I don’t think it’s selfish not to have children...it is a choice that should be respected.

@soilofk

3 жыл бұрын

absolutely!!!

@zoedark7101

3 жыл бұрын

100percent

@katrinastringer7935

3 жыл бұрын

Of course. I personally want them but wouldn't pressure anyone to have themselves. If they don't want them then that's fair enough

@blahblahblahblah099

2 жыл бұрын

Only if you can afford to give them a deserving life

@savantianprince

2 жыл бұрын

Not everyone should have kids. There are those who are genetically predisposed to abuse them.

Was eighteen when I got married and was told it would never last been together now 36 years and still in love 😍 with my husband

@browneyedgirl4285

4 жыл бұрын

Congrats!!!! That's awesome!!

@masanamlondobozi7960

4 жыл бұрын

@Allegra Logan why be so negative?

@ndobolo80star86

3 жыл бұрын

U sure u still in love

@someperson5199

3 жыл бұрын

Any advice on how to make a marriage last

@ggrace1133

Жыл бұрын

I envy those still in love.

People who do not want to have children, absolutely never should have them.

@selinaoakley3613

4 жыл бұрын

And a lot of ppl who do have children shouldn't of had them. The amount of child abuse out there...

@dianneburns6003

4 жыл бұрын

Nelly Bloemzaad cdc

@venganzamujer354

4 жыл бұрын

You are so correct and notice how happy they are without children

@aminahreviewsstuff

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed

@CeravvvEgan

2 жыл бұрын

I never wanted children, but I know if I did have one, I would love them to bits and be a great parent. My husband would be a fantastic dad. There are many factors why we decided not to.

I wouldn't call anyone selfish if they don't want kids. It's simply a lifestyle choice.

@87alsjth

6 жыл бұрын

Agreed. If you don't want children then don't have them! Society needs to mind their own womb. A child is a mental, physical, and financial responsibility and if you don't want that for whatever reason, so be it! I think it's selfish​ when people have kids and they're struggling to keep their own selves a float or just to get a government check.

@TrainTransportShortsOfficial

6 жыл бұрын

sherry kao ur still selfish if you don't want kids whatever your excuse is. You want all your time, money food and especially your body (for women) to yourself so it's also partly selfish

@TrainTransportShortsOfficial

6 жыл бұрын

Gene Ortega u don't know if the kids will grow up to be a lawyer or doctor . Mums and dads r the most selfless on earth. Stop being negative and celebrate love and family and keep your negativity to yourself

@TrainTransportShortsOfficial

6 жыл бұрын

87alsjth no one has a child to get a government check. And it's not a mental responsibility. Physical and emotional but not mental. U just have to look after the child it's not hard.

@TrainTransportShortsOfficial

6 жыл бұрын

87alsjth no one has kids for a welfare check. Back then many people did it just bc they were married only some really wanted kids. Me and my partner aren't married or home owners. At least we know with me unmarried and not owning a home and just renting that I wanted the 2 children I have.

I usually don't get emotional ... but I almost cried about Maria saying that she still loved Graham very very much after all these years.

@mefford67

6 жыл бұрын

Utterly heartbroken that Maria faced such a lonely and prolonged struggle with her husband. It takes a very STRONG woman to do what she did for her husband.

@nulle1968

6 жыл бұрын

My husband died 7 years ago and I still love him. For me it´s clear, that I will never get remarried. My husband was only 41 and our youngest son was nearly 3. It broke my heart

@Justaperson354

6 жыл бұрын

nulle1968 you are such a strong person

@nulle1968

6 жыл бұрын

I really wish I would be a strong person, but the kids are keeping me going.

@larahilton7417

6 жыл бұрын

My mum feels that way. My dad passed away years ago. She has had a few offers. She's lovely looking for a woman of her age. Says she's not interested in anyone else. My father died, and when that happened it didn't mean she fell out of love with him. She still feels very much married and still loves him as she always has.

I met my husband in freshers week at university. Twenty-six years together and we still fascinate one another. He wants the best for me. Big mile stones, for example my father passing away, he picked me up and cared for me with such tenderness. I will never be able to put into words what that meant to me. He makes me feel beautiful, interesting and funny. Not only is he an exceptional husband, he's such a wonderful father. Sometimes, now I'm in my late forties I push away feelings of worry that one day one we will go before the other. Time has passed so quickly. It's been such fun spending my life with him. A million years wouldn't have been enough time with him. I have been so lucky. I just hope my children are as lucky as I have been.

@jkl799

6 жыл бұрын

Lara Hilton: I'm so happy that you have a good partner. Hugs from Minnesota

@TheAnna2001

5 жыл бұрын

Lovely 🌹

@regant.cameron8237

5 жыл бұрын

WOW

@amandanegrete1306

4 жыл бұрын

Lara Hilton thank you for making me feel even more like ending this agony. My husband died tragically at age 30. The pain is still unbearable 10 years later. It broke me, I’m not the type that “shakes it off” like 90% of people. I have nothing but fear and pain. Bully for you, thank you for rubbing my face in my agony.

