I drank alcoholicly for 25 years. Lost a sister and a niece to cirrhosis. I'm ten years sober now, it was the best thing I have ever done. Thank God and AA.

@jeff7764

11 ай бұрын

I just hit 10 years in June! I wouldn’t trade the sober life for 5 billion dollars

@outdatedfarmequipment2702

11 ай бұрын

Alcohol is a nasty drug and should be banned full stop.

@PutTheShovelDown

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this! Other people need to hear that how life gets better after you quit alcohol.

@PutTheShovelDown

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing that. I hope lots of people read this comment and realize life is BETTER without alcohol!

@kennithminnich

11 ай бұрын

@@outdatedfarmequipment2702 lol..we tried that in the 1920s. Read your history books.

I’m 69 and have been a drinker since my late teens, sometimes heavily, mostly beer and wine. Was generally feeling rubbish, constant acid reflux and hadn’t enjoyed drinking for a long time. Rightly or wrongly I just decided to stop completely and haven’t touched a drop in nearly five months. It’s not been easy and I still get cravings but the benefits are acid reflux has completely gone, am losing weight, sleep better, brain fog is a thing of the past and I have far more energy. Needless to say I have additional money that I spend on things I really enjoy doing. It’s never too late to stop 👍

@PutTheShovelDown

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing that Janashton! We need to hear the benefits of giving up alcohol.

@lesliepropheter5040

11 ай бұрын

My three roommates drank and did cocaine just about every night for ten years that I was there. One killed himself and the other two wouldn’t go to his funeral because his relatives blamed them. Both of them were married, they both developed diabetes. When the doctor told the husband (beer) his liver was getting ‘fatty’ he switched to wine. The wife (hard stuff) was in the hospital for two weeks, 100lb water taken off. They both lived for at least five years after that. I eventually couldn’t understand the wife when she called me on the phone. These were friends from highschool, they are all dead now, we’re in their 50’s. Each one died horribly from alcohol and No good looking corpses. I miss them, they were good people but animals didn’t stand a chance in their house.

@ianashton1593

11 ай бұрын

@@PutTheShovelDown Am in the UK and drinking is a big part of the culture here which can make it difficult to stop. You get a lot of pressure to drink and people think there is something wrong with you if you don’t get hammered at a social gathering. Seeing people drunk when you are sober has just been another incentive to quit. Fortunately, my wife is teetotal which has also helped. So far only benefits and I have no intention of starting again.

@isaach5489

11 ай бұрын

I'm in the same boat but 20 years younger. I started when I was in late teens. Drink beer every other night (6pk). I still drink that way. Did you also cut out other things like carbs or bread to get rid of acid reflux?

@thehealthylife5715

11 ай бұрын

​@@lesliepropheter5040dam that's rough. Rip to them. My friends are party animals also and we enjoy drinking and doing coke sometimes. I hope as the year's go on they settle down abit myself included

First, a man takes a drink, then, the drink takes the man😢

@norasouto8152

2 ай бұрын

So very true !!!!

@NIcolaCattley

2 ай бұрын

Eye doctor my name is Nicole open Pandora company future videos for Christmas lights in our country please schedule. Phone conversation with you personally to see what kind of help to pay help me get resistance with in my area I'm suffering from cocaine and alcohol addiction it is out of control

@Ricky-mouser

2 ай бұрын

The way I heard it was "a man takes a drink, then the drink takes a drink, then the drink takes the man"

@Shamoomusic

Ай бұрын

Doctor Sleep

Just celebrated 37 years sober. No way would I be doing extreme mountain biking at 68 had I not quit. Choices, choices, choices.

@bcatblues725

11 ай бұрын

Absolutely. It’s the choices we make.

@BigBadJerryRogers

Ай бұрын

I'll definitely take the alcohol, you're going to need something stronger like pain pills if you take a spill off that bike at your age and that's if you're lucky.

@bert454

22 күн бұрын

​@@BigBadJerryRogersYou've completely missed the point.

My sister passed away in April due to end stage alcoholism. She was 34 yeara old, beautiful and extremely intelligent. Such a devastatingly sad waste of life.

@sandybuttler1203

Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry. My boyfriend is 33 going through this right now. We are separated and he moved a 23 year old hobo in. He isn't the same- He's violent and aggressive. I don't feel safe around him.

@thadlm2698

11 ай бұрын

I’m sorry about your loss🙏🏿.

@paulinemanifold436

11 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry I understand completely Lost my sister too. She was 48 it's been 2&half yrs & I still cry over her .

@reddiver7293

11 ай бұрын

That is tragic. I am sorry for your loss. May she RIP

@lorettanericcio-bohlman567

11 ай бұрын

Many alcoholics are some of the nicest, funniest people I’ve ever known. And lost.

Haven't drank in 4 years. Best decision ever made. My son is a medical doctor. He shared with me all the terrible things alcohol abuse does. No thank you.

I've been clean for over a month but I like searching for videos like these to reinforce my decision to quit if I ever feel a craving or if I see it glamorized and normalized in the media

@PutTheShovelDown

2 ай бұрын

That's very wise, David. It keeps you focused!

@mrmensa1096

22 күн бұрын

Well Done David - Stay Strong brother !!

@andrewjohnson8986

9 күн бұрын

Try Baclofen ,,i take it daily after a while it takes away the cravings,,aparently its side effect of Baclofen

Got sober in 1988. Drs said I had about 2mos to go. Congrats to everyone who's gotten better 🤙🏼

I'm 54, and I drank heavily for 21 years. It's a terrible way to live. I'm eleven years sober, and I'm still picking up the pieces. It can be done, with faith, and goals to achieve a happy and healthy existence.

@mhmorris2018

9 ай бұрын

Happy Birthday ❤️

@strawberryxstarlight

7 ай бұрын

my aunt just passed at 55 from liver failure complications.... you made the right choice so many times over. bless you and your sobriety.

@scottstarnes414

2 ай бұрын

Amen brother I went 7 months sober after drinking heavily for 24 years and fell off the wagon I’m back on the wagon and it’s been 8 days since my last drink I’m gonna stick with it this time you just feel soo much better the benefits out weigh

I have 28 months sober. This is the longest I've ever gone without drinking.

@gizzykatkat9687

2 ай бұрын

I'm so happy for you, keep it up, it's so worth it.

@tgoods5049

2 ай бұрын

Nice work stay strong.

@houndmother2398

2 ай бұрын

Keep up the good work.

@justsayin7704

2 ай бұрын

Stay the course my friend. This fight you will win can only be done by you, for you! No one else can do it for you but NO ONE CAN TAKE YOUR WIN AWAY FROM YOU! It will always be yours, no one else's! Good luck to you, fight the good fight. I know. I've been there. For 23 years now. You can win!

@gizzykatkat9687

2 ай бұрын

Isn't it wonderful? I'm 5 months sober and I love it, no more craziness, better sleep, better relationships, MORE MONEY and just a over all feeling of wellness.

Both of my parents died of alcoholism. I found my father dead when I was seven and then watched my mother die of liver failure at the age of 28. It's a terrible disease and a terrible thing to watch I'm glad I've been sober for years now❤

@sflspotter6638

11 ай бұрын

My grandparents drank themselves to death. First my grandfather one day and my grandmother the next. My neighbor who I actually looked up to drank himself to death too. My in laws basically died from alcohol abuse and now my wife.

@juliaparsons5714

11 ай бұрын

@@sflspotter6638 I'm so sorry.

