Can’t believe this lady wasted her whole life with her husband and not once love him until he’s gone. I don’t feel bad for you, you don’t deserve his love.

@pakhang3020

2 жыл бұрын

You can't force someone to love you and you shouldn't force someone who doesn't like you to marry you. I'm sure there has been a guy in your life who pursued you but you did not like him now imagine being forced to marry him and having to be intimate with him. I empathize with her because I would never want to be in her situation and I do not blame her for not reciprocating any love towards him. He did not deserve her love.

@msyngseer5560

2 жыл бұрын

@@pakhang3020 so it’s okay to validate her torment toward him? No. She should have left him when they got to the US. Can’t make someone love another but don’t torment someone for loving you!

@bchang227

2 жыл бұрын

@@msyngseer5560 No. It's not on her to divorce him. Divorce was his job. He knew she didn't love him. He should've let her go. She was stuck in a tough situation where she saw no way out. She didn't mention she treated him badly so we don't know. All she said was that she didn't love him. You can still be civil, live together and not treat each other badly. Ppl's definition of love is different. I feel sorry for this lady. She was forced into living a life she didn't want to live. Pretty sure all y'all who are pointing fingers at her wouldn't last a week living your forced marriage life. Her situation was a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" kind of situation.

@bchang227

2 жыл бұрын

@@pakhang3020 Imagine so many of our grandmother's, sisters and aunties being forced to marry their rapist. That's even worst! This is the reason why I hate hmoob kev cai. Instead of punishing the rapist, these dumb families reward him with their daughter.

@amazinggrace8136

2 жыл бұрын

@@msyngseer5560 Shaman women have been groomed to believe certain rules in case you forget; a good wife won’t leave,…A women without a husband is worthless…You lose everything from property to children,etc. Her own family will hate her and be on his side regardless of who’s at fault (yes even if he brought home another women). Who forced her to marry him again? Oh yea, her own family!!

You can’t make someone love you. It doesn’t matter how good, faithful or loving. Everyone calling her out like she’s a bad person. This is what happens when you force someone to marry you. She did her best in her situation. Just think of the person you met once in your life that you were never attracted to and imagine being intimate and married to them.

@pnvang2

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the comment

@magicalunicorn5853

2 жыл бұрын

Everyone has a choice now a days.

@leek-te5dx

2 жыл бұрын

Amen sister I'm with you on this one.

@baothao1728

2 жыл бұрын

you are coming to USA you don’t love him leave him it’s freedom why you still with him go this is America Lol 😂

@tophatmellon5739

2 жыл бұрын

@@baothao1728 I agree too. But its easier said then done for those born in laos or thailand. For some reason or another, they have this og mentality to stay even if ur not happy.

Niam Thai. I feel bad for you. You were a young victim of your time two times fold. I understand where you are coming from. You can't love someone whom you didn't love. You were forced to live a life you didn't choose that first husband of yours knew it. Selfish of him and your family for putting your one life during this time through this. Do not left anything and his voice haunt you. You need to be strong. All this mind games on you have ruined you. Good luck to you Niam Thai.

I feel for you too. You were forced to marry someone you didn’t like or love. And then because you didn’t reciprocate the love/like back, you were the bad one. It was a lose-lose situation for you. It sucks that it had to take him to die before you realized what you had in front of you.

@UuUu-nm8jl

2 жыл бұрын

Ft

You don't know what you have until it's gone. Always treat everyone with love.

@shouacyang6199

2 жыл бұрын

So sad if he don’t have loved, it’s too late for your love back

@ThePrincessWorrior

2 жыл бұрын

Nah, you didn’t love, didn’t like, but still got forced. No body can love after all that. It would just be pay back time. Even it take the whole life time. Which what he had to do. Don’t you forget how he forced.

The lesson learned is that love can't be forced. Too much time wasted in a miserable life and history repates itself. Too late for regrets, good lesson to learn as no one should live life in misery.

Koj yg ib tug neeg siab pheem heev li 🙃🙃🙃

I feel really sad for the man in this marriage. Hopefully you’re resting in peace with your first wife and God bless your soul.

@ThePrincessWorrior

2 жыл бұрын

He deserved it, for using male power on her.