@sweetpea2839

4 жыл бұрын

I am happy for you and him

What an interesting documentary. But how sad for the lady who couldn't then have children and the lady who lost her husband. Oh, they both made me tear up.

@franklinstephen3268

Жыл бұрын

Hello how are you doing?

Oh, man. When Lisa's mom said she wanted to give Lisa away and that it took years to fall in love with her, it broke my heart for Lisa to have to ever see this documentary and hear that, though perhaps she is not mentally mature enough to internalize that. That said, the other part of my heart wanted to acknowledge Lisa's mom for her honesty. Having a child with special needs is HARD. Lisa's mom could have lied about her struggle with it, but she didn't, and so I thank her for sharing her truth.

@TrainTransportShortsOfficial

6 жыл бұрын

I wouldn't want a downs child either u obviously don't know how hard it is. The fathers love for her pulled it through. She's lucky to have her dad.

@sciadredan5410

6 жыл бұрын

Did you even read Joanie's comment?

@valerienightlinger3466

6 жыл бұрын

Scia Dredan ...more evidence of instability 😉

@valerienightlinger3466

6 жыл бұрын

Rose Queen There are different levels of cognitive function in people with Downs. You need to watch *Born This Way* (a reality series starring people with the syndrome). This is Megan www.aetv.com/shows/born-this-way/cast/megan and if she saw your comment she would give you quite an education, and she'd end it with, "*Don't* limit me!"

@felicitysmith2633

6 жыл бұрын

Joanie Budget i

ARGH. If people agree to not have children, it is not selfish. It is self aware.

@KeckiiDerKecks

5 жыл бұрын

It is. Me and my friend do not want to have children. They are expensive and it is too much drama about them. You give up your spontaneity and free time. When you talk about it, other people will insult you and call you an anti-social egoist. It's ridiculous...

@jerryskeepero

4 жыл бұрын

Sometimes people have kids for selfish reasons.... I once had a coworker say that she wasn’t worried about saving for retirement because that is why she had her kids....

@rosebud0391

4 жыл бұрын

It's their lives, they can describe themselves as selfish if they like. There are many reasons why someone may not want children and being selfish is one of them. Now, their ability to realize that selfishness is self-awareness. I love the idea of children and I really want them but mostly for selfish reasons. I don't actually want to deal with the responsibility and worry that I will resent them. For that reason, I do not see myself having children. To be honest, I don't like children much now and I have young nieces. They are wonderful but children are so needy and I am oh so selfish. lol

@rosebud0391

4 жыл бұрын

​@@jerryskeepero So very true. I would say that there are just as many, if not more, people wanting children for selfish reasons than people not wanting children for selfish reasons.

@browneyedgirl4285

4 жыл бұрын

Jerryskeeper O hmmmm...... I could never ask my kids for money; but i would certainly hope to be less lonely when I'm older because I have kids

Been married 36 years. We met, engaged and married within 5 months, and no, I wasn’t pregnant. I just didn’t want to lose such an incredible man!

@danniaddams5502

6 жыл бұрын

Good for you! Wishing you another 36 years.

@HelenDiazOfficial

4 жыл бұрын

Thats so lovely x I'm getting married in late November (Corona permitting urgh) x

@Fizzy786

4 жыл бұрын

🥰

@michellehitt1976

Жыл бұрын

Wow that's awesome. What's your secret to staying together?

@KissingTrolls17

Жыл бұрын

We met, married in 2 months and just celebrated 27 years!! And I was not pregnant either. 😜

Ohhh my heart just broke for the lady with the ectopic pregnancy.😕 I can tell she's right that she would have been a great mom.

@jerryskeepero

4 жыл бұрын

I wonder why she never adopted

@stargazerlily8451

4 жыл бұрын

I can tell she’s a wonderful person. Even though she went through the pain of not being able to have children, she is still very joyful, happy, and full of life.

@Palebisi

4 жыл бұрын

@@jerryskeepero adoption isn't easy or cheap. You can't just walk to the baby shop and pick yourself up a baby. It's also not a replacement for having your own children. My husband and I both have fertility issues and we are dealing with this. I hate being told to "just adopt" as though that would make everything better. You want your own child, like everyone else gets without even trying.

@jerryskeepero

4 жыл бұрын

Palebisi my husband and I have been trying for 8 years to expand our family. And one ivf is about the same as adoption. Everyone has their issues but I still wonder why they never considered it.

@EMA-nh7rl

4 жыл бұрын

Jerryskeeper O best of luck!

I wish people who chose not to have children wouldn't feel that they'd done anything selfish. It isn't selfish at all! It would be selfish to have children anyway despite knowing you had no real interest in them, or lacked the stability and resources to provide them with a good life. I definitely think couples should be supported in their choice not to have children. If they feel they don't do much for the world around them, they can assuage the feeling by using some of their free time to volunteer, or donating some of the money that would've been spent on the kids to children's charities.

@savantianprince

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed 💯.

I was a blubbering mess at least 4 times throughout this documentary. This is so well made though. All engaged couples should watch this. Should be required training material.

