This is happening to me right now. Thank you so much for educating people on this. It’s helped me in more ways than you can imagine. Thank you.

@farrukhjamal6689

Жыл бұрын

Me too..I agree... I'm going through the same.

@anitaree8401

Жыл бұрын

Me too

Ive been stuck in between extreme sadness ,anger,betrayal qnd then just numb for such a long time. I move forward and back between these emotions ,right now Im just really sad and hurt again.

“Fell in love with nothing” “Your future was fake” Even though I knew this already, and I’ve heard this before.... those words just stabbed me straight through the heart 💔 and made me feel like the biggest dumbass ever to have lived. I’m so glad I found you on Instagram. Idk why, but your the only person I like, *really* believe when you speak. Like, you ✨know✨ what narc abuse sufferers have been through. I really enjoy your videos and enjoy listening to you speak. Thank you.

@ketojenner3263

3 жыл бұрын

I totally agree with you, I watched so many videos and podcasts and Danish was the best coach for me. What he was talking was exact experience with my Narc. I’m still in the beginning of grief… very hard and painful but someday I hope I can forget everything

@alfromtheblock9656

3 жыл бұрын

@@ketojenner3263 I am in the very beginning too. Like sometimes I feel like I can’t do this; I’m not strong enough. Sometimes I feel like he made me weak just so he would know I would need him. He succeeded because I still have feelings of going back.

@sassi7966

Жыл бұрын

Don't feel bad. Your only "crime" was being a little innocent regarding human nature and relationships. I was too. But how can you know something unless you've been taught... Their crimes however are legion. The good thing is, we now know 👍

@rusticrefinedcustomcontrac6234

Жыл бұрын

I just came a crossed this video after months of researching. I'm a man who just divorced a severely narcissistic wife after 3.5 yrs of counseling and the loss of everything else in life. I've been humiliated in every way I know of. But I'm a very, very good man. We were high jacked because of the goodness in us. I very much share your sentiment of a year ago. Thanks for being so open as to say what I feel so often.

@recoveringsoul755

Жыл бұрын

HUrts at first. When I realized I fell in love with an illusion, someone "acting" like a normal person to trick me, it WAS easier to stop loving them. But then you go through another phase of looking at EVERY thing that ever transpired between you with Fresh eyes. It's never ending waves of coming to terms with it all. And Its so frustrating because its a survival mechanism for them, and maybe they really do feel like the victim. But they do hurt us on purpose. Makes me wonder if the marriage was even real, it's based on them loving you. And they didn't. We don't get those years or money or anything back.

Acceptance. Radical acceptance is where I am now 🌹

I dated an abusive person for a few months (we became close friends about 6 months before dating). It wasn’t a long time. But more than a year after ending the friendship, I still feel grief. I still feel pain. I can only imagine what several years of abuse can do to a person 😞

Thank you. I'm still numb, having been raised by a narcissist. I have zero sense of who I am but I could write books about who they are. My grief and sadness are buried, though slowly thawing. My body is suffering, currently, for the lack of release and processing. It's like I'm carrying a dead, invisible body around inside. Your words reinforce what I am experiencing. Thank you again.

This grieving is so different and so much more complex, then death! So wonderfully comforting to get this validation!

Thank you. Healing from narcisistic relationships hell takes time but it is so very worth it! The other side is unimaginably better.

The pain of the loss was tremendous because now I have to find myself again that loving woman that was there in the beginning they cared about everybody he took every bit of that away from me made me into a shell of a woman even my children were turning away from me and my grandson it was the saddest thing I had ever witnessed in my life all because he was playing with my head and with my heart he was so good in the beginning for years and years gradually as when it came on And when he started doing it I realized he was having affairs on me but I could never catch him this one I caught him in and that's when everything turned it was like his mask fell offell off and I didn't even know who he was

THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR SHARING I WAS HORRIBLY ABUSED BELITTLED I EXPERIENCED EVERYTHING YOU JUST NAMED IM STILL STRUGGLING.FOR 7 YEARS I WAS RIPPED APART BY BEING TORTURED AND USED FROM THE NARC I BECAME USE ACCEPTING THIS ABUSE I FEEL SO LOST. I HAVE 2 WEEKS OF NO CONTACT IM STRUGGLING TRYING TO HEAL.

@kiransagar8557

Жыл бұрын

Same with me

Thank you for validating and articulating everything I’m going though right now. It’s absolutely not linear, just when I’m feeling empowered, I get a setback that knocks me in tears for the day. The disbelief and realization of who I thought he was is overwhelming. I thought I had the best 7 years of my life, then it flipped in a heartbeat. Now 7 months later he’s gone and I’m starting the divorce process. I’m scared but finding my strength though anger and conviction. Thank you again for helping me make sense of it.

You are a light in darkness...you helped me and i will forever be praying for you... I was so unable to figure out on which stage i was but i am so clear and now it all makes sense ❤️❤️❤️

Whatever it may be, let's be happy abt the fact that these experiences help us gain more life wisdom and maturity.