Koj Txoj kev npam los txog lawm xwb os. Poj hmoob siab phem. Nyuav ntxim xwb.

@pajhmong56

2 жыл бұрын

txhob maj nyos lawv txog yus yus thia paub

So heartbreaking! What an honorable worthy husband and father. May he rest in peace.

@lauxi2088

2 жыл бұрын

🌷

😭😭😭. Hlub hlub tug txiv tsi txawj tag li 😭

Niam laus a cas yuav hlub koj tu txiv thiab nrog nw tu siab ua luaj li os niam niam laus..!😭😭😭😭

@pajkubcilynhiavue5181

2 жыл бұрын

yog kawg os , cas tu siab ua luaj yog tus niam laus no tsi hlub es ho tsi tso nws tus txiv mus 😭😭

Koj tus txiv ntxim hlub rhau lawm os. 😭😭 How can you not love someone at all? If not as a spouse, at least as a human being!! 🥺 Why did you stay with him for so many years if you didn't like him?! 😤

@MissPeachie

2 жыл бұрын

I totally agree with you. She thinks that she will die if she treats him nice. If the world knows how mean she was to him, then it is a true story.

It was hard listening to this story, but lesson well learn for you and everyone. Appericate and love the one you have! Thank goodness I have a good husband! ❤ makes me appericate my husband even more!

No matter how miserable this lady wanted to be she should not have been forced to marry a man she doesn't love. On top of that it just makes everyone miserable. Too bad it's too late for regrets.

Cas noog zaj no cov lus yuav tu siab npaum no os 😭😭😭😭

Its true. I kinda feel and understand her the love is not there it's hard to live with that person

@MissPeachie

2 жыл бұрын

She should have left when he told her to go. She didn’t have to stay and treat him like crap.

@pnvang2

2 жыл бұрын

@@MissPeachie true, that was kinda selfish of her

Idk how i will feel if i got forced to marry someone i don't love too. Idk if i would be able to treat him good either. But I'm so glad i never got forced to marry someone i don't love so I'll never know how evil my heart can be.

@kaylaheu4466

2 жыл бұрын

Either way it wouldn’t matter cause we youngster’s are so advanced that we wouldn’t do it for anyone. You go and marry the one you love

@MissPeachie

2 жыл бұрын

It doesn’t hurt to just be nice. Are you only nice to people you like?

Easy to say she dont deserve him but put yourself in her shoes. Twb paub tias luag tsi kam tsi nyiam but still choose to force her into Marriage, he should've seen it coming. Some will say why didn't she leave but why dont he just divorce her too! There is no one to Blame but themselves in this story.

@pkcyang2910

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with you 💯 %

@SkyFlower-ug9lm

2 жыл бұрын

They both stupid xwb os

@nploojsiabhlubheuly7797

2 жыл бұрын

I totally agree with you. No one deserves this sad marriage.

@esfkk

2 жыл бұрын

true but guess who regretted??? it was her! she sounds like my mother. she deserved to feel what she is feeling because she did had it good despite the fact that he was not be the person she wanted.

@Rough-inevitable

2 жыл бұрын

Old mentality. He loved her. She didn't love him. They stayed because of the children but in the end she loss a good man. She probably could've been happy marrying someone she loved

He can’t be sad about his marriage to her, bc he married her against her will. Sucks for him tho. Never force anyone to marry you and expect the same level of love in return…

Tej zaum yawg ntsuag yeej sib zoo dua

Please don’t remarry, a woman like you could not find a man who truly love you like this man for the whole of your life and you will regret what you had done to him. I want to see how pretty you are and don’t felt sad if his kids not love you.

@kaylaheu4466

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with what you say sis. Woman like this lady is just made from pure evil. Whoever’s dad is single please be on the lookout for thia hooker mom. Lolz 😂

@nouyang4705

2 жыл бұрын

Agree with you, I want to see how pretty she is too.

@MissPeachie

2 жыл бұрын

I understand she didn’t love him but she should not have been so mean to him. What an evil woman! Her ex, current husband, and kids all told her that she’s evil. Dang!