@chockycake1

5 жыл бұрын

Totally agree.

Lisa is a blessing! Her dad is the best🥰. Not wanting to have children is definitely not selfish. Thank you to all who shared their beautiful (but also sad) stories

We got married 29 years ago - you really have to be prepared for both the highs and lows - it’s not all just roses and good times. We completed university, got careers, had 1 child, and now our son is in University. You need to be flexible and think of the other person over yourself. Our parents and grandparents all married for life - they were great role models for us.

@DX-d

Жыл бұрын

Staying married doesn’t mean you’re happy. Most people just stay married because they have to.

Last comment... We are celebrating our 30th anniversary this year and I can honestly say that my husband has never bored me when we talk. I've always loved the fact that we can jump into a car and just start talking about everything! He's witty, funny, and has a strict code of personal conduct. He doesn't like to talk badly about people, he's honest and thankfully, he's forgiving. I'm more impulsive and can react a little too quickly, especially when driving! I've know him since I was 7 and I'll be 50 this year and despite all the ups and downs I've never doubted his love.

@donkeybutt5352

6 жыл бұрын

Heather Mefford happy 30th

@valerienightlinger3466

6 жыл бұрын

Heather Mefford happy anniversary! 😊 It's often said that communication is vital to a good marriage, along with the ability to laugh things off, so it sounds like you two are the recipe for success. His honesty is the frosting on the cake. 😉 And his strict code of conduct is an excellent shield against the poison of negativity. Cheers to many more happy years!

@SwathiAA2014

6 жыл бұрын

Wow that's beautiful

@tvu86

6 жыл бұрын

Many happy returns on your anniversary darling.

Almost 19 years married to my beautiful British wife and 4 sons and a daughter. Marriage is hard work, but if you keep focus, really want it to work, keep the communication, be honest with your feelings, things will work. Having said that, when I saw my favorite lady on here couldn’t have children- I was absolutely devastated for her. It was a hard watch.

@johnballard6725

Жыл бұрын

Marriage does need daily maintenance work but if you are compatible it shouldn’t be HARD work ?

@eh-i1841

Жыл бұрын

@@johnballard6725 I agree.It always mystifies me,when people talk about it,in that way.If you’re well suited,and friends,then why must it be hard work.I was with my partner for 35 years,until he died.We had 3 children,and were great friends.

10.15.17 ~ Tony = a man of such pure integrity & a heart for loving his precious little girl, who needed such a parent as he is to her. Every child such have such a loving & caring Daddy as Tony. What a different world this would be, if only that was how it went. God bless you, Tony, for the good man & father that you are!

@theirmom4723

Жыл бұрын

The mother came around too. While Tony was the catalyst of keeping Lisa at home as a new born, you must remember we women go through some major hormonal issues directly after birth. To have your vision of motherhood totally ripped from you and you have to assimilate the new information while recovering from one of the hardest things a woman does, you know bring a child into the world, it a very difficult thing to do. If you haven't faced this and the guilt that went along with how she was feeling, then you have no place to leave her out in the raising of the child.

The best thing a couple NOT wanting children can do = NOT reproduce. Such a decision saves many unwanted children from suffering the hurt of a life of rejection & the pain of knowing that they were NOT wanted. Sadly, my Aunt & Uncle could NOT have children & did NOT follow through with efforts to adopt & in later life regretted that choice.

@TheVeek192

3 жыл бұрын

Not having children is NOT about making sure that there are no suffering children. It's not about children at all. It's about living YOUR life. I didn't have kids because I wanted to live MY life. It had nothing to do with what I wanted for kids that didn't even exist.

We were married in 1968... I was a virgin... We made it to 46 years, before he died...in 2014,,, Our marriage was not perfect... whose is. But we loved each other, and always figured we had each other when times were hard... We met as teenagers..,ten years before we married.., He brought me coffee in bed every morning... I miss him every moment of every day... Closure? Whoever coined that word had never experienced real grief.. There is no closure, but yound learn to live with the grief that is always there,...even during happy moments.

@NikkieRoxxx

10 ай бұрын

Respect. And my sincere sympathy for your loss...❤

Me and my husband met when I was 18 and he was 20 in 1983. We got married in August of 1985 when I was 20 and he was 22 I am Dutch and he is a US citizen. We got married in the Netherlands where the age of consent of marriage is 21 So my parents had to sign for consent for me to marry him. His friends said it wouldn't last. They are all divorced. My husband and I have been married for 37 years. And still going strong. We raised 2 boys now grown ups. My oldest son has been married since 2009. My youngest is not married. My husband and I never tried to change each other we accepted each other the way we were. My husband is an introvert, I am more of an extrovert. Like Ying and yang we fill in for each other intertwined rather than trying to change each other. We both know our strengths and weaknesses and accept them. We don't fight very often because we both don't see how that would resolve anything. We just love each other unconditionally and that for us is enough.

