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@theotherway1639

3 жыл бұрын

Cool vid. I also enjoyed the book "30 Days to Sobriety" by Harper Daniels.

@edisonj9600

3 жыл бұрын

@@theotherway1639 is your husband drinking

@kelbo1523

3 жыл бұрын

I’m going to treatment , but only have time for detox and would like help to find a very effective outpatient program in my area. I have spoken to great personalities over the phone. However, I went for the first time during the beginning of the pandemic.

@moshemorgenstern9636

11 ай бұрын

I was watching this video until she told me that watching it means I'm a functioning alcoholic. Then I switched over to the Bourbon Brothers.

@Merm35

8 ай бұрын

Not everyone who watches this has a drinking problem! Have you thought that friends and relatives of a problem drinker might be watching this to learn!!!???? I found that part not only insulting and punitive, but detrimental to your video/channel. After that statement, my strong response was to shut the video down. However, I truly was hoping that I could learn something from it and didn’t hit stop. You might want to re address this issue. I actually saw a comment by someone in my position who did turn it off immediately.

1. Hard time relaxing, enjoying yourself without alcohol 2. Can't remember what you did the night before. 3. Trying to manage consumption/questioning if you drink too much 4. The people closest to you are hinting/commenting/voicing concern over your consumption 5. You avoid conversation about your drinking / sneak drinking

@thedude4594

11 ай бұрын

I’m good 😅

Today am exactly 21 days since I finally decided to stop drinking. I used to drink at least 1 beer everyday, and at least 2-3 days of heavy drinking (6 plus beers) a week. And from this video, I was perfectly a functioning alcoholic. Sometimes am going through really strong urges to take a beer but I have conquered 21 consecutive days. I hope 1 will make it to 1 month, 3 months, 6 months, a year, and a lifetime of sobriety. For people with an alcohol problem, feel encouraged to stop. It all starts with you. You can do it💪

@PutTheShovelDown

2 жыл бұрын

I'm very impressed with you're insight and your determination!

@thomsboys77

Жыл бұрын

Lmao. Amateur

@baldersn4474

Жыл бұрын

How are ypu doing now ?

@zombiesbride

11 ай бұрын

How are you doing

@40pianos

11 ай бұрын

I drank alcoholically for decades yet I can't remember when I could count the number of beers I consumed in single digits. You are not an alcoholic. If you don't want to drink with the same frequency as you have been or you believe drinking is a growing problem for you, then stop or moderate. But alcoholism is a physiological dependency on alcohol; that is, if you stop suddenly you are going to go into withdrawal and possibly experience DT's, seizures and death. By the end of my run, I was consuming over 40 oz. of vodka a day, using cocaine, opiates and tranquilizers. It took 2 years of abstinence from alcohol and 5 years on methadone before I felt like I'd gotten free.

My little sister was a functioning alcoholic with a great job. Sober all day until she got home and popped a wine bottle. I went to al-anon and they were useless other than to confirm what I already knew. They won't change unless they hit rock bottom. Well, she hit rock bottom, she died of liver desease waiting for a transplant.

@pauljordan4452

Жыл бұрын

Shit! My condolences.

@m.d.7948

Жыл бұрын

How much wine was she drinking daily? And how many years till she got issues? Sorry for your loss

@danielle3139

Жыл бұрын

Im so sorry

@jdxx59

Жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry about your sister, that is so sad. Al-Anon is not for everyone but when you say it is useless, I think perhaps you were thinking they were going to ‘fix’ your sister, and that is not what their program is about. It is about supporting families and friends of alcoholics to cope and to look at their own behaviours and in changing them will hopefully lead to the alcoholic getting sober. Al-Anon was wonderful for me. It changed my way of looking at the issue with my husband’s drinking which I was obsessed with and it was making me sick and a poor mother, and supported me to focus on myself and my behaviours instead. It gave me the strength, courage and peace of mind to decide to leave him. That was 35 years ago. He continues to drink and is in very poor health. He has had many opportunities over the years to have support to stop drinking but has chosen not to. I do not regret parting ways with him at all. I am now trying to deal with my 37 year old sons ADHD and substance abuse. Much harder to deal with when it’s your child, can’t divorce them and distance yourself like you can with a husband. I think I need to go back to Al-Anon.

@savednsuch

Жыл бұрын

I'm so so sorry that you lost your sister. I lost my cousin this way. My heart goes out to you. Thank you for sharing this stark reality.

Yes...I did have an alcohol problem; he passed away in April because he was at the end stage and still thought he was smart enough to beat it.

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

That's sad and frustrating at the same time 😥

I am a functioning alcoholic. I’m Australian and doing very well in my job (electrician), but I was progressively drinking more and more. The past two weeks I have drank every single night (the most I’ve ever drank). Tonight, I searched this before my problem got out of hand. Thank you for the insights, I certainly have a few of these.

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

You're being very honest with yourself, which is a very good sign!

