I believe that Gadd is genuine with what he's shown and told us. Do you agree or disagree and why?

@oliverdelgaram-nejad

27 күн бұрын

Annnnd I'm commenting once again (after you deleted my last comment) to alert your viewers to your lack of qualifications and the damage your channel does to those watching, especially the neurodivergent community. If you are neurodivergent, don't take what Logan says about body language to heart. There is no "correct" way to behave and there is no way to read body language in the way that Logan suggests. Nonverbal behaviour does not correspond directly to single units of meaning. They're highly context dependent and polysemous. Logan, if you ever want to address my comments let's jump on a call so I can dismantle you.

@YolandaHalfAlmonde

27 күн бұрын

​@@oliverdelgaram-nejad clickbait money over morals ig, he is like a charlatan for all the dumbos unaware of the obvious fact that most persons react differently and also that no person can really sense the microscopic differences we all share when expressing emotions. He is a clown

@phoenixxx6427

27 күн бұрын

Not on everything no

@amiakat

27 күн бұрын

@@oliverdelgaram-nejad doesn't he clarify that it is not 100% accurate and this is an observation BASED on a type of language that people read into? Different things go into reading body language, pretty certain he clarifies he doesn't know everything and gets things wrong. This subject is a passion for some and people are interested in reading body language. Can u dismantle me cus I'm confused at the aggro

@oliverdelgaram-nejad

27 күн бұрын

@@amiakat yeah, I'd gladly explain to you why Logan's approach is problematic. You're also talking to someone who's spent almost a decade studying what Logan claims to be an expert in. He has a few certificates from PEG and EIA. You can do these courses in a day, for a few hundred bucks. Logan is pretending to know what he's on about. This is why he doesn't accept any challenge to actually discuss his qualifications, experience, or knowledge.

I’m not sure how Fiona will sue Netflix and Gadd when no one but HERSELF has confirmed that Martha is based off of her.

@jaymes3554

26 күн бұрын

Lol

@Bansheae

26 күн бұрын

The duty of care of hiding her identity wasn't met. Also, there's no proof of incarceration. She has a defam case.

@kayemm1973

26 күн бұрын

She only came out as confirming being Martha after she was front page news when she was identified by others, her argument is that she didn't do what was portrayed in the series and that impacts her life.

@meganbecker

25 күн бұрын

@@Bansheae but he has stated that Martha was incarcerated for dramatic purposes to the fictional character, and that his stalker was not incarcerated.

@Bansheae

25 күн бұрын

The damage was done by saying this is a true story at the beginning of the show

That verbal stammer around the question about the things he did wrong 11:07 is IMO connected to his feelings of shame. Not everything in body behavior is solely related to honesty or dishonesty-there’s a whole host of other emotional processing going on when talking about such intensely vulnerable issues, especially in a public sphere. These are hard things to talk about one-on-one, let alone while being broadcasted. Admitting you played a part in your own victimization comes with a lot of shame, so it makes sense that there are “discordant” responses to a question that brings that up. That doesn’t make the response variation suspicious-it’s completely understandable.

@EmiliFaust

27 күн бұрын

Thank you for pointing this out! I also want to add that when he vocally stammers right at the start as well, being stalked can be traumatic and I live with C-PTSD as a result of domestic violence and stalking, certain topics will probably make me stutter and think more, especially if it brings back the traumatic memories.

@cultivatinggrace

27 күн бұрын

@@EmiliFaust you’re welcome! I also live with C-PTSD from chronic childhood abuse and while I’ve imagined writing about my story, I can’t imagine the stress I’d be feeling being interviewed on television about it. I’m sure I’d be expressing a lot of “discordant” behaviors solely related to the act of breaking that silence in extreme public.

@fairy6126

27 күн бұрын

yes totally agreed

@amiakat

26 күн бұрын

Yes babes!! Thank you for this comment 💜

@cctrio1769

22 күн бұрын

Yep, this is why this guy lacks in his behavior analysis videos, he studied the body and figured that’s all he would need to be good, no background in anything

I know this won't be a popular comment but as a survivor, parts of this video upset me. First of all, the title of the video suggests that there's a good possibility that Gadd is lying about everything. And saying the fact that Gadd affirmed he wasn't " fully innocent" in the situation is a marker of his authenticity...I get it I really do but but it feels like you're saying that all survivors must acknowledge how they fucked up and how their own actions contributed to their victimization in order to be believed. I know you're an expert in your field, and that's why I enjoy your content, but I think more care should be taken when discussing the credibility of someone who has shared their story of abuse, especially when the only conflicting account came from their alleged abuser. And that's all, I'm so sorry I'm not trying to be an asshole. ETA: The title of the video was different when I wrote this comment.

@user-lu8ue4ns4w

27 күн бұрын

You're not being an ahole. Your points and feelings are very valid. Some comments from this video and even from the viewers too can feel a bit like victim blaming. Maybe they're all lucky not to have had their own experiences, but as another victim of SA, I believe Gadd 🤷‍♀️

@girl.anachronism5639

27 күн бұрын

You shouldn’t apologize and you’re definitely not being an asshole. What you’re saying is valid and you have no reason to feel bad about voicing it.

@caseyw.6550

27 күн бұрын

Agreed!

@sophiemyers1035

27 күн бұрын

@@user-lu8ue4ns4w You're right- I've never commented on this channel before so I don't know the comment section culture and really didn't want to be harassed when I was already upset...I'm not actually sorry lol. Thank you for the validation :)

@irrittt

27 күн бұрын

Thanks for your comment. I truly admire Richard for his bravery, being a man who suffered SA is not something easy to come to terms with let alone speak out on it publically. So easily ppl will try to discredit or ask “why did u stay” or “why didn’t u try to leave sooner” or “why didn’t u stay this long” which always makes my skin crawl. Richard’s done something amazing for the male community who feels unseen with their history of SA. I believe him.

As a long term stalker victim, it is a story that needed to be told. What most people will never know is that in the 80.s 90;s and 2000s. We were treated as a joke because there were mostly no traceable phone records. Especially those of us that were stalked long distance. Absolutely traumatizing. I don't know that his stalker has any idea how terrifying it can be.

@bradkeyes7184

27 күн бұрын

Do you feel, as a stalking victim, that it will be good for the cause of raising awareness if Gadd's claims about Harvey (who it increasingly appears he may have libeled as a convincted criminal) are exposed as falsehoods? Do you worry that a debunking of this particular narrative could be misused to discredit real victims?