Education has helped with my healing so much. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

I know my grief is complicated. I spent years in the mental health system believing that a chemical imbalance was my problem, that I was born broken and bad, and no one addressed family dynamics. Also my brother committed suicide and before he died kept trying to warn me that our upbringing was f----d up, but I didn't believe him. So I am reliving his death and the guilt of not believing him, the scapegoat, and how lonely he must have felt all his life. I am so sorry Bro ❤❤❤❤

@gojiberry7201

8 ай бұрын

@@great-garden-watchWow, I am so sorry for the loss of your brother. My bro was also an alcoholic. He started drinking young. 💔

Thank You for the kind and caring way you affirm all the overwhelming emotions brought on by the process this type of abuse has on the soul ... It's just SAD .. It's the only way to describe these entanglements ... Thank you truly ... Your Videos have meant so much for me ..

Many people sped their whole life suffering nd never realising that they r suffering.they become numb nb mind becomes fogged

Danish Thank you so much! I have so much respect for you and what you do. Its helping me move forward without giving up. I denied how f.. Up my sisters and mother are. Feels nice to admit they have no true love in them.

Anxiety ++ when there is a large gap between fantasy and reality. It is a hard hit when you realize that you are in love with a mirage that does not exist that it was an illusion that we chose to create.

Yes! This happened! I was grateful for videos like this. The information and all of the trauma bonding & cognitive dissonance lessened. I was disconnected and it was all an illusion. I was so ready to let go. He felt the separation. I went no contact & no ties at all.✊🏾✊🏾

Omg exactly what I’m going through!! On the money

You have helped me so much, I really thank you,, I'm on almost 2nd day no contact.. it's so hard..iv cried more than I have in 10 years.. and he don't deserve my tears.. but I'm so hurt by the things he's said to me, about what an awful person I am..I know it's not true.. but it still hurts with all the time and effort and love I put into him.. Thank you again,

@petrapavla85

Жыл бұрын

Love you we are on the same board, hold on😍

@PraveenSrJ01

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience here

This really did help...i don't know what to say you are doing something that's sooo helpful and eye-opening 🙏

It's to hard to write about this matter. It took me five and a half years to snap out of my divorce. My husband was a malignant narc. He abused me so severely that I almost died. I was in school and very depressed until I could not move from my bed and was waiting to die. Then he explained to me how he was going to kill me in my sleep. I left him and started to work so hard and was so tired that I couldn't think about anything else. He died waiting for me to come back, because I was the " love of his life "😂😂😂😂🎉.

If I could have articulated it this would be an exact account of what I am stuck in. The last stage or two really and mixed emotions hit home. So perfectly explained and connected like no one else on yt. Thanks again and wish it wasn't too late.

Well described! 🙌🏽 Very thankful for you Danish!

Very good video. Thank you!

This is so True!

Thank you , Sir

THANK YOU. THANK YOU. THANK YOU.

This is where I am now

Thank you so much that was incredible. I learnt so much. Thank you thank you thank you🍃🪷💫

11 years with my partner. In the end he wanted me dead we separated for 1 year and he died a year to the day I left. I immediately felt acceptance that he was dead I felt safe and I finally could cry. I could cry that he was gone. I went around his family and then had to feel their guilt it was weird because I had no guilt I gave that man my all and stuck by him until it was no longer safe. I can say I've been grieving my best friend before the drugs took him over. I feel guilty because I still care about him we really had love for each other. But I don't care I still care about it you don't stay for 11 years if you don't. I never felt that I fell in love with nothing but I did realize that he was only meant to be a lesson. We just was crazy and held on to each other for way too long. I'm feeling sadness today because it's a month since he has been gone physically. Deep healing started the day I left and awakened deeper on the day he died. I just want this back and forth stuff to go ago. I would like to the honor the guy before drugs took him and also move on and let go.

Currently in that heavy depression. Again. In a very complicated situation with a narc. There truly are no words for how big and hard it is. But I do sometimes think that I would do ANYTHING to get away from it.

Thank you for clarification on the process. I am at the fourth stage and I think I am stuck. But looka likevthere is hope ahead. You are a life saver. The pain is true and excruciating and yes no-one will understand it. Can you please recommend some reading materials or exercises to overcome this knot of feelings or work through it. Thank you.

You understand and explain this so well. It is very helpfull. 31 days out. I think my grieving process started 5 years ago, just after the lovd bombing. I knew about narcissism and started to study the disorder intensely to try and understand what was happening. So leaving was a bit easier for me. Even so, I still find myself doubting what happened. Is my recollection of events really true? How is it possible for a person to behave like that? Then I need to go back to the notes I made to convince myself. It is a terrible thing, an absolute nightmare!

Please do...I need it so much

Abused by a "best frnd" for 3 years.......now I realise that was a trauma bond...............