@rumplestilskinsmum5094

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, i have never been big on alcohol before, untill, about a year ago! Now, i drink every day ( about 10cl whisky). Which don't seem a lot. But, if i don't have a drink now by the afternoon, i am starting to get kinda edgy. This stuff can get u hooked before u even thought "Hold on, do i have a problem". 😉

@antoinettenovella1630

3 жыл бұрын

Good luck Jack, I can empathise, from another Australian. What do you enjoy apart from drinking? I wish you the best.

@antoinettenovella1630

3 жыл бұрын

@@rumplestilskinsmum5094 That is not much but it can climb up. Just don't.

@rumplestilskinsmum5094

3 жыл бұрын

@@antoinettenovella1630 thanks, i know . As mentioned only drink 10cl = 100ml= 3 shots. And that is actually still a lot. 🙂 I am a small lady as well. A bit worried about being a habitual alcoholic. 😏

13 months sober here and I identify with many of these signs. I was a functional drinker for years and in the last year before I quit I suddenly went downhill...dragged myself to the gym where before I was doing 5 sessions I would only do 2 sessions a week. I'd work from home on Mondays and sleep through meetings with my camera off still recovering from the weekend. My relationship with my wife (who also was an alcoholic) had descended into nothing but bickering. I had been functional for so long I thought I had it under control and then BOOM it starts to slide. Be careful out there people.

I realized recently I’m a functioning Alcoholic..., 3 to 4 nights a week a few cocktails after work & I hate feeling like sh*t the next morning and I’m ready to quit for good..., 9 days no alcohol. I’m feeling amazing 🥰

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

That's so great, Jenaye! Thank you for taking the time to share part of your story with us. I hope to hear more from you in the future!

@candicelkraushaar9803

3 жыл бұрын

I hope you are 4 months sober. It is a great life....a lot of eye opening work but try getting a good sponsor and work the 12 steps if possible

Wow. I have all this. I live alone and get drunk almost every night. I drink at work, got a DUI, made many horrible decisions, and just recently started having thoughts of suicide. I need to get it together..

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Steven, it sounds like you're ready for a change. This is Andrew's recovery story. I thought it might help: kzread.info/dash/bejne/qWWit5SPoZOdY7Q.html

@erockthis

3 жыл бұрын

I was there. Find AA group fast. If you put your work in it I promise it'll get better. Stay away from people that pressure you to drink. I have no friends but I'm sober.

@leslibautz2330

3 жыл бұрын

You can get help. Alcoholism is a disease. You're not responsible for your illness but you are responsible for finding help. AA is a great program. You work on your emotions and get to know why you needed to cover them up in the first place. I wish everyone could recover and find the freedom and happiness that I have found in being abstinent. 🙂

@Greenwolf6666

4 ай бұрын

I'm the same way 😢

@DustinOneal-ei8nr

Ай бұрын

Hey buddy. Hope your doing better man.

when I was a functional alcoholic, I tripled check things constantly...promised lots of cool things to my kids and didn't remember the next morning, functions that I attended were nothing but a blur, folks telling you how funny you were and interesting dance moves that you didn't know you did, waking up finding out you drove the wrong car home and trying to find out where your car is and how to return the one you took. I am so glad I don't drink anymore, life is much more coherent and clear.

@sylph99

4 ай бұрын

Respectfully, that’s NOT functional…

9 days alcohol free, 15 from cannabis. I had a moderate alcohol use disorder that I didn’t believe was a use disorder. Working through mild and sometimes moderate withdrawal symptoms. One of my brothers is alcoholic, another who cannot have fun or be himself without alcohol and is also a sex addict that caused major marital problems over and over again. My real crux is cannabis but I enjoyed it a lot with alcohol. These symptoms you talk about I resonate with. Never thought I had a problem until I started researching sobriety topics.

@omadas

10 ай бұрын

Just a bit ahead of you on alcohol... Day 20 today

@sirrantsalott

10 ай бұрын

@@omadas Well done, we got this

I was a functioning alcoholic for a while, then shit hit the fan and I drunk texted my professor. Needless to say, I start AA this week 😅.

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

I like your humor Abby! You'll do well in recovery

@abbycadabbie

3 жыл бұрын

Put The Shovel Down ❤️❤️❤️

Once in denial I genuinely told the therapist "I'm not an alcoholic. I work 50 hours a week, I never miss work, I'm saving up money and doing well financially."

