There are many other warning signs of sociopaths, and they can vary in intensity. But for the purpose of giving a general overview, this episode only talks about common sociopath signs to the most extreme degree. Thanks for watching, everyone!

@dianakenealy8573

4 жыл бұрын

My daughter is a Sociopath/ and I've been her target. I finally had to seek help from a counselor not knowing what was happening and just luck got one that also deals in Narcs and sociopaths/anti social personalitys. Had to be taught and learn how to set my boundrys. To know what to be aware of in behaviors that were setting me up for more unsafe, abusive type things she was doing. It was make it seem and I started to think I was going or was already crazy. When I had the answer to why I felt lost and things got to be worse was. The day I was told what, why this was not me going crazy, My daughter is a Sociopath. It was the then i was able to be taught and know what would salvage some of the relationship with her. If I never had been informed and learned about this I'd not have a relationship with her at all or my grandbabys. People are really uncomfortable to hear the labels of things with mental health . Most never really will understand unless people like you do shows that are perfectly awsome and not a bore to watch. Thank you for doing these and this is not only informative but entertaining In a good way. I'm not ashamed of what my daughter became and I will always find a way to learn to not let my guilt of her growing up in my care that wasn't always the best or safe for her get me to a place I had been in the past. I'm not ever going to change her behavior but il sure do all I can to change mine in communication and it's gotten better with her. It also has taught me to deal with other folks in ways that are positive and only learned because my daughter is a Sociopath. That doesn't make her bad or me. Only now I can be her mom and friend to a extent. Never would have that but that's why your show is the best to inform those who have no idea about or confuse the terms in mental health issues. Thx again keep doing what you do. Xo

@specialtwice4975

4 жыл бұрын

Mel Robbins Show A few examples of a sociopath- #1 Husband (on phone): "Hey honey, I'm working late tonight. We have a big project due on Monday." Wife: "Oh, okay. I'll order pizza and save you a few slices. When you get home we can watch season 8 of GoT." Husband: "Actually I think I will be rather tired when I do and am just gonna eat and head to bed. Don't wait up for me, kay? Love you." Wife: "Okay. Love you too." (Husband hangs up his cell phone and walks back to the candle lit table at the restaurant) Girlfriend: "Babe, who was that?" Husband: "Oh, nobody, it was just my landlord calling about that broken facet I told you about. He said he was gonna swing by my place tomorrow and fix it." Girlfriend: "Okay, cool. Hey...(takes his hand across the table) have I ever told you you are the sweetest, most awesome, boyfriend ever?" Husband: "I think you could mention it more often (chuckles and kisses her hand) #2 Husband: "I just got a call from the city and you forgot to pay the parking tickets, AGAIN." Wife: "What?! No. I did! I did it last week." Husband: "Well that's not what they said. Now there is an extra fee." Wife: "Well I paid it. I did." Husband: "okay, let me call them back ..." (Meanwhile, the wife says she is taking the dog out for a walk. In her pockets are the unpaid parking tickets which she throws into the dog's poop trash, she then tosses the bag into a neighbor's nearby trash can on the walk home. Nobody none the wiser) Husband (when she gets home) : "They say it still isn't paid, I'm gonna have to go downtown and explain, maybe it wasn't processed right? Or maybe the front desk attendant mixed something up?" Wife: "Yeah, there was a new girl. A blonde... Tell me how it goes, ok? I got to go out shopping for a bit for Cece's birthday present. (And of course she will buy a few things for herself as well, like that new expensive perfume she saw at Macy's) I will be back later. Love you."

@nehamiah810

4 жыл бұрын

these are only warning signs after you are late in the relationship... it's like telling someone the final stages of a disease. It would help more to tell them the early symptoms before they are in danger.

@duke613

4 жыл бұрын

The more important factor in becoming a Sociopath is biological not environment. Environment does play a role but it is more biology. Brain scans of Sociopaths/Psychopaths are quite different than normal brains. Sociopaths can have almost ideal upbringing and still become a sociopath.

@nehamiah810

4 жыл бұрын

@@duke613 I think they are talking about warning signs here, not debating how people come to have this disorder. The warning signs listed are not helpful.

I found parasite to be the most accurate term. They will take everything they can and I mean all of it and leave you speechless, financially and emotionally bankrupt and have no remorse and I mean none.

@thesupremeruleroftheunited8744

4 жыл бұрын

@@denisequinn9015 Can you please help me mam I am 12 years old and My 5 year old brother John has cancer and he is dying. Can you please donate money to us. Our parents died in a car crash when we were younger. I understand if you do not want to help. Thank you for your honesty.

@justkimmying

4 жыл бұрын

I have dated one for 10 months and this is so accurate.

Give credit where credit is due. “When someone shows you who they are believe them “ by Maya Angelou

They were making this out to be like it was some kind of joke, real glib about this. Sociopaths are serious abusers. Nothing to make light of at all.

@goodgracious6364

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, I was thinking the same thing!

@cynthiaahern9081

4 жыл бұрын

The host did it in such a way that most people will remember it.

@lynny5510

4 жыл бұрын

My daughter has finally gotten the courage to divorce one after 13 yrs of marriage and now they have a 4 yr old she is desperate to protect and the sociopath is making things as hard and as expensive as he possibly can. We are in a literal nightmare.

