This man is incredible. "Never make excuses, your friends don't need them and your enemies won't believe you anyhow."

@dfgrhbjkh

8 ай бұрын

Excuses are the skins of reasons stuffed with lies.

@Dowlphin

8 ай бұрын

If they were true friends, they would appreciate them and use the insight to engage with you with greater enlightenment.

@Dowlphin

8 ай бұрын

@@dfgrhbjkh Sounds more like the quote.

@larrylucid5502

5 ай бұрын

your friends dont need to hear an explanation for why you wronged them ? major bs. They need it the most, if you wanna keep them.

@christophdenner8878

4 ай бұрын

@@larrylucid5502 I think what is meant is: your true friends know why you wronged them and also know it was not to hurt them, but because of your underlying struggles. And for that no true friend expects an excuse.

*"You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength." - Marcus Aurelius*

@klyvemurray

2 жыл бұрын

One of my most favourite Stoics

@tygrrrmoore9815

2 жыл бұрын

Ha, Ha, Ha. Good luck with that. As an alternative I think not of "power over" but Wu Wei. Empty mind, shit comes up - it's not me, not mine and I let go of any negativity because not real. The control does not work for me because the mind comes up with stuff that is at times outright bizarre. Not me, not mine - drop it.

@spontaksback

2 жыл бұрын

Gladiator is such a good movie I’m watching it again now lol

@ANKIT-vd3ng

2 жыл бұрын

But what is that "you" who says this, a fragment of the mind itself isn't it? Or is it the essence of all the fragments?....think about it.

@gladman9634

2 жыл бұрын

Can the ocean control the ocean

“Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

@noahlapuz3853

4 ай бұрын

This!❤

@myrhythm7522

Ай бұрын

I didn't find this to be true in my life. It often got worse.

I now welcome anxiety attacks as an experience to be felt instead of something bad that needs to be blocked. When I feel it coming I just let it and wish it to be the biggest one I've ever felt. Try it next time :)

@billycox475

2 жыл бұрын

That's cool. I'm not at that stage yet but getting better. Thanks for posting! You never know how much describing your own journey may inspire someone else.

@tomrado5249

2 жыл бұрын

Cool, that’s really interesting.

@jamtiu5163

2 жыл бұрын

This trueee. Add to it meditation and deep breathing afterwards to recollect and somehow get back a bit on track

@kasontsebastiano

Жыл бұрын

I did it and laughed with myself about it.

@VestaJ17

Жыл бұрын

hmm i like this, im gna try it. ive always tried getting aggressive with my anxiety, and/or belittle it. saying things like "come on then anxiety, show me what you really got, i aint a bitch youve never killed me yet" etc etc but it can make you come across defensive in real life and others dont understand why, so im gonna try this now

"If you want something to be removed, you must first allow it to flourish" - Lao tzu ☯️

@wornahpid2983

3 ай бұрын

time to allow those intrusive thoughts in

This exact thing is what I used go stop having panic attacks a few years ago. I just sat there and thought you know what? Let this shit just kill me, ill wait, do your worst and it just faded away. I just accepted the sensations and told my brain to just finish it, make the heart attack come, give me a seizure, make me faint idc anymore. And i havent had a panic attack since, used go have them several times a day.

@nomnomwithaditi

9 ай бұрын

That's what I'm going to practice. I've constant fear of dying from a panic attack tho i know it's not scientifically possible. The fear is still intense. I'm gonna try it. Thanks for this comment. So I've to wish for death, heart attack, the worst that can happen, right?

@oneidea1121

8 ай бұрын

Man , thank you

@nomnomwithaditi

8 ай бұрын

How many times you did it?

@nomnomwithaditi

8 ай бұрын

Whenever you feared it, you asked for it?

@l.w.paradis2108

4 ай бұрын

Brilliant, thanks!

This approach really works. Years ago I was suffering from panic attacks. I went to a therapist and he told me that the next time I have a panic attack to make it the biggest and best panic attack ever. The next time I had a panic attack I told myself to just make it the biggest and best panic attack ever and guess what? It went away very quickly and I’ve never had another one.