@utahboxergirl11

11 ай бұрын

@@sflspotter6638 wow that's rough. I'm so sorry I hope you are taking care of yourself. My husband still drinks I hope he doesn't die from it

@sflspotter6638

11 ай бұрын

@@juliaparsons5714 thanks there’s nothing I can do. She don’t want help and it’s heartbreaking. But I have to move on I’m 52 years old. Oh and by the way I’m sober got tired of watching her get drunk. I was a social drinker. But drank heavily younger days so I get it.

@sflspotter6638

11 ай бұрын

@@utahboxergirl11 I appreciate it yeah I’m coping. It’s hard at times but, thankfully she isn’t here. She I guess is living with her addict BF. All she has is a bag of cloths just like him. You be well and I hope your husband wakes up like my wife. If not you know what to do it’s tough but.

After 2.5 heart attacks and an acute kidney injury I finally quit drinking. I have 78 days of sobriety I share these videos with others in the hopes that they will quit killing themselves. Alcohol is toxic to every cell in the human body. Thank you AA Dann

@prestonlard7687

2 ай бұрын

Good for you keep strong and you should be proud of yourself I am in your corner

@thomcarr7021

Ай бұрын

I was a drunk for 22 years and now sober for 31. I can assure you the first year for me was a struggle. These days when I wake up I am so thankful for a clear mind. It is the most important part of my life.

I almost died before I was 30 from alcoholism. For years i told myself I was "too young" to have a serious problem. It wasn't until I spent nearly two years completely physically dependent that I realized I needed to stop. One seizure and a 48 hour coma later, I've managed to stay sober for 11 years. Alcohol is no joke and young drinkers should listen to this video.

@duanedurkan3565

Жыл бұрын

Good on you man. Keep up the good work. 👍😊

@rambobrown918

11 ай бұрын

My story is very much the same, I'd been drinking heavy since i was 13 and in 2014 at the age of 57 after months of shaking and being sick with nothing to bring up. The final straw was when i was bringing up blood and rushed to hospital where i stayed and had a blood vessel clipped and diagnosed with liver cirrhosis but have survived. Never touched another drop of alcohol since and feel so much better.

@marctrottier8232

11 ай бұрын

i am 64 and still drinking lots of beers and riding my bike 20k almost every day , life is glorious !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@johnnylebay2059

11 ай бұрын

I feel you, man. I'm 25 now and haven't missed a day of drinking in 8 years. For the last couple of years it's been half a galoon of liquor a day or a gallon and a half of wine. I always though there was no way any real consequences would appear before I was 30 or 35 but now my brain is fried, my stomach is so messed up that I can hardly ever eat, my heart rate is ridiculously high and I'm basically useless since I can't even think without a drink in front of me. Alcohol has given me an incredible amount of happiness in my life but it has now come to collect dues.

@rambobrown918

11 ай бұрын

@@marctrottier8232 Enjoy while you can but look out for the signs like feeling sick, being sick with nothing but wretching. And feeling of weakness in your legs. If you get black poo get your arse up the A&E pronto. Good luck take it easy 👍

Agree with everything you say. My 36 year old son died of alcoholism eight years ago. We did everything we could to help him but the addiction was stronger. We still cry today.

@PutTheShovelDown

11 ай бұрын

Sending you love and prayers 💖🙏🏻

@sammymoore2430

11 ай бұрын

I live with an alcoholic 10 years. I've lost everything coz of him. Can't do this anymore

@doubleplusgoodthinker9434

11 ай бұрын

@@sammymoore2430 My wife and I really feel for you. After 10 years we are surprised that he is still alive.❤❤

@sammymoore2430

11 ай бұрын

@doubleplusgoodthinker9434 he's 51 and been drinking most of his life. He actually manages to work. Than, you for your reply

@lorettanericcio-bohlman567

11 ай бұрын

Saddest part is realizing they will bring you down while you’re trying to be supportive.

I’m 42 and I have been an alcoholic since I was 15, on top of that I became and addict. The amount of time and money I wasted is immeasurable. I have been clean/sober for 567 days, when I stopped using I get diagnosed with schizophrenia and had been hiding from myself this whole time

I fell in love with an alcoholic and, I had to walk away. Hardest thing, I ever had to do.

@mandyharrison3799

8 ай бұрын

You did the right thing. Sometimes you can't help people. They need to take responsibility. I know it's not so simple though.

@wallytidwell1439

3 ай бұрын

@Dustypa66 yes she was a narcissist as well.

@marycreagh9786

2 ай бұрын

I had to walk away too many years ago it was very hard..35 yrs later and he’s still the same!

@colleentierney5573

2 ай бұрын

I too married a alcoholic, my high school sweetheart, we reacquainted years after high school and married in our early 50's. Hardest thing I EVER did was to walk away!! Unfortunately one side of him was my soul mate, the other side a raging alcoholic. Our biggest argument during our marriage was that he insisted he could be a functional alcoholic, said I was stupid and didn't know anything, even though I've been in healthcare 30 years and have seen the outcome of endstage alcoholic disease on medical hospital floors. Sad to say he died 2020, they pumped 22 liters of fluid just off his stomach. Once those type of symptoms start, the damage usually isn't reversible. 😢

@BigBadJerryRogers

Ай бұрын

Of course you had to walk away, you couldn't have that drunk drive you. I guess you could have called an Uber.

I haven't had a drink in a little over 2 yrs...longest I've ever had clean...2 years free from booze and heroin.... I'm a 3rd generation alcoholic...my grandfather immigrated from Italy and was an alcoholic, my father was as well. He died at 50 from cirrhosis...I'm gonna love for my son. I hope anyone struggling gets help. God bless you all.

@PutTheShovelDown

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing that with us, Briand

@claredouglass6018

3 ай бұрын

Good luck, I am a teetotaller and this is probably the safest path if you have these problems. 🤞

My brother died from pancreatitis aged 52 and you are so right. He thought alcohol was his friend but it turned out to be his worst enemy. It took everything from him and the end was awful, he was in debt, he had lost all his respect and relationships, including the one with me. He looked 80, he died in severe pain, alone, and I miss him terribly, our mother never got over his death either. So many people wanted to help him and tried to save him throughout his life, but he needed to want to save himself.

@karentaylor4980

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing this, because I lost my brother June 20, 2023. I last spoke with him directly that Sunday. We texted Monday the 19th, our dad got a call Tuesday evening he was found home alone slumped over in his bed. He was 45. We couldn't persuade him to go to treatment. He was having stomach issues, had lost a lot of weight, looked well into his 50's, was having seizures causing emergency room visits. He many arrests for Dui's, dwi's. His driving privileges were suspended yet he ran off the road into a ditch (2020) ultimately driving through 3 backyards causing damage. He nearly hit 2 little girls playing in their backyard. He had to be airlifted due to extreme shoulder and arm trauma. He turned 45 late 2021 and his so called friends through him a party with a stripper pole and strippers in his house. Two days later he was rushed to er and placed in icu. He was transferred a week later closer to family and placed in a medically induced coma. I believe this was withdrawal purposes. Oh, we found out then he had no alcohol in his system, but + for cocaine. A real heartbreaking moment, we never knew he started this. Afterwards 2 weeks in rehab for therapy, opted out of alcohol or substance abuse treatment. Found out April 2023 he had acute alcohol pancreatitis. According to his death certificate he died from cardiac pulmonary arrest due to seizures, obstructive sleep apnea, and acute pancreatitis. I just don't understand why he didn't want treatment. He always said you only live once. I just don't understand.