@davidtichborne2912

4 жыл бұрын

Well they are right sociopaths are made do to childhood maltreatment like early trauma and having a disfunctional parent or cargiver

@irishcountrygirl78

4 жыл бұрын

My mother is a narc, my dad is an enabler and my brother turned out to be sociopath/narc. I am no contact with my parents, but sadly l had to walk on egg shells around my brother until one day l was honest and bam, he cut me off. My sisters are flying monkeys. So l think you are right, they need to make dysfunction a serious matter. My brother loved hurting small animals and beating me up too as a kid. A learned behaviour from my mother l believe. He has two young daughters that he "observes" , but doesn't love. It's a fairly serious thing.

This is such a serious topic I'm really offended by the amount of laughter and joking.... Clearly you've never had to suffer through dealing with a sociopath!!!!

@specialtwice4975

4 жыл бұрын

Maurice Powers I agree. The lies they tell you...the manipulation. It tears your soul apart if you stay long enough. Sometimes you just HAVE TO leave, sometimes it's the only option.

@maxgxl4everyone

4 жыл бұрын

I seriously agree! Im with a sociopath unfortunately right now.. he's a diagnosed narcissistic sociopath.. didn't know until I moved in with him.. now im living a nightmare

@drobie1301

4 жыл бұрын

@@maxgxl4everyone careful planning and keep it under cover. do not give information, be smart and don't give any indication that you are aware. then quickly and quietly Get Away and stay out of his reach. Bless you and Godspeed!

@coraluru3091

4 жыл бұрын

Donna DeFelice I just finally left mine. Took me 7 years to fully understand that he is one (people kept telling me he was but I don’t like titles so kept ignoring that) and then when I finally did took me 3 years to understand my trauma bond to him and work on recognizing those triggers in myself that kept me hanging on. I too saw none of this when we dated only when we started living together and then it was years of making excuses for him and seeing the little elements of good. Good luck to you it takes time to leave and you’ll know when you’re ready. Be well and stay strong. ❤️❤️

@marciaheadley9933

4 жыл бұрын

I agree. Be blessed

This was just seriously lacking substance. A sociopath will destroy your life, and it can take years to recover. Nothing like that "treating the waiter badly" kind of fluff. Being involved with a Narcissist or a sociopath can get you killed.

@KK-gi3wt

4 жыл бұрын

I am still dealing with healing from my ex-husband who had been diagnosed antisocial personality disorder. I am bothered how they make a joke of all of this. The dude present s to dramatic for me and my husband was never a jerk to others only me behind closed doors and always covert manipulation.

@eventsigil9176

4 жыл бұрын

@@KK-gi3wt I'm the opposite. I'm only a jerk to people outside of my home.

@fooddrugadministrator4079

4 жыл бұрын

The worst psychopath is devastating born and sociopath is becoming! If a sociopath took Ritalin, Provigil or any ADHD medication, they will feel guilt and shame and scared if attack and might not know it until fifth time taking ADHD medication

@brooksequine7621

4 жыл бұрын

My exhusand, , while we were still married , wanted to buy a yacht . I told him that if he could afford it, great but I'd NEVER set foot on the thing because he would take me out to sea and push me in . ( I don't swim at all .) He'd happily get away with my murder . When I told him this fact , he made no response whatsoever . Chilling . We were divorced soon after .

@jamiekensington1155

4 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU!

It's not only men that can have this disorder. Very difficult to live with ppl like that and I rarely want to laugh at their abuse.

@Mike-xt2lh

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@bluenoclues3685

4 жыл бұрын

Sister is a sociopath, so yeah, females can definitely be sociopath

@KearnCherry

4 жыл бұрын

L S about 1 in 25 people. Many women too.

@kevinslattery5748

4 жыл бұрын

@@bluenoclues3685 would you say lack of empathy is the main trait? With lack of empathy, it becomes all about themselves?

@bluenoclues3685

4 жыл бұрын

kevin slattery Lack of empathy plays a huge part. With my sister and my dad, if you try to explain why you’re hurt or upset with them, they try to play the victim

I don't really see how abuse of any kind is something to laugh about.

@az7726

4 жыл бұрын

Agree

@youtuber-vb7qi

4 жыл бұрын

James R don’t worry, her show was cancelled after 4 months

@dauglove7835

3 жыл бұрын

Any awareness helps

Really important, the sociopath I knew would treat other people (waiter) just great when they were treating me great. It wasn't until I was hooked, well into things, that they started treating me badly and I could see (but was in denial) of how they treated others badly too. Also important, once they started treating me badly they simultaneously interspersed lots of great treatment (of me along with others) to keep me hooked and believing. It's important to not examine things like sociopaths and narcissists too simplistically. When I was deep in it, I could have watched this video and the one about narcissists and easily not connected the dots when I was actually with among the worst of the worst. An excellent manipulator knows how to pull this off. They know how to make the red flags very subtle. It's great to bring awareness, though.

@spiritual2020

4 жыл бұрын

Dandelion Greens Yah! And when I sense one whether online, talking over the phone, in same room with one and I overhear them, it creates anxiety in me. Can actually make me sick to my stomach. It’s VERY disturbing and creepy. It’s the creepy part that makes me feel sick because it is soooo opposite of what a real human is.