@scarletfalanges

27 күн бұрын

It was added for dramatic effect, and he had alluded to that in interviews. Many films and series based on true events have ended differently that in reality. Why is everyone so hung up on this? He hasn't defamed Fiona, because he wrote about Martha. And in his story, Martha went to prison. See how it works?

@paula622

26 күн бұрын

She has shown herself to be a pathological liar, what is it you missed?

@poetryjones7946

26 күн бұрын

Emphatically agree. I was horribly stalked by a mentally ill man in the 90’s; in the beginning I pitied him and tried to “talk reason” to him (the worst thing one can do, just makes it worse!) Finally I sought help and it took a good long time to be taken seriously. One policeman even laughed when I called to report this man lurking round my house and peeking into my windows (me: “I’m really scared. This person is obviously mentally sick!” Cop: (snickers) “Maybe he just likes you!” It’s triggering even remembering that experience, let alone speaking about it to worldwide viewers.

@justkiddin84

26 күн бұрын

No, I think she knows. She is demonstrably a liar, even hinted at stalking Piers Morgan in the video, really creepy.

From the uk - even as a woman if you have a stalker it’s hard for police to take you seriously , so it must be 1000x more difficult if you’re a male victim

@lilyoliver174

26 күн бұрын

This!

@rachellee2515

25 күн бұрын

I think evidence matters. Every man AND woman deserves to be protected but we cant just take them at their word. Evidence and investigations should be top priority, not just the word of the accuser, Yes? Remember Depp and Heard not that long ago?

@rosyface_

25 күн бұрын

@@rachellee2515the issue tends to be that the police say they can’t actually do anything until the person hurts you, physically hurts you, or does something else illegal like breaking into your home. So you could go to the police with thousands of text messages as evidence but if they haven’t done anything more then the police often can’t or won’t take action.

@rachellee2515

25 күн бұрын

Nope, I didnt say police. They dont handle civil suits. What i meant by evidence and investigation will be from the defamation lawsuit. All emails, letters and text messages will be revealed during discovery. I just cant understand why Netflix and Gad are remaining silent while the world tortures a poor woman. We judged and cast Depp out just because of the ACLU op-ed by Heard. We are doing the same damn thing again. Why??

@rachellee2515

25 күн бұрын

@@rosyface_ Nope, I didnt say anything about the police, they do not handle civil matters unless a crime by either party is committed, it'll go down as a defamation lawsuit like when Heard foolishly wrote that op-ed for the ACLU. The evidence will come in discovery - emails, letters, text messages and even love messages scribbled on napkins. Lets see if Gad is the victim he claims he is. Not sure why everyone is so sure Fiona did it. A gentle reminder that an interview with a veteran presenter like Piers can rattle even the strongest of nerves of a normal person. She did get extremely weird, but it could be a combination of nervousness, anger and/or fear. I think its best to see the evidence before we send poor Fiona/Martha to the electric chair.

Some of the stammering/self-soothing can be a trauma response. Very important to be understanding of these clues when discussing traumatized individuals.

@jaymes3554

26 күн бұрын

Yeah, this shit is really hard to talk about doesn't mean he's lying or can't get his story straight

@lynnhubbard844

9 күн бұрын

it's typical British stuttering...how they fill space while they are thinking what next to say...Americans do uuhhmm...

I was shocked when I learned he played himself in the show That’s wild

@Kikiuni

27 күн бұрын

He did say that he loves attention lol. Sounds on brand

@bronzergoth7598

27 күн бұрын

that shocked me too! acting is already vulnerable but depicting your own trauma is another level. he must be very mentally strong

@WookieWoman

27 күн бұрын

​@@bronzergoth7598It could've been cathartic.

@feelthejoy

27 күн бұрын

Not uncommon for ppl who write no autobiographical plays or comedy sets, particularly those who perform at Fringe. Edinburgh Fringe in particular.

@11274reece

27 күн бұрын

​@@bronzergoth7598Or a bare faced attention seekers willing to do anything to get ahead. Guys a weirdo.

One thing you did get wrong - he’s not at fault he has flaws .. like every single human on this planet

@Oliviaandtrina

27 күн бұрын

I also strongly dislike the implication that victims need to admit fault to be believed/supported. Idk this video was just not it. Like if a woman came forward saying she was stalked and sa I can't imagine he would make a video saying that she needs to admit it's her fault for how she dressed.

@staceyann1180

27 күн бұрын

Seriously! If Gadd was female and "Martha" was male, I don't think any interviewer would chide her for not being "totally innocent." Nor should they. There is no perfect victim, the media needs to stop feeding into that whole mentality.

@wintermoon7003

26 күн бұрын

Not surprised because he got the Gabby Petito case all wrong and deleted the video because of that. He claimed that she wasn't being abused and that she's just way too emotional! Over the top! That's what he said. I do like Observe for the most part, but I don't trust his readings in regards to situations like this, where it's criminal/there's a victim and perpetrator. He NEVER gets it right!

@caseyw.6550

26 күн бұрын

​@@wintermoon7003 It's probably because "body language analysis" is mostly just BS pseudoscience. It's completely inappropriate to do with victims of abuse or crimes, imo. Because none of this is evidence. It's nothing more than speculation.

@justkiddin84

26 күн бұрын

Which is exactly what he said? Confused by your take here.

I wish people would talk about the dad and his response in all this, the dad is an unsung hero!

@jaymes3554

26 күн бұрын

Agreed

@swissmeringueclouds1428

25 күн бұрын

Good luck with the transsexual 👍

You would think him being SA would be the bigger story. Since that person has a lot more victims.

@kitlongstalk4141

27 күн бұрын

It probably would be if we definitely knew who Darrien was irl. Men SA is already minimized, what do we expect when there’s no perpetrator

@anakom003

27 күн бұрын

I think the reason it’s not talked about more, at least in interviews, is because I’ve noticed a lot of the press for the show is daytime television. Not really the audience for that (although it shouldn’t matter, exposure is necessary to bring education to these topics). If he was on more “raw” platforms such as podcasts catering to SA awareness etc, there’d be more light shone on that side of his story most likely.

@trao1938

27 күн бұрын

Martha also SA him.

@Goldrefinedthrufire

27 күн бұрын

Well, Martha was found and decided to speak out. The others have not.

@ro55ker

27 күн бұрын

What is “SA”?

