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🍕 Loved this! Your practical reasons and emotional connections really resonated with my own thoughts and feelings. I think it says a lot that the color black (I consider it a color because it is an absorption of all color) is seen as having an overall protective, healing energy. For instance, black tourmaline is thought to ground you and provide stability + security. Likewise, obsidian is thought to release negative / toxic energies like stress and tension. I have enjoyed wearing 95% all black throughout the majority of my life thus far. Last year, I went down the “rabbit hole” of color analysis for a little bit and decided to try out a couple colors (I did not pay for an analysis, I just looked up some info and picked colors I liked the look of that were in the same temperature as my skin undertone). Well that experiment proved to me that, while I enjoy color and seeing others wear it, it simply is not for me. In rare instances I have found an exception to the rule, but I can count the non-black pieces of clothing I own on one hand and most of them are in a print that includes black. Like you, I’m happy to lean into my love of black clothing. It feels like home and the truest expression of who I am inside. I think it’s interesting and special how each individual has certain things they are particularly drawn to and deeply identify within their heart and soul. P.S. one additional pro to wearing black is it doesn’t show sweat if it’s a very dark shade 😅👌

@b3naqua

6 ай бұрын

Thank you for your amazing comment! That's really interesting that you tried other colors but then still went back to mostly black. I'm curious, what colors did you end up trying? I sold/stored away most of my older clothes w lots of color, and there are a few pieces of green/orange that for some reason have my curiosity a bit. Might try to integrate them, but it also doesn't feel right atm lol

@kat_thefruitbat

6 ай бұрын

@@b3naqua My pleasure! 🤗 And I tried a wide variety of colors and neutrals really. In versions that were saturated, muted, vivid, or deep (I didn’t venture into colors or patterns that were neon, pastel, or super bright / vibrant because I just know they’re 100% not for me unless they’re gym clothes lol). I have olive skin tone so most things “technically” “work” on me. Oddly enough, even though I love black, I do not like how grey looks on me unless it’s a dark pewter or metallic. Anyways, so how I went about this was, over the course of many months, I tried on different colored items here and there at various shops, and when I found a color that “wasn’t bad” and looked nice with black bottoms, I took a picture and made note of it. After all of that, I bought several secondhand items in these colors so I could really challenge myself by actually wearing them each for at least one full day (styled in a way I’d normally wear it if it was black). I made sure to choose silhouettes and fabrics I already enjoy wearing in order to make it a realistic “experiment”. And the items I chose were either a top, jacket, or sweater because I hated the look of bottoms in anything other than black lol (I did like a couple pants in a black background with a muted spatial print, texture, or brocade, though, but I haven’t found any that I really see myself wearing out and about as of yet). So these are the items (vintage and/or secondhand) I bought to truly test out- mauve (solid mohair/wool cropped cardigan), navy blue (one solid collared wool sweater and one fully beaded silk/satin sleeveless top I got to wear like a sweater vest), medium royal blue (one oversized solid mohair/wool cardigan and one solid linen/cotton tunic), dark royal blue (40/60 to black in a patterned silk blouse), primary red (as a 60/40 background of a black patterned wool sweater), white (one solid cotton button up shirt and one silk blouse in a 50/50 pattern with black), cream (one solid silk blouse and one solid turtleneck), burgundy (solid boiled wool cropped jacket/cardigan), dark brown (velvet polyester jacket/blazer with metallic embroidery throughout), and three sheer pieces (one long sleeved black top with a textured multicolor/metallic confetti-like print, one long sleeved cobalt blue button up jacket/top, one cropped oversized half sleeve magenta top with some beading). I think that’s all of them. 😅 Keep in mind I did buy each of these with a lot of thought / intention, and the try-on period + purchases all happened slowly throughout an entire year at least, if not longer. The pieces I kept + still have and wear today (though admittedly far less often than any of my black clothing 😅) include the following- navy blue (the beaded top), medium royal blue (just the solid linen/cotton tunic), dark royal blue (40/60 to black in a patterned silk blouse), burgundy (solid boiled wool cropped jacket/cardigan), dark brown (velvet polyester jacket/blazer with metallic embroidery throughout), and two sheer tops (black with multicolor/metallic print and magenta with some beading). So I kept less than half lol. However I did also keep two additional items that, while they don’t excite me enough for every day wear, they’re “ok” enough that I will wear them exclusively to work sometimes lol (the navy blue collard sweater and the black/white patterned blouse). Sorry that was a lot, but hopefully it’s somewhat interesting haha 😅🤗 And that’s interesting how you’re still drawn to green and orange! Wonder what it is about them. Maybe some of it has to do with how they look paired with black? Maybe you like the color combo or the way they look with your own features like your skin tone, eyes, etc. 😊