@spiritual2020

4 жыл бұрын

Everly Green I agree about that. Yes, another one of my Spiritual Gifts is discernment.

@carlathomson617

4 жыл бұрын

The switch over isn't exactly over night either. Can be subtle differences over months. If voicing disapproval earlier on could make excuse of why they behaved that way. Story after story. But find out after moving in with eachother there's no time to reflect anymore. I got pregnant then started getting "hormonal about everything" apperently hormonal = paranoid. It got got really bad. I was afraid for my life at the end of the relationship and the lifeboat my son. But I was so broken I don't think anyone would believe me

@dandeliongreens4664

4 жыл бұрын

@@carlathomson617 Yes, that's an important point too. Hugs, I believe you, I get it. And I'm so glad you got out.

Back when I was in college, two cars full of students were headed home on a highway for the weekend... I was in the second car. Suddenly, the car ahead of us swerved suddenly and dangerously! Then we realized the driver of the car had suddenly maneuvered his car to run over a turtle! The little creature would have made it if the driver had just kept going straight. I’ve hated him for that all my life.

@linaj63

4 жыл бұрын

I don't blame you; vile individual.

Brian's description of a sociopath is rather general and elementary. There are many different types of sociopaths and most are very hard to spot - it's rarely as obvious as running over a squirrel or being Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde when on a date with you, i.e. treating you well but being rude to a waiter. I married the covert type who was loved by everyone and treating everyone well, seemed empathetic and kind. It took more than a year and only after we wed, for some of the most obvious signs to start appearing. By then I was almost 2 years into the relationship and loved him dearly (or rather was in love with the version of himself he had presented up to that point) that I refused to see him for what he was and found every excuse under the sun to convince myself I needed to try harder. So beware, there are different types of sociopaths and remember that it's never your fault for falling for their tricks. They are dangerous tricksters that destroy lives.

@msr1116

4 жыл бұрын

Lying is a BIG thing with them. So much is fabricated but sounds perfectly plausible at the time so nothing is suspicious at first....until cracks appear and versions of events don't jibe. Repeated denials of they having said something you know you heard as you recall it is a strong indicator of a manipulator. My gosh, some people have superior skills with messing with people's minds, and they usually start to learn it in their childhood home environment.

@e.b.4379

4 жыл бұрын

@@msr1116 Absolutely! It all starts in childhood and lying becomes so easy to them not only because they have no conscience but also because they usually tend to believe their own lies. I only found out who he was once I had the courage to leave after having tried a few dozen times but failed because I was so desperate to believe he could change and that I was the person to help him get "better". In the process I nearly died. So they are incredibly dangerous!

@msr1116

4 жыл бұрын

@@e.b.4379 ....A book I read like 15, 20 years ago called When Your Lover is a Liar by Dr. Susan Forward was a great help to me. She devoted an entire chapter to sociopaths and said, because so many are out there, it's pretty much inevitable we as women will come across one sometime in our lives, regardless of age. I stopped blaming myself for so much beyond my control but I can't ditch my personal responsibility for ignoring the warning signs I did see. I hope the book can provide you with some measure of comfort. You know what to look for now....these guys are not as super clever as they think they are. Be sure to remember that.

@e.b.4379

4 жыл бұрын

@@msr1116 Thanks for the book recommendation. I will certainly try to find it as I'm still struggling at times to come to terms with that episode in my life. It's left some deep scars but also made me stronger, if not slightly too cynical of not just men but also disillusioned by people in general. At least I feel well-versed in the subject of sociopaths and should be able to spot one, thus hopefully avoid them in the future.

@msr1116

4 жыл бұрын

@@e.b.4379 ......Try your library first. Then look online for an e-book or a physical copy. I wish you the best and Happy Thanksgiving if you celebrate it.

Yes! I always said to my friends, just because he’s treating YOU well, doesn’t mean he’s a good guy. Always pay attention to how they treat others.

If we listen to our gut, to our feelings and if we feel bad in our body, then we will know early enough. We've just forgotten to listen to that. There are always warnings that come from our body. We can train to listen and then to watch that person we're talking to carefully.

@Babsza

4 жыл бұрын

If you got with one of these types when you were young and never educated about unhealthy relationships by parents , family , school or anyone and never had your own friends but all you wanted to be was a people pleaser , it is very easy to become trapped and for a long time because the abuse is very often subtle at first and very much a " drip fed " process .

@karenbrown2997

4 жыл бұрын

Our gut spot on

@msr1116

4 жыл бұрын

One other indicator involves the people around you who meet the sociopath and take a dislike to the person. If your family and/or friends aren't sure or are uneasy, even if they can't pinpoint why, then they see something troubling or bad which you don't. They can't all be wrong if they all come to a similar conclusion. Those who aren't emotionally invested will be able to assess a person much more clearly.

@whatdoyoulivefor735

4 жыл бұрын

Listen to your brain, too. My body felt great when I ended up with a psychopath. But my brain saw the signs and told my body "no".

@yvonnelewis8754

4 жыл бұрын

What you describe is exactly why I decided to become a Brainspotting therapist to help individuals process their trauma. Our bodies hold information to help us heal.