@superscience4817

8 ай бұрын

Woah, is it safe? (Is it worthy?)

@jim-se5xc

7 ай бұрын

At the very idea of making it the biggest and best you'd probably start laughing.

@DominiqueFrancon

7 ай бұрын

@@jim-se5xc that’s about right. Stepping out to give direction to the panic attack completely diffused it.

This also works with pain. The more you fight it in a controlled setting such as the dentists chair or having an injection the more shocking and intense it feels. If you believe that you are always supposed to be in a state of no pain, the fact that you are in pain is something you will never be able to accept. Instead if you consider it as something more natural and more curious about it as an experience, it feels as if you are riding the pain, as if our playing with its extremities and your limits, not like you are being submerged and crushed by it.

@octaviomoreno3542

2 жыл бұрын

Pain is unavoidable but suffering is.

@domihase8148

2 жыл бұрын

I think that's true. But I would be careful in engaging situations with pain. I did it because I wanted to hurt myself as a punishment for the bad person I thougt I was. Every pain was well deserved in my mind. I got proud how much I could bear. So if you test your limits of pain like this, be aware of the reason, which drives you. Having said that, I like your idea. I haven't thought about it this way. Have a nice one. :)

@squishrabbit

2 жыл бұрын

Last time I was at the dentist, I was told "this is going to hurt...". So I thought, "yesss, come on, do it to me! Show me what you got!!" For five minutes, I convinced myself that I craved pain. The experience wasn't that bad in the end, barely even particularly unpleasant.

@delq

2 жыл бұрын

@@squishrabbit i had to remove two of my teeth due to infection and therefore had to be injected, i would say it is the initial shock/disbelief that offputs you more than the actual pain. If you look at it as something totally inexperienced by you before, there is a peculiar curiosity that engages yourself and distracts you from all the terrifying thoughts that you have associated with pain. But then again pain is useful, it helps us to notice immediate damage or danger.

@domihase8148

2 жыл бұрын

I've read, that a lot of "painful" experiences (like a visit at the dentist) comes from conditioning. The example was, if I watch other people, who are making painful faces at the dentist, I will imitate them. I expect and experience pain even if there is no real pain. Hope it makes sense.

I read Viktor Frankl's book Man's Search for Meaning and when I came across this concept, I was ECSTATIC. I was jumping in the air of and re-read that pages multiple times. It's a game changer. It messes you up biologically in a good way. You can't be afraid of something you are actively and voluntarily pursuing. Also, when you want to achieve A goal, the brain doesn't care what it is. Ethical, good, evil, good for you, bad for you, literally does not care. Only cares that you have a valued goal and that you are moving towards it. So how to do that when you're genuinely anxious about e.g. public speaking? You detail out the absolute worst possible outcome that could happen and then desire and pursue THAT outcome. That could be that every person in the room will laugh at you and that you cry and faint and piss your pants and forget your lines. Just be creative and ridicule as much as possible, because your thought that produces that irrational fear is ri-di-cu-lous. But you can't convince yourself that with a motiv video or rationalization. The emotion is too strong. So you need to teach your brain a lesson. Through action. Ruin the speech before it even started by saying good evening instead of good morning, so it's already ''imperfect'' anyway. And ''forget'' a line on purpose creating 5 seconds of awkwardness. This all may sound silly but you won't find a more effective and efficient technique in the universe to conquer your fear once and for all. When you do this 1x it's over. And it won't cost you a dime in therapy session.

@FelipedeZwaan

2 ай бұрын

brilliant

This channel just made me a different person. As a matter of fact, I’m not the same person that I was when I saw the last video, it’s incredible how can a simple video create a powerful change in someone. I really recommend this channel if you are feeling lost or sad, there’s so much content to help you out. Love from 🇨🇦

@josephllinas417

2 жыл бұрын

Its helped me immensely, the narrator does such a good job its reinvigorated my joy of studying and practicing alot of these teaching including primarily stocism.