People prepared for their wedding but forgot to prepare for the marriage

@Chickchick-fv7nh

6 жыл бұрын

Black Widow i agree

@ingepeeters7637

6 жыл бұрын

and that still not changed...

@RenegadeTimes

6 жыл бұрын

Inge Peeters - should young people have not gotten more intelligent by this juncture ? It astounds me the repetitive mistakes that continue on. No learning from the past ???? IDGI

@that.ll_do_pig

4 жыл бұрын

@@RenegadeTimes I'd venture to say that there's some learning from the past as more people choose not to get married at all or get married but not have children. Many make that choice so they don't repeat negative cycles experienced in their own childhoods.

@jackieacheson4928

4 жыл бұрын

That is a perfect way to put it. I think that happens in most marriages.

what a lovely dad lisa has

Depression - Alzheimer - CJD - Mad Cow Disease. Absolutely heartbreaking. A brave couple; a good wife.

@peterreece2340

Жыл бұрын

I give her the highest marks - the best wife of the twenty couples. A really great woman.

@Bee-ly4gx

Жыл бұрын

I couldn’t agree more.

@zillobeast5257

7 ай бұрын

They couldve sued whoever gave them the bad meat

What a wonderful documentary this is! Not to be redundant, but I would love another one, just in a different decade! I really felt close to these people. So much so, that I'm still heartbroken for Graham and his family. CJD is such a devastating disease...his family seems to have handled it with grace. My heart really goes out to them.

@brittneybrisbin744

3 жыл бұрын

Graham and his wife's story was touching because it showed to me that true love still does exist. It was beautiful to hear her talk about how much she loved him (even after death) and how she stuck by him as he got sicker. It was also sweet to hear her refer to their marriage as a partnership, something so few couples get. Their love is so pure and genuine. I hope we all can have a love like that!

Thank you for this documentary. Normal people talking about their lives, that was very interesting. It makes one recognise that we all have happy and sad times but life always goes on.

I respect the couple that had decided together that they didn't want children. They were honest with each other from the start and that's the important part. If a couple doesn't want to have kids then they shouldn't... Too much potential for resentment toward the child and each other...

@releitse88

6 жыл бұрын

Yes! Totally agree. If a couple doesn't want kids, that's their choice and people should respect it

@TrainTransportShortsOfficial

6 жыл бұрын

Erin S kids aren't a disease you know. 🙄😒

@TrainTransportShortsOfficial

6 жыл бұрын

Erin S mine are an absolute joy light and gold of my life and me and my partner aren't married but r long term Committed

@Marsbar1212

6 жыл бұрын

Rose Queen but your comments are judgemental saying that married people who do not have children are selfish because they want all time and money to themselves and this is coming from someone, like yourself, who is not married with bares children. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black. 😭

@sciadredan5410

6 жыл бұрын

Rose Queen, you sound slightly unstable. Nobody said kids are a disease. Some people just don't want them. Why does it bother you so much?

Lots of negative posts about Mum with baby with Down syndrome..Its very easy to judge when you've not been in that position, here's a great poem to describe what these parents are going through.. WELCOME TO HOLLAND. I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It’s like this… When you’re going to have a baby, it’s like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guidebooks and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum, the Michelangelo David, the gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It’s all very exciting. After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, “Welcome to Holland.” “Holland?!” you say. “What do you mean, Holland?” I signed up for Italy! I’m supposed to be in Italy. All my life I’ve dreamed of going to Italy. But there’s been a change in the flight plan. They’ve landed in Holland and there you must stay. The important thing is that they haven’t taken you to some horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It’s just a different place. So you must go out and buy a new guidebook. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met. It’s just a different place. It’s slower paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you’ve been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around, and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills, Holland has tulips, Holland even has Rembrandts. But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy, and they’re all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life you will say, “Yes, that’s where I was supposed to go. That’s what I had planned.” The pain of that will never, ever, go away, because the loss of that dream is a very significant loss. But if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn’t get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things about Holland.

What a lovely documentary. Whether the marriages worked or not, it was telling to see what made the marriages work, as well as see the other side of that - good or not. Thanks for this, as it gives me something to ponder on this Saturday.

@DX-d

Жыл бұрын

More than 90% the marriages continue because the woman is reliant on the man for the money, so she suffers and suck it up.

@ivyvulaj8804

Жыл бұрын

I love learning about how the life was here before I came to England , I would love to watch more 🤗

Love is a choice. I have been married 25 years to my best friend and I cannot imagine my life without him.

@purechaos454

4 жыл бұрын

Tena Jackson I agree. I chose to love my husband but he wasn’t in it. Not much u can do the

@spklyunicorn

4 жыл бұрын

@@purechaos454 Yeah, it does take two. If one isn't invested in the relationship that does make it tough. Sorry.

