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@vitasolano3272

5 жыл бұрын

Mindvalley Talks dr shafali is so right.. it’s about effort...

@almaartiaga3301

4 жыл бұрын

Great interview.

@enibeni3783

4 жыл бұрын

I love her message. Truth sets us free.

@Deeps_8616

4 жыл бұрын

I bought her book afer watching this interview.. i buy the concept but i am confused on how to apply this in real life... The answer she gave on should we teach our religion to our kids was little confusing.. can someone who understood it better explain it.

@fatboyannie

4 жыл бұрын

Maya I don’t have all the answers. But I get the fact that she said your kids are doomed if you tell them they are sinners until the savior saves them. It takes away many decisions they can make for themselves as if they are good enough. You are telling them the are not good enough to begin with. Wow that’s very enlightening!!!

While on my spiritual journey, I have realized that my 5 year old daughter is mirroring how I truly feel inside. She is helping me to heal myself and go deeper into spirituality. I am so blessed to have such a great teacher in this life.

@firetrees4991

Жыл бұрын

Yes ! I can relate ! My 8 year old daughter was divinely sent to me . She is my greatest teacher

@siyabeanland9777

Жыл бұрын

There must be something about 5 year olds lol I am exactly at this place. She is what led me to this video 😊❤

What a great relief to hear the authority on conscious parenting admit that the first several years of her parenting involved ego-driven outbursts, I feel so much better about my parenting journey. I feel so guilty everytime I lose control of my ego and yell or am angry at my children for being children. But I'm happy to learn that I haven't damaged them irrevocably because I am not perfect.

'the most defensive of all species, the parent...' Love that.. Spot on.. :-)

I'm hypnotised by this Goddess. She's brilliant, scintillating, captivating, beautiful.

@elenamarina9736

2 жыл бұрын

Wow,,you found a beautiful word to describe her : a Godess! I totally agree ❤

@keepcreationprocess

2 жыл бұрын

Money, with money 💵💰that s why

@keepcreationprocess

2 жыл бұрын

@@elenamarina9736 big bullshitttt - low level taste

A short cut to this realization on parenting came to me via parenting a child with mental illness. I had to realize and understand the world from their perspective in a very short period of time. Everything I assumed would happen was thrown out the window with my ego. Ha, the freedom of letting them live their life while you provide a safe place of love and support. Really once you get it, life is a lot easier for everyone. This woman is way ahead of the curve with her message.

@AngelWings1983

2 жыл бұрын

Yes a mentally ill adult son can be a big awakening to the parents to really make you see the truth within 💛 This is my path and I embrace it with open heart and yearning for the answers. It is not easy but a spiritual awareness.

@gunnikr

Жыл бұрын

My question is how did you change? Every day I try and fail a lot.

@hillfarm7044

Жыл бұрын

@@gunnikr Hi Gaya, if your child lives with serious mental illness, know you are not alone. I had no choice but to let go of any and all expectations that I personally was holding for my child, no matter how good my intentions were. Kids that struggle like this are actually expressing their real feelings. Better to do it now, then when they are 40 and have kids and a lot of responsibility. With good professional help and UNCONDITIONAL love and support from family, a person will find their way. Chances are it won’t look like the most direct or easiest route, but when they get to a place where they can manage their mental illness they will actually be ahead of most people their age who are doing the bidding of others. It is almost impossible to believe a kid in crisis will ever find stability, but in time it can happen. No sugar coating here, I remember the tears and fears.

She is a riot. Speaking the truth through and through. So bright and brave. My new hero. Thank you, thank you. We all can learn so much from her. Namaste.

@speakingfingersnetwork

Жыл бұрын

👌@riot 🤣🙈☺️

Vishen you must bring her back again soon. I haven't laughed this hard in a long time. I love her insight.

@MindvalleyTalks

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot for your comment. Keep with us.

@amandarussick1680

3 жыл бұрын

I’m not a parent though I could not agree with this more. Very insightful interpretations for deep reflection.

