I didn't expect the comment section of a TED talk to be so toxic. *smh*

@Dawid-kn6mv

4 жыл бұрын

Having diffrent opinion is toxic now?

@invisibilly1946

4 жыл бұрын

Thransphobes are just vile creatures ho crave toxicity

@rustymcrae7739

3 жыл бұрын

@@invisibilly1946 I dont think anybody is afraid of trans people. What I don't like is that I have to agree that this biological woman is a man

Don’t read the comments section.

Great talk! I'm a cis-gendered parent but I completely relate to much of this: picking the authentic route over the easier one; trying to model the attitudes I want to pass onto my children; confronting some of my own issues in order to be the parent I want to be. It must be especially tough when your family unit looks different on the outside from other people's expectations. Thanks for sharing.

@BikingVikingHH

6 жыл бұрын

Modestysnooze single mom?

@eupo5936

2 жыл бұрын

she is so clearly a woman lmfao. she's made no effort to look like a man, except put a suit on and cut her hair. talk about cultural appropriation.

People need to take a closer look at their family photo. The love they have for each other is genuine. Their innocent child feels it.

@mauricesalaman7308

3 жыл бұрын

That’s not what God thinks love is. I wonder why God burned Sodom and Gomorrah.

@Jullebratzia

3 жыл бұрын

@@mauricesalaman7308 Seems like god has angry issues. The family is happy, and that's all that matters. No ancient fairytale will ever change that.

@CalvinKnowsYourSins

2 жыл бұрын

@@mauricesalaman7308 careful study of the Bible reveals these two cities devolved into debauchery and violence. there was nothing they would not do, no person they were not willing to violate, and no chance from the big man upstairs to repent they wanted to take. it never said anything in the book about god burning them because of one specific reason. they were burned because there was nothing they would not do. this includes cannibalism, rape, murder, child molestation, pissing on the neighbor's dog, but not because some were gay. but hey, what do i know? i'm Hellenistic.

Considering this was a TED talk, i expected to see sense in the comment section Oh well

@yellowdayz1800

3 жыл бұрын

Amen!!

This is why I more associate with being Pansexual (though I have a preference, mostly that I will follow unless I fall in love) and this beautiful human being is my hero!! Also, I died at that pun! It got me thinking though, is there really no gender neutral parental word? Wow....

@notfruit-shaped4856

6 жыл бұрын

+

@brookboi_6992

5 жыл бұрын

Pansexual isnt a thing

@littlewanderer7544

4 жыл бұрын

There are actually a lot that people have explored! The most common I've seen was Baba, but they are all newly crafted words that aren't widely accepted, other than perhaps "parent" but I can't imagine trying to explain "No, I'm not a mom, I'm a parent" lol

jeez, this seems to be one of the more disliked Ted Talks?? I don't get it. as a transgender older brother, I do agree with a lot of what was said here though.

@Dawid-kn6mv

4 жыл бұрын

BEcause chromosomes determine gender not decision or feelings. Spreading lies that you can change it and that it's perfectly normal and healthy is not accepted by reasonable people.

@logans.butler285

4 жыл бұрын

I disagree. I still believe gender is performed, not necessarily reduced to what your chromosomes read. No one has ever actually managed to convince me of otherwise

@invisibilly1946

4 жыл бұрын

@@Dawid-kn6mv There's literally bilogical proof of different chromsones than XX and XY. Stop using 7th grade science

@Dawid-kn6mv

4 жыл бұрын

@@invisibilly1946 At least I use science. Those are only healthy options for humans.

@invisibilly1946

4 жыл бұрын

@@Dawid-kn6mv You're literally not using science. There's so much actual reason and proof for transgenderism but the republicult only likes "facts" when it fits their narrative

This talk is amazing! The little girl will grow up being an amazing human. We need more of those parents (and they don´t have to be trans,they just have to be great parents)! I really can´t understand why the video has more dislikes than likes. I really thought that we were a bit further to gender equality, sad to see that...

Y'all had no reason to click on this if you don't like the subject matter. You were not forced to watch this. Move on, stop spreading hate. Your transphobia shows your ignorance and lack of compassion for other humans. This was an interesting video, and it was nice to hear about parenting from the point of view of a genderqueer/trans person, especially as a nonbinary person who wants children someday.