@PutTheShovelDown

4 жыл бұрын

alyssa classic! I hear that all the time!!!💯

@sixteen.candles.4644

3 жыл бұрын

My ex bf

@SensaiGaia1

Жыл бұрын

That's my mum. She works, she does a lot for me, especially being autistic but it's become too much seeing her drink. Sometimes she knows she is and needs help and then she'll forget that and just starts saying she's better on the drink because it's helped her through the bad times. She also says because I only drink wine she isn't an alcoholic yet she drinks alcohol pretty much every day. My aunt was the opposite with drink, she was really bad with it, like really scary to see and my younger sister even agrees seeing our aunt like that was bad enough. I want my mum to be able to see there are better ways of dealing with past trauma. I absolutely understand her when she says therapy doesn't help, I went through a time when therapy didn't help me and it's easy to assume just because it didn't help once, it will never help again. I quickly learned the best thing you can do is be honest with others and yourself, because the more honest you are the more you go right I know this really is an issue. Sorry for wittering on, it's hard to explain things sometimes

@zombiesbride

11 ай бұрын

My husband

I went on a date with someone who I suspected was a functioning alcoholic. He said that during the week he doesn’t drink that much but that he loooves tequila during on vacation. He also said he had troubling sleeping so he started taking marijuana gummy bears so he could sleep... well that was a red flag 🚩. His conversation also seemed slow and since I don’t drink he was literally obsessed with offering me cocktails. It was as he could not believe that I wasn’t big on drinking... and at one point he was also short tempered. All in all he was handsome and smart but I could NOT get past the alcohol problem since I don’t drink much. I could see that down the line the life of this guy was going to be bad. So sad 😭

@PutTheShovelDown

2 жыл бұрын

It’s a good thing you found out early!

@ZFern9390

8 ай бұрын

I wish I recognized those red flags with my husband ( Recent ex husband) I didn't see it because I was a social drinker. The webs we weave

@nomessnostress

2 ай бұрын

The slow talking is definitely a sign

@SPFAlpha

23 күн бұрын

Thats no reason not to sleep with him

@Eighty8percent

4 күн бұрын

you sound boring, so maybe he drank to deal with your petty bullshit.

I binge drink once or twice a week, can't stop when I start it so it's now time to stay away from it completely. I've grown up with a family of alcoholics and it's got to the point where I actually feel the next day after drinking I feel suicidal - this is scary, that's why I'm 100% this time around ready to stop for me and my partner. I'm sick of hiding the extra bottle of wine I buy when I pretend I just bought one! It's not pretty anymore. Here's to being sober 🙏

@bryansimms7005

2 жыл бұрын

How are you holding up?

@alm6356

2 жыл бұрын

@@bryansimms7005 ye actually alright how you doing bud? I've started to moderate my intake once a week on a Saturday night, big step for me and we'll worth it...

🙋‍♂️This is what it's like to LIVE WITH A FUNCTIONING ALCOHOLIC: 👉kzread.info/dash/bejne/nmh6k8-sXarYh9Y.html

The hardest part of being a functional alcoholic and being completely aware that you are is it makes it very very hard to stop because right now it is working for you! However in the back of your mind you know one misstep and you just ruined your completely functioning life!

I am blown away at how spot-on your observations are! The part about the way someone might hide drinking at home or slide it around at a restaurant were unbelievably accurate. I am doing all of that. And I hate it. And I wake up hating myself every day. I desperately want to change. But it is so hard.

As a recovering "mostly" functional alcoholic (19 yrs sober) your observations are dead on. Sometimes knowing what I did the night before was worse than not knowing. Another way to tell if someone has a drinking problem is that there stories seldom end with "and then I got home".

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

I love it. I'm definitely adding that one to the list of symptoms! 😂🤩🤣

I asked my husband to please ease up on his drinking while our daughter was staying with us for a few weeks. It made him so mad he has not spoken to me in three days, and he did not ease up on his drinking. He is a functioning alcoholic

@charmee4045

4 ай бұрын

Run like your hair is on fire, it will lead to nothing good. Why would you stay in that environment, terrible for your daughter.

@eurodutchess26

4 ай бұрын

I completely understand every time I asked my husband to slow down he doesn’t. Every time I try to talk to about it he refuses to have a conversation about it.

@donnaadams9481

4 ай бұрын

@charmee4045 is easy to say. Many reasons why people can't leave their homes. My daughter is an adult, but yes, terrible for our entire family. Wasn't always like that. I will say that It has gotten some, little, but some better.

“Most people don’t look up if they have an alcohol problem” Damn ur calling me out with that 😂

I have all of these and it opened my eyes thank you

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

I'm really glad I could be of help, Suby Life!

Always looking for help on how to start a conversation with a person that has the issue without hurting their feelings and putting them down, I'm not the one with the issue. As you suggested I'm going to go look at your other videos. Thank you so much.

Thank you so much! My husband has all of these. Since he told everyone he was going to rehab, it feels like no one understands. Like they really don't think it was necessary. It made me think twice.

@PutTheShovelDown

2 жыл бұрын

Often times the spouse is the only one to know when it's functional alcoholism. It is frustrating when other people say it's not a problem. Trust me, no one takes themselves to rehab by accident!