@4Mikes4Mindset4

2 жыл бұрын

May God Bless You Brother

@mar2nya789

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed!

@spontaneousbootay

2 жыл бұрын

Yep this is why i love reading

@billycox475

2 жыл бұрын

Same here! Best wishes for your continuing journey!

Anxiety exists between hope and fear. You hope it will go one way, and are fearful it will go another way. Therefore, removing your attachment to the outcome, will remove anxiety. This is easier said than done, but this video gives a pretty good explanation of how to do that, great stuff.

@bobbijolene

2 жыл бұрын

I love your explanation! ❤️

@bobbijolene

2 жыл бұрын

My Mama used to say "what are ya afraid of? They can't eat ya!"😂

@davecom3

2 жыл бұрын

Cease to hope, cease to fear. Its a powerful stoic principle. Live in the present.

@mitfreude

Жыл бұрын

decide what you fear.... make it big so that your mind is unable to comprehend and make it ridiculous...

@drybowser666-bo3kl

Жыл бұрын

Can someone tell me how I can apply this to my life?

The wisdom of these videos are rubbing off! This week I faced a stressful, fear inducing situation and had the option to avoid it. Instead I decided to go on with it because it will arise again. While it was unpleasant I obviously persevered and I feel stronger as a result. Then this video drops and my resolve is greater. Thank you for sharing these truths with us!

@bella3775

2 жыл бұрын

Laura! ❤️👍🏻👏

@paradox7743

Жыл бұрын

scared of snakes ? Go Get one as soon as possible...

There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts fear out. Indeed, the one who is fearful has not been made perfect in love. 1 Jo 4

@april1st183

Жыл бұрын

Amen! 🙌

Paradoxical intention has literally help me so much I remember reading about it in mans search for meaning it literally works instantly. Your brain just says “oh why was I scared of that? I guess I don’t need to be” and the anxiety just goes away it’s pretty amazing.

‘The best of us did not return.’ Man’s Search for Meaning. I always remembered that line.

i have ptsd, so i've so much fear and anxiety in life, and ever since i let it just exist as a part of me, letting the panic attacks happen instead of fighting it, and keep doing the things i fear despite feeling it, the less it bothers me. i've never really "conquered" or "overcame" my fears, they just gradually became less distracting. so embrace the pain, embrace the anxiety, embrace the fear. thank you for another amazing video.

@georgehancock2307

7 ай бұрын

Try ART therapy for PTSD. It really helped me.

I suffer from social sweating as well, I’m going to try this!

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU

3 ай бұрын

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

@elizabethwilliams6651

3 ай бұрын

Yes, dr.sporesss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@steceymorgan814

3 ай бұрын

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU

3 ай бұрын

Is he on instagram?

@elizabethwilliams6651

3 ай бұрын

Yes he is. dr.sporesss

"He who has the why to live for can bear almost any how." - Friedrich Nietzsche

@paradox7743

Жыл бұрын

Replace the wording "bear almost any how" with can bear Anything!

@ubermensch117

Жыл бұрын

Keep going forward no matter wat

@knighthawk882

9 ай бұрын

-Viktor Frankl

@DSAK55

3 ай бұрын

"there is no _why_ here", Nazi guard in "Man’s Search for Meaning"

“Think of the worst thing that can happen and use the answer to relax” - EARTHGANG

@robin-vt1qj

2 жыл бұрын

I did this intuitively

@user2653

2 жыл бұрын

@@robin-vt1qj how? I learn through examples, could you share one please

@robin-vt1qj

2 жыл бұрын

@@user2653 For example dying. Contemplating death

@BlaiseLabs

2 жыл бұрын

@@robin-vt1qj I feel like anyone who meditates regularly will reach certain conclusions like these. Though education is probably a pretty important factor as well.

I've noticed that action eliminates fear. When it comes to taking the first step towards something new, simply doing it, regardless of how you feel, helps to eliminate anxiety. So when it comes to public speaking, you may experience a lot of anxiety initially, but when you just go head on, the nervousness, at least in my experience, fades away.