I totally disagree with tbonecrushya. I just watched your video on "clothes I regret buying". If I had tried worn all of those crazy colors as much as you did, I would wear all black for at least a year. I bet that you enjoy all black for 9 months, perhaps a full year for efficiency and to prove a point. If you go to Hawaii all bets are off.

@b3naqua

5 ай бұрын

Good points 👏🏼 yeah I'm like 7+ months into only wearing black and I'm still loving it tbh. Gonna see if I can do it for at least a year I think. We shall see. Thx for watching my vids! More to come

If you still have older colored pieces that are at least 80% natural fibers, you should 100% try dying them black (if you think that particular piece would look good black) and make a video on it. :) I love your videos on darkwear BTW I'm also enby BTW :)

@b3naqua

5 ай бұрын

Yasss tysm 🤘🏼 more videos on darkwear coming soon! I’ve dyed a bunch of pieces black, esp stuff I wasn’t wearing anymore cuz of the color. Do you have any tips for setting the black dye in the clothes so the color doesn’t rub off on skin? I use the Rit color stay stuff but am still having issues with dye rubbing off 🫨

@rakvian

5 ай бұрын

@@b3naqua The brands of clothing dyes I use come in powder form but they also have a liquid fixer, so far the color hasn't rubbed off even without using the fixer, I made sure to rinse well. The brand is from Brazil tho so name dropping wouldn't help. I followed the instructions on the packaging.

@b3naqua

5 ай бұрын

@@rakvian thanks for the info! Will have to try out powder dyes sometime 🤘🏼 which brand do you use?

@rakvian

5 ай бұрын

@@b3naquaIt was a brand called "Tupy", pretty sure you can't find it outside of Brazil. I have seen youtube videos of people sucessfully using liquid Rit dye but I didn't find it in my country, Rit is also the first brand to show up on googling powder clothe dye, but I can't atest to how well it works.

Pardon my Naiveté... I'm 52 y/o...& I hear many young people say this, yet I don't know what "Non-binary" categorically, actually means when it comes to self-expression? I googled but left w/more questions than anwers w/Male or Female, gender part, etc. Thnks.

@b3naqua

6 ай бұрын

Good Q! For me, it's about finding pieces and styling them in a non-gender-specific & androgynous-feeling way - ie trying to not look/feel specifically or traditionally "masculine" or "feminine". For example, an oversized button up shirt that almost looks like a dress...or is it? Or a pair of leather combat boots with exaggerated, high platform soles - design elements like this that, to me, blur those needless rules/norms of stereotypical gender performance & identity. tbh it's more a feeling than a specific set of guidelines for me. Maybe I could make an entire video about that topic to explore it further? 🧐

@rakvian

5 ай бұрын

When it comes to self expression it doesn't mean anything, same way thay women can wear masculine stuff and vice versa for men. It just means that that particular person is neither a man nor a woman. However most non binary people will want to dress androgynous (looks that make you think "are they a boy or a girl?", taking elements from both genders), or dress in a way that suits men and women (a "neutral" way, overalls, pants, pullovers, boots etc.).

I give you six more months of wearing all black (with a little white or silver). About 10:30 p.m. you'll be watching a Milan runway show and see a pairing, perhaps a lime and black color combination that drives you up the wall until you buy it with the rationale of "well, it's just one little exception, and it even makes the black better." Then the dam will be broken.

@b3naqua

5 ай бұрын

lol potentially v true. We shall see 🫨

@rakvian

5 ай бұрын

For me personally I've been wearing all black for 2 and a half years and the only exceptions are old clothes that I dyed black but now they look like very dark green or whatever, but without paying much attention it looks just black basically.

Biggest cons is dandruff 😂

@leodileodileo

4 ай бұрын

Oh and summer.

@b3naqua

4 ай бұрын

haha omg true!

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@b3naqua

6 ай бұрын

mmmmm pizzaaaaaaa