I enJoyed this very much. The truthfulness of each story. I married in 1990 and divorced in 2019. The one woman that said it takes more than love to hold a marriage together was correct. It takes patience and accountability, the same dreams. When that washes away and you see you are deep in the rabbit hole and can’t see the light, it’s time to go. It was my choice to leave my unfulfilled life with a man many years ago I loved and eventually through infidelity to our marriage, his, and his lack of ambition, I finally had my fill and filed. I am happily free from the jail cell I was in. God bless all of these people who bared their private pains sorrows and triumphs. ✌️❤️🦋

@Jac-Jay

4 жыл бұрын

Good for you for eventually finding the strength to walk away from something that was making you so unhappy an unfulfilled..you obviously fought for it which is what i think is missing today..the first sign of trouble now and one member is gone..relationships and marriage are very hard work,it's not all roses and wine.

What I like about this is that it is an honest look into the troubles and hardship that makes a marriage strong and makes it work.

I have been married for 31 years. I only 50. I can relate to the struggle of staying married. And to the BEAUTIFUL time in your life when your son and daughter fly away and leave the parents to travel, have a sushi dinner or blast the old music as we enjoy a clean house. My message: have children when you are young. It pays off at the end.

@theirmom4723

Жыл бұрын

Not all children leave the nest. We had our children young thinking what you have stated. They are 37 and 34 both with different special needs. My husband and I are still going going strong 38 years and caring for our children. There are no guarantees in this life. You either make it work or you don't.

@Metamets

Жыл бұрын

@@theirmom4723 you are right. I did not mean any disrespect. Thank you for sharing your story so others can see the beautiful side of parenting and staying together NO MATTER WHAT!! 🥰

@NikkieRoxxx

10 ай бұрын

I tried, but we struggled with infertility and many deceptions... our son finally was born we were 36 and 49. Its better late than never.❤

I wish they would do another update on the couples!

I was a virgin bride! After 57 years of marriage I am still proud that I was able to give my future husband the gift that I was just his! Don’t regret it….some will think I was old fashioned but knowing how hard it was to wait just made it special! My husband shared I was his first too…we were only 18, and 19! We still share that passion we felt in 1965!

@NikkieRoxxx

10 ай бұрын

Congratulations and blessings ❤❤❤

@suzannerobbins6293

10 ай бұрын

@@NikkieRoxxx Thanks! It was simply a choice I made! I won’t condemn others but wanted to s tay untouched! When I had to to Dr three days after marriage to have him snip my hymen he made the comment….At least your husband knows he got a virgin!__I was embarrassed!

I only clicked on this because I was driving and needed something to listen to. Light was turning green so I just clicked and put my phone down. I'm so glad I did. This was surprisingly good.

Ok, the lady who had the ectopic pregnancy and had to have a hysterectomy had me crying with her! And then the parents with the child with Down's broke my heart!

@riikolisa7027

6 жыл бұрын

Me too! The woman who had the hysterectomy made me so sad! And Lisa's dad is such a good person. I'm really glad that the mom came around in the end, she clearly had a really hard time coming to terms with everything.

@serenaDM

6 жыл бұрын

MamaBethsWorld I cried too. It was so sad. My heart went out to her 💔

@pharoahmed7681

6 жыл бұрын

RiikoLisa you know, its all so hard. I always thought children born with downs syndrome was because their mothers had them too late in life.

@andzikkk

6 жыл бұрын

I understand her pain. I cannot have kids myself and its devastating :(

@jordangallant8656

6 жыл бұрын

MamaBethsWorld yeah I was just coming here to make a comment on that she definitely deserves to have a child. Also that women that said she didn't love her child when they found out she had Down syndrome if I was her husband I don't think I would of been able to look at her as Emmy wife after that. She said it took a long time to love her and really wanted to get rid of her and it was the husband said that ain't happening. If I was him I just wouldn't be able to get pass that because that would be a part of her that I never knew about and something I just wouldn't be able to live with. I'm saying this because I have a healthy daughter thank god but if she did have have problems I can't imagine wanting give her up.

It's really annoying when people who choose to not have children are asked, "Aren't you being selfish?" NO! They are NOT being selfish! What's selfish is when someone has a child because "that's the way it is," but in reality they never wanted one. Or when they turn out to be abusers or unwanted. And especially in this day and age, I think people are being selfish bringing children into this world now, when the future of the planet is so uncertain.

@savantianprince

2 жыл бұрын

Not having children is a natural population control . We shouldn't overpopulation of earth with more kids. There are so many unwanted kids worldwide that need loving homes and families.

I loved this, My heart broke for the Lady who lost her husband so young. Where ever she is now what a lovely lady you are so much compassion & I bet your sons are so very proud of you, The Lady who had the ectopic & hysterectomy, Can see just how much that still hurts you, Life is so unfair sometimes & I believe you would have been a fantastic mummy, The lady who has the DS daughter, Some mums never get that sudden rush of love when their child is born, It is very over rated, I have seen this many times & it is not because anything is wrong with you, It is the hardest job in the world being a parent & not everyone has this instant bond with their newborn baby. This should be discussed more often , This also adds to the emotional turmoil, Parents start to think their is something now right inside with them, I would love to see a new episode of these people & where their lives have taken them since this was filmed,

@tracyd693

4 жыл бұрын

I couldn't agree with you more!