The show is a drama, not a documentary. Every drama ever made that is 'based on a true story' has embellishments or facts changed to make it entertaining ning for the audience. I feel like people are forgetting these basic facts and treating it like a documentary. It's clear that Fiona was obsessed with him from her own interview. Anyone who takes an entertainment show as gospel needs to just stick to factual shows for information 😬

@MyKitchen12

27 күн бұрын

The problem is that the show starts with the words "This is a trud story". Not based on, not inspired by.

@irrittt

27 күн бұрын

@@MyKitchen12Ok dude, to split hairs with the wording of this phrasing doesn’t discredit that aspects of the show was likely definitely changed in order to make it more entertaining. Get a grip

@Iceicebaby0117

27 күн бұрын

@@MyKitchen12if you watch the whole episodes, in the end of the credit it says some things are added for dramatic effect

@ElanaVital83

27 күн бұрын

​@@irritttIKR they're like little kids hanging on 1 silly little word!

@scarletfalanges

27 күн бұрын

Anything that isn't using real footage IS a drama, always. Yes based on true story, but no one ever said it was a documentary, therefore it's a drama based on a true story. Plus at the end it details it's a dramatic piece and some scenes have been changed and etc etc. The 'this is a true story' is like an a novel of which many have started with that very line and the reader knows it's complete fiction. In this case it's based on true events It's pretty sad that a lot of people aren't able to understand this tbh

Asking Gadd about his part in it makes me feel uncomfortable. You could sleep with someone and declare your love to them but it doesn’t mean that person then goes on to stalk you.

@epicmonkey6663

20 күн бұрын

If somebody is in their early twenties being stalked by somebody 15 years older than them it's kind of weird that not many people can recognize that maybe that's not a situation they're going to fully be able to navigate with the best decision making someone else's actions manipulating him at the way it was isn't his fault and I don't understand why people are unable to kind of get that it's the lack of prospective I suppose but still people that don't understand should probably shut up if they are gonna juge and be mean

When he says ‘the best actress in the country’ he’s referring to the whole of the UK not just Scotland. Scotland is a country but it’s part of the UK and the actress Jessica Gunning is actually English. Similarly, the Edinburgh festival isn’t just part of the Scottish comedy scene, it’s the epicentre of the British comedy scene in general.

@justkiddin84

26 күн бұрын

So that might account for the hesitation there. She is really good. Best in the UK? Idk

@ApequH

25 күн бұрын

Could it be read as that people might find it unbelievable? She is a somewhat atypical choice

He must have the voicemails before the actress managed to reflect her so accurately.

It also should be noted that expert body language analysis is not admissible as evidence in UK Courts, as there’s literally no consistent behavioral proof of lying. Informal analysis by officers, juries, etc, does come into play, though. Body language analysis can only indicate discomfort (like how any person can be uncomfortable under high stress situations (like a police or TV interview)), and all that can be done is to press that discomfort into revealing a lie. There’s literally no body language indicator of lying, only discomfort.

@Puddleduck1

27 күн бұрын

This 👏 I was also surprised when Piers offered Fiona a lie detector (although I'd assume the question was more of a test to see what she would say rather than a genuine offer), there are so many factors that can create a false positive/ false negative & it's the reason the police doesn't really use them in the UK, especially not in court!

@cultivatinggrace

27 күн бұрын

@@Puddleduck1 it’s definitely solely used to press a confession, and is not able to be used as actual evidence as it’s so unreliable. It just indicates discomfort. Even cops only use it to make a suspect so uncomfortable that they trip up and (hopefully) eventually confess.

@Globaldave1970

27 күн бұрын

Like he is an actor. When actors act, it is not true, so their body language must give them away.

@wintermoon7003

26 күн бұрын

This is what irks me about cops in America. They think that lie detector are so accurate! Like, no, just no. If I'm going to believe someone is guilty, it's through evidence, not a machine that's just picking up abnormal heart beats that can mean nothing. If I was ever strapped to a lie detector, they would think I was always lying because I get so nervous and my heart rate sky rockets! I would fail it miserably I think. So I worry that if I'm ever falsely accused of a crime, because I am not a criminal so it would be falsely accused ha ha, that if my innocence relies upon that of a machine, I fear I would end up in prison.

@justkiddin84

26 күн бұрын

Stated very clearly on the channel notes and within the video. Did you watch??

10:18 i know its your job to analyze people's actions but i think some things are just what they are. of course stuttering can be seen as a sign of dishonesty, but why dont we look at the big picture here? he was asked a question that could possibly make him feel like it was all his fault. no matter how many times you talk about your experience with abuse or any other traumatic event, it never gets easier to speak about it. stuttering is only natural

@shiatsufurlan

27 күн бұрын

Thank you. I was a bit shocked hearing some of the comments in the video, as I've been struggling with aftermath of abuse for decades now.

@shoshoshuffle

27 күн бұрын

@@shiatsufurlan i feel you, it's so weird seeing people not even grasp the fact that victims will most likely blame themselves and will tell their story while stuttering or while looking away etc. it's not dishonesty, it's stress

@martinrafferty

26 күн бұрын

Both of you, I’m sorry for the trauma you experienced, but the host here gives several disclaimers (almost excessively so)

@shoshoshuffle

26 күн бұрын

@@martinrafferty that's true, im not denying it but it's just a bit frustrating when people look too much into things, esp when talking about someone who has experienced something traumatic

@shiatsufurlan

26 күн бұрын

@@martinrafferty He did at first, but kept forgetting he is analysing a traumatised person - if he did, he would mention that when he was connecting stuttering with possible deception. I understand not everyone will agree with me, but I find his analysis a bit off. And it's not the first time I noticed that with him when he was analysing a person that was a victim of a kind, tbh. I believe in such cases usual cues can be quite different.

I'm glad you made it clear that this is an interview. Interviews are ALWAYS performative. Unlike with Harvey, Gadd's being interviewed to sell a series, not defend his innocence. In his mind he's likely trying to get out all the necessary points within a limited time frame. And Esp when people are being interviewed early in the morning, there's even further pressure to be more animated and energetic than you actually feel. Also, Brits tend to be far more humble when giving speeches, interviews or when receiving awards.

@meganbecker

25 күн бұрын

Great comment.