Myself in the process of all of this not knowing what happened but I know it was because I think now because I was just Tuning him off doing my thing and not hanging out with him doing the things if he wanted to do and I figured really wore on him because he wasn't getting the attention that he needed I didn't have it in me anymore he drained me of everything and everybody that was in my life everybody thought that I was mean and a vicious woman but I didn't mean to be like that I didn't know who I wasn't anymore I fell into such a black hole but I didn't know how to live and he left me just left me and was gonna try to take everything away from me through the divorce but thank God the divorce was never even started He never signed the papers before he committed suicide or he committed suicide God is good to me and always has been

thank you

Thank you.

@oscarwilliamson1128

Жыл бұрын

Carol Ritchie,You look gorgeous ❤,Hope you are not with a narcissist….

I feel stuck , in this situation

i know, but i cannot take much more

TY

I am dealing with this for 3 mos now.

Can you do a video on Narcissistic Mother and empath daughter relationships ? I’m 45 and just getting out now.

@petrapavla85

Жыл бұрын

Same here

Just heartbreaking horrible

Thank you. It has been almost a year that it ended but now feeling this deep sadness, questioning it all and wanting to just not exist. Any way of linking with the session you talk about? Is it still available? Thank you

@dorothywalters7448

Жыл бұрын

Don't ever give up. Keep learning that we were in the relationship for the right reasons and were taken advantage of. I'm finally thankful for what I do have....me!!

@marygavin3203

9 ай бұрын

I feel that also

I have suffered all these steps. Now I know this has a name. Iam. Confident that it was not my mistake. Now iam on the verge of breakup. Wish me luck please

@smithashenoy2742

Жыл бұрын

Danish you have helped many like me. U explained these things precisely. Thank you and I request you to continue your service to those who are in distress

Either something is wrong with me and I’m holding it in. But I didn’t “grieve” for that long. I grieved for about two weeks and now I just feel anger or numb most days. And this was a 7 year marriage. I didn’t grieve for that long.

I’m in the extreme sadness and angry phase. Is it normal for previous bad habits to resurface? Like shopping too much and I have desire to start smoke again even though I know it’s temporary and just do it under intense stress and sadness

@samiyanur2599

Жыл бұрын

Don’t bother I hope u feel better just go through this and wait it out each day gets easy just make ur self get out the house if u can’t whenever is ur safe zone

After 39 years of marriage to a narcissist that I really couldn't put my finger on what was wrong with him because he was a covert narcissisted I'm learning about 30 years and our marriage I started shutting down got tired of building him up and making his ego puffed up constantly he would never give me anything he kept all the money for his self would barely give me anything just to buy groceries and car gas he ended up fighting a woman that was also married and then add me false for your rest it'll remove from my home this just happened in April of this year 2022 that lasted for about a month and a 1/2 and she broke it off with him and he committed suicide it's suicide and now my grieving is about losing him and losing my

@americawaters4257

9 ай бұрын

❤

I would like to get into contact with your coaches. It looks like the time period in this video has passed. I'm sure you have continuing coaching though.

It was the worst thing I had ever encountered in my life his facial expression was empty his eyes were empty his eyes were empty and all I could do was cry to her on the telephone as if he was hurting when he was the one that was leaving me for her it was just sick and demented demonic the wordest thing I have ever encountered in my life but you know what I thank God every day that I have strength and that of strength and yes I miss some of the things about him and I'm and I was Blaming myself for all of this thought if I would have done this or if I would've done that he wouldn't kill myself but no it's because he lost his main supply his main supply before he could secure his 2nd supply and when she broke it off with him he couldn't handle it and he killed herself after 39 years of marriage withere's a marriage with me but his brother and sister both are heavy narcissist they're bad you could tell they were immediately but he was covered you didn't see it for a long time now now I'm healing thank God and so are my children

@americawaters4257

9 ай бұрын

God bless you. ❤

It is the worst grief as even the really good first year was all a lie. It was all just an illusion.

Psychopathic relationships

Did this already happen?

Ya

Normal grieving process ~ Shock, denial, anger, bargaining, depression takes a longer time to process, acceptance. Grief after narcissistic abuse ~ Narcs leave you feeling destroyed, disoriented, dissociated, confused, empty, in a scarcity mindset, feeling you lost yourself, unsafe, fearful of repercussions. Denial is induced by cognitive dissonance and addictive trauma bonding and you may become confused, dysregulated and emotionally reactive. Get educated on narcissism, what actually happened, introspect to become aware and able to name the abuse, realise it was a fake fantasy and you were the only one really there in a shared idealisation with a mirage. Feel intense sadness, anger, pain and cluster of negative emotions. It all seems indescribable and suicidal ideation can set in. Sadness releases in waves over time, CNS gradually resets from sympathetic (stuck on alarm) to parasympathetic (calm down) followed by a deeper healing stage where you refocus back onto yourself, get back into your own body, emotions, and self care, rebuild identity, restore and renew heart, mind, spirit and soul. You go back and forth through the stages till it's all processed in it's own good time according to the individual. Thanks for inspiring, this was really helpful. 💐💝👍