I'm the first generation in the last 3+ generations of my family to have a traditional wedding, and these videos are all so helpful to someone who has very little idea of what to do. These are helping me run a low budget wedding and plan a majority of it on my own! Thank you Jamie for all of these amazing, helpful videos!

second!! I'm having my bridal shower combined engagement party this Saturday. I'm so happy to have the party bc COVID has literally almost sucked the joy out of wedding planning

I had never heard of such a thing has a bridal shower before America told me last year

Officially watching this as an engaged person!!! I've been loving your videos for over a year now and you are going to be my unofficial wedding planner. I'm looking at the master plan soon!!! Thank you so much for all you do!!!

Omg I was just trying to research about wedding showers!! You are amazing with your timing ❤

My best friend literally has the easiest job ever cus I don’t want an engagement party or a wedding party hahah. The only event we have planned is the bachelorette vacation at Disney and making our ears. 😅

@user-emilyyyy

4 жыл бұрын

HAHAHAHA I don’t want any of that either!! It doesn’t appeal to me

My bridal party completely skipped over step 1, and it drove me _nuts._ They (and by they I mean my mom, who decided she was organizing everything) insisted on keeping everything completely secret. I was not even asked what my availability was, despite working weekends. I was not asked who I wanted to invite, where I wanted to have it... SIGHHH.

We had our bridal shower early since our families are on opposite coasts and everyone was going to be in the same area anyways. We rented a room at a restaurant and played games. It was so fun!

I (along with my Mom and my sister's MIL) hosted the shower for my sister last year and it was a lot of fun! If you have some graphic design experience, I recommend creating the invites in Canva. They can print it out really nicely and at an affordable price! My sister loves movies so we did a movie inspired theme with boxes of movie theater candy as the favors and a gourmet popcorn bar. We went with heavy appetizers for food and it was SO MUCH WORK but the guests really loved the variety. I would say that the most challenging aspect of the bridal shower was trying to figure out how many people were actually coming. Around 80 were invited and an RSVP was requested, but we only heard from about half of the guests. So we ended up making some extra food and had a few extra favors just in case.

Hi can you do a video on Destination Weddings? How to pick a location, costs, what to do if an important guest can't afford it, how early you should fly there before the wedding etc

OMGGGGGG!!! I love this!!! I just had my bridal shower last week it was so much fun! I posted the video to help people with ideas!

I think I'm going to have a Bridal Brunch instead of a Bridal Shower. I don't want gifts and I just want all our aunts and friends and family to meet and have mimosas and some brunch foods. Also, I don't love the idea of games either. My best friend did this for her shower and it turned out lovely.

Do you have a video on what to put on wedding websites? I love your content!! 😊

I love you Jaime thank you so much for sharing your knowledge 💗

This series is sooo helpful thank you Jamie!!

This is perfect timing! Mine is coming up! 😁

Amazing information. Thanks!! Sending to the person that is planning my shower now.

Thank you! I needed a happy video today.

We’re having a stock the bar party where people bring us a bottle to put in our bar. My fiancé likes fancy whiskey and was jealous for not getting a party. He already has tools so it was a fun idea so he gets a party

Can you please do a video on separate events rolled into one wedding (Ie, small after ceremony dinner but large dancing reception or small ceremony and large dinner/reception) I'm having a lot of trouble with trying to figure out etiquette of everything.

I recently started watching your videos and I really love your channels. These are two suggestions I wanted to share because I want more people to see your channels: I think you should mention your second channel in this channel's videos because it's not mentioned often, and you should ask the viewers to like your videos so the youtube algorithm can suggest your videos more.

Thank you since I move our wedding to July 2021 your videos are helping me learn new thing

Im a bride and MOH I’m sooo thankful for this video!!

What about doing a Drive By Wedding Shower? Also, would it be appropriate to send an invitation to guests for the Drive By Wedding Shower if you are having a couple of people on Zoom due to COVID?