I don’t know why but this video just popped up on my screen when I was trying to figure out about my fear. It suits me in a bizarre and unexplainable way but it might be explainable in God’s way. So bless you all and hope you will overcome your fear and many people will watch this video, in the name of Jesus, I prayed. Amen.

There were so many times as a young boy where my brother would laugh at me being worried about something. At first I took offense, (he should take my problems as seriously as I do!) but then it helped me step outside of myself and look at my own problems from his perspective, and often it completely dissolved my angst. I really love this video. It, like my brother, has helped me remember to step outside of my story and look at it objectively, or with humor!

@peli9605

Жыл бұрын

I agree

@FeelingIsHealing

Жыл бұрын

Very true. Sometimes laughing at our own neurosis or even troubles can help us let them go.

“Filling the conscious mind with ideal conceptions is a characteristic of Western theosophy, but not the confrontation with the shadow and the world of darkness. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” Carl Jung. Facing our emotional wounds is one of the most difficult lessons in life, I think. Instead of treating negative feeling like an enemy, it could be better to be open to 'listen' to our fear, anxiety, hurt feelings, like the way we treat a friend. Because negative feeling reminds us that there is something wrong in life so that we need to Aware, Accept, and then Change. It sounds like what a true friend may tell us. Thanks for sharing ❤

@sandtx4913

2 жыл бұрын

Beautifully said. I agree, facing our emotional wounds is one of the hardest things in life. Thank you for sharing. ❤

@user-qe7bt9dz1l

2 жыл бұрын

Ironically Jung is dead and his physical body only sees darkness.

@jumpingship3001

2 жыл бұрын

Just like Rumi's The guest house poem.

@sandtx4913

2 жыл бұрын

@@user-qe7bt9dz1l how would a dead physical body "see darkness"?

@jodo1971

2 жыл бұрын

Nice!

This video makes total sense to me, without knowing this technique this is exactly what I did to get rid of my hypochondriac anxiety, I started making jokes and laughing at my problem, excellent video!! Thanks

@j.m.b5441

2 жыл бұрын

@Tracey Nolan I wrote back to you but it's not showing here, I don't know why, maybe it was a long answer, please let me know if you could read it.

@helloMRdj1

2 жыл бұрын

@Tracey Nolan Hmm my stomach hurts, hopefully let it be cancer, this way I will be in the hospital and wont have to prepare myself food everyday.

@nadirali5777

3 ай бұрын

Love your comment

In a medical environment I have found two things helpful. The first thing is to tell the patient in a stressful situation that being anxious and fearful is normal and OK and that everyone feels this way. This stops the anxiety about being anxious. They are responding the same way as everyone else. The other thing to to is to tell someone how they are feeling. If someone looks anxious tell them that they are looking relaxed. When they respond by saying that they are anxious repeat the statement saying - but you look relaxed and continue with hypnotic language. Instead of asking how they are feeling tell them how they are feeling. You can carry the load for them.

@limitlessfelh1109

Жыл бұрын

Great...

@kamilahynas2327

7 ай бұрын

That would make me furious.

@pleaseleaveamess

5 ай бұрын

​@@kamilahynas2327what they mean is not saying "you're fine" dismissively, they mean something more along the lines of "you're handling this well better than most patients" or "you're calmer than other people who go through this" and other similar phrases, speaking with compassion and understanding.

@kamilahynas2327

5 ай бұрын

@@pleaseleaveamess Thank you for explaining. I appreciate it 🙂

I came up with something very similar myself as a teen. I was taking singing lessons and twice or thrice a year there where recital where I had so sing on a stage either in front of a jury for evaluation of my progress or in front of other students and their parents. There came a time where stage fright really had a grip on me. Silly to me now, but it got really bad, my heart beating, my.knees shaking and/locking up, feeling like I could not get my bodily symptoms of fear under control. So scared of hitting a wrong note, not singing clean notes, forgetting lyrics, etc. But one day I came.up with this trick: I thought to myself: Most "mistakes" will probably go unnoticed by the audience. And even if they'd notice, it would be a fleeting moment, already gin once they realise it, and it probably won't really impact their experience of the piece that much. So I told myself that I would deliberately insert mistakes I to my performance to see if anyone would notice. Or to enjoy that fact that no one would notice. That freed me of my anxiety immensely. I don't think I ever actually made a mistake on purpose. But just telling myself that would or just that I could was the trick I needed to lose diddipate my stage fright

@sonyavincent7450

Жыл бұрын

That was a really clever approach. Well done.