I find holding yourself accountable and acknowledging the role you played in certain situations is so brave and so mature. This show more than likely helped him process his feelings on such a level that it freed him in a sense. A lot of ppl dont speak up bc of the guilt and shame, thinking that they must have done it to themselves and deserve it. If you've never lived it, it's so hard to understand why ppl "go back" to that person or situation over and over again. You question yourself so much. It's not normal, no one's experience is and there is no manual for how to adjust and act.

13:22 idk, I don’t think he had any level of “guilt” in this. He didn’t do anything to make her act like that. I think it’s unfair to call it guilt. He didn’t know what was gonna happen.

@justkiddin84

26 күн бұрын

He is not saying he had guilt, he is saying he feels guilt. Very different.

Between watching Baby Reindeer and this interview, I think that some of his mannerisms point to being a people-pleaser. So like when he made the comment about the best actress in Scotland, he wanted to make sure she knew he was sincere. Just a thought.

Judging by her interview on piers morgan, she only confidently denied the court stuff. Everything else she spoke of changed over the interview. I believe she stalked him, but based on his empathy for her, Netflix added the legal stuff - particularly the conviction and jail time, for drama.

@loopyloulou6230

27 күн бұрын

Yeah I think the truth is likely somewhere in between.

@Globaldave1970

27 күн бұрын

You think she glassed him?

@tiredofitall9213

27 күн бұрын

Exactly! I don't believe for a second she didn't do a lot of the things depicted in Baby Reindeer. The texts, emails, stalking, harassment...etc. I believe he may have led her on but she has been accused of doing a lot of what she did to Gadd to at least 2 other people! And of course, Fiona is innocent of all allegations, according to her! She's innocent of everything, according to her, and the accuser is the bad guy in each situation.

@Goldrefinedthrufire

27 күн бұрын

@Globaldave1970 I don't know about that. The face heals amazingly well. I've had a bad injury and no scarring. I'm assuming that scene was just for the show though.

Thank you for pronouncing Edinburgh correctly ❤

@clairduffy60

27 күн бұрын

As a Scot, can't believe it.

@Sadidesifamily

27 күн бұрын

@clairduffy60 lol yep I'm a Scot too. He got hounded in the previous video for mispronouncing Edinburgh

@LadyLuck13

27 күн бұрын

That's because we gave him pelters last week..lol

@clairduffy60

27 күн бұрын

​@@Sadidesifamily Why is it so difficult for them!?

@Sadidesifamily

27 күн бұрын

@clairduffy60 I think its just a difference in British English and American English. Also many places in Europe say edinburg too but the spellings for Edinburgh are different in those languages...very interesting.

I honestly think that when he said she’s a great actress I think what he was going to say was she was so spot on to the original woman Maybe that’s why he stopped and hesitated because he technically can’t compare them or she would have a stronger case. I think!!

@ObserveKZread This video (and many others) made me feel physically ill. When I was a teenager, I was kind to the group of kids (put in "special ed" for behavioral and developmental challenges) that everyone else either ignored or bullied. Many of these kids then turned around and stalked or physically a**aulted me. The only response I got from my teachers was that this was happening because I was "too nice." Even when the teachers witnessed me being hara**ed, they never intervened. So, I spent most of my adolescence and early adulthood blaming myself. Could I have benefited from learning to set boundaries or reframing my idea of "being nice"? Yes. But no one offered me that guidance. And those lessons should have always come after the assurance that I was not responsible for other people's behavior. But instead, I believed there was something wrong with me. And this only made me more vulnerable to further ab*se in the future. I don't fault Gadd for telling his story and explaining how victims feel shame and claim responsibility for their ab*se. Without this side, victims would be more likely to report incidents right away. They would not have conflicted feelings about their ab*ser. It is the "grey" area that makes excuses and minimizes the pain. I just can't believe the number of people talking about Gadd's responsibility in being stalked. You can educate a victim on how to recognize signs of unhealthy relationships, how to set appropriate boundaries, what steps to take if you feel you are a victim, etc. But a victim is NEVER responsible for the behavior of their ab*ser. They did not "play a part" in it. Offering someone a cup of tea, listening to their voice-mails, feeling flattered by their attention, sharing inside jokes... please tell me which of these things encourage someone to stalk you? In any other relationship, these behaviors would have been normal human interactions. It is the stalkers response that changes these. Our attitudes towards these things do shape how victims feel and how they respond. Please educate yourself on the issue before platforming your opinions.

@mpannett1

25 күн бұрын

I was always told that I was too trusting and that's why abusers sought me out 😢

@rachelknight2931

25 күн бұрын

@@mpannett1 Yep. I made another comment here talking about how I was always told I was too nice. Blaming yourself just makes you more vulnerable to future abuse and I think that is exactly what Baby Reindeer is trying to convey.

Best actress in this country, Britain. Not Scotland. The actress is English.

@mypillowguy445

27 күн бұрын

Britain is not a country.

Can you imagine how hard this interview and talking about the abuse or dealing with police can be for him? How much shame all victims feel? You keep forgetting he is a victim in this and has been severely traumatised So searching for his stutters sounds a bit insensitive to me...

@RoadKill-ds7pp

27 күн бұрын

Especially since he stutters himself when talking about it 💀 10:58

@Frannie0h

27 күн бұрын

thank you! he sees everything as black and white and it annoys me so much. this poor man has been through so much and this dude is narrow minded enough to see it as a sign of deceit or lying, he simply stutters because this whole topic is very emotional or maybe even that he's nervous, just because he's a comedian doesn't mean he wouldn't get nervous on stage or live. many people are being extremely inconsiderate in the comments.

@Nat_Ash_A

27 күн бұрын

He has been retelling the story for 5yrs. Stage shows, interviews etc.

@Frannie0h

27 күн бұрын

@@Nat_Ash_A and that makes what he goes through not hard to talk about? 💀 it doesn’t matter how many times you repeat a story, especially now that people have found out the identity of Fiona if I were him that would make me ten times more nervous, we know he doesn’t want to cause any harm to her or her reputation but more create more awareness for the issue and he now knows anything he says will be held against her. Your ignorance is astounding.

@Nat_Ash_A

27 күн бұрын

@@Frannie0h Your ignorance will be astounding when the penny drops and it’s revealed how much he lies are in the show. I have watched other interviews with Gadd before he made the Netflix series, he openly says that he tweaked the show many times, testing it out on stage. He kept the parts that people reacted well too and discarded other parts. And here’s you loaded with your sympathies to him but you don’t even know which parts are true. You even confidently say what Gadd feel or thinks like you know him 🤣 Many women/men go through such horrific abuse, the key difference is that they usually tell sell their stories once the criminal has been convicted. Once they know the danger has been removed.