Peb ua neeg nyob es yuav tsum sib hlub thaum ib tug tuag lawm thiaj tsis muaj txoj kev khuv xim li koj, Koj tus mi tub mas hais yog kawg rau koj nawd

This story was so heartbreaking. 💔 She really did not deserve his love at all. May he receive the love he deserves in the next life. 😥

@ThePrincessWorrior

2 жыл бұрын

No! He deserved her treatment. Served him well

Everything is based on your decision. Sad that your pride got in the way of loving someone who was probably meant for you but you kept a living in the past. Even if forced, everyone has a choice to make to leave. Everything is by choice even though it’s difficult. Learn from this.

@MissPeachie

2 жыл бұрын

Agree. He told her that she can go but she chose to stay and made him miserable.

@JRxwb

2 жыл бұрын

@@MissPeachie No he said she can go cheat on him, he never said he would let her go. If she go cheat, she would be doing sin and that could just come back and bite her. Plus her parents will just give her back to him if she leave him. Think about it, it’s not as simple as you think but it is sad that she never learned to treat him well even if she don’t love him. He loved her and did everything for her. If a guy with 2 jobs just to make me happy and give me everything I want in life… I would have to respect him even if I don’t love him.

@ThePrincessWorrior

2 жыл бұрын

Why go? He used all sources to force her, of course stay and make him pay with miseries. Would do the same. She was kidnapped, forced, rape, then widowed at young age. Forced and raped again by old dude and her own father because father want to sell her bad. Why not make that dude pay to the bone?

Sad that you couldn’t leave him so he can go find someone else. Sad that he even decided to stay and lived with you.

He was extra good to you. You could at least open your heart a bit to him after all those years.

This is a sad story. I knows it’s never easy to love someone you’re not happy with, until they’re gone. Like the old saying, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

Tu siab rau tug yawg no Tsi tau kev hlub los ntawm tus neeg siab phem

Wow!! this sister!! We understood that you didn’t like him in the beginning because you were forced to married this man by the patents but didn’t you realizes that you had already been married once and had one child from previous marriage? So felt the hurts, painful inside your dying husband not telling you, he just kept this painful burdens with all those years and you still held grudges against him and not accepted him as your husband, that something hide inside of you telling that you’re so egotistical much better off without him, since you already here in the US why didn’t you left him and let him find someone that loved and appreciated him more!! Please don’t torture anybody if you do not loved that person, let both of you finds someone that you’re fall in love with, married that person😢. Hated the torture each other’s by emotionally and careless

Los ua neej laus li no, yus mam paub hais tias tus hlub yus thiaj yog tus yus hlub ces lig lawm os. In life, the sad truth is that we are full of greed. We want what we can't have and trash what's given to us.

❤

You cant force or expect someone to love you when you never in relationship with them. If you can’t leave that marriage because you never love them then at least try to put little effort to be good.

How sad... I'm speechless as I understand from this woman's side of the story. Sometimes you can't control how you feel.... but this woman could have been nicer to her husband though...with more compassion... Very sad on both sides....

@MissPeachie

2 жыл бұрын

That is true. Just because you don’t love someone, you should still respect them or care a little bit about them as a human. This lady has no compassion for anyone.

@MeKojNiam

2 жыл бұрын

Easy to say when it's not you.

Tus siab ua luas ❤️

This man already knew before he mary her, that she didn't like him. He forced it anyways!!! What did u expect? Same thing if the table was turned!

What goes around comes around BH!! Tuag mus zoo dua koj na!!

cs lub neej tu siab ua luaj

Peb ces yog nyob koj li chaw ces peb kawg ua li koj ua thiab mas...ua neeg nyob ces yog raug yuam yuav txiv yus tsis nyiam ces kawg tuag xwb....twb zoo koj tsis tuag os....txob tu siab os...hlub koj kawg

Tuag lawm txawm koj thim xav los nws tsis muaj nqis lawm os. Just keep your regrets it's too late!

Some man out there will treat her like the way she treat him. Than she will remember him a lot.

@xayxiong1061

2 жыл бұрын

That’s true!

Not sure who's life was more sad!

See some folks criticizing this woman yet forgot that she was forced to marry someone against her freewill. This is what happens when you force someone to be with someone they have 0 connections with. The man is an amazing man! But let’s not rip this woman for learning slow.

