there is a problem, it's that I have only a Brother in my family and he doesn't want to deal with it. Matt is right, don't accept your Dad's money because the interest he will want to charge is a lot harder to deal with than any lenders interest in the loan.

I was so confused by the unedited video. Nice to see this one! C:

I really wish the best for you lieberfriend

Hey Lieberfriend, I went through a similar situation when I was younger. My dad has Bi-Polar and at the time it wasn't diagnosed. For the first 15 years of my life he was abusive and cruel to my mom, younger brother, and myself both emotionally and physically but grew up thinking it was normal. while he wasn't an alcoholic, alcohol definitely made things worse. He would be angrier and easier to set off. It wasn't until my mom kicked him out of the house and getting him committed to the hospital for a while that things started to get better. After all of that, I didn't speak to him for 2 years. Like Matt said you can't make him go get help but it certainly sounds like he needs it. Have you talked to your mom about any of this? The safety of you and your mom is very important so if you can talk to anyone to help support you and get out of there would be the best thing I can think for you to do. I would definitely urge you not to wait to get out of there, as someone who has been through abuse it doesn't get better if you ignore it or let it happen, it only gets worse until someone is hurt way too much for it to be ignored or worse. If you see this and want to message me, please feel free. I would be more than willing to listen -Shaun

I'm dealing with the same situation, basically, minus the college thing.

I have an alcoholic dad and he is loving but he is there and then not. i would travel three hours to see him and then just sit on the couch and watch tv whilst he passed out we spent 10,000 pounds on him going to rehab and he said he stopped. he later came to my house and i thought he was drunk but he said it was his tablets. i later found out that he was drunk and told him to leave. i have now gotten back in touch with him and saw him this xmas. he kept telling me and family that he isnt drinking or doing any drugs i have now found out he is drinking sometimes and i dont know what to do, im so scared he will go down the same road again and i will end up devastated. its always on my mind and i dont know what to do. i cant monitor him due to the distance between us. he has been in hospital many times with seizers and other things. he has done lots of drugs in the past and im scared he will die soon. i dont know whether to ask him to stop completely or to just pretend i dont mind. im really worried, please help either through a video or just a reply. many thanks Ryan foster 16 uk

Thank you so much for this video

Great video!

I feel you

This got super real.

This is real to me

Me searching this while my dad i drunk rn 👁👄👁. Well I needed tips how to deal with him but oke

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