“Only women, children and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved under the condition that he provide something.” - Chris Rock

@YourDad-te9fg

4 жыл бұрын

Bingo

@thc7865

4 жыл бұрын

These comment needs alot more likes so truth

@yeboscrebo4451

4 жыл бұрын

That’s the truth

@Mmmmkaaay

4 жыл бұрын

Tell that to all the women who have been betrayed by men. It certainly doesn't feel like unconditional love. If a man is a good father his children will love and respect him.

@operationorigami8962

4 жыл бұрын

@@Mmmmkaaay the amount of betrayed women in comparison to the amount of men loved on that condition is inconsequential. The amount of betrayed women is a low percentage of the female population. The amount of men loved conditionally is the vast majority of the male population.

"Men should express their feelings more" "I am depressed" "Oh get over yourself"

@ifusubtomepewdiepiewillgiv1569

4 жыл бұрын

Oof

@Poth94

4 жыл бұрын

true

@alexbenitez7304

4 жыл бұрын

So true on so many levels

@kwezimashapa6425

4 жыл бұрын

The man: Guess I'll die then

@1ucidly

4 жыл бұрын

@gabriel p shut up

The fact it took 3 weeks to found his body explains why he did it

@molester5917

Жыл бұрын

Bro this is the realest comment I’ve seen. Really hits hard..

@danielc4267

Жыл бұрын

Oh i thought he intentionally went somewhere remote to commit suicide, so that he wouldn't bother anyone. That's what I would do. I didn't think he did it in his bedroom and no one visited him. Since he worked as a doctor, the hospital must have notified someone that he hadn't been going to work.

@arnoldronald3044

Жыл бұрын

Been struggling with schizoaffective disorder for 6 years. I want my ending to be either the ultimate victory over my disease or the greatest tragedy ever. I'm confused about what option should I choose, as if I'm in a video game

@elementzz1504

Жыл бұрын

@@arnoldronald3044 accept yourself even if no one else does. Remember no1 really has the easy road maybe just the illusion of it. Remember that you have a gift to offer the world & become more of a human being than a human doing. It’s a huge problem in delusional societies that our worth is evaluated by what we achieve etc… this is more lies to keep society a certain way & keep people lined up like sheep. Be yourself speak up it’s going to get better for you.

@BBAKER22

Жыл бұрын

RIDICULOUS. You DIDN'T know him

I’d trade half of my intelligence for an actual social life, a loving relationship, and actual security in myself.

@KeyTone780

Жыл бұрын

Sometimes that won’t even help you, I’ve got all those and I still feel this way, idk the answer but it’s not those

@EldritchPursuit

Жыл бұрын

What is your IQ?

@NavoTheTrueGod

Жыл бұрын

​@@EldritchPursuit -10000

@joemontes4658

Жыл бұрын

I envy those north sentalise people

@mcpartridgeboy

Жыл бұрын

Men would trade almost everything for that, women are literally living a mans fantasy and women STILL find time to complain and get annoyed when we say they have things easier, they genuinly dont understand though, they assume all guys are good with women , because, think about it, the only guys who get women ARE good with women else they wouldnt get them, so women think all guys dont have any problems seducing women. They just dont understand that the majority of males are not good at pick up and get rejected by women all the time.

"If anything happens to a guy it's just considered funny." - Bill Burr

@nickidaisyreddwoodd5837

4 жыл бұрын

That is simply not true.

@adreamerlounge

4 жыл бұрын

Woman like destroyin men

@nickidaisyreddwoodd5837

4 жыл бұрын

@Bleed The Machines Those men don't take any responsibility for their own lives and actions. Instead they blame everything on government and women.

@Notsonorm

4 жыл бұрын

@@nickidaisyreddwoodd5837 ya'll are dense judging dudes off of a pretty funny Bill Burr joke.

@camquest6108

4 жыл бұрын

Notsonorm Exactly!

*When a man runs out of reasons to live, he starts to look for reasons to die*

@nomad8166

4 жыл бұрын

You know you're suicidal when you're starting looking for reasons to live

@antoinedefo6986

4 жыл бұрын

Ironicly enough, sometimes this mentality may lead to great achievements and self revelation, not always but sometimes great things come out of dropping your ego.

@Crazy_Rich_Asian

4 жыл бұрын

Which are plenty.

@jordynwalker359

4 жыл бұрын

@@nomad8166 yea at first I was gonna kill myself but now I think I'm gonna murder someone instead

@vikkicarr3255

4 жыл бұрын

triledink my husband committed suicide on March 25th 2019. I found him dead in our bed.(he overdosed on antipsychotic meds) It was a selfish act to not even think about myself or the kids. I’m so angry because there is so much help for people today yet he chose to kill himself🤦🏿‍♀️😢

I'm a male soon turning 35, been single for almost all my life and the victim of childhood trauma. I have been more or less depressed since 12 and struggling with my self worth, suicidal thoughts and relationships. On the subject that nobody really cares. I had a break up with a girl many tears ago and was devastated, not on as much losing her as on losing myself in the thoughts that my depression will never leave me and that I can't hold relationships. On the train home from her I desperately tried to message friends to have someone to come over to and talk to and comfort me. Everyone responded with something like they didn't have the time or what not. My heart sank and I got that knot of severe angst in my stomach o so familiar. I ended up sitting alone on the train holding my tears back for three hours.

@KeymonoTube

Жыл бұрын

I know that feeling, desperately Need and want someone to talk to or just sit with but everybody is so busy with whatever , and maybe even then telling you how and where to look for making new friends... Anyways, know that I feel you and you are not alone with being left alone, maybe in that we can gain strength?

@dr.seytan4310

Жыл бұрын

Damn

@arnaldobatista6221

Жыл бұрын

That is something!!

@MishimaToshiro

Жыл бұрын

I would hug you strong ❤

@being5013

Жыл бұрын

I called my mother about me getting her car. I didnt like the way she communicated about IT with my father and stood Up for myself. I told her that I feel Like they are talking over my head. She acted like I was being ungrateful I guess she wasnt even hearing me. Then I told her me being miserable and that No one hears what I am saying ever, Like the past 32 years of my life. This was about a Week ago. I havnt Heard anything from her since. Am I just being childish or is it okay to be hurt?

“He’s just the the kind of guy you wanna spend time with” I have a friend who I told I just needed a couple hours to sleep cuz I’ve been working all day and she let me nap on her lap on a pillow. 5 hours later I wake up apologizing to to her and she gives me the most meaningful “don’t worry about it” I needed that for 6 years

@ibrahimghibihisab8913

Жыл бұрын

Who is your lord grave first question

@ibrahimghibihisab8913

Жыл бұрын

India don't burn dead body not allowed

@Analoguedialog

Жыл бұрын

And yet they didn't find him for 3 weeks.😢

@ibrahimghibihisab8913

Жыл бұрын

@@Analoguedialog India don't burn dead body not allowed

@giabao2046

5 ай бұрын

That girl is a fuckin treasure my friend, damnn

Dead people recieve way more flowers than the living because regret is stronger than gratitude. - Anne Frank

@schematic2684

4 жыл бұрын

@Itima Ramon You dont know what their intentions are tho, they have a right to act like you're a crazo. You could be a stalker for one

@Mulberry2000

4 жыл бұрын

i like that quote

@schematic2684

4 жыл бұрын

@Itima Ramon Just please dont try to be philosophical and 'woke', it's cringy

@schematic2684

4 жыл бұрын

@Itima Ramon Keep searching bois, we gotta find out who asked

@scorpyworpy

4 жыл бұрын

@@schematic2684 You are probably one of the reasons that people commit suicide.

I have a female friend and she called me weak for having depression and opening up my suicidal thoughts. That was the moment she failed to be my friend.

@savagesalvage9449

3 жыл бұрын

Mine was older and more worldly. She told me I should head to the hospital and check myself in, then she ghosted me.