@israelsaka7678

3 жыл бұрын

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@adventago

3 жыл бұрын

​@@amandarussick1680 Same

@dsdev405

2 жыл бұрын

I agree!!! real world insights

Wow, the intelligence in this lady is just gushing out of her every pore. Impressive insight.

I agree with her on most things and it was eye opening on some issues. But being a practicing Muslim and planning to raise my child on the same belief, my faith has taught me two amazing things: My child doesn't belong to me. He has his own life. Secondly over worrying about your children's future and survival. It is fundamental in Islam to believe in pre-destination and not killing yourself over past mistakes and take the future as it comes. Also it is against religion to complain about your child, about how he/she is as God bestowed them upon you. Accept the reality. You don't get what you want but what you need.

@noodlepoodlegirl

Жыл бұрын

that’s really beautiful. I don’t know much about the Muslim faith, but these points that you’ve mentioned ring not only true in my heart, but makes sense because being selfless, having faith and getting what one needs is important and healthy! Thank you for sharing this comment, a beautiful testament to your faith.

@lovleen00

Жыл бұрын

@@noodlepoodlegirl you are welcome my dear♥️

While listening to this all I see is my daughter’s face at different reactions from me, how she knows that I am going to react like this and she cries at her deed without me even being mad. I am hearing her words like ‘mom I am still learing. I am 5, not a grown up’. Really feel like breaking free of all these pressures of outside world on these beautiful hearts. I hope I could do that with her and her little brothers too!!! It was very enlightening ❤️

Wow, her views are so clear. Around 3 rd grade I noticed my daughter was developing OCD along with severe anxieties. Her grades were becoming everything, and I was terrified that she is going to inherit her dad's anxiety problems. We started meditation and talks about spirituality, life without form, and stated forming her idea of a soul. 3 years later I have really good results. And today I found this amazing woman. I agree wholeheartedly with everything she says. I think I might visit her in NYC. Her point starting 5:45 just so, so correct.

@MindvalleyTalks

4 жыл бұрын

We are happy this has touched you. Thank you for your comment.

Love what she said about religion. The world still isn’t ready for her. 🙌🏽

Excellent point. Tyrannical punishment is laziness when compared to being responsible for creating authentic connection and creative solutions. I'm grateful for my children who insisted I let go of my pride in how they show up. When I finally succumbed to letting the ego go at least in that tiny realm, it has become such a rich experience loving my NJ ow in grown children no matter what

This is mindblowing. Completely eye opening. She is unapologetically dropping truthbombs. I needed this when I was young. I will not repeat these ways.

@MindvalleyTalks

4 жыл бұрын

It is really rewarding to see people deeply appreciating this talk. Thanks a lot.

Man oh man, is she brilliant. WOW. The way she can answer these questions so readily and with such passion and humility!!! Amazing.

I think that if you are on this glorious inter-web, flipping through and either watching this video on purpose or happened upon it, you’re a good parent. Good parents are self reflective, they’re thoughtful, they seek education to better themselves for their children. And so I highly suspect that for everybody that is here watching and leaving comments, you’re already a great parent! Now give yourself a hug, then go give your little (or big) ones a hug!

Every parent needs to listen to this, I see what I'm doing wrong.

@timkalove5516

3 жыл бұрын

You’re not. You had to do and have to do what is needed for your and your children’s learning so far. The mistakes are part of the path. Now you incorporate with the new knowledge you have. It’s all perfect ❤️

Gosh! I am gonna share this and dare all my peers to hear this conversation. What a roller coster ride!? You should create multiple snippets of 3-5 min from this talk coz there are so many such powerful lessons.. Thank you Vishen & Shefali for daring us to challenge our own beliefs and assumptions about parenting...

@MindvalleyTalks

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot for your support. Thanks for watching it.

God I just love hearing her talk. She is so honest, it’s really so refreshing

@MindvalleyTalks

4 жыл бұрын

@Joshua, It is really rewarding to see people deeply appreciating this talk. Thanks a lot.