"No I'm a dad. And I even have the dad jokes to prove it." Ah yes. The only way to know for sure that someone is a real dad. The dad jokes. :3 👌

@therealchristfollower

3 жыл бұрын

Well that's all she gots that and a haircut.

the interaction flow chart is nuts

Can anyone here help me with something? Why does a child have to go through all this confusing ordeals for the egotistical complexes of the adults??

This was highly educational and interesting and the speaker is super professional and carried themselves well. I loved it! The fact that genders get divided practically since you are born was something I didn't notice before

Also, (I have another comment on here) now that I'm an uncle, I can understand what this dad is going through cause I see my niece on a weekly basis and taking care of her while her parents take breaks. It was difficult to get out of that toxic mindset with feminity as well. Obviously it's not the same, but I can understand it being trans myself.

WE LIVE IN A WORLD

@leveljoe

6 жыл бұрын

Plooplookske 0 Yes, and a dead-end one with a society such as this...

@sqweed653

6 жыл бұрын

WE LIVE IN A SOCIETY

@shrimpfriedrice494

6 жыл бұрын

My friends, WE NO LONGER LIVE IN A SOCIETY

@cherokee1781

6 жыл бұрын

DID YOU JUST ASSUME WHERE I LIVE? *TRIGGERED*

@Valient6

6 жыл бұрын

CanisMajoris lolol epic

Besides me really disliking the internet gender "hype" with upcoming memes on non-gender-people, and people who identify as "weird" stuff, i like this Video and the explanation of the feeling of this guy. I actually belief that it is a real struggle for people with different self interpretations from the social norm to fit in with stereotypes. Thanks for sharing thoughts and feelings.

@justchilling7712

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry if I'm too late to this, but what exactly do you mean by "gender hype" and "people who identify as weird stuff"? Not here to judge, just wanna know.

its kinda sad how there are more dislikes than likes...

@brookboi_6992

5 жыл бұрын

No it gives hope that there are still people who arent stupid

@matthewarnold8259

5 жыл бұрын

The OG Boyz In Da Hood. That’s your name. “The OG Boyz In Da Hood.” I don’t think you get an opinion

@brookboi_6992

5 жыл бұрын

@@matthewarnold8259 awwww im so sorry your little feelings are hurt

@invisibilly1946

4 жыл бұрын

@@brookboi_6992 Oh look I found the manbaby. Maybe if you'd actually look at the scientific evidence that blatantly supports transgenderism instead of throwing petty insults you'd get somewhere in the argument

@njsgarage3162

3 жыл бұрын

@@brookboi_6992 true

Get the popcorn guys *jumps into the comments section*

I went straight to the comment section

Thank you so much for this, so fresh, so smart, so coherent. I agree 100% and hope you can make some people see how complex and multiple we all are and that it is a good thing, not exploring that diversity is a waste of life, in my personal opinion.

We live in a society...

@nathanjude707

6 жыл бұрын

Exactly right. And a society would never have been built and will cease to function when we stop agreeing on simple truths like man and woman. Language would have never formed if we were able to “label” and agree with what made a man and woman different. Imagine early man trying to develop language and their had to be an infinite number of identifiers for gender alone. It would have never worked out. These liberals would still be living in caves trying to figure out what to call their pee pees.

@ilseesli

6 жыл бұрын

How does labeling males and females help with forming language? A why would you need an infinite number to label for all genders, couldn' t we just call everybody human?

@Valient6

6 жыл бұрын

ilseesli no you moron. Genders simpligy language espexially by identifying two people. She vs he with 2 people to choose from.

@ilseesli

6 жыл бұрын

Valient Six I understand how labeling gender helps to identify people. Like you said it eliminates about 50% of the choices when identifying. But how are these two labels so essential for language development? Also I would appreciate if you would stop with the name calling, no need for it. Relax.

@biggus6633

6 жыл бұрын

Go on...

So a person who ignores biological fact because he/she (not sure what the person was before the surgery and still is, by the way) wants to live a comfortable lie can just enter the scientific community in such grand fashion? Wow. Didn't think we'd come to this point.