You have described my sister COMPLETELY, I always knew something was very wrong with her but I let my love for her blind me until she tried to destroy my marriage. I have cut her out of my life because I'll never be able to trust her again .

I broke up with my abusive ex after I saw this. Thank you.

Yes my dad and several women I know have these qualities . Alot of gaslighting , smoking mirrors , manipulative behavior .

@charris1667

4 жыл бұрын

Mike I see more women that are like this than men tbh

He just described my father. When I was 9 years old, my father deliberately ran over my 4 month old puppy, with me in the car! He then got out of the car, cracked the puppy over his knee and slung it in the blackberry bushes! I remembered this in therapy. My therapist literally sucked wind and pulled back in his chair. I felt bad for my therapist having heard my ordeal.

@specialtwice4975

4 жыл бұрын

T Klein Awful

@kgonzalez8098

4 жыл бұрын

It’s really something to shock a therapist or healthcare professional. That’s just awful

@Godisgreat-777

4 жыл бұрын

T Klein I’m so sorry. I can relate because my dad would beat me, my sister and our cat...then he always preceded to laugh hysterically after making me cry and hurting our pet. I’m doing a therapy called EMDR to help me with my C-PTSD. It’s working miracles for me and my trauma. I don’t understand how monsters like our horrible dads are even allowed by God to have children. I get really enraged at times that I have to have so much therapy because my parents were horrible. Children are sacred and are supposed to be loved, cherished and protected. My mom stayed married to my dad for 18 years. I would personally be in prison for murdering my husband because of what my dad did to my sister and I but my mom actually protected my dad. 🤢 My mom became just as sick as my sociopath Dad. I am kind of scared for them and their fate because they cannot seem to take responsibility for their bs and both remain the same.

@taras4352

4 жыл бұрын

Omg, I’m so sorry you (and the puppy) went through that! 😰 Your Dad sounds demonic. I hope you continue to heal.

@davidtichborne2912

4 жыл бұрын

Mm m yes that's my stepfather to he would beat and abuse me and very severely insulted me on a regular basis he is still very emotionally abusive and never owns up to any of his mistakes he continues to deny it he criticizes everyone else and never owns up to anything that he does and he has an extremely horrible attitude of course he's not diagnosed with any mental disorders as of right now because he never asks for help he believes there's nothing wrong with him mentally and the physical problems that he is diagnosed with like his back being screwed and having sleep Apnea he blames on his exstreemly demanding job at rod paving and he just pushes him self way to much but blames it all on his work and he's always complaining about work and he has been offered to go on disability for his back problems but he of course refuses as a kid though he was diagnosed with ADHD and depression but he's not diagnosed right now and he drinks like 6energy drinks a day and 12pepsi a say and he doesn't see it as a problem and with the abuse that he put me through has left me with serious problems like basically the same as you depression anxiety cptsd things like that I know this sociopath thing seems like almost everyone has it i think it's all nonsense and besides antisocial is caused by childhood trauma and other hallmarks of a rough childhood not just some random person like there saying they got to stop this though with this self diagnosing nonsense and playing dr and diagnosing others it's ridiculous yes I was indeed diagnosed by an actual dr with ptsd depression and anxiety and spent many years in therapy recovering from it I've learned a long time ago that you can't just watch a KZread video and go oh that's me or oh he has that or that's him her no stop with this crap

Oh my gosh... I know a female that would try and hit a cat if she saw one while she was driving because she “hates” cats. To know she’s a mother of 2 daughters. Poor girls.

Why the host and the expert are laughing and making light of this is beyond me. It’s not funny. Someone who has dealt with sociopathic behaviour would not find this topic light hearted or funny. Just strange.

@cindym5777

4 жыл бұрын

Anna Gunn he lost me when he pulled out the little red flags. It’s not cute or laughable.

@meredithheath5272

4 жыл бұрын

@@cindym5777 No, it isn't but - the visual of the little red flag is very powerful and cements your thoughts about reminding yourself to be aware.

@karenlewkowitz5858

4 жыл бұрын

Day time tv

@SpecialgiftsLA

4 жыл бұрын

I totally agree..This is abit over done..especially when in real experience ..It really isn't funny at all. That 'advise' that she said was soo ooh good. Actually came from Mia angelo on Oprah Winfrey. .It is however excellent advise. Credit where credit is due.

@satinrose3827

4 жыл бұрын

YEAH! They want to throw clownery in there to DISARM the SERIOUS impact it's putting on people's LIVES...but that's the media 4 u 95% of celebrities and people who work in the media are Narcs!!! They want 2 control the narrative like it's NOT A BIG DEAL these people are EQUIVALENT 2 MURDERS I don't find ANY humor out of this.

That quote: Someone shows you who he is, believe them, is a quote from Maya D’angelou. He should have mentioned that.

@spiritual2020

4 жыл бұрын

Succeshero Yes he should have.

@ItsAllGodAnyway

4 жыл бұрын

Love that quote. Love that woman.

