I became my mom's primary caregiver at 32 years old. Did it for 2 years. She passed away a month ago (March 6th). It takes a special kind of person to be a caregiver. Not everyone can do it. I know the struggle, but I would do it all again. I miss my mom every single day

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I became my moms caregiver at the age of 20 or so. My older brother was the primary caregiver until he no longer couldn't since he had 2 jobs. I was always home taking care of my mother and devoting myself to her to the point that it messed up my mental health and overwhelmed me. A few things happened and I had to move out of my older brothers place, but once I was out, I was also FINALLY able to get her disability. I became in charge of everything and I was practically her power of attorney while my older brother was finally able to continue on with his life. She was put in a nursing home for months until one day she had been sent to the hospital because she refused to eat. We were given a bad prognosis. She had mini multiple strokes, a mass on the right side of her heart, many nodules in her lungs, her right lung had liquid. I was given the ultimatum: Should they continue treating her? Or shall she be put in hospice so that she may be comfortable until she takes her last breath? The doctors didn't recommend further treatment as her quality of life was poor since she hasn't been able to walk for 7 years and was not independent. Long story short, I was around when she passed away last month April 28; at the age of 58. She succumbed to her illnesses and it was also after I took her off dialysis. She was already weak and tired. She only lasted 3 days and her passing was unexpected. This is my first time without her this mother's day and I miss her so much but I have to remind myself that she's no longer suffering.

Wow. Thank you. Tears. I am so happy you are starting much younger than I did. Sending you a thousand hugs, validation and support.

Thanks for this! I was a millennial caregiver and no one truly understands what it's like.

I've been asked if I was a nurse only because I knew how to manage my moms medications, knew the over the counter names vs brand names of her chemotherapy regimes and prescriptions. But I was a 33 year old communications graduate, and no, they hardly ask if we're okay. Most were suprised to find I was an only daughter to a widdow with no extended family nearby and doing everything by myself. I can't even imagine doing this in my 20s. I hate being told I'm strong and this happened because God thought I could handle it, what an insensitive thing to say.

Vivian. This happened to me at age 8. My mom couldn’t handle taking care of a mentally retarded baby, my mom had me do her IEP for my brother when I was 13, my mom handed me my newborn sister baby at age 13. My mom said she was lucky how easy it was for her to raise children that I raised. My mom groomed me to be her cater when she grows old and plan B if my siblings outlived my parents. I was always mature with lots of wisdom. I never had a childhood and you can’t get back your childhood. Don’t live in the past. I’m in my 70s and am glad I have wisdom and maturity. But I am sad that I was never a child. What helps me is remembering all the adult stuff I had to do as a child I create the situation in my mind and say “no” in my mind to my mom. I have strong boundaries. What happen to me as a child was handling adult situations as a child and not saying No”. It was wrong what happened to you. You were taken advantage. Adults are suppose to protect you. The adults failed you. If you could have been taught as a child to deal with it as an adult that would have been empowering. You can help yourself by remembering and saying to those adults •no” I won’t do it. I feel for your and it is sad that you lost your childhood a chance to be you and grow as a person. This advice took decades but now I am strong. I like who I am. Me not what people did to me. Bless you 13:47

Thank you. Absolutely 100% accurate. No one even stops to blink. Thank you for making your website, gonna check it out now.

THANK YOU FOR SPEAKING THE TRUTH ABOUT HOW IT´S LIKE .