انا لسه مبتدأ وعايز اتعلم اللغه ممكن حد ينصحني

I would really like to know whats it like feeling like that, not like the gender your born with but instead with some sort of limbo between them, I know alot of people feel like people like LB Hannahs just want to be special or maybe are psychologically ill and for a long time I thought so aswell since my only reference to people like that was with crazy acting people, being outraged, expecting everything from others to make THEM feel comfortable, basically setting up hurdles and forcing other to jump over them, but seeing someone that seems to be a rationally thinking human makes me consider that not all of those gender neutral or gender fluid people etc. are insane in some way or another ...

@t3ddyb0yo

3 жыл бұрын

I know it's been 2 years since your comment, but let me tell you: * you do not want to feel like that - if you're lucky you have a supporting family, friends, workplace, access to health care and eventually medical treatment to become who you need to be to feel "right" ... but a lot of trans people are not that lucky, they have to fear to be rejected by their family and friends when they come out as transgender, some may lose their job or home over it, health care in some countries is expensive and in some cultures being transgender puts your life at risk * ~ Transman, 35 from Germany.

Im guessing its like being any other person who becomes a dad

THAT FAMILY PHOTO WAS SO CUTE. This video is amazing. I loved this so much

@brookboi_6992

5 жыл бұрын

Its dumb

why's this on TED? not TEDx, like it says it in the background right there?

Contrary to most of the trans-related stuff that I see here, I thought this one was actually kind of eye opening to the experience. Though I wasn't agreeing with Hannahs at all times, it was refreshing to hear from someone that wasn't shoveling pronouns and the like down the audiences' throats. It seemed like Hannahs was simply giving us a glimpse into the many options that trans people face; I was glad to see that Hannahs wasn't really offended at people's reactions to the whole "daddy" thing, just uncomfortable. Again, though I don't agree with everything Hannahs says, it was good to hear from a side that I don't necessarily hear from; when I do, it's usually to push an agenda or force others to comply with their way of life. This was a nice change from that. I don't consider myself informed enough about this issue to begin with, so although I lean to one side as of now, I'm glad to hear from another side. We never stop learning.

@truzle6133

5 жыл бұрын

What did you not agree with?

@gorillaguy9902

Жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry everyone is shoveling pronouns down your throat

This is awesome! You’re such a truly amazing Dad!

Bless those puns. Also I'm picturing Hannahs's friends going "did you know LB was so fucking tired of having to correct people about being a dad, they went and made a ted talk about it" :')

@chupzlunik

6 жыл бұрын

Just noticed the number of downvotes on this excellent video. We as a society still need to grow a lot…

The sections is broken

I told my Boyfriend that I was transgender. Wanting to be called He or Him. Wanting to be a boy, but thats where he got more distant. He then a day later broke up with me. He was distant from me for a whole year, I was dumb to not know why. But when I asked him he said "I am sorry it took me a year to accept the fact that you are transgender." I said it was fine. Until he dated my bestfriend who is also Trans and is a boy. Wow, the life I live in 😂

What an intelligent, inspiring individual. I really learned something from watching this talk.

Wow really well presented. They are a good speaker.

I don't get it. If you aren't going to respect the person speaking nor do you agree, don't watch it. If you watch then respect the person speaking and what they are saying. Don't guard yourself from learning new things and experiencing new ideas. I'm not going to go around and say that your opinion is wrong or anything, but be respectful. If you don't appreciate the stuff she/he is talking about, at least explain your opinion in a respectful manner. Making a comment saying that "This woman needs to be in a mental institution." is hurtful and very disrespectful. Yes, I can understand that maybe you don't agree with the speech, but it is unacceptable to be rude about it. If you agree or disagree with this ted talk, just be respectful to this family and what they think is right.

I got distracted by the belt being off center

Big up too you! the world should be proud, if anything

Waiting for Jordan Peterson to be invited to TED. Lol

@hearDJK

6 жыл бұрын

He's done a talk in the past with TEDx on potential. It's quite good

@alyaa1308

6 жыл бұрын

Hi scott

@0dious

6 жыл бұрын

Scott McCall he already had his talk.