@Fancyfox24

2 ай бұрын

@@karentaylor4980 My brother had been found by his teenage daughter at the bottom of the stairs a few weeks before his death and was admitted to hospital. They tried to persuade him to go straight to a rehab centre on discharge and were arranging it for him whilst he was being patched up and treated. He left the hospital early rather than do that. I’m so sorry about your brother, it’s such a waste, so much heartbreak. My niece said she took comfort from him being out of pain, but it seemed mostly of his own causing, and he left so much pain behind x

About to hit 10 years sober 😢 thank you for your valuable time and effort 🎉and helping the society 👏

@PutTheShovelDown

11 ай бұрын

Congrats!! 🎉🎉🎉

@gregwilk9951

Ай бұрын

Same here. 9 1/2 years sober. Went from living under the bridge to driving over the bridge with a new car. Not easy but totally possible.

All of this is true. It’s a horrible experience. I’m a survivor, 5 years sober.

My dad is 65 and has been an alcoholic for a long time. He’s had 3 seizures and can’t stop drinking due to his mother’s recent death. He drank 2 entire rum bottles yesterday and I just don’t know how much longer his body will be able to take it. He doesn’t want any help and just wants to pity himself and wallow in his depression. Needless to say I’m really scared I’m going to lose my dad soon.

@lilliankeane5731

11 ай бұрын

He should be thinking of you dear. 😢

@lorettanericcio-bohlman567

11 ай бұрын

Alcoholics are entirely about being a victim to justify drinking. Please take care of yourself 💐

@samanthab5757

7 ай бұрын

Just lost my dad to alcoholism. He was 65. I know he suffered from anxiety and depression but couldn’t ever get him to treat himself the right away. It’s so awful

@ursulapareja9633

6 ай бұрын

Please get help for yourself, as much as you love your dad you can't save him and he is the one who is supposed to be there for you.As parents we don't have the right to destroy ourselves no matter what.I went thru this myself lost both of my parents a brother.❤ Look to heal yourself first.

@UnderwaterJohn-fn7jg

2 ай бұрын

​@lorettanericcio-bohlman567 Not true I'm an alcoholic and don't see myself as a victim at all. I choose to drink.

Ireland has a very serious drinking culture and it costs lives. My lovely , talented, funny and handsome big brother's life at 54 for one. A long stay in hospital with brain malfunction , severe pneumonia , malnutrition and the threat of being signed into a nursing home didn't stop him. His brain did reboot but he was left with ataxia nerve damage to his legs which left him barely mobile. Granted he tried. He really tried but just couldn't do it long term. I found him dead in his unkempt flat one morning looking like an 80 year old. A man once so proud and fussy about his clothes and polished shoes looked like a down and out tramp. Cause of death a massive hemorrhage of varices on his oesophagus from drinking cider continuously without eating anything. I tried to help him I really tried but he didn't want to live enough. Looking back now I would definitely say he had Dyslexia, may have been on the Autism Spectrum and had Mental Health issues which eventually manifested as Schizophrenia. Undiagnosed with anything because we lived in an era where a student struggling was deemed "thick " or a bit slow and just left behind , and where men who didn't feel ok were under pressure to just get on with it or be seen as weak. I believe there are many of us born with addictive personalities ( my own is chocolate centred ) and it is easy to fall victim to a seemingly harmless and fun way to unwind such as alcohol until it takes over your life and the cravings are painful. I believe a huge proportion of those with addictions are also suffering from inner pain and turmoil and the drug of choice becomes the only way they know how to self medicate and numb that pain. Please do not judge these people too harshly. Remember the reasons why we once loved them dearly before they became lost. Try to get them the help but also remember the choice is still theirs to make and hard though it is sometimes we just have to accept their choice and let them go. I miss my brother every single day but I realise that he did the best he could with the cards life had dealt him.

@sphenoidjjj

3 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing that. That was really deep and heartfelt, sorry about your brother 🙏. You speak the truth, I hope everybody can overcome their addictions and get the help that they need. People should not be so quick to judge people with addictions, as you have mentioned usually there is some underlying cause.

@allen8626

2 ай бұрын

I hear you...

My sister passed last year from chronic alcoholism. At the end, she was living in a broken down trailer in squalor, just laying on a bed with no sheets drinking herself to death. It was so heartbreaking but there was nothing I could do. 😢

@learnenglish699

Жыл бұрын

sorry to hear this, can u tell me why she was drinking that much?

@karpfl9237

Жыл бұрын

@@learnenglish699 I’m sure some of it was hereditary, my dad had a brother who died on the side of the road. She was 63 and it started when she was a teenager. What’s really sad is she was super smart, got super high scores in the ACT, got a scholarship and threw it all away cause she wanted to be “cool” and party.

@learnenglish699

Жыл бұрын

@@karpfl9237 i want to talk to you , how can i ?

@Asher22222

Жыл бұрын

@@karpfl9237 So sad. I’m afraid my BF is headed down the same path. I’m sorry for your loss. Prayers for peace.

@jcimsn8464

Жыл бұрын

One of my best friends killed herself with alcohol last year at 54, Sending love

Many alcoholics die by falling down too. It's a terrible affliction and God help anyone going through it.

@mjp96

3 ай бұрын

I almost died that way due to alcohol and Xanax. Fell down my brother's stairs and had a traumatic brain injury, at age 57.

@claredouglass6018

3 ай бұрын

Yes, beware as it is common to fall into a coma through excessive drinking. 💐

@10zeppcheeto

3 ай бұрын

Those that can't walk and chew gum should not drink 🤟

20 years sober here. I have buried former barroom acquaintances who died from alcoholism. But for the grace of God go I.

@patbrennan6572

11 ай бұрын

Does that mean God likes you more?

I finally realized what alcohol was doing to me and quit, best thing I ever did! I hope others can as well before it's too late.

@PutTheShovelDown

3 ай бұрын

🤩🤩💯💯💯💪🏻💪🏻

I quit drinking a couple years back. My goal was to take a month off, and I never went back. I've never felt happier about any decision I've ever made in my entire life. Now, the thought of alcohol or drinking makes my body cringe.

@PutTheShovelDown

11 ай бұрын

I absolutely love this! Once you realize how much better you feel without it, you realize that you don't want/need it anymore!

@UraTrowelie

11 ай бұрын

@PutTheShovelDown thank you for making this video and taking the time to respond! It's so very true. Your body and mind become dependent on the poison. If you're just able to break the cycle and escape the grips of alcohol, every single aspect of life will drastically improve. DRASTICALLY. To anyone out there struggling, please make today the day you take control of the alcohol. One day at a time. Make it through today. If you can make it one day, be proud of your success and try for another one. My father struggles with alcohol to this day. It's hard to watch. We buried my father in law earlier this year, alcoholism. 66 years old. He finally chose to quit drinking and told us all that he was ready to live a clean life. No alcohol, no cigarettes. Sadly, we all knew he would never get the opportunity. The next day, he was gone. Good luck to anyone out there trying. You can do it. RIP Steve.

@patbrennan6572

11 ай бұрын

My dad did it that way too only he decided to do it one day at a time, that was Dec of 19/70. In 2020 he was fifty years sober and died in may of 2022 at age 95. He had quit smoking for many years too.His first name was Bill but we called him Will Power.

@thomasshort1784

11 ай бұрын

​@@patbrennan6572Those choices (and the grace of God, obviously) are probably why he made it to 95.