Perfect timing! My bridal shower is in two days haha

Highly recommend registering for tools. For some reason a scroll saw is one of the few things I registered for that we actually recieved.

Guest at a bridal shower, are really there, to socialized with other people. And talk about the couple, and also to eat and drink, as well. So what am liking to do for my bridal shower, is to have a champagne brunch for all of my guest, to enjoy.

Omg I've been planning my sister's shower for the last week so thank you for this! Hope the move is going well!!

This is so helpful!! My shower is less than a month away!!

Could you imagine a Christmas bridal shower in September or October 😂 I don’t think my theme would work but good idea for everyone else ❤️

OMG I think I love you 🙌🏻

Jamie, as a bride who do I put on my list for my bridal party to invite. Besides close family and friends. What if my groom has a friend and I am not a big fan of his friends wife, and am hesitate to invite her, but I also don't want to start drama and invite a whole bunch of people I don't really know? Any advice? Please, I love you. I have stopped watching other wedding planners because I love you and your channel so much.

I want to have a bridal shower. My bridesmaids are all very busy. I’m the only one who has the time to plan one, but most things I find online suggest it’s bad etiquette for the bride to throw her own. Can anyone give some advice?

One of my friends had a Bridal Shower (her aunts did it). All it consisted of was cheese/crackers (available to those who arrived early), opening presents immediately once everyone was there, and then had everyone leave immediately after all the presents were opened. It just felt like a present grab and I felt used. I've declined every Bridal Shower invite since.

@jazzya7383

2 жыл бұрын

I don’t think that’s right. Smh I feel like they could have at least provided a meal to everyone.( to show they were thankful of their families support). Also I think wedding shower games is something they could have done.

The wedding is going to be pretty small (max 50 people). Since it’s small, should everyone be invited to the shower?

Hi Jamie, love you and your channel, just wanted to say that I found this video really hard to watch, don't know if you had technical difficulties or something but the camera zooming in and out made me really dizzy watching this. if you could fix this issue would be muchly appreciated as I love watching your videos! x

UM this came at the perfect time. Mine is a month away.

Do we invite out of town guests to the bridal shower? Some say it looks like you were just asking for a gift and some feel you never want to exclude anyone And you really do want them to be there if it's possible

So.. what about if you don’t know if anybody is gunna throw you a shower or party? Like are you supposed to assign this or ask people or just hope somebody wants to?

Im in NY and our group gathering limit is 50. Im hosting 2 showers to be able to invite everyone. We are having a tough time with our wedding venue and dont think we can invite everyone to the wedding that i invited to the shower. We postponed the shower 3x and the wedding once. How do you explain that to the guests invited to the shower and not the wedding?

@hannahsutherland4760

4 жыл бұрын

I'm in a similar boat. I'm having multiple showers as well, to keep numbers small, and we just had to cut our guest list again. ....after I gave my guest list suggestions to the lovely ladies hosting the events. Which means that some people invited to the showers aren't on the updated wedding guest list. What is making this easier, is that we will be livestreaming our wedding ceremony and sending formal invitations for that. So we will ultimately have a very small in-person wedding and reception and more people joining online. Most people have been super supportive and excited about how we're handling this and get that we're trying to include all the people we love as much as we possibly can in this chapter of our lives.

@NicoleDyonashe

2 жыл бұрын

I’m having a wedding of maybe 60 ppl. so I’m telling them, we have extremely limited room at our venue, and a small budget for the wedding but they can come celebrate with me at my bridal shower instead!

If you don’t have a wedding party or your MOH is unavailable to plan, how do you ask who will plan your shower without it being awkward?

@SimplyFitwithJay

4 жыл бұрын

My fiancé and I planned our wedding shower. 😊

@tatimartinez468

4 жыл бұрын

Sincerely Eccentric in my culture it’s actually the common practice for the wedding couple to plan the wedding shower. That’s how I thought it was done until I started prepping for it that I realized American culture has other people do it. So just plan it with confidence and you should be good😁

@karma3212

4 жыл бұрын

I also planned my own shower ! Partially because I’m a control freak and also because I had a very small “shower” ( 20 people) so it was super easy to plan, I hosted it at the restaurant I used to work at and it was GREAT !!