@p1ll

6 жыл бұрын

Calalang great to hear! I'll check it out!

@sqweed653

6 жыл бұрын

He will probably never be invited because most people would call him right wing for some reason.

anyone else come from the starbucks holiday meeting?

It’s been a few months since I listened all the way through a Ted talk. This was super impactful!

Very eye opening. Thank you

This is incredibly enlightening and reaffirms my personal policy that no matter how uncomfortable, never be a bystander.

Oh boy time to read the comments

Steven Suptic, I know that's you.

This is really inspiring! It’s kinda hard to find advice and experiences of this variety, and I value this a lot.

This is so uplifting . It definitely opens up our minds . Thank you for this beautiful message 👏🏽👏🏽♥️

In the mid 80"s did you ever been beaten with a baseball bat because you stood up for your friends?

@irock5624

4 жыл бұрын

Not with a bat but yes

I've never heard of Elliot being a gender neutral name before.

Wow!!! As a trans+nonbinary person this was just an amazing watch. Thank you, there’s a lot im going to think about now

Transparent 🙌🏻🤣

اتمنى ان تضعو ترجمه عربيه

Sounds fun

thanks for sharing and speaking out. people still need to learn a lot about this. you're a great parent !!

This is quite the interesting and unique experience. Its a shame some people refuse to listen and some of those who do mute their feedback. Props.

I feel like this is an emperor's new clothes scenario. We're just waiting for the moment someone speaks up and says this is ridiculous.

Love most of this but the implication that getting gender affirming surgery means a trans person hates their body hurt me to hear. I didn’t hate my body I just wanted to be more comfortable in it. I don’t believe my top surgery scars will teach my daughter that I hated my body but that I loved myself enough to do something hard for myself to love me even more.

So it's a problem when someone adresses you as a mom in stead of a dad, but at the same time it's a problem that they didn't let you in a womens bathroom?

@TonyisManic

3 жыл бұрын

That's very much the nature of being non-binary.

So, from what they were saying, I understood that they wanted their child to be gender neutral. Isn't is the same as imposing a gender on someone?

@luanaleite3895

6 жыл бұрын

jockerplus they want their child to feel free to assume their gender whenever they want and understand what it is. So, not really imposing a gender or anything

@BH-pk6ng

6 жыл бұрын

not imposing something is also imposing since no one lifes in a vacuum and the child therefor has to be actively cut of from the mainstream.

@Valient6

6 жыл бұрын

Lol actually yes imposing gender neutral is the same as gender identity.

@camilledabert

6 жыл бұрын

Yes, and they're doing a poor job even at that because they actually used he and she to talk about their kids sooooo

@robinmoussa9181

6 жыл бұрын

It's literally the exact opposite of that lol. They're raising the child gender neutral so they don't impose any sort of gendered messages/socialization, and as the child gets older they can identify as whatever gender makes them most comfortable.

If you feel physically unsafe due to words. It's Your Own Problem. But also you can ask to be called one thing or another, and polite people will do it your way, and I guess thats good for you, but you have to know that inpolite people have a right to be inpolite, which is basically part of the right that is, that they can say whatever they want, also you have to know, that what actually matter is what the sender of the message ment (obviously in 99% of the cases is good intention in a message) how you feel is on you, if the sender intentions were good, inocent and bona fide.

Amazing TED talk LB!

I liked that talk. It's important to learn how to live along people. We will all meet trans people, so it's useful to hear good talks about it.

thx for sharing :)

So ted talk has no more science ones?

Not being the exact centre of the Universe must be nice.

Very interesting video, thank you!

Outstanding. Deeply relatable

6:44 well versed in bias. Sexism is not just against women. Giving a color a meaning is also not constructive, your child doesn't care or assign meaning to colors like we do. That is all for yourself, pink wont feminize your child and blue wont masculinize your child either. Same thing with the words you use. Just be honest with it, they already know what they feel inside and only need acceptance.