@flamcheeseful

3 жыл бұрын

Hope your still here

@WorldKeepsSpinnin

3 жыл бұрын

@@savagesalvage9449 probably more to that story then you told

@TheKingIreland

3 жыл бұрын

but its ok to be weak, we all need help to be strong

@savagesalvage9449

3 жыл бұрын

@@WorldKeepsSpinnin What a goofy thing to say. You mind showing your work so the rest of the class can follow along?

I cried in front of my girlfriend of 2 years for the first time a few days ago, she knows I struggle with depression and anxiety and the other day she saw the marks on my legs from SH. She just hugged me and told me it was ok to cry. It ment a lot to me.

@Yuti640

Жыл бұрын

Keep her close

@tabj2615

Жыл бұрын

That’s not a girlfriend, that’s a woman bro, a real woman. Keep her close.

@johnfisher8401

Жыл бұрын

wait until she throws it in your face one day during a fight. Guaranteed to happen, dont be surprised.

@skrillawarlock

Жыл бұрын

Danm you should have done that now she will cheat

@gamernerd299

Жыл бұрын

I hope your ok

The scariest thing I've ever experienced in my life is desperately screaming for help and people hearing but no one listening. Please try to hang in there, fellas.

@Whattaname55

Жыл бұрын

💔💔💔

@rayqe270

Жыл бұрын

no, not anymore

@sdrawkcabUK

8 ай бұрын

Why?

@tannhauser5399

Ай бұрын

Nah... the scaries thing in my life was working for various corporations, in the middle of so called developed country, capital city. As a contractor. What working for multiple organizations/corporations have shown me... is that nobody cares about it. Not at the workplace, even when talking to your co-workers during day to day, or coffee chats in the kitchen, or even in any official way (via yearly compulsory tests, such as you sometimes have to do on year to year basis). None of that covers any mental issues. None. And I've worked with a lot of them. And that is not even opening a box of how society, or official organizations are treating that. Good luck with getting a proper mental care, or approach... without money. Really good luck with it, as it simply wont happen, if you are a man. Nobody cares. At the end of the day, the system is not designed to care as such. Never has been. You want care? You have to pay. And it is as simple as that.

@vihangaharshana

Ай бұрын

Hey how are you doing right now? I hope ur doing well !

Men’s issues don’t matter until a woman talks about them. Please let that sink in

@Vishnu_Karthik

3 жыл бұрын

The real joke is that you think its about men's issue, when its clearly just a virtue signal

@ihatekidswithanimeprofilep4082

3 жыл бұрын

Oof

@joaomeireles1443

3 жыл бұрын

that is the best comment I’ve read

@martskater123

3 жыл бұрын

I've had worse.

@patrickhowell2502

3 жыл бұрын

@@Vishnu_Karthik pretty sure mens suicide rate is a mens issue...

When a man opens up about his emotions, they say he should man up. When a man doesn’t open up, they say it’s a toxic masculinity.

@ctg5679

3 жыл бұрын

we literally cannot win either way we’re screwed

@t-bagbagwell1327

3 жыл бұрын

@@ctg5679 thanks to modern radicals.

@landbefortime6898

3 жыл бұрын

@@asificam1 women say kill all men, at this rate that my happen, anyone who opens up about suicide is stronger than they were before, men go through so much, just as well as women, everyone should be treated equally in an emotional level, because this isn't the 50s, we can all grow and become better, its not to late to change and grow, and you need to open up because later on you will realize that you made a great decision and you realize that you are worth something and you are stronger, as i found out.

@ethxngx8783

3 жыл бұрын

I've use to be suicidal. I never did it for attention, I kept it a secret and once I tried to open up about my suicidal feelings, I was told I was a little b*tch. After awhile I stopped giving a sh*t if people seen me having suicidal signs. Now that after all those situations I've been through, I value everyone's problems no matter how small it was.

@Marwan-sn7zy

3 жыл бұрын

Hey stop right there, you can't have it both ways. Gosh men are so selfish

I have never had any good come from discussing my feelings with anyone.

@artdirector500

Жыл бұрын

cap

@ajbaker1213

10 ай бұрын

agreed, everyone wants us to open up but then we're ridiculed for being sensitive and weak.

@PHanomaly

10 ай бұрын

That says so much about where society has failed.

@_Meriwether

8 ай бұрын

@@artdirector500 I believe him, my experience is the same when it comes to discussing negative feelings. Take your cap back and eat it.

@ProfShibe

6 ай бұрын

@@_Meriwetherbecause you don’t have good friends. There are people who care. The people you’re talking to now aren’t your friends

I have always wondered why this is not a topic of discussion. Most men live a life of depression but sadly not many people notice it. It must be great to have someone ask you "How was your day?", "Have you eaten anything?" or the most important one "Are you okay?" Dear reader if you have a guy in your life, be it a friend, lover, husband, father, brother, or son. Check on them more often. Spend time with them. Give them a little bit of your attention. It will do wonders. 🙏

@dyroxau

Жыл бұрын

Yes bro 🙏🏻 so true ❤️

@ibrahimghibihisab8913

Жыл бұрын

@@dyroxau India don't burn dead body not allowed

Guaranteed, he died for the same reason it took 3 weeks to find his body

@vedalkin7220

4 жыл бұрын

This needs to be top comment.

@Clear256

4 жыл бұрын

That's deep

@kl1934

4 жыл бұрын

*O o f*

@Batmattxxx

4 жыл бұрын

Whoa heavy

@yusufdurmus1557

4 жыл бұрын

He was alone...

If a man gave this talk, everybody would be like "Oh quit your whining..."

@needscontent418

4 жыл бұрын

Publius Velocitor I hate how this is true😔

@MrAsyo1

4 жыл бұрын

I'm really worried about what type of people you're surrounded by

@paulcolburn3855

4 жыл бұрын

Correct, they would not listen to him. The feminists in the room only care when high value men (who create wealth such that women can consume it) commit suicide. Otherwise, its crickets. They just don't care. And they would rather the low value men commit suicide because that is less money the feminists must pay (in taxes) to support these low value men the instant they no longer want-to/can provide resources.

@eachdaybetterthanthenext5567

4 жыл бұрын

@@MrAsyo1 society?

@MrAsyo1

4 жыл бұрын

@@eachdaybetterthanthenext5567 People around me actually think

There are guys out there in pain, there are guys who’ve been forgotten, left behind, and are alone through it. It’s nice to see someone addressing it

@tannhauser5399

Ай бұрын

No. Sometimes you go to work, you have a chat with your coworkers, you have a good job - but at the end... you are alone. Truly alone at the end. And nobody care about your mental issues if you are a man. Nobody. And that is... painfull to see and experience. I can only repeat what I have written before, sorry to repeat myself: "What working for multiple organizations/corporations have shown me... is that nobody cares about it. Not at the workplace, even when talking to your co-workers during day to day, or coffee chats in the kitchen, or even in any official way (via yearly compulsory tests, such as you sometimes have to do on year to year basis). None of that covers any mental issues. None. And I've worked with a lot of them. And that is not even opening a box of how socifty, or official organizations are treating that. Good luck with getting a proper mental care, or approach... without money. Really good luck with it, as it simply wont happen. Nobody cares. At the end of the day, the system is not designed to care as such. Never has been. You want care? You have to pay. And it is as simple as that."

A judge once told me in family court before my attempt “ I frankly don’t care what happens to you”. In regards to being homeless because 90% of what I made went to alimony and child support. ONTOP of loosing my house, retirement. I got tired of fighting to stay alive.

@shin-ishikiri-no

7 ай бұрын

Men could get rid of the demon that caused them trouble in the first place. Why do demons get to live comfortably? There's more than enough suffering to share..

@ONETimothy2.12-14

3 ай бұрын

I'm one of those men that tell other men to toughen up but not like you'd think. I speak as a man coming from the exact same place as you. But I turn the pain into righteous indignation and fight back that way. I get peace knowing at least I defended my honor and all the good that was instilled in me from childhood. I found that letting people get away with degrading me is the part that haunts me not because of what they think but because that's what gives them the confidence to take from you. I've not once lost once I decided to correct people and draw hard lines. On the contrary many times I can pick their pockets if I felt like it even. We do need to get intouch with the warrior in us and use it more. Or become part of a collective of like-minded men that represent the regime and tap in that way. Every molecule in everything on earth responds to a man who knows his strength whether as a leader or member of an army.