What's the difference between a wedding shower and an engagement party??

Question for those who know: when do u give the gift? At the engagement party or at the actual wedding? Is there a difference between an engagement party and a wedding party? Should u have one the other or both?

@26Bluegb

4 жыл бұрын

I want to know too! I've heard you can split the amount you plan on spending in total between the two events, but I don't know if you can just do the engagement party.

@lakeshataylor1773

3 жыл бұрын

Depends on your budget. Keep in mind it is two separate events. Also, how many events do you want to have. Bridal Shower, Bachelorette Party or Vacation, Engagement Party, Wedding ceremony and reception, so many events it's all about you and hubby to decide how you two want to celebrate your love.

Hey! I just recently started watching your videos, because I'm planning my wedding for December of 2021, and have been loving all of your tips and tricks! I am all about flow and making sure everyone is happy, but during my wedding planning process I have hit a bit of a snag...I have 50 guests that will be attending and the venue that I want will only allow me 4 hours for a ceremony and a reception. How am I able to do a 11 am - 3pm wedding and reception for 50 people without making everything feel rushed?! Help!! 😱😱😱😱 (If anyone who reads this has any suggestions as well, that would be very helpful!)

@bananainpjs

4 жыл бұрын

You could do a brunch or cake and punch style reception! Cake and punch might be best if you don't want to feel rushed; it usually includes things like pastries, tea sandwiches, and other relatively simple but portable food. If you do it cocktail style it means you'll have more freedom to bounce around and mingle while still getting to eat (easier to balance a tea sandwhich in one hand than a steak/whatever while you hug your people). I did a cocktail style with tacos and lots and lots of appetizers, and it worked really well for mingling and making the most of the time we had the venue and our photographer :) You can also decide what feels important to you and your day. Don't need dancing? Cut it out of the timeline to make more time for speeches. Really love dancing, but don't want to skip speeches/cake cutting/etc? You could look into doing an "after party" by booking out a room at your favourite restaurant in the evening, or having an open invite to join you at your favourite bar afterwards. Biggest tip in general wedding planning, imo, is figuring our your priorities and scrapping anything that isn't meaningful to you, your partner, or anyone else you want involved in decision making. Makes for a more streamlined day, and a day that's only full of stuff that is meaningful to you. Good luck!!

@user-emilyyyy

4 жыл бұрын

I agree with Morgan. Rather then have a formal sit down meal, if you offer appetizers or finger foods during the reception then people can mingle and dance and walk around the reception at their leisure rather then feel like you have to follow a traditional/strict timeline

My bridal shower is supposed to be coming soon.

@user-emilyyyy

4 жыл бұрын

Have fun! ❤️

Is shower party the same as bachelorette party? I dont think we do showers in Canada.. never heard of it.

@stephanirenee12

4 жыл бұрын

A shower your mother and mother figures attend this event. Women only. There’s fun games and presents given to the bride. A bachelorette party is more party sexy drunk last time going out being “single” type of event, so mother figures do not attend. This is in my experience when close friends were getting married

@patamp3277

4 жыл бұрын

@@stephanirenee12 thanks!

I need tips for a wedding shower during Covid :(( we just canceled ours and I’m worried that having a drive through will feel like I am just having a shower to have gifts which isn’t the point so I’m not sure what to do... help!

@tatimartinez468

4 жыл бұрын

Same here, but I guess it’s safe to say that a video about that is really hard to do since every county of every US state is different in the gathering aspect and can change at any given time. Given that the point of a wedding shower is to shower the wedding couple gifts, I’m sure a drive by would be appropriate...especially if it’s done through the element of a surprise to you and your spouse-to-be😁

@Natalie_11188

4 жыл бұрын

Maybe have a bag of favors and a thank you piece of cake wrapped up for each car that drives by, so you can express your gratitude. It’s hard, but I don’t think anyone would pass judgment on your shower during these times.