I completely totally agree with what she says about schooling and the grades in our education system are complete BS. She’s completely right. I started getting anxiety when I went to public school because of the testing system that they do and before hand I had no anxiety when I went to a music and arts school because they tested in a completely different way I just want to say again she is completely right. I hope more people get to hear what she has to say. Please share this with everyone you know.She is really amazing so brilliant I pray many many more of us will get to hear that her wisdom thank you so much

I almost cried and laughed... For all my mistakes about the parenting I have been doing....

I really love how she approached the topic of religion and passing on religion. I was born into a home that followed a religion. However, my parents allowed me the freedom to choose. For that I am grateful. Even though this religion was well intentioned, i learned and had to accept that it was now holding me back from discovering my authentic self. When I stepped outside the box of religion my heart and mind opened up and I was able to awaken. She approached this topic with grace and clarity. Well done!

Crash all expectations...embrace the child you have with eyes 👀 unveiled 🙏 thank you Dr for this ongoing learning experience

This is awesome. I understand what she is saying. I am on my own conscious journey with guiding my daughters in life. I once was controlling and wanted to make sure that my daughters would turn out to be perfect but now I just share life with them and watch them become themselves.

@amandayee906

4 ай бұрын

Why do u want them 2 be perfect in the first place that’s stupid just leave them alone and be happy no matter what the outcome because children r not pets pets need u constantly even as they grow up human children don’t

Her clarity, her openness and honesty are refreshing. She's very relatable and easy to follow. Keep doing what you are doing

2nd to life experience, pain, etc The best wisdom always comes with those whom have the Best sense of humour.

Really love the chalk and cheese nature of Vishen whose cringeworthy questions epitomise unconscious parenting, and Shefali's responses pointing out just some of the features of his questions that show the unconscious 'me' statements in his questions. There is a strong case for the need for conscious parenting courses, and a transformation of our 'form-based' schooling system, to include consciousness in the classroom to develop consciousness in children.

It is not about being GREAT is about doing the correct upbringing to your children.

I Love her so much! My husband & I saw her live in Vancouver BC for a Conscious Parenting event. So insightful & inspiring 💜 Please come back 🙏

@MindvalleyTalks

4 жыл бұрын

We are happy this has touched you. Thank you for your comment.

This is a paradigm changing talk! 😮😮😮

Dr.Shefali has given me the vision of the kind of women I would like to have in my life. Thank you and God bless you 🙏

@nixodian

3 жыл бұрын

idress2one Luke 14:26 "If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters--yes, even their own life--such a person cannot be my disciple.

Thank you thank you Lord. This morning I had argue with my 12 yo and I Closed door and cried and while crying I asked God to show me what to do,and I fall asleep when I woke up,I find this link on my social network page..I am so excited! My parenting is exactly as Dr says...I am gonna Change now..thanks for uploading this 😍😘😘😘😘 Edited: First video in KZread I watched with my full attention that is more than 1 hour long 😍😍

@nixodian

3 жыл бұрын

Kach _ Luke 14:26 "If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters--yes, even their own life--such a person cannot be my disciple.

By far the greatest talk I heard I love u Dr Shefali!!!! Stay blessed❤❤

Wow wow...and I thought I was crazy for being like this. I've been called all kind of names "bad parent" for trying to grow my kids like this. Sometimes I even second guess myself and start to go to form...wow thank you

Way ahead of most Americans. This truth is going to be interesting to implement.

Was this a comedy show or an informative how to be a good parent show, but I got the benefits of both, thank you so much to her and you too the interviewer... You both had good humor and it all went smooth. Much appreciated.

Literally all my values in one talk by one amazing soul/woman❤️

@MindvalleyTalks

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot! We are so glad to know that.

So so so powerful, so insightful, so beautiful, so empowering, so true. In immense gratitude to get to hear such inspiring speech, a big thank you to you vishen whom I discovered thanks to your massive advertisement on KZread, you really got my attention and I see such a beautiful job you do for yourself and for all the people you try to reach out to. How beautiful and inspiring are the encounters you've made! So thankful to have found mindvalley. I have a great wish to enroll 'to ' lifebook'' and "wildfit''. But I don't work right now and intend to homeschool so I don't have any income, hence no personal money to invest. But I hope to manage soon enough. And meanwhile I benefit from all the free content 😌👌 enormous thank you. And yeah I found super interesting the class she proposed for the next day! Waw! I'm in love! 💕

@MindvalleyTalks

4 жыл бұрын

Totally agree...that’s an awesome insight - thanks for sharing it with us.