Me : all I have is suicidal thought. My male psychologist : me too brother, me too.

@garystarkey726

3 жыл бұрын

me to psych- don't call me brother, i don't pay you to patronize me, you are suppose to be a professional...

@thewanderingmistnull2451

3 жыл бұрын

@@garystarkey726 Can't believe I paid 5c for this.

@deadedrounding2886

3 жыл бұрын

For real

@OnlyTheJugg

3 жыл бұрын

@@thewanderingmistnull2451 lol

@bboy_julienlosnephews5462

3 жыл бұрын

best comment .

Man : "I'm severely depressed and I'm having suicidal thoughts" Woman: "Think about how hard that is for me to deal with everyday"

@jdaniel.guitar

3 жыл бұрын

If this ain’t the truth I don’t know what is!

@adamperkins9326

3 жыл бұрын

I feel that

@matheusrodrigues4960

3 жыл бұрын

I feel that

@lifemusic1980

3 жыл бұрын

@@KarateWrestler205 MOST? What women are you hanging around?

@aspieotaku3580

3 жыл бұрын

@@KarateWrestler205 qft.

This woman and like three others are the only ones who legitimately or even pretend to care. 9.75 times out of 10, when someone asks a man what's wrong, it's a case of concern trolling.

@chelseashamim9148

Жыл бұрын

?

@Isimpforgothgirls

Жыл бұрын

​@@chelseashamim9148 what's there to be confused about?

@rogerpenfold117

11 ай бұрын

With all due respect, this woman doesn't care AT ALL. She's only up here to make herself look good. Another narcissist. Women DO NOT CARE. We are fooled if we believe the fallacy of unconditional matriarchal love and care. Only EVER believe a women when her lying mouth is SHUT.

@JLBxFTW

10 ай бұрын

What is “concern trolling”?

@Mutiny960

3 ай бұрын

@@JLBxFTW Acting like you are concerned only to use the information to make fun of them or insult them later.

One male dies from suicide in the US every 14.4 minutes. This is a great talk, and something that should be spoken about much more open and often.

I think most women underestimate how much of an impact they can have on men's lives. I'm not just talking about relationships, I'm talking about basic human interaction.

@TeddyABear

4 жыл бұрын

I am a 22 male in a small town in Iowa. I do not have a gf and every time I interact with a female roughly my age. I get the feeling whenever I interact with anyone like that, they think I am trying to date them and get into a relationship and with that they treat me cold and don't give me basic respect. Makes one really depressed.

@chikachikaslimshady1

4 жыл бұрын

@@TeddyABear u gotta get jacked and good looking. Then they will thank u

@Mnm58

4 жыл бұрын

Georgian Wolf Or get rich 🤷‍♂️ them gold diggers wild

@nezukoshiki3579

4 жыл бұрын

´"Men can´t understand beauty, so women have to restrain from showing their beauty, thus men will not be abble to cope with it, and it is womens responsability", wich they do not clearly own.

@Minotaur-ey2lg

4 жыл бұрын

Kohl ツ Women also don’t understand how little human contact single men have on a constant basis. Been single the last two years, most I’ve gotten is a handshake. Physical contact is essential for mental and physical health.

I once told a woman everything that bothered me (things I felt very insecure about) and in one argument she threw it all back in my face.

@thereisnosanctuary6184

3 жыл бұрын

Yep

@goyod6

3 жыл бұрын

Bitches do that!! Never let them in!!

@matthewatwood2581

3 жыл бұрын

I consider very carefully everything I say to a woman.

@Slynsmiley

3 жыл бұрын

Happened to me, too. That woman was my then wife.

@vDorgengoa

3 жыл бұрын

@@Slynsmiley Damn. Even marriages.

When society deems you unworthy, or worse, worthy of open mockery, due to circumstances you cannot change about yourself, what else can you do?

@ouijaasfdakavica7303

11 ай бұрын

Don’t think about it

@Twhistle

7 ай бұрын

God bless you bro

I'm writing this in '23. male suicide has only gotten worse.

@jaysouthmusic8230

7 ай бұрын

It really has

@tannhauser5399

Ай бұрын

And nobody cares about it.... Nobody. And this is also what working for multiple organizations/corporations have shown me... is that nobody cares about it. Not at the workplace, even when talking to your co-workers during day to day, or coffee chats in the kitchen, or even in any official way (via yearly compulsory tests, such as you sometimes have to do on year to year basis). None of that covers any mental issues. None. And I've worked with a lot of them. And that is not even opening a box of how society, or official organizations are treating that. Good luck with getting a proper mental care, or approach... without money. Really good luck with it, as it simply wont happen. Nobody cares. Sad but true.

@TheMan-bk5vo

11 күн бұрын

Damn bro. Think for ypurself then.

The reality is that our society is more interested in the story of a weeping girl than the stories of 10 men who committed suicide.

@NLSasuga

3 жыл бұрын

Probably think they should be dead when the girl blames them for her problems.

@thecontrarycontrarian4230

3 жыл бұрын

Men need to unite and fight this stereotype

@paulkerrigan9857

3 жыл бұрын

Men are expendable. If we want to be valued, we must do something that causes other people to value us. That isn't a bad thing. In fact, it's a powerful driver of success and innovation. See it as a challenge, not as an indictment of your worth. Comparing men to women in this way is like comparing apples to oranges. Men can't give birth, so they have to provide value in other ways.

@grossly820

3 жыл бұрын

@@paulkerrigan9857 dont u understand? You're the exact reason society is like this.

@jarensontillman6234

3 жыл бұрын

@@grossly820 you never know... your prayers might be answered.

It's sad that most of the people watching this video are men who already feel this way, which is why they clicked in the first place. People who didn't already agree with the title probably ignored it and continued on with their day.

@randomcat7246

4 жыл бұрын

Yo I’m vibing here, and am in fact female

@DavidSmith-dm8ew

4 жыл бұрын

That's why i clicked on it.

@Arocksy

4 жыл бұрын

David Smith Same thing.

@arftrooper44

4 жыл бұрын

Congratulations, you are correct

@elena-gw3rf

4 жыл бұрын

nah just binging tedtalks

9:05 it’s definitely not just us. I’ve never had a guy call me weak for having emotions, but I’ve lost track of how many times I’ve heard it from a woman

@Hacks536

Жыл бұрын

I’m sorry you had to go through that I am a depressed girl so I can’t say i know what you’re feeling but I sure do know that everything about depression sucks- hope U get better

@MackNcD

Жыл бұрын

@@Hacks536 lovely woman

@alventuradelacruz522

Жыл бұрын

Thats why is good to have true male friends

@robertsutherland6824

Жыл бұрын

@@Hacks536❤

@ibrahimghibihisab8913

Жыл бұрын

@@alventuradelacruz522 don't die as a disbelievers

Recently I told my mom how depressed I was everyday. First thing she asked was if I was still able to do my job properly (to earn money) and she suddenly switched the subject on her and how she too was severely depressed but overcame it all and walked away....not once acknowledging my depression. Due to this, and years of toxic narcissism, we no longer talk.

@wanda5548

3 жыл бұрын

I'm glad you are no longer talking to her! your feelings are valid and I hope you'll get the help you deserve.

@dudewithamood2115

3 жыл бұрын

There are people who listen and who care, just wanted you to know that

@JM-wt5wn

3 жыл бұрын

wow that hit close to home, thank you

@kallepikku4991

3 жыл бұрын

Very common with women in Finland.

@nhfjohno891

3 жыл бұрын

Same bro that’s why I’m here

About a year ago my girlfriend broke up with me because she was thought I was emotional and unstable. She spent 2 years saying she wanted me to be open with her more and that I shouldn't be afraid to be vulnerable about my own problems and that men shouldn't be afraid of expressing their emotion. That was after 2 years of me hiding my problems and emotions from her in fear of her thinking I was anything but a "real" man. I trusted her and opened up to her more about my stress and anxiety in my career and my family. It's been over a year and I still feel like I never want to trust anyone ever again.