How did I end up here?

the only issue i have with this is that it comes off as if they're forcing their child to be gender neutral. i don't think forcing the child is a great option, as it's really the child's decision. personally, what i would do is dress the baby in gender neutral colors, give them both toys that interest young boys and toys that interest young girls, give them a gender neutral name (i think Forrest is a good one, as it's from my favorite movie, Forrest Gump), let them watch action and princess cartoons, and buy them both female and male clothing as they get older. this way, they won't feel forced to be either or, and will grow up in an enviornment where they're allowed to play with any toy, wear anything they like and they can come to a conclusion on what they like best WITHOUT forcing it onto them. this is a good way to ease your child into gender roles and let them pick what they wanna be. other than that one issue, this was a great talk :)

Some really interesting hot takes in this one. Loved listening to it. Great point that the absence of femininity is masculinity, not gender neutrality. Not sure how I feel about the point that you aren't medically transitioning in part because you don't want your child to be ashamed of her body, but I'll wrestle with that one more. Great talk :)

I don't understand why Hannah did not simply create their own mum/dad title, like doodoo / mala or mapa / dama sort of half mum half dad. It's just noises that are associated with the person. If you do not identify as either role and you're gender fluid or neutral then give yourself a title instead of trying to conform to a already well established gendered role. It makes no sense. Would it not be much easier for the new people to accept a 'new' identity term rather than expect them to make a counter intuitive leap that you are a 'dad' when clearly you do not fit the normalised dad identity? The world is not going to change deeply embedded gendered identities to fit an extremely small minorities reservations about genders. If you want to be taken seriously then come up with a third gender identity that can be used to identify those who do not fit into either gender roles and then promote that. I have nothing against Hannah and s/he/it is free to identify as s/he/it wants. Maybe in time society will accept a middle ground but this uphill battle to redefine men and woman is a fools errand.

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Whether or not you agree with someone else's lifestyle choices, educating yourself on the topic can be a broadening experience as life is all about learning. It's a shame that many people here fail and just start typing their uninformed narrow minded opinions.

@presiqnqnkov8391

6 жыл бұрын

perfectperfecto i have more importand things to learn than why this girl is crazy.

@albertbundy1291

6 жыл бұрын

You don't get the difference between education and disagreement. It is very small minority and very present on the media. It is hard not to be "educated" about this issue. You believe, just because people still don't get along with your delusion, they are not "educated" enough and you must repeat yourself, when in fact they just disagree.

@MTL12561

6 жыл бұрын

Albert Bundy That's because the people who think like you are basically going against the scientific consensus. It just stands to reason that they don't know all that much about the topic, aside from surface level details. Obviously, it's fine if you disagree. But when your opinion goes gainst the entirety of the scientic community, then maybe, just maybe, you're wrong. And yeah, I know that even science can be wrong, but I'm more willing to trust what the WHO ( www.who.int/genomics/gender/en/index1.html ) has to say about this than you or some other rando on the internet does.

@samuelunderwood5286

6 жыл бұрын

MTL12561 Your mistake is that you think by linking an article, you automatically win an argument, regardless of the source or content of that article. Congratulations, you found an opinion piece from a leftist organization that supports your side. And if you took the time to read the contents, it really doesn't help your side. Chromosomal mutations are completely irrelevant when it comes to this topic. We are talking about a biological male (XY) identifying himself as female (XX), I don't see how rare mutations are relevant in any way. Interesting how the article mentions abnormal cultures in human history that have allowed for more than just two genders, but it completely ignores the fact that every other human society in existence has recognized the simple biological fact of the clear difference between male and female.

@samuelunderwood5286

6 жыл бұрын

Swaranjana Nayak How are transgender people being opressed? Please elaborate.

So interesting to hear about your journey and to explore new ways to encourage our children. Thank you! Such a beautiful family.

I always though that outdated, closed minded people towards this issue was majority only in undeveloped contries, like here in Brazil, where desinformation and ignorance take their places. Now I can see that it is spread all over. I partially blame religion for that. Years ago, we burned women, for thinking they were witches or something, now we can, analogously, draw the same rationale for this transgender thematic. Transgenders has always been part of our society and we must face it, and discuss it whether you want this or not. The idea that it'd be harmfull for kids development is absurd, if that were really thue, kids of heterossexuals should not have pshycological problems. By the way, what really comforts me is that we are finally approaching this discussion; and hopefully, the more close to science you get, the more compreensive you'll become, since you'll realize it is extremelly common to fell misplaced and have the right to fight for a comfortable status in our society. We are always evolving, and so must society. Perhaps, hundreads of years from now, we can forgive religious people, as we did for catholics who sentenced Galileu for stating that the Earth wasn't the center of the universe. For those who are not religious, I strongly encourage them to open their minds for the inevitable course that human kind is taking.