Alcohol addiction actually destroyed my life for over 23 years. Also suffered severe depression and mental health issues. Not until my mom recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 4 years clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

@SusanaGomez-mp8sk

9 ай бұрын

Amen God bless people. Save your health save your mind. Life is better without alcohol and cigarettes.And you have more money in your pocket. God bless everyone who has rejected the devils intentions to be addicted to alcohol and cigarettes etc which can cause so much damage to health.

@laurj09

9 ай бұрын

I've been looking to try shrooms for Anxiety, just very difficult to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

@DonnHowes

9 ай бұрын

Yes very sure of Dr.benfungi

@DebanckKim-rd6to

9 ай бұрын

How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta

@rosemary8305

9 ай бұрын

Yes he's Dr.benfungi.Lsd and psilocybin are amazing teachers along its dmt mah dudes have safe trips all. Shrooms are blessings from nature.

I just got out of the hospital because of alcohol. I should be be dead but for some reason I'm still here. So many people I never met in my life pulled for me to get through

Everything she said on point. Married for 20 years and my husband died at age 43 of alcoholism. He was “fine,” working full time, felt sick after a summer trip with our church youth group, went to the ER and was admitted- he died 2 days later of acute liver failure. Denial on my part is also an illness. When we got married at the tender age of 23 we just wanted “ fun.” Well, we got it until we didn’t anymore

@angiep10

3 ай бұрын

Hope you are doing okay.

I had an uncle who died from acute cirrhosis of the liver. He was only 39, but he looked like 50. Alcoholism destroyed his marriage, business, reputation and finally took his life.

@PutTheShovelDown

11 ай бұрын

That's just hearbreaking 💔💔💔

My ex was an alcoholic. It was absolutely terrible. I finally had enough, packed up and left. Lost the job, house, driver’s license soon after. Still an alcoholic to this day. Have fun with that. Long goneeeee 👋

Excellent presentation! As an RN, I've seen alcoholics in all stages dealing with surgeries, end of life issues, cancers etc. When you hear "there are worse things than death", alcoholic cirrhosis has to be #1 for the most painful long and drawn out illness ever. There are lots of other physical events that can happen to hard core alcoholics. They will lose everything. It's a slow suicidal journey they're on. All the points made in the vid can also be made of anyone who abuses any other substance.

@PutTheShovelDown

11 ай бұрын

💯💯💯💯💯

My second husband was a so-called functional alcoholic. After we were married he admitted that he still plans to drink himself to death. We tried putting him in various rehab programs at least 4 times. They didn’t change his behavior. The last doctor told me that he has no intention to stop drinking. He likes telling his sob story of who abused him. The doctor said I had 2 choices. I can leave him before he drags me done with his choices or I can put up with the drinking and watch him die a prolonged nasty death. I chose to divorce him and create a different life for my self. He died about two years later.

@JamesG1126

11 ай бұрын

You don't throw away a spouse because it's not convenient for you. Thanks for telling your story. This is why men shouldn't get married.

@gregatkinson7276

11 ай бұрын

Dude, you are either Beavis or Butthead....which is it?! Or both. You must be a drunk yourself with that kind of "reasoning."@@JamesG1126

@ppiorkowski1502

11 ай бұрын

​@@JamesG1126I don't understand are you suggesting that @bettyboop3353 threw away her husband and that she should have stayed with him? If so that's extremely ignorant I'm sorry. And if she stayed with him throughout FOUR stints in rehab then it sounds like she's put up with a hell of a lot more than most people would , myself included and probably you as well. I'm sorry but it's not cool to pass judgement on ANYONE unless you've walked in their shoes.

@ppiorkowski1502

11 ай бұрын

​@@midwest1389she did the right thing by leaving him.

@ericconnor8419

11 ай бұрын

That was extremely cruel of the doctor, what happened to 'in sickness and in health'?

Will be 5 years sober next month. I was happier when I was drinking. We are not all success stories.

@Chris-cc6wj

10 ай бұрын

@@rogerdawson3675 - Honestly, I have Generalized Anxiety Disorder. It is either alcohol or Benzodiazepines for relief, and Xanax is the worst option in my opinion. I simply need help to to calm down 24/7. Relaxation techniques I've tried over the decades did not work.

@balanb312

8 ай бұрын

You are not alone.@@Chris-cc6wj

@k9khodi363

4 ай бұрын

That's success. ❤ People drink to avoid the pain of life. You are living reality AND still sober. That's awesome 👍

@shanemedlin9400

3 ай бұрын

I had a problem with alcohol starting around age 28. It destroyed my first marriage, my relationship with my daughter, and landed me in prison. I was sober for three years, enforced by the parole office. Started drinking again after that, and drank daily for 12 years, heavily. I was a functional alcoholic. But gradually I became less and less functional, and there came a point where the influence of the drug had destroyed my inhibitions and my good sense, and my second wife had become so tired of it that my marriage was again in acute danger. So I quit. That was 8 months ago, and it has seemed to be the longest 8 months of my life. My health is gradually improving. Some days, I almost feel good. There have even been a few where I seemed to have my old energy back, but I pushed too hard, and each time it took days to recover. I am a shadow of the man I used to be. I'm hoping that by the time a year has passed, I will be functional again, but I have doubts. I damn near killed myself with alcohol. And it was excruciatingly slow and painful. The progress is measurable, and improving. When I quit, I walked with great difficulty. My hips were in acute pain, and now that's mostly gone. My arms hurt so badly that I could barely work, and that has improved a lot. I'm easily winded, and certain I have permanent heart damage. But my wife loves me dearly, and my children, too. I'm a better husband, and a better, more patient father, than I ever was. I'm not sure yet, but I don't think happiness is something I will ever fully achieve, until I change what the definition of happiness is for myself. When your body hurts all the time and you don't have any stamina or strength, and so forth, it's hard. But there is one thing I don't have, and that's the constant nagging certainty that my lifestyle choices are making my physical condition worse every day. I can at least look at myself and be relatively proud that I am actively working to improve, and that's something I could never say before.

@zrunner240Z

3 ай бұрын

I agree

Almost 15 years now. That pancreas pain is a real deal. Thank God for AA. I made it work!!

10 years sober and clean. Relapsed after 7 in previous recovery, as not convinced. Was able to shout bingo to all the social loss you quoted. Now i have permanent disability , but I'm grateful to be able to share experience, strength and hope. Thanks for this, hope it helps someone.❤

@PutTheShovelDown

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for taking the time to share your experience strength and hope with us in the comment section!!!! 💖

I'm a alcoholic and deep shit into drugs. First step is admitting right?

@DLC-sy8pp

2 ай бұрын

Yes. S3cond step is reaching out for help.

@JellyBean02288

Ай бұрын

Check out AA. It works.

I haven't had a drink for 19 years after reaching the point where suicide seemed like the obviously logical solution. Looking back now, the best year of my life was my first year sober. I was no doubt insane during that time lol but the magic of AA worked and it was the best year of my life. Thank God for the Big Book of AA and the miraculous 12 steps.

@PutTheShovelDown

11 ай бұрын

It's so hard to see the situation clearly when you're in it!

I've never drank much - thankfully, but I watched my brother-in-law destroy himself and hurt everyone around him. It was so sad at the end for him, no family, no friends - nothing! And, we could see it coming and warned him when he was in his early 20s and could have done something about it. He died on the street at 66 from a heart attack while living in a homeless shelter. And, this guy had every opportunity that one could ask for in life - he came from a good family, tall, good looking and he was smart ... but once the booze took hold, that was it. Bottom line - there really is nothing good about alcohol.

My dad only had one relationship and it was with booze. Nobody else even came close.