The scary part is that I’m a functioning alcoholic. I pay all my bills on time and go to work every day even when I feel like crap. I would drink pedilyte to recover. I’m not a violent drunk so ppl don’t notice that I have a problem bc I’m functioning. But deep down I know I have a problem, I literally crave the taste of alcohol and enjoy the burning feeling in my throat. I can’t even go one day without drinking. I can drink a 750ml bottle of alcohol in 3 days sometimes 2 all by myself. I get nauseous alot and even vomited from too much alcohol. I’ve even had black outs with my spouse during intimacy. He doesn’t know that I don’t remember our love making and I feel horrible!! I want to stop but I feel soo alone . I just sit in the dark home alone and cry to by myself. I feel so stupid to allow myself to be this weak !! I feel ashamed bc on the outside I have it together but on the inside I’m killing myself with this alcohol! I want to stop drinking soo bad!!❤

@PutTheShovelDown

Жыл бұрын

Hi Lucky_Gurl_Luna. This video is about exactly what you're describing. I think it might be helpful: kzread.infoT55q3Kd4gVw?feature=share

@Lucky_Gurl-Luna

Жыл бұрын

@@PutTheShovelDown thank you soo much!! I will be following ur channel from now on . I also appreciate the link as well . Thank you for your help and all that you do for us lost souls ❤❤❤❤

@JoeHamby

Ай бұрын

I did everything you mention, I went to the doctor, said I have fatty liver, so I decided to stop. They gave me some medicine to help me stop. It's only been 3 days. The medicine helps the cravings.

I am sooooo loving that you put this in a video topic!!! Once again, thank you so much!!☺️👏🏻💗

@PutTheShovelDown

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad!

Thank you Amber for your insights and knowledge!You have been helpful in separating the issues to understand alcoholism from the addicts perspective and for the loved ones involved. After nearly three and a half years together, I asked my functioning alcoholic to leave. It was extremely difficult but I no longer wanted to have a “front row seat” to his addiction. In retrospect, we were both in a codependent relationship, which in the long run was never going last. I tried to love him through the addiction but understand so clearly now you can’t help anyone who is in denial. He has all the signs of a functioning alcoholic but also uses drugs sometimes, had health issue’s physically and mentally. He has narcissistic tendencies, anger issues, an antagonist, a manipulator and a liar. He said he wants to try and stay friends and I said no because you have never apologised for using me and disrespecting me and sometimes being aggressive. I said I actually don’t like you! I did love him once ( and he said he loved me) but it has now been replaced with contempt, resentment and anger towards him. His family and myself have tried to encourage professional help many many times. But we get told to stop telling him what to do and he won’t talk about it. I was becoming depressed and seriously unhappy so I told him I’m done and you need to leave. He picks up his final stuff today 🙏🏻 I can only change my reaction and my choices - I know that now. I finally have peace and serenity in my home. Time to heal and rebuild my life. Thank you Amber for your straight talking advice x

@PutTheShovelDown

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Lorrene, I can tell that you really thought this through, and it's the right decision for you.

@Njvghvvnn

Жыл бұрын

Life update for those who may need to make the same choice ? This is the first research I’ve done. I’m afraid I’ll end up where you got to. Are you happy you left ?

@karensterling5597

11 ай бұрын

Lorrenecoe would love no how you are doing your story touch my heart ,hoping you still strong n happy

Since I’ve watched a few of your videos others are showing up in my feed. This one perfectly describes my friend, as she has all five of the signs. Before ever seeing this I mentioned “functional alcoholism” to her, but she dismissed it and said she didn’t have a problem. Again it’s me being never happy with her and my “insecurities”. Had I done this research sooner, I probably could have navigated it better with her. I saw each symptom and addressed specific incidents, but it’s the larger addiction issue that needs attention. Again, I can’t help her anymore but your videos help me realize I wasn’t the bad guy. Thanks.

@PutTheShovelDown

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad these videos are helpful to you, E!

Very eye opening. Point 2 and 4 made me feel like I was being personally called out

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

At least you’re being honest with yourself! 😁👍🏼

@michelleschermerhorn6308

3 жыл бұрын

Just a bit here as well!!

I've been a functioning alcoholic for 32 years. Never lost a job, never got a DUI, was able to keep it from most everyone, etc. I'm now at 55 ready to throw things away. I can't deal with this anymore and need to bow out. I've done a month in rehab 12 years ago, I've done AA, I lost a step father to suicide who was an alcoholic, I had two cousins who died of alcoholism and this demon seems to run though both sides of my family. My insurance does not cover any kind of addiction recovery and the cost is so prohibitive. I'm a data nerd and keep a spreadsheet of my consumption. Since my last "dry spot" that ended November 9, 2020, I've consumed 18.75 gallons of gin. My intestines are wrecked and I have no happiness. I'm ready to put and end to it.

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

You can use your data nerd skills to beat alcoholism. I always say.... You beat this illness with strategy!

@KoloaKane

3 жыл бұрын

do you have a column for how much you've spent ?

@bryansimms7005

2 жыл бұрын

I have 7-8 lapses my first year in recovery. Remember that you are not alone, find G-d so that he may heal you.

I am a licensed as a substance abuse counselor. I see you as a colleague I can listen to to sharpen my skills with people. Thank you. I can relate

@PutTheShovelDown

2 жыл бұрын

Wow! I take that as a huge compliment. Thank you so much 😍😍😍

I just called off my wedding. He got a DUI. He made more promises to stop drinking. I know how ashamed he is, and it just hurts. I don’t understand how it got this bad

@get-fucxkxd-utoob

Жыл бұрын

Did you try cucking him?