@rosecolouredlife9638

4 жыл бұрын

If there is a large park nearby, maybe that could be an option. You could have some distance games (ring toss, corn hole, etc) and ask people to wear masks. You can get some distance between people and ask people to maybe stagger their times there. It depends on your local rules but it could be an option

@tatimartinez468

4 жыл бұрын

Natalie OMG that’s such a great idea!

😊

What is a wedding shower? Like what is it for?

@MillennialRevolt

4 жыл бұрын

Can only speak from personal experience, but usually it's been a good get-together for people attending the wedding/the wedding party to meet and mingle prior to the actual big day. I also think it's a good "appetizer" in terms of getting people excited about the wedding itself.

@kaleystiles5549

4 жыл бұрын

@@MillennialRevolt Oh okay thank you 😊

I literally just had my bridal shower this past weekend!

I’m postponing to fall 2021. Should I consider 2022?

@krstng1011

4 жыл бұрын

Not sure if Jaime will respond, but it’s hard for her (or any of us!) to know what next year will look like. I think this is a good time for you & your partner to think about what’s important to you (having lots of people you love attending? No one wearing masks?) and (try to) plan accordingly. Since you said postponing- do you already have vendors booked? Their availability would be a priority to me (gotta keep that money!), but if the comfort of knowing that 2022 will likely be better than it is right now (again- likely), then that may be where your answer lies. I’m currently planning for a Jan 2022 date and I know vendors have told me they’re filling up quickly for 2021, so if you’re leaning towards that date I’d decide sooner than later.

@user-emilyyyy

4 жыл бұрын

I postponed from October 2020 to October 2021. Our venue was almost completely booked for 2021 from all of the brides moving their dates. Obviously it’s so hard to know if life will go back to normal. But whichever option you think you’d prefer, book what you can asap so you can relax and not have to worry

@krstng1011

4 жыл бұрын

emily brogan you’re not alone! I’m the MOH for one that got postponed from Oct to next year- I know the bride is feeling a lot less stressed now that it’s officially moved vs. not knowing if it would be or not. I hope your new date has brought some peace of mind too!

@Vasalyn

4 жыл бұрын

My husband and I just postponed our wedding from June 2021 to June 2022. We are so grateful that our vendors (venue, wedding coordinator, photographer, and videographer) let us move our date and we didn't lose any money and it worked out for us. We are having a destination wedding in Hawaii and we didn't want to take a risk for our guest when traveling as well as I just got laid off permanently. My husband and I are more focused on our finances first so we can pay for the wedding as well.

Are bridal showers a US American thing? I keep hearing about them but don’t really understand what they’re for other than for presents and creating another group project? 😅 we’ll just have a honeymoon fund since we’re paying for everything ourselves ✌️ you do you, boo! Jamie gave us permission

I just got engaged and I have NO idea what a wedding shower is haha

Covid question...If your state has a limited number of guest that can gather, is it appropriate to invite people to the shower, but not the wedding.

😂😂😂😂" Don't forget to include people from shower in wedding. " You would think that went without saying, but then I remembered people are shady. And big events are the place for passive aggressive shade😂😂😂😂.

@Egershon

4 жыл бұрын

I think it’s more likely that some people might not realize that it would come across as shady. Someone might think it could be a way to include more people without adding to your wedding budget and not realize that it’s hurtful and poor etiquette. Especially if you haven’t been to many other weddings. But true, the shady ones need to hear this too 😂

@noirboheme4234

4 жыл бұрын

@@Egershon OH I get it, it's just my mind started having fun. 😂😂😂😂 But could you imagine.... 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

My question I can't get out of my head. Is it acceptable to, instead of a traditional registry, having a honeymoon fund? We don't need any stuff. We just want an amazing honeymoon (which we can afford by ourselves, but some extra would be nice).