Deserves more views. As a healthcare worker people are way too unknowledgeable about basic human anatomy and the consequences of years of questionable behavior. Tours at hospitals should be something 13-15 year olds do in school, instead they're visiting zoos

Alcohol has been classified as a poison. Stands to reason it damages everything it comes in contact with.

@PutTheShovelDown

11 ай бұрын

💯💯💯💯

@SunofYork

11 ай бұрын

It's great in moderation though. I drink 2 bottles of IPA every day at 4pm and I am 75 and doing great. I climb on my high roof to sweep my chimney from the top

@trkn5681

11 ай бұрын

@@SunofYork What does your breath smell like though? I drink herbal teas daily and don't have to worry about offending my wife with skank breath.

@SunofYork

11 ай бұрын

@@trkn5681 Sounds like she has you trained Reginald Molehusband

@trkn5681

11 ай бұрын

@@SunofYork lol

I quit drinking 22 years ago. I’m a alcoholic. My brother and I would fight for the last beer in the fridge. Whiskey was another favorite. I’m 63 now. My brother was 65. Two years ago I lost him. No parent should lose their child. He still loved to drink. I miss him very much. We both were alcoholics.

My cousin died at 38. His sibling said he laid in hospital bed, his face was drawn, but his abdomen was huge bloated. Terrible..

My mom married a horrible man when I was 8 and one among many of his flaws was alcoholism. I can’t even recall how many times we drove home late at night with a drunk falling asleep at the wheel.

My father was an alcoholic. I never had a relationship with him. I can't think of a single thing he taught me during our entire time together, except to get him another beer. Growing up without a male role model and mentor handicaps me to this day. I have great concern about legalized marijuana.

@jillybean3688

11 ай бұрын

There's no comparison between the 2. That's a fact!

@EGC316

11 ай бұрын

@@jillybean3688There is a comparison. They are both drugs. That’s a fact.

@terrygriggs5755

11 ай бұрын

I know what you mean about Marijuana. I don't think it is as bad for us as alcohol but I don't think we know of all the long term affects of chronic use.

@lorettanericcio-bohlman567

11 ай бұрын

Any addiction including alcohol, pot, sugar, social media, coffee is something that controls you not the other way round. For me I can handle coffee and occasionally pot and live fully and mindfully. At 68 I’m doing some of my best mountain biking ever. No way would I be able had I not quit alcohol 37 years ago. Eternally grateful for my decision; while friends said it couldn’t be done. Whatever

@jillybean3688

11 ай бұрын

Alcohol is a much more direct way for self destruction on a far more serious scale than drinking too much coffee. Yes, they are all addictions...

I’ve worked in a care home where they have brain injuries due to alcoholism,I’ve also lost friends & family to it,my husband is a functioning alcoholic,he still holds down a job,no idea how,he has lost endless jobs & his driving license twice & after 20yrs of trying to help him I just couldn’t anymore & he no longer lives with me,I miss him everyday & visit & stay with him for a few weeks twice a year but it’s so hard mentally for me to watch him,he’s already lost his brother & sister-in-law to the disease & still he thinks he’s invincible,I don’t wana lose him & miss him everyday but I can’t live with him anymore X

@Asher22222

Жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry, fiona. 20 years is a long time. You are strong to walk away. I do hope you’ve found peace and happiness in your life. I’m almost to the point of having decided that I’d rather grieve the loss of my BF while he’s still living than after he’s died.

@ms.carlson3904

11 ай бұрын

My heart goes out to you. My brother is struggling with this and I understand. Horrific disease.

My last drink of alcohol was December 3rd, 1981. I was 26. At 68, I've had a successful career, marriage, children and grandchildren. Probably best of all is I have physical and mental health. Life is full of options. You are the product of choices. We will never win a war against alcoholism, but we can reduce the numbers. I've come to believe that by treating alcohol like we treat cigarettes, good progress can be made.

@PutTheShovelDown

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing that, Wes! We need to hear success stories! 😊

My wife of 20 years is a chronic alcoholic. It’s gotten so bad now that she has disappeared and I suspect she’s living with a man that’s a addict. Long story short right now or up until about a month ago she was a functioning alcoholic. Since she has disappeared since the beginning of the month I have no idea where she is and how she’s doing. She has noticeable symptoms of abuse. She was always complaining of pain in her back her skin was itchy she looked horrible in the morning her hands would shake if she didn’t have alcohol. I just don’t now what to do at this point other than just divorce her and move on with my life. Please get help if you’re a alcoholic and stay sober like she has said it ruins everyone in your life.

@FriendofDorothy

8 ай бұрын

Did you not see the red flag before tying the knot or did you ignore it? I ask because I am actively ignoring a love interest with an apparent drinking issue and my intuition is not just talking, but screaming at me.

@sflspotter6638

8 ай бұрын

@@FriendofDorothy the writing wasn’t on the wall at the time. It was after both her parents passed away 2 weeks apart that it spiraled out of control and she hid it pretty well. Until I thought some was amiss and had her followed then reality sunk in. How long were you with your significant other? It’s very complicated to be honest.

@OG-BIG-SHEPHERD.

4 ай бұрын

​@sflspotter6638 did you ever find her?

@sflspotter6638

4 ай бұрын

@@OG-BIG-SHEPHERD. no I haven’t. Still have no idea where she is.

@kathyr.8135

3 ай бұрын

Do you have children? I have been sober 17 years. Alcohol : no thank you . I do not want to die with alcohol on my breath .

Hi. My husband was a functioning alcoholic. He died april this year. He had all the support he needed around him. He had late stage liver disease so when he got ill with something else, the liver failed competly. Its not a pleasant wait whilst you watch your partner die from drinking. Alcoholics drink and until you dont really understand that the rest will shock you ! Thankyou so much for your videos. I tried all the usual advice you offer . Yet , alcoholics drink and if they continue they will die. Thats it. 😢😢😢

@alanserjeant4947

11 ай бұрын

My alcoholic wife of 30 years died on April 27th this year. So sad.

I come from a home of functional alcoholics. It completely misshaped my reality growing up. Naturally, I began drinking at a young age. Which diminished my good qualities and enhanced my negative ones. I got sober in middle age and my years without drinking have been the best of my life. If you are unhappy with your relationship with alcohol, good news. You can stop today. Go to an AA meeting and just listen. That's how getting that monster out of your life begins.

@PutTheShovelDown

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this, Reddiver

@reddiver7293

11 ай бұрын

@@PutTheShovelDown Thank YOU for a very informative video.

alcohol is the devil

Got rid of the alcoholics years ago. You may care about them but, ultimately, you'll go down with the Titanic. It's not even tough love, at this juncture: it's just, "GET OUT!"

@paulgreen1821

11 ай бұрын

Totally. Let them get on with it. All they care about is their next drink.

I’m 70 and still don’t like the taste of any alcohol. I’ve tried to like it for 50 years and it’s not going to work. It feels like poison when I take a sip.

The cultural acceptance and promotion of alcohol as a relative harmless drink based on moderate consumption is the real catastrophe, considering the progressive effect on subsequent behavior. Alcohol it's probably the defining factor in most cases of domestic violence, murder, the serial killer phenomenon, and life changing actions. Simply put, the direction of humanity have shifted drastically because of the alcohol factor, but curiously it's influence is often diluted with complicated rationalizations and shuffle with other probable causes.

@OceanSwimmer

11 ай бұрын

Well said!!!