@delmusingle2338

4 жыл бұрын

I am 68yo today Oct 16th BTW. In that time I have heard of what real men are from every woman I have ever dated at one time or another. They were all wrong. I am now MGTOW and have learned what real men are. I have also learned what real woman are like. There is no more confusion about women. They are easy to understand. Yet, I don't hate women, I understand them.

@ThistleKing

4 жыл бұрын

Sorry dude. You deserve better anyways.

@felipe4477

4 жыл бұрын

Gregory Wilkinson Never be afraid to be yourself, your insecurities make you interesting

@EZXSniperZzz

4 жыл бұрын

You didn't deserve that, and being hurt by that is okay. The general concepts of "men" and "women" have lead us all astray. Truly, most people are broken in our current world. We have too many old expectations and rules, and so few genuinely good examples. Never lose your ability to be yourself, because the more you do it, the more you let go of expectations for others on how they see you, and expectations of the outcomes of your genuine expression, then you can grow. You owe yourself that much. To grow you inner self and find more genuine people to connect with. There's no instant gratification to this, but it's the only way true way to fill up that hole in our souls. One shovel of progress at a time.

@tarkamlokar9709

4 жыл бұрын

I think you misunderstand what most women want when they ask you to be open, talk about your problems and show your emotions. You can do these things but you have to remain in control. You have to have control over your emotions and you have to make it clear that you are not overwhelmed or broken by your problems and ideally are working on solving them. If she perceives that you've lost control or have broken under the pressure she will lose interest. You can be vulnerable but you must always be strong and in control. That is practically and by the signals that you send her. She never wants to see you as weak or incompetent because she will not respect such a man.

Amazing how nothing has actually changed. In fact, it's only exacerbated over the last few years.

@BritonAD

14 күн бұрын

😑😑👍👍

It actually brought me in tears. I lost my great father and uncle who committed suicide a couple of years ago. I lost my dad who passed away from a heart attack in February. I gotta say that I have suicidal thoughts and it sucks. Fortunately my family and a friend of mine listen to my distress.

@nayaknaresh

Жыл бұрын

Research Ayahuasca and psychedelics aiding depression and anxiety.

@maxm6086

Жыл бұрын

@@nayaknaresh Thanks for your comment. The storm is behind me now. I'm out of depression. That was a freaking bad period of my life but now I feel peaceful.

@ricarellan

Жыл бұрын

I’m glad you’re feeling better now. I was getting worried.

You've missed another important factor: Loneliness

@TheWinterShadow

4 жыл бұрын

You can't catch everything when it comes to suicide.

@johnnguyen553

4 жыл бұрын

Loneliness is a good thing though, for some people like me. It's peaceful

@chrismofer

4 жыл бұрын

@@johnnguyen553 you are equating a powerful emotion to a state of being. they aren't the same thing. you may feel peace when alone, others feel isolation and depression.

@johnnguyen553

4 жыл бұрын

@@chrismofer Some people yearn for belonging, friendships and social interactions. While those things are nice, most people don't understand the true nature of human beings. The underlying motives, and other thoughts, it can really be a either good or bad. But most of the time, its generally a fact that most social relationships are formed with conditions. I realised that not having to care, owe and live up to anyone's approval made me a much stronger person. A person whose belief system is formed with their own and not through the opinions of others. It gave me a back bone and made me self confident. Sure I embrace loneliness because one day, say if I make a lot of fame or friends and suddenly lose it all, I can still be content with life. :)

@GutterWizard27

4 жыл бұрын

Other ne/sd

Man: kills himself Society: just man up

@amphibeingmcshpongletron5026

4 жыл бұрын

More like 'man down'

@fernandoherrera2256

4 жыл бұрын

it's considered unmasculine for a man to talk about his feelings. time to change that. toxic masculinity is a major problem.

@daniyil4843

4 жыл бұрын

@@fernandoherrera2256 toxic masculinity is non existent

@fernandoherrera2256

4 жыл бұрын

@@daniyil4843 if u really believe that then so be it. ur not really helping the poor men killing themselves though

@daniyil4843

4 жыл бұрын

@@fernandoherrera2256 How does believing in this concept help men from killing themselves?

I can see why other men commit suicide. Society in general treats us like as if we don’t have feelings or emotions. There’s no care in the world for a man and yet all the expectation is on us. It also takes a woman to talk about the subject for people to pay attention lol.

@tannhauser5399

Ай бұрын

No. At the end... nobody will. At that is the end result of it. People will simply move on with their own lives, and nobody will care about it. All they will say at the end: "my god, I wish we could have see that comming, he was such a nice guy... ", or "nobody could have predicted it", or "I wish he could have talked about it"... The issue is: he probably did. Just nobody was listening.

Totally opened up to my wife, and I showed her my pain. That's how I found out she thinks people that cry are weak. I don't recommend men open up to their wives. It changed the way my wife looks at me.

@natestansbie3954

3 ай бұрын

Your wife needs to grow up

@jodytahoe4242

3 ай бұрын

@@natestansbie3954 she has no idea what it's like. I'm glad she will never have to go through this.

Maybe it's bc of a simple truth: If my wife became depressed and couldn't leave bed, she could keep that up forever. If I did that, she'd leave in two weeks and all would agree I was being irresponsible and abusive.

@josephstalin7619

3 жыл бұрын

@@rb1278 By average he meant, not always

@rahmahassaf2275

3 жыл бұрын

Then she isn't the right one man

@goose2323

3 жыл бұрын

@@rb1278 you weren’t married....big difference

@allanpatterson7653

3 жыл бұрын

Ya if the woman get depressed get them a Psych if the guy gets depressed he gets a Cuff up the side of the head and he is told "clue in".

@Goofballhero

3 жыл бұрын

@@rb1278 That’s wrong. I’m sorry he did that to you. Too many men run away from emotions thanks to being raised by a hyper-masculine society. We are raised to not be emotionally available, or ever lean on someone else, and the men who are were raised exactly how they should’ve been.

"men are dying" public - *crickets* "women are being affected" public - "we need to do something immediately!"

@POLYMATHEMPIRE

4 жыл бұрын

this is why i am a stoic solipsist

@ivanrodriguez8027

4 жыл бұрын

Ong there's something wrong with society smh

@POLYMATHEMPIRE

4 жыл бұрын

@@ivanrodriguez8027 not really it's just a power game. When men have power many abuse it when society flips the women abuse it. This is true for any type of system

@shadowmoon7821

4 жыл бұрын

I Nemisis l lmao, he may sound like a troll. but it is the truth. this is what men have sowed from the past. us men would always think why we are usually ignored. but dont you think it is only logical that the minority of the past (women, gays and blacks) are having the attention they deserved? I say, blame our patriarchal society built by the men of past

@shadowmoon7821

4 жыл бұрын

I Nemisis l lmao, he may sound like a troll. but it is the truth. this is what men have sowed from the past. us men would always think why we are usually ignored. but dont you think it is only logical that the minority of the past (women, gays and blacks) are having the attention they deserved? I say, blame our patriarchal society built by the men of past

Women have so much more power than a lot of them realise. For good or for bad. Treat the men in your life with compassion.

A few years back i had a mental breakdown after a lot of things in my life fell apart all at once. I reached out to a female friend(who wanted to date me) and told her i was seriously considering taking my own life. Her exact words were “go ahead and do that it’s not my problem.” Ill never forget that as long as I live. No such thing would ever happen to a woman

@marybarnes2287

Жыл бұрын

Not true. I was told those things too

@balochafghan4890

Жыл бұрын

Wow I am sorry about that.

@bennyheadofthechairmen8808

Жыл бұрын

What in the goddamn

@dyroxau

Жыл бұрын

Im so glad your still here dude. NEVER EVER Give up ❤❤

There are two births in some men's life : the day their mother brings them to the earth, and the day they realize they're all alone

@J-IFWBR

4 жыл бұрын

Nah you never walk alone... Familie and friends will be there.. and if they aren't the state will care for you (at least in civilised countries ( not in the USA=D )).. and after all If u believe in God you will never be forgotten... cheers..