Congratulations EZ for hitting 1 Million Subscribers. Finally bro you have made it!

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you :)

@purecheese9012

2 жыл бұрын

@ Congratulations! Your channel changed my life, it introduced me to so many philosophies and ideas that have given my life meaning and purpose! Keep doing what you are doing!

When I was young once I met Frankl and his wife in the street in Vienna, my mother pointed him out to me and we greeted him and his wife - I cherish the memory

I was diagnosed with panic disorder in 2013, and got an SSRI prescription for that, with no effort whatsoever made to first try some cognitive behavioral therapy. A year later, I decided to throw away the meds, and start conquering the anxiety. The way I succeeded is detailed in this video. It was death that I was afraid of, and the moment I started welcoming death, it ran away! Thanks for the great videos

@Seekthetruth3000

2 ай бұрын

Sadly, psychiatry has a dark side.

@thenovicenovelist

2 ай бұрын

I have the same fear. What steps did you take to welcome it and conquer it?

The way you lay down things for us, with such a calming voice, it almost feels like meditation and it's often very appeasing on a deeper level. Thank you for your work!

I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past, I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.

@luddity

2 жыл бұрын

Dune

@wanderer37

2 жыл бұрын

@@ludditythanks❤ i was wondering where i heard it but was not able to remember😅.

@georgemuhoro

2 жыл бұрын

I didn’t read the book, but the movie is absolutely fantastic

@lupusyonderboy9363

Жыл бұрын

“Father, the sleeper has awakened!”

@Handey79

4 ай бұрын

@@georgemuhoro wich movie?

I relate to the "falling asleep" part A LOT. I often skip sleeping when I notice it happening now. Otherwise I lay there for hours and just waste my time. It happens when I feel uneasiness about my career/life. When that is fixed, my sleep ususally gets fixed as well.

"If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment." - Marcus Aurelius

Well, it’s actually insane how well it works, I feel like everyone has been relieved from a fear in this way before, like letting go basically after getting fed up of stressing. But this genuine methodical version actually works so well. Even for my complex fears. Crazy. What a great video. I’m really happy.

I've been doing this for a long time, even before I knew what it was or that it was a thing. My friends would always make fun of me cause I constantly say things "I'm probably gonna faint during the presentation" or "I will fail the presentation so bad it would be hilarious" and then I go and do a magnificent job. I'm usually selected to speak in public events in representation of my classmates cause I do it "pretty natural" and don't take myself to seriously according to people but this method is what has helped me do it. It's surprisingly helpful and I recommend other introvers and shy people like me to try it.

I used to suffer from depression, I used what I now know as paradoxical intention, I said to myself "I want to be more depressed, I tried to visualise and project my thoughts ever darker and darker." I mentally reached the bottom, could not delve any deeper, I had smashed the viscous cycle.

Negative emotions are unavoidable. If you feel bad, that doesn't necessarily mean there's anything wrong with you. Don't try to run away from it, because whatever you resist will persist. Give yourself permission to accept, then let go. 💫

@domihase8148

2 жыл бұрын

"Whatever you resist will persist." A great teaching of Conversation with God. Did you read it?