@PutTheShovelDown

11 ай бұрын

💯💯💯

7 months sober. Was a blackout drunk from age 14-42. In the late stages it was the terrible mental anguish that I couldn't take anymore. I run 30 miles a week now. Am strong, fit and becoming the woman in Christ that He created me to be. Jesus, every breath I take is for you.

@PutTheShovelDown

2 ай бұрын

💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

I lost my 44 year old wife last year, after 6 months of being married. It was the most tragic thing to ever experience. The last month of her life she was too sick to drink , and she refused to go to the hospital. She had esophageal bleeding

Lost my best friend to alcoholism. He was 51 and had cirrhosis of the liver. Where I was a social drinker, once or twice a month, few drinks then stop. His routine was to not stop, every day, drink till drunk. I never understood that, I tried to intervene but he would just continue. Sad

@shanemedlin9400

3 ай бұрын

That was me. Drink til drunk every day, get up at 4 and go to work hungover, fight the hangover all day, then relieve it with alcohol.

I was on the slippery slope, I was on 8 to 12 extra strong lagers a day then when that wasn't enough I hit the spirits, vodka and gin were my go to drink then. Shortly after the first lock down I decided enough was enough and challenged myself to 1000 days alcohol free. Day 1000 was 23rd April 23, I'd done it. I don't drink as a rule now but have a brandy every now and again at a friend's house but 2024 has been alcohol free. Good luck to everyone going through it, day by day.

I’m an ICU nurse. If you have even seen someone die from the damage done to the body, you would NEVER drink.

@k9khodi363

4 ай бұрын

They would; they are using it to avoid reality.

@saraivatoledo1842

3 ай бұрын

@@k9khodi363 Some , but yeah ...if that´s personal and "see -if .the -hat -fits " someone else. It sure does me.

@lisabaltzer4190

2 ай бұрын

I am 64. I have never had a drink in my life because I saw what it did to my mother and half my family. It killed my mother at the age of 41.

@madhurock7944

2 ай бұрын

I saw how liver burst in rehabilitation...I saw someones blood and pus pee also..but still I didn't stop I that time.. because I was a slave to alcohol in that time..

It was acute pancreatitis for me alcoholism nearly killed me the hospital saved my life I have now been eleven years sober greetings from Scotland 🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧

First time I really drank was when I was 16. Got drunk at 17 and knew I was a full blown alcoholic at 18... When I say "alcoholic" I don't mean getting drunk with friends at a bar on the weekends. I mean EVERY SINGLE night blacked out. My body In my late teens and early 20's could take it, but I experienced my very first DT's at 24 and had no idea what was going on with me... You'd THINK someone going through that horrific experience would stop, but no, my addiction ran HARD it pushed even harder which today I am convinced was my way of committing suicide. Not by a bullet, but just a little each day. I lose jobs, girlfriends, my freedom, my sanity, literally everything and still came back to booze. I loved it. I loved the feeling it gave me. It erased all my anxiety. I hated people, I thrived on living alone and being away from others. I just wanted enough money to get hard liquor, close the door to my room, be in a cold pitch black room, drink intensely and watch the internet... Those binges were insanity and they were often for years... You get to the point where you drink at first for fun, but then you are so disoriented that you just start randomly waking up in your bed, dizzy and unsure of what hour or day it is. Has it been two days or just two hours? Who knows, but what you do know is that you don't want to be conscious, so you stumble back to your desk which has your computer, your booze and the only light source in the dark room and take another stale shot of gin and start to feel normal. Universally it lead to serious withdrawal.... My god, how to describe it. The intenseness of it cannot be penned down... The shakes, the sweating, the trembling, the anxiety, the throwing up, the shakes, the shakes, the shakes, did I mention the SHAKES? Shaking so hard you can't hold anything, your thoughts shake, you can't form sentences, you're a useless shaking, vomiting mess of a human for DAYS. No relief in sight, just laying in a bed dying forever, time becomes distorted, you hallucinate, you hear and see things and then you throw up more acid while shaking. You exist in a world of filth, your body hates itself. IF you sleep my god is it beyond disorienting and confusing, there's no rest, just intense self-hatred and broken sleep that you cannot distinguish from hallucinations. In an ideal world I would've gone to hospital, but America is deeply ant-helping others unless you have the money to pay for it. Even detox centres and therapies have the illusion of wanting to put you in a spa like area to clear your mind and heal your body until you find out that these stays are like $50,000 for 30 days of inpatient treatment and most insurances will not assist you. Remember, America is always about blaming the victim instead of helping. My last hospitalisation was in December of 2022 when I went on an INSANE bender... After I got out I didn't have a moment of "realisation" or epiphany, I just slowly tried to stop drinking. I am not fully sober today, but I am far far better off than I was.

@mandyharrison3799

8 ай бұрын

I hope you get support and free yourself from this incredibly addictive substance ❤

@amynicole5884

7 ай бұрын

I've never heard someone explain alcoholism better than this.

@lorif007

4 ай бұрын

God bless you and help you battle alcohol addiction!

@nalou6933

4 ай бұрын

I don't suffer from the disease of alcoholism, but plenty of other diseases. You are so spot on about not being able to get proper treatment for your condition unless you have amazing insurance, or amazing amounts of money. Shameful in this "civilized" country. Thank you so much for your post.

@AdamasOldblade

4 ай бұрын

@@mandyharrison3799 - Ironically shortly after this comment I went into my worst binge of my entire life. September of 2023. I took a day off from work to play a video game that was launching and I drank the night before (no big deal). I woke up mildly hungover and.... just...kept...going... I have absolutely no idea what triggered me to do it, but what happened next is insanity. I have a vague memory of calling off of work day by day, but then eventually it all goes black. My roommate at the time worked at the same job as me and eventually he just had to tell management that, "hey look, this guy is sick, he's in a serious bender" (he knew I drank, but had no idea of how deep it can go with me). I have memories of getting booze delivered to my door during the day and somehow finding strength to stand up and get to the door without falling over. I do remember turning my phone to silent and just ignoring everything and just taking double shots of pure gin over and over and over and over to oblivion. I kinda remember just waking up randomly to make sure I had enough to make me pass out again... I remember getting into a fight on the phone with a delivery service and I remember downing an entire bottle of listerine to calm the shakes. I do remember the shakes were so bad that I am pretty sure I had a seizure alone in my apartment. After a week my parents basically broke down the apartment door and convinced me to go to hospital in which I was somewhat detoxed (this was like my 7th time at the same hospital detoxing in 10 years). I remember being drugged up and discharged and then thinking that I had to get back to normal, but THEN it all goes black. Next thing I know I woke up about a week later with ZERO memory of what had happened... But piecing everything together it looks like I did a huge online order for booze to be delivered and then basically went on a suicide attempt to kill myself through drink... Obviously I did not succeed, and I have a faint, "coming out of it" memory of calling my mother and asking to go to hospital again. I remember being drugged up again and THEN I woke up three days later strapped to a bed. They never told me why, but my guess is that I was constantly trying to get up from the bed and was designated a fall risk (there was a band on my arm saying that). Eventually this terrible nurse forced a catheter into my penis and I have the STRONG memory of yelling at her that I don't consent to this, but she did it anyway. I remember nurses hitting me with insane amounts of Ativan and then waking up at like 4 am and basically being told by this bitch of a nurse, "THIS ISN'T A DETOX CENTER, YOU HAVE TO LEAVE!" -- I have no idea on the legality of this, but they very quickly put me into a wheelchair, gave me my phone and wallet, wheeled me out to the curb and sat me on a bus stop bench. Called my mother and she forced me to stay at her place for like 3 weeks to come down. I was actually given drugs to do this and she monitored them. Amazingly... The job that I had and loved so dearly DID keep me on as an employee. Once the cat was out of the bag that, "oh... he's a really serious alcoholic and he needs time to get his head on straight and get better" they provided me with the people to talk to about taking a medical leave of absence... Even though I was cleared by multiple doctors and filled out all of the correct paperwork, I was completely convinced I was going to get fired (and rightfully so), but no they didn't do it, and in fact back paid me (because it was cleared medically) for the time I lost. Since that time I have started seeing a therapist about my alcoholism and have been prescribed Naltrexone, which I swear is a literal miracle drug. It is insane how that drug just destroys any and all cravings I've ever had for booze. People at work have noticed the "2.0" version of me. How I am a very different man than before... I'm very open about what happened to me entirely because I want my story to resonate with someone, somewhere in this endless ocean of tragedy that we all call "life"... Though, and I cannot stress this enough, it is incredibly painful to think that a lot of my downfalls in life due to booze could have very very easily been avoided if I had just been given the proper help a decade ago. America is generally a country that STILL looks at alcohol and drug addiction as a moral failing, even though we have demonstrably shown it to be a mental and physical issue (I still hesitate to say, "disease"). My brain simply looks at alcohol as a "good thing" and craves everything about it. From the ritual of going to the store, browsing the isles of all those shiny glass bottles, to pretending to be fancy about it, to getting home, locking myself away and just taking god knows how many shots of straight liquor into my body all in a never ending attempt to just, "feel good". I don't think my fight with alcohol is over, because it's never gonna be over. It's a lifelong fight and I cannot win. I can probably stalemate this, but I cannot beat it. --- As a coda, a few weeks back I found something interesting tucked away on my iPad. There was a 10 second blurry video of me that apparently I filmed myself through the front facing camera. It looks as if I didn't even know it had switched on... I swear to you the man I saw looking back at me, I 100% don't know who that guy is. His face was so bloodied up, so swollen, so destroyed as he squinted through one eye at the camera, barely propping up his shaking iPad to his face.... It has haunted me for weeks now. My only possible guess as to how that video got filmed AND got stored in the Hidden folder was my survival instinct beating through of, "man, I hope YOU see this one day to see what you can become."