@ky1zui915

4 жыл бұрын

well im all alone have no friends expect like 1 or 2 and my family brly even looks at me and im sure there are a lot of people experiencing the same thing as me

@nobody-mq7fr

4 жыл бұрын

Even though that sounds kinda corny,it really is true.

@korkkork7505

4 жыл бұрын

@@J-IFWBR Atheists with no friends and an abusive family: Are we a joke to you?

@livetochange974

3 жыл бұрын

@@korkkork7505 you show him :)

Man: "I need help" Society: "You are being selfish" Man: "I want to die" Society: "Stop being negative" Man: "Why can't I be loved for who I am?" Society: "Be grateful to just be alive" Man kills himself..... Society: "We missed the signs."

@Monarch_Prime

4 жыл бұрын

Literally the cause of male suicide. Being loved as long as you have a price to pay for it. Toxic love.

@-cheshire-cat

4 жыл бұрын

There are many warning signs in school shootings. Most of them are completely ignored, then they say "We missed the signs".

@keanucooper2103

3 жыл бұрын

NSA I am an 18 year old male who is thinking about suicide. I want to do die because of my deformed arms. I do not have ten fingers like everyone else and therefore I want to die because I am not a strong man. I am considered “disabled” which means my life is meaningless.

@MalteX

3 жыл бұрын

@@keanucooper2103 Hey. I just want to tell you that having a birth defect is nothing you should be so ashamed of. I know my words dont really mean much, because you probably heard this kind of stuff 1000000 times. You just need to know that someday your life will become better. It does not have to be overnight and it can be a tough fight, but as long as you dont give up and believe in yourself, there will be a time, when life becomes easier. Please know that there are people who care abou and love you! I know how it feels to be hopeless and I'm fighting as well but start doing something like exercising or going on a jog every now and then. Try to find something you like and persue that hobby. Hope you will stay strong

@keanucooper2103

3 жыл бұрын

MyNameIsB0by Thank you

Guys be strong! If you show weakness and vulnerability women will destroy you for sure!

@koal18-

11 ай бұрын

Very true. If you show vulnerability to a women, she'll use it against you later on.

@igor0155

10 ай бұрын

Crying next to a girl is like bleeding next to a shark. Remember that

This is a great video. Society doesn't care about men's health, both physically or mentally. I hide my pain because those around me do not care. A man with depression is a social pariah and society would rather ignore it. I appreciate this presenter because she presented this issue with no political/ideological bias. We need more like her.

@wealthsong178

Жыл бұрын

what do u expect from people and society in the first place? Better not expect or hope anything good from people/society

@ibrahimghibihisab8913

Жыл бұрын

@@wealthsong178 don't go near Euphrates River when gold get up

@ibrahimghibihisab8913

Жыл бұрын

Don't go near Euphrates River when gold get up

@ibrahimghibihisab8913

Жыл бұрын

Don't go near Euphrates River when gold get up

"The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation." Thoreau. 1854

@MeMe-hb1rc

3 жыл бұрын

"Quiet desperation is the English way" - Floyd 1973

@charlesmcnamara4058

3 жыл бұрын

@marty mcfly You know about changing over to another road? Get off the big broad highway and get on the narrow path to Jesus before it's too late man. He can help you out, and I'll pray for you that you can overcome the difficulties you've been facing. God Bless you!

@siiiiiuu7

3 жыл бұрын

"A woman wrote my quotes, but women don't quite count yet in our society." Thoreau. 1854

"I cannot begin to describe the look I see on some women's faces when I speak about how men I know have broken down in tears in front of me. It's somewhere between discomfort and disdain". That statement couldn't be more true.

@JustAlive21

4 жыл бұрын

@Joe H wtf

@JustAlive21

4 жыл бұрын

@Joe H we are allowed tf

@lukebruce5234

4 жыл бұрын

@@JustAlive21 Yes we are allowed by judged and humiliated for it so it is better not to.

@TraceLight

4 жыл бұрын

Joe H the strong silent type. That’s the ideal goal. You can go drown your sorrows with a bottle on the weekends. That or smoke compulsively. Or both, like I do.

My only son took his own life a few months ago, he told me he’d felt like this and we had the chat, thought it was put to bed, but he went ahead and done it, left us all devastated, he was drunk! I was only speaking with him on the phone a few hours before, some say it’s selfish, maybe their demons are just too much to bear? Left a huge hole in all our hearts. So sad

@realhoney3586

Жыл бұрын

:(

@ricarellan

Жыл бұрын

This is devastating and I’m sorry for your loss. 😔

@tannhauser5399

Ай бұрын

Not selfish. Sometimes you just cannot take it anymore. At some point in our lives, a lot of us understand that. Not that we all may agree with it, but at the human level, the way everything is going, we simply... understand. Sometimes it is just easier to exit all of that, no matter what is waiting on the other side. Sorry that have happened, and sorry for your loss. Nobody should watch their own child be gone... Nobody.

If you can't understand why someone would take their own life, then you don't understand depression.

I only cry in private. Many women don't like sensitive men, and see it as a sign of weakness.

@alexschmidt2895

4 жыл бұрын

I feel that why is it only women can be sad?

@jagritbudhiraja6391

3 жыл бұрын

I can confirm that

@julxester-9976

3 жыл бұрын

I like sensitive people more..or people with mental illnesses. Because i understand how it feels like going through it.

@redlilly2584

3 жыл бұрын

dear men...i am a female... but i NEVER judge any men if they cry...my love to u all men... :) !!!

@nielsvandervaart3616

3 жыл бұрын

M2

"You're important" I can't tell you how many women I've known that make you feel the opposite.

@joschistep3442

4 жыл бұрын

Probably you're choosing the wrong women? Probably try and choose them not by how they look, but by how they make you feel?

@maximilianomadrigal6661

4 жыл бұрын

Look up marx's theory of alienation and kimberle crenshaw's theory of intersectionality. If you truly believe its women who are making you feel this way then you need a awaking.

@DarkAshenfall

4 жыл бұрын

@@maximilianomadrigal6661 Actually, its obvious to see that many women do demean men. I've worked in customer service for a good chunk of my life. I saw, on a regular basis, how wives or girlfriends treated their men. Hen-pecking, talking down to them, etc. The age old saying 'Happy wife, happy life' is the quintessential example of how women have ingrained their desires over men's in a relationship. If THEY aren't happy, no one is. That is BS and utterly defies the concept that a relationship is an equal affair. So yes, Brad's feelings are quite accurate. Women are often the cause of men's worst feelings.

@maximilianomadrigal6661

4 жыл бұрын

@@DarkAshenfall nope, listen to the lyrics of whatta man by salt n pepper, they talk about a man that yeah looks good but also makes them laugh, spend times with thier kids, respectful, compassionate, caring, interesting but also makes them feel safe. So thats what women want in a relationship and you're saying thats given president over what men want in a relationship, so tell me what do men want in a relationship? If you need dating advice I know great sources for that, though they won't help you with hook ups but more with long term relationships. I know what it's like to be lonely and denigrated, but trust me that's coming from a different source then what you're thinking of.

@potatorekt7046

4 жыл бұрын

Joschi Step I think he is talking about women in general, basically man with no value according to them, are invisible.

“…The look was somewhere between discomfort and disdain…” That’s right because women inherently hate men they perceive as weak, whether they want to or not. You can’t cry or even tell your insecurities to a woman because they will see you as unreliable and untrustworthy and resent you for it. “How is this guy going to take care of me and my emotions when he can’t even keep his in check?” We simply aren’t allowed that luxury around women. You gotta get something off your chest, tell it to your homies. They understand and care for you at the end of the day.

@Yuti640

Жыл бұрын

Exactly, the homies have got your back, cause they understand how it is

Never "open up" fellas. Remain stoic. Get you some guy friends to talk to. Women will always look down on you for being emotionally vulnerable

@BBAKER22

Жыл бұрын

RIDICULOUS

@wealthsong178

Жыл бұрын

​@@BBAKER22 whats so ridiculous? He is s not 100% right but he's also not wrong.