You hit all of our main problems. You can dig much deeper though and provide in depth symptoms and differentiate between the stages of alcoholism. The further that I get down this road, I understand that quitting is quitting. False promises only tear you down further!

In March I decided to quit on 1st November...so far I believe I will never taste the mocker. Thanks for the video because you were talking to me and maybe many others out there in the battle

This is accurate. I am so blessed to have found AA and am long on the road of recovery before things fell apart

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks John!

My ex told me "I just enjoy the actual taste of the beer, I can stop whenever" as soon as I heard that I knew I was in for a difficult time and he actually had a serious problem.

@PutTheShovelDown

4 жыл бұрын

That is so common. I hear that in my office all the time!

I m from a family loaded with alcoholics and drug addicts. Fortunately I could never tolerate it bc it made me vomit. I’m so glad. I have seen alcohol ruin so many lives.

I feel like I'm most definitely going into that FA territory. Been using at least 5 or 6 times a week for the past 2 months but I NEVER go into blackout mode. I work at a store and have bad social anxiety and sad to say, a few shots in the morning helps me be a little social with customers/coworkers but it's still in the back of my mind that I'm going down a bad road. It also takes the edge off my stressful home life, wish I could get myself out it this ugly cycle.

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

It's good that you're recognizing the cycle!

What symptoms would you add to the list?

@mikecarone7320

4 жыл бұрын

A High functioning alcoholic can build a house fix heavy Equipment drive a truck is a police officer or firefighter emt we dont get hangovers

@TheWatchernator

3 жыл бұрын

- loves COVID19 because you get to wear a mask and the smell of hand sanitizer is everywhere - UK passport - "I don't have a problem because I can afford the expensive wine"

I know someone who has a great job and does the job well during the day, but drinks pretty much every night and usually can't stop and continues until she's slurring her speech or passes out. Then somehow she's up at 7am as if nothing happened. She often talks about her alcoholic relatives, but never thinks of herself as an alcoholic.

Totally resonates for me. I have been struggling.. I have had people say. No. You are fine. You don’t have a problem. Even the close ones but I know I do. The last 6 months I have not been able to drink minimally when I do.

As you imply, a functional alcoholic is an oxymoron, at least in my case. I am an alcoholic in recovery. I haven't had a drink in 2 years, and the longer I'm sober and in AA, the more I realize how dysfunctional I was in my drinking, despite my delusions. Also, at least in my case, alcoholism is a progressive disease. It never gets better until/ unless you stop completely. Thank you for posting this, and I hope that everyone who has this problem finds a/the solution. There _is_ a solution!

@PutTheShovelDown

11 ай бұрын

You and I are in lock step!

I'm not a fun alcoholic anymore I noticed I get angry now when I drink it use to be my happy drink but now all these thoughts I have buried start to surface then I get upset :(

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Janet! That's very insightful. Ultimately alcohol will make you relive all the bad things that have happened to you over and over. It will keep you stuck. Here's a video about taking small steps toward change. Hope it helps: kzread.info/dash/bejne/Y6CAz7Sjl5PJlMY.html

this video was amazing. so simple and direct too. Thank You so much. Simple words can changes point of views. im gratefull for that.

@PutTheShovelDown

Жыл бұрын

Thanks Varun! I'm so glad this was helpful.

1 year sober after a decade of functional alcoholism 💪 I had all the signs but I wasn’t sure myself until I started experiencing withdrawal symptoms 🙃

@PutTheShovelDown

2 ай бұрын

Congrats. Very impressive 💪🏻

Dear Amber , You presented it perfectly ;-) most appreciated.

@PutTheShovelDown

2 жыл бұрын

My pleasure, Roy! Glad it was helpful 😊

Strait to the point!! She also is so pleasant and sweet which is great to listen to. And for some can be very helpful !Thank you 😊 💕👌🏼

Im drunk right now thinking what went wrong if I was so happy 😞

Your videos are very informative. Thank you for posting them..I have made some choices in my life and stopped drinking and seeked help because of your videos. Much appreciated

@PutTheShovelDown

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for that, Callan! You've made my day 😊😊😊😊🥰

@callanchevin6193

2 жыл бұрын

@@PutTheShovelDown glad it did. Done 15 days sober today 😊

I'm not an alcoholic but I'm struggling with other addictions. Thank you for this.

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

Happy to help, Miss Grinch 😊

Good video; I had all of those symptoms before I quit 8 1/2 years ago.

Beautiful quote:- YOU ONLY FAIL ONCE YOU STOP TRYING ❤❤

My sister has just about every one of those symptoms. She has been going downhill for a while now. 😢

You're getting the message across with humour...perfect.

I've been playing this on a outdoor speaker for my alcoholic female neighbour, it's stopped her from abusing us when she is drunk!! Thank you so much!🙌❤

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

Oh my goodness! Do you mean you're playing it loudly so she hears it? Or she asked you to play it for her?