He's clearly on the spectrum and I don't hear you giving nuance towards that fact. He's not gonna have typical responses. Also, I think his slight smiles are from shyness and a little embarrassment. Because, I feel like I had situations like that talking about difficult things.

@justkiddin84

26 күн бұрын

Neither he, nor you can diagnose this person based on interviews.

@J.Soffer

26 күн бұрын

@@justkiddin84 it's something that's out there. I didn't just diagnose him. But that's not even the point of what I was saying.

I completely agree with your opinion. Still, this kind of thing, where the subject is whether we believe a victim of sexual abuse and stalking, is kind of distasteful. Regardless of the conclusions. Especially when it doesn’t take any of the context of years of interviews and shows, where his story has been consistent into account.

@jaymes3554

26 күн бұрын

Yeah I'm not a fan of the video reviewing this interview

@justkiddin84

26 күн бұрын

He asked for other interviews, if you know of a good one, or two, pass them on to him.

@epicmonkey6663

20 күн бұрын

I believe in innocent until proven guilty but in situations like this there should be a level of safeguarding where the victim comes first until an investigation concludes but in a way that safely protects the accused from Public scrutiny until such time as they are convicted because a lot of cases where somebody's genuinely innocent and accused of a crime their publicly destroyed before they're Innocence is proven and it's tragic that they can never really recover their lives because of somebody's lies so realistically then needs to be reasonable doubt while maintaining compassion on both sides until more evidence can be presented

I understand that is just a first glance reading, and you are doing a great job. But I just want to say that if his series is true, that is a traumatized man. I have experienced traumatic experiences in my life, and I could never do this great of a job of creating a whole series and reliving the whole experience for everyone to see, as well as talking about it to interviews that thousands of people can watch on the internet. It's an incredibly scary thing to do, there's no doubt that he was nervous. That is definitely another thing that should be added. I just wanted to make a note of that cause it is really important. We don't know the truth yet, so there's different opinions going around. Absolutely love your content keep doing what you are doing :)

@epicmonkey6663

20 күн бұрын

You can't really equate one's person's trauma response to your own or your ability to or to be unable to recover because I have gone through a lot of traumatic things in my childhood that have messed me the hell up yet I'm still astounded by people who get into viewed after traumatic events where they are abused for longer periods and I have ever known are able to go on talk shows public speaking and they have a level of health I fear I'll never achieve but I admire that they're capable of doing so maybe one day everyone who suffers and struggles can get to that place but life is an uphill battle I find

I love that you added captions.❤

In my opinion, I feel like the first studder was because the female interviewer said "that's what your character did in the show" and he laughed after because technically he himself isn't a character he is playing himself. So I saw it as it took him off guard how she worded her question though very straightforward.

@laurajaynenolan2149

21 күн бұрын

I agree, also though it could have been a reaction to “mistakes” your character made, meaning mistakes he made. Maybe he doesn’t see an act of kindness as a mistake or the use of the word felt slightly accusatory.

Thank you for changing the title of the video! I (and I'm sure many others) appreciate you doing that.

@kingisabel

22 күн бұрын

LOL I wish he would put back up his video defending Brian Laundry, he spent 30 mins talking about how Brian is actually the victim and Gabby is clearly a liar. LMAO him changing the name of the video & not even mentioning it - yikes.

There’s something iffy about his story, but I don’t doubt he was SA’d and stalked. His abuser should be put on blast and exposed moreso than Martha, idk why he gets to keep his anonymity.

@luminaryPerfectionist

27 күн бұрын

In the series, he did say that he went to the police and while Martha never got an actual sentence, there certainly was a struggle to actually do something about her due to the gender roles at play.

@irexsh

27 күн бұрын

In the series he goes back to work with his abuser. So he's likely still protecting this guy to stay in Hollywood's good graces

@Freya1412

27 күн бұрын

​@@luminaryPerfectionistmaybe he should have told the story how it played out in reality. It raises more awareness of the fact that stalking victims and especially male victims don't get taken seriously by the justice system. Idk it all seems like he wants to poke the bear and antagonize his real stalker with how he never made any effort to disguise her identity. The reason everyone is focused on Fiona Harvey is due to the fact she was easy to find. The SA perpetrator isn't easy to find because Richard made it hard to identify him and even came out specifically to say the person people thought it was isn't his abuser and to leave that guy alone. He didn't comment on Fiona. He wants drama with that woman.

@RyanSpringer1984

27 күн бұрын

I think he is confused, and was simply fine with it for the chance at fame and when that didn't happen his story changed.

@shaeparker-yf7xd

27 күн бұрын

He wasn't gonna out either one of them .....Fiona outed herself.

It is interesting that he is getting positive feedback for "Baby Raindeer" when the person who wrote "She Said" got very little acknowledgment or coverage. Is this a pattern where women are denied being heard, or are we thinking the woman brought it onto themselves? Or is it that the way women "complain" cry victim and people want woman to be strong in all circumstances circumstances circumstances?

I love that he did not portray himself in the best light and showed how his own actions possibly exacerbated and enabled situations-with Martha and the mentor that SA’d him. Acknowledging your own fault or what you could’ve done differently in a situation isn’t necessarily victim blaming.

If you want to see an actually good behavioral analyst, look up Spidey. This guy, is in the minor leagues at reading peoples behaviors, and that’s being nice.

As someone from Edinburgh, I applaud your pronunciation 😁🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

@laurajaynenolan2149

21 күн бұрын

From the comments commending him I realised I’ve been pronouncing it wrong my whole speaking life. 😭 I say endinbruh not edinburuh

Hey, cool video! I generally don’t really believe in the eye cues theory (mostly because usually it is huge generalization) but rather what deviates from baseline. But! In this circumstance, I do think it is interesting that Gadd always seems to be looking down and Fiona always in an upward motion. Although we could very well think of it as signs of honesty or deceit, I would rather see it as vulnerability and the experiences he has had vs the clear signs of NPD that she exhibits. Thank you so much for putting Dr. Honda in your other video! He is such a good influence on KZread! Have a wonderful whoever reads this 💗

