I exclusively pump and I get the most intense angry feelings and a rush through my whole body like bugs are crawling inside my skin. It lasts pretty much the entire time I pump, not just during the first let down. It is really hard to bring myself to do it 4 times a day! But thank goodness I have never had a let down or feeling of let down when my baby cries or when I hear any other baby cry because I would seriously lose my mind! Thanks for this video it helps to know I’m not alone!!!

@nehapokharkar9623

Жыл бұрын

This is exactly how I feel, every time I nurse my baby. That rush through my whole body is so intense, it feels like I’m about to die, and just can’t wait to de-latch the baby. I talked to various Lactation Consultants for this, they suggested different holds, comfortable positions, and proper latching. But nothing helped. I’m being told to nurse through the pain, saying that’s the only way. Where I come from, there’s a lot of shame attached over using formula and doctors scold us for using it with our babies. Still I use it whenever this feeling gets way too intense. I don’t know how I’m going to survive a year of doing this thing day and night. Thanks for bringing light on this topic. Edit- DMER is different than BAA (Breastfeeding Agitation & Aversion). BAA lasts for an entire nursing session, while DMER lasts until let-down.

@Mrs.blt84

Жыл бұрын

@@nehapokharkar9623 I’m so sorry to hear you are going through this. 😢

I am absolutely mind blown by learning about this! I had this with all my kids and never mentioned it to anyone because it was so strange and I didn't quite know how to describe it to anyone. I'm so glad there is a word for it and others have experienced it. I always thought I was just super wierd.

I feel not alone listening to this and reading comments . My first child has a disability and so I pumped with a hospital grade pump for 8months and she has a gastric tube. I had awful feeling of flight and flight and existential dread, pain in my legs, negative thoughts and leading to depression. Pumping at least six times a day to get enough. I just had another baby two years later and we are doing well establishing breastfeeding but the D-MER is back! I’m so gutted because I thought it was the pump but it was the letdown maybe triggered from pumping and stress. Hoping to work through D-MER great to hear how you were tackling it. I think I will need to be kinder to myself this time around.

Fun fact: you dont even need to be pregnant to have this. I have never been and this happens when just stimulated by husband. As well as becoming thirsty. So crazy how the body works!

@adelavalladares

2 жыл бұрын

I had this since I was a kid

@kittychasesquirrels

Жыл бұрын

Also had this randomly since adolescence. It was actually nice to finally know it was some hormone issue, even if its not curable.

@niki_99

Жыл бұрын

Update, I’ve had a baby now and he’s 2 and I no longer suffer the D Mer. I think I am cured. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Thank you! I suffer a lot and it makes me physically nauseous every 1 minute at the time 😢 it’s so amazing to know more women suffer from this and it’s nit just me ❤

Thank you for sharing! This is exactly what I experienced and the nurses didn’t really know what it was either. Glad to know I wasn’t going crazy.

Thankyou so much for posting this, really helpful!

I had this with my first and my second baby. I mean as soon as my babies latch on (even the first time), I am in pain because of the uterus shrinkage and the overwhelming yucky feeling as well. I can almost describe it as anxiety and bad nausea mixed together at the same time...definitely makes me not want to do it. Both of my sons became formula fed children and I was much happier. Now I am due with my 3rd baby in July and my first girl. I would love to breastfeed but I know that I'm not going to. I also suffer from anxiety in general so I know my limitations (especially by 3rd baby) and do not want to feel that DREAD after a baby again! Thank you for posting and bringing awareness to this condition.

@ErinKay

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, it’s definitely anxiety driven. I didn’t experience the nausea. Sorry you had to go through DMER, it’s so tough especially since no one knows what it is. Did you have support?

I learned a lot from this!

@ErinKay

6 жыл бұрын

Taylor Lynn I'm glad! I really want to bring awareness to this condition and help others suffering from it!

Wow. Thank you so much. I think I have this..