Nice documentary .. the marriages turned out more successful in the end than I had anticipated .. and I'm glad of it. Congratulations to them all

@brittneybrisbin744

3 жыл бұрын

Same here!

This was excellent - I would love for my daughter to watch this a few times before she get married. Thank you for posting.

Not having children isn't selfish. I have never had any, and I decided that as a child myself. I watched people I know have what seems like endless amounts of children from 13 years old upwards and I knew it wasn't for me. I never considered marriage either way, if I ever met someone and we loved one another then fine marriage might happen but there should be no pressure. Everyone should just be happy and do what is right for them, not what is expected.

Such a lovely documentary. I hope to have someone to share a bit of my life with. Seems hopeless right now, but it's all good. I think the bad times are what make or break you as a couple and an individual. Its hard work but hard work builds muscle and strength. Many thanks to these couples for being so transparent.

I loved the honesty in this

"Never really had a row because I can't be arsed."

@karenlindsey5988

6 жыл бұрын

erin h - I'm American......I don't know what "arsed" means?

@ILoveMyLittleBoyDog

5 жыл бұрын

Karen Lindsey, the British use this expression quite a lot. It's another way of saying I can't be bothered. :-)

@twelvesmylimit

5 жыл бұрын

My husband and I are exactly the same! To be fair, we don't have much to row about.

@tracyd693

4 жыл бұрын

What's a row?

@muntahaislam7091

4 жыл бұрын

@@tracyd693 an argument or conflict

The woman who ended up in the hospital and couldn't have any kids,was so sad.She sure got a great dad,love her dad.

Beautiful documentary... Shows the reality and practical side of marriage... The myth that marriage is all beds and roses will shatter once you see this documentary!! Well done.

All of these stories are so interesting!

@emmajane9403

6 жыл бұрын

Head In The Clouds I was just thinking the same thing. I enjoy just chilling watching this channel 🙋🏼🙋🏼🙋🏼

@sarzib3246

6 жыл бұрын

Head In The Clouds im just starting now..get back to you😀

Absolutely lovely. A glorious spectrum of people around about my age doing what humanity has done forever. Thank you for sharing this Real Stories. I seriously enjoyed it :)

Uk has the best shows!

@forgottenpalace4472

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, we do.

I respect the couple that chose to not have kids.. If they were to have kids because of expectations the kids would probably suffer. Good on them .

@lyndabartholomew2599

5 жыл бұрын

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Maria is a beautiful soul. Standing by her "in sickness and in health" vows at such a challenging time is not something we see a lot of today. And I think deep down despite the confusion of his illness, Graham must've known his angel was still there for him, caring for him, and that would've been such a comfort ❤ "Love requires sacrifice, always".

That old guy who was 70 in 1980 had done well to get to 1999 before passing

Hi have to admire Lisa's mum. She was honest enough to admit the truth about her feelings. If she hadn't things could have taken a different path.

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Жыл бұрын

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@theirmom4723

Жыл бұрын

As a mom of 2 with special needs...I felt her pain deep in the pit of my stomach. Her honesty is too raw for most...but at least she stated what she went through ....it isn't easy

Back when I was younger I used to think that my goal in life would be achieve professionally and change the world, but as I got older I find that more than anything else I wish I could maintain a happy and long marriage and be the best parent I possibly can be.

@dianesteels5183

3 жыл бұрын

Lovely documentary my eyes leaked a few times.

as couple of 22 yrs and counting... i understand the couples who stick it out.. .with under laying respect above all else.. and we also believe in fair fighting.. we are partners he is my heart

This was engaging from beginning to end. Life leads you down roads you never expect..it’s always good when you find that ONE person that makes that road so much easier just because they are by your side. 💍💐🥂🍾

What a well put together documentary

I would have been a good Mom. My heart hurt hearing those words. You can see how heartbroken she was.I myself couldn't imagine the hurt of not having the one child I was blessed with.

What a beautiful documentary. They showed all sides of what marriage can be.

Oh my god.. story about Graham.. 39 is way too young ...so so sad

@snowonder024

6 жыл бұрын

Yes, that is so sad. It's so hard when they are elderly, so hard to think of someone so young having it, feel for their family, bless his wife.

@karenmoran3707

4 жыл бұрын

That is true love. He was a good husband and father and she treasured him and took care of him in sickness and in health. Heartbreaking, yet beautiful.

@roseitsofritchman8431

4 жыл бұрын

Couldn't raise us no food dirty! My Mother has been Dead 49 yrs Ago! My Father dead 4 years later 4 yrs My Mom 31 my Dad 54 when they Died!

Ok, the 20-something guy who proposed to a 15-year-old, and then expected her to basically be a housekeeper. That's creepy AF.

@bethlehemeisenhour8352

5 жыл бұрын

yes, personal relationship,,

@klientproby

5 жыл бұрын

Stop overusing the word "creepy." The 20-year-old bloke who married his 15-year-old was NOT "creepy," he was being chauvinistic and typically a product of his time.

