Usha is so confident to explain the realities. keep doing. 👍

വളരര പക്വതയോടെ തന്നെ കാര്യങ്ങളെ കുറിച്ച് വിലയിരുത്തി.. വെറുപ്പ് ഒട്ടും തന്നെ ഇല്ലാതെ ഇത് കണാനും സാധിച്ചു.. congratulations 🙏

Your thoughts, experiences are very insightful to us. Thanks for this talk

I greatly admire her character. Ever since she shared her stories about Canada, I have been a huge fan of hers. With her maturity and gentle manner of speaking, she is a remarkable lady whom I hope to meet one day. May she be blessed always.❤️

@FizaDawn

Жыл бұрын

Look forward to meet you 😍 thank you for your kind words. ❤️

@nidhinlakshman2557

Жыл бұрын

+1

Lovely to hear you talk. Feel you were romantic at the end. Love

Good interesting discussion.

ഞാൻ വിവാഹ മോചനം നേടിയ ഒരു വ്യക്തിയാണ് .ഇപ്പോഴും ഞാൻ എന്നാൽ ആവുന്ന ജോലി എല്ലാം ചെയ്തു എന്റെ കുടുംബത്തെ സഹായിക്കാൻ കഴിയും എന്ന് ഉറച്ചു വിശ്വാസത്തോടെ മുന്നോട്ട് പോകുന്നു. സാമ്പത്തിക പ്രശ്നങ്ങൾ ഉണ്ടെങ്കിലും ഇപ്പോഴും മറ്റൊരു റിലേഷൻ ചിന്തിക്കാൻ പോലും കഴിയില്ല. അത് എന്റെ മകനെ അമ്മയെ ഒക്കെ അത് ബാധിക്കും അതെനിക്ക് സഹിക്കാൻ കഴിയില്ല.

@jayaramank3057

Жыл бұрын

Time is a great healer. What you feel now would not be what you feel after a few years. It is a matter of time when your son will move on with his life and so would you. I wish that you find happiness in life sooner rather than later.

ഹവു... കേട്ടിട്ട് കൊതിയായിട്ട് പാടില്ല....like Innocent says 😅 On a serious note, great conversation Usha & Vinod 👏

ഡൈവേഴ്സിനു പശ്ചാത്തല സൗകര്യം ഒരുക്കികൊടുക്കുന്ന മറ്റു വ്യക്തികളുടെ സ്വഭാവരീതികളെ പറ്റി ഒരു വീഡിയോ പ്രതീക്ഷിക്കുന്നു...😊👍

I always think that marriage registration should have validity for 3 yrs or 5 yrs. Then if you want to renew the marriage registration , both should agree. I believe that marriage is a contract and both should agree and accept each other. If you are unable to do not renew the registration.

@yellowwb4183

Жыл бұрын

Very valid point 👍🏽

@bglr2783

Жыл бұрын

What about all the kids born during these registrations? 🤔

@aha..

Жыл бұрын

1. If that is the case then most men will want to marry another time as they feel they want to try another woman with license. 2. Moreover, the children will suffer, 3. Children will be a burden on the society and government, as mothers also will tend to marry others, as if it's norm, 4. The society mostly will be a place of ruffians as they would be no proper parenting for the children.

@roshithv

Жыл бұрын

@Aha your points are very much valid. Divorce cases are increasing every where. And children are not getting enough care and attention. Ultimately, they suffer. If you don't have a healthy wife - husband relationship and if there is lot of domestic violence , then also children are impacted. For example if husband is addicted to drug, then it's better to opt for divorce and save children. And women are educated and empowered and they can independently raise children in a better environment than men. Considering these aspects I look at divorce in a positive way. I appreciate your responses and all your observations are very much valid and relevant

Pls consider the topic How to handle Extra marital affairs happening in marriage ife, "why and why not?"acceptable or not, exect answers in men respective and women persective...happening in both side how to deal, idf happening in one side how to handle...

Usha rocks!! ❤🎉

Super episode ❤❤❤

Congrats you are really lucky to have such a partner ❤

Kettittu kothi aavunnu...

As a relatively recent divorcee, I think you guys make a lot of valid points. I just don't agree with the notion that it is women that generally put up with a less than perfect situation to keep the marriage going. To find out, google what percentage of women initiate divorces.