@SpecialgiftsLA

4 жыл бұрын

It says a lot about this show ..as if the host hasn't heard that it's from maya d'angelo...What a disgrace..to try to get momentary leverage..without paying credit..Do they target an audience who is unaware of this info and make out like they just discovered this quote..I don't appreciate this kind of behaviour..RIP MAYA ANGELO, and thank you Oprah for being such a strong light in the world.

@laurelking9640

4 жыл бұрын

Maya Angelo

@shellywatson8653

4 жыл бұрын

Succeshero i have heard that quote very often. I have also used that quote. I didn’t realize it was a quote belonging to a boy one nor did I realize I would need to give credit for that. I think we pick up a lot of phrases and I do not believe it is necessary to innocently say a phrase to make our point and then be accused of doing something bad. If every phrase we said had to be in quotes and credited then we would not be able to speak freely

Some of them are more covert than what is suggested here.

@aneliseisfree3602

4 жыл бұрын

YEP! Some take a long time to uncover.

He’s being too general. One in 25 people are sociopaths. They are manipulative and hide amongst everyday people. Mostly each of have at least one so call friend that’s a sociopaths. Unfortunately, he really didn’t cover the signs. Most are very intelligent, charming, lairs, very manipulative (what’s in it for them), takers, deceitful, and cold in decision making. They don’t have empathy so don’t expect an apology. If they do there’s probably an agenda. They give with strings attached always. They are highly driven and will use & abuse you. Don’t be fooled they have great social skills on surface, but if you get in their way they will run over you. Pretty much they are Fake! This is what that guy should have shared.

this is inaccurate. If they are in it for the long game, they will come across as prince charming in the beginning. They will know, like Everyone knows, you are supposed to be nice to servers, etc. because you will be judged on that in dating. These are not the warning signs.

@AScheelMeyer

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, so inaccurate description.. They are nice to everyone in the beginning. So fair and humble.. They can even starts arguments concerning your own behaviour towards other and make you feel that you are not good enough..

@nehamiah810

4 жыл бұрын

@@GameChanger597 these are only warning signs after you are late in the relationship... it's like telling someone the final stages of a disease. It would help more to tell them the early symptoms before they are in danger.

@AstiJay

4 жыл бұрын

I took it as an early sign. But psychos & narcs do have individual personalities and skill levels. Some will treat the target very well and others like crap. Many psychos will learn that it doesn’t serve them well and put on the facade for everyone. I do think it would have been helpful to emphasize that not all exhibit the same cues. That said, the time on these shows is very limited. Perhaps that point was excluded in favor of something deemed more important. Also, the covert behavior can’t knowingly be observed. That comes out over time and shows up in patterns. For the purpose here I think the intent is to educate with limited time by highlighting that which can be readily observed and may help avoid a relationship with some of these toxic asshats. (Edited for clarification)

This describes my husband 100% I am freaked out.

@victoriousjoy9338

4 жыл бұрын

Run before you lose everything! I was married to one of these.

@coraluru3091

4 жыл бұрын

Kristi Loertscher I watched one of these videos a few months back and was in shock for a couple months until I started piecing it all together. It takes time but it’s like putting puzzle pieces back together and once you acknowledge they are that it literally is the first step. I knew he had issues but had no clue they went this deep. My ex husband is a total sociopath (borders on narcissism) and I had no clue. 😞

While they are love bombing you they will tell you something heinous they have done or how they took advantage of someone else. This will happen within the first couple times you meet them. This is what they are already planning to do to you.

@flamingsword777

4 жыл бұрын

OH MY GOD!!!!! Ypu just gave me a key and I thank you so much!!!!!

@tammystewart10

4 жыл бұрын

So right on!

@flamingsword777

4 жыл бұрын

@ALS ALS actually asshole, it's none of y0ur business but since you asked, I am married to a sociopath, but it appears YOU are already HIGHLY familiar with psychopathy yourself, ain't that RIGHT ALS? I KNOW I'm right and so does any other SANE, RATIONAL person that's EVER dealt with you.

@apconnections9691

4 жыл бұрын

A..healing much

@colywogable

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, they can be really nice at first, but they always TELL you exactly who they are.

My former boyfriend who is a narcissist was always nice to the service people. So, it's not true all sociopaths are rude to service workers. Also, my ex was passionate toward animals too. It was his past history of cheating in relationships and mirroring my personality that were the biggest red flags him being a sociopath.

Antisocial Personality Disorder is no laughing matter. I’m glad this episode brought up the deceit, pity plays, exploitation, sadism and substance dependency.

@bjoneseyo

4 жыл бұрын

That was my recent Ex; WOW...

I LIVE by Maya Angelou's words, who the male guest quoted: "When somebody SHOWS you who they are, believe them the FIRST time." An important thing to remember, a sociopath lacks empathy and conscience, so ironically, they can often be extremely charming, because they don't feel the normal social constraints people without this disorder posess. If you feel a twinge, even a small one, pay atention! We ALL know those feelings when something is not quite right. Ted Bundy and Gary Ridgeway ( The Green River Killer) BOTH passed polygraphs! Both EXTREME sociopaths.

Where were you 40 years ago? I needed this then...

caught at my lowest ebb, and then when confronted, lied again and put the blame on me

This definitely was taken as serious as it is. A lot of people lost themselves and possibly there lives.