I get it that you were forced, but then you became spoiled and you took advantage of his love for you. If you hated him so much you should have let him go. He had an obligation to take care of you, and he did his part. Yes, you did not deserve his love. In actuality, he did not need you, you needed him. Even your ex-boyfriend know that about you.

@MissPeachie

2 жыл бұрын

That’s what I am saying! If she didn’t love him, she should have just left instead of staying and being so mean to him. She even has a reputation for being an evil wife. Dang, even her ex knows that!

Mloog tag mas tu siab kawg lwm tiam txhob ntsib lawm

kavliam, txhob chim rau tus niam tsev no. It's because of mistakes and regrets like this in her life that we are able to salvage and learn from. Mistakes have consequences, so learning from others like this story, some of us avoid this mistake and these consequences. Khuv xim tus neeg zoo tsis tau kev hlub xwb. Nyias ua rau nyias ris. Keep it up, May!

Ua neej nyob hlub tsis hlub los thaum sib tau lawm sib hlub ma mog. Koj txib ibtug ces koj yeej yuav tau khaws nws txoj kev thiab os mog, koj mas tsis tsim nyog ua neej ibzaug li os.

Poj laib, txhob tham cuag li koj tu tu siab es kom peb hlub koj. Cov neeg zoo li tsis muaj neeg hlub koj. Lwm tiam koj yuav raug txim sab heev.

Vuag cas koj yuav phem ua luaj li es yog koj phem los yog koj tub nkeeg xwb os tsis nyiam luag npaum ko es pheej ho nyob tsis khiav luag mus thiab qhov no qhia tau tias koj tub nkeeg xwb xav kaus thaub laus lub zog noj xwb sav cas tseem tuaj muab tham rau saum no rau ntiaj teb hnov thiab I don’t feel sorry for you but I feel sorry for the old man.😭😭😭😭

Lig dhau!!!! Neeg twb ntsib kev kev tsaus ntuj ua poj ntsuam es rov qab tau lub neej dua. Tseem ua liam hiam npaum koj ces ntshe yeej yog neeg siab phem tsis paub hlub lwm leej lwm tus. Kawg koj tus tub uas koj coj los twb nyos koj, yeej qhia tau tias koj yog neeg li cas lawm.

Evil traditions, culture and religion to allow this to happen and not see anything wrong with it. She was forced to marry him and now is being guilt trip that she didn’t love him. Wow.

Gosh this story is too sad and heart breaking for the husband. Also makes me so mad. Lady, you’re s selfish!! You deserve what is happening to you and what will come your way! You took advantage of your ex husband and took him for granted!! He deserves better! I’m glad he’s gone and free from you!

@foodie1151

2 жыл бұрын

You should’ve just left!! If you never loved him or was that miserable, you should’ve taken off! He did everything for you while you never did anything for him or his kids!

Blame her parents and the one uncle that insisted she be forced to marry. That's who to blame!

Yog lawm lwm tus yuav tsim koj pauj koj txoj kev tsim tus ua ntej

ฟังแล้วน้ำตาไหล😥😥

Cas tus siab ua luaj li o

She was a widower...single men don't even want to marry her. She's lucky he picked her up.

Tu txiv no ma thiaj txawj siab zoo tiag 2 li os hlub nw dhau lm os

Cas koj siab phem ua luaj tus niam laus nyob hauv zaj neej neeg no na😔😔😔😢😢😢😢

Vim nws twb tu siab r kj txaus lawm ma sister txawm li cas lo yog yus txoj hmoo lawm yuav tau hlub thiab os

We can judge her all we want but we need to put ourselves in her shoes. I can’t imagine force you marry someone I don’t love at all.

Txawm nyiam los yeej to taub tab sis tus poj niam no yeej tub nkeeg os.