Please do a topic about comparing children in social circles . My older child has totally different talents and interest than your normal desi kids which is always a point of stress in social gatherings for me. There is always a question of why not this course, not this job, why the break, why why…? And comparing against their own smart kids 😢

Living together better

Our family life will be based on the way we have been bought up from the childhood. When we love others we get back more love. The sincere truthful approach will be paid back with good wife/husband and children. I like Vinod ji way of talking the innocent way. I would like to meet you people during my next visit to USA. Author Rajan V Kokkuri, Muscat.

So true

nice

Remarry cheyyumbo ningal nokkiya criteria enthanu...pattiyal oru videoyil ulpeduthane..

Good topic you discussed.@Usha you said don’t disclose our marital status to co workers..if they ask ‘are you married?’ Do you have children?’..what we have to tell them..plse respond..

@pahayanmedia

Жыл бұрын

You can respond based on what you feel comfortable…. Different people ask that for different reasons. :) for hiring that is not a relevant question and here one is not supposed to ask that…

@FizaDawn

Жыл бұрын

First of all it depends where and who is asking? Work place, professionals don't have to get into personal stuff. You can say you have kids because they helps us when we have to leave early or take leave because kid is not well etc... My reason not to disclose is to avoid any unnecessary discussion, and make someone feel that I am available. So make sure you're in control whether to answer or not.

@manojmathew5596

Жыл бұрын

Just say its a personal matter. Declare it only if its required for professional or tax reasons.

Is there any group for non-religious keralites in bay area? Most of the mallu gatherings are religion related.

@pahayanmedia

Жыл бұрын

There are non religious Malayali people in Bay Area… most gatherings are non religious in my opinion.. I don’t know of religious ones… may be I am off their radar… if you are asking about any Malayali atheist organization… I don’t think so… I have friends who are atheists who have gathered together before but that was because we were connected online before… and we come together when someone is here from india. if there is an organization like the ones in Kerala I don’t think I personally would join it… but there is a humanist society in Santa Clara I think

👍

😍😍😍

ഞാൻ സങ്കടത്തിലായി ഞെട്ടി തoന്നയിൽ കണ്ടപ്പോൾ. നിങ്ങളുടേതാണെന്ന് കരുതി😢

Why did Usha and Vinod divorce? Looking back were their issues really toxic that they genuinely had to divorce? Or was it that they were not mature enough to work on it? Or was it that they were helpless due to some other circumstances?

@pahayanmedia

Жыл бұрын

Usha and Vinod are not divorced… not yet 😃😜

@aha..

Жыл бұрын

@@pahayanmedia Oh! What I meant were the reasons you both divorced your exes. I should have mentioned it clearly in my comment. My bad.

ഞാൻ കല്യാണം കഴിഞ്ഞു മൂന്നു മാസം കഴിഞ്ഞു ടിവോഴ്സ് ആയി...ഭാരൃയ്ക്ക് എന്നെ വേണ്ട...sex relation വേണ്ട പോലും...ഇത് ആദ്യമേ പറഞ്ഞേൻകിൽ....no other issues.... Suffered a lot....

@pvsudheer

Жыл бұрын

9 years same situation

🤔😊😜കുറെയേറെ പറയണമെന്നുണ്ടേലും എവിടെയും ആർക്കും നോവാതെ നോക്കാൻ ശ്രദ്ധിക്കുന്നത് പോലെ തോന്നി... അതായത് ആ ഒരു സ്വാഭാവിക ഒഴുക്ക് അനുഭവപ്പെടുന്നില്ല...

@pahayanmedia

Жыл бұрын

മറ്റുള്ളവരെ വിഷമിപ്പിക്കുന്ന സ്വാഭാവിക ഒഴുക്കുകൾ മാത്രം ഇഷ്ടപ്പെടുന്നവരെ മ്മക്ക് സുഖിപ്പിക്കാൻ കഴിയില്ലല്ലോ... life is a set of adjustments

ഉഷ ചേച്ചി ഇതൊക്കെ പറയുമ്പോ പഹയൻ ജി എന്താണാവോ ആലോചിക്കുന്നത് 😂😂😉 , JK😜

@pahayanmedia

Жыл бұрын

എന്താലോചിക്കാൻ... 😜 ഞാനെന്ത് പറയണം എന്റെ ഊഴം വരുമ്പോൾ എന്ന് ആലോചിക്കുന്നു

Speak little more loud

മലയാള ഭാഷയുടെ ആയുസ് : ????

@sharmila9475

Жыл бұрын

Athentha?

@Schira01

Жыл бұрын

Some speak many languages and Malayalam is just one of them.