@howdidigethere5302

3 жыл бұрын

@PutTheShovelDown She needs the hard truth... you differently gave it!!❤🙌

@mollyram2997

3 ай бұрын

Lol love it

oh yes...if I was to call myself an alcoholic-I was a functional one...never missed work, never got an DUI, got along with everyone, etc....it was the controlled drinking from the home, by myself, at a certain time didn't leave the house once I started.....my bottles were getting bigger and my trips to the liquor store was every other day..The bottles was running my life and I was dancing to it. People usually do not treat the underlying reasons of alcoholism-just the symtoms--need to get to the core of why we went there...Proud Sober of 14 yrs now-

@PutTheShovelDown

2 жыл бұрын

Great insight, Kellie!

I'm a functional alcoholic.. I even get raises and promoted frequently for how good I do at my job. I drink even on the job! I bring it in coke bottles and no one ever addresses it because I portray myself as a goody here. This video really was spot on in every point it made.

@PutTheShovelDown

Жыл бұрын

Hi Angelavery7602! I see a lot of business people who have very similar stories. The sad part is, that the company will bail when the alcohol problems start to create a lot of unmanageability.

@zrob89m21

10 ай бұрын

Airplane bottles for me, there so easy to hide

@user-nn7uy3ri3j

8 ай бұрын

I'm a functional alcoholic on the brink of chaos, I would trade the addiction in for the pain to go away😢beer at least is not heroin 😢

This describes my partner. 1. I recently told him I organised a catch up with another local couple at the park for a play date for our young kids (also so we can meet people in our new town). He asked “am I allowed to drink?”.. it was both frustrating and sad. Never wants to do any activities that don’t involve drinking. 2. Not sure if he doesn’t remember or he’s gaslighting me, but denies things happened the next day. 3. Told me when we moved in January that he’d cut back to weekends only. He’s still drinking 4-5 nights a week, ranging anywhere from 6 beers to 15 beers per session. 4. To everyone else he’s a hard worker and family man. I see the man that comes home from work, sits outside, drinks, basically ignores his family and then picks fights with me when he’s drunk. But at the same time I’m tired of trying to get him to see it’s a problem so we are basically just room mates now. 5. Trying to talk to him about his drinking when he’s sober only results in him getting defensive and argumentative.

I’m a workaholic first, alcoholic second. If I can drink while working that’s a good time. Even before I started drinking sober me was always miserable so it’s a good mood booster.

This fits me I know what I am just dont know how to or if I really truly want to stop I've tried tons of things but no luck

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Albino, It's totally normal to have some ambivalence and stopping drinking. You don't have to be 100% sure. (51% will work!!!! ) Then create accountability for yourself, so that if you drop below 51% there is some thing will keep you sober even on days when you don't want to!

May this video link In the description box of a video for people to use for further education q on my channel next month. You cover this in much more detail on this subject than I am going to.

I know this way too well. I just created a video being on the other side of caring for someone who is a alcoholic.

Nobody close to me thought I had a problem because I was so good at sneak drinking. 😬 It was a morning after sneak-drinking probably 3 extra glasses of wine one night that I was like "Okay. This isn't good. This is going to take you down a path you don't want to go down. It's time to face yourself" This was after two weeks of trying to set limits for myself of how many glasses per night and per week I could have, and simply failing at it. So I decided to cut alcohol off completely, and right now I'm 114 days sober. My family drinks and my parents (who love their wine) still don't really get why I quit drinking, partly because it feels so personal to me that I haven't talked to them much about it beyond "Hey, no need to offer me wine at dinners anymore, I'm just not drinking anymore right now. No, I'm not pregnant." That and letting them know when I was 100 days sober because I felt proud of myself, thinking I could never do it. I suppose I SHOULD talk more about it with them though because just the other day, after THIS long of not drinking around them, my mom started talking about how this summer we should all go to this beautiful winery together hahah. Mom! I don't think that would be super fun for me anymore haha. 😆

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

You've got great insight, Sara!

@KoloaKane

3 жыл бұрын

you could say "you know , alcohol will kill ya "

@helenharch447

2 жыл бұрын

Sara I don't know how you went in your journey but as a complete stranger I want to say to you, the choice you made was so amazing. Sometimes in a family 1 person has to stand up and say "This may be everybody elses truth. It will not be mine. It stops with me." And that takes an unbelieveable amount of guts. Well done you. I see you. 🙏

@cloudsncats

2 жыл бұрын

@@helenharch447 thank you for such a kind response 💕 Lots of love and well wishes to you! ❤️

everything you have said is me!!! Wow. Thank you so much for this! I've subscribed and so hope to stop drinking!

@PutTheShovelDown

Жыл бұрын

Hi Dawn, Welcome to our little community. So glad you're here!