Iv been practicing leaning into my fear. It's no easy thing. It became a monster 👹💀☠️🕸️⛓️ it was terrifying for me. I started to do things I was always afraid of doing and that's when I felt it. It was a month of my mind spinning, I felt like I was going crazy, but I wasn't, it was anxiety, really really bad anxiety. Where the mind races, random words 🍥 swirling through my head, broken sentences. I feel like a mad woman, I depersonalize many times, for hours, for days. I felt like I was outside my body and then inside it ,the walls caved in, the ground felt unstable, I couldn't think straight, I couldn't breathe properly. I accepted it and for a month like a demon it screamed hard. I wanted to run, but there was nowhere to run to, I don't do drugs, I don't over indulge. I wasn't procrastinating I was facing it, I was living my dreams, but I didn't know in order to do so I had to face this. I decided to do it no matter what. The adrenaline squirting through my body I could feel the blood pumping through my veins, I woke up in the morning terrified, like an electric shock woke me, and had to face it over and over and over again. One day, after facing it again I had a breakthrough, I was waiting for a tram at night while it rained lightly, I began to sob, underneath my tearless exterior, underneath the years of saying everything is okay was a fragile skinned being who cried and trembled. An overwhelming sense of compassion enveloped me, I care for myself I realized, I feel, I really do, I loved myself in that moment so deeply, I was so brave, I had been through so much in my life. I felt wrapped in kindness, in understanding. Such a intense experience.

@mgal6234

2 жыл бұрын

I love this comment. I hope you’re doing well, and I hope I can have a similar experience! Sending love from Florida. ❤️

@paradox7743

Жыл бұрын

You have done it. Now UNCONDITIONAL LOVE FOR ONESELF will soon follow.

@marsz4980

9 ай бұрын

❤❤❤❤

I love it that doctor and patient are both chillaxin' with a smoke. A different time for sure... and somewhat compelling.

I actually found a trick for myself. When i dont arrive to sleep, i imagine myself reading, then it makes me feel "No im tired i dont want to read", then this feeling of tireness really helps me fall asleep.

@saiactually

3 ай бұрын

LOLL this sounds funny but im so gonna try this soon!

@CLM108

3 ай бұрын

@@saiactually lol, hope it will work for you as well

“Fight your fear, and you will stuck to it. But, Wish for your fear and you’ll conquer it.” bro’s cooking fr 🔥🔥 menyala abangkuh 🔥🌾

Rest in powerful peace Viktor Emil Frankl 🙏 26 March 1905 ~ 2 September 1997⚘

Dear everyone, I wish you peace inside your soul. We are all light and all connected, don’t be scare, all gonna be ok. Your futur gonna be fantastic because you are fantastic. Thank you so much for your reading.

One way or another, it's essential to stop the constant unnecessary activity of the mind. Do whatever works. What's remains, ideally, is only necessary mental activity.

Interestingly, in Buddhist meditation, primarily mindfulness, one is to neither avoid once fears nor embrace one's desires but to befriend it nonjudgmentally. Put it another way, don't identify with a thought but merely think of if it as 'just a thought'. Of course this is easier said than done and that is why meditation is called a 'practice'.

@ohnoo4468

2 жыл бұрын

Aren’t you, in a way, befriending your anxieties by welcoming them though?

Do not wish for bigger shoulders but for a stronger load to carry - so many cultures discovered this truth!

I always try fear-facing exercises when I have the chance. I'm currently working in sales which helped me decrease drastically my social anxiety.

Hey Einzelganger! Your service to humanity will be remembered for ages!

This is one of my favorite KZread channel.....you’ve propelled me for greatness.....I’m grateful 🙏❤️

For me pain can be dealt with like mindfulness, it’s sometbing that can be observed from a third person perspective rather than ‘felt’.

This is how Frankl conquered the problem of attribution. Bad thoughts gain power from attribution. When we make a thought important it gains power. When we ridicule it, it loses power and control over us. Genious!

the message was very interesting and the swaying trees were even more relaxing. Loved the video.

Wonderful video about conquering fear and paradoxical self -talk about anxiety ,fear & related negative emotions! Viktor Frankl's approach to psychotherapy is counterintuitive and unique but effective and long-lasting ! Thank you so much for featuring Frankl and wishing you more success in your personal & professional endeavors .