@user-vo3zh7gr2z

Жыл бұрын

this ideology is what keeps you single and alone

@beganitdidnt6535

Жыл бұрын

nah all my friends are successful with women ill never relate to them or take their advice its pretty much the same as talking to a woman

@Isimpforgothgirls

Жыл бұрын

​@@BBAKER22 ridiculous but it's true, the fact that it's true is ridiculous..

That expression "Women and children first." also translates as " Men last."

@cjmendeeeezy9541

3 жыл бұрын

It's messed up man

@chirone_

3 жыл бұрын

Nope, it translates to "men never".

@prismmioouu

2 жыл бұрын

its because men dying for no reason ( even when they can be saved) is considered manly and honourable. people need to let them live

@ravenclawthestral3964

2 жыл бұрын

It comes from the viewpoint of women being as helpless as children, so idk about that example.

@ericmuschlitz7619

2 жыл бұрын

Translates to “ cash in the insurance policy”

Its so strange to see something that is pro-men and tries to help us instead of beating us down...

@lukasmisanthrop8557

4 жыл бұрын

@Heartslove 3 satan is already here why should we wait.

@lukasmisanthrop8557

4 жыл бұрын

@Heartslove 3 i just want you to know that i did not read your comment Your efforts are pathetic and in vain chaos is coming, hail to the fallen angel

@guyinaroom7771

4 жыл бұрын

Lmfao wtf is this reply section but I agree with op

@momo1461

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, because women hate men.

@stn6408

4 жыл бұрын

@Heartslove 3 hail to the fallen angel

Thank you so much for this candid discussion. Such a critical importance. And conveyed so beautifully with so much compassion and non-judgment.

I think one of the hardest things about having suicidal thoughts, is knowing truly that no one cares. I'm at this point just living, waiting to die.

@alphaarx3055

Жыл бұрын

Yup 😄

@Covermeporkins11

Жыл бұрын

I know how you feel. I'm not living, just existing

@alphaarx3055

Жыл бұрын

@@Covermeporkins11 Exactly

@Yuti640

Жыл бұрын

Why are you waiting? There’s nothing to wait for

@alphaarx3055

Жыл бұрын

@@Yuti640 you're right 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Women "Men should talk about their feelings. It's okay to feel vulnerable" Also women: "Sensitive men are needy and weak. I only date 'real' men"

@sundaw

4 жыл бұрын

there are different women you know

@sundaw

4 жыл бұрын

@aviators remix 😂😂🤣🤣 wow this is epic man

@Seththeprince

4 жыл бұрын

strawman much

@perttuhaapala2406

4 жыл бұрын

@@sundaw ooh "Im different and cool" attitude? Stop lying

@zodglubby

4 жыл бұрын

@@sundaw 1% maybe

I just stopped talking about it when i learned no one cares.

@sureseam

4 жыл бұрын

Viridian: Not sure that no one cares: however very few know how to respond so they shy away from your demons and perhaps their own. There is a reason to call groups like "The Samaritans" in that they do know something about how to respond.

@alper8607

4 жыл бұрын

I'm with you on this one bro

@Crazy_Rich_Asian

4 жыл бұрын

Suicide is ok.

@Cocalightzerofull

4 жыл бұрын

I care about you brother, stay healthy. Here is a comment I wrote to someone else, I hope it will help you :D : What I mean by there are good things inside the bad : for example when « friends » gave up on me or betrayed and left me alone I was glad because these confrontations/separations actually helped me see their real faces. I prefer loyalty over fake company. I noticed that my life was better after because I got away of the negativity they bring and I discovered that loneliness was not a bad thing but a good one because it brings more peace than being with people, I can do things I want without adapting myself to someone’s needs, it also helps me to learn to know myslef, to think better, to rest better. Good things in a bad one. Everytime I feel pain because of a problem in life I become more resistant to it and mentally stronger after. The more the life goes on the more I gain experience and mental strength that allow me to resolve the next problems more easily than I would have if I had not been through the previous ones. After thinking about my life when I am alone I realize that these bad events in life actually bring me good things for the future, this made me think that bad events are actually benedictions in disguise. Also I realised that positive thinking helps to go through anything. There is a quote that marked me « When you think positively you see solutions everywhere, when you think negatively you see problems everywhere ». And it is true that when I think positively I tend to do more efforts and think faster and better and find more solutions than I would have negatively. Sorry for taking this much time to respond to you brother. I was going through harsh things these weeks, I was mentally exhausted but remained positive because my chances to overcome everything is better this way. Take care brother, live positively, I love you

@lofiwackpainting7439

4 жыл бұрын

Viridian yet another dent in my morale, I am used to it. I did man up, but now I’m stoic and no longer feel emotional about anything, I haven’t loved anyone since 3rd grade.

Just want you to know if you read these that you saved me from a downward spiral of depression. Thank you so much. I forget sometimes that there are people that do care, and this helped me find the help I needed. You probably saved my life in the long run

This is exactly how I’m feeling right now and this is also exactly what I want to hear and I think she is explaining it perfectly

The thing that stopped me from killing myself was the sad realization that people I love more than myself would be the ones who found my body after I was gone.

@11123fsd

4 жыл бұрын

Stay strong brother 💙

@wombatwalp

4 жыл бұрын

That quote fits me so well.. if it wasn't for the parents..

@braid834

4 жыл бұрын

Feel that on a deep level

@then35t18

4 жыл бұрын

I hope you're still going, and can find a reason to love life for yourself. Or make one.

@nepneppers8122

4 жыл бұрын

Can't stress how true that feels dude, I would love to just not be here, but then everyone else would get all sad

When I was younger, I went to a meeting with my local council, as I was homeless and suicidal. A female member of the council met with me, and after our meeting, she stated "a 21 year old male, should be able to look after themselves." (NFDC UK) I'll never forget that.

@Lulu-th5bo

3 жыл бұрын

Sam Hopper I hope you’re doing okay now man

@bastardhapa8238

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like she shouldn't be on any council's and is out of touch with the world around her. I'd be happy to tell her that for you. Until then I will pray every night that wakes up with diarhea.

@arkaghosh2857

3 жыл бұрын

I hope you're doing okay now, brother.

@markmadle

3 жыл бұрын

@@generalvanman8270 Jesus that is so tragic. My thoghts go out to you bruv.

@10RBREEZY

3 жыл бұрын

@@generalvanman8270 This broke my heart bro. That's pretty damn high. Please live a long life.

Thank you Steph..! The last few words are what people wanna hear..! That there is nothing wrong with them... For feeling so.. and it's okay to feel so...

Thank you for giving me hope, will listen to this again hopefully

men are expected to be strong and show no emotion, the moments we do to a woman, we know we are immediately seen as weak and are no longer considered a potential partner, so we keep our pain and loneliness to ourself until we cannot bear it no more

@learnnottogiveaf8747

5 жыл бұрын

it s not that you conditioned not to show emotions, the reason is your government and society in general, west is a dangerous place for men

@the8thchurch461

5 жыл бұрын

@@learnnottogiveaf8747 How is the West a dangerous place for men, is it because women are standing up for themselves and refusing to be kept in the home popping out babies? smh

@scott3594

5 жыл бұрын

I think it's pretty natural for men to not show as much emotion.

@halvorskalid

5 жыл бұрын

Stoicism has nothing to do with suicide. The west is best place for men to actually show emotion. If the cause of the male suicide epidemic is not being able to share their emotions and "keep their loneliness inside", the west should have a lower suicide rate than any other place in the world as being open is way more frownd upon in for example the middle east. I'm not claiming I have the solution, but I know for a fact that men being stoic is not the cause.

@lucianosimmons3003

5 жыл бұрын

I don't think he thought at all about his comment and just babbled in ineptitude and hyperbole for "likes". "The West" is the absolute safest point in time and space that humankind has EVER had the priviledged of experiencing. We today live better than the highest Kings and queens of all time. Is it still "dangerous"... Sure.. all nature is by definition. But I agree his comment was incomplete at best.