Tsis txhob tu siab os peb ua neeg nyob yog yus ua li cas rau lwm tus ces yeej yuav muaj ib tug ua ib yam nkaus rau yus xwb. Lub ntuj yeej ntsia ntsoov.

koj yog ib tug poj niam siab pheem tiag tiag li o

Koj yog ib niag poj niam siab lim hiam siab dab ntxwg nyoog mas yog koj koj tsi muaj siab muaj ntsws kiag li os poj hmoob aws koj mas yog ib niag poj hmoob muaj hmoo tshaj plaws koj thiaj li tau ib tug mi txiv siab zoo2 li koj tus mi txiv ntawm ko os mog

Npam tsi npam neeg siab phem naj ntuj muaj qhov muag kawg, cas tseem txaj tu siab thiab

Koj tub hais kawg

Listening to all this story. Feel so sad/bad for being a Hmong girl.

@monkeybanana9269

2 жыл бұрын

My dad said back in Laos, the girls have the highest rate of suicides. The boys committed it too but nothing statistically staggering as the girls. Traditions and culture can be a death sentence when the majority of the whole are resistance to change.

I feel so sad for the husband, but I don't blame the wife one bit either. She never loved him, she can't argue against her parents and all the family telling her to marry him. For her generation all she can do is allow her hatred to overcome her and become who she was. When her ex told her it's a good thing he didn't marry her because of how mean she became to her husband, he was being unreasonable. He didn't get forced to marry a random widow or get bride-napped like she did. How would he know the pain she went through.

@pahouaher281

2 жыл бұрын

i agree with you😢

poj niam tsis muaj siab hlub tus txiv es tuag lawm ho paub nco thiab quaj hlub no lig dhau lawm cia lwm tus los tsim thiaj paub mob siab os mog.

Ab yog kuv raug yuam yuav yuav ib tug txiv kuv tsis nyiam los kuv yeej laj2 ua lub neej nrog thiab os. Nkim tag yus ib tiam neej tseev nws hlub yus. Thaum laus lawm ces yuav nrhiav tsis tau txiv zoo lawm os niam laus aw. Yuav tau tus zoo ces yog thaum tseem hluas2 xwb. Laus lawm ces nyias muaj nyias menyuam, nyias laus tawv nyias txaus lawm ces laj nrhiav tsis tau tus zoo lawm. Koj tus qub txiv los lwj siab vim muab nyiam koj dhau es yuam koj los nrog nws ua neej. Koj tsis nyiam nws los koj yeej lwj siab txaus tias nkim tag ib tiam tsis tau txojkev hlub raws siab xav

Tos koj tus txiv tsi txib thiab tsi qhia koj los vim koj twb tsi hlub nws cas thaum tuag lawm ho quaj thiab. Cas peb ua neeg nyob tsi sawm zoo. Tus luag hlub yus yus ho tsi hlub, tus luag tsi hlub yus ho nyoos ua dev leg nyob tiv

you dont deserved a man like this. i wish i meet a man like this and i will love him every inch.

@janievee279

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with you.

@tsexiong8065

2 жыл бұрын

Tus pojniam siab phem heev

@nkaujhmoobvwj

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed

@pkcyang2910

2 жыл бұрын

What if you don't like him at all? Would you still able to love someone you never like?

@suabcuayaj877

2 жыл бұрын

@@pkcyang2910 if i dont like him i will leave..if i dont leave i will love him.

Tu siab dhau lawm es tuag xwb...koj tsis hlub cas koj tsis khiav es koj yuav tsim ib tug neeg li no

zaj neej neeg no nws qhia thaum peb ua neeg nyob kom sib2 hlub txhob tos thaum ib tug tuag lawm es mam los khuv xim thiab mam hlub ces lig lawm mog

Ua cas ib txhia neeg es thaum ua neej tsis sib Hlub tabsis thaum tuag lawm ces ho xav hais tias ua cas ho tsis hlub. Xiam tshaj plaws li os. Tus niam tsev aw xav los mas koj yeej tsis hlub koj tus txiv ua cas ho tsis khiav thaum hluas es thiaj li mus tau tus koj nyiam nyiam es koj pheej nyob tsim koj tus txiv os. Tamsim no koj twb mus tau tus koj nyiam lawm ces txhob nco koj tus qub txiv lawm es kav tsij mus tiam tus koj Hlub xwb os mog.