Can't believe the disgusting way a victim of sa and stalking is being treated. The point of the show was that sa makes people more vulnerable to future experiences of ab*se. Saying things like he "enabled" or "encouraged" the stalking just further causes victims to question themselves. People question why he didn't report the stalker earlier and yet just read this comment section (or listen to this "expert's" comments). Do people really think that him sharing his experiences of drug use, sa, and stalking are for money? Even if he was making the whole thing up, no one wants to become famous for a story like the one he shared. The lack of critical thinking is also demonstrated in people's inability to understand how the show could be a true story and still have some fictional aspects. "It's based on an experience, but it's not the true story as stated " WTF? Do people not understand that this is Gadd sharing his story?! Even documentaries are told from a certain perspective, but this is not a documentary. These are actors playing out the events from Gadd's perspective. And there are lots of reasons why details are changed in the dramatic retelling, including the fact that humans don't have perfect memories and some things need to be added to fill in the gaps. Sometimes time-lines are altered to make a cohesive story. I have never seen this amount of scrutiny held to a retelling of true events. And so many of you are empowering this woman to further victimize Gadd. Now she has found a way back into his life. She's able to smear him very publicly. She is gaining control over aspects of his life (by calling him into court and by demanding he produce evidence to Parliament). I can't express how angry it makes me feel to see what had initially been an empowering experience for many victims now be turned into further traumatizing victims. The amount of times this video praised how Gadd framed the "gray" areas of stalking was disturbing. Many victims feel conflicted about their relationship with their ab*ser. SA and stalking rarely happens in the sensationalized way it is depicted in the media. And most victims blame themselves or feel they played some part in their ab*se. Gadd's story accurately reflected the conflict that victims often face and how that allows them to continue relationships with their ab*sers, to fail to report ab*se, and to victims in the future. But that doesn't mean that people should be discussing the role the victims play in their ab*se (unless they are professionally trained in a field that allows them insight to this issue).

@justkiddin84

26 күн бұрын

How are you getting that he is being mistreated? He says he may FEEL he enabled or encouraged. Big difference. We often have misplaced guilt and self blame or shame for things that are not our fault at all. I did not take any of this video as abusing him or saying he is somehow at fault.

@rachelknight2931

25 күн бұрын

First, I mentioned that victims often feel a sense of responsibility for the abuse. They blame themselves which leads to shame and guilt. It makes it harder for them to report the abuse. But victims do not bear any responsibility for the abuse. It doesn't matter what he did, the abuse is 100% on the abuser. It's not a "grey" area. Inside jokes, feeling flattered by the attention, listening to voicemails...none of these actions should lead to abuse. As far as this particular video, around 5:30 he starts to talk about how he appreciates that Gadd presents the grey area of his situation. He says Gadd "takes on a level of responsibility for his own actions"....."realistically speaking he does hold a level of responsibility for the actions that enabled or opened doors" "he himself is not claiming that he is completely innocent either" That is insane. Would we speak that way about a child? Do victims often FEEL they bear some responsibility in their abuse? Yes. But we should be reassuring Gadd that the two people that abused him are the ones responsible for the abuse. He is not. He could have acted the exact same way around me and I would not have done those things to him. Victims will always struggle with telling others about their abuse as long as our society keeps telling them they bare some responsibility for the abuse they suffered.

@justkiddin84

24 күн бұрын

@@rachelknight2931 And there is a major problem here. Sometimes two people can be abusive to each other. A victim can react by becoming violent themselves. Not all situations involve a perfect victim and a perfect abuser, all written out in a textbook and tied up with a bow. People are complicated and messy.

@rachelknight2931

23 күн бұрын

@justkiddin84 He was not abusive in either of the cases he discussed in Baby Reindeer. The problematic behavior people are referring to involves things like drug use, continuing to engage with problematic people, having mixed feelings about his abusers (which some people like to frame as "leading " the abuser on), and so on. People bring up the scene of him m**terb*ting while thinking of Martha. Or him joking with her. Or listening to her messages over and over. None of these behaviors are abusive. I feel like I've said this a thousand times now, but none of his behaviors excuse his abusers. The exact same behavior around healthy people would not trigger a sa or stalking. I thought we were past the discussion of "why didn't she just leave him?" Victims often have personal relationships with their abusers. Staying in a relationship, failing to report abuse, feeling compassion for their abusers... none of these mean that victims bear responsibility in their abuse.

@justkiddin84

22 күн бұрын

@@rachelknight2931 you are forgetting that Baby Reindeer is a dramatization of his experiences. It’s been altered, and is not strictly true. I think maybe folks are over thinking it. I don’t think that anyone is saying that SA is a victim’s fault.

hey, ocd is kicking my ass so i have to ask did something happen to your mic recentlyish? idk if its youtube or a noise suppressor but you sound really robotic and muffled at times : i hope this doesnt come across as complaining. love your videos regardless

This is the first time I have seen one of your videos and it's BRILLIANT! I absolutely love it -- can't wait to see more! I've subscribed!

This interview is very different to Fiona's, as you said it's very scripted. I think I'd need to see an interview with Piers Morgan.

@Globaldave1970

27 күн бұрын

100%

@amib7309

27 күн бұрын

and why tf would he do that? he put out his side of the story already in the way he felt comfortable to do so. no one is owed anything more from him (outside of a courtroom obviously if he and netflix did get taken to court)

@amib7309

27 күн бұрын

like it’s not a game or for the sake of entertainment and the answer isn’t another piers interview. the first one should never have happened -was just piers ripping off a clearly unwell woman

@justkiddin84

26 күн бұрын

Ugh. No, please! Some other interviewer, anyone!😂

@colettebishop2173

25 күн бұрын

He's was doing the play at the Edinburgh fringe years before it was made into a stage show, I'm sure this isn't the first interview, or even the second. It's going to sound scripted when you've performed it on stage and talked about it to journalists repeatedly.

💖💖💖💖 There is a great long hour and a half interview of Gadd by Danish Comedian Sofie Hagen 5/10/2016 That explains some things it is on Apple Podcasts or Global Podcasts under the title Who Hurt You : Richard Gadd - Eye contact, anger black-outs and parents 💖💖💖💖

@Globaldave1970

27 күн бұрын

Many thanx for that

@justkiddin84

26 күн бұрын

Oh good!

Whoo! Watching this on break! Never caught you this early!!♡♡

Thanks so much for the captions!

Both the interview and this analysis make me very uncomfortable bc there's no "gray area" when it comes to his status as a victim. Nothing could justify the actions of his abusers. The point of showing all that was to illustrate that there's no such thing as "the perfect victim." NOT to show that he's partially responsible.