I am about to have my 3rd baby and did not know what the sensation was with my first 2 kiddos. For me, during letdown it feels like my neck and back have ants under my skin crawling. Super irritating sensation that makes me physically uncomfortable and very squirmy. I lasted 3 weeks with my first breastfeeding and 2 weeks with my second. I am hoping now that I am aware of what is going on it will be more manageable...but I am fine getting sleep with giving bottles if it does not work out. Good luck everyone!!!

I'm a week PP, my baby is in the NICU so I have to pump. I am having an issue with DMER. I also had anxiety prior to pregnancy. When you weaned your first baby did the symptoms last till the milk dried up?. Did it vanish after? A lactation consultant I spoke to yesterday said all my symptoms sound like DMER. She said try better hydration, working out, & get more sleep. She also said its worse in the early weeks PP. I'm really trying to fight the anxiety when pumping, but it makes me so irritated and have loss of appetit every 3 hours. I even get scared to speak on the phone when my parents call to check on me just cause I cant explain the sensation I get in my stomach. This is my 3rd baby, and didn't experience this with my other 2 pregnancies. 😞🤞 thank you for this video

@redxanda14

3 жыл бұрын

Hello! I too have three kids and I didn't have no symtoms of d- mer with my two kids. It was only with my third but in my case my symtoms didn't start untill my baby was 3 or 4 months old. My baby is now 22 months and I have stopped breastfeeding, I still have light feeling of d-mer even after 3 weeks of not breastfeeding.

It's the worst homesick feeling!

@ErinKay

5 жыл бұрын

Isn’t it? It’s so weird. Hugs!

This feeling use to happen to me mostly @ night and with letdown.

@ErinKay

5 жыл бұрын

That’s interesting it would happen mostly in the evening for you. Yes, D-MER (most commonly) only happens at let down.

I couldnt even get any help for this because both of my doctors have never heard of this.

@ErinKay

5 жыл бұрын

That’s so frustrating! We definitely need to educate our doctors. Did you find any help at all? Taking Zoloft helped me.

Wow. I had this with my first born. I never knew what it was.

@ErinKay

6 жыл бұрын

stephanierennee isn't it crazy it's never talked about? How long did it last for you?

@stephanierennee

6 жыл бұрын

Erin Kay I’m in shock to be honest. I was made to feel like I was “making up excuses” to not want to breastfeed. I called all the hotlines I spoke with two different doctors. All of them said something along the lines of “breastfeeding is supposed to make you feel good. You should be getting a sort of high from it.” I did not have any positive feelings. It’s the hardest feeling to explain. I only breastfed for just over a week. In that first week we were also in and out of the hospitals because my first born was diagnosed with a rare genetic condition. I also battled PPD for months. However, I have a 4 month old now and he is EBF. I didn’t have any of the emotions I did before. I can relate to you because when I was pregnant I kept researching and learning as much as I could about breastfeeding. I wanted so badly to “prove to myself” that I could do it. If they could do it I could! And so I did. Great latch since the first one. I’m not saying there isn’t any struggles but it’s no where like it was before. Before this video I had no idea what it was. Thank you for being open and honest. If your goal was to reach out to one person you did. If you don’t mind I’ll be sharing this video with close friends.

@ErinKay

6 жыл бұрын

stephanierennee please share! It's such a shame our culture isn't familiar with this condition, and makes us mamas feel bad about ourselves. That's the last thing a mother should feel postpartum. I'm happy you found this video, keep in touch :)

I had this with my son, I was pumping and formula feeding. Now I’m planning to exclusively breastfeed my daughter instead of pumping or formula and I am hoping that I do not have this feeling again.

@ErinKay

5 жыл бұрын

Sarah Kreller good luck! I noticed I don’t have the feeling as intensely the longer I continue to breastfeed.

I thought it was just me 😢

Breasts and nipples are highly sexual and law and families would think quite differently if men got aroused, in fact just search youtube of all those videos where men are sent to prison. This has got to be the biggest hypocrisy in the world that its ok for women because its breastfeeding.

@fighttheevilrobots3417

Жыл бұрын

Wtf are you talking about Sounds like you are making excuses for some creepy and disturbing behavior and also being a misogynist.