Playing the victim to get you to feel sorry for them, help them, protect them, pay their rent, or car. Take them shopping etc

What the show didn't say is what are the types of people that sociopaths are attracted to. THIS NOT TO BLAME THE VICTIM but people pleasers, people who try to "fix" or "rescue" "broken people", people with a childhood background of neglect/abandonment/physical/sexual abuse are magnets for sociopaths and narcissists.

I'd really like to hear the two women's stories about their experiences with sociopaths.

@spiritual2020

4 жыл бұрын

Paragon Cumulus I’m sure that was part of this show as her shows are 45 minutes.This video was meant to be just over 6 minutes for consumer to want to watch more videos on the subject. But I was thinking same thing as you. Maybe that’s in one of her other videos

I love this is being put out there! Thanks Mel!

I LOVE THIS! Thank you! You’ve got a new loyal subscriber

An eye opener in 6:57 mins! And stupid me could not figure it out in decades! I love your channel. It's too late to undo the damage but am hopeful it will help with healing once I understand these weird behaviours.

Awesome. Thanks for this show. Very educational. God bless.

So superficial. Until you’ve dealt with one, you have no idea. I thought Mel Robbins was more sensitive. Done watching her.

I was in a vehicle with my ex family member while driving in a car in a beautiful tree lined neighborhood. When the driver accelerated and serves towards a flock of birds ( hitting them). When I told somone else in the family they accused me of lying and gossip. It wasn't until a few years passed I realized they all were Narrsasitic traits!

Thank you for that info.

always date in areas where there is cameras and people around and if they like being just leave and take extra money to take taxi or friends to pick you up.

Fantastic insights

*I keep ending up with guys that exhibit these behaviors..all I can say is to have savings, learn to listen to your instincts, and DO NOT STOP BEING YOURSELF* 🔥

The restaurant scene....the tortoise & the hare BEST example EVER!!

Great advice. I was completely in love with a guy I was dating and on one of our dates we stopped in a drive thru on our way to the park so we could get sodas and he got very impatient and angry with the lady on the drive thru and screamed at her. Then another time while we were hanging out he got impatient with me and insulted me. It didn’t work out (on his side) and I was completely devastated. But looking back im so glad it didn’t. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Hes married now. Hope he treats his wife better.

What if it's a jerky bad server who has attitude, messes up the order, gets the bill wrong, etc!? They exist.

Brilliant. Neglect AND overindulgence.

The squirrel example is so perfect! Pretty sure I have been involved with more than one person somewhere on this spectrum. I will definitely be more cautious in the future and be sure I know someone much better before involving my heart. Thanks Mel!

Thank you Mel. First about narc now that. My hope for everyone is to recognize them in seconds and avoid them.

@MelRobbinsShow

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for the support Lo vel and thanks for watching the show! We're always looking to inform and spread awareness to people. Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss any new uploads: bit.ly/2NqBeYH

Wow - I had no idea Mel had a show! Bravo

I hit the squirrel bc one of the ER MDs are paraplegic from swerving & hit a tree. He taught me to talk myself into hitting the squirrel!!!! So that’s a bad example, less about the action & more about the intention

These kinds of people will leave a trail of emotional and psychological damage with absolutely no regard for their actions and then turn around and victim blame you.

Love Dr. Brian Russell!

There was someone I used to work with who enjoyed putting people down and tried starting fights with others. He thought of other people if it benefited himself. Fortunately, he was eventually fired.

hmm a few people came to mind. I guess I'm surrounded by sociopaths

When he took out the red flags - LOL!!

Psychopaths-Sociopaths range on a spectrum.. it's challenging to identify one. They're unique, complex beings just like any other.

@MelRobbinsShow

4 жыл бұрын

Very true Marlana! Thanks for watching, be sure to subscribe so you don't miss out: bit.ly/2NqBeYH

I dont think any of these people know what a sociopath actually is.

@learnerdecuriousqueen3320

4 жыл бұрын

Do you?

@Lieutenantfollicle

2 жыл бұрын

I know, i rly love tricking people and insulting them, it’s just really fun to see how these dummies get mad or sad because of your lies

OMG! The Dr is so handsome. I cannot hear what he said. All I am focus on is his smile and seeing Cupid shooting hearts at him. Am I a sociopath Mel? 😂✌️

Whats the difference between the sociopath and narcissist then, as they have the same definition?

@gammalight1312

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, dont let this guy confuse you, there's a big difference between the two even though they're commonly seen together in a cluster personality disorder

@LaSharonIsbellPilates

4 жыл бұрын

Both sociopaths and a narcissists are deceptive, manipulative, and self serving. At the core, a narcissist has a deep sense of shame and self loathing with a grandiose outer self, and usually a weak conscience which is ignored. However, a sociopath does not experience shame and self loathing and has a seared conscience, void of remorse. Both can be toxic and a danger to others mentally, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, physically, and financially. #Discernment is 🔑 Trust your gut instinct.🙏

@gammalight1312

4 жыл бұрын

@@LaSharonIsbellPilates Beautifully stated! Side note for these kinds of encounters, for anyone wondering: The best thing to do when you encounter any of these personality types is to always keep as much distance from them as possible. Secondly, one should dedicate professional time refining personal psychology, to gain or retain mental strength so to not be effected by toxic inflections.