How I love her! She is great woman with lots of wisdom and so funny! Makes her so adorable! ❤

Love Dr. Shefali!!! She gets it!

You are a brave woman thank you very much I am just speechless at how brilliant and courageous that was thank you so much

Thank you! Dr. Shefali👏🏻

Definitely, agree on most of the things she says. Our ego isn't the devil or root cause of negative experiences. Our ego is the driver of our car these days and we need to put the ego in the passenger seat and open a bottle of beer, share it with our ego and have a great time together. Trying to kick the ego out of the car isn't gonna help. Light only isn't gonna help. Darkness only isn't gonna help. Collaboration is what we should aim for. A quick example: when a kid throws their socks randomly around the house, maybe instead of trying to ignore it and keep calm, we could ask them politely not to do it and explain to them that we as parents are trying to keep the house clean and tidy which is a lot of effort and when they keep it messy - it shows disrespect to parents' efforts.

I laughed so hard when she got to the daily reset as a mom. I´ve observed how our doggie is intuitively present and accepting of our kids while I´ve had to keep reminding myself to be all there. Humans need to be taught everything, but animals just know how to parent.

Amazing!! This good doctor has many nuggets of wisdom and delivered with such humor. I absolutely love her honesty!

Hats off to this lady OMG just brilliant 👏👏👏

This is so helpful listening to Dr Shefali-im getting anxiety from all the insanity, seriously- I’ll have to now look at different ways on how to respond to teachers complaints from now on 🙏🌹💫👼😮

The greatest takeaway here is that our children are already emodiements of the Divine in a process of unfoldening and in their own self awakening

I must've needed this because Im tearing up before she started speaking. Thank you MindValley for this amazing talk.

Outstanding!!! Continue Forward!!! Love her🙏🏽

She is wonderful. I had things to do in my day, but I couldn’t go. I was Locked into listening to her wisdom . Thank you Shefali.

@MindvalleyTalks

4 жыл бұрын

It is really rewarding to see people deeply appreciating this talk. Thanks a lot.

Dr Shafali speaks a lot of truth ..... it’s what I’ve always thought... parents want to mould their children.. she’s wonderful in being the person to speak what’s real

@MindvalleyTalks

4 жыл бұрын

We are happy this has touched you. Thank you for your comment.

Wow! I am amazed by her way of speaking and answering. She nailed it! Thank you DR Shefali!

Powerful speech with massive messages delivered in such a brilliant way. Amazing. Thank you!

She never fails to bring new light of understanding to my life. Namaste beautiful people x

Thats so lovely to listen dr shefali everytime. I need to be a good parent for my kids.

@MindvalleyTalks

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot for your appreciation.

Our identity can not be affixed the things outside ❤

This is the third interview with this woman and I am still scratching my head. I am guessing I am not the parent she is trying to reach because I can't really grasp her point. She seems all over the place. For me she seems more absorbed with being an expert at something that really having something to impart. I didn't come away from this being a better parent or understanding great parenting and she contradicts herself to often so know where she stands and what it is she is truly trying to impart. Here is advice from someone who has been a parent for a long time, who doesn't care about grades, homework, bed time, keeping a kid super busy, making sure they are in sports, nor am I a parent who is purposefully trying to mold or un mold my kids. I am not preparing them for how harsh the real world can be, or how they will have to submit to our current culture, I am not teaching them to fight a system. I am just doing what I am suppose to do (I think) keep them fed, warm, loved, make sure that I can help answer questions they have as honestly and as accurately as I can. I try to give them a home that feels safe, opportunities if they want them, a western education because it is the law, a public education because it isn't that much different than anything else really. I celebrate the things that are important to them, and I try to guide them the best I can in regards to things that I think are important like respecting others, being good to yourself, honoring your gifts, eating well, getting enough sleep, being safe. I will fail a million times, I will pick my parenting apart and cry over it, my kids will end up in a therapists office complaining about a million other things even I wasn't aware of. When they have kids they will do it different (or at least they think they will) and still we will all sit down together to dinner and be a family, imperfect, loud, wrong, right, a little crazy and it will be ok. It doesn't have to be anything else.