I sense a great disturbance in the force, i sense alot of law suits.

@caded1873

6 жыл бұрын

Vorschlaghammer dew it

@caded1873

6 жыл бұрын

Jedi plum

@Dawid-kn6mv

4 жыл бұрын

Fortunately i don't live in such retarded country that punish people for saying such basic truth.

I had the biggest smile on my face when the family photo displayed!

@eupo5936

2 жыл бұрын

she is so clearly a woman lmfao. she's made no effort to look like a man, except put a suit on and cut her hair. talk about cultural appropriation.

Those who live more authentically make it easier for everyone else around them, and everyone who comes after them. Many forget who they are, or even aren’t able to live authentically. So thank you for always choosing to be yourself. Thank you for taking the time to consider your relationship to your own body and your own life experiences. Thank you for contemplating how the world has shaped you. You make it so much easier for the next person when you do and share this work, and the Earth is made more whole for every human who does the same.

WE LIVE IN A SOCIETY

In your eyes, what is a father’s role? What is the gender example you want your son to learn and follow? Do you accept the traditional roles of men and women?

Thank you for giving yourself to us. I thank you for educating me on this subject.

@brookboi_6992

5 жыл бұрын

Dont listen to this thing

I know I am not usually a fan of this kind of subject, but come on people. There was absolutely nothing wrong with the points he put out. It was very true to what it must be like imo. And this kind of subject is of interest because of how it may help families that will involve transgender people. The comment section is way too quick on rejecting things that have this kind of subject in the title and aggressive in how it expresses it. This video was reasonable.

that dads got a purty face

Such a bad pun...!!!😂😂😂 Love it!😂😂

nicely said!

Super

Incredible

I love love love this message! Thank you for being brave enough, it really matters! It does

Happy Pride month to LB and his fam!!! This was a cool talk.

@sercy-ws7ve

6 жыл бұрын

sonoki82 pride month includes trans too

@sercy-ws7ve

6 жыл бұрын

sonoki82 how could LGBT be homophobic?

Wow

So we should name our children names that can work both for boys and girls? 😶

The title of this video is meme material

@Chrisallengallery

6 жыл бұрын

Like a Guardian article.

@aidansullivan551

6 жыл бұрын

I dont get it

@cilvet1

6 жыл бұрын

You must make really lame memes

You'd think that after all the trans talks and attention their community has gotten in the media that I would have a better understanding of why trans people choose to be trans or that I would generally have a better understanding of their issues, but I don't really, if anything these talks just leave me more confused. The only common thing I sense from trans people is insecurity and internal struggle. Often times it feels like their obsession with gender is actually masking some bigger issue they haven't fully comprehended or figured out yet. Being "mispronouned" or whatever actually isn't that big of a deal, what's a big deal is that you being mispronouned trigger uncomfortable emotions about your ongoing unresolved insecurities about who you are and your ongoing struggles with identity. I have compassion for their struggles and wish them peace of mind, but honestly, at this point it's just not that interesting anymore.

@xXbubbelXx

6 жыл бұрын

Johnny B Trans people don't choose to be trans, they just are. What they have to decide is if and how far they want to physically transition. And if people would keep telling you that you are something/someone you know you're not, if they constantly invalidate your feelings, you'd become "insecure and troubeled", too. And trans people definitly aren't more obsessed with gender than cis people: Whole partys to reveal a babys gender, strangers asking pregnant women what it will be, certain toys for girls, different ones for boys, the same fucking product in a masculine/blue/boy and a feminine/pink/girl version, most jewellery and clothes have to be divided in man and woman,... And it's cool that (if you're a guy) you would't mind being (constantly) referd to as Ms, woman, lady, girl and with she/her pronouns, maybe even using a wrong name for you like Joanna, or the nickname Jojo you can't stand. But others don't have to put up with it. It's nice that you have compassion for them, even though you "don't get it". But I hope you actually respect them as a person, too. Like, NOT using the wrong pronouns, or asking them about their genitals. And trans people don't have to be interesting to make that effort.