"Knowing smile" = he's pretending that she walked into the pub one day, and into his life, like a movie script when in fact she was a regular - a woman who worked there at the same time as Gadd stated that Fiona Harvey used to eat in the pub 3-4 times per week and she felt sorry for her because the male bar staff used to take the mickey out of her because they thought she was odd/weird/strange/whatever.

Please remember Gadd has performed in front of cameras most of his life. Harvey has never ...

Glad to see a video this morning!

Omg I’m so early 😳 but absolutely love the analysis super interesting to see/learn!

Love your content! Keep up the good work

I've never once seen this KZreadr go against popular online opinion. It's disappointing that he bases his analysis on what people want to hear

@AyitaLightfoot622

25 күн бұрын

I thought I was the only one to notice this.

as far as the camera goes, it looks like it could be a sensor issue. cleaning sensor or perhaps even a memory corruption. wishing you the best xx

I was hoping this would be covered!!! Thank you!

You know all about emotional manipulation in a relationship.

Oh my gosh I wondered how I missed this but then realized it’s a new drop!! Wooohoooo!!! 🎉

It was my bday today! Thanks for the late upload ❤❤

@norclag

27 күн бұрын

Happy Birthday 🎂

@justkiddin84

26 күн бұрын

Happy You Day!🎉

I’m your 700 comment and I am so glad that I found your channel. I’ve watched you before but I forgot to subscribe that’s why I always subscribe to channels when I find commentator that I find interesting and like the content thank you very much. This was excellent.

Hey, I don't if it was an error or an editing choice? But during the whole reading the screen was glitching and lines were apearing on the screen. I got worried my TV was broken to start with, so went to check other videos 😂 but I think it's just your video? Not sure what it was but it was a little distracting 😅 I think this video was great btw, really loved your martha one too!

Occums Razor - the simple answer, probably the answer. It happened. He told it. Fiona is lying.

I like the emphasis on narcissist attentions, and I quote "It doesn't feel like he's just grabbing for victim attention, which so many people, especially in narcissisms realms, everything they do is centered around getting victimhood attention from the people around them" And your Wife is a THEY/THEM exotic bird

I have been watching your videos before and for this specific one you didn't mention anything about Richard's baseline. You said "he looks at this corner so we should take note if he looks at the other corner". This is simply not an indication of possible deceit. By saying stuff like this that would mean in every case if he looks in another direction that he's possibly lying and there's no sign in human body language that can indicate for certain any of this. I don't mean to be rude. I love having analysis on baseline first or summary of it then concentrating on his words or actions

Very interesting analysis! Great video

Heres my 2 penneth - leading someone on to keep giving you attention isnt the same as encouraging a stalker. People in abusive situations dont act in thier own best interests

*btw he HAD to say that he choose her for her acting cause he couldnt say the truth was that he hit the jackpot with a great actress who LOOKS EXACTLY LIKE MARTHA!!*

Great video Logan TY❤

Fairly random and this may not be it at all but on the glitches, if you use Premiere Pro (I don't know if you do) I've had glitches, maybe bigger and more spread out but similar-ish. I found that switching from a .mp4 file to a .mts file fixed it. I don't know why that works though cos I had to ask someone else how to fix it as I couldn't find any info online.

As someone else in the comments has said the only verbal stammer he has shows it is his feelings connected to his shame. The thing is he never has named her, he spoke of his experiences and spoke of scenes done for dramatic purposes. She chose to jump forward, THIS IS ME, I DID NOTHING.. oh I did some of those things but HE was the stalker! At this point he is best not saying anything, it is her choice to judge by what is shown it is her and take action on that representation of what he had shown and not named and even sent out updates trying to dissuade people from identifying the real life people.

Incredible analysis!

yesss i've been dying for this one.

I think you might need a new camera Logan, this one seems to be glitchy. Good video as always!

What everyone seems to not realise is that Fiona Harvey is not a lawyer. Look at the interview with Piers Morgan’s interview with the lawyer who sacked Fiona and she explains that she never completed her required legal work to be a fully qualified lawyer. The lady was terrorised by Fiona and she stated that she did not take legal action against Fiona but felt it vital to supply her staff with panic alarms due to the constant threat from her!

The sections about people seeking victimhood attention and needing to be told they're the best person ever, were really insightful and well articulated.

No one is talking about the chance he took where he may reactivate her stalking. I just had a thought that he knew she would be identified ASAP and he’s giving her a piece of her own action. Now people are saying very mean things to her and these comments are “stalking her” making her uncomfortable. This might be his revenge.

I'm really grateful that he came forward about his experiences. I've heard a lot of takes victim blaming him, from " he just wants money and attention" to "he exposed her identity." But people are never obligated to stay silent to protect the identity of their abusers.

The system didn’t fail her, her parents did. I bet you 50 quid she was horribly abused herself.

@amyt2035

27 күн бұрын

That's a short-sighted view - do you think her parents were magically born evil and wanting to destroy their daughter's life? Her parents abusing her still means it's the system that's ultimately to blame for perpetuating the cycle of abuse. Her parents likely needed support too and were probably abused themselves by their own parents. The problem is anyone can have children whether they are ready/fit to or not, there are not enough systems in place to protect children in abusive households, not enough support for new and struggling parents, and the mental health support systems in place are frankly a joke.

@Frannie0h

27 күн бұрын

or she's a horrible person? sometimes things simply are just black and white. I've known many people who are horrible and really have no reason to be, these are people who I knew immensely and they were honestly just a holes. one girl I knew my whole life, since about four years old, she grew up middle class, had parents who honestly adored her and supported her no matter what, a great social life and no hidden disability even after being referred from adults around her after seeing how horrible she was, twice. she was just born with a natural talent to be manipulative and loved making others lives miserable with that ability, I've tried looking into why she may be that way but honestly after knowing almost everything about her and her knowing everything about me its down to how someone decides to act. we can't give everyone who commits theft or examples of stalking or any crime such as that the excuse of metal health because all that would ever lead to is everyone who is threatened with time in jail being instead given a lighter sentence due to this ideology, I've seen it so much, even lawyers advising clients to use the excuse of mental health issues to gain lighter sentences. I myself have mental health issues; ADHD, OCD and autism all professionally diagnosed and I know that most things I do aren't due to these, it's simply part of my personality. Fiona may have some slight issues but nothing that would cause her to do what she has done, what she's done and what is shown in the series is all insanely thought through, she knows what she's doing and its her at the controls. blame of mental health or trauma playing a part in my eyes is simply wrong, the fact she could sit there in the interview with piers and lie about all the accusations against her shows she's fully aware what she did wasn't normal or justified.