@msyxtyx

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. I will be a FTM and honestly I'm scared but certain I will be alright.

@gabriellsbaby

5 жыл бұрын

@@msyxtyx you will be great, follow your OWN instincts.

@rockjockchick

4 жыл бұрын

Máeshoua do the best you can always striving to be kind to your children while teaching them and you’ll do ok. And always learning new ways, tips ideas etc will help. Look into Mary Kurcinka’s books too :). Very useful.

@sourpickles7198

4 жыл бұрын

I couldn't agree more. This woman seems to be oblivious to the fact that she is going to do nothing but outsmart herself. Her poor kid is going to be institutionalized one day as he agonizes over the form and the formless. Very nice hair though.

@Amandahugginkizz

4 жыл бұрын

Hahaha I was going through reading the comments and saw yours (as your thoughts about her are exactly what I was thinking !) And then looked at your name and realized hey your my fav reborn artist and i love your videos! Crazy to see your comment on this video on the huge neverending internet!

I'm so grateful for this message

Great, beautiful, gifted very spiritual and so right young lady. It is great to listen to Dr. Shefali.

I was never a strict parent, but my hubby was. I’m not saying that I never made mistakes. I felt judged from my family. I feel validated now.

@gunnikr

Жыл бұрын

What inner talk did you do to not get sucked in?

Dr Shefali You are the best, wish you were around 30 years ago , my children (and me) and husband would have had a better life

Wow. This is incredible…. Thank you to Shefali and Vishen …. So much was so eye opening. My greatest takeaway was about how They are here for My experience. I am embedded in form and they are here to help me release from that. I think when I listen again, more will sink in.

Listening to this conversation and feeling like waking my 4year old daughter. I feel like i have been too tough on her, yet she is going through so much to dopt in the changes our lives are going through. Separation and now a baby brother.oh universe guide me to conscious parenting.😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

This is the damage done.... I love this, I've always been so focused on not messing my children up that knowingvive already messed them up has taken so much pressure off of me! I've messed them up so now I can just enjoy them ❤ absolutely love this talk, thank you so so much

So good! My anxieties was about grade!! Thank you so much for reminding me about what they want not me😍👏🏾

And also being creative with my answers for what their level of consciousness is ready for. I really liked that because I have been really torn between what to do. To lie or to share what I think is appropriate

Smart dosent even begin to describe this woman, thank God I found her on You Tube !

THANK YOU!!!!!

I love the part about religion, realizing I was atheist helped me not only free myself but my daughter in effect.

@nixodian

3 жыл бұрын

Gh0stNoName Luke 14:26 "If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters--yes, even their own life--such a person cannot be my disciple.

Thank you!

Wow I've never hear anything like this, she is brilliant

@MindvalleyTalks

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot for your compliment.

Agreed with her truely.. surely will practice her practice.. last few days my mind impulsing to watch listen her.. So glad to watch n listen her.. this session over here.. I wanted to take out time to watch some of her sessions.. I will watch others later..

My biggest blessing from the devine is my youngest son. I just helped him with his ways and interests and believe me he is the most amazing thing i have ever encountered in my life. He totally helped me evolve. He has totally been the biggest blessing i could ever imagine. And then i lost my wife and he lost his mother 11 years ago to cancer and after a brief battle he became the best friend i could ever imagine. And i picked him out before he was born. At a really bad time in my life. He was every thing i ask for. To a tea.

