Grief is very personal, there is no instruction book.

Everyone deals with grief differently but for me i miss my mum everyday every hour every min😢 things hit me all the time no anniversary is easier than others they are all hard to me

@roseoconnor5938

2 ай бұрын

Me too....my mum died aged 88....seven years ago....I look back on her life, which was traumatic from an early age....the sacrifices she made....the hard times and hard work she did, ( through war years and beyond ) her sense of humour 😊.... I'm forever grateful she was my mum...I'll miss her always 💔

@patriciadevlin5121

2 ай бұрын

We all lost our dear parents; with deal with it our own way.

I envy people who reminisce about their mums and get upset to this day because I don’t, sadly. I had a depressive, emotionally unavailable mum who I’ve not shed a tear for since she died 31 years ago (I didn’t even want to go to her funeral). Couple that with a coercively controlling Narcissistic father who stole my childhood - well, I’m well rid! So to anyone lucky enough to have had loving, wonderful parents I say - however hard life is without them, you were truly blessed.

My mom died 3 months ago and i feel so lost without her. I think of here every day. My dad is my best friend but my mom was a mom. We are buying a house now and I wish she could see it. To share memories with her and make sure she is proud of me...😔

My mum died 4 years ago and still it hits me like a freight train. The worst is when it catches u unexpectedly and you have no choice but to cry.

I can completely empathise with Charlene as I had a child and I was motherless.. it’s really hard and no one understands this level of grief until you experience it first hand

I lost my dad 10 years ago when a car knocked him down and he died instantly . The shock and the grieving for him was and still is hard. I thought that was the worst time but 6 years ago my hubby took his own life very suddenly. The grief was so much harder this time. I think we have different types of grief depending on the relationships . It can still hit me hard though, thinking about them both but I have somehow got through it. I didn’t have a choice as my 3 kids needed me but they were my rocks at times. All the 1sts were tough and a piece of music or a smell can really take me back to them at anytime . There’s up and down times , and I think we never really get over them , it’s more a case of learning to live a different life along side our grief.

@lone8869

2 ай бұрын

I am so sorry to read about your husband. Deepest condolences.

@babsbee4081

2 ай бұрын

@@lone8869 thank you…💜

My parents died when i was very young and i totally understand the feelings of jealousy at others having their parents still alive to give advice and guidance. But yeah, i think it's hard at whatever age you lose your parents, many times grief continues to sneak up on you and leaves you in a crying mess but i think this is the price we pay for love. I still take forward in life the lessons they taught me and hope they would be proud of the adult I've become 😢❤

Charlene, I didn't come from my Mum as I was adopted as a baby, but she was the most important woman in my life and always will be

I couldn't cope with the first New Year's Eve without my Dad. I didn't want 2007 to end, because he wasn't going to be in 2008 & so on. That really broke my heart

@peterwilliamskelhorn6675

2 ай бұрын

@sharonsummers427 my nan died in 2007 as well she had brain cancer. She was worried what i would think about her face but i said it doesn't matter what her face was like she'll always be my nan(I'm her oldest grandson. Her daughter is my mum)

@amandamcshane2662

2 ай бұрын

My Mam passed away end of Nov just gone, Christmas was ok as I was busy with family but New Years Eve is when it really hit me… our with the old in with the new, wipe the slate clean but how could I start a new year without my Mam being part of it :( very hard

@peterwilliamskelhorn6675

2 ай бұрын

@@amandamcshane2662 it's tough during the first year

I will always miss my mom everyday every minute of of my life knowing she not there 😢as a part of my life . Not seeing the things that are goin on my with my life but she always watching I know I will miss and love her always . As she was taken to soon from us ❤😢

Thankyou. So helpful❤

When my mum died I was so angry and resentful of anyone who still had their mum cos it felt so unfair. 4 years on I'm not so angry but I do wonder sometimes why my mum?

Up until the first anniversaries of everything then life goes on. At one time I bought flowers for the death anniversaries, now the dates pass me by without even remembering. If anything music will make me grieve for times past and doing the family tree I wished my parents were around to check some things out. I lost my Dad in my 30's and Mum when I was 50, they were 80 and 90 respectively, my brother on the other hand was 68 and he passed away unexpectedly in his sleep and his wife 3 years later, she neglected her health and gave up, it was too hard carrying on without him even though their first grandchild had just been born. I think you always grieve the losses but I don't do it openly or post on SM, I don't even think about them daily, each to their own

True

i dont think anyone understands you like your parents i have lost both mine, i too feel jealous of people i know that have their parents but are not appreciative of them

Mothers Day is very difficult for me b cuz my Mom passed away a long time ago & I miss her so & also I’m not a Mom. I have cardiac issues & b cuz of that I was told a pregnancy would mean grave danger to me & the baby. So I never had children. & couldn’t afford other options. So Mothers Day each year has it’s own grief & tears.

Very much depends on the relationship you had with your mum, I knew my mum loved me but she was always quite detached, she didn’t do most of the things for me that most mothers do for their children which is maybe why I left home at 17 and never depended on her, I was 30 when she died with two small children that she loved but showed very little interest in... I envy woman like Charlene who had a close and loving relationship with their mums.