@gerafinali4384

4 жыл бұрын

@@klientproby 25 years ago it wasn't normal for a 15 years old to go out with a 26 year old. It was creepy then as it is now.

@selinaoakley3613

4 жыл бұрын

@@gerafinali4384 I disagree... But it depends on your culture I guess... Im 52 now.. I was with my bf from 15...he was 23... It was well done etc from all the older generations in the family... . Uv bagged urself a man not a lad... Hes got a job, a car, a house/mortgage.. ... It meant he was husband material back then... He was reliable, could hold down a job,regular steady income, security etc... It was encouraged... Not creepy at all... But now in 2020...if any 15 Yr old child of mine wanted to marry anyone, regardless of age.. I'd discourage it bc there's a big world out there to experience... But then.. It was certainly different... Elvis married Priscilla underage, James Brown married his teenage gf wen he was in his 30s...Bill Wyman from rolling stones dated mandy Smith wen she was 14, married at 16...no one screamed paedophile or child abuse at them... It was positively celebrated!.... U cannot say things were as 'creepy' then as they r today... "creepy" was reserved for horror movie descriptions.. Otherwise u never heard that word... VERY different times then...

@gerafinali4384

4 жыл бұрын

@@selinaoakley3613 Ok, I'm 50 and when I was 15 I was also with a 23 years old. It was against the law and my family was really mad about it. And now I can see why. Older men going for younger women are often looking for control. But as you said it must depends on the culture. I lived in France then.

This program grabbed my attention right from the beginning and I couldn't stop watching. Enjoyed was very interesting.

The initial love is like tippy toeing through the daisies, and that dwindles into a more mature love that is a mutual respect for each other. When you eliminate the words "I quit" from the marriage, it's amazing what you can get through. Those hard times, as well as the good ones, is the true foundation and the glue that truly bonds two people together in a good marriage. The definition of love is, laying ones life down for the other

I loved this one. It's so honest

I cried at the end when they talked about the older couple :)

my second time around is wonderful, been together 25 yrs married 18yrs, it feel like we just began. our lives together time has flown, l'm the luckest woman on the planet tfs

Maybe you could add a few more adverts. I don't feel there was quite enough.

@gianinas9348

6 жыл бұрын

Callan Champ lmao 😂😂

@RealStories

6 жыл бұрын

Our apologies - there were twice as many as there should have been added. It will be adjusted shortly :)

@adeleadeje18cheesecake

6 жыл бұрын

Good on you for admitting the error and working to rectify it :) you have a good channel here

@janemills1839

6 жыл бұрын

Callan Champ Ja

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6 жыл бұрын

Callan Champ Lotto draw on 23 Dec

Lisa dad is amazing bless him

What a lovely documentary. Great insight for the unmarry. It must be an amazing feeling to find that special someone to spend the rest of your life with. Such a blessing!

Wow! .....this brought me to tears....most interesting....I'm divorced myself, no children and single through choice...at 63 and years alone, I am happy.....

Big respect to Maria, she held her family together in the worst circumstances. I hope she is in a happy place she stood by Graham and looked out for him. Best wishes to you and your family maria. 🤗

wow. i learnt so much. am getting married early next year and i am uncertain about what my marriage will look like. i ask him all the time if we would be together forever, he hopes we can. in all, i think its a beautiful thing, and i want to experience it for myself

Very moving and integer documentary. I never saw the point of getting married however having been asked by very nice and really good men. And never having children was the best decision I ever made. Egocentric??? Why??? I don't want an aquarium or a horse of a mortgage. Or sharing my house with anyone. And still had loving relationships and an adventurous life of travel, working in different countries and bring independent since I'm sixteen. I watched this video and found it very moving without feeling I have missed out.

@TheWendable

3 жыл бұрын

Johanna x 👍🏻👍🏻 Me too

I've never understood why someone would think it's selfish not to have children. To have children and then not put them before yourself is most definitely selfish. But if you never have them, how on earth can you be "selfish"? To whom exactly???

@eh-i1841

Жыл бұрын

Yes,it’s just the opposite.It must be terrible to be an unwanted child.

I was 18 when I met my first husband, he was 12 years older than me - it was a abusive relationship which took me 16 years to finally get out of. I then met my current partner who I have been with for 3 years, it was as if I had found my soul mate, literally love at first sight for us both, as though we had know each other forever. We feel connected somehow, neither of us can explain what we mean but we just know we are supposed to be together.

@NikkieRoxxx

10 ай бұрын

Congratulations for your strength, and best wishes❤

This is fascinating. I was 10 in 1980 and in the following 5 years, loads of my schoolmates’ parents got divorced. Probably 40% of them.

Beautiful documentary😊💕my heart broke for the lady that had the hysterectomy 💔

In the end, I know i've done two things right in life. Gone to college and gotten married. :) i can die proud and happy. Never thought I'd say that back when i was a teen!

@TrainTransportShortsOfficial

6 жыл бұрын

April Sunshine getting married isn't that good it's a societal ideal

@roden70

6 жыл бұрын

Rose Queen No, getting married is just a personal choice. Just like having children.