@brentlacy6354

3 жыл бұрын

I didn't lead him he just followed and became the other me but so far above with talent and intelligence. He has an i q that is like well they said it was the highest that any one ever scored. They sad he could go to kent state register and every big company in the world would hire and support his education but he looked at me and said dad that's not what i want to do. I said ok. So im an archeologist independent so he goes digging collecting fishing Kya cing and so i have always been an investor in in houses and antiques. So is he now. He is also a unbelievable. Artist. In guitar and vocals. But he is afraid to play for people or crowds i mean no joke he is one of the best in the world and i want to help him but i don't know how. I want to see him help people and get the recognition he deserves but i fell helpless . . he is better than a lot a hole lot of the top guitarists and vocalist on earth. And hes always trying and doing things for me. And i try to by him something or give him money and he says no dad you did so much for me i not to do that. But i told him he might be a man now but he is still my son and a father has a right to give to his son. Well that part did work. But im so stuck on how to help him over come him not wanting to perform i fell soooo helpless.

This was simply awesome. You both are beautiful souls. Thank you for blessing the world.

I love shefali , just amazing she is

What a beautiful question thank you so much that was amazing and brave of you to ask that

The most amazing thought-provoking talk i have ever listened ... Thank you, Dr. Shefali, for telling us about the kids in us and i do agree that we bring up the child in us in our child.... i have done the same way too ... wil listen again to this video ... i am so touched!!

@MindvalleyTalks

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your positive comment. We are happy that Dr. Shefali's speech has touched you in some way. Thanks, Karuna for the support and love.

I love this talk ! Her knowledge her humor and his questions, such an awesome duo ! This was life changing !

Omg I so resonate with your children showing you why you are so attached.

@MindvalleyTalks

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot!

totally resonate with you Shefali xx

We have teenagers and I needed this message. Thank you!

23:00 - Amazing Narration!

I LOVE THIS WOMAN!

Best of the BEST .. PARENTING TALK i ever witness .. so Helpful and useful. Dr Shefali explained it beautifully ... filled with extraordinary words of wisdom and teaching .... 👍🙏🌟🌷💖

@MindvalleyTalks

4 жыл бұрын

We are happy this has touched you. Thank you for your comment.

Wow, such wisdom, I LOVED listening to Dr. Shefali, thank you for sharing your wisdom and experiences with humour and such professionalism. You're amazing!

@MindvalleyTalks

4 жыл бұрын

You’re very welcome! We love creating personal growth content that really helps people to live the lives they deserve.

Dr shifali you have blown it out of proportion love it 🥰 I’m sharing this just brilliant.

That was very interesting... I learn how to be a better parent to my children... I hope I am not too late 🤔💞💞💞

@rockjockchick

4 жыл бұрын

Rose Petal it is never too late. Even if they don’t respond right away. They still see it and it still effects them.

@MindvalleyTalks

4 жыл бұрын

We’re so glad! Thank you for your comment.

Wow, I love this. She says exactly what I feel and am afraid to say to others but especially myself, in fear of… I don’t know 🤷‍♂️ my own learned helplessness, and my need to control? Very powerful message!

Oh my goodness this talk is everything

She is hilarious and speaks truth! 😂💓

@MindvalleyTalks

4 жыл бұрын

We’re so glad! Thank you for your comment

I love u Vishen just started watching these video's on KZread although watched many intros on other videos excellent

Thank you 🤗 so much! The romance has ended with my children but there is now hope for my grandchildren lol Learned so much!

@MindvalleyTalks

4 жыл бұрын

Totally agree...that’s an awesome insight - thanks for sharing it with us.

This was outstanding! I adore Dr. Shefali and use her principles every day!! I use to think I couldn't do anything about it now, my kids are grown in their 30s but damn it applies ALWAYS!! with them and with my soon to be grandchild! I'm so grateful for her work! where could I find her deeper dive video she was going to do the next day? Bravo to you too Mindvalley! Thank you for sharing this. More people need to see this! Much love! Lucia

Oh I love it! I've done/do exactly this same thing!

Love her knowledge, willingness to laugh at herself and how she teaches us to lighten up , her effervescence is contagious , she makes me like my boys again jk 😂 Why are you so attached? Yes!!

Thank you for this conversation. Very insightful and love her humor :)

Thank you for your great work /wisdom :)

Absolutely amazing, totally blown away ♥️