So, fight your fear and you’ll be stuck with it. Wish for what you fear and you’ll conquer it. Love this ending statement. Your videos are stunning through out all these year as I stumble upon them once a while. Thank you :)

This video topic is so apt for me. I once was plagued with panic attacks. My heart would beat very fast and it came on suddenly, and I was unable to stop it. I felt I was going to die and the attack would last for several minutes. Eventually it would pass. But these attacks were terrifying. They continued to come on suddenly for weeks until finally I told myself, well, if I'm going to do then so be it. The attacks promptly stopped! It was actually very freeing. It turned out it was all psychological apparently, and in facing my fear I conquered it just like Victor Frankl said.

Great to see you now have 1 million subscribers. Your fantastic content, sincerity and insight are really needed in the crazy world we live in today.

One way I recommend my clients to set a paradoxical intention is by encouraging them to say “this is what I’m doing great right now, I’m going to focus on that therefore that other stuff will have to resolve itself somehow!” That way the paradox feels gentler and less like ‘wishing bad’ on oneself yet is still being satisfied as a shift in perspective to a more paradoxical one which leaves us open to the unknown in a curious way. Subsequently the other stuff resolves organically and brings peace with it, in due time

@Surya933

8 ай бұрын

Like redirecting attention to what they are doing great? But are they also resisting the compulsion at the same time? Or does this approach make space for the anxiety or compulsion to also play out?

I thought this was a great video! Viktor's paradoxical intention reminds me of Exposure Response Prevention therapy(ERP) which treats OCD. When my OCD got out of control, I decided to try ERP. In each session, my therapist would expose me to what triggered my anxiety. I had to sit with it and resist the urge to perform my compulsion. After a few weeks of ERP therapy, my anxiety fell, and I no longer had the urge to perform my compulsions. Now, a few months later, my OCD hardly influences my life. Again, great job!

@clai6445

2 жыл бұрын

Great to hear... I have developed covid phobia and OCD pattern in these past 2 yrs... I wish to overcome both and live without the unnecessary stress

@user-qe7bt9dz1l

Жыл бұрын

I suffer from severe OCD and have had it all my life. I’m gonna use this!

I really ADMIRE this channel! 😍

This is one of the channels that I've known from the very beginning Since before in your solitary days actually, and throughout I've seen how the channel grew and developed. The channel was a change from your previous content but looking back a welcome one. I'd be lying if said I wasn't surprised that you have a million subscribers since it's so different from the few 1000 you had at the start so I can't imagine how your feeling but congrats on a million you deserve it

Man's search for meaning changed my my life. .

Thank you! This is what I need to hear. One the best KZread channel.

Congrats on 1M subscribers! The first video of yours that I watched was “The Power of Walking Away” over a year ago and it continues to have a powerful impact on me to this day. I’ve been following your new content ever since, as well as visiting your older videos. All the best on what’s to come next with your channel✌🏼🍻

I used to beat myself over small mistakes at work but after I started to just laugh it off like I would if a friend had done it instead, I lightened up considerably.

This book helped me an insane amount, especially the section on this topic in the extended edition

@philthyrich1433

Жыл бұрын

What book?

Thich Nhat Hanh.......breathing in I "know" that Im breathing in....breath out I " know" that I'm breathing out....take this to heart practice ..your life will overtime be transformed💕( Victor Fankel what an incredible human being!)

I really appreciate the some the enlightening philosophies that you cover in most of your videos. Were as not only am I learning something new when I watch them, but I'm also inspired by some of the ideologies and most importantly the new ways in which I looking at things.

Thank you so much for posting as I’ve been waking up every night and you know what I’m gonna do now is - stay the hell up - fight with whatever this is because I want my dang sleep 💤

Thankyou, Einzelgänger. You're always an inspiration

The insights in this video gave me literally goosebumps, so simple but powerful and practical ideas. Thanks! 😄

The only channel in the vast KZread universe which has content that’s worth a million bucks … just superb

its been a while i havent seen something so valuable on youtube. Thank you !