I hit it pretty hard until I was 35. Luckily becoming a father was enough to make me quit. Talk about the last phase of alcoholism makes me think of the end of Leaving Las Vegas, minus Elizabeth Shue

When they first wrote about hell, I'm sure they went to someone in active alcohol addiction and asked them what they felt like. And when they got done screaming and vomiting, when they could pick themselves up and look this addict in the face, the decided to write a gentler story about eternal flames and skin flaying.

When you love something but it doesn’t love you back. Say goodbye and move on. No matter what it is.

I used to pull my Dad's golf bag for him as a small child. He'd lecture me that golfing was the only sport you could play your entire life. He'd play 3 to 4 rounds every week and had a number of golfing buddies. He was a great golfer and played in many tournaments. Unfortunately by the time he hit 50, he was rarely playing. He drifted from his friends. His final years were full of misery both physical and spiritual. I could have been on the same path myself but one day in my mid-twenties, after realizing I had seen him night after night hunched over in his chair in the dark with empty bottles around him and a glowing cigarette, I decided no more for me. I was chided and badgered by friends but stuck to my guns. I'm 65 and haven't touched alcohol in 40 years.

My ex alcohilic bf died last August. Still in shock and reeling from his death. He had drank excessively for many years and was in late stage of this terrible disease He had everything physically, medically and mentally wrong with him, that Amber mentioned in her list and more. It was horrendous. He was in deep, deep denial and just could not equate drinking alcohol, with his ever worsening health problems. I just could not understand why he could not see this. He and said he accepted his suffering and that his symptons were really just caused by "inevitable old. age". In 2021, he had a close escape with Sepsis, and was hospitailzed fo 4 months. I knew he did not have long to live after that and he died 9 months later in hospital, from Pnuemonia snd Alcohol Related Liver Disease. Hope this does not happen to you. RIP Brian 😢💖🙏 Xxx

@cuddlemuff6632

Жыл бұрын

Sending you my condolences, Mary. It's so sad your ex bf destroyed his life. I hope you'll soon be feeling peaceful.

@marystele1197

Жыл бұрын

@@cuddlemuff6632 Thank You Candlemuff for your kind words. Very loving of you to send your support. ,

@Asher22222

Жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry for your loss, mary. I’m afraid my BF is headed down that same road. Total denial and enjoying the ride, so he always says. Prayers for peace.

@learnenglish699

Жыл бұрын

@@Asher22222 ah god, this is why i never ever take a single sip of this shit, i knew it will bring huge pain in future, sorry for all these

@marystele1197

Жыл бұрын

@@Asher22222 Thank You Asher for your kind words. If there is anything you can do, to help your bf out of this late stage. Just do it now. But keep your boundaries and really look after yourself. Read up on Amber's videos and advice. Google for information about helping Alcoholics get out of late stage Addiction before he gets any worse. I know it is possible and some Alcoholics do manage it They may be left with permanent health problems but they can get better and sober.. A large and often overlooked factor in reaching this stage is poor diet and hardly eating at all. Resulting in serious nutritional deficiencies and major organ damage. So try and get him to eat or get your doctor to prescribe liquid food supplements. So l send you my best wishes Amber and hope your boyfriend wil staet to getl better. Take care 🙏🤞🌟

Lost my husband to this disease 3 yrs ago....... He turned into bones in 6 months it was horrible what the alcohol did to him

I've been sobered for more than two years after 25 years from alcohol use. I treated my depression with it. With that said, I've had some of the most wonderful experiences in my life using alcohol. I've slept with women I would have never had the courage to talk to sober. Toured Great Britain through all the castles and cathedrals drunk as a pirate. I wouldn't change anything. But..., yes I am lucky I got out when I did, because alcohol does hurt our bodies, and I finally realized I could no longer drink.

@trkn5681

11 ай бұрын

Wow. Were you drunk when you met the Queen?

@CBT5777

11 ай бұрын

@@mikeauxbig 30 years of fun addiction? Shame on you for enjoying life!

@lorettanericcio-bohlman567

11 ай бұрын

Could have done that sober, mate

@CBT5777

11 ай бұрын

@lorettanericcio-bohlman567 maybe you could. it's my life.

recovering alcoholic i lost everything almost my life. its serious. im thankful to God for saving me🙏🏼

@UnderwaterJohn-fn7jg

2 ай бұрын

So of all the atrocities that are going on in the world god decided to help you stop drinking?

The title was misleading - no specific details about what physically occurs in end stage alcoholism. The generic info provided could be applied to nearly any unhealthy overconsumption of a potentially toxic substance.

@Bluelady777

2 ай бұрын

Click bait title

It's a very slow suicide, I seen it slowly kill to many friends , I was a bad drunk but I stopped before it got to far ,but like I said it killed to many friends and it still hurts thinking about them today . So if have this problem please get help!!!

It has been one week, since I have had a drink! I was considering having one tonight because I have three that have sat there, all week! Your video saved me from that, and I will show my husband, and watch this over and over, along with your others! I subscribed and liked, but I love this video, not just like it!!❤❤❤ Thank you!

Been there and quit drinking, this is painfully true.

@PutTheShovelDown

11 ай бұрын

💯💯💯💯

Just want to commend this narrator for so clearly spelling out the social and psychological tolls alcoholism takes not only on the individual but on their friends and families as well.

