It can be devastating, even traumatizing, to invest so much into people who you think are your friends only to have them let you down when you really need them.

@RaZeyLWindBladE

3 жыл бұрын

Im no expert but ive always have this sense of 'i dont expect anything in return' kind of mentality when i 'invest' in my friends. I know without a shadow of a doubt that the ones that really care for me will be there when i need them and those who wont arent worth my time, even if it was a friendship of years. Real friendships are the ones that take you out of your comfort zone and make you better, talk about uncomfortable things and make you see better about yourself because at the end of the day, if they care for you, they want you to be better. Listening to only those who say you are as good as you are aren't friends, they are just acquaintances.

@rtanderson2

3 жыл бұрын

Imagine being the friend on the other side of that.... and then having the coin flipped almost without understanding.... talk about mutually devastating.

@RaZeyLWindBladE

3 жыл бұрын

@@rtanderson2 take it this way, if you want to have good friends, you have to be a good friend yourself. If you want to have a best friend, you have to be, and want, the best for them too. But dont have the thought that they will do something for you in return. That way of thinking, of mutual needs just leads to friendship being a transaction which ends up being temporary.

@madenlaur5073

3 жыл бұрын

@@RaZeyLWindBladE but it's completely wrong if it's just one sided friendship....like you put all the effort believing that someday he'll be there when you need and when the time comes in desperate need they don't even bother...that hurts like hell..so it's not just about effort from your side it's all about choosing....choose your friends carefully... don't make your childhood friend your best friend unless you feel that he is!!! Sometimes you just believe that he is your best friend but he just benefits from you all the time.....choose your friends carefully....

@gratefultammy

2 жыл бұрын

@@RaZeyLWindBladE exactly right

👏 Investment also implies there’s risk you might not get your time and energy back, which makes it more valuable, for the both of you.

The most valuable thing in the world is a good friend who just be there for you and you will be at their support unconditionally ,, no plans ,, no blames, no justifications needed, accepts who you are the way you are ,, no judgements. you don’t choose your family but you choose your friends and they become part of you.. lucky who have good friends 👍

I would suggest that sometimes it isn't the friend you need to have the uncomfortable conversation with, you sometimes need it with yourself.

@saraob

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely

@civilizedmonster

3 жыл бұрын

Yes

Was in a hole, and after listening for the last 2/3 months I’m slowly getting out. Might be slowly but I’m step by step and day by day getting better! Thanks Simon

@AMAli-ct5df

3 жыл бұрын

it is exremely difficult man to get out am really trying.

Agree until the last bit, no need to have an uncomfortable conservation with vampires, just block them. Your time is priceless

Learnt this the hard way... you definitely can't do it alone no matter how good you are or how good you think you are. As fate would have it there are just some things in life that you can only get from others :)

Why would a person ever consider someone a friend if they never done anything meaningful for you? Single sided relationships are not friendly they’re parasitic. Trust should follow reputations if you don’t want to continually find yourself as a victim.

@suryahr307

3 жыл бұрын

Because I have the confidence that one day in need, they'll be there for me. Did you watch full video?

@maxigol1977

3 жыл бұрын

@@suryahr307 Agreed. If I do 100 things and they don't do one, it may alsl be because I haven't needed help.

@suryahr307

3 жыл бұрын

@@maxigol1977 yeah and in friendship small helps happen very often, but we don't count them and is not even considered as help. I barely thank them for any help.

@Sippin777

3 жыл бұрын

@@suryahr307 He mentioned “keeping score” as if that is a bad thing. You can call it keeping score or label it as something else but we should always “ keep score” in every part of life in a way in which assesses the respect given to all persons including yourself. If all he is talking about is a duration of time without you needing any help than I would say ... a duh. If the one minute clip doesn’t provide proper context than they shouldn’t of posted it.

This all sounds magical and fun, yet If I do 1000 things for someone and they do nothing for me, there would be something wrong with me. Why would I feel compelled to stay in a relationship where I would be constantly giving with the Hope's one day I'll be needy enough to recieve. It's like breathing out and never being able to take a breath in. Even Steven along the yellow brick road for me.

To appreciate a person of his talents and potential making someone feel good and satisfied and make believe is a kind of friendship. It doesn't matter if he knows you or not. Just be yourself.

Friendship is more of mutual understanding and natural relationship, you may get or may not get something in return. It is not business transaction like if you I will pay only when I will get a thing from you. So..that is how love and friendship is all about. Thanks Simon.

You are so on point! Relationships are so important !

I really love simon but today I have to say this wouldn't work for a long term relationship.....a good friendship needs to have reciprocity....both parties need to put in effort in a way that the other person values....

Unfortunately I had some "friends" that did just that. Kept score or track of things done vs things they got from you... they are no longer in my circle.

Thank you so much for this, Simon. I could listen to you 24/7 and never get bored!

@thegoodseeker2248

3 жыл бұрын

Same here!:)

So absolutely true.

That hits different

Simon...My man Crush. You've shaped my outlook in life for several years now.

Amazing! Never thought I'd be finish watching this video!

He's always on point.

This hit home today. I’ve had that uncomfortable conversation and I haven’t talked to the friend since.

Beautiful

Wow yes 🔥 ❤️. It's not keeping records, not a transaction. Definitely an investing relationship. 🙏 I wish more people saw it like you! 💘 💘

Any relationship needs time invested. You cannot expect to leave you friends for other people, adventures, etc and expect the levels to be the same when you’ve stopped investing. Everyone has a right to invest in who they want to invest in. But there are consequences.

Well said

Good friendships....leverage..action

The Givers experience all the Colours of Life ... They fulfill the purpose of this Existence ... And they receive from many sources (oftentimes the unexpected). With that said, a lot of true joy comes when we stop comparing ourselves with those around us, while knowing that we need to take care of ourselves as well. Only then will the ripple be as constructive as possible ...

So true❤️

Friendship simplified in 60 seconds

Reciprocity, yes; quid pro quo, no.

Frienship is not built, it just happens.

That ending, tho

Tanzania 🇹🇿

You have to trust someone before they trust you. The rule because of which many people dont make any strong friendship all their life.

Thanks .El inmigrante venezolano

How can i find the full video of this?

I need to have a lot of uncomfortable conversations

Political though. You're right, uggh. Thanks 👌

@marieconway4889

3 жыл бұрын

Or Sam Harris 🎯. Joe Rogan, was that your doing.. 😉

@marieconway4889

3 жыл бұрын

Well, I'm here if you need anything? Just changing the world in my spare time. I tagged Jill Biden..⌚🌎

@suryahr307

3 жыл бұрын

@@marieconway4889 are you okay?

Never Again

It sucks. I dont have any of those "friends" Simon was talking about.

wishful thinking

Sou o único BR? (Brasileiro)?

You have your wallet madam go and invest

This is one of the few times I absolutely disagree with Simon.

@chetanshir007

3 жыл бұрын

I was wondering if I'm the only one thinking like that😂😅

I want to Hug Simon Sinek at least once before my death. 👍

Don't be a manager for other people's wallets madam