@msr1116

4 жыл бұрын

Dr. Susan Forward wrote a book called, When Your Lover is a Liar" which contains an entire chapter devoted to sociopaths. She explains there are millions out there in varying degrees and a good number of women will eventually run across one, provided she is meeting and dating men on at least a semi-regular basis. Susan stated that the behavior is rooted in some combination of nature and nurture, and the conscience did not fully form. It is much like Swiss cheese---the holes are where the sense of remorse should be but isn't. Sadly, these types so lack a sense of genuine guilt that no current forms of treatment are effective. They are in fact a lost cause and to get out of any association with them as soon as you can.

@LilyAmongThorns

4 жыл бұрын

Sams Randoms the two do have overlapping qualities, to oversimplify it a narcissist is in love with him or herself, vanity ,and wants that adoration from others and doesn’t care one bit how they get whatever they think they deserve because they deserve everything they want for themselves...a sociopath on the other hand also wants stuff but not so much because they have such a vanity need driving them. They also do not care about anybody but themselves, but it doesn’t have that aspect of always looking at themselves every time they pass a mirror, or always finding they camera and making sure they look their proudest and best for each photo taken of them, and even doing those things they know will draw everyone’s eyes, including the camera man, to themselves. A sociopath is more interested in getting what he wants and not caring what he has to do to get it. Compared to a psychopath he does care a little bit that people will still like him, which a psychopath has no regard for whether anyone will like him or not. A sociopath still tries to make the argument why he is right and you are simply not understanding him correctly. A psychopath doesn’t care and doesn’t need to waste time explaining anything to anyone.

Well explained.

I don't know how I got here. But I want you to know that I suffered a lot from toxic/sociopath/enemy in friends cloth kinda people. And now you people showing me awareness sign of those people. It's TRUE, life will teach you lesson and then you have experience.

Can you do an episode on psychopathy please.

Having had a male friend who is a narcissist etc...it was a great lesson to learn from. I have no regrets.Nona recents vacation we paid for a year ahead..he was just awful but I kept quiet and enjoyed the holiday hence others on our tour group knew what was happening and very supportive- now he is history

He is right they get so bad and become extremely controllomg and hurt you ..Thank you Sir 💜

I thought my siblings was a malignant narcissist but now I know my sibling is a sociopath. Stay away from evil people.

Great interview! Great clarity!

@MelRobbinsShow

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for the support Kim and thanks for watching the show! Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss any new uploads: bit.ly/2NqBeYH

This show is generalizing for daytime tv folks. It is a very serious and real situation and those who have experienced it first hand know this. At least they are promoting awareness so that’s decent. It’s a step in the right direction

He does have a good reasoning. I noticed things like that and didn't see the red flag.

I hate when Dr.s get on national talk shows and give a shallow and incomplete description of something that is dangerous and complex... this clip is irresponsible and will cause a lot of people make light of their abuse, miss other signs or even falsely accuse someone who may not be a sociopath because the context of a situation is not considered... 🤦🏻‍♀️

@specialtwice4975

4 жыл бұрын

creativebebe exactly, I feel the same too. In reality they are very dangerous people because they like to use you and don't care about you or your well being.

@mikeb6433

3 жыл бұрын

This is a talk show, not a scientific documentary!

Dated true cluster B antisocial sociopath.... Most painful relationship I ever had... I’m well educated.... well socialized, I was in a bad place... they prey on that... please be careful

This is really weird...and way too lighthearted.

Everything that happened to my ex was someone else’s fault. He would start a fire and say, “damn firemen were out to get me that’s y I was in jail” He never ever ever answered any question I ever asked them.

I’m not so sure the squirrel test is very accurate. Just sayin

@marlanaferro1481

4 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU.

@drobie1301

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, my experience with this type was that he would have tried to avoid it- But if avoiding it caused him a problem ( hurt his car or got a flat) he'd Blow sky high and do or say something ugly to me if I was there. He could actually act very compassionately with animals and it surprised me. I was told that they feel always in control with an animal and like being praised for their kindness.

@carrieFreedom

4 жыл бұрын

D Robie yep my experience too. He can be really sweet to kids too but when not getting attention for it couldn’t care less if the kid was around or not. Narcs are a real mystery to me. The things they do and say it’s so hard to wrap my brain around some of it. The ability to cry at the drop of a hat... WHAT how!!!! My head is still spinning from my experience. I can’t wait to be 6mon to a year from this person and feel the emotional detachment. It’s going to be so freeing.

@drobie1301

4 жыл бұрын

@@carrieFreedom I know - some of it is just bizarre! One afternoon he stopped at an old cemetary out in the country. He started crying over the grave of a little girl and then a young soldier. One night he stayed up all night with my dying dog and held her until she passed away. But he also got angry at a homeless man and stole his phone which everyone knew. The man told him that his only pictures of his deceased parents were on that phone. He just blew it off- never returned the phone. At a little over a year, things seem a good bit clearer most days. Hang in there!

@carrieFreedom

4 жыл бұрын

D Robie on Christmas I heard of a 4th women he has tormented and all of them have lasting mental/ emotional issues some now battle with alcoholism. I’m definitely done. We been married 5 months but only together 30 days. I’ve went no contact... ain’t no buddy got time for that! 😉🤣 May the odds be ever in your favor!!!