Niam tais aw…tu siab dabtsi na. Tsis tu li os. Tsa tes dim siab siab rau saum ntuj es hais hallelujah xwb os. Dim plaws lub nkuaj raug quab yuam caij tsuj lawm ces luag ntxhi lawm xwb. Tsis muaj txiv los kav yuav li ntawd lawm xwb os. Tsuav dim plaws lawm xwb os. Raug txiv neej nrog rau koj txiv quab yuam caij tsuj tsim tag koj sim neej lawm ces txhob ntsia txiv neej ntxiv li lawm niam tais aw.

Very good for you 👍

Cas txaus hlub ua luag li cas tu txiv zoozoo ntaev ho yg yus tu ne

Pab tus txiv tsev no tu siab kawg tsis tau tus niam tsev no txoj kev hlub vim yog nws tus niam tuag tiag tiag lawm es thiaj li yuav koj xwb cas koj lub siab yuav phem ua luaj tsis hlub koj txiv tsev li os pab koj tus txiv tu siab kawg li

i feel like i am this lady......

Koj ces hmoov tas lawm os

Nws yuav ua cas taij kom koj hais mov rau noj na tu siab thiab dhuav koj tshaj tawb quav yog zoo li khib nyiab ces ntshe tsheb khib nyiab twb thauj pov tseg ntev lawm os koj na

Thaum nws yuav tuag, txawm nws qhia koj los koj yeej tsis mob siab. Kuv ntseeg li ntawd. Tusiab kawg rau neb lub neej uas tus ntshaw los ntshaw ntshaw ua luaj, tus tsis hlub los cas siab tawv kawg li. Tag lawm ces txhob khuv xim mog. Good luck to your future os.

Poj hmoob siab phem aw ua txij nkawm nyob txog txij yus tus txiv tsis txib koj lawm ces luag tu siab rau koj dhau lawm. Nws yuav zoo siab heev tias nws yuav mus ntsib nws me niam nkauj siab dawb siab zoo.

Wow pojniam hmoob noj quav nyuj laus!

Tu poj niam hauv zaj neejneeg lub siab phem heev thov kom lwm tiam nws xob tau yug ua neeg ntxiv lawm nawb.

Tu ti nyab aw xav tia yu lub neej thiaj tu tu siab xwb ca nim muaj tej tu lub me neej lo nim tu tu siab thiab ab zoo li yu e tuag tsi e lam nyob kom txog hnub ib pa nqu tsi tuaj lawm thiab xwb o yom

So sad for the both of you. I understand your side and his side as well. He shouldn't married you in the first place. Those og days, men think eventually the woman will learn to love the guy later on the relationship but that's not true on all cases. He knew he is to blame for the marriage that's why he let you do whatever you wanted and said nothing at all.

kj yog ib tug neeg g sawm zoo tiam no tus neeg hlub kj ce tag lawm o tsuas muaj tus lo tsim kj lawm xwb o cov neeg siab phem g sawm zoo na

Tu siab rau neb ob leeg 😭💔

Poj niam yeej rhuav plhu thaum zej zog paub thiab yuav muab tuav taw no ces mam kam tib tug niag xiam2 ntsev

Have you ever hoped for something to happens in the way you wanted or in your favors? Held out for it against all the odds? Until everything you did end up in regrets? Don’t wait until it’s too late because sometimes regrets are inevitable.

Don't ever wait until it's too late

Koj yog ib tug poj niam siab tiag tiag li os.

Even if the woman was forced into that marriage, the wife should show some compassion. She did spent how ever long in the marriage and She did have 3 kids with him. The husband died knowing he was never loved.

Lub neej no neb ob leeg mob ib yam. Kv to Taub kj tias Tau ib tug yus tsis nyiam yeej nyuaj, hos nws los Tau ib tug tsis hlub yus los yeej tus siab.

Your resentment and pride disallowed you to open your heart to your husband and step kids. Don't even complain about ur step kids not opening up to u. Now ur going to live with regret and think about him for the remainder of your life. Should of could of would of. Hard lesson to learn.

👏👏👏

It would be hard to love someone you were forced to marry. Someone you never met or had any feeling to begin with. It's just sad you lived your whole life with him (had children with him) and waited till he died before you finally realized you love him and start to appreciate him. Good luck. May you learn to forgive yourself. RIP to your husband.