As a male who's been severely suicidal for over 15 years, I thank you for this. It's so hard living like this with no one to confide to.

@overeasyeggs8423

3 жыл бұрын

I’m here buddy just someone scrolling down the comments but I’m here

@Dempsey1873

3 жыл бұрын

Long time

@luisvallhonrat6212

3 жыл бұрын

I too have been suicidal for the past 16 years or so. Sometimes the only thing that keeps me here is my two nieces, my mother, my brother, and my sister-in-law. if they weren't in my life . . . i don't know

@slenderhatesmillennials195

3 жыл бұрын

hang in there, find something you're passionate about and work it into your everyday life, give yourself something to be happy about, something to continue living and prospering, your life is worth too much to toss it aay.

@grenetin6062

3 жыл бұрын

Hey, I'm here if you need me man, I don't think I'm good support but I'll listen. I can give you my discord tag if you want to chat.

I dont wanna be here anymore.

Excellent TED talk, one of the best I have listened to.

I can't express how liberating it feels when a woman takes a moment to let us open up about our feelings.

@robertwiegman1

4 жыл бұрын

True...Very comforting.

@Viktoria2004sh

4 жыл бұрын

I dont know how it is at your country but at mine thats how exactly and actually it is 50% men 50% women

@DavidJLee-zr8ic

4 жыл бұрын

@TheHellogoo she's like an early adopter showcasing how updating our operating system better improves our day to day lives

@deneverbroncos7126

4 жыл бұрын

Why is she speaking to me it feels like

@ItsOttis

4 жыл бұрын

how sad; "*let's* us open up'?

Loneliness is the worst mental pain

@johannes8637

3 жыл бұрын

I can relate to this. Try to be completely alone, with no Internet and no distractions. Then, you'll understand how it feels to be a desperate person

@gopalakrishnasriram1896

3 жыл бұрын

If u control ur thoughts when ur alone then there is nothing that can scare u

@johannes8637

3 жыл бұрын

@Bunsen Yeah, I can relate to this. You couldn't named it better

@srccde

3 жыл бұрын

​@@gopalakrishnasriram1896 You are one of the worst people I've ever come across on the internet, congratulations. Depression is a severe illness that deprives you of your ability to control your thoughts and, albeit indirectly, deprives you of utter control over yourself in time.

@srccde

3 жыл бұрын

@@johannes8637 I don't even want to imagine being even without internet or any sort of distraction... I might've already killed myself if that'd happened to me...

There is a post written by a trans man I think about a lot. He mentioned as a man he felt socially and emotionally malnourished and was shocked that people just didn't care especially after experiencing the exact opposite while being perceived as a woman before transitioning. People looking at it from the outside will never really get it because men generally hold a position of privilege but it's more than that, men don't have it necessarily better in all circumstances there are just as many gendered issues we face. I genuinely believe at least half of the men in the UK(from my experience)are cripplingly lonely and noone notices. As a somewhat suicidal person who was raised as a boy Ive never been checked up on about it even after asking people to. Although women have there own gendered issues (often more inherently dangerous/damaging) I think the fact that this was presented by a woman who mainly speaks about how this issue effects her speaks volumes. That men can only really have there gendered issues spoken about and taken seriously by people who have experiences outside being a man. To all the people out there with similar experiences please stay strong and know that every human life (including your own) has inherent value. If you want to vent/talk please feel free to leave anything you want read in the replies.

@ibrahimghibihisab8913

Жыл бұрын

Don't go near Euphrates River when gold get up

@jkscout

8 ай бұрын

men generally do not hold a position of privelege

Such an important conversation to be had.

i tried it, i failed, told my family, they say i'm weak, it is my choice and i should really do it, sister literally said she wished i succeeded. my gf left after that. humanity sucks.

@Biggiiful

3 жыл бұрын

Don't do it again. I don't know you, but you have one person rooting for you. And judging by the comments under this video....thousands that are rooting for you. Just because we are strangers doesn't mean we aren't out there. We exist. And we care.

@georgeosborn421

3 жыл бұрын

Surround yourself with new people if those people have truly given up on you, and have that sort of despicable opinion. They are not good people it is never justified to talk to you the way they have.

@WorldKeepsSpinnin

3 жыл бұрын

Man, I really wish I could see people’s pasts. How could a family could react like that to their own sons / brothers attempted suicide.

@aidenmcdonald3309

3 жыл бұрын

Damn your family is worthless stay safe man

@alok3240

3 жыл бұрын

i support u fam

I don't remember who said this but it was: "When a woman die, it's a victim. When a man die, it's a statistic".

@ohmsspark7711

4 жыл бұрын

Hits deep

@midnightdragon67

4 жыл бұрын

That's incorrect, That quote was made by stalin, "if a man die, it's a tragedy, if a hundred men die, it's a statistic"

@garrettcarroll5808

4 жыл бұрын

It's the difference between dying in the war and dying on the home front.

@bigshmitty169

4 жыл бұрын

Artyom It’s similar to Stalin’s quote that I’m going to paraphrase: “When 1 man dies, it’s a tragedy. When 1,000,000 men die, it’s a statistic” Edit: “A single death is a tragedy; a million deaths is a statistic”

@uncleruckus3930

4 жыл бұрын

So true

Every day, 22 military veterans take their lives in the United States. My husband became part of this statistic two weeks ago. While this TED-Talk addresses the UK statistics (for the most part), it still shows that mental health for men is seriously lacking. Something needs to be done to address and provide help for male suicide victims, via better mental health care worldwide.

@i.l.6956

10 ай бұрын

Sorry to hear that. Don't give up

@ernestturriziani2489

4 ай бұрын

What bothers you about your husband's suicide?

It's the 80/20 rule: 20% of men enjoy 80% of the money, accomplishments, romance, etc. While 80% have to scrounge for the remaining 20%. There's most of your male suicides (soon to include yours truly).

@BritonAD

14 күн бұрын

Sums it up, 80/20.

“When the world turns its back on you, you turn your back on the world” - that little thing from lion king.

@witoldskrzydlewski6827

3 жыл бұрын

Timon from lion king

@kaylabowden3883

3 жыл бұрын

@@witoldskrzydlewski6827 thank you I low-key wanted to scream at them

@Feber2001

3 жыл бұрын

Damn...I felt that.

@Dosbomber

3 жыл бұрын

That's MGTOW defined.

@kaylabowden3883

3 жыл бұрын

@@Dosbomber ???what

We're told We're weak for showing emotions and we're told we're weak for not expressing them. Yet people still wonder why we resort to suicide and nothing else

@frankfurlacker5219

3 жыл бұрын

people dont want you to commit suicide because they want you to suffer and they want to continue to flex their superiority over you, which is why they take those final shots at you after you end it.

@swarnaprabhabej2305

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, this thing need to end.

@dasylula3968

3 жыл бұрын

I hope you don’t. Because their will be people shielding you from those remarks. Their will be people loving and supporting you.

@ra-pv7rg

2 жыл бұрын

“we”?

@lonewolfcoding5208

2 жыл бұрын

dont believe to negative people just ignore them they dont know what have youe been through pls dont give up i hate people who is ridiculing men who are called weak because they cry😡 just stay away from them dont entertain anymore

Well I'm 23 now and when I was 22 I had a mental breakdown. My parents had high hopes for me and the thought of not being able to fulfill it tore me. I haven't cried for more than a decade in front of anyone. One day i was talking to my mum and I cried in front of her. And she told me,"You are a man, don't cry". It's not like my mum is a bad mother or anything. She is a lovely woman and i love her. But the mentality imbued in her head by the society is insane. Luckily I got through in just a year and I'm studying what I love

I just started crying when she said close your eyes and started talking about if we had a bad day and if we felt suicidal, because I closed my eyes and raised my hand on both occasions

“He saved lives for a living. Yet decided to take his own.” That hurts a little different for some reason.

@robertwiegman1

4 жыл бұрын

Yep...hard to grasp but needs to be.