My husband drinks every night in life. He leaves out 4 tins of beer when the family know he has had a bottle of wine aswell. Refuses to address the problem and he says it's his right to drink because he works hard everyday. He is destroying his family and he does not care

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Ginger, Have you seen this one? It's about getting them to see the problem: kzread.info/dash/bejne/X2eemKp6mLLKYdo.html

@amazinggrace4860

3 жыл бұрын

It isn’t that he doesn’t care, the alcohol is making him blind to the fact that he is destroying the fsmiliy

@Michael-tr7uq

3 жыл бұрын

Alcohol causes brain changes, learned abhorrent behavior of all sorts, blackouts, broken families, infidelity, joyless lives, DUIs, lawyers, lost jobs, lost wages, it basically ruins lives and can cost $2000/month. Naltrexone does none of those things. In fact, it helps the brain reverse all of those things. Naltrexone, you may start out taking 1 pill a day, but you end up taking 1 pill a month or less. Some take no naltrexone after 4-12 months ! TEDx talk kzread.info/dash/bejne/aHmbysuSj9aYpNY.html Documentary www.amazon.com/gp/video/detail/B07NBWMH9D

@ripps999p

3 жыл бұрын

You can care enough to take your kids and leave.

@Kiki-yw9kc

3 жыл бұрын

@@ripps999p dead easy isn't it

WHEW!!! YOU NAILED IT!🔎!

Tried to quit several times then one day it stuck. I thank God everyday.

Love # 5-- Spot on!

@PutTheShovelDown

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks, James!

Wow that hit me me Hard once i Start i can’t stop and I’m so embarrassed to even look at my phone when I wake up

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

Even though it's not a fun realization, it's great that you can at least be honest with yourself about it!

Very informative video. Thanks!

@PutTheShovelDown

10 ай бұрын

Very welcome!

As a long dry alchoholic its so tragic that those in denial still have to continue on to the catastrophic breakdown that has to happen before any chance of a rebuild can begin.....

.... this is right up my alley. damn......

I'm here. I think I have a problem. Unfortunately, I also work in a bar

@commentscopyrightattorney5543

3 жыл бұрын

You can drink daily and still be fine, just don't let it get out of hand.

Good to hear the truth

This fits my father.

I know someone like this, its so sad. I worry for her family.

When asked, always say at least less than half amount that I actually drink. Take cash not card but sneaking out more money than people/ family know of.

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

It's a ton of work to keep it all up.

@Dan-qu8qs

3 жыл бұрын

I am ashamed of myself.

@reece1810

3 жыл бұрын

@@Dan-qu8qs Same here dude, Hang in there, wishing you the best.

@Dan-qu8qs

3 жыл бұрын

@@reece1810 thanks, think we all need support. All the best to you for 2021.

I consider the functioning alcoholic to be the "elite special forces" of alcoholics. All jokes aside I checked most of those boxes. Coming up on 60 days sober.

@PutTheShovelDown

7 ай бұрын

🤩🤩🤩Nice work, James!

Im watching this while drinking a beer 🍺

What if I never drink more then 3 beers? I become sleepy...ok I can drink more after the previous effect fades out, after several hours...

@PutTheShovelDown

4 жыл бұрын

I try to stay away from making a decision about alcoholism based on how much alcohol someone drinks. It's more about whether or not it causes problem in your life. Here are the official criteria for alcoholism in case your curious. kzread.info/dash/bejne/a35_xMaRdrvahqg.html

@mrtortoisedude

3 жыл бұрын

@@PutTheShovelDown But what if you drink a fifth minimum per day although no problems have really come about (at least not yet) because of it?

A family member of mine been drinking and smoking for 52 years and still going. Now at 65 years old he has signs of liver and kidney disease. Along with alcoholic dementia. Gets drunk when more alcohol in his system than eating. Then he don't remember what he said the the previous nights and says he never said any such things.

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like he's moved into the Non-functional stage 😥

My AW was a functional alcoholic for years. She evolved from. weekend cocktails or wine to daily drinks after work to relieve e stress. With menopause she began drinking more to counter insomnia. The kicker for my was No. 5, hiding it. She typically kept a bottle or full tumbler behind the couch and slept in the LR more frequently because she couldn't sleep. She's been unemployed for a year and is no longer "functional". She can go 2 weeks or more without a drink, but will go on binges for 4,5,6 days until she gets sick. Then it's another cycle of 2-3 weeks of sobriety.

GREAT VIDEO THANKS YOU GOODNESS 🌟 DAPHNE COTTON ALWAYS 💜

@PutTheShovelDown

8 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching!

My brother is doing this… I lost one brother 4yrs ago like this…. Same way, but this brother refuses to listen

I don’t meet any of these requirements and yet I gotta say… I definitely drink too much!

@PutTheShovelDown

Ай бұрын

Here's a video that contains the official criteria of Alcohol Use Disorder: kzread.info/dash/bejne/foqLyrOFidTQiqQ.html

I hate myself but everything you said made sense 🥺

@PutTheShovelDown

2 жыл бұрын

It takes a lot of self-honesty to see these types of things within yourself.