@QarthCEO

6 жыл бұрын

You're out of date, Regina. "Born this way" is no longer the chorus of the gender queer. "It's my choice" is now the new mantra. They get to choose whatever gender they feel like that day and you are obligated to entertain their feelings or get criminal charges against you for hate speech. Welcome to the new normal.

@elsafralves

6 жыл бұрын

I feel the exact same thing! I think transgender ppl should be psychologically accompanied. They base their personality and individuality on very 'basic' things. I understand much better the queer ppl who do not identify themselves with any gender and are androginous. It is a much stronger deeper political message.

@BaNuj

6 жыл бұрын

Who cares what they choose?

@xensonar9652

6 жыл бұрын

Yeah, it's weird. It's almost as though the world is hostile to them and this causes them some sort of struggle.

i could care less how someone labels themselves, and which gender (or lack of) they identify as. The problem is when they have children. Kids deserve to have a mother AND a father.

The only issue I have with this talk is that he think's Elliot is gender neutral...

@bgreaud

4 жыл бұрын

It's number 21 on the list... Not my choice, but I respect it. nameberry.com/unisex-names

Loved this video! Very insightful

Great talk! Very insightful.

I felt there were some things here that were different from the norm - such as acknowledgement that to make a child gender neutral ultimately removes all of the feminine aspects, very true. I can't help but wonder, what if EVERYone approached parenting with this gender neutrality perspective - there would be no more femininity or masculinity, which is a heartbreaking thought. I have a daughter who loves all things feminine, a son who loves all things masculine, and another daughter who landed in between, naturally. I love their differences. When does it stop, and why are people trying so hard to be neutral and not just raise their child traditionally and then let the child figure out later on whether or not that works for them? I felt confused on behalf of this woman (who wants to be addressed as a man) the entire talk - she is confused on who she is, she doesn't feel comfortable in her own skin, even with embracing a masculine appearance, she is confused on how to raise her daughter, the world doesn't know how to address them correctly because of their choices. So much confusion. When can we start celebrating the differences between men and women instead of trying to mesh them together and pretend its all made up? Is this family making things harder for themselves by trying too hard to be anti-culture? Will they be disappointed if their daughter is feminine by nature and stays that way? I appreciate the perspective shared, though.

It says how it’s like ton be a trans dad though, I thought they weren’t binary

i want to know what its like for the kid. all this guy talks about is me me me

@Monk-E

6 жыл бұрын

chris pyott The kid will get bullied rip

@JonasBS

6 жыл бұрын

chris pyott If you are interested, I can tell you about my experience. My dad (formerly my mom) is trans and transitioned to male. Nothing has changed, since he transitioned really, except for his self-confidence that went way up and him actually loving himself instead of self-hatred. To me or my siblings nothing has changed either, except for the way we call him. We all found different ways, but for me it was never an option to call him "Papa" (I'm from Germany), because my dad will always be my "Papa" and I couldn't take that away from him. So I decided to call him "Dad" (The English word) instead. And when people that know me ask me who he is, I always felt weird, because saying "It's my mom" would make him feel awkward and saying "It's my dad" might result in me having to explain him being transgender to them if they know my father. So I flip it instead and just say "I'm the son" But besides that, nothing is any different, except for my dad being happy and confident with himself I hope that was somewhat helpful to you (Obligatory "Sorry for my potentially bad English)

@wghats

6 жыл бұрын

is this talk called "what it's like to be a transgender dad", or "what it's like for my kid having a transgender dad"?

@nathanjude707

6 жыл бұрын

You sound like a grown man that was able to understand the comprehend the complexities of wanting to change genetalia. Unfortunately for an young child who’s peers all have more traditional parents I assume this would be rather hard to understand. Thank you for your comment but I’m not fully buying that nothing has changed. Maybe I’m closed minded but personally if my mom or dad did that while my siblings were still in the house it wouldn’t sit well with me.

@lingux_yt

6 жыл бұрын

it's as normal as it should be. why wouldn't it?