It is NOT selfish not to have children. And when I look around, I would say more than 75% of people with kids should not have them.

@listennowbreath

4 жыл бұрын

World wide

That Maria woman is an angel

I wish they would do a follow up to see where these couples are today. This documentary was truly enjoyable and very heartwarming.

What a stunning documentary. Thank you so much. I really enjoyed watching it

This has been the most enjoyable little documentary I've seen in a long time. Thank you.

Quite a lovely and touching documentary. Thank you Real Stories. All the best!

at 18:35 when they talk about deciding not to have children they are asked if they thought it was selfish. Why is that selfish? Selfish is having kids and then not making them a priority. If you know children won't be a priority, it selfLESS to decide not to have them.

@robertdegroot8302

5 жыл бұрын

It's not really selfish, but I understand the question: when you have a child and raise him well, you give someone an immeasurable gift: everything life has to offer. I for one am very thankful my parents chose to decide to invest half their income and most of their spare time to me and my 2 siblings. The pay out is now that the three of us not just get all this time and energy from our parents, but the opportunity to experience the whole world. It does feel like a small investment for my parents compared to the benefits the children get from it. In that sense, choosing to spend your time and money on yourself to get a smaller pay out yourself may feel selfish. If you choose to have children without raising them well, that is the most selfish thing you can do, but that's not at issue here.

Tony said, that's my child. 🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

I nearly went off to find something else to watch five minutes in, but I'm glad I stayed and watched the whole documentary, thanks very much.

beautiful beautiful documentary ,and so inspiring for me as a bachelor . Thanks so much dear producer(s)

Amazing insight into marriage - so true when one lady said that love was not enough..relationships are solid hard work..the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself - the lady who couldn’t bear children would have been a fantastic mum 🙏

To the lady that said "she would have been a good mum" I KNOW you would have been a fantastic mum. Life is so bloomin cruel sometimes. With no rhyme or reason. Sending love to you. Xx

@eh-i1841

Жыл бұрын

I’m so glad she’s found her true love,now,and they are enjoying life,together.

@NikkieRoxxx

10 ай бұрын

Sending soothing waves...❤ it is really devastating to lose a baby...

I never ever thought I will enjoy watching this. Good documentary. Happy and sad stories. Well recommended to watch.

I love Barry on this programme, he's such a Bloke, reminds me of my wonderful husband.

Married in 1980 12 had thier 25th anniversay which is 2005..... its 2017 where are they now?

@samsta871

6 жыл бұрын

Tina D yeah was thinking the same

@TheAnna2001

5 жыл бұрын

Let's hope they do an update

What a wonderful gentle program. Thanks for sharing it.

Great documentatry, and yes the honesty is compelling in this. Loved it and enjoyed watching this......each story was very interesting.

loved watching this and seeing how the 20 couples had got on in life the ups and downs and shows such courage the lady had at the early loss of her husband at 39 and the couple who had coped so well with the child with Downs Syndrome, the lady with the Ectopic pregnancy it was sad you could see that she would have been a good mum. The ones who had chosen not to have children admiration to them also for knowing its simply a choice they both made and wanted the time for each other and the freedom travel. Hope to see more documentaries like this realism at its best.

What an amazing idea and its representation! Thank you so much.....

Thank you for this documentary. Had tears running down my face finger for those who didn't have things work out (in terms of marrage) and happiness for those who have! Be blessed! ♥️

I just happened upon this and I loved it. I was married to my daughter's father for 15 years, and then I quickly jumped into another relationship which lasted 5 years; now I'm on Year Two of another long-term relationship. I can't help but wish, though, that my first marriage had worked out so that we could have enjoyed watching our daughter grow together, rather than co-parenting from different homes. I am NOT saying I didn't love the man I was with for 5 years, or that I'm not in love with the man I am with now, I actually love and care for the two men whose lives I joined for the time I was with them; I just wish that I'd had the opportunity to see what it was like to stick it our for the long run, and to have given our daughter the undeniable security of having two happy parents living under the same roof. As it is, he has remarried, and found someone closer to what he needs, and as for me? I don't know. Will my current relationship last for long? We have a huge age difference--he is 16 years younger than me--and this presents some very real challenges, especially the fact that he grew up with electronic communication and the screeching peanut gallery that now passes for media--which changed language quite profoundly--yet I still speak the language which was spoken before computers moderated our communication. I think that's our biggest hurdle--language has lost a great deal of subtext and context and nuance and metaphor, but I haven't lost it. And that's how I prefer to communicate. So, I'm not sure what my future holds. Before I got married, I always figured I'd be similar to the Aunt in the movie Twister; living alone in a fancifully-decorated small house on the edge of town, eccentric, animal-friendly, and always there with a hearty pot-roast dinner for anyone who visited. I still think that is who I am. How that fits into a relationship--well, if the person I'm with accepts that this is who I am, and gives me whatever leeway I need in terms of creativity, space, and time, then they can stick around as long as they wish.

@yvetteaguinaga7334

4 жыл бұрын

Just out of curiosity. Who ended the marriage?