@SuperPelipojat

4 жыл бұрын

Please do not prey for the hopeless people with your religious message in here. There's a time and place for everything but this is certainly not it.

@celticnoble5650

4 жыл бұрын

Probably because many people ironically label suicide as a "gravely selfish" act, but often those that committed suicide were the complete opposite and very selfless.

@purassicjark2424

4 жыл бұрын

IRONIC! he could save others from death, but not himself.

@platogkrone7161

4 жыл бұрын

@@celticnoble5650 Just because the act itself is selfish, doesn't mean the actor is.

When a man opens up about how he feels he is automatically “weak” told to “man up” or “get over it” but yet if it’s anyone else then they are given support I’ve experienced this first hand

@shinichisan6789

4 жыл бұрын

if a woman says it gets all kind of help if man says it is gonna be destroyed

@educortes8993

3 жыл бұрын

It's true

@holocene5451

3 жыл бұрын

I believe this is what toxic masculinity means, not doing "guy stuff" but the expectation that men don't cry, they either bottle it up or react with anger...

@RpgCrow

3 жыл бұрын

Same....honestly...im here for some kind of help...

@holocene5451

3 жыл бұрын

@@RpgCrow You mean someone to talk to?

Thank you for this message.

There once was a man who went in to see a therapist. Lately, this man is in despair, openly weeping over every misfortune and heartbreak he's endured. The therapist thought for a moment and said, "You need a break. Here's something: the great clown Pagliacci is traveling here into town today and is going to perform his vaudeville comedy. You should go maybe seeing his show will cheer you up." The man paused at this before bursting into tears. "But doctor," he said. "I am Pagliacci!"

@ibrahimghibihisab8913

Жыл бұрын

Don't go near Euphrates River when gold get up

@themaestro2572

Жыл бұрын

@@ibrahimghibihisab8913 why? What will happen?

“All it takes is one bad day to drive the sanest man into lunacy”

@manuj2868

4 жыл бұрын

purpleblunt Everyone has a breaking point indeed and most people after that either: -Kill themselves -Go insane

@antoniocesarano1962

4 жыл бұрын

Comic books can be so real...damn

@forksandpopsticles9183

4 жыл бұрын

@Snickeres 557 thats the problem, telling people to just "man up"

@Manu_08999

4 жыл бұрын

In my experience that's due to impulsivity, a lack of calmness and patience, struggle with this myself

@Manu_08999

4 жыл бұрын

I want some of ur purple haze 😍

The fact that a woman has to speak about this in order for people to listen tells you everything you need to know about the treatment of men in the western world

@prismmioouu

2 жыл бұрын

ikr . if men spoke about themselves apparently they are complaining or "anti woman" you aren't anti woman unless you do something offensive. you guys have your own problems and i respect that and we can solve them

@Davito2000

2 жыл бұрын

I would very much have to disagree with her belief that it's an issue relating to stereotype, however. She's basically calling masculinity and a social construct. No, we're wired; biologically programmed a certain way.

@francescobrunocia3110

2 жыл бұрын

*About society

@prismmioouu

2 жыл бұрын

@@Davito2000 so your saying all guys are the same? wait what i don't get this "biologically programmed the same"

@tvds8350

2 жыл бұрын

@@Davito2000 No every brain is different. You can just make up some bs about being wired a certain way, you have control over your actions.

This is true. I went through severe depression and chronic suicidal ideation because my wife didn’t give a damn about my needs. I didn’t need much, but everything was “my problem”, and when it was clear I was depressed, she kept escalating things and wondered why it didn’t get better. The divorce was finalized a week ago.

@harshkum

2 ай бұрын

Take care brother. You matter. Your needs, your feelings matter. You're not alone.

the topic is trully important and the speech was great but.......i can't help but notice how sweet, kind and lovely this girl is

Men: "I have depression" Women: "Ya well women-" Me: "Oh I'm sorry, I didn't realize this was a competition"

@Reze000

2 жыл бұрын

@@InVinoVeratas That's a category 6 bruh moment

@IHopegood

2 жыл бұрын

@@Reze000 take it to def con 2

@arcane1282

2 жыл бұрын

I’m a woman and it’s not a competition

@baskervilleBerz

2 жыл бұрын

They like to compete in everything.

@bacrope

2 жыл бұрын

It goes both ways

It doesn't matter how many TED Talks it takes....If a population doesn't care, then it won't change anything. Same about homelessness, mental illness and loneliness.

@johnD1998

4 жыл бұрын

True. I been lonely for 6 years now and no one cares, especially not women.

@Uncle_Glock

4 жыл бұрын

@@johnD1998 well, i know where you're coming from. But think about whether you reached out to someone else who is as lonely as you.

@johnD1998

4 жыл бұрын

@@Uncle_Glock yea i wish i could reach out to another lonely person but i have no idea were to find one. But no one else knows how it much it hurts, that's probably why no one else cares.

@Uncle_Glock

4 жыл бұрын

@@johnD1998 if you, a lonely person don't know how to find one, then you can't expect others to find and notice you, amiright?;/

@johnD1998

4 жыл бұрын

@@Uncle_Glock Well i guess I'm screwed then. 😥 are you saying i should start telling everyone that I'm lonely and have suicidal thoughts to meet other lonely and depressed people??

This girl seems like a truly wonderful person. I'm very glad I watched this

It is sad. They must have such pressures. very thoughtful lecture. Thank you.

When it takes over a week to find someone it really becomes blatantly obvious why they committed suicide.

@darkbribe777

3 жыл бұрын

try years

@bilalmehdaoui4213

3 жыл бұрын

Try decades

@dgbd9030

3 жыл бұрын

try a lifetime.....

@thepowerman8952

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe he didn't want to be found.

@dgbd9030

3 жыл бұрын

@@thepowerman8952 he was literally in his apartment.... bruh

i was a very emotional man but now society is turning me to a cold brick

@Jadedgems

4 жыл бұрын

I like your username

@chess_board_consumer

4 жыл бұрын

Relatable

@gigantomaquia

3 жыл бұрын

same here, buddy.

@mostunique5941

3 жыл бұрын

Can’t relate to anything more. I look back on me even just a few years ago. Far out I was awesome. So dam optimistic and positive about the future. Now, only 2 years later I’m still trying to be a good person but I disconnect from people a lot. I hide more of my emotions and I am becoming more angry agitated.

@rangopistacho6928

3 жыл бұрын

I'm not afraid to cry in public about something genuinely upsetting Anyone who calls me a baby are probably just secretly bottling their feelings

I admire all those that are gone and had the resolve to go through with it. I've tried and failed twice because of outside interruption and giving myself a back door to possibly live. I'm still working up the nerve for absolute finality.

@agrajyadav2951

Жыл бұрын

Do it

@miguelhuerta5603

Жыл бұрын

@@agrajyadav2951 you first

It's easier said than done, but what pulled from from a dark place was finding and pursuing things I was actively passionate about and gave me a sense of purpose. That was about myself, how others viewed me became irrelevant. Fortunately that process was organic for me and came naturally over time. My passion and what gives me fulfilment is local politics and improving the community and thinking of the needs of the many around me. I hope if anyone reads this and they are in a dark place, that you find your passion, something positive that makes you want to get out of bed every morning for.

'The suicide hurts so many people around you'.., but the truth is 'They don't care what hurts you until it kills you 💔

@laurentwithoutamustache

Жыл бұрын

It's somewhat satisfactory to think that people will miss you after you die because It tells you that you have some value but the sad truth is that no one cares about the average men , you can just look at the male suicide rate and what is done in counterpart to solve the problem (almost nothing) , at the most your closest relatives will miss you for sometime and that's all.

@DixieSchizo

Жыл бұрын

@@laurentwithoutamustache all men need is love

@BBAKER22

Жыл бұрын

RIDICULOUS

@ibrahimghibihisab8913

Жыл бұрын

@@BBAKER22 Jesus was not killed nor Jesus was crucified

@ibrahimghibihisab8913

Жыл бұрын

@@DixieSchizo Jesus was not killed nor Jesus was crucified