The sneaky drinking: my partner does this. Hides whine in plastic bottles, in het car, in the trash and flat out lies about it. Try to cover up her breath with other foods or brushing her teeth. None of them work. I find the lying part the worst. Or when she gets mad at me when i confront her..she then blames me for giving her stress and a reason to drink. I do really love her when she is sober shes a great person. But to many lies and empty promises are made. The trust is beyond repairable im afraid.

I’m trying to figure out if I have an addiction. I usually drink when I go out, tho It really depends on the kind of event that i’ll be attending. If it’s something casual maybe a beer or 2 (or wine or nothing at all). But, if I go out partying (once every other week- sometimes it’s even more time that goes by without me drinking) it will definitely be more than that, though I’ve been telling myself and others that I do know my limits and I usually do. There have been some (rare) incidents where I get home really drunk and end up throwing up or making a scene. Otherwise, I would be pretty functional. I would even take care of others, drink water, have interesting conversations with people, I can call an uber, take care of myself. The problem is that my mom hates whenever I drink and she’s been telling me to stop, which makes us fight. But, other than that I don’t really have any other problems

good helpful advice

You nailed it

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks, Matt!

I love your accent by the way. Hello from 🇨🇦.

@PutTheShovelDown

10 ай бұрын

Hey, thanks!

All alcoholic people need is Alan Watts zen lessons ,cheers !

I got so fed up with people coming up and telling me what i was doing when drunk i became a house drinker so i wasnt annoying anyone else .. in my alcoholic mind there was always a solution that never interfered with my drinking habits

I've been sober for about a month. Its hard. But I'm making it. I've was drinking for 4 years, everyday, until a month ago. If you look at my youtube channel, it kinda shows. I do feel better. Alot better. But Halloween is coming up, and God knows its gonna be hard not to throw a party and drink my way right back into a hole. I don't wanna die from alcoholism. But when I do die, I want to be drunk. 🥴

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Echristle, From reading your comment about halloween being hard an "wanting to die drunk", it tells me that you still feel like you're missing out something. This is why it feels so hard, because in your mind you feel deprived.

@echristle

3 жыл бұрын

@@PutTheShovelDown your completely right. I do feel like I'm missing out. Whoa. I never thought about it like that. What are some steps I should take to feel more.. i guess fulfilled?

@anthonywhite9912

3 жыл бұрын

Why do you want to be drunk when you die?

Based on research we are doing it seems those with functional alcoholism (5%) those with DTs on withdrawal and those who need a constant infusion of alcholol every day might be a different class?

I knew I had an alcohol problem so I stopped drinking alcohol 15 months ago and now I can't imagine getting drunk again. I see alcohol as the poison it is and have no problem staying away from it.

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your story with us Anthony! I love a success story!!!!

@robertcaraway738

3 жыл бұрын

When did it get to that point? A full 15 months? It just seems my desire will never go away

@anthonywhite9912

3 жыл бұрын

@@robertcaraway738 I always wanted to have an extended period of sobriety during my adult life. I finally just picked a date (no special date.) 3rd of October and made it my stop drinking date. I went to A.A for the first few months to get some feedback and support. Then because of my total lack of cravings I decided I could do it alone. I watch allot of KZread videos on stopping drinking which is better than A.A for me. Honestly what makes it easy for me is that I treat alcohol like the poison it really is, I don't crave poison so I don't crave alcohol You can do it Robert, just come at it from a different angle.

@robertcaraway738

3 жыл бұрын

@@anthonywhite9912 Thanks :)

I have a problem I drink almost half a litre of spirits most every night and want to stop but like you said its hard when alot of regular activities seem less fun without alcohol

@PutTheShovelDown

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Stalwart, Things will eventually become fun again, after you reset your brain chemistry. You may need to look into detox options. Here's a video about that: kzread.info/dash/bejne/moh21KaHp6-bZNI.html

@richardanderson7387

3 жыл бұрын

@@PutTheShovelDown Yep. In my experience, the "less fun" got to the point where I'd have to drink before I could even get excited enough to go out. Ultimately, it was no fun to go out without drinking and it wasn't much fun to go out even WITH drinking. And lord knows what kind of trouble "with Drinking" could generate.

Im barely functional, i tried to not drink. I felt great, for 8 days, then that last day of work was grueling...i completely fell off and under the wagon, i feel so disappointed in myself. I just keep reliving the guilt, its a cycle i can't seem to break

@PutTheShovelDown

4 ай бұрын

It's okay, Aaron. You can get right back on track. Here's a link to a video about getting back on track after a relapse: kzread.info/dash/bejne/o21sqJuEYNOqnso.html

5 months soberand this was me all the way

My x husband is a functional alcohol he didn’t want to do anything or go anywhere unless he could drink at that event. Also, he couldn’t leave the house after he slammed down 12 beers after work., even if our daughter was hurt and need to go to the hospital. Also he likes to hang out with a young crowd because people his age don’t drink like he does because most 50 yr olds have grown up and have important matters to attend to