@suigyokuakihoshi

4 жыл бұрын

This is 100% acceptable. You can also ask for visa gift cards and such that can be used everywhere. :D We've done that since we've lived together for the past 6 years, we have everything we need so we just asked for a house / vacation fund. :)

@user-emilyyyy

4 жыл бұрын

Do it girl! That’s exactly what we are doing :) we’re using a website called fundly

@26Bluegb

4 жыл бұрын

Traditionally in the US it's been viewed as tacky to straight up ask for money for any occasion. (like don't tell Grandma you want a check for your b-day). So older &/or more traditional guests may not be very happy with it. To soften that feel you could provide the option of a donation to a charity you & your partner support. I had a friend who actually created a scholarship fund at a local comm. college and it reminded me of how great her spirit is.

@carinapusteblume9039

4 жыл бұрын

@@26Bluegb I think a good way to accomodate the more traditional guests, you could ask for specific things for your honeymoon. Like a voucher for a candle light dinner, couple massages or anything that can be booked in advance at the honeymoon location. That way your guests feel like they're actually giving you something useful and not just money. But yeah, it's defintely ok to just ask for a honeymoon fund.

Ok

@saschamayer4050

2 жыл бұрын

8:29

Second

Who pays for the shower ? The bride or the main of honor ..?

Hey sis, I actually disagree on the fact that youre saying guests attending HAVE to be attending the wedding... Wedding Showers have been used for the simple fact that not EVERYONE can attend the wedding... Also, it doesnt have to happen before, it can be sometime after the wedding.

@laurenstrobel7039

4 жыл бұрын

You don’t think that it may look tacky to invite someone to the shower and not the wedding?

@user-emilyyyy

4 жыл бұрын

I have been invited to a wedding shower and I wasn’t invited to the wedding and I was actually deeply offended. I felt like they just wanted me to give them gifts

@alohilanizapata53

4 жыл бұрын

@@user-emilyyyy I'm sorry you felt that way, that's your choice to feel offended, and like that was what they wanted. Also, if that's how you really felt you didn't have to attend.

@alohilanizapata53

4 жыл бұрын

@@laurenstrobel7039 First of all, I'd wouldn't call a special event, especially something having tondo with a wedding, tacky. Secondly, not sure why I'm even taking the time to repeat myself, but some people in this world actually appreciate being able to spend fun, quality time to celebrate the new couple especially if they weren't able to attend the wedding. Other people can go right ahead and be petty, but I dont see those people paying for the weddings.

@user-emilyyyy

4 жыл бұрын

I was just sharing my opinion with you. No need to get defensive if people don’t agree with you. God bless and have a great day! :)

In Australia we often call the bridal shower a kitchen tea and I was told presents are wrapped in tea towels. Not sure if I have ever seen that but I think its cute and doesn't waste paper! I think having a gift registry is a little tacky and rude for a bridal shower. Engagement party. Give us gifts Bridal shower. Give us gifts Wedding. Give us gifts Registries should only be for weddings. Any presents outside of that are lovely bonuses and shouldn't be dictated. End up with 5 toasters? Oh well!

@aye_ehn_jayy

3 жыл бұрын

The wedding registry is used to cover all those different parties, no one makes separate registries for each event (I agree that would be tacky). But having the registry ready to go prior to the shower is beneficial for the guests to know what the couple needs or wants, so the guests aren't wasting their time and money going out to buy the couple's fifth toaster.

Funny how picking someone's nose is so much more intrusive than picking their brains.

you did not show nothing....

I love all of your videos, but you talk so fast

Is it just me, or did she seem to speak very quickly and rush through everything?

I've been invited to a few showers that the bride planed and threw for herself and I cringe because I don't think people realize that's so tacky.

Jamie you talk to fast....are you under stress doing this video?

You're not supposed to talk to the bride and groom about the shower LOL I don't know where you young people get off changing traditions and the ones that you change it to are ridiculous they're not supposed to know about the shower and there's certainly not supposed to pick a theme or anything else about the shower the person who's paying for the shower does that