@PutTheShovelDown

11 ай бұрын

Awwww, thanks!

I'm having a hard time trying to stop drinking. I hate AA AND REHAB, they just don't help! I'm getting in to microdosing psilocybin as the way to keep away from alcohol. I hope it works!

@alaskalograft

11 ай бұрын

Why do you hate AA? 38 years clean and sober for me and a great life. Rehab is pretty much a waste of time and money if not followed by AA. The doors are always open if you want to return. Best of luck with whatever you decide.

I'm sober 42 years. My first AA meeting was somebody's first anniversary and I remember thinking "a whole year! How did he do it?" He did it one day at a time, and so have I. Life is good.

THIS WAS ABSOLUTELY BRILLIANT ..SO WELL SPOKEN AND ALL IN A SENTENCE ..IE THE KNOCK ON EFFECTS OF THIS DEVASTATING ALCOHOLISM ON OUR PRECIOUS LOVED ONES AND THE PEOPLE WHOM LOVED THEM UNCONDITIONALLY .IM STILL HEARTBROKEN 6 yrs PAST ..THANK YOU ❤

My family member has drank vodka for over 45 years, and now he has alzhimers.Its very sad.

my dad died in January suddenly due to alcoholism. he did not get jaundice or anything and he was only 53 years old

@shinkkk4567

Жыл бұрын

Hey, do you mind sharing his cause of death? Just curious because my dad didn’t suffer from jaundice either, but I do feel like his condition is taking a turn for the worse.

It only took me 3 DUI’s but I have finally realized that I had a problem and am now 10 days short of a year sober. It’s very easy to get caught up in everyday life and not realize that you truly do have a problem

@PutTheShovelDown

Ай бұрын

💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻Very impressive!

I need to hear this message everyday. Because I am powerless over alcohol.

In the early 90s, I worked at a psychiatric hospital as a HCW, while I went to university. We had an entire ward dedicated to former alcoholics with what the physicians called Organic Brain Syndrome. Some had been there for years.

@PutTheShovelDown

Жыл бұрын

Wow! So sad!

@janesmith1398

Жыл бұрын

@@PutTheShovelDown It was.

@stanleywheeler404

Жыл бұрын

The alcoholics develop dementia ( it's called Wet Brain by the Drs) after years of drinking because the alcohol kills brain cells and they DON'T grow back.

@Jewels19

Жыл бұрын

My husband was 50 he had brain issues.

@siancrook2053

11 ай бұрын

Korsakoff's syndrome

So right Amber. This isn't a "YOLO" situation, it isn't pretty.

@byzantineroman2407

Жыл бұрын

Really, the "YOLO situation" should be: I'll only live once, so I better live well. Instead, many say: "I'll only live once, so I better crash and burn.

@jenniferbaker5167

Жыл бұрын

@@byzantineroman2407 so true unfortunately.

@PutTheShovelDown

Жыл бұрын

💯💯💯💯💯

@Asher22222

Жыл бұрын

That’s what my BF always says, Jennifer. I can no longer watch him drink himself to death.

@jenniferbaker5167

Жыл бұрын

@@Asher22222 I'm sorry, I feel your pain. It is so hard to watch someone you love suffer with this.

I was told after a blood test I was in liver failure and dying of alcoholism. It's extremely fortunate that in the follow ups with a hepatologist I found I just had some extensive fibrosis. I've been off alcohol for the better part of 4 and a half years after that but the experience of late stage alcoholism was so profoundly traumatizing that I developed C-PTSD after I recovered from it. If I hadn't quit I'd have been dead before I was 30.

Okay, I am sober from alcohol and nicotine quite a while now. It is not that I drank and my life got horrible. My life WAS horrible and still is. My life is destroyed by PEOPLE, not alcohol. Alcohol made me numb, so that I didn’t have to face the devastation all the time. I didn’t liked the side effects of alcohol (the time to recover, the changes of the body) so I quitt. Not because I was hoping, my life would be less of a hell but because this world and people will not, will never defeat me. And I will not doing this bunch of evil a favor by destroying myself. Right now I set myself right for a brighter future in things like personal improvement, money, career. In my opinion, Alcohol is the symptom of a deeper problem. And from all I know, it’s not only me, who is thinking this.

My husband has been drinking every since he was a young boy. He is 50 and Still Drinking. Been separated for 17 years married for 25 years Still married. Imagine That 🙏💞😘

Just waiting for my ex partner to die from alcohol abuse. Will finally stop upsetting the kids. The last conversation I had with him he told me he liked his twenty beers and bottle of wine every night too much to stop. It was impossible to live with.

This is why I quit drinking 10 months ago, my lipase levels were high (irritated pancreas) and my A1C levels were prediabetic. Best decision I have ever made, I've already lost 35 lbs by making simple dietary changes.

I've been sober and free from smoking for going on 3 mos. On this coming Wednesday i have my first after care meeting wuth the VA. Pray for me and wish me luck

My ex husband has been an alcoholic for 35 years. He lost his family, job, license, home, and some friends. He’s been living with his mom for 10 years and seems fine. No illnesses. His cognitive ability is ruined, but that’s it. I feel like he’s going to outlive me (a non drinker).

@mp5249

Жыл бұрын

Unlikely. He will become epileptic even while drinking, his gut will fail, his lymphatic system will fail, his immune system and cardiac system will fail. He'll either die from these issues or be revived until he is dead broke from medical bills. He may burn the house down, attack someone while psychotic, attract pariahs who will take advantage of him because of alcoholic dementia. My ex is experiencing all of the above. $900,000 in bills and counting. He made a great living and was miserly all to be lost from cheap booze.

@OceanSwimmer

11 ай бұрын

​@@mp5249 My ex just turned 71 and is a wreck. He's immobile, can't walk without a walker, can't drive or fly, and his immune system is shot. His wife is now his caregiver, and she's burning out. He's never told our kids that his health problems all came out of a bottle. He still drinks. That's the one thing he still does. Denial is so strong in alcoholics!

@lorettanericcio-bohlman567

11 ай бұрын

Just skating through isn’t living

Its easier to not form a habit than it is to stop a habit.🦉

@PutTheShovelDown

11 ай бұрын

💯💯💯For sure!

@curtisbrown5939

11 ай бұрын

@@PutTheShovelDown okay! Check this one out; It's easier to STAY out of trouble than, It is to GET out of trouble.🦉

@vickibrougham956

9 ай бұрын

Damn right

I’ve been sober for years, all that matters is today which I put in Gods hands this morning.

My husband of 24 years has been the heavy drinker for the last 12ish years. I don’t drink, but I’m the one that feels like I’m dying, while he acts like he’s completely fine.

I don’t drink at all. My wife’s son was an alcoholic and I saw him die before my eyes slowly. I tried and tried everything trying to get him to stop. Rehab 9 times. I learned you can’t help a drinker. They have to help themselves. It is a terrible thing to actually whiteness.

I LOVE TO DRINK. it's my only true love apparently. My daily life and existence was dictated by the true love I couldn't live without. I haven't been with my true love in 9 years.

MY brother died from alcohol poisoning. He drank heavily for 10 years. Miss him so much 💔

I watched my husband die of cirrhosis. He was 41 and I wouldn't wish everything he went through on my worst enemy. Heartbreaking can't even describe how awful alcoholism can affect you.

Excellent video as always Amber!👍👍

@PutTheShovelDown

Жыл бұрын

Thanks Sandy!

@user-vf3fg1gl7pMsSandy

Жыл бұрын

@@PutTheShovelDown ❤️