That last sentence was a true eye opener. Thanks

Thank you for this video. Viktor Frankl is an absolute legend!

@zovalentine7305

2 жыл бұрын

Rest in powerful peace Viktor Emil Frankl 26 March 1905 ~ 2 September 1997⚘

@mofomartianp

2 жыл бұрын

An absolute legendary liar.

Fascinating theory. I'm going to apply it to a fear I have. Thanks for sharing this!

Another great and excellent video! Keep them coming. Awaiting future books.

Wow! I've totally experienced this paradoxical intention technique before in meditation: instead of trying to avoid the bothersome thought or emotion, I would challenge it by wanting it to arise, inviting it in, and then suddenly it would go away! I always thought it was my Oppositional Defiance Disorder, that my Ego was being defiant and spiteful, "Nah, I'll wait until you're not expecting it to show it to you again;" that it was just the Irony of Life, and maybe it IS all of these things, but I'm glad you shared this and now I have a bit more proof of and a name to this phenomenon! 🌟🌸❤❤❤🌸🌟

His book is a lifesaver!

I think it all lies in "did you deny or accept it?" We can't deny what's true, so when we accept, we just let it be and move from it...

@atomnous

2 жыл бұрын

The brain works in many pathways. For example, we don't only receive visual inputs from the outside, but also from the inside. And feeling happiness makes us smile, but smiling also makes us happy. It's the same thing with desire. When we lack something, we desire what we lack. But when we desire something, our brain also interprets it as we lacking something. So you can either fill what you lack in, or stop desiring it. Both ways can resolve the tension. Usually, people desire external things. But it can get evenmore complicated when we desire to be happy, because happiness is the internal state of having your desire fulfilled. So by desiring to be happy, the brain puts itself in an eternal loop, because desiring something means you're unhappy, and that unhappiness causes you to desire happiness more. Strange.

now everytime i get anxious, einzelganger's voice saying "oH nO, doUbLy anXiouS" will play in my head

I really need this topic to be talked about. Thanks!

Added to my favorites this might be your best video yet. Love the visuals too but just the introduction of the whole concept, really well done, bravo and thanks for helping me on my path of healing. Ben Zoltak

I've been doing this since before and it really helps to eliminate the fear. I just didn't bother explaining or teaching it to others because they might think I'm crazy or weird 🤣

I did not know I needed this video. Thank you.

I have applied this method when i couldn't sleep and it worked. Before that i struggled with it as the video mentioned.🎉

this is amazing I did know my coping machaism of ridiculing myself through comedy was healing me in a way

"When you scratch your balls, balls get scratched, shall be." - unknown

@59spadesofalife52

2 жыл бұрын

Very poetic

@somerandomguy6028

2 жыл бұрын

Words of wisdom echoing throughout the ages.

@seekerx9574

2 жыл бұрын

Gtf out of here

@patriciamiller1790

2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@andreiandrei9031

2 жыл бұрын

-Crackhead in the metro

I totally agree with this man. This technique is more powerful than medication or anything else.

The comments here were wildly inspiring. So wonderful to hear so many amazing successes! In just a day of saying “bring it on” to any form of not-positive feeling or thought I had awesome opportunities of feeling more empowered. What a wonderful practice!

One of the best channels on KZread

THANK YOU, I NEEDED THIS

This video was much needed. Just graduated and yes I have been fearing myself for not getting a job. Let wish for the fear, and see if I conquer it.

Thank you for this important information! I've found myself after a lifetime of suffering and trying to deal with my anxieties, doing exactly those things talked about.

This channel is a masterpiece ❤

Congrats on getting up to 1 million subscribers!

I always love learning new things! Thanks for posting this video 🙌🏻🤩🤩🤩😊

What a great way to start the day!

This is so cool! Thank you so much for sharing!!!

I have social anxiety, and I have an oral presentation next week and I've been feeling stressed and anxious like 3 weeks in advance. Thank you so much for sharing this video, brother. I'll try this technique :)

@dianafoster7883

7 ай бұрын

And how did the presentation go?