@jaymes3554

26 күн бұрын

You can't blame a persons actions completely on how they were raised. Yes it's a big part of their responses but that doesn't mean they aren't responsible for what they do.

24:35 ugh I’ve been dealing with in therapy recently.. my mother is ALWAYS a victim. If there’s any slight bit of argument or disagreement.. it’s automatically an attack on her. It’s caused dysfunction and no real communication. My god even back when she drove, and her car would break down.. I remember her saying she was “cursed” with that car. Um.. NO.. you didn’t do any maintenance to it. Smh. Anyway.

I have a question, may it be that Gadd was more confident during this interview because he organized all the events that happened to make the show? Martha may have tried to forget everything and, because time passed, she doesn’t have her mind straight like Gadd. It also may be that she was just lying, idk.

Good job Logan!!!! :)

Please take the captions off and have it be a choice to turn them on. It’s too distracting on the screen!

Excuse my rude behavior for showing up to the party so very early , anything but casual nor fashionable .. but here I am awkwardly eager

Don't re-upload I love the glitching reminds me of watching on an old pregnant TV, call it visual interest

Thank you for sharing with us. Stay safe.

24:56 I’m the opposite. When something bad is happening or I’m in a bad way, I sympathize when I see someone who has it worse. Like yesterday.. I’m really having a hard time finding work, in between caretaking for my mother, so I’m struggling financially. Well I saw a man standing in the road with a sign. I’ve seen him before but I was always driving past the green light. Well even though a dollar means a lot for me right now, I gave him the $3 bills I had on me.

Excellent analysis.

Interesting,well presented. Many thanks.

Maybe he was smiling when they asked about why Martha came into the pub because he KNOWS what it is but legally can’t say?

A whole lot of nothing substantial was said in this video

@irrittt

27 күн бұрын

That’s most of his vids tbh

@ayannadivineempathpsychict9838

27 күн бұрын

The point was checking how authentic this guy seems, because the woman stalker was calling him a liar. Her video was a trip. She's a liar psycho was the summation of that video. So he was checking if there is merit to the lies she told and it looks like there isn't. "He is very authentic"

@he-lium

27 күн бұрын

@@ayannadivineempathpsychict9838 no. He's basically saying "well his behaviour says this but that might not mean anything because everyone is different" over and over. Therefore nothing substantial.

“So there is that possibility; he has been in front of people for, uh uh uh, a decent amount of his career, so that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s being authentic. So we’ll have to keep it in mind, it does push towards authenticity, but that does not offer any leniency for the rest of it; we’ll have to keep our eye out for any other red flag or any other points of desyncrization that might push us to be a little more suspicious about what he’s saying.” Wow.. that’s a lotta words just to say he may or may not be authentic due to his career in acting but there are other clues to look for… but you do you?

Thank you for remaining clinical and sticking with a fair, honest video breaking this down for us. Some have jumped on team "Martha" after Fiona wnt on Morgan's show, and frankly she (Fiona) made Martha seem like a SUPREMELY kind interpretation-- IF Fiona is the real Martha. I have little doubt she is, but she denied it at first. This whole thing has kicked off. I appreciate you being fair and pointing out both the good and questionable.

A bit of a red flag is that he in the series, he makes a point of saying that he did not report vital facts to the police thus covering himself as there is no official record of some key events.

The one area that isn't grey.. is your newfound pronunciation of the word Edinburgh! It's perfect. Great video once again.

Is this guy ever gonna address his wife leaving him for being abusive? Or the fact that hes not actually certified to do any of this?

@emmaandrews8390

19 күн бұрын

How do you know about his wife

@Lunalienn

19 күн бұрын

Nope, he’s just gonna pretend it never happened and hope it blows over and no one notices

@shannonhendricks4142

18 күн бұрын

@@emmaandrews8390 she made a video the day she filed for divorce from him

the Edinburgh bit at 1:18 made me laugh so much

What I don't understand this the audience wanting the whole the debacle, the whole series, to be like a documentary, it is not, there are many TV serials there are many movies that says they are true story but they do take creative Liberty. None of the character have to be 100% accurate or the story line should be 100% accurate., which if you see the character names are change the locations are changed. Enjoy the story line enjoy the series and learn what you should do and the name of the red flags. Leave the real life people alone.

Edinburgh 👌🏻😂😆

He's being interviewed in a studio in London and the actress is English. He does not mean that she's the best actress in Scotland - he either means in England or in all of the UK.

1:18 ‘Edinburgh’ Perfect Thank you That wasn’t so hard was it? You’re now in the top 10% of American KZread channels that actually shows effort into pronunciation of names not from America. Subbed! ❤️

@nutcase1995

27 күн бұрын

pronounce "Nacogdoches, Texas" lol calm down its not a big deal

@poerava

27 күн бұрын

@@nutcase1995 18-48 second strategy: Step 1. Notice that you will struggle with pronunciation Step 2. Have a desire to show respect and non exceptionalism laziness. Step 3. Search ‘how do I pronounce nacogdoches’ Step 4. Learn how to pronounce correctly (na-kuh-dow-chuhs). Maybe even watch a KZread video and listen to how locals pronounce the word. --------- Thank you for making my point

@nutcase1995

27 күн бұрын

@@poerava Dude, you're hilarious! you should take up that comedy routine featured in the show! Bet you'd look great in that onesie ❤

@poerava

27 күн бұрын

@@nutcase1995 Comedy? It’s called ‘respect’ buddy. You should try it some time. Here’s something hilarious (and quite revealing). The privilege of those who are asked to pronounce a name properly and their level of showing how they are inconvenienced and triggered AF at someone asking them to do some something as demanding and unreasonable as pronouncing a name properly. 🤦‍♀️ Sounds like you’re ‘that guy’ FML 🤦‍♀️

@nutcase1995

27 күн бұрын

@@poerava Write a book! We are all fascinated because, apparently, sooooo many people mispronounced the name of your town 😩 Has anyone ever told you that people mispronouncing your name isn't the same as mispronouncing your irrelevant town?

In the context of the smile, I took it to mean it was something he had often thought about and a question he himself could highly relate to, being almost relieved or validated that someone else was also asking that question.