Hi Mel!! I'm following you from Argentina But I can't see full episodes...😔

@MelRobbinsShow

4 жыл бұрын

Hi, at this time, full episodes of The Mel Robbins Show are only available in the U.S. and Canada but you never know when that might change. For the time being, be sure to subscribe so you don't miss any clips: bit.ly/2NqBeYH

I'm guessing we all had mildly sociopathic parents or something because the fact that this is revolutionary advice is crazy to think about. It's obvious to me now even though I used to be the exact same.

Mel, he's blurring the lines of kleptomania, sociopathy and psychopaths. A combination of these is referred to as cluster personality disorder but they're all individually very different things. He's speaking from emotionally charged experiences and blending it into one definition. This is a bad habit because broadly labling is misleading and technically a form of gaslighting.. Regardless, thank you for addressing the topic though :)

@aprylspage5852

4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely! Now ppl will run into cars or trees instead of hitting squirrels

What channel is this on, never heard of it?

My MIL is a true sociopath! It's very sad !

Very interresting. I saw red flags with an exboyfriend like this but I couldnt deal with them. So finally he choked me in an arguement years later.

I think that would be common sense if you are with someone who is so charming to you but freaks out at the waiter. Would be a scary moment for me, huge red flag. Check please.

Can You Upload The Full Episode?

@cromwellandcompany2888

4 жыл бұрын

You can listen to the audio version here on google podcasts podcasts.google.com/?feed=aHR0cDovL2ZlZWRzLnNvdW5kY2xvdWQuY29tL3VzZXJzL3NvdW5kY2xvdWQ6dXNlcnM6NzAwODczODIzL3NvdW5kcy5yc3M&episode=dGFnOnNvdW5kY2xvdWQsMjAxMDp0cmFja3MvNzEyOTI5MTE4&hl=en&ved=2ahUKEwi9kIr_lO3lAhUKm1kKHVjQBcUQieUEegQIABAE&ep=6&at=1573853703804

@cromwellandcompany2888

4 жыл бұрын

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His test of whether someone would run over a squirrel in the road or not equating to being a sociopath is flawed. I always think about the people who could be hurt by my swerving to miss the dumb squirrel.

Exactly

I'm definitely looking that part when they run a squirrel 🐿️ over. Lol... Love it. Having said that. All true. Believe it.

Who are the two voiceless women on the stage?!

The more important factor in becoming a Sociopath is biological not environment. Environment does play a role but it is more biology. Brain scans of Sociopaths/Psychopaths are quite different than normal brains. Sociopaths can have almost ideal upbringing and still become a sociopath.

I married a sociopath. My family was all fooled until the 16 day divorce trial. The expert is correct, he left a path of destruction- stole all my money, cheated, and lied over and over again. When confronted, he walked away smirking, happy that he deceived everyone for a span of 28 years. He was rude to waiters and talked rudely under his breath about people just enough so that his mask might be shown. He used to say, “Expect the unexpected” and “There is a little truth to every lie.” He was a chameleon in high school. He told me that he blended in with every social group from skaters to nerds. I always felt there was something wrong but by that time, I had already married the guy and had two kids. This expert is right on! Thank you, Mel, for a great showing.

What if you know of an 11 year old boy who fits the description to a T. Is there hope for him?

Watch out for really small boundary violations like touching your hand on a date when you didn't invite them, sulking, dark inappropriate humor ("I was just kidding, come on!"), or little moments when they make remarks or grimaces that make you feel slightly ashamed or condescended on, e.g. when you talk about a cute little puppy and get emotional, or how proud you were of your sister's graduation. Also listen to voice tone, psychopaths do not have a lot of natural intonation. And their eye-contact is off really often, they either scan the room or stare at you. They also don't smile with their eyes.

I have the biggest crush on Dr Russell! ❤️😍

I dealt with that

Sociopaths = confederrate! I have never met so many in one area liars are the norm and acceptable!

It’s so weird to hear the example with the squirrels 🐿 because my dad would sometimes do that. We lived out in the country where squirrels would charge out into the roads. I was sitting on that and thought, wait what about me?? And I recall sobbing in high school when I was 17 and my boyfriend from back then hit a rabbit. Then I was like ok maybe I don’t have antisocial traits 😳

@tmarkl3299

4 жыл бұрын

I have known people who would take any opportunity to use their gun on an animal. See a chipmunk in their yard...have to kill it before it does harm...see another...get my gun.

Who is the person who comes up with these terms?

Yea my bd actually did that in the movies !

One feels totally out of place with sociopaths. I felt out of place multiple times, I would shake being with them.

Hey um no. I break for squirrels. I do it because I CHOOSE to be a good person. I think that goes for everybody. Not every sociopath is a monster, and not all monsters have aspd. Doing bad things is a choice. This is just making life harder for people who have this disorder to come out and be open about what we go through; which in turns just isolates us even further making us feel we have to hide even more. I cannot stress this enough. Having aspd DOES NOT make you a bad person!! Only your choices do.

I didn't realize that they were this messed up . . . 